talking to my mom about the hardships of growing up with undiagnosed Neurodiversity

hey guys welcome back to my channel on today's video I am going to do a little bit of an interview with my mom her name is Katie I just call her mama because that's what the norm is in my culture hi everyone I'm I'm Katie I'm Libra and my mom is Pisces and the risings Libra too okay so she's a double Libra with uh Pisces moon what is your Enneagram personality type so that one I have a Epicure which is number seven okay so her Enneagram is type 7 and we're actually gonna enter her Myers-Briggs during editing because she took the Myers-Briggs personality and scored infj and I just don't believe she's an infj so I feel like sometimes my mom being a Libra you know multiple Libra placements she has a tendency to shape herself to environments and I feel like infj from how I know her is not accurate so I'm gonna have her take it again and hopefully she'll score a more accurate score this time around other than that let's get into today's questions the purpose of today's interview is to be as authentic and vulnerable as possible which could be hard for someone with multiple Libra placements but I feel like we're very different in a way where I push my mom out of her Comfort zones in many ways I wrote down very difficult questions that kind of forces you to have difficult conversations but I do think that this is very very important because when I see the content out there of like autistic content creators like me interviewing family members it always seems like a very healthy supportive Dynamic and not everyone has that right so I think it's very important to be able to display a dynamic that is just different you know family there's a lot of complex nuances in which we get along with each other in which we trigger each other and I think it's important to show that and allow a space for you guys the viewers to be able to relate to a dynamic like ours that may not always be perfect we butt heads a lot we're very very different there's a lot of history as well with you know traumatic experiences but it doesn't mean that you don't love your family member and you don't care about them you know sometimes it is very gray in that sense and it's not black and white but I digress let's move on to the questions I try to make it in a way where the questions in the beginning are somewhat easier and then it starts to ramp up in intensity as we go on so be nice to my mom she's trying her hardest um be nice in the comments be encouraging and it took a lot for her to come on camera today so I'm definitely very grateful for that okay so were you surprised with my ADHD diagnosis and then were you surprised later on with my autism diagnosis actually I was surprised not because you have ADHD autism I was surprised because you have both at the same time and I never heard of it so it's like it's very shocked to me how can you have ADHD and autism at the same time basically I surprised that she has both so um yeah that that makes it a little bit hard because your mind is like going to different like Direction and I I guess it's pretty hard for you too when you grow up yeah just like a little backstory within Asian culture or at least like Taiwanese culture my parents originally immigrated from Taiwan but within our culture being diagnosed with these types of things is not normal let alone seeking out some sort of assessment for mental health things developmental things so it's already so rare for you know my generation of kids who were raised by immigrants to even get diagnosed and so ADHD is already something that isn't very common for a diagnosis even though a lot of us do live with ADHD and so would you say it was even more rare for me to also be diagnosed with autism yes probably I can see some tray of ADHD when you were like young but I thought just being very naughty not even think about ADHD I thought she's just naughty and probably she has like her own mind doesn't listen I mean some kids do that and the Artisan I would just never thought about autism autism to me is like very severe it's like you don't interact there's no communication with people I have a friend they have a kiss with autism they literally just in very special aid class and just stay home and have all this teacher a come into you know help them assist them that's what I thought is like like autism is not like you you're like doing the normal thing I just think you're like normal kid yeah and that's kind of the downside to how much we are educated about autism my mom's not the only one and it's not even just a cultural barrier you know white families even doctors and clinicians still have that sort of mindset towards autism I still meet doctors who are surprised to see that I'm autistic to this day so that's why it's important for people like me to be able to have channels like this where I educate people about other types of autistic traits that are not stereotypically talked about within the spectrum of things what was it like trying to raise a daughter with undiagnosed ADHD and autism basically I treat you as a normal kid without diagnosis I thought that you're very impossible you can just throw temper tantrum while like shopping or just crying and yelling and get angry in the car things like that it's hard like how come your brothers never done that rarely if I ask them to stop they'll do it but Irene's just going crazy but basically she's just very sort of very big temper tantrum and that's how I feel like it's hard okay so those are called meltdowns do you know what that is I didn't know it's meltdown I thought you just throw temper tantrum no part of autism is getting very over stimulated with sensory things and when you're trying to force an autistic person who's already over stimulated to do the thing that is going to over stimulate them even more you reach like a breaking point where you can't seem to regulate yourself at all and you almost like panic because you just want to get out of this situation and you feel so helpless so do you remember the moments I would have these sort of meltdowns in childhood like what would I have meltdowns over oh there's many occasions I couldn't pinpoint because I took Irene to many different after class programs swimming to your parents yeah