R. Madhavan - The Boy Behind The Superstar | The Ranveer Show 392

what is the most expensive thing you've like bought so I bought a yacht I think all expensive purchases are for the boy inside and not the man you're so right about it because it gives me maximum pleasure and all my friends come and they treat it as their own and the boys are there and like M to crack it you're probably having as much fun when we were broke in college absolutely as compared to now when all of us are materially successful like you know there's only one peg left and six of us are like inhaling it as much pleasure having as a single M SC today you're talking about hard work and mindset you've obviously told your son who's a champion swimmer people love him people love that he's representing the country today San I are not very pleased about it really yeah we regret it even for Vian to consider himself to be worthy of all that attention is stupidity you also have Bros who were divorced unfortunately yeah what goes wrong there there's a complete transformation in the partners that they got married to and you realize that this guy now his wife has completely changed or the husband has completely changed and the woman is like I didn't marry this guy I see a lot of guys my age and girls struggling with having aging parents when parents become your parent and you become an adolescent they stop hugging you because that's the norm right and they can't hug anybody else publicly till you have a child and that's the bond between a grandson and a grandchild or grandchild and a grandparent because it's the only next close thing to blood that they can hug right that's painfully poetic it's true though sometimes times you record a podcast and it gets so raw and both the participants enter such a deep state of flow that you know it's going to be a legendary piece on the internet this is one of those pieces uh irrespective of where you are from in India or where you live in the world there's a lot of human value to be gained from this conversation this kind of raw conversation is not a daily thing for any of us uh it's one of those once in a year conversations you have with someone after a part is over or at a social event when things become extremely deep that's what I tried bringing you through this chat with the legendary AR Madan I was intending to unlock his mind completely for you all and I think we've succeeded enjoyed a lot uh learned a lot his new movie shatan is now in theaters please go and watch it but for now make sure you enjoy this very very very heartfelt episode of TRS [Music] first and foremost welcome sir thank you very sweet of you I can finally speak to you openly I was holding back so much from speaking to you because there's a lot I I wish to talk to you about I'm so looking forward to this there's a lot that people know about you there's a lot that people think about you and I'm hoping that we reach those places of your mind in today's conversation because I'm deeply fascinated by you this is very interesting I'm very flattered man thank you I look I'm so looking forward to it to have seen your shows and uh I think by far some of your questions are very intelligent and very well researched for anybody who wants to be having a conversation it's a sheare joy okay so uh what's up in life right now the release of shaan is probably the most encompassing uh um activity and uh we are very pleased with the outcome so far uh We've we tried something different and uh to see the uh people react in a let us say a better manner than we expected them to uh is very encouraging man is there a movie that changed the direction of your life oh yes in more ways than I ever imagined it to uh go on Which movie was it rocketry okay yeah that's like now yeah I assumed you would say something from your teenage or no I can't tell you how much how excited I am saying that it is something as late as even Shan for instance or or rocketry because I'm still growing man I feel a childlike enthusiasm and inquisitiveness in my career and in my life even now if there's an AI that is coming up with a new tool wow I want to know what it is and I might not be able to use it to be intelle intelligent enough to apply to it completely but knowing about it makes me feel excited so yeah absolutely and rocketry dramatically changed my life and um in in many many ways I can write a book on it but it just got uh the biggest impact it had on my life was it made me understand who I really am and what I'm capable of which I had far underestimated before I started rocketry expand like this whole thought so I'm going to start with a very basic level of it okay sure so I've never directed in my life I've never actually sat in a and my my team will vouch for it I've never sat in an editing room or known what editing is or how to instruct a music director or how to compose your music or to tell the VFX guys how to do the VFX or how to tell the editor also how to edit right I was not expecting to direct rocketry um one of the jumps that I was making in my career was writing the script and screenplay which I've never done before and I've never trained to do but I ended up writing this story and the screenplay for rocketry I wanted to act in it and do a biopic there was the biggest challenge and the way I had written the script was it comes a crucial point in the climax where I as numaran fade away and the real numaran comes in and it has to be seamless it is a biggest risk I took I felt really angry that the industry and the people didn't recognize the efforts going behind that moment but to hand over the the the the Baton to him uh at a very crucial emotional high and not have the audience gasp saying oh it's a real Lin Iran but assume that that's what should have happened anyways and then go along with the emotions so the amount of prep it took for me to be the real numaran and then fade away quickly or the matter of fact or the fact that you know one month before the shoot was to start I'm prod I'm writing this I'm producing this I'm directing I'm acting in it and I'm doing it in three languages live sound in eight locations around the world and another huge cap uh is forced on my head helmet sort which is to direct the project and I've never ever commanded a set or shot a um a small reel on my own or edited it or put music nothing I just was picked up and thrown on the deep end and I had to direct this movie like a big challenge at this point in your own timeline it's not even a challenge it's horrifying you would know the the true meaning of mania and fear when you stand on that set and 150 people are ready to pass judgment on you because they think you're making the biggest mistake of your career not only is so much money in there you're acting in it you're directing it you're producing it and you written it and you're doing it in three languages and the biggest biggest lesson on how to handle stress in my life was uh was kind of given as a boom to me before the first uh shot of rocketry because I was so nervous I felt sort of like what Arjuna felt before Krishna started the you know thees and I was standing there and I was wondering what am I thinking Maddie how are you going to do this you know this is ridiculous you don't even never called action or cut in your life and I don't know what I was doing some friend of mine from Los Angeles called and I was ready to give up and I was ready to say you know what guys this is stupid I don't know how you're not able to see how stupid this is but this is stupid let's just call it off let me just regroup and find a director to do it and he called at the right time and he said Maddie you're already there man you know what are you going to lose put the camera just take one shot just take one step at a time one shot at a time if you think you're still not getting it cancel it after the end of the day but take your first shot now and I said you know what okay you're right that makes a lot more sense and andir I took my first shot and as I took the shot I saw it being a complete uh replication of what I had envisaged when I wrote that scene it was exactly it and then I said okay hey great let's do it let's do another shot and another shot and and the biggest lesson in stress which is one step at a time if you're going to if you're skiing for instance and uh you know you're looking at the skis when you're skiing you'll fall they always say when you're skiing look down the slope to where you're heading the body will take you there so as far as uh uh handling stress it was exactly the opposite look right in front of your step just take that one step and the next step and I ended up finishing rocketry one wouldn't imagine that someone like you also feels that amount of stress at this stage of your career because you would have probably seen all of it till now not really no everyday is a monster man I'm telling you why do you choose to wrestle with it again and again like I said I'm not ready to retire so if I find a path of least resistance I don't take it I need to take the path of most resistance because I can one layer deep why huh so that's what I'm saying if I conquer that big problem the Lesser ones are easy to manage they don't you don't see it I mean if I'm if I'm um you know the reason they tap you before you give an injection is that pain is a lot more than the small prick that you're going to feel so I want to do this all the time to every part of my mind so that small Pricks are irrelevant how was your childhood Most Blessed childhood I can imagine it had all its challenges and it had all its trauma um and I believe trauma and childhood stress is very very important what was the trauma what the trauma was like you know hey I didn't have as much of a cycle as the rest of the person you know rest of my friends were my dad was very sure that he didn't want to make me grow up privileged even though both of them were working he spent the money at the right places but he would not indulge me um the trauma was that you know why do I have to walk to school and one my friends can have Cycles or um uh you know I I don't I come back home in the evening and there's nobody to feed me I have to wait for more to get back at 6:00 this is when I'm as a child you're talking about childhood that kind of TR from her but apart from that uh you know the fact that I was not great at studies and I was always being compared to other people who were studying for so many hours and I was actually called the shaan of the society mothers used to say don't play with Balaji which is my pet name because he's not a good guy he uses profanities and he you know climbs trees and he pets Street dogs all conditionings that they thought was not right for growing up so that does you know being being judg does add a lot of trauma to you when you're child but trauma is a big word r you know it's a it's a I think that sometimes Overexposed and overe exploited uh you know that stress is going to be there like it or lump it and you have to you really have to hug it and it will find once you do that you'll find your own way of getting over it most people try to avoid stress and get into bigger ones Rohit Shetty had said this in a recent interview I think he said that the issue nowadays is that most young people are mixing up the feeling of stress with the feeling of work with with hard work yeah exactly exactly he absolutely right in terms of if you want to go somewhere in life that means you'll have to break out a little bit in that means you'll probably have to exchange something which probably is your sense of comfort you have to get out of your comfort zone I don't that's the that's a killer comfort zone should be just removed from everybody's life till you're in a point where you want to retire from life this is the this the last place in the world where creativity or surviv IAL instincts uh you know uh get generated agree I believe the new generation myself included has become deeply goal oriented which has honestly got me a lot in life like being goal oriented having that little end goal about things at this stage I'm really not goal oriented but I feel like to get here it took that little bit of targeting and visualization and manifestation for the lack of a better word and that represents the mass Consciousness also people have these visions of the best kind of life or they see something on social media and they're like I want that and uh it's usually something which is deeply aspirational people have also got a lot of information people want a little handholding which is why this five CR Mark and 30 CR Mark and people use a lot of YouTube