The Connection Between Trauma and Tension and How to Release It | Thomas Hübl

[Music] slowly turn engine into a motion pinch in into emotion or felt stress and emotion and begin to digest those and the more I I do that I will feel that my body becomes a bit more fluid more open and and I become and I also have more space inside welcome to point of relation with Thomas hubel a podcast that illuminates the path to Collective healing at the intersection of Science and mysticism in his conversations with Visionaries innovators artists and healers Thomas invites guests into a relational experience that allows inspiration and Innovation to emerge this is the point of relation [Music] welcome to the point of relation my name is Thomas Evo and today I want to explore with you how trauma and stress in our life and maybe stress and tension in our life are connected and maybe a little bit how we can work through it but let's first um understand a little bit that the correlation between my current experience so when I get really stressed when I'm in difficult situations when I become reactive it looks like there's a charge in me or there's a tension in me and I'm kind of overreacting given the current situation but for me the current situation really is disturbing and then when we begin to explore that we see wow actually there's much more charge in me than certain situations when I'm reactive really demand of me so the charge is not connected to that situation and often it's repetitive another person with a similar um character or with a similar personality or another situation triggers similar feelings and similar stress in me again so I notice that I'm in a repetitive pattern and that's exactly what trauma creates because trauma is an overwhelming or the the experience that we have is overwhelming and the trauma of response is the my inner answer to that the main answer to an overwhelming experience is a lot of stress and often so much stress that we cannot uh digest it and we shut down a part of ourselves so we know this actually that we are really stressed when we feel a high level of stress which means also like the fight and flight mechanism in ourselves and but we also notice when we are stressed when we are numb so some people when they are stressed they actually become indifferent they become numb they don't participate anymore they feel distant but that's also a sign of stress and often in that part of stress comes with a lot of tension in the body because in order to shut down stress we need to contract so all the places in our body that where we feel tension or we feel tight all of that is actually undigested past undigested stress and digested emotional experience and they're just a trauma so when people say oh I have a tight neck or my solar plexus is tight or my legs are tied or my belly is tight my chest is tight we we notice that there is unspoken unexperienced past showing up in us now we might be very open and in a lovely conversation with somebody and the person says something or somebody says something in a team meeting to us and and then we feel I feel it tight throat I don't know how to respond I feel it tight hard I feel a bit distant so who tightened the chest who tightened this road who tightened the muscle muscles of my neck or my lower back that now I feel tense or actually some pain mostly we don't know because that tension lives in the past we often say oh I feel tight now but what we actually experience is that the past is showing up in that moment and it's like when you see a movie and then you see a commercial on top of your movie so you go to the cinema you watch a movie and after one hour in the movie you see commercials on your movie so you can't really differentiate what's the commercial and what's the movie that's how we feel in difficult moments the past is the commercial on top of the current experience so we are afraid we feel ashamed we feel angry we feel sad we feel numb and disconnected and we can't properly respond to what's happening right now and that's an interstate that many people experience sometimes every day and so I can become aware of when that starts to happen in myself and I feel that this regulated over stressed or often traumatic stress is coming up in those moments and I can learn to slowly self-regulate or regulate my nervous system better by first creating awareness than maybe having a practice like connecting to my breath connecting to my body feeling the parts of my body where I feel usually Pleasant and grounded and well and I feel some streaming or tingling or aliveness and and then I learned to use my breath the regulation function so when I breathe I connect to my breath I feel the breath in my body I begin to slow down my exhalations a bit when I slow down my exhalations I can feel my body more and then I can feel my body in the stress and if I identify how stress shows up in me some people become restless and people need to go all the time to the phone or do something that doesn't allow them to relax some people when when we sit down and we want to be quiet we overthink all the time so overthinking is a sign of stress some people try to quieten their minds when they think too much when actually we need to get access to the stress in our bodies to calm our minds and and and we need to learn in in moments that are easier or in practice moments why do we practice to build resources for the moments where we need those resources when it's more difficult so I need a regular practice to get to know my body from inside to feel that my body feels Pleasant and to enjoy the pleasant parts of my body and to enjoy sitting and even when we look at it enjoyment like enjoying a nice sunset you cannot enjoy a sunset when you're completely busy inside with all the males that you didn't write all the phone calls that you didn't make everything that hasn't happened or everything that happened that bothered you you can't enjoy in order to enjoy we need to have a certain level of Regulation that I can sit even on a very busy day and sit in there five minutes a cup of tea a cup of coffee and then just enjoying the moment and sitting in a coffee shop enjoy the scenery enjoy the moment enjoy my body I enjoy the air or enjoy the birds sing and and I'm absorbing more and more of my the richness of my experience and that's deeply recharging and that's deeply joyful when you ever when you experience a beautiful sunset the sunset is beautiful because you are there but when we are really busy with ourselves so when we don't feel good inside the sunset is also there but also there means we are not fully present we are absorbed in our past and that's not good or bad because you know what does trauma say trauma says here in space and time in the traumatic moment