r/AmITheA--hole for Calling a Widow "Damaged Goods"?

welcome to our slash am i the butthole where a selfish father steals clothes from his own children am i the butthole for having my kids wear tie-dye when they're with their dad i'm a 30 year old woman and my ex-husband is 31. we got divorced five years ago during our divorce we owned an old single wide mobile home on a large piece of land that zoned for a trailer park in the divorce he wanted the new truck in our savings i wanted the old trailer and the land my ex and i have two girls together aged eight and seven since my divorce i slowly started buying old single wides and restoring them i turned it into a business and i love it my girls visit their dads at his affair partner's apartment every other weekend however i started noticing that their clothes electronics and toys were not coming home at first i thought their dad was just keeping a few outfits there for them however my eight-year-old got upset when she was packing i asked her what was wrong and she told me that her dad takes her clothes and sells them online she said that she doesn't want to take her favorite shirt over to her dad's i immediately called my ex i asked him to return our daughter's clothes because i didn't want to throw my daughter under the bus i blamed it on them not having enough clothes for school he played dumb he said that he got rid of the clothes that were too small i pointed out that the jeans that our seven-year-old had were brand new he then said that it was only fair that he got some cash because he owned the trailer and the land and if it wasn't for him i wouldn't be doing this good i was pissed i took my daughters down to the dollar store and bought some cheap shirts then i went to a thrift store and bought some cheap shorts we had a girls tie-dye night we made hot pink everything each girl made five shirts and five bottoms i let our girls design and decorate them my girls loved it the following week my ex sends the girls home i could tell that he was mad but he didn't say anything the girls did not come back with all their clothes no worries i knew this would be an issue we made extras so when the girls went back to their fathers the next weekend they were wearing tie-dye again they were with their dad for an hour before he called and demanded different clothes i kindly told him that our daughters loved those clothes they really really love tie-dye my ex got even angrier and said that his parents have a major family party and that the girls can't wear pink tie-dye i told him that he should go buy other clothes if he didn't want the girls to wear tie-dye he called me a butthole for being petty am i the butthole your husband is he's stealing clothes off of his own children's back he's stealing not just from kids but from his own kids opie why on earth are you posting this on our slash am i the butthole this is is this even a debate is this even a discussion also um [Laughter] down in the comments a lot of people are suggesting getting a bedazzler because they're pretty cheap and girls who are like seven or eight love them so if just be like oh ex-husband don't worry i won't send the girls over with tie-dye anymore and then the next weekend they show up with like bedazzled shirts and says like i love my daddy steve or whatever his name is good luck selling those clothes douchebag anyways op you get an easy easy zero out of five buttholes like what'd you do you had a you had a tie-dye party with your daughters which sounds really really sweet to be honest that's a really cool idea i'll have to tuck that one away from when my daughter gets older and then send your daughters to your ex's house clothed like how is that bad so yeah you get an easy zero out of five buttholes your husband however gets three out of five buttholes stealing from your own kids come on man am i the butthole for keeping the engagement ring and giving up asking to propose after proposed in front of my parents and in-laws what does that mean i'm a 25-year-old woman and my girlfriend molly is 26. six months ago my girlfriend started a joke that i've made pretty clear that i do not like it consists of her quickly saying no to anything that i ask i know it sounds silly but like i'll ask her to get me a glass of water for me and then she says no and after one minute i'm about to get up and then she says that she's joking and gets me some water i ask her to wash the dishes she says no i say i love you she says no i ask her to pick up her clothes she says no everything's just a joke but then after like 30 seconds to one minute she does it anyway but she's addicted to making this joke i've already made it clear several times that i do not like this even more so when i say i love you because she's the only person i can say that to so it's special to me and there are some things that are serious and i need her to answer seriously and if she says no to everything jokingly i can't tell when she's saying a real no which has already happened i keep saying that this joke is boring and i don't like it and then she stops it and goes back to doing it after a week one time after a brief discussion because she played this prank in front of our friends with me asking love can you get me some medicine and she said no she stopped doing it for one month yesterday we welcomed my parents in-laws and our two best friends to our house everyone knew that i was going to propose to her and i called them because we always planned this proposal with our loved ones attending participating in our special day i asked her to marry me and she quickly said no i was so upset for like 30 seconds with everyone just looking on in shock until she finally laughed and said that she was joking