dancing painting and a lot of other stuff but she just couldn't do it she's always complaining it's not just complaining just crying yelling and I say you're very talented she should have very high hope for you she didn't even care she's just crying so that probably continued until probably middle school around that time right so we kind of like keep like painting until High School yeah so my parents it's very common at least in the Bay Area we have a lot of immigrant population here like Asian immigrants and it Fosters a really competitive environment Hobbies like she talked about swimming dancing painting they weren't just hobbies to express yourself like they were things that you did in order to sharpen your skill sets and win at life basically and it wasn't a form of Express Russian it was almost like this militaristic training of your child to raise them to be the ultimate human being so when my mom said swim and dance it wasn't just swim and dance it was competitive year-round swim and dance where I would train hours and hours a day I mean really physically taxing things and also swimming is very overwhelming sensory wise because how wet and cold it is and the wind it was an outdoor pool so I remember having a lot of meltdowns around swimming because it was so uncomfortable physically and with dance it was all little girls so it was very overwhelming with the social aspect of it I remember being left out of all of these girl Dynamics and being very confused and lonely on top of that it was very physically taxing the dance teacher would ingrain a lot of social fear in us and a lot of self-hatred with like our bodies and stuff like that and so it was very sense for me and I couldn't put up with it like an average child who may be neurotypical so like my mom said I had a lot of meltdowns and I remember having a lot of moments of pushback where I just couldn't take it anymore it went past being able to be forced into it when it came time to middle school I pushed back so hard to a point where my parents finally had to listen to me and say okay she can't function in these types of sports anymore we can't physically force her to go to classes so there's no other choice but to like let her quit I thought you just being lazy and difficult you just want you know watch TV or play games things like that I mean an aspect of that is just wanting to be a child but I also think I was struggling with burnout already at such a young age being so over stimulated for so long consistently I was just completely burnt out and even when I was allowed to quit the sports that still took a toll on my mental health because everyone around me was telling me I was lazy and I was a failure and I was giving up and I really took that in and I let it sink into me I let it shape my idea of myself I was like you know what I am a failure I am lazy I am a person that gives up but I just can't do it anymore even at a young age of middle school I started to develop feelings of depression and that's also where I started to develop that chronic anxiety and Trickle tillamania and things like that and now you guys could get even more of a picture of how that developed was I a hard child to raise yeah of course throughout your childhood probably since even preschool yeah until probably high school even College apology or yeah in the college I remember you change all your outfit your hair style and dye your hair blonde I remember that your brother like Mary five years ago at that time the way you look is like so different I I don't know how to tell I say I kind of feel like Irene can you like dye your hair back to black and then she said no this is the way I want to dress to the wedding I mean she basically just like looked completely different from what she looked like right now it's kind of oh God it's shock I couldn't even like communicate with you about anything well with that specific thing I feel like it's an autistic trait to not be able to do something unless it makes sense so if someone's just telling me dye your hair black and I'm like why and you have no explanation as to why then why should I do it why should I just listen to what you say mindlessly without any sort of logic that would make sense to me so like what would be a reasoning why I had to dye my hair black at that time probably in Asian culture is just looked like weird embarrassing or something but why is it weird um because you have long blonde hair with like heavy makeup and I think it's just probably in agent's mind they like that sweet looking girls but my logic is why does your hair color and makeup indicate whether or not you're a sweet person yeah probably it's kind of like superficial but at that time I kind of feel that a lot of parents attending that wedding and then other people would say something but right now if I do it again I won't say anything it's just what she you know is I mean yeah because would you say I'm a pretty reasonable person like I have a good amount of logic um I think it's very logical she's very logical and straightforward person so if you were to be able to give me an explanation that made sense I feel like I would have really taken that into account but because there's nothing other than oh black hair is normal and everyone else wouldn't judge you as much that to me is not logic that's just yeah socially like following something just because it's a normal thing so when raising me as a child what did you struggle most with we always wrestling emotionally because I'm the main caregiver taking care of Irene take her to all the classes pick her up from daycare or after school class I'm the very first person to see this emotion pouring to me I mean she's always not very happy very stressful she's always done that so yeah basically it's the emotional part is hard for me I used to get in trouble with teachers a lot or in any sort of school setting that had these hierarchies of teacher was in charge and then me as a child or the student had to listen I always struggled with that Dynamic and had pushback what would you think in those moments when I would get in trouble I was thinking how come this happened again and then again she never grew out of it and then um it's very frustrating it's not just one teacher it's like almost every teacher I just couldn't