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would you be the jerk for backing out of an  apartment agreement after you find out that   your partner bought an expensive car we'll get  into that in a bit but first am I the jerk for   expecting my sister-in-law to babysit my kids  my sister-in-law got married to my brother a   couple of months back my brother has always been  helpful to me and my family I have four kids under   10 since he got married sister-in-law moved to  our Province and she doesn't have any friends or   family here we are the only connection they have  here moreover she doesn't do any jobs right now as   she's settling down in the city sometimes I ask my  brother to babysit my kids and he does it without   hesitation so whenever we're busy with work or out  of town sister-in-law used to babysit the kids she   was great with kids but the problem started around  a week ago she refused to babysit the kids at all   whenever we ask she says no as it is the kids are  uncontrollable sometimes then I ask them during a   call with my brother and sister-in-law that anyway  she was at home free and without a job why can't   she do it then the conversation got heated and she  said she wasn't here for babysitting jobs after   this incident we haven't called each other in a  long time and I don't know how to approach them am   I the jerk to expect my sister-in-law to babysit  my kids I mean yeah I think op would be the jerk   if they legitimately think that oh you're not  doing anything with your time therefore you should   volunteer at the babysit my kids you can't just  expect them to give up their time relative or not   to watch your kids especially if they're the ones  that said to you hey I don't really like watching   your kids I don't want to do it at that point if  you continue trying to pressure them or put them   down and say well you've got all that free time  it's pretty clear you're the jerk right also hi   I'm Steven and if you guys enjoy getting to decide  whether or not all of these people are jerks why   not hit those like And subscribe buttons down  below that said our next story is am I the jerk   mom said I'm useless so I stopped helping hi R it  I female 20 live at home with my single mother and   five siblings while I finish University I'll call  them a male 23 B male 22 C male 17 D female 15 and   E male 12 almost every day I wash the dishes load  and unload the dishwasher vacuum the common areas   drive my younger siblings to and back from school  and cook dinner while also attending University I   get no help from my mom or siblings nor do I get  any appreciation for what I do around the house   last week on Wednesday I came home late around  9:00 p.m. from University as was talking to my   teacher after the lecture my class ended at 7:30  p.m. once I got home my mom started yelling at me   because I wasn't able to cook dinner there was  dirty dishes in the sink and my brother a had   to pick up my younger siblings from school I was  upset by this but she then said you're useless you   don't help out at all and I got ticked I replied  back sorry for being useless and went to my room   the following day I didn't drop my siblings off  to school which forced my mom to have to do it I   didn't make dinner and I stayed at Uni up until  they closed the library at 900 p.m. I continued   to do this and the house is now a mess and my  younger siblings have missed a few days of school   my mom and my other siblings are angry at me I'm  just wondering am I the jerk I feel like I'm not   but hearing it from my siblings and mom every  day is getting to me edit I had to leave some   stuff out due to character limits apologies  for weird formatting on mobile my family is   from a foreign background so my mom's beliefs  are very old-fashioned I live in austral aala   and in a location close to the city so houses are  quite expensive here rent is due fortnightly so I   wouldn't be able to afford moving out I don't  have a job but due to a small allowance I get   from the government for studies I contribute $150  a week toward household expenses I didn't include   every single chore I do but laundry is one chore  everyone does themselves because they all wash   their own clothes female 15 helps the 12-year-old  male out with his I wipe down counters and clean   the kitchen after cooking dinner I clean the  bathroom sporadically my brothers literally pee   on the floor and don't wipe it up I encourage my  little siblings to clean their room but ultimately   I end up tidying it my older brothers are both  employed but don't help around the house at all   they play video games when they're not working  my mother does not help me with my school fees   I've taken out student loans to pay for it I  don't think op is the jerk here and I think   very understandably op's kind of had their  fill of the grief I just hope considering the   circumstances where things are just too expensive  that at some point they can find a way to get out   of that situation and be actually on their own  where they're not kind of being parentified or   expected to be an extra parent our next story is  am I the jerk for telling my former friend this   is your school's fault not mine back in my early  20s I freaked College up and failed out I'd been   trying to get back in for an unhealthy amount  of time before deciding to go to a trade school   instead still both colleges and trade schools  require High schol