nowadays so people are able to quantify how they will be able to achieve those visualizations I know that what you're saying is actually the wisdom one requires uh but I'm trying to explain where the question came from totally understand because what I wish to ask you next is about vant he's also become a social media sensation so there's a narrative which is anti-nepotism and then they always talk about Vian Madan as the guy who has uh kind of broken out of nepotism based mindsets I don't even know what that means I'm sure you come across these memes that people love your son therefore they love aran's belief system which is what I wish to ask you uh I know that we're kind of tangentially moving in here because everything that you're talking about hard work and mindset you've obviously told your son who's a champion swimmer people love him people love that he's representing the country today uh first question are you aware of all these memes about you you to yes we are s and I are not very pleased about it really yeah we regret it because uh uh comparing a child uh to another child or to um uh you know see Memes are meant to be consumed and people do what it takes to make the meme consumable and at times they don't realize how much they hurt other people right so when Vidant gets compared to other kids in the industry it's not something Sanaya like nor do we endorse it nor do we forward it or nor do we acknowledge it yes I'm not going to take away from what vant has achieved okay he's done what it takes to get the medals that he's done and get the National Record that he done and uh being a cele Bri's child is not easy he's going to get a lot more attention than most of his friends who achieved greater uh level of success being his same age as vant so we do our best to try and promote the other guys as well vant isn't the best in the country but he's definitely uh an actor's child who has managed to create a National Record uh when in that age group so not taking away from that um I'm very aware of those memes and uh uh it doesn't it doesn't make me feel pleased whatsoever at all when I was speaking to people about this conversation that we were going to have everyone brought this up as a compliment for you I understand so I'm sorry I didn't mean to make you uncomfortable how would no no no you don't need to apologize how would you know how San and I view it because um it's a double HED sword if even for Vidant to consider himself to be uh worthy of all that attention is stupidity if he was not my son and if and the sport doesn't see whose son you are it just sees the numbers and the fractions of a second that you're either faster or slower and the fact that he's not the best in the country there are many PE many kids his age and his age group who've got more records and are much better than him thankfully my son is wise enough to understand all that and San I keep explaining to him that there are pitfalls of being used to the um and I can I take time to explain how it means right so when you win a competition and you see so many memes and congratulatory methods and you know people making news it's all they're all doing to flatter and pay homage to us which we are very grateful to okay but for vant he suddenly realizes boss I got this four gold meds in Malaysia this is how many followers came to me and this is how many people took autographs from me and this is how many people praised me at a young age that's extremely plays beautifully on your mind and it becomes very motivating okay what happens next in the next race for instance is that maybe he's not done as well okay maybe he's not instead of five he's only got two medals okay and the next race he still gets One Medal he's still making progress he's still doing his personal best but the amount of recognition and the adulation and the happiness is not the same so what does the child do he tries to compensate for it in one way or the other just to get the same amount of uh uh endorphines kicking into your mind so he'll put up an extra post he'll put up an extra video of him working out I'm giving examples so that you want to achieve the same level of euphoria every time when you do an achievement not realizing that the lack of it is actually training you to say you're not as good as you were so let's work a little harder or let's trying to change the approach so be consciously try and tell him n you know this is how much you have done so if you take out the madavan from your name V this is where you stand I have to constantly do that do that and so thankfully over a period of time I was able to make him understand that uh you're going to be uh judgments are going to be passed against you as much as people are flattering you the moment you falter once uh the amount of axes and brick pths that you'll feel will be equally High compared to somebody else who makes a smaller mistake or somebody else who makes a bigger mistake but it's not a celebrity son so um this is the conditioning I'm talking about so the level of happiness you were talking about and what this fiveyear plan everything that you desire for is all a product of your conditioning right I might aspire to have a Rolls choice but a a billionaire son's aspiration is that's a basic requirement why would rollsroyce be so his level of happiness is maybe something completely different as opposed to you and me so what is enough money to be happy and then you define that happiness of that money will give you and suddenly you realize the correlation is not the same the richest person in the world has not got 10 billion times more happiness than you just because you have 10 Crowes man he'll die if he that of Happiness so his happiness and and ability to handle sadness and tragedy and stress is the same as anybody who's happier if a guy if a beggar on the road for instance uh suddenly finds 100 rupees uh when he least expects it to and he needs it compared to a businessman who's just made a profit of 20,000 cror instead of 30,000 crores who do you think is sleeping happier that night and so so you know I can be a parent I can be a superstar or an actor and my son can have all the recognition but the amount of stress that I have as a parent is the same as any middle class family has is really frightening but you are Drilling in the humility I don't see a lot of I'm not talking about just media just generally parents don't really drill in the humility in urban metros nowadays as much as they should at least in my eyes of course you can't ever comment on someone's parenting when you see what in my eyes is not the ideal case of parenting so what you're saying is a very ideal case of parenting not really it's it's a it's a no no no it's very middle class guys you know like if you look at all the middle class people what is nazara basically don't gloat so much over all your achievements keep moving ahead that's exactly what they are trying to say don't you know wear all your fathers and you know go out in all your fineries at all times uh work you know work on the focus of what you're supposed to do and instead of dwelling on your past achievements that's what it means okay you're carrying on the chain of superior Tamil parenting according to me well it's worked I just say it's worked as far as my I'm concerned so it's good I have a bunch of Tamil friends okay many of whom are what you would call Ultra hn I all are brought up with the same kind of humility I don't know what it is in Tamil culture this is at least what I have felt uh both both I'd say Tamil and malali culture uh something about like human you're right right logic I think um and the reason they're being also successful around the world you know if you look at the top 20 30 Fortune 500 CEOs a lot of them are Indians and a large part of them are South Indians it just you know you don't start dwelling in your small achievements and accomplishments too much so they will be far wealthier than they ever show they'll be far more accomplished than they ever behave it's looked down upon the show off a little bit uh no it's intrinsically not part of their lives I'm telling you it's intrinsic like I've grown up in jamshedpur the tatas are like that the entire they're not even South Indians man the Tata you know and they are not like that you will never see a Tata employee buzzing around in Rolls-Royce just because he can afford it it's very strange it's it's it's a culture it's a culture that comes so I think middle class attitude is the best attitude for survival it's a survival Instinct so you don't dwell on everything you know everything is transient you the transientness of Nature and life is the one that keeps you humble and your situational awareness open to see all the changes that are going to come your way to be able to tackle them I think it's very important what was it growing up like in the' 70s in a not so rich India versus now do you think of this all the time and I feel sorry in my own judgmental way for the kids who are here right now really I feel so sorry for them I would I I thought you going to I was feeling sorry for the kids in the 70 go on not at all we had the best time climbing trees catching Tad Poes getting into fights getting out of fights knowing how it is to swallow your ego and pride and say sorry brother let's play with know give me your cricket ball yesterday you didn't give sorry in not having the parents stier in our fights you know taking a stance understanding what um comes with taking somebody's side all that skills that was so okay hey I think the only justification I'll give for people born in the 70s in India is look at all the bloody seos in the world today they were all born in the 70s and ' 80s in India man in India they're not from any other country we did something really really right look at every successful High net worth influential Indian today he's our generation true so we did something right much better than what the rest of the world did what was more correct in the environment scarcity no just the the middle glass humbleness the ability to you know not pass judgment have so many in information at your disposal that you realize that bring you know if I didn't understand the word uh mental health for instance you know it's not like we didn't have that problem when we were youngsters it was dealt in a different way it was it was taken care of by the family and the community you had people to talk to and you know you had the elders and the family the neighbors people don't take drastic steps when we were youngsters I lost a lot of my friends who you know uh committed suicide when they couldn't handle the stress it was all always there but yet others will managed to survive because of the way the the whole society was built around handling situations like this right the more richer you got the more Cosmopolitan you got the more into the city you got the lonelier people started becoming so I don't know anything about my neighbors in the apartment I live in in Mumbai half as much as I know about all my neighbors in jamur when I was there because I knew whose cousin was getting married on which date and which train we had to go to take to get there you know those kind of keeping the Mind active and alert and spread over various interests was one of the greatest survival techniques I I'm feeling sorry for the kids now because they don't know that you think now they're living within loneliness no no so you talking about understanding gen Z right know that I will tell you I have a gen Z in my house right I'm amazed any parent will tell you that when three 14 15 year old guys got together in a house the only thing the parents is to says why you guys yelling so much but I'm telling you now every parent I'm talking about will relate to what I'm saying a teenager when their friends come right home you are surprised because they hardly make a noise you can hardly hear their voice the only time you can hear their voice is when they're playing video games with multiple partners around the world on your fortnite or something like that and I'm sure every parent listening to this is smiling that is the difference they are far wiser than we ever were they're not in AI they are in fact I'm surprised at the at the Frugal nature at which jenz is living in fact it started off in Japan where they're even more minimalistic they don't want to buy a car they don't want to buy houses they're you know few dresses they're moving on with life not it is amazing how peaceful they look and how connected they are so rir when I was a teenager in the 80s I never heard an a foreign accent man I never saw another person of another