understand there's always a problem here and there I feel like this is where the autism really played in in these ways where I had a lot of Behavioral issues throughout my life this was in elementary school this was in Middle School this was in high school and the only time it started to taper off a little bit more was throughout College into my adult life because when you're an adult in society you earn this weird badge and even then it's not even like a full badge because now we get into like what roles you play in society but you kind of earn a badge of like people can't tell you what to do anymore for the most part but as a child everyone is telling you what to do and as an autistic person that was undiagnosed I was constantly in situations where people were telling me things to do and it just did not make sense to me and it really frustrated me that I had to just follow along and do something when it didn't make sense and adults usually don't explain to you why they're telling you what to do and for an autistic person it's really important to understand why because what if someone tells you to jump off a bridge and you're just like why and they don't explain it to you and they don't say anything other than well if you don't jump off the bridge you're in trouble you know rather than saying hey jumping off the bridge helps you build character or it helps you get over your fear and I'll give you a parachute or you're gonna land in somewhere safe you're not going to be in danger I felt like a lot of these issues I was having with adults and teachers were basically moments where they were telling me in my mind to jump off that bridge and not explain why and just expecting me to do that and I just didn't want to because it didn't make sense and I would always get confused as to why other kids would just be able to so easily follow along with that logic and listening and those directions when they just didn't make sense so uh when you explain that it makes sense to me I think what was always very confusing for other people to understand was that anytime someone's trying to tell me to do something or to give me feedback that might be constructive feedback so somewhat negative I'm always very receptive and open to it as long as they can explain to me what their logic is and explain to me why they reach their conclusion when my mom talks about all the times where I had such adverse reactions to authority figures is literally because I was put in situations where I was being forced to do something that didn't make sense to me that didn't feel good that didn't feel right and no explanation was being given other than your child I'm an adult so you have to listen to me and the emotional part of that comes through as well because in our home my father was very abusive towards my brothers and I and we were constantly being forced to do things that we didn't want to do or else we would be punished physically verbally like a whole thing and so when I go to school and I'm literally experiencing the same Dynamics with teachers sure they're not you know hitting me or physically hurting me but it's the same Dynamic of you have to do this or else or else you're in trouble or else you are a problem child or else you this this and that and I just felt so discouraged by this Dynamic specifically throughout my whole life this is why I just don't like school I would say that my reactions to certain teachers were very intense like I will say that it wasn't like crazy for me to do that I think it's reasonable for me to have those meltdowns which what it is what that was there were certain moments where for example do you remember coming in that day and seeing all that paper I had a meltdown which is what had me rip up all that paper but I also had a shutdown after where I wasn't talking to anyone no matter who came in the room to comfort me and I just was like in a corner in the room by myself crying and completely disassociated so like what do you remember that day going into that room and seeing that I say what what's going on because of course teacher would say Irene didn't follow the rule or something that asked her to do the work she just refused to do it don't just push Irene to do it things like that I mean it's just like very simple things for them because they're asked every student to do the same thing but I'm not sure why Irene didn't do it it just turned out to be that it's like big things to you because I guess in your mind at that time you probably has gone through all day in school and you're very tired you just want to have time for yourself to rest a little bit but you don't want to do anything extra I think those are the young teacher they ask you you don't want and then back and forth and then I think they gave you like time out or something she locked me in a room by myself and she said I could not leave until I did that homework yeah and then they didn't even call me or anything it's at the time that I pick you up they say oh you know uh Irene did something bad today and she like refused to do the work and then I said oh really at that time I didn't know I mean teacher is Authority or something the students need to listen to the teacher but Irene just couldn't do it it's very tough I say I'll talk to Irene at home and didn't say anything more yeah that's pretty much it I remember feeling like I wish I had more support or from you in those moments you are always so quick to agree with the teacher and be like she is a problem she is causing issues and then you would go to me and be like what did you do instead of asking me what happened why were you pushed to that point and like hold some of the teachers accountable because it isn't appropriate to lock a child in a room against their will that is completely inappropriate and it's just sad that you weren't able to stand up for me in that moment yeah I guess you probably complained to me that I didn't stand up for you in many different occasions this is just one of the occasions but at that point I think I treat you as a normal kid all the behavior what I feel is that you're just like defined kids just say no to a teacher it's not just one teachers many teachers and it's just like why I never thought about there's a disorder I only think that you're very normal I mean