Should Black People Care What White People Think? (This Got Deep)

would you say the black community is thirsty for acceptance and inclusion from the white community who does black lives matter too should they only matter to white people do you believe that the black lives matter movement is moving the black community forward we had two sisters in my community build the first ever black owned supermarket man they was robbed so many times time how are we still struggling with the same problems of police brutality we're just continuing to fight and we have to keep fighting we're black all the time and it matters all of the time not some of the time do we want to be accepted from other communities it depends on your circumstances okay i don't care honestly like i'm not seeking acceptance because my reality is very different and like my business we work with black people right so you know i don't care about white opinion it's good to have a positive relationship if you will but i've just never had to operate and i've never worked for a white person you know i've never had that submission if you will instilled in me but again going back to what you said previously it's economic empowerment it's education you know my family's been highly educated and influential and we take pride in being able to provide employment for others and we have a large scholarship program that we have as well so we're able to give back what we have been blessed with and that's what's most important to me and i want to be able to you know make sure my kids never have to care about what others think of them who's in charge of them who's ruling their life like it doesn't matter create your own narrative and so that you know five or ten or fifteen generations down the line you know we've created our own reality i didn't say ladonna i thought we was going to argue but i guess not we're going to say well no all but that's what i'm saying i'm not saying this let donna want to be accepted as a community and as a culture do we want to be accepted i still say no say no to that because i think we have our own we have our own culture and i think we're not fighting for acceptance from them we're fighting for them to leave us alone oh we're fighting for them to to stop killing us we're fighting for equality you know leave us alone i see that differently oh i see that same thing i see us saying now if one of us would have did it who cares i'm not saying that we should be we should settle for whatever handouts we're given i'm not saying that what i am saying is with the fight has been such a long fight because one day we hope to be equal um but shouldn't we all be equal though we should be absolutely well well well let me ask you this is your bible made of equal people i'll give you time no i'll give you i'll give all y'all for sure no even let's do it with god let's go with god's eyes but dan has created these systems of inequality hold on hold on let's go with god's eyes or in in your bible from the beginning of time was did god see everybody the same no never happened he created adam he had his people and he wanted his people to not be like them he had not that not again not talking about who's better and who's worse i'm not talking about that because then we got to get into good and evil the battle is about good and evil but when we're talking about people you're not going to have equality in the sense of what we what we have been as a race fighting for we're not until he comes back we're not so why are we still the same people says that cried unto god and he heard that cry sending a deliverer by the name of moses and brought him out of bondage those same people not even two weeks later and i'm clowning start saying we had it better when we were in egypt at least we had some fish exactly now read your bible did they let them go back into slavery yes multiple times over and over again so either either either we serve a god who understands that we are not going to always be how about how about equal means serving him and anybody who serves him we should be compatible and equal outside of that is good and evil because man's evil issue he's always wanted to be god which means he wants to rule man that will never happen equality will never happen outside of him and so as a race of people who come from god why are we looking for an evil world to be equal with it why are we trying to make sense of evil it'll never happen so when i walk out the door and i go and and and stand in line i'm expecting for somebody to treat this white lady or this white man different that's where i live and guess what it's okay you know why it's okay it has no bearing on my reality has no bearing on my success none of it you asked me this i had this conversation with you in a mentoring situation what question was i yeah all right i'm gonna put you on the spot in a mentoring situation i told you this i said i don't waste my time teaching my son how to act around police i i remember that yep i don't teach my son how to act around white people [Music] because then i'm teaching him to do the same issue that we have now see if i do all of this teaching him about how to respond and react around white people and police it'll be a black friend of him that takes his life wow it'd be his homeboy somebody he's close to that look just like him that'll put him in the grave one day so what i do is i teach him how to be respectful to people yes how to carry himself around people how to handle conflict resolution with people because it ain't based on skin that's good now we're talking good and evil does that make sense y'all yeah yeah so so equality we can't don't don't why would you frustrate we live we le we live we live frustrated lives trying to control stuff we have no control over them we look frustrated our lives are so frustrated and upset and sad and depressed and the world coming to an end