race or interacting with them in jamshedpur was never a choice unless you had an exchange student who came and you know he looked completely different from us because the only way we could hear a foreign accent was when we caught somebody on the ham radio and yeah Australian accd oh you know Filipino ACC you realize there's a different world outside the city you're living in now the child is born with Netflix Amazon social media he's used to all the accents which we didn't which we could not understand easily his connect to the entire world is far more than we ever had and so his wisdom is far different than what we had as as children is that also a curse no like intellect can act against you as well no the curse is the availability of too much information that is relevant to you you get up in the morning for example you get up in the morning and you're looking at news and you find that some guy in Bolivia rode over his dog with intent and killed it it has nothing to do with you it's a sad unfortunate incident but it plays in your mind how can be somebody cruel yeah how can you ride over your own drug or beat him s to death things that we never knew when we were in the 70s if something happened in Delhi two days later we got the newspaper in jamshedpur it was maybe we heard it on the radio so irrelevant information did not have a bearing on my day-to-day mental health now oh somebody something happened there it's instantaneous news it's bombarded on your face bam bam it has nothing to do with you nothing but it plays on you and that is the sad part so slowly what will happen is all these Generations will start saying enough yeah this information I don't need this news I don't need this news so now instead of watching shows on Netflix you're just flicking through the first 10 seconds of every show or first 20 seconds of every real and you I know I know I know and it comes to a hurling uh you know and a cacophony that you want to stay away from and that's one of the biggest ways of breaking up a society when you stop making the guy want to dwell with things that is happening around him you create so much of confusion you create so much of disdain with information overload that the guy doesn't know that the britishers are coming in and taking over the country or the mugs are coming in and taking over the country you're fighting within yourself so much and the British took you over because you're not bothered about your situation awareness that's the easiest way to take over a community a country a nation or or a sect but what if it's happening in the whole world it is exactly what is happening in the world and so the disparity between the Haves and the Have Nots is getting wider and deeper as we talk so when the aliens get here they'll just be able to take over easily I think the fight will be amongst the middle class people who will try to maintain the sanity of stopping this divide what divide this divide that's happening between the Haves and the Have Nots you know the the the ones don't have it are falling off let us say and I say when I say Have and Have Nots not essentially monetarily okay lot of us feel we'll be behind like so there are our age group of people who are saying enough yeah we also have as much right on living on this Earth The Way We Were conditioned to don't bring me all these new age I don't understand all this yeah I respect women I'm supposed to respect and they are happy now you're bringing in a whole new category of things that they are feeling unhappy and inadequate about that's creating a you know so they're all saying a push back it's happening around the world so like I won't interfere with your life don't interfere with mine let me be happy and I think that creation of PODS around the world is going to happen yesterday when I was at the Delhi airport one guy came up to me said thank you love your episodes he was like about 4550 he's like you have to do one more episode so I said what sir so he said uh do one on loneliness in your 40s similar thing to what you're saying absolutely what is this I didn't even know 40s are lonely because my visualization of my 40s is I'll be with my family and with my Bros and life will be nice okay I don't know if I'm qualified enough but I'm going to attempt to answer that question okay so when you uh let us say before this whole evolution of V culture and and the different sets of things that are happening in the world the guys got married and they said hey you know I'm this is the kind of girl I want lovely wonderful you know we'll take care of the family you you take care of the house I'll take care of the earnings and they lived happy contented life my parents had that demarcation they lived happily both of them worked everybody knew what their job was and everything suddenly this post social media era the new generation of everybody's empowerment came which is good v v is right okay but it changed people's personality so for an Indian guy 40th birthday for Destination holiday so those guys are not prepared when you when you when you found a life partner and you got married you didn't realize that these were expendition that you have to cater for and the wife is thinking you know she wants to be on the same KNE as the rest of her friend she said what everybody is celebrating I need to cuz everybody's a social media influencer Now isn't it get up in the morning and everybody has an advice for you like I'm giving right now and I'm it's irrelevant every three different things ways to do to control your anger or six different ways you can control bloating in your stomach every day how much of this information are you going to handle so what happens is this loneliness starts setting in because the guy like are bansar let me just can I just have my breakfast and go to work and just concentrate on what I want to do and slowly that demarcation is happening where somebody is feeling because they have being brought over the new world and New Age concepts are being driven in their conditioning is changing and so the 40 guy is feeling really really lonely he finds more relatability among the guys than he does with the entire family as of now because everybody BR I'm bro because suddenly the child is not listening to you because he's saying you can't dare to touch me like this this is child abuse huh huh obviously right so the kids know now what child abuse is don't talk to me how dare you talk about child abuse you grew up getting a whack on your bag you thought it was no big deal normal so he's not able to do that so he has to change himself at 40 and this is happening now because of the social media it's a it's a culture you can't stop it's the there are many merits to it which is coming in but it's against the conditioning of this guy so now the guy doesn't know what to do which is right you can't touch but I'm just giving you a small example right sure so he now finds that all the ways that he knew is all wrong and he doesn't mean to be offensive he doesn't want to be considered as somebody so uh I remember I made a big mistake mistake when I went and I gave a speech somewhere and I said oh she's such a pretty little thing and then I realized I was objectifying woman I didn't even know that the intent was not to do that but I had to quickly correct myself because I got like bomb buled on this thing and how dare you call some thing and I really meant it as a compliment not as objectifying something so and I learned okay so I realized that for some people it might be offensive but at least I have the wisdom to understand that for a normal guy he doesn't know that yeah it's also the story of a lot of guys my age uh who find themselves being slightly different from jenzi mindset absolutely I'm just 1993 born ex I thought I was young but I hear you so when you go to the so 5 years ago or 8 years ago when you went to a disco if you asked a girl out to dance you are one of those dudes because 80% of the guys will never have the guts to even go ask a girl out to dance now it's different now there is a rule to be followed when you're asking them and what has to be done Jo 10% people guys and girls who are rowdies who did not adhere to anything they still exist even now but the rest of the 80% who had the decency to go and actually woo a woman in the right manner don't know now what the rules of the game are you have Bros now yeah oh a lot of them who who are your Bros um all over the industries I mean do you want me to name them but I'm just saying like as in are they from childhood College oh yeah yeah so they they are from my childhood they are from my college people who take a bullet for me and I'll take a bullet for uh all of them yes absolutely we don't have to keep in touch every day we don't have to but um one message or one word is enough for them to understand exactly where I am and what I'm trying to say uh very important for a man's mental health right absolutely probably Cornerstone along with family yeah yeah I no no it's a very important but I think if you don't engage you know and if you don't find a place to vend out everything that you're feeling and talking like for example it's therapeutic for me to sit and talk to you right now and you realize how much in common we share to a lot of things right if I don't have this conversation I'm lonely case in point the guy was saying loneliness and forties just because it's a bro conversation maybe yeah because it's unfiltered versus most of Life which has become filtered because you have to adhere to Norms that are new to you so I also feel like this is why people like the format feel in the room with us and they're like that's a breath of pressure yeah we're also constantly aware that this is going on record and so the comments of this can disrupt your life if you say something stupid I've come to accept that there's certain things that I will never say online even if I'm thinking those thoughts I'll never let those out one of my mentor Zak Khan told me that pardon my language okay 30% and they shouldn't come out in public correct uh so I am just aware of that but the remaining 70% I know that within that 70% there's about 10 to 20% that can possibly get me into trouble but now I can't stop those at least if I have to get in trouble I will because I know that my heart's in the right place so you're an exam ideal example of what's happening around the world right now so you were first of all free in what you said earlier on in social media then you got whacked how can you be so religious how can you be such a fundamentalist whatever and he said W idea was not that by I I I just wanted to you know uh spread the peace message of peace that comes with being who I am but so you stopped putting those messages you stopped putting those photographs you stopped like you said now the 30 30% you stopped saying that okay and then the fact that you couldn't say it starts getting irritating and that starts on your mind and you're saying I'm not a pushover what the hell who are these bastards who are commenting on me and then you want to go back and suddenly you swung a little more than you tented to right that's a common phenomena that's happening around the world people coming back and reclaiming their land in a little more than they should have which is causing a lot of unrest when I meet an american guy now even if you crack a joke on them being white they become a little guarded you say the word Asian or black they just become guarded even if they want to laugh at a joke they won't laugh yeah versus if you talk to a white guy from Britain or Australia they love offensive humor they love like inappropriate jokes yeah so my angle is what's up in USA because everyone's getting oversensitized there and then that's trickling down to Urban Society all over the world which is why a trump is winning this is swing back in opposite direction so what I'm trying to say is I had a ptis coach very nice guy okay and I was he was training with me and then one day you know we having a conversation he's like so was yours a love marriage or is an arranged marriage and then he bit his tongue and he said I'm sorry is that offensive to ask you that and I said you know you and I are perfectly good friends we were having a great conversation which part of that conversation told you that I feel offensive if you ask me a question like this but it was his current conditioning that makes him very unsure about the foot footing he's on and that is going to eventually last till he starts pushing back again and saying to hell with it okay to hell with it I didn't want to offend you I don't know what is going to offend