and said yes i was so embarrassed and i guess disappointed i put the ring back in the box and left i didn't even let her say anything she kept calling and texting me saying that it was a joke and that i knew that she always did that she said that i left her in a difficult situation in the house because it was very clear that i had given up on the proposal and that i did it in front of my parents and in-laws she stressed that i was making the situation uncomfortable because of a silly joke well that night i slept in a hotel and i'm still in it my parents support me but my in-laws are calling me a butthole for giving up on proposing disproportionately humiliating their daughter i just really think that there's a time for jokes and clearly that moment wasn't it she knew that i didn't like that joke but she decided to do it anyways am i the butthole okay so obviously there's nothing wrong with making jokes as long as everyone finds that it's funny if she's constantly making this joke and you repeatedly over and over say please don't make that joke i don't like it but she keeps doing it then at that point it stops being a joke and just becomes annoying and disrespectful and like i agree with you o.p there are situations where a joke just isn't appropriate and that was definitely one of them opu are you positive you want to marry this girl because i'm seeing like consistent disrespect and like repeated juvenile behavior out of this girl like are you sure are you sure you want to marry this girl because i wouldn't op i'm giving you 0 out of 5 buttholes i'm giving your girlfriend 1.5 out of 5 buttholes am i the butthole for asking my parents why my wedding gift was significantly smaller than my sister's i'm a 28 year old woman and my husband and i got married recently me and my sister who's 31 were discussing my wedding after returning from the honeymoon we are very fortunate to have grown up in a household where my parents made very good money they were generous with us but raised my sister and i to be hard-working and not dependent on them as adults my sister and i both do well financially so does her husband who's 36 my husband loves his job but it's not the type of job where he has a ton of earning potential he and i met in college so i've always known this was his plan and we're very happy with our setup during my discussion with my sister she asked me if my husband and i were planning to use the wedding gift money from my parents to do a particular renovation that we've been saving up for but i was really confused because the gift while very generous and appreciated wasn't nearly enough to cover that my sister told me how much she had been gifted and it was more than twice what we had been given after that i couldn't stop thinking about why i'd gotten less so my sister encouraged me to ask and during my call with my mom i couldn't stop myself from asking her response was that it wasn't my business but since i asked my sister had chosen a partner that could accommodate the lifestyle she's used to so they gifted her accordingly they also gifted me according to the lifestyle that i had chosen we're not entitled to gifts of any size in life but i still can't help feeling hurt that my parents feel that my husband and i are less deserving than my sister and her husband based on income meanwhile my parents are angry at both my sister and me for having this discussion and bringing it to them op yes you're right we're not entitled to any gifts in life however you are entitled to the assumption that your parents will treat you and your siblings equally and not play favorites this is not about money this is about your parents arbitrarily favoring your sister over you just because of who she's married to and then they get all upset at you because you were talking about this with your sister but like why can't you talk about this with your sister in fact i think it'd be very normal for you to talk about this with your sister because you know you're both sisters you both got married you're talking about you know what you got for your wedding this feels like a very normal conversation but they say it's none of your business and like you don't have a right to talk about this with your sister what what are they talking about i don't know this is weird logic it kind of sounds like your parents are trying to punish you because they think that you married someone who's beneath you i guess i don't know i'm kind of making assumptions because that's just my inference based on this weird story but in any event op you get zero out of five buttholes talking to your sister about what happened and then asking your parents hey what's going on here is very very normal and reasonable you get zero out of five buttholes your parents get two out of five buttholes for playing favorites am i the butthole for getting an entire table for myself after my husband and his mom didn't save me a seat i'll start this off by saying that i a 32 year old woman had been with my husband bob a 39 year old guy for three years married for one his mom has a habit of keeping me out of most of their functions with the excuse of you work too much this is not true because i do make myself available but still i find myself excluded last week his mom invited us for a celebratory dinner at a restaurant after she completed her recovery i had to work that day but i let her and everyone know that i would be there at 8pm bob obviously knew that i was coming the thing is when i arrived to the restaurant i saw that the table was full all the chairs had been taken and i just stood there with complete puzzlement while bob and his mom just stared at me his mom then told me that there was no place left for me and that i could