all cause we're trying to control stuff we have no control over when you learn these two words that i have that's my mantra for 2021 it's okay it's okay i know that's three but technically i'm saying it it's okay it's not for me though no that's fine and that's okay go ahead finish i don't that's not okay for me to go somewhere and some white woman be treated better than me because i'm black i'm gonna continue to fight for it and if that's what you believe that it's just gonna be what it's gonna be that's cool for you but i don't agree with that at all i'm gonna fight and as far as your question about us trying to live in a society where we're accepted by white people i can speak for my generation we don't care we don't care we just want to know that if i get stopped by the cops first of all i'm being stopped for something actually illegal and second of all i'm gonna make it home alive that's all that's what we care about but being accepted we don't care we're gonna do our own thing and we're gonna live our life in our blackness like you said creativity we have our creativity we have our things i don't care i have my own business i'm running my own business i'm gonna do that and i'm gonna put whatever i want on my shirt my shirt is gonna say black smile and if you're a white person you don't to buy it that's not my problem i'm not here to be accepted by you but i will be respected and i do expect that when i come into contact you i'm going to be respected like you said for who i am because i'm good period and it's not okay for me to just go somewhere and somebody treat me that's okay i'm saying i'm saying don't be flushed in other words don't live in a bubble does that make sense like i'm not telling you what to think or how to feel that's okay it's okay for you to have your arm but when it frustrates you and upsets you the reality is the reality and here's what i'm trying to give you the reality of it is it shouldn't and let me tell you why because you because you don't need it anyway you don't have to they have no control over name the worst day you ever had in life can you remember that whatever day that is just think of it just like whatever you know not necessarily the day itself but incidents that have happened that may have been maybe the worst day that you've ever had uh when my papa died okay when your papa died that's a that's a terrible day in it so did the sun rise that day it did did did the water in your house work that day we have the tendency to make our reality the reality we have the tendency to make our circumstance life you know and the reality is it's not life it's your world and you're the captain of it so don't allow anything outside you to disturb what's in you because your fault here's what the enemy knows when things are divided it loses strength when you're conflicted even in yourself there's less strength you know what you know what made her her fa her great-grandfather strong powerful is in spite of all the external he never lost the internal and he could fight the conflict internally right of the external conflict internally and face it no matter what yeah i'm sure he had frustration times and days in which it we quit as a people so often because of what's going on inside and never can we affect what's going on outside because we're so conflicted inside i wouldn't say that as a people though i mean and i mean i guess i can speak for myself is that i i can i battle internally with myself on a daily basis and i'm here right now every day i get up and every day i keep going and i'm mad i'm mad there's a lot to be mad about i am mad but my anger is one of the things that fuels me so you're different that's good there in a conversation it ain't stopping you i think just for for us sitting up here we have a certain level of privilege in you know the black community like i mean i'm a college graduate um you know you all are you know successful in your own right and things of that nature but sometimes i think about my friends and the people that i grew up with and just looking how at how you know my life may have been different from theirs when i first started going to school i was in pre-k but i went to a white elementary school and for me that was an interesting experience because there you know i was just tanisha you know i was smart i was on you know honor roll made all a's and things of that nature and then my mom got married when i went to fourth grade and we moved and i went to a predominantly black school and at that school you know we were pizza parties fundraisers uh you know the titans would come to our school we had fall festival all of these great and amazing things and then when i got to the other school the books were tore up and you know the teachers were very different in the tone than the way that they deal with us and i i was asked the question why do you talk white and i was like talk white like what are you talking about you know this is the way i talk and it was the first time i had experienced i could guess you say colorism or whatever the case may be you know people were looking at me because i was different or i came from you know a different experience from them like how you were saying to combat white privilege or racism you said free enterprise or did you say start your own business or yeah ownership ownership of of of self like you know within our own culture and community what you're just saying what you just said there's variances right we're not all when sometimes you know we're raised on in a two-parent household yet we're black sometimes we're raised by a single mother yet we're black sometimes we're raised in the in the project you can only control and take ownership of the the lot you've been given you understand what i'm saying and and make the best of whatever you've been given whenever we look at the disparities and the inconsistencies and the the the