you but you can't stop me from asking a conversation so that push back is starting to happen right now and I'm just hoping and praying it's not too much in the opposite direction that's all um I'm sorry the name's not coming to my head pardon me sure there was a web series you had done decoupled decoupled I know a lot of guys who secretly enjoyed the out of decoupled oh I know a lot of gu who openly enjoyed it also I know a lot of women who enjoyed it with their husbands more of that than anything else very edgy show I feel that if it released now it wouldn't have got as much of a backlash as it got when it released I think two years absolutely yeah yeah yeah because if now animal was accepted decoupled is nothing compared to what was shown in animal yeah no animal would have still been accepted by the masses they are still not as uh you know um Reed in as we all are in in the cultures that we are in right now but decoupled uh I think would have created as much for even now it was so antiok you know in terms of what it what it was doing and U you won't believe how many head of governments around the world related to it and messaged me it is crazy it was crazy I remember meeting you around the time it released or like 2 months later and I told you I really liked it yes uh see I'm a podcaster so don't mind me saying this but I can quickly figure out kind of through the expression what reaction I've created within the other person I think there was a part of you that was like oh cool like there was a internal wink at me I'm Shameless I internal external wink everything I did the show for crying out loud yeah so yeah so while even while I was doing it I was uh very skeptical for two reasons one it was a show in English in India and secondly it was Radical it was something that I had never done before and thirdly it was growing against everything that you know the woke culture was hoping to induce into us and so um but I didn't know how to do it like I didn't know how to play the character without making him look like he's judging right so so while talking to Manu I got the idea when he said I was observing it and I and I said hold on that's how I'm going to do it I'm going to be an observer I'm not going to be somebody who passes a judgment I'm just going to be it's thinking out loud I observed this and my observation came out verbally and loud that's all there was to it so that that way he became a little more endearing as opposed to somebody who was a jerk let me just say that in the long term you earned the respect of a lot of men I know wink wink and I highly recommend that people go watch that I was watching it I was like whoa this is exactly what a lot of the thoughts of the guys are all over the world um did you get annoyed dealing with like the outcomes no no no see there was a there was a bunch of people who didn't like the show because they thought it was too offensive which is you know Fair that's that's their opinion but by and large the people who saw it I mean we don't get feedbacks only from the eight people who write reviews now if that was the case I would never survive in the industry they never gotten a good review for anything basically so it's okay the point is the public that it was meant to go to and entertain it did the upper middle class the middle class who understood the language and the and the lifestyle there they were guing away laughing there repeat values to it you know and people asking me when the second season is coming even now and uh so yeah it did its job the way it's supposed to so when I don't know man I really I as of now now there's nothing in the pipeline uh I want to know what Netflix feels and how they're going to do deal with the backlash of part two but uh uh as far as part one was concerned I think it became legendary I really enjoyed doing it yeah very edgy very uh memorable and you can't say that about this large amount of web series that are coming out now so many are forgettable there are few which are like incredibly memorable decou is in that bracket because of how edgy it was uh in an era full of I don't want to say vanilla content but the content that always tries to play it safe what is the meaning of vanilla content vanilla is like being extra careful like you're that gym train oh so Bland huh basically understand huh okay okay like very oh sorry did I is okay okay that's that's vanilla which is uh I think the change we're seeing in this decade postco people Swang swung to the other side uh and now um it's kind of balancing out yeah why yeah the quicker the better man because we need to really get a lot of order back in the world and a lot of Peace because a fragmented Society is not good for anybody what do you do for fun oh I I have a Shameless amount of activities bro so I'm an RC pilot so I fly planes and helicopters that I build I go golfing that you build yeah okay we build and F then golfing which is another sport I'm a biker I love uh super bikes and I'm and I'm an engineering Enthusiast so I do that I'm a skier I love skiing I write stories Wherever I Go and you know speculate with people I love finding new vegetarian Cuisines around the world so wherever I go I'm a vegetarian I I eat eggs so I'm a negerian but uh you know so there is never a dull moment in my life and I'm really grateful to God that he's given me the right amount of money that I need to keep working hard to to fulfill all the things that I desire that money should give me so yeah that way I I'm uh I'm highly indulgent in my life I think the further one's career gets if one is doing fairly well uh and please correct me if like you know you've had a different reality but this is what I see with a lot of guys My AG every year a lot of guys aim to get incrementally more expensive purchases just to satisfy that little boy within themselves yeah yeah yeah that's that keeps happening keep buying like slightly more expensive the desire is always there and then rationale sets in sometimes and you say you experience has taught you that you've indulged and you felt more guilty about it than enjoying it so sometimes you don't buy that rolls choice that you think you need desperately or uh stuff like that which is very good which is which is where I am I know exactly who I am and what I need uh and it's learned with a lot of mistakes but uh thankfully uh the good Lord allowed you to make that mistakes and survive so you learn the lesson from it sometimes I'll just spend on something in order to motivate myself fair enough also so I'll tell you how I do that um for example I go there and I find a pair of jeans or a jacket or a let's say jeans that I really like and then there are eight colors enough said yeah relatable for a lot of guys what do you buy it I can afford to buy it let me buy the eight so that's what I do I mean I if I like something and I want to give a gift to somebody I got these new glasses that are smart glasses that I really like six or the get me the six I'll give it to everybody I so that kind of indulgence I love to do M but I won't go and have a 3 lakh bottle of wine for sure or spend six lakhs on a dinner because boys just want to have fun that's not that for me in my middle class tendency doesn't allow to do it's how it should be I little middle classness should beow like spend then you should feel bad little bit about like spending correct then fine make peace with it and then you do it once because you can but then not because it gives others Pleasures after that so I don't do I've never done that is there like an expense you had we all like why did I buy this all the time all the time I buy a pair of shoes and there are three different colors and then because I like that one and I've worn it and it's looking so feeling so comfortable I need it for the sake of my feet I walk on the airport so much and then suddenly I look at it and I'm like what were you thinking you know that regret happens a lot what is the most expensive thing you've like bought so I think the most expensive purchase I would have said is you know the house that I have which uh you know which isn't quite quite expensive does a family of three require that big a house not at all it's definitely an indulgent but that but apart from that materialistically the most expensive thing I have bought oh crap it should make you feel bad no no no okay so I bought a yacht and I bought it because I always wanted to take a captain's license and I during the covid I had nothing better to do so I sat at home and gave my exam and it took me 6 months so now I'm a licensed Captain who can uh who can uh sale a 40 foot yacht or a boat and so just to scratch that uh and take it off my bucket list I bought a yacht and I enjoyed thoroughly has enjoyed beautiful place for me to write I take it out to the Sea and I I know I park overnight and I look at the Dolphins fly around as I write my stories the best purchase of my life where is IT Park in Dubai in Dubai M and you take it out alone also yeah yeah I have a captain's license so I can't take it out has it got you like one centimeter closer to nirwana I have to say a lot of lot of centimeters close to nirwana like it satisfied a lot for that boy inside you because I think all expensive purchases are for the boy inside and not the man and you're so right about it because it gives you me maximum pleasure when all my friends come and they treat it as their own and the boys are there and like M to crack it so I I love the fact that maybe they can't really uh enjoy it on their own and they feel that this is theirs and you know just and and Sarita taking her friends out and doing it it has given us a lot of pleasure it's not really something that was indulgent we use it and we feel good about it we don't have houses here I don't have I don't have a house of my own yet uh in the sense that I can call just like I said the one house that I bought on the golf course that's it so MoneyWise I haven't made a lot of money as an actor i' I like to stay on the right side of law so this has been very limited with all the taxes that I pay but this is one Indulgence I did during the covid and I'm very proud of it um you know on a very Primal level I feel I'm I'm talking about myself I'll come to my thought because I've not formed the question yet but I have this it's a very false goal which is actually not that in my heart but I've just kept it as a goal so that I'm motivated to work hard in the now I want to see a billion dollars in my life so that I can give 1 million each to my engineering Bros good one good one good one who got me through engineering college and they know this and it's an Open Secret so one guy came up to me said can I retire right now because you're doing it anyway for and I want to say yeah you can you know what you got me through college yeah yeah cuz they actually got me through college yeah brother absolutely that's a great support system that to have man well that's very that's very Noble of you which is very good um for me like I said now that it's uh even if it's a small pleasure like you know Bros who are Bros they just find happiness in being there together and doing something it could be seeing a stupid movie together or sitting and watching IPL together or it could be as indulgent as going on a yacht or going for a bike ride but it's the company that always matters it's not the quality of the opulence m that's that I think is a a great uh uh great yard sck to measure the quality of broom we probably having as much fun when we were broken College absolutely as compared to now when all of us are materially yeah yeah like you know there's only one peg left and six of us are like ining it as much pleasure having as a single M SCH today in that scene in Three Idiots we all had to drink a little bit Yeah were all actually drunk totally totally but again I say not passed out but V in so Amir Khan's idea was you should never act like you're drunk you should drink and act like you're normal then it looks like you're drunk so we thought we drank so basically we wanted to shoot at 9:00 so Amir made a plan 8:00 we'll start drinking by 8:30 8:45 we would have had a three four pegs 9:00 shoot starts what happened is the lighting conked off so at 8:30 they said another 2 hours later left it's not our fault so we wanted to maintain the same level of uh alcohol in our blood except we didn't realize that the cold Bangalore air will have a complete different impact on our intoxicity so um by the time the shot came we thought we were completely normal except we didn't realize we were taking hours to deliver the line so it was a great there's a whole video