school transcripts and mine   are encrypted by ransomware the high school I went  to originally told me they'd do absolutely nothing   about having my transcripts lost to ransomware  this forced me to initiate a lawsuit against my   former high school that I graduated from in 2017  their insurance was rather crappy which meant that   they had to pay for a good part of the expenses  the funds for the schooling have significantly   decreased meaning they've had to cut back on  a few things some people got laid off which is   where my former comes into play she's one of the  people who got laid off and is blaming me and my   lawsuit for it I feel like it's not my fault  if they didn't screw up with the transcripts   none of this would have happened yet she still  blames me am I the jerk you were forced into a   situation where you had no other recourse but to  do this literally what else could you do I think   op had to do this to further their life and get  things back on track it's unfortunate that their   friend was an unintentional casualty here but I  I don't think there was any other option for op   and it's not like they were doing it gunning for  their friend to get fired this next story is am I   the jerk for blaming my parents for how difficult  things are at home and refusing to help make life   easier and telling them they don't deserve my  help I 16-year-old female have a younger brother   14-year-old male and a younger sister 11-year-old  female my siblings are both on the autism spectrum   my brother is worse he's more prone to outbursts  and Break Stuff frequently my sister is non but   sometimes when the world gets too much for her  she can end up spiraling and breaking stuff I   don't feel like my parents do enough to prevent  the damage or to help protect stuff my things are   broken way too frequently and nothing I can do  will protect them 100% of the time it took until   I was 12 for my parents to agree to buy me a lock  for my door my brother broke the lock on my door   within 3 months of my parents buying it they  took 11 months to replace it and were giving   me attitude over the whole thing but they also  give me attitude for my siblings destruction in   my room they never help me clean it up they expect  me to be responsible for that and more often than   not they say they can't Reby something or refuse  to saying I need to take better care of my stuff   I'm on my third laptop and my grandparents bought  the last two my closet has hardly anything in it   because my clothes get destroyed my bed was broken  a couple times same for posters in my room being   torn and even my homework has been destroyed  by the hurricane my brother can be my mom gave   my sister my favorite cup and that got broken my  grandparents bought it for me when I was five and   it made me so sad to lose it then Dad expected me  to wash his car for him after my brother covered   the whole thing in paint I'd already done a lot  of Cleanup in my room that day on top of my chores   I'm at a point where I can't be around my siblings  without becoming frustrated and I know it's not   their fault so I don't want to lose it with them  but I will if I'm around them and resentment has   probably built my parents are on my case about  spending more time with my siblings and being   a better sister like I was 5 years ago I also  don't have the love or respect for my parents   that is normally expected from kids then a couple  of weeks ago my parents wanted my help they wanted   to do some work around the house and wanted me  to take part in entertaining my siblings in the   swapping and doing some of the work I refused to  help them and they accused me of making life more   difficult I told them they don't deserve for me  to make life easier they don't deserve my help I   told them they've taken so much out on me when I  had no control and they did I told them I don't   think they have done enough that it feels like  every gift is the start of a punishment because   they'll only Call Me Irresponsible when one of  my siblings breaks it I told them they expect so   much from me yet won't put the work in to protect  me or help me my parents told me it was an awful   attitude to have and they're humans doing their  best they yelled at me for so long that I could   hear it all in my sleep that night and things  have been even more difficult ever since am I   the jerk I don't think op's the jerk I would  be absolutely burnt out and right in the same   situation as op it feels like nothing you have can  be respected or expected to actually you know just   stay functioning and in one piece I think at  some point I would be clamoring to try to find   some way out of there whether that's if you have  the ability to support yourself or reaching out   to like grandparents or other relatives that  may be willing to help this next story is am   I the jerk for excluding sister's daughter from  our gender reveal a little background my husband   and I struggled with infertility for years had  multiple miscarriages and decided to go down   the IVF route as we were going through our first  round of IVF my younger sister got pregnant since   she sat her baby 4 months ago she's been pretty  insufferable 10 to 15 messages and videos every   day to our family chat about her baby the rest  of the family usually just use this chat to check   on each other so a couple of posts here and there  random video video calls throughout the day so