the the challenges of this race over that race and this person over that person it takes the ownership out of it it becomes excuses it becomes reasons it becomes you know we do it within our own community well they made it because they had both mom and dad or they made it because they went to this school or got this educational they went to college we have to take ownership as a people i think you know you know where i'm going with that but what about i i feel like that's easier said than done what about the people who've never you know really seen ownership like for me for example my family i come from a line of women who just you know most of them are single mothers most of them you know have through my eyes have settled and it's gonna take like you know this is what i have i have enough you know to pay my rent i'm gonna be in this apartment you know i'm going to live and work you know for this company for the rest of my life but like for me i don't want those things like they are great and amazing women will you have those things that they have or would you have better no i would have better but i'm just saying what about for the people who can't see past like you said free enterprise and ownership like if they don't see that for themselves how how can we you know help them yeah help them or you know it's easy for us to sit up here and say do this and do that but if they've never seen it done before or if they don't believe it for themselves as a people not i feel like a lot of the things we've been saying up here we've been speaking just for ourselves or through our situations or this is what i do i haven't like y'all don't know my background like i was raised you know who i am today is not what i come from um so no i'm not saying i'm not saying hey go start a business i'm saying a solution as a community as a coach not an individual not even brought it down to individuals who have not i was speaking literally largely as a community we need to do more of self-investment ownership working on self that goes back to the black lives matter uh video that i did right yeah yeah yeah taking ownership so not everybody's meant to be a business owner not everybody's meant to be an entrepreneur i'm not saying that whatever lot you've been given figure out how to make that happen and work within that lot versus using it as a crutch or an excuse as to why you can or cannot they're always there always comes somebody who says you know what i've been given bad lemons all my life but you know what i'm gonna do i'm not gonna make lemonade and sell it i'm gonna plant lemon trees and i'm gonna figure out how to make you know lemonade for a whole generation of people just taking whatever you have and and focusing on what god has given you you none of us will stand before god and blame any race none of us will stand before god and say but god they did this he's gonna want to know what did you do with what i gave you whatever that was it doesn't matter if it was one pence two pence five pence it does not matter he expects increase with what he gave you and as a community we spend too much time talking about well i don't have and they have do with what you do have and watch god bless it but i think it's important to be oh you haven't oh boy you know just listening to all y'all talking i mean you know many of you all you know don't know me and and and in life i stand big on a lot of different things but one thing i really do stand firm on is believing that in life is your choice as a human being all you know is coming into the world coming from your mother's womb and if you have faith in god then so be it i'm one of those individuals who stand firmly on god i was also someone who lost both of my parents growing up and also at a high school and at a high school that was low academically on the worst academic schools in tennessee and bounced to multiple different homes growing up raised by my grandmother and uncle and also had four and five other siblings in the home so a lot of stuff that i see on the media and black lives matter not only is that hard to digest but just my life as a whole now and i'm just a young man you know in in at the time when i was 16 losing my mom still trying to find self and then lose my dad in college in the process of finding myself three years later covert happens black lives matter is still hitting hard and then you got history to sit on top of all of that and all i knew was to succeed after i lost my mom it just kind of clicked i had people along the way who guided me so i didn't do it alone but most importantly i had god and i continued to pray and i believed in writing down and manifesting my life even when i was in college i worked multiple different jobs and i knew the system i knew what they were doing with working all these different hours that you know uh in a specific industry and they taking all this money out to a check you you're slaving for time so after working all these different jobs and you know finishing school i started my business in my head while i was in college i knew that i had a bigger i knew i didn't go through all this stuff in life just to experience the pandemic life's not over i decided to start a business that's all about training past adversity 365 is what we have to do every single day not just in a training sense but mentally physically emotionally spiritually socially as a black man and woman in the united states of america so i stand so firmly on just believing in self steve harvey says i listen to a lot of his motivation he says stop worrying about worrying about everybody else you know because you can only focus on yourself at the end of the day if you spend your whole life focusing on what happened in the past what's happening now then you will never strive and thrive to the uh uh you know the being that you're supposed to be yeah so that's my viewpoint he was about to