about that on on YouTube is that the only scene you've done like intoxicated no no no I've done one in salak kadus also and uh yeah I used I mean I do have the alcohol and it makes it gives me the tool that I require but not not for the intoxication levels is one acting from the mind after a point in the acting Journey because I would assume you're acting from the soul therefore how does alcohol mix with that it's a tool if I'm if I'm walking with a limp and I need a clutch crutch I have to use a crutch h i can't imagine a crutch I need to use a crutch so if I'm for example there are different types of intoxication a whiskey intoxication is different from a boisterous beard intoxication which is different from a gin because you don't get the word it starts drawing too much and then Brandy has a completely different level of it so you know you know you only know when you have it beer is like so you can't afford to have gin when you're watching football in a in the stadium man you got to have the beer it's got to you know it's got to energize you so when you go through that you know uh how it relates uh as a drunk when doing a movie H uh that character was very important it's actually the first thing I ever told you when I met you for the first time in life if there's any college student listening to this till this point please enjoy the hell out of your college life you know one word that's just that get synonymous with your college and hostel life unaccountability you don't have to tell anybody when you're going where you're going why you're going where you are what have you been doing how much are you spending it's just one free spirited uh you know time of your lives kind of feel like crying right now I think every guy in this room misses the unaccountability lening to this because I can't do it who you to ask me I can't I'll do it you know the best times of our life like what can you do other than Miss beinging a college student you can't go back to that point and now you're too motivated to not keep growing you know one of the things that gives you equal satisfaction is returning back to society what do you think you've had you know like what you're doing with your podcast when you meet people who are heartfelt grateful and express that to you for making a difference in the lives that gives you equal amount of Happiness man which is what I did with you when we met do you remember we met in that random Dubai and I remember it very clearly I was with Mr ninan you guys were sitting across the hall from me and you guys walked up and you took a picture and then we spoke I had to tell you that because that was our other one for me so I'll say it um you know in front of camera and people accuse me for having too many stories and they believe that some of my stories are false but the truth is I'm a bit of a psycho so I put my myself in uncomfortable positions and my head Works in uncomfortable ways which gives rise to Great stories which gives rise to Great content okay so this is actually what happened uh very good student till the 12th standard and right when engineering call started I went to the narrative that my parents gave me in the 9th 10th and 12th that study now and then once you begin engineering colle you can stop studying so I really stopped studying and I got my heart broken and then from being a top student I failed in like my exam and the way people treat you after you're literally at the bottom of the class in terms of grades and you've had that fall from grace because uh in the in terms of entrance marks I was the topper in my class that's how sharp I was in the 12th and then a combination of alcohol heartbreak and unaccountability brought me to the bottom very important reality check because you realize how failure changes the way you get treated in society which at that point is your classroom the way people look at you uh some treat you with pity some treat you with uh their own ego which is like a what an idiot for failing and both those emotions have a have an impact on your psychology um because of the embarrassment and because of how much I was told that I should be embarrassed I'm going to say this and I say this with like a lot of sensitivity but there was a point where I was like uh you know suicide it it had actually like pushed me till that point just because of how I was being treated but it's a FL flash of a thought it's obviously not something you do because the moment that flash of that thought is seen by your head you think of your mother you think of your sister the people who love you your Bros and then you think of their reality after you would have committed suicide which is what we said in three idiots um I started really disliking engineering college that flash of suicide would come into my head and I'd remember your character from Three Idiots who had the conversation with his dad at the end of engineering College saying that you know I W be able to do this traditional thing the exact same scene has happened in my life everybody's life yeah rir why do you think I accept that character because I knew it was going to become immortal you're not the only one who went through those kind of phases every child who wants to pursue a dream and wants to convince their Ward or their parent that they want to follow a different route as opposed to what they have in mind has to have this Aban maniki conversation right but let me let me let me try and tell you another another angle to what you went through okay that is life's way of preparing you for where you had to go think of what I'm saying the next time you faced a similar situation brother the next time you fa this much of a downfall you know that you can you've gone to the pits of it and have come back so this is nothing this is the tool that life prepares you for this is the only place in the world you can get that is during college time the humiliation the the resentment everything the swalling of the pride the swalling of the ego getting your nose bash in they say the first guy through the wall in the army they say the first guy through the wall is the one who gets a bloody nose so you to get that you have to be the first guy sometimes but guess what life can throw a spanner now and you can still go that do go lose everything come to that point and still know that you can come back to where you are because you've done it before you know at that point it felt like a cut yeah and now I realized it was actually a sword that I was being given yeah absolutely most important weapon is being able to deal with failure that's the one thing that's going to be your best friend all your life yeah and honestly life can't get worse than that the reality of Life can't get worse than being uh in that position to consider something like suicide that means your emotional state has reached that point right if you can get past that then you'll just keep going upwards it's not a cliche you know people often get sick of motivational advice but this Rise From the Ashes thing is very true yeah because you come out of a very different person I I had this when I did salak kadus I couldn't put the I you know I worked hard I put buil up my physique for one and a half years and the producer I was supposed to do it it suddenly decided he didn't want to do this movie because it was women oriented and it was not even me being the hero the girl was the stuff like that so I was I was disgusted I'm like screw it I've written this thing I've worked on the screenplay I've done everything and I nobody wants to do it screw it I'll just drop this project and I walk off and I very dear friend from Los Angeles who called and he said Maddie I can't stop you from giving it up right now but remember this the moment you give up at this stage after coming this far the next time when you try and attempt something and there's a challenge you won't even dip so low you'll give up much earlier and your level of success will keep on becoming smaller because you gave up much earlier he said right now push through it what is going to happen the film is not going to get made or released now but make it first we'll see if it doesn't get released get the money put it so that's how I said you know what let me give one more shot one more shot and it works so um I love the failures man I love all that it teaches me it teaches me what I'm capable of rising from and it's it's not it's not being preachy here I'm telling you that's one of the biggest uh biggest tools and successes I've had in my life is to overcome my failures um what was this failure situation for you when you were growing up because it must have been some some character building thing like you have really strong I mean I'm not trying to compliment you but that's where the question comes from like if you are man I so for me I flunked in the eth standard um because I got 39% in mathematics or something and the school did not allow me to go to the next uh class because uh I had flunked and I was not a very good academic student much to the disgust and dismay of my parents who are you know this South Indian nangar boy is totally useless and he's not going to get married their dream was that I should come back and join Tata steel and you know get into the same house that my father is that was there and fair enough you know that was idea of success so I remember my parents being heartbroken and um you know I went for an exchange program to Canada I came back and I was my dad is not a not prone to dramatic uh outbursts okay but we walking down the railway track uh in um Nas was it aabad or nasika I don't remember after the last engineering College had refused my uh admission because I didn't have six 70% NP physics chemistry and Mathematics so he had tears in his eyes and he looked at me and he said um what have I done wrong with you what do you want to do and he's not prone to Dramatics like I said he's a very dignified kind of guy and I looked at him and and I had this AB Mani conversation with him in the middle of those tracks AA it was aati area in the middle of the Railway track we were walking because the bus had dropped us and we had to go to the station to pack so he said what do you want to do what have I done wrong what have I done wrong with you deserve this you're not going to be an engineer I said uh I said apaa I don't know what I'm going to become but I do know what I don't want to do and I don't want to do your job if I have to sit on the table for 30 years in my life working for somebody I'll end up killing somebody because I'm not right for that Ben you can you understand that all I will tell you is that I will not let you down I will not embarrass you I will not come to you for money now will I B you know deprive you of your dignity I know your Independence and your respect is the most important thing for you that I will never touch but at least give me the Liberty to try and follow the line that I want to he said what do you want to do you want to join an acting school what do you want to do I said I don't know what I want to do so I'm happy to do what you tell me to do but I do know that I don't want to be an engineer I don't want to do a 95 job he looked at me very strangely that day you know wiped his tears and he said okay let's go and I think he changed the way he looked at life from then on you know it was I was very lucky that he then started supporting me and everything I did and then of course uh rest is history I joined Electronics in Kapur of all the places that turned out to be the best decision of my life why because I learned so much and you know in all the travels that I do people think that when you travel you get to know a lot about different parts of the world but when you travel you actually get to know a lot more about yourself about not how to pass judgment about not how to you know try to change the world into your way of thinking it's just appreciate other people's way of thinking and learn how it is done in Kapur I learned what friendship means what camaraderie means what being a middle class strong valued person means you know you know what and I have friends from then who will take a bullet for me I'm telling you right that there even now Kapur loves me I love Kapur I married the girl from there for crying out loud so it was the best decision mahalakshmi there adopted me and has never deprived me of her presence in my life so what the hell there was this Tibetan monk who had been on the show he actually gave us this huh I've always kept it here and for that episode he chanted there was some magic in his chant though we couldn't understand because it was in tiit tib