you're like am I normal though at that time because in a lot of instances you would tell me I'm not normal in the I'm you're the normal kid but always ask something not normal so I'm not a normal kid so but I won't label you like not normal I still think at that time that I because lack of education for my part I didn't know anything about like so it's normal for a kid to rip up pieces of paper until it filled the whole room and to be screaming in the corner crying just because a teacher told them to do homework at that time I I really think that you throw temper tantrum again like do you think that you were just trying to willfully be ignorant because you didn't want to accept that there was something deeper that was wrong not really I just never thought about any disorder at that time it's it's not like oh I know some probably something wrong with Irene no I just never thought of it anything like ADHD or Autism I probably think a little bit like oh probably I gave her too much you like after school programs and that's probably over stimulate her she doesn't like to do those things she just want to you know to a restful day after school I mean so with that being said if I was diagnosed with both as a child would you have approached those situations differently when I would have meltdowns and problems with teachers or would it be the same I think it would be different because if you made clear to me at that time you were like diagnosed with ADHD or Autism I'll probably cut down some classes for you because how would I have made it clear to you I was a child technically you were supposed to that's why I I didn't know it and and you didn't know it you just have all this meltdown and then I didn't even think I used the word meltdown I only think that you're like so temper tantrum but it was worse it's very defined would you agree that my temper tantrums were a lot worse than a normal child's temper tantrums they were like explosive yeah it's more yeah yeah so like just so we're clear you guys I had meltdowns they weren't just me pouting or throwing temper tantrums I would full-blown be like screaming panicking it would be a very physical experience where even adults in those moments would be like what is happening this is insane like we've never seen a child do that before which is why a lot of autistic kids who are diagnosed have to go through a lot of Behavioral interventions because autism affects our behaviors more than anything right because it affects how you function in society and how you're able to function in society I'm sorry you guys if like this conversation is somewhat triggering for you guys I just want you guys to know that I'm also a little bit trigger talking about the ways that I was brought up to be in childhood because as you guys can see I didn't fit in I wasn't able to function very well so it's hard to hear that kind of stuff just be like gentle on yourself and take care of yourself while you listen to this I do think that this conversation is is really important to have so I think we could all navigate it together with respect and empathy and I also need the school teachers or after school any teachers they should have classes about this because if they are very well educated if they know something is not right not normal they should talk to the teacher there needs to be better education all around because it's not just the teachers or the parents this has to be a collective knowledge because for children the two most prominent people in their lives are their parents and their teachers so if not one of those adults but both have to look out for these sort of Behavioral or developmental indicators and be able to say something when they see it so there were so many points this is why this conversation is low-key triggering for me there are so many points where I feel like at least one teacher or even my mom could have thought to themselves there's something here we need to get her to be assessed and have that conversation or a teacher to be like hey Katie I know this is a difficult conversation but I see a lot of traits of ADHD I see a lot of traits of autism perhaps you should look into getting her assessed and diagnosed so she could get the proper help things like that it would have changed my life very drastically it is somewhat triggering to talk about my childhood because it was so hard and not just because of my home environment but just because I was an undiagnosed child trying to function in society that felt impossible to do and was in many instances impossible to do so another aspect of my life that I struggled a lot with was I struggled to make and keep friends did this worry you and why yeah I noticed that you hopping from one friend group to another this pattern every year you go to the new classroom right and you have a few new friends and next year those friends like kind of gone and then you have new friends and they just keep on topping from one group to another never stay with one group you know a lot of people but you just don't have any close contact with them you probably can play with them but just change your friends all the time I kind of always say oh do you you like her you can like have friends for a long time things like that it's hard for me because at least you're not completely like loner you do make friends but um yeah it wore me a little bit why did you think I had so many issues keeping friends honestly I don't know because I know that your brothers have group of friends they stay from kindergarten until College even now but I ring just you know have all these different friends all the time I didn't know what's the problem so I don't know how to worry about this kind of pattern this kind of behavior I don't know what to say it's just new to me I wish I can be like better help at that time for you but it's just really hard at that time you just don't know what to do this could be a good example of how autistic women or girls who aren't diagnosed yet or even maybe are diagnosed go through a lot of these issues within society that makes it harder for us because there's a lot of these social normities and expectations that stereotypically young girls and women have to abide by like you said I wish I had more guidance from you so if you're a parent watching this