Stop Talking So Much Bro.

[Music] all right that was that was music that was music all right have you ever had a conversation with someone and you just get that awkward moment of silence like you finish talking about a certain point and then you just stop talking there's that moment of silence it's just quite awkward there are three sort of responses that I notice for this there there is one which is the most disrespectful one I'll grab this I'll pull out the phone and they'll start scrolling and you see this quite a bit with people who are socially awkward or they just don't respect they will just pull out their phone when there's a break in the conversation there's another sort of choice that people make where they'll just sit in the silence and wait for the conversation to start Again Naturally this is what we want this is where we want to be but the third point is the one that I'm going to be focusing on in this video and that is when the conversation comes to an awkward point someone will just spit out something to avoid the silence cuz they're uncomfortable with the silence they'll just say something they won't think about it they'll just say something to avoid the discomfort of silence and I believe this gives off the effect opposite to what the person wants it to give it makes them look like they don't have much to say the whole point of them speaking extra is to make them add on to the conversation and their but I feel like when people do this it shows that they don't have much to talk about really and this makes you look less intelligent and I believe this is shown quite clearly in the Book of Proverbs in Proverbs 17 from verses 27 to 28 it reads this whoever restrains his words has knowledge and he who has a cool spirit is a man of understanding even a fool who keeps silent is considered wise when he closes his lips he is deemed intelligent now that last verse and specifically the last part of the last verse really says something to me it's the idea that even a fool can be seen as intelligent and is intelligent if they keep their mouth closed the thing like this is such a simple message but it is so true what the scripture is telling us is that one who refuses to restrain from talking in a manner like this where they're just putting out words to avoid silence it makes them seem unintelligent it makes them foolish in a sense and verse 28 puts it plainly that even fools can be intelligent if they shut their mouth if you've ever read Robert Green's 48 Laws of Power you've probably come across this law because it's one of the first laws in the book it's law four it's the law of not saying more than necessary so say less than is necessary and this really makes sense in the context of power as it is shown in the book but I believe this also links to the scripture in a way of course power the book of power is used to portray leadership qualities and show how people what people people in power do and it can be used in the wrong way it can be used in a way that is very oppressive towards others but it is still a very valuable lesson and green is teaching exactly what the Bible tells us and there's a quote when I was reading this chapter on in power there was just a little bit of text a line of text that stuck out to me that really sent the message home that text being the more you say the more likely you are to say something foolish and this is just it's it really hit home for me because it is just true as a probability if you say more words you're not going to think as much when you speak and if you don't think as much as you speak you're just going to say something without giving it the proper thought to articulate it and you'll be more likely to say something that you don't actually mean to say you're more likely to be reactionary and to call someone something you don't mean to call them you're more like ly to express a negative feeling towards someone and this is not what we want this is what is so problematic with emotions and being emotional and not being able to control this because when we get emotional we're more likely to say these things and when we get emotional we say these things to the people we love the most these hurtful things so we need to learn to control contr what we are saying we need to learn to stay quiet when these negative emotions are coming up in the moment we have to learn to stop and think to really think about what we're saying because when we don't we end up doing something stupid we end up saying things that are hurtful to others and that is not what we do as Christians what I believe is you can only start learning if you put aside what you know and you stop talking and you just listen there's so much to learn from people if you really listen to them and you take into account what they're saying because you can't learn if you're just constantly talking and talking and talking if you're hogging the conversation you're not going to learn from people of course you should ask questions but you shouldn't be trying to hog the whole conversation because you're afraid of Silence you should be content with waiting and listening Proverbs 11:13 tells us whoever goes about slandering reveals Secrets but he who is trustworthy in spirit keeps it thing covered when we gossip we reveal people's secrets we reveal the pitfalls of them you always he in your classrooms if you ever been in a school if you listen in on conversations you can always hear someone talking about someone else in a negative way and as humans this is how we are we bring people down to gain status we look down on people and we make fun of them behind their backs because it makes us feel good and it brings up our social status you and I know that is a sin you and I know that gossiping is a sin and it pulls us away from God so we have to ignore the temptation to gossip as many people do they do gossip and we have to stay away from that because it's a seemingly subtle thing but it pulls us away from God we have to keep shut our mouth in that moment and focus on just staying out of those types of conversations because they're not good you're bringing down someone else and you're pulling yourself away from God at the same time and slanderers reveal the secrets of people you ever know that kid in your class or that kid in your school that you see and he just says ridiculous things about people he says things about people that no one should really be saying about anyone else he somehow manages to get the secrets of other people and he just blurts them out this is what slanderers do we are not slanderers we don't do that we need to refrain from these types of activities cuz they're not good for us and they pulled us away from God we also need to stay away from Gossip because it can give us a false sense of validation especially when we start talking about the things that we're working on like when I started working on this YouTube channel I kept it a secret I didn't tell anyone I didn't tell my family I didn't tell my friends I have told some people but they're not inside like the inner closed circle of people I see every day I didn't tell these people because number one I figured I'd probably get some sort of grief from it I'd probably get some sort of smart remarks from people about me making content and number two I didn't want that sense of validation even if they did affirm me making YouTube videos because when you get this validation from others for a goal you have for something you haven't yet done it sort of subconsciously makes you feel like you've already achieved the goal and that gets you complacent and when you're complacent you don't achieve what you set out to achieve so even though your friends they might be nice to you about your goals and they might be like that's good for you man how you how you doing on it and they encourage you it can still really damage you because you feel like you've already achieved the goal cuz you've got the validation from the people you care about so you need to keep quiet on the things that you really want to put work on and to really focus on of course it's different when you're talking about religion and all this cuz that's something the people you know have to know and it's something we're called to do we're told to spread the gospel but when you're sitting out to do some sort of business Endeavor or you're making a YouTube channel or you're doing something that people don't really need to know about try and keep it a secret because it can really help you to just keep going without that validation from others if you're a child of God you do not want to come down to the level of fools and gossip and and just saying things for the sake of saying things we are in control of what we say and we can control what we say if we stop and think we really can because once we say something that can't be taken back and that's something that's really profound it cannot be taken back once you've said something because no matter if it was a mistake or not they cannot tell they can the people you are saying these things to they don't know how your brain is working so they can't justify if you weren't thinking or if you really meant what you said they're more likely to go with the ladder because they simply cannot access how your brain works so really think about what you say because once it comes out of your mouth you cannot take it back Proverbs 18: 21 death and life are in the power of the tongue and those who love it will eat its fruits your tongue has the power to give life and uplift others but it also has the power to kill them to destroy their hopes and Ambitions to put them down to the point of depression how do you think people get depressed they socially are isolated and it's your tongues that are able to do these atrocious things your tongue can either bring someone to life or put them down to death you've got to make that decision and you have to focus and really really choose to bring life to others just as Jesus has BR life to you Jesus loves you I love you too mAh

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Length: 15min 52sec (952 seconds)

Published: Mon Feb 26 2024