um but something happened to every guy in this room when he was chanting so I opened my eyes I said Thank you then I was like what did you just do he said that all I did was I chanted from my heart and when you actually put your emotions in heart into anything it just becomes richer absolutely the reason I'm saying this is because it's a bit of a sledgehammer of a compliment there's so many moments in this conversation where you're just saying things and I'm getting Goosebumps oh I'm so thank you you're very kind this is what like people know about you like you really really speak from your heart and there's no mask on yeah I get into trouble for that but this is why people like you know raw conversations but there's very few people who can do it so thank you sir hey know man I enjoy this every time you have a conversation like this it reiterates some things that you probably lost uh touch with or lost track of it's really invigorating to to have these kind of conversations I think um even you would realize that some of the most entertaining times that we have now is not when we have gone out and had a great party but just a bunch of guys sitting someplace and having a uh a uh invigorating conversation about anything in life you know and it's just No Agenda driven and you just guys or girls sitting there yeah that's exactly how I feel yeah seriously be it politics be it religion be social Norm whatever but you just have a conversation with a few people and you feel so rich and so good about yourself and that's how I feel right now I think I think it's a very Primal human requirement also because I I it's a very weird thought but what are words in the first place words are simply tools to express the things you think are feelings yeah Y and this is your best attempt at explaining what's going on in your heart yeah uh so if you're able to take it deeper something Primal gets activated absolutely and you know what happens when you express what is there in in a way so I've realized that however scandalous or hurtful your lines may be if you say it with respect and politeness people will understand the intent behind it I've understood that arguments and debates can be can have a lesser impact negatively if you just say it with respect whatever you're saying if you say it with respect I've realized that the information the the idea goes across without the anger so what I was trying to say is that uh completely lost my Thro on that suddenly um uh people come together h no no so I polite huh so so when you say things politely the information gets uh conveyed okay so if you don't have any filters uh then the intent behind why you're saying becomes so easy for people to understand um there is nothing that you can say which is so innocent that I cannot twist to use it as a knife for fools brother it's a you know you can say hey Maddie is a really nice guy and they'll say ranir Compares Maddie to all the actors and says he's a much smarter guy than most people he's interviewed and it becomes a scandalous statement it's a you you know you hide a lie in plain truth and it becomes a truth right so those are the things that you have to be smart enough to understand and walk away from but I still don't think I got the train of thought I was hoping to find when I started this raw conversation is though no I was coming to some point but never never never we'll come back to me one of these even in this like in these random sentences we said a lot uh you know the I'm just sharing like a career unique career problem that I seem to be facing as a podcast these are long conversations I think my heart is in the right place for these uh things are growing uh I've been doing YouTube for almost like 9 years now so I know how aspects of Fame work um I've gone mainstream and I'm noticing people taking up clippings out of context completely which will very easily get me into trouble because maybe I'm giving the long drawn context without context people will put up things and I get calls from my PR I've just accepted that as a curse of this job because the actual outcome of what's happening in the long firm conversation is worth the trouble I'm getting into I think again it's perceived trouble it's not just because see you know how our mentality works you see a review of one of the interviews you've done there'll be 96 great comments and two bad ones right so you just focus on those two bad ones and let that bad one completely ruin the good the 96 good comments have done that's very human mentality you know why because your mind doesn't want to be at peace think of what I'm saying why I tell you about how the mind wants the stress to survive why can it just not ignore the just the two bad comments why does that look out like it's in capital and highlighted and the most important part of that conversation when it is not even 2% so now you will learn that only a fool ranvir will change his way of working because of those two comments lesser uh Mortals will change their entire life because these two comments came not realizing that they can do nothing without those uh sad souls putting a negative comment on you whatever you do yeah um you know I thought I was completely able to deal with online negativity and I feel like to a large degree I was but it's when your mom comes and asks you questions it's when your sister come because they don't understand your reality and that theory of negative biases that you'll focus on the two they will hyper focus on it because it's the equivalent of when your loved one or your dog gets hurt it hurts you way more so they are living that reality so you don't change your ways you change the way your mother thinks so I tell my mom mom are you happy that I'm a celebrity are you enjoying the fact that you're a celebrity's Mom are you enjoying that your grandson is doing so much there's a price that comes with it and the price is this so do not focus on it because it'll take away from the joy you're experiencing from all that we are that's the price we have to pay you get used to it I don't want to change my ways so that my mom doesn't read this that'll be the wrong decision to do this is a great point to segue into this aging parents conversation I see a lot of I don't know why I'm getting goosebumbs anyway I see a lot of guys my age and girls struggling with having aging parents because we're seeing it for the first time little things like you you know exactly what I'm saying because of course uh no one in the education system ever thought that it's important to teach kids how to deal with aging parents absolutely very good point very very good point uh also education now is lifelong obviously I'm going to ask you that because they say that the longer the time passes with the Aging parents conversation the more difficult it tends to get then you have to change yourself emotionally or get broken by it uh so Maddie h would you like to say anything yeah yeah so take your time with it uh I'm actually not asking you this as a podcaster quite obviously because at this point we're not podcasting we're just talking one of the things you should understand as a son or as a child is that at this age the only happiness and relevance and importance that their parents have is you their whole happiness depends on what you are doing and their health is directly related to their happiness which is directly related to their offsprings they have nothing else to look forward to you know when they're 75 880 you know they'll realize oh YouTube May they'll say something they'll send you a link or you know they're answering questions on behalf of you because you're a celebrity to uh to other relatives or if you're not a celebrity also no they're all their whole life revolves around whatever you're doing that's the only identity they have right so I find that most of the parents healths detate because they're mentally not in a happy State you know maybe the children are not with them maybe they're trying their best to maintain their dignity and Independence because they don't want to be dependent on somebody and stuff like that but parents' health is going to be a lot part of anybody who's my or your age one of the things that I think today's parents fear the most because of the area that they were in is being dependent on somebody they don't want like you know my father was very clear like his father my grandfather my grandfather said I don't want to come and live with you I love you both my parents father parents loved each other he says I don't want the kitchens to match because that's where the problem happens I Saida my dad do the same thing he I mean we love him at daugh he didn't want to stay with me till he had no choice because Health didn't permit him but uh he took care of his father the same way they stayed really close by but they never made sure that you know they sh at the same kitchen till that grandfather couldn't take himself so so this non-compatibility between family members actually drives their health into a bigger pit so the idea is that I believe I believe I haven't seen God or the almighty uh you know tangibly so we don't know but if there is any blessing in my life that is really really strong and I feel it it is the blessing of the elders I feel that they blessed without any agenda so I take extra effort to make sure that all the seniors and Elders that I know of I'm as affectionate and respectable to them even if they're not related to me or I know them I have the greatest amount of respect and compassion for the seniors in the society and I don't know why that is the reason but I do that and I find that they're blessing blings is the strongest for me so um as far as parents uh um and their health is concerned I am that is my first priority so my mom keeps saying I don't know what I've done in my life but the moment I have a health problem even before I have health problem you call and you know that I'm going to have this issue and you're there and I think that's a blessing that I have how do you deal with it as a guy as a man so the the false bravado of being a man and saying everything is fine and then going into the corner and crying when I know that my dad has denture for inst and uh you know it's a very tough uh disorder to um to handle so you put up a brave front in front of your your parents but it's heartbreaking man it's so difficult to handle but you know you Soldier own I wonder why these stimuli visit the process of life I know so sometimes you do question you know you keep saying you know I don't I thought my dad is a nicest guy karma is not playing fair with him you know but uh there has to be a reason so you don't question you just move along with it stimuli both for him and then the people around him yeah well for him he's Beyond The Realm now so he's really he's a child he doesn't realize anything so you just I have the comfort of knowing that I have my dad with me but he even he doesn't realize it anymore there's no coaching that you go through even as a responsible man who's supposed to take care of the parents I see that's a very integral part of our Indian culture brother from the beginning you know the way your parents get treated by you is the way they got treated by their parent is the way they treated their parents it's a it's an intrinsic part of our growing up it's not a class it's it's almost uh em bibed uh as a culture as a family taking care of your parents is a job right it's not the same thing in the western culture you you have to move out when you're 17 you spend your holidays we'll meet for Christmas New Year and Easter is their general practice they don't want to stay with their they never seldom stay with their off Springs at an older age it's only very it's a very Asian culture I had this one distant relative like sort of like a grand Uncle like my granddad's like cousin one of his cousins uh and I would observe his life with his kids and I think his kids were actually good kids like to him um but he would really enjoy the movie bagban and I would question why is he enjoying this because this is not his life in my eyes at least yeah and I was close enough to that family to observe it also okay I felt like they had a very positive relationship uh and I kept this question very alive in my head as the years passed in terms of why did he enjoy bhan and for context bagman is about older people who are not liking how their children are treating them uh and a lot of people Mel relate to that older generation really enjoying bhan despite in many cases in our eyes they probably had a great relationship in their eyes something was lacking this is my question