and you have a child that's autistic and you're doing as much research as you can to figure out how to be there for your autistic child I know I see a lot of parents out there that are so worried and wanting to figure out how to make their child's life a little bit easier I just want you guys to know that just doing research Alone says a lot and it's doing a lot and I want you guys to know that you researching and you understanding us and being able to just talk through things with us and help us figure out different ways to do different things is honestly the biggest help you could give us when it comes down to it because throughout all of these adverse moments in my life if my mom had just had conversations with me about it or given me any sort of guidance as to like oh maybe you should try this out oh that didn't work maybe try this out that would have helped me so much with not feeling as confused or at least not feeling as alone just having a little bit more guidance because at the end of the day I was a child there's only so much you could know but you know with friends and keeping them I feel like it was hard for me to keep friends because I wasn't able to be myself around them and I wasn't able to understand how to fit into a social Dynamic unless I was completely putting on an act so if you can imagine that becomes tiring over time or if you want to be a different person you can no longer get along with a certain type of person that you had to change yourself to get along with them if I could visualize this if I had to turn myself yellow to get along with a group of yellow people that can only last so long before I wanted to turn red and be that type of person if I wanted to turn red I had to like go find new people to hang out with that were also red yeah I think pretty much at beginning you try to make friend and um but you kind of know is you don't fit in how come you don't fit in you're like pretty girl and then very talented but what's wrong a part of that as well is when I change groups of friends when I first do it it's because I like certain parts of these people that could bring out certain parts of myself but as time goes on I realize there's other parts of the dynamic that I didn't like and I didn't want to change myself to be that type of person I noticed that with groups of people you have to become them in every aspect right and I felt like I didn't have space to just be this certain part of my myself around them but then also like leave certain parts out and so that's why once I would feel like I couldn't be around those people anymore I would just move on to the next right group of people so the next question is is my bluntness hard for you to cope with in the past and how about now yeah I guess bluntness is like very directly talking to you about certain things Irene was a very direct person since I was a kid yes you just Express like you have to all this if you're not happy you have all this outburst and then you're very loud and even now you when you talk to me you give me that kind of I don't know to me it's like Poker Face flat effect yeah I don't know that means your your facial expression is kind of flat and your body is kind of just flat and your tone of voice is flat I'm like whoa can you can you give me some sort of like smile when you ask me questions it's a lot to me because I thought that's a little bit of disrespectful after Her diagnosis I know that's how she function then I'm fine right now and then we get things done fast make decision fast there's no like you feel bad I feel bad or anything because your face is like looks so yeah it's not I'm okay with you right now it's just probably other people say wow you you look so mean or something I oftentimes find that when other women talk to me even some men I could tell what they're trying to get at but they'll say something else imply like an implication they'll say like a comment or ask a question when in reality for example they want to say hey can you wash dishes but instead they'll say things like oh I feel tired sometimes when I'm the only one washing dishes or oh when are we gonna get the dishwasher fixed and there's so many times where I'll just be like do you want me to wash the dishes is that what you're trying to get at and I feel like with people that are around me more often it's very jarring at first is it very how would you describe when I just get to the point probably a lot of people don't like that I mean this is like very rude or something but since I know you I'm like okay with that kind of tone of voice your tone of voice is like so rude I mean I'm like why is it seen as rude because you don't have any facial expression and then you're staring at me I'm like okay what's wrong I mean why you look at me like that it's just interpretation thing so the next question is did you ever wish I would be more normal or I fit in more when you were young I thought you were just normal girl I never thought anything like not normal but you have this anger there's anger every day after school there's like class almost every day and if there's like competition your anger get more and more and then you're kind of like triggered or something you get very angry I wish you not do that so what I got from that is you wish I would just listen to what you told me to do and what you're forcing me to do more easily I will say it's forcing parents always think it's better for you it's best for you during those years is you're like Angry every day whenever I say oh there's a meat or competition and they should start getting like this anger anxious and I was over stimulated overwhelmed yeah and I didn't feel like my parents would listen to me I knew you guys were gonna force me to do something I didn't want to do regardless so yeah I was angry it was more so just like very overwhelmed and very helpless and I felt like I couldn't ever get out of anything or be listened to unless I had these huge outbursts and it's not even that I wanted to have the Outburst it's like I had no other choice I guess uh what I want is probably just be more accommodating more like yes to some of those things I asked you to do do you think I would have been more accommodating if you had been more accommodating [Music] um yeah I feel like I was never accommodated