we   can see her baby there were also so many messages  and comments while she was pregnant and we were   still struggling with fertility about how she gave  the family the first granddaughter and the first   baby in a while I do love my niece I ask about  her every day I talk to her via video chat and   have sent gifts but the non-stop attention seeking  really gets overwhelming well I'm 21 weeks now and   we decided on an online Zoom gender reveal since  we have family all across the country we sent the   date in time to our families she texted me to  ask us to move it since it conflicts with her   4months old sleep schedule so it would make it  hard for her baby to attend to be honest I don't   want her baby there since I'm worried that she'll  make the entire call about her baby so I told her   that we couldn't change the time and that she  shouldn't change her daughter's sleep schedule   for something that'll only last a few minutes  my sister can still attend while the baby is   sleeping she now thinks I'm a jerk she won't tell  me that directly but she's complained to my other   sister about it am I the jerk for what I said or  did I should note that my sister has a history   of Shifting the attention to herself a lot for  example I rarely post to the family chat but if I   do my husband and I have a running bet as to how  long it'll take her to ignore what I posted and   spam the chat of unrelated pictures of herself  my sister has a lot of wonderful qualities and   I love her but her attention seeking is just  something that really irks me and I really   just want this 10 to 15 15minute event about me  my husband and our future baby I can't fault op   here I've actually never used Zoom my question  is if you're organizing something and like you   have the room set up are you able to actually  like control mic in camera situations so like   if somebody is kind of hijacking things are you  capable of muting them or hiding their camera if   they have it on or is it especially a situation  where if they get the invite and they're just   feeling vindictive they can pop in there and just  go blah blah blah and scream on the mic and camera   all they want I mean I imagine you could probably  kick them at least right either way I don't think   Opie's The Jerk the four-month-old isn't going  to care either way our next story is am I the   jerk for saying I'd rather be dead than be alive  without a certain male body part so me male 33   and my wife female 35 are in bed and she said when  she was at work her and her co-workers were asking   hypothetical questions the question was if you  were in an accident and they could somehow save   your head in a jar would you want that or would  you rather not be alive to which I laughed and   responded obviously I'd rather be dead than be  a burden this led to different questions about   legs and arms being amputated I then said to be  honest I could probably cope without an arm or   a leg but if I lost my you know what I'd rather  be dead she took great offense to this and said   I was selfish not thinking of the kid kids Etc  now apparently I'm the jerk for thinking this so   am I the jerk here I mean was this really like a  serious conversation to begin with I can imagine   if you're just having one of those for fun bed  conversations you're saying wild hypotheticals and   stuff you just would say some statement without  really thinking through it about oh you know if I   lost Mr Johnson I wouldn't even want to be alive  anymore this wasn't like a declarative platform   saying yeah if I didn't have that screw you and  the kids I'm out when the conversation starts   with would you rather stay alive or die if they  could save only your head in a jar you probably   shouldn't take what said branching off of that  for 100% wellth thought through fact I mean it's   all just a ridiculous hypothetical to begin with  like is it worth it at all to Harbor any kind of   resentment over that our next story is am I the  jerk for not cooking dinner for my husband while   I was home sick I 24-year-old female called in to  work sick today because I have a fever aches and   a sore throat my husband 26-year-old male went to  work and the only time he messaged me was to give   me chores to do while he was at work I cleaned  the entire house mopped cleaned the bathroom did   our laundry Etc when he got home I was in our  bedroom putting our laundry away and the first   thing he asked me was what was for dinner I told  him I spent the entire day doing the list that he   sent me so I haven't cooked yet he got annoyed and  said that since I was just home all day I should   have been able to do a simple task such as cooking  I said we can just order takeout or something but   he got upset and went to his mom's for dinner I  don't know what I did wrong I didn't call into   work to be a housewife I stayed home because I'm  sick am I the jerk here I mean the relationship   in general just sounds kind of sad I mean I hate  to just kind of like rip into the relationship   but the communication and the way he just treats  op that doesn't sound particularly cool at all he   just what called or texted home gave you a list  and just expects you to do all that and then just   complains when it's not all done and more that he  didn't even say then instead of talking through it   and working on it they just leave and especially  Opie said that this was just a day that they'd   called off of work