right what was lacking from the Next Generation which is my parents's generation in that family I would know brother you every maybe their relatability is because some of their friends are going through a trauma not not themselves maybe they are lucky enough to have lucky children whatever it is the relatability comes because of what they're seeing maybe their friends going through or what they're going through themselves my hypothesis was that our parents' generation okay which is like 50s and 60s born for me uh they weren't taught to emotionally overc communicate which is why a lot of guys and girls my age have daddy and mommy issues so I was like let's just put that in the other direction they probably didn't emotionally communicate even with their parents therefore my practice with my parents now is I emotionally overc communicate exactly I think it's a very good observation that's healed a lot of that went on in my parents also you're very very AB I mean I this is very enriching to know because it's absolutely the truth my parents when they met uh their parents when we go after six months so we stayed in jamur they used to stay in Chennai and and there was a lot of love between them right I know there was love and respect right Dad would do anything for his dad but they'll meet after six months okay and I'll open the gate of the bangalow and we'll go inside my grandfather will be sitting there my father will look at him he used to call him Ana he says annaa that's all langa means karanga so no hugging just basically touching the feet getting there doing like it was a normal there was no Euphoria of meeting up after 6 months and coming and hugging and all that that's how they were brought brought up so I to why why is it so synthetic why is it so clinical why while leaving also they'll pray they'll touch each other's feet and fall at their feet that's all so I made it a point to overc communicate I would like go and hug my mom hug my dad dad was not used to hugging and all that you know and then my wife came and said I don't care father-in-law and all that I hug you that's it like and slowly he warmed up to it and he realized he became such a big hugger over a period of time that he is also like you know and then for them I think hugging I'm a big fan of hugging right now I don't know why just you know when a person is hugging properly right and another person is wanting to hug but is in the cusp and not able to decide so um my dad slowly warmed up to that and so can you you know for every man and every person hugging is a very Primal requirement you know they do it in the in the in the uh privacy of the rooms maybe but hugging is grounding you know and so when you know how to do that and when you hug it becomes a very very relaxing for me if I'm stressed one hug does it for me works a lot for me and I'm sure it'll work for you too so my mom my dad was not used to doing it publicly I made him do it I said no this is not how you hug Dad I said you hug you you put both your arms around me I want to feel your chest when you me like what are you doing don't stop embarrassing I said I'm an actor just play along and finally he became a prop of full-fledged hunger and the reason I'm saying is when parents become your parent and you become an adolescent they stop hugging you because that's the norm right and they can't hug anybody else publicly till you have a child and that's the bond between a grandson and a grandchild or grandchild and a grandparent because it's the only next close thing to blood that they can hug o right that's painfully poetic it's true though a parent doesn't hug anybody else till they have that grandchild and that's why they want you to have that grandchild um I've dated a fair amount in my life and I'm not proud of that why should do whatever whatever um but the relationships which went to a certain depth always formed out of great first hugs possibly perhaps great first but mostly great first hugs yeah cuz you can feel the soul of a person absolutely I cannot endorse that more absolutely even if we kind of stray away from romance uh one of two two of my like Bros who have been there since my teenage when were still the same guys for me even now uh even those equations uh have been formed through the first hugs we ever had with each other yeah cuz those two Souls felt like I could be I could be feeling them yeah without a doubt like like even now there's silent hugs with those Bros you know nobody understands unmeaningful unprovoked silent hugs you know what I mean like not me I'm saying unprovoked uh and and uh without agenda silent hugs like you know you just go and you hold somebody and they reciprocate and there's no word spoken dude it's just the body grounding people I wish understand the importance of that I think sometimes people who are like really aggressive and upset and have a point and then I just want like hey hang just just can not say anything let me come and hug you for a second yeah I just want to do that I mean I want to do that to political leaders if I can take it easy man um I got a I mean again I don't know whether this is a personal question or not but I I have to take the conversation here because um it represents the thoughts of many people my age again because either people are rushing into marriage or people are waiting it out for too long and even now I'm like going to turn 31 and I'm being told by society that this is late it's not late at all in my eyes it's in fact I would argue just a little bit early like I still think I have two three years to go which is when I'll really be considering settling down properly um you've had a very successful marriage in the eyes of the public uh what went right before and after the wedding I think we have equal amount of fights as any couples do but I think there's a great amount of intrinsic respect we have for each other for Sita I'm not just I'm not a national star or a actor that she has to be feel privileged to be a wife of okay she's equal partners with a guy who fell in love with her and who respects her equally and I'm and I lose no opportunity to make her feel how lucky I am to be her husband I think that when you try to um so why do you think people tell you to get married earlier what do you think is the reason I used to think it's societal conditioning no no the reason people ask you to get married is because you're far more open in a relationship for allowing yourself to change for the sake of another person if you get married younger yeah your flexibility to change because before your eccentricity is set in is far easier because know this when you get married you're going to you're going to lose a lot of yourself you'll have to compromise a lot of your beliefs and your faith and your lifestyle and your way of living and you'll find that it is worth it to keep this person with you the moment you start setting boundaries and rules and agendas and things that you cannot uh tolerate and stuff like that you you so crusted in your eccentricities that the other person has to be like a jigo puzzle to fit in and that fit is not right then you'll be you know brushing against each other and it's going to not be an easy marriage to have so the younger you are the Lesser your ascities have set in the more compatible and more uh easier it is for the the the bonding to form that's the only reason that the elders used to say when you're healthy enough to have it so that the complications don't set in with late M that mate childbearing and then when the child is adult enough you still have adultness and youthfulness left in you for you to enjoy the rest of your life because if you're going to be 60 years old when your daughter is getting married and 70 years old when you have about 72 years old when you're getting a grandchild you want have the body energy to enjoy that aspect of your life as well so ideal case scenario is why they say it okay but in today's world career is very important and you cannot form a career that earlier on in your life so people you know procrastinate to as much as possible and let the centricity set in and then in their mind they have a very fixed figure of who they want to get married to who will be uh appropriate for their friend Circle who will be appropriate for their professional life who will be appropriate for their domestic life will be appropriate for their financial dreams and so slowly the list is becoming smaller smaller smaller till the tip breaks and it's blunt and you don't find anybody and then uh and then everything looks like a compromise romise I have met a lot of people My Generation who did not understand what they getting into or maybe didn't fortunate enough to find somebody loving enough for them to sacrifice everything that they thought was important in their lives but let me tell you this the moment you sacrifice everything that they think is important in your life you just find some other things that are of equally great value in that uh Union so what I thought was really important in my life wasn't as important once Sarita came into me to my life right so I was able to get over it very easily my parents were ble to get over it very easily she they always wanted me to marry a South Indian so that the cultural uh you know animosity is not there but I couldn't have found a better daughter-in-law than Sarita so for me the fact that she's an awesome daughter-in-law um is far more important than the fact that she's awesome wife because that is my centricity and she was brilliant on that and I made sure I give her all the credit all the time for it so you asked me before and after marriage I think these acknowledgements these acceptance and truly making them understand all the things that we appreciate about them and saying it for no Rhyme or Reason Not on woman's day or Valentine's Day or birthdays just saying it out of the blue makes it that much more impactful and she knows how did you know she's the one I had a dream I had a dream that you know she was sitting in my living room and with three daughters and that never happened but it it kind of like shocked me I'm like what happened and then it's so strange man the guy South Indian guy being born in jamshedpur in some other part of the world studied in Canada when in America all the places suddenly goes to Kapur in his 12th standard and then meets this girl who was born in car what are the chances that you'll meet somebody in Kapur and you know she'll be a student of mine in my class but sometimes you give a hug and you knew like I said when I hugged her the fit was perfect you felt like the touch was touching your soul no no no it it just felt like like we just uh kind of uh it just was a perfect fit jigaw jigsaw say you know I was just just kind of Blended in you know it became one all of a sudden I think that's a great sign I don't know if it happens to everybody but I was lucky enough I know exactly what you're saying yeah yeah yeah been been there yeah I'm there uh you had this whole chocolate boy I think you still do H but you had Chocolate boy branding in the early 20 right I know this because I have a friend called kti history do you see your YouTube channel by any chance yeah she won yesterday as well oh really what did she do uh and by the way congratulations on your fabulous Victory man great national award for youuh great talk and the Prime Minister you know asking you to talk about Fitness and everything great job man great job thank you thank you uh just grateful to God that's what I'll say at this point because it's not Su I don't even have words to encapsulate my emotions enjoy it keep the history is the same like she was one of the eight people on stage who got awarded and we were both your number when you're getting a national award you don't know what to make of it honestly so we were making conversation about YouTube she's like I want to get into Tamil content and I was telling her how I think she should navigate Regional and she like what's up with you so I said I'm speaking to Arad and tomorrow right and her first reaction was oh he's a chocolate boy so I'm sure you're conscious of this was that a conscious decision back then no no I who who gives one own self a chocolate byy title yeah it's not it is not easy to come by and you can't give it to yourself it has to be you know given by the public it has to be conferred upon to you by public yeah did you enjoy it in that phase so every compliment that I get even now I have this out of body experience I I cannot accept it so I keep even now it's very strange I keep thinking they're talking about something else somebody else so I have