for I felt like I was constantly being forced to do things against my will by my parents by my teachers by everyone I didn't know that at that time I thought you just like just such a defined trial like always say no to everything yeah what are moments in your life that I've exhibited strength for you or supported and helped you before I got divorced because at that time I couldn't make up my mind I'm like struggling and this this is a big thing you have there's a lot of things to do I think Irene is always say you can do it things like that that helped me a lot I mean I wasn't really saying you can do it near the end I said you have to do it yeah you have to do it both of you are not happy and why don't you guys just separate and then um you guys can see for your happiness yeah so when I was a junior in high school I think I was basically alone with my parents my parents were very unhappy together and I was in the middle all the time at some points my mom was even sleeping in my room in my bed with me there'd be nights where my dad would lock her out of the house things like that and I had to stay awake to make sure I opened the door for her when she got home things like that and so I feel like in those moments having an autistic person is very grounding because I kind of just go to what matters that extended during arguments I would kind of be able my parents are both Libras so you can imagine their arguments lasted for hours and never got to the point so I would always be there to like ground it back to the main points and be like what are you guys arguing about because just talk about that or when it came down to it I said you guys are not happy divorce it's that simple I feel like having an autistic person be able to cut through all the BS and just get to the point is really helpful would you say autistic empathy is different than other types of empathy that we're used to seeing and experiencing wow this is very difficult question artist person is more like okay I know you have this problem I'm here I feel how you feel somehow like divorce she also suggests what I can do with the autistic person that person probably will give you solution I would agree you know not seeing all autistic people are only solution based with how they empathize but it is a common thing I do see with my autistic clients and also myself what it is is that we see why certain behaviors habits and ways of doing things make you feel a certain way and if we feel like it's attached to the issue you're talking about when we offer Solutions or we offer suggestions it's basically saying hey you say you feel bad these are the reasons why so if you target these reasons then you won't feel bad anymore or you won't feel as bad or at least you'll give yourself a chance to grow out of feeling bad and it's our way of understanding you whereas I feel like a lot of the times with neurotypical holistic people they're more so the type to empathize with you without offering any sort of help or suggestions which some people would prefer that but I feel like for neurotypical people they can empathize without understanding is what I'm ultimately trying to get at whereas autistic people in order for us to empathize we have to like understand be in your shoes experience everything you're trying to describe which can be very overwhelming which is why we also get so invested in trying to offer Solutions and to help you what are valuable lessons you've learned about yourself through our differences I think I'm always a talk with implication probably a little bit passive aggressive too so I won't directly talk about the problem but I would say something like around it not go to the problem directly because sometimes I feel that if I talk directly I would hurt that person or something more direct and uh [Laughter] [Music] it got kind of like off topic near the end there oh because I don't know how you've learned that for me the valuable lesson I've learned throughout differences is that I'm able to be more direct talking to people and that made me feel good so I don't have to overthink of things and then I'll make things complicated is there anything you want to say to other mothers or parents out there who have an autistic child in their life that they're raising if you have a young kid showing all this Behavior the earlier the better looking for the professional help go from there and then appearances themselves can find a lot of information regarding all these topics online or through YouTube for the parents who have adults you just have to make sure to accept it it's not like oh I don't believe that you have this that kind of attitude you just accept it and then talk to your kids about it and then hopefully provide an environment that is not too much nagging or something you have to Let It Go and then again you have to be educated about how to handle your kids if you're a parent of an autistic adult who is later diagnosed with autism a good way to go about that is to just be open to learning about autism and learning about your child's certain spectrum because they're a full-blown adult by now so they should be able to explain to you what their autism means and just be open to learning about it ask them questions you can never offend someone by just asking questions especially us if anything it creates good conversation and a learning experience but yeah other than that thank you mom for being in today's video yeah thank you for having me yeah was it hard it was hard but I kind of like give myself saying oh okay if I have to do it I have to do it I don't want to overthink about it I know last year you asked me to do it I kind of like say no no but this year I say oh okay just give me some time to prepare it then I'm okay yeah yeah because I feel like you care too much about how people perceive you know but now I'm like oh whatever okay that's good well anyways you guys I hope you enjoyed today's video I hope you guys learned something new about us and about yourselves be mindful of yourselves be mindful of each other be nice in the comments thank you guys for being a part of my community and I will see you guys on the next video bye bye foreign [Music]

Channel: The Thought Spot

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Published: Wed Feb 08 2023