how can Opie be the jerk in  the situation this next story is am I the jerk   for telling my mom not to ever invite her friends  again for ruining my birthday party I 18-year-old   female recently had my birthday at first I was  just going to have lunch with my friends at a   restaurant but my parents insisted on joining us  and celebrating it together with us even though   we were going to celebrate at home as a family  anyway I didn't mind and told them I'd be happy   to have everyone together at the party it was all  going well until my mom told me she also invited   her friends to my birthday party I didn't want  them there because I didn't know them well enough   and it was just supposed to be people close to  me but she was stubborn about inviting them so   I suggested that we could have two timings one  for my mom's guests and the other for my friends   she agreed to it and it was settled that we will  invite her guests at 12:00 p.m. while my friends   would be there at 2:00 p.m. this way I could spend  enough time with my friends and also give enough   time to the other guests on the day of the party  none of my mom's guests arrived on time and only   by the time all my friends were there did they  start arriving I was a bit annoyed but didn't   say anything one of the guest's daughters around 6  years old wouldn't leave me alone she clung to me   the entire time her parents insisted on having her  cut my cake I let her do it since she was just a   kid who probably wanted to do it for fun but then  she started smashing the cake with her bare hands   wiping her snot on the new dress I was wearing  which was my birthday gift and even spat on the   food and her parents instead of disciplining their  kid stopped the music that my friends and I were   playing and played kids music so that their  daughter could show us her dance I didn't get   to spend a single second with my friends and by  the time they left everything was a mess I still   kept my cool and thanked everyone including those  parents for coming to the party once everyone left   I started crying and I told Mom how her guests  ruined my birthday and that I hoped I'd never   have to see them again she took it as me blaming  her for everything so she started telling me how   ungrateful of a child I am and that I didn't  even deserve to have a birthday party I don't   even know what to tell her anymore update thanks  to everyone for your birthday wishes my friends   and I are planning on hanging out pretty soon and  I'm happy we could have a redo party no parents   or six-year-olds this time many comments asked  about my Dad's reaction my dad was against the   entire thing when my mom first mentioned inviting  her friends but he had to give in since Mom was   the one paying for most things and there was no  winning an argument with her during the party he   was well drunk very drunk and he didn't realize  how big of a mess it was he still thinks that the   party went really well I don't think op's the jerk  here pretty obviously I mean what op described is   what op described all those people came over and  they did kind of Ruin and utterly hijack the whole   thing this wasn't op's get together this was like  a older adults hangout party this next story is am   I the jerk for telling my mom it's my baby shower  not hers I 25-year-old female am pregnant with my   first baby I am so excited for this new chapter  of my life my mom and I are currently planning   my baby shower my brother and I were primarily  raised around my dad's family when I was too   young to remember my parents decided to spend  minimal time with my mom's family her family is   messy several of them were drug addicts they were  always fighting it just wasn't a good environment   for kids therefore weekends and holidays were  spent with my dad's family my parents recently   got divorced since the divorce my mom has really  struggled with my brother and I spending our time   with my dad's family I understand how and why it's  hard for her she feels like we prioritize my dad's   family over her but we don't have any relationship  with her family my dad's family reaches out on   birthdays holidays for Milestones Etc I didn't  hear from anyone on my mom's side of the family   when I got engaged or married which is fine it's  just a testament to the lack of relationship I   have with them now that the baby shower is in  the works I made my guest list which had about   57 people on it I asked my mom who from her family  she wanted me to invite she had me add 17 people   seven of which are friends she's had for less than  2 years the rest are her family who I don't really   know I added all of them with no questions asked  I had too many people on the guest list and had to   remove some of them I removed nine people from my  list I then asked my mom who I could remove from   her list she replied to my text and said everyone  I sent you is important I would like you to keep   them on the list I just said okay shortly after  she asked me if I ended up removing anyone from   her list I told her that I removed three people  from her list who I had haven't seen or heard   from in at least 10 years she told me one of them  was already informed of the shower and verbally   invited so she asked me to send an invite to this  person I did with no hesitation a few days later   while out to brunch she said there were other  people I would have preferred you to take off   the list than the