either have bob get up and take his seat or go home i was so upset but instead of going home i just went and took an entire table for me bob and his mom watched with their eyes popping out of their heads like they saw something so shocking not gonna lie i did get weird looks from the guests but so did bob and his mom it was awkward in all honesty i had my dinner dessert and then went home i saw bob and his mom staring grudgingly at me while i was making my way out he got home an hour later and yelled at me saying that i embarrassed his mom in front of her guests i yelled back asking what the heck i was supposed to do after i got denied a seat and he told me that it wasn't his nor his mom's fault that guests arrived before me and took all the available chairs i told him that he could have saved me a chair he said that i could have just left instead and reminded me that i was a guest and that i shouldn't expect this level of entitlement to be accepted he then went on about how i ruined the entire dinner for him and his mom with what i did and he's been pouting about it for days now i don't get it i really don't was my expectation really that entitled i mean as his wife he should have saved me a seed but clearly i'm missing something here okay op what you're missing here is that your husband and his mother don't really like you i mean do i really have to say it they just don't like you man or at the very least they just don't respect you because like it wouldn't have been difficult at all to get a bigger table to pull over an extra chair to ask people to scooch in closer to make a space for you and like failing that if you get your own table so what let's suppose they really really truly are at maximum capacity and they can't add more tables because of like i don't know fire hazard or something and then you get another table it's like so who cares so what if you sit by yourself you're still like showing up showing support to your mother-in-law why are they upset about that the answer is because they didn't want you to stay and when you stayed anyways they got upset about that op you get zero out of five buttholes your husband and your mother-in-law get two out of five buttholes am i the butthole for refusing to let my brother meet my son after what he told me at my husband's funeral my late husband passed away from a car accident when i was 4 months pregnant it's been difficult without him but my family has done so much to support me i moved in with him a month after my husband died at the funeral my older brother asked for a minute to talk with me and then asked me if i really wanted to go through with my pregnancy i was shocked when i heard this but even more shocked when he suggested that i make the right decision not an emotional decision and reconsider having my son he gave me a lot of reasons why including that single moms and widowed moms are considered too much baggage for many men to date i lost it on my brother and kicked him out that was the last time that we saw each other my son is now three weeks old my whole family met my son and were happy to welcome him my parents asked if i could let my brother come meet my son even for a few hours i refused but they said that i was making a mistake of robbing my son of a future loving relationship with his uncle they asked that i don't let my emotions dictate a decision that might have a lasting impact but i said no my extended family got involved and started pushing especially after my brother started insisting saying that my husband was a dear friend of his and that what i'm doing right now would make my husband upset if he saw it am i being bitter and selfish man oh geez i can't help but notice the irony of what was the phrasing what did they say you said i refused but they said i was making a mistake of robbing my son of a future loving relationship with his uncle but meanwhile it's perfectly okay for your brother to try to rob you of a relationship between you and your unborn son and this is your last remaining remnant of your beloved husband like your husband's gone but at least part of him will always live on in your son right you can hold on to that and cherish it but he wants to terminate the pregnancy because it's hard to date yes that is true it is true that having a child makes it harder to date okay that's uh that's op's decision if she wants to do that then she can do that and like god pulling a widow aside at her husband's funeral and say you know it really would be a lot easier to find a man if you just abort that pregnancy now think about how much harder it's going to be to date if you hang on to your dead husband's baby bro dude come on i don't understand like if your brother is so opposed to you having baggage why is it that now he's so interested in seeing that baggage feels a little hypocritical if you ask me so no op i am completely on your side your brother way crossed the line here i'm giving you 0 out of 5 buttholes i'm giving your brother 3.5 out of 5 buttholes that was our slash amy the butthole and if you like this content check out my podcast where i publish the exact same episodes also hit that subscribe button because i put out new reddit videos every single day

Channel: rSlash

Views: 396,078

Keywords: reddit, r/, rslash, r\, sub, subreddit, best of reddit, reddit top posts, top posts, top posts of all times, funniest posts, funny, comedy, funniest reddit posts, funny reddit posts, funny reddit, fails, cringe, prorevenge, r/prorevenge, prorevenge posts, prorevenge funny, prorevenge fails, pro revenge, funny pro revenge, amitheasshole, r/amitheasshole, amithebutthole, r/amithebutthole, aita, r/aita

Id: uC0IQRfL_RY

Length: 16min 42sec (1002 seconds)

Published: Sat Sep 10 2022