here in space and time it's no good for me and really strongly overwhelming painful experiences happen here in space and time it's not good for us so dispersing space and time being somewhere else or being in the past or in the future is better than being in the present moment so that's a very important defense mechanism trauma is a very in the trauma response is a very intelligent function it saves Us in deeply overwhelming moments and it has sometimes severe side effect so when we are um when we get to know ourselves sometimes we judge ourselves for not being present versus um bringing more attention to the intelligence of being present and then we begin to notice the symptoms like the overthinking constantly being in the future trying to control outcomes trying to figure out all the possibilities that can happen and then I see wow a lot of that is based on stress running too fast or being too slow means to to be detached but in a way of numbness of dissociation in a way of distancing oneself from the world being indifferent and so being over stressed or being over stressed through um numbness or tension in the body are both signs that I'm not synchronized with my the original movement of my life and both create side effects pushing life too much creates side effects and resisting or or slowing down light great side effects like when you put your hand in the river and you go as fast as the river flow flows you you don't feel any pressure not on this side of your hand and not on the other side of your hand but if you push the water you feel pressure and if you resist the water flow you also feel pressure that's what the diode team calls go away non-action is to be as fast as the river it doesn't mean that we don't do anything we just don't push and we don't resist life we are in the movement of life and that's what many people call it Flow State and when when life when our life flows we usually happy why because we feel as a hard of life in a flow State I don't feel separate in a flow state I am an integral part of life I'm not just looking at life I'm in life when we when we see sports teams in slow States then their performance is much higher way because many players share a flow State it's a collective Flow State and so in order to transform the stress and detention how do we work with tension in the body we get to know our attention patterns first so the first step is to create the when it's we get to know our stress levels awareness so I pay attention and I get stress and I don't judge it and I pay attention with situations I become reactive in or become triggered or are difficult or I get really stressed and um overcharged and and then or over activated and then um I begin to get to know my resources whether my resources those are the parts of myself that I feel well these are people in my life that I feel safe with these are situations or aspects in my life I like and I feel connected to this can be nature this can be music this can be other things art anything that resources me is this is my capacity to down regulate stress so I need some land resources to also partly stand on kind of shaky ground because I don't fully drown in the Shaky Ground so if she had learned so my practice to feel my body we call this also the three-sync meditation in our practice which means it starts with our breath the short screenshot of my inner experience and then I go take some breath I go back to my body every time I exhale I feel my body a bit more and I search for the pleasant grounded open parts my body notice where I feel liveliness where I feel and then she's streaming slowly and then I once I feel that well I can say okay what's my current stress level and then actual both the parts where I'm grounded in my stress it's possible let's go down a bit my exhalation background my stress like as electricity activation grounds itself in soil roundedness a nice day with this two and then now the activation to slowly calm down in a film or Inner Space and I can check in with my emotional state what's my emotional state joyful anxious a bit sad with Bobby or maybe I cannot tell and then I noticed oh they don't see my emotional experience and I noticed that there's a bit of numbness and I wonder that you'll try to fix it not to save then he can see how much the activity of my mind very active tight open um I'm gonna notice that which is aware of all those experiences I know this the awareness of this sensation emotions thoughts here's some in a space that I have to witness my experience and so as I get to know my inner world and if I do it every day for 5 10 15 minutes and sometimes also for a minute throughout the day like a minute practice a few times a day that I can do anywhere I get to know my inner World more and that helps me to learn to regulate my stress which the more I do it the more my nervous system grows the capacity and it also the same is true for tension that an actual tension I can feel the areas that are tight and then I grow okay is there any emotion and often we see no I don't feel any motion so then I learn to honor that in those areas I'm also a bit numb I don't feel myself which means in that area there is from overwhelm if I don't see that as a dysfunction but as a function of something that my body was able to manage stressful overwhelming situations or maybe also as a child I went through overwhelming moments and tightening up was the way to regulate myself because everything else was too much and now I learned to compassionately and lovingly begin to relate to those areas in myself and and slowly turn into emotion tension into emotion or felt stress in the motion and begin to digest those and the more I I do that I will feel that my body becomes a bit more fluid more open and and I become and I also have more space inside so I hope it's a short journey of course there's so much more to say about that and if also if that's interesting to you you can also check out my new book that's coming out on September 12th it's called the tuned many practices but also like a deeper exploration of the topic of Attunement relationships the healing power of relationships trauma stress and how we can create the world where we can heal together and so thank you for listening to the point of relation my podcast and I see you soon thanks for listening to point a relation with Thomas hooble stay connected and get updates about new episodes by visiting our website point of relationpodcast.com and by subscribing to the Thomas hooble YouTube channel if you enjoyed this video please like it and share about us with your community on social media thank you we appreciate your support [Music]

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Length: 20min 23sec (1223 seconds)

Published: Tue Jun 27 2023