people you did I explained  that she could have told me this when I asked   her who to take off she explained that since  she's paying for the shower she should be able   to invite who she wants side note I did not want  her or anyone to pay for the shower for this exact   reason I said that the people who I took off from  her list are people who I haven't heard from in a   decade she said my Milestones are her Milestones  therefore she should be able to celebrate with   whoever she wants she said if there's room for  60 she should be able to invite 20 I told her   it's my baby shower not hers needless to say we  never came to an understanding she just accused   me of being inconsiderate of her and I left the  restaurant crying it's hard to trust my emotions   right now between all the pregnancy hormones I  see where she's coming from but I only removed   two of her people so am I the jerk op's definitely  not the jerk here and the biggest red flag here   is definitely her saying your Milestones are  her Milestones there's some major issues in   some red flags not just for this baby shower but  potentially down the line in that statement for   op our next story is am I the jerk for canceling  our apartment signing after I found out that my   boyfriend bought an expensive car my boyfriend  31-year-old male and I 28-year-old female have   been together for just over 2 years we've been  living with roommates and been looking to move   in for a while it's expensive and I have a dog so  it's been difficult finding a landlord that would   be okay with a dog my friend's been moving out and  she has a dog too and is willing to sublet for us   the landlord said they're okay with signing us  if we want to stay after the 8-month sublet it's   a fairly good price near work so I'm happy with  it we went through the credit check and we were   were about to sign it but recently I discovered  that my boyfriend bought another car he already   has a daily driver but wants a weekend car which  I personally find ridiculous why anyone needs two   cars he has a Honda Accord that is fine and  he has never complained about problems with   it but he recently said he bought another car  he isn't the best with money he really likes   to spend till the last dollar and doesn't have  any savings I've had to bail him out twice on   rent we both pay around $1,100 plus utilities and  he makes around 70,000 a year so he should have   savings but he doesn't he paid me back but it was  months later than we agreed on so I wasn't really   happy that he did that but I didn't realize he  bought such an expensive car he didn't show it   to me until Saturday when he picked me up in a  Corvette I didn't know what model it is but I   asked him how much it was and he said it wasn't  my business and I was ticked off he bought a   clearly expensive car he admitted later because I  refused to let it go it was $42,000 and he traded   in the Honda even then his payments were almost  $800 a month I was so mad he did that especially   because he asked me to cover part of his share of  the apartment security deposit a week before he   bought the car I called my friend and apologized  and told her I can't sign the lease and she said   she was okay with it I haven't paid the deposit  yet thankfully and my roommate is okay with me   staying so I'm good but my boyfriend's lease  is ending and the landlord wants him to move   out so he's mad at me canceling us moving in  together because now he still needs to move   and will probably be paying more than if we moved  in together he yelled at me for butting in on his   business saying it's not my business what he  buys I think that's fair but he also doesn't   have any money and bought an expensive car so  if anything goes wrong I have to pay his share   of rent honestly I think it's very reasonable  I think a lot of people in that situation would   just like bite their tongue and hope it all works  out in the end but I think it's a very responsible   thing that op did here recognizing this guy is  not good with his finances and getting into an   agreement can really screw you over in the long  run it's hilarious that in the past you've paid   and covered his rent that he paid you back months  after the agreed upon date and then turns around   and says it's not your business that he went and  bought himself a Corvette our next story is am   I the jerk for telling my girlfriend that I don't  like waking up early to drive her to work so every   Sunday I wake up at around 5:00 a.m. so that I  can drive my girlfriend to work this most recent   Sunday I was being super slow about it and stayed  in bed until 6:00 a.m. meaning I couldn't cook   breakfast in time and she ended up cooking after  waking up an hour late I was rushing through our   usual morning routine and didn't give her the  usual amount of attention I do and told her I   was rushing because I didn't want her to be late  for work she didn't like that I was rushing and   only giving her quick kisses instead of long  ones and said that I looked super sleepy and   it looked like I didn't want to take her to work  this morning I responded by telling her that that   I hate waking up early and that I'm very far from  a morning person but I still do it because I liked   having her there and spending time with her well  after that she said that she would rather take an   Uber to work that Sunday and go home on Saturday  nights instead of spending the night