say something um i was just gonna say that i i agree with your point about you having to take ownership of yourself and you have to you're the only one who's gonna be able to get you out of your situation you can't focus on everything that's happening to you it's more about well what are you gonna do okay this is everything that happened to you but what are you gonna do now however i think that sometimes when when black people tell other black people you know well you got to get yours and you you you know you got to get yours and you got to focus on you and this that and the other it's it's a great thought and it's it's true but we can't forget to remind them that you you have to help the rest of us because not to your point there are people that they don't have we all have privilege we all have a certain amount of privilege and i think being in to your you were talking about white um white privilege and it's like okay well i was born here and i i was set up with this so i'm uh i'm gonna roll with it like i'm not gonna be weighed down by what happened in the past but i think you have to be aware of where you're at who's ahead of you and who's behind you and for me it's like i'm aware that i was born into a great family and even even if my family was was going through struggles and even when they were struggling i had no idea because my parents never let me have any idea and and i went to a good school it was a majority black school and but the teachers really cared they really cared about us because i had teachers that looked like me and i i've always had my my parents have always supported me so when i wanted to start my business they were like cool seed money here you go start your business i have a friend one of my best friends who has the same drive the same passion the same talent as me and has a gazillion ideas just like i do like she'll call me and say hey i have this idea to do this but she didn't she wasn't born in the same type of life that i have she loves my parents because they're so supportive of me and she doesn't have that and i'm very aware of that that i was given this and i'm gonna take care of me and i'm gonna take care of mine but my end goal is always to give it back to those people that one may not know i mean your whole point is to teach financial literacy to black community we how can you expect us to know if nobody taught us how can you expect anybody to know something if nobody taught them so when you say you have to yes you have to take care of yours you can't focus on you know what you don't have you can be aware of it you can be aware of what you don't have you can be aware of what you have but you also have to stress the point of going back and teaching those that don't i agree with that wholeheartedly yeah yeah i'm not disagreeing i didn't what i was saying had nothing to do with the community at large the way you fix the community is you you work on self to better you ever heard somebody say there's no i in team you ever heard that statement yeah there is an eye in team and guess what that is if i don't do my part i hurt the whole team yeah and so as a community when we better ourselves we better our community can't fix the can't fix the boat the hole in your boat when mind-sinking if i fix the hole in my boat then i'm in a better position to then teach you or help you so i agree with you and somebody's always watching you too the things you do does not go unnoticed and and thinking about when we were talking about you know our community we should spend more time paying it forward i'm somebody that like to learn new stuff every day and you get as let's talk about the system all the way from pre-k all the way to high school college just systemized education you have all these classes to balance he's uh from from um from middle school all the way up high school college and you learn i think about it as all these like multiple trades at one time so you you learn um how to balance you learn uh accountability you know you have classmates and all that um but what i mean by paying it forward is when you learn something that's a piece of knowledge shirt yeah one of my mentors told me that a couple years ago and she said always remember to pay it forward so it's like when i learn something new i mean you can only tell you can tell everyone but only some people will listen yeah uh a lot of black people are in fear to do something first and when they want to see somebody else do it to see what happens if you wait and you continue to wait then you'll never get anywhere if i waited to start my business and just procrastinated then i would not have gotten this far if i waited to uh leave my job and you know decide to pursue you know my business full-time then i wouldn't have never gotten this far if i didn't make a decision myself so if we can pay it forward more in our community then we'll have more black people owning you know real estate investing and just understanding that okay you may have a job that you're working 95 and i was also listening to this on yo on your podcast you got your job working nine to five and also having something on the side that you're working towards so that nine to five won't be your entire life because like i said everything is so accessible now we have to stop complaining and making excuses about something that has already happened it's another transition how are you going to adapt in this transition are you going to get swept up under the rug or are you going to do the sweeping and i decided to sweep i had this idea that i wanted to plant my business in places where we had been historically enslaved i have to be honest and transparent i get frustrated with us because we go back and we blame the last 400 years how about you just do your part but i can't do my part on black [Music] you

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Published: Thu Feb 04 2021