because I was   acting like I was being forced to take her I still  insisted i' take her and we ended up going but she   didn't speak to me that entire car ride she's also  been very distant since then not really responding   to texts and if she does it'll be a short response  with a period at the end which I think means she's   mad am I the jerk here was telling her that yeah  I hated waking up early the wrong move even though   I told her it's okay because I like spending the  time with her I just really don't get why she's   so mad should I just let her spend the money on  Uber like 30 to 50 bucks instead for context I'm   usually the one that asks her to stay the night  and when she does she can't get to work without an   Uber or something edit for more context we're both  over 25 5 and she's currently seeking asylum in   this country the fact that she's working without  permission could hurt her chances of staying in   the country but she has to help pay for housing  and expenses in the house where her entire family   is living I'm trying to be as vague as possible  and careful because of it I don't see how op could   be the jerk here I don't see anything wrong with  telling your partner listen I hate having to get   up in the morning I am not a morning person but  I do it because I like spending time with you is   that not actually supposed to be more of a heart  warming thing rather than something you get upset   about why fixate on your presence his inability  to completely make his mourning rather than the   fact that they're there and doing that because  they want to be there with you God forbid they're   acting a little tired or slightly more grumpy  or not giving kisses quite long enough because   it's 5 or 6 in the morning this next story is am  I the jerk for throwing my brother's words right   back around in his face my parents have fostered  since they were in their 20s they fostered dozens   of kids While most children in their home were  fostered with the intent to reunite or be placed   with other family they did end up adopting four  of those children the first was me 28-year-old   female and my older brother Dylan 32-year-old  male when we were 6 months and four years old   respectively after our bomom abandoned us 12 years  ago they fostered and later adopted Frankie who's   now 18 it was around this time that our parents  began to slow down on fostering and really only   took emergency short-term placement as a result  Frankie didn't really grow up with foster kids   in the house the way Dylan and I did I'm  talking maybe once or twice a year for a   week or so until the child would either be put  with family or another foster home Frankie was   always spoiled I admit all of us did so he had a  rough beginning to life and we all wanted him to   feel accepted loved Etc he could be a bit bratty  at times but our parents Shrugged it off as he's   had a hard time a few months ago my parents got a  call about a child who needed a serious long-term   placement with adoption ultimately being the goal  Gavin 12-year-old male came to stay with them and   now it looks like he will actually be adopted by  our parents he's a very sweet boy very shy but   also very polite and kind Frankie has had issues  from the beginning and has made it clear he does   not want a little brother he only lives at home  part-time now because he's in college but when he   is there he is downright nasty to Gavin and calls  him horror names it got to the point where our   parents have said he either needs to take him up  on their offers for counseling or he needs to stay   at school or somewhere else until he can be nicer  to Gavin Frankie called me to complain about this   I tried to explain that our parents were doing for  Gavin just as they had for us giving him a safe   loving home to thrive in Frankie said that our  parents need to stop picking up every stray piece   of garbage that someone didn't want this hurt me  not just for Frankie but myself and Dylan given   our own story I was in tears as I told him if Mom  and Dad didn't pick up stray pieces of garbage   they wouldn't have you either Frankie hung up he  hasn't spoken to me since when Dylan got word of   all this he said that Frankie is obviously dead  wrong but I should have either hung up or found   a way to not sink to his level our parents don't  know yet as Frankie's not speaking to them and   Dylan and I don't want to worry them with this  am I the jerk I really don't think op's the jerk   here and I really don't think op genuinely  stooped to his level stooping to their level   would be treating Frankie like outright crap I  mean if op wants to stoop to their level they   may not even just pick up that phone or they may  pick it up and just give Frankie a bunch of crap   pointing out the logic that Frankie is trying  to throw around and pointing it right back to   him is not stooping to his level it's just trying  to Enlighten him with how ridiculous he's being   needless to say I clearly don't think Opie is the  jerk and I wish the best for their whole family   going forward but with that being said that's all  the time we have for today now if you want to hear   another crazy am I the jerk here story check out  that video on the left or if you missed my latest   video check out that video on the right that said  I'll see you all next time with some more stories

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Published: Fri Feb 09 2024