this stupid my wife say you have a stupid childlike uh expression in your face like they're talking about somebody else and you change the topic so quickly why can't you just gracefully accept it and I've never been able to right so even when they called me a chocolate boy I like come on man I like what I was a bloody Commando of the army what are you talking about a boy I'm not a boy you know I'm trying to deny it but uh strangely that's the kind of roles that came to me but if you look at it even in Hindi or Tamil I've only done R which is a chocolate boy then I've done the thing is the Hindi audience has discovered p n now even after you know I show p n to my Punjabi and Cindi bro see this this is what love looks like yeah without understanding what the mean the lyrics but the way it's done the way you have a presence in that song yeah it was great I'm I'm a horrible dancer I have 16 left feet so uh M sir made me just jump in that song yeah I was very lucky to I got sort of a that sort of a but of course that meet me with r and Al that gave me the chocolate boy title who are you in that phase of re who are you as a guy because that's I'll tell you actually the first time I saw AR Madan was on this is my first memory I can't some dot file has been open open you did a TV show in Hindi about you being a garji yeah am I right yeah in the late '90s it was called garji yes I said what's up in my family then I saw you r as a Hindi speaking in the audience in Mumbai and I don't know how but R has become an eternal movie for an entire generation yeah um did you realize it was that's what it would become then no I remember going to the temple on the morning of the release Vu bagani me my parents and my wife and uh everybody and I was hoping that I have a great outcome of the film and then it released and people said it was flop and I was fat and my dressing sense was horrible and I didn't even get the best newcomer or or they gave it to somebody else it was completely like sidelined like terrible songs they said he he didn't release a song because he said so we released another version of the songs first till the actual songs in the film came out and people said where is Zar and where is Sana then we released it a week later most legendary music yeah so you know what I'm saying conditioning that can do to you uh so and it was a flop and uh Ashoka released you know just completely brushed under the carpet but slowly over a period of time like after seven eight months you realize that people were singing the song they were watching it they were reading the it reached its Zenith of uh recognition three years after the release and people started actually calling me my shastri and you know stuff like that it was crazy so it wasn't a hit when it released and it was the biggest disappointment as a debut did that hit you no you were chill yeah you kept carrying on with life yeah so it's question like so I to go to the I said I went to the temple I didn't do anything wrong about why did it happen only to realize that God had a much bigger plan man it became an iconic film like we're talking about it 23 years after the release can you believe it and people are like yesterday I went somewhere and people are stealing suchana they're singing to me it's just crazy right so that that doesn't happen to many actors man so I'm very grateful for that as a 31-year-old I become a 7-year-old when I watch that film how nice like that's probably perspective now but even I red discovered it through social media correct as in as a memory of course you wouldn't have not watched it when you were 7 years old man I actually saw in the theaters when you were seven years old how come my mom and sister were into movies oh so they would like take me for a lot so I've seen a lot of romcoms with them but I remember watching that film clearly wow yeah there was a scene where you and SE kind were kicking each other right I remember this that's the visual I have in my head and then crushed on di of course who didn't I was uh used to be so nervous bro because I was 32 or 31 when I did that film and uh my heroins were all 18 19 and stuff so I thought yeah there was this of course I was very conscious of the fact that I'm such a senior compared to these people and uh you know I was very then my friend said you know boss senior but on the set if you keep consider a senior you look like the heroin's father can you please get in the romantic mood and stuff so then I couldn't actually do it after like you know after and I think rang basanti was closest that I came to with romance after that I just couldn't find an age appr appropriate romance to do T Manu came that was different are you a romantic guy on the inside I think I'm the most romantic guy that ever existed man I really think I am cuz I really know uh I think I am I I'm allowed to think like that and I think I am yeah uh because that chocolate boy thing R it's coming out of something in your Source yeah yeah yeah for sure it's I mean it's it it can't be uh it can't be put on it it has to be very intrinsic part of me do you also have Bros who are divorced unfortunately yeah unfortunately what goes wrong there lack of whatever you said you should yeah and the reason for getting married you see it cannot be a business deal it cannot be a great opportunity it has got to be the union of Two Souls man and it everybody involved in that marriage should understand that or else for your own agenda you'll end up spoiling the life of two people completely ruining them you know ruining a child's life um and we don't like a lot of Western things don't fall well with us you know it's even though we want to live like how many Western systems have we adopted shamelessly here what what does it what makes you think that that's the right way of living Shar parentage uh you know things like that the child is traumatized and I'm absolutely nothing nothing wrong and nothing not against divorces if if it's a not working relationship by all means but be careful when you're getting into the wedding in the first place no make sure it's because of the right reasons because the amount of respect you have for each other or the love um because it has to go through trauma man it is it's not going to be easy no the happy married life is a myth yeah it's it's just little strange for my head again I'm not judging this I'm just curious about this in terms of after 25 years of marriage why would a couple want a separation which is what you were saying this 40-year-old lonely guy so now he's seen that there's a complete transformation in the partners that they got married to one is completely now po social media wants to PO you know have this 40th birthday live the way they're supposed to this guy didn't bargain for that and you realize that this guy now his wife has completely changed or the husband has completely changed and the woman is like I didn't marry this guy and she finds his best friend who is not changed to be far more attractive Believe It or Not 90% of these marriages have broken because the husband or the wife has married the partner's best friend that doesn't sit right with the bro's heart in me like I I could never visualize myself doing that to any bro or any not bro I'm saying you married a woman and you realize she's changed and you ended up finding her friend who is not changed and you're now those divorces are resulting in these guys getting together and the wife feeling I I got betrayed by a friend I'm saying it I'm telling you how many people will relate to it and say oh God how does he know but this is the maximum reaction because people want to stay married they just realize they stay married to the wrong person oh dude people want to stay married but they realize they're married to the wrong person yeah but 25 years and yeah even more now than ever before because 25 years of complete social media change Everything YouTube okay this came change in culture Overexposed to information cultural uh you know this thing acceptances the prity the everything suddenly the person you thought you got married to is different and for some men it's easy to accommodate that understand wise enough to see that this is going to happen yet others feel completely out in in the wind yeah they don't know how to handle it 40e birthday was not a was not a thing man you understand what I'm saying till 10 years ago 40th birthday was not an event in your life Valentine's Day was not an event in our life was it became more and more I mean I remember valent you know excitement but it put a big change in the way marriage was being perceived even Bros change no brother the equations between the Bros also change yeah so when you can accept that with Bros why can't you accept that with the with a wife or a husband I would argue that you don't have to live with the Bros oh no you do oh you do you do of course you do see because H so why you don't care or you're okay with that change that's what it becomes easy to accept you know when you when you let somebody at 31 when you let somebody that close to your life and you have to share the bed with them every day and you have to smell them and you have to feel them and you have to hear them and they get into the most inate part of your life they are sharing the same bathroom you've developed this centricity that this is how I want everything to be placed and kept they are not used to this they had left everything to come and share your place it's m it's grinding and crushing and and you know and un sharpening of the teeth happening every time you have to be ready for that and the person has to be worth it you have to feel that the other person is worth it so that's what I was answering your question so this divorces that happen at a at this age at a latest stage this is the reason no one teaches you how to turn 40 or 50 yeah and this is great that you're giving your experience but one's not going to realize until one is that absolutely and you'll find a own unique solution man whatever I say is based on my experience it could be completely not and non non relatable and non accurate for you uh this one doesn't realize until one is that age angle also applies to Men's Health I'm realizing now in small ways like really strong Fitness oriented guy suddenly you're getting injured more often yeah Etc you're getting weaker than you were that's why footballers are sold at age 30 and cricketers get smaller contracts like it's a little strange to be an early 30s male nowadays because all the early 30s males are discussing this like a sudden line of masculinity in some ways um I have a couple of questions one I'm assuming that of course this increases you know your 40s and 50s but in my eyes you're one of the guys who's not just emotionally aged well you've also physically aged well like you're talking about you said you 32 at the time of um you didn't look 32 and I don't think you look your age now either you you're doing something right is that coming from Happy the right die is that but is that's coming from your happiness I'm assuming no it comes from a sense of acceptance I'm I'm I'm okay with who I am man I have if I have gray hair I have gray hair I I have hair I'm happy for that so um I'm also like I said I'm also very aware of my age in the roles that I do I've never tried to play somebody way younger than my age or romance somebody uh who is 20 years old just because I want to look younger I'm not younger so I always take the example of maybe Richard Gear or or Kean or you know all these guys who are looking charming and attractive at their age I have no qualms about uh expressing my age or not talking about so if I'm 50 I'm I I keep saying one year more than I am my wife gets very irritated I was about to say I'm 54 but I'm 53 and a half basically so um um and so my body does respond in exactly the way a 53y old body supposed to but I look at a shuk for instance who's way older and he looks like he's still got the Youth of Life filled in him and you know he a great inspiration for somebody like us because you know you can be like this or look at Rik who is my age or slightly younger and he's looking like a Greek god but of course you have you know problems with health and body and movement and joints and muscles and everything and heart heart is heart you never let the age get into your heart that's not happening I think I'm going to be like I said I have a childlike enthusiasm even now man I really do I I'm not able to behave mature when I meet a you know a senior man or a well achieved man I still feel like a kid I'm like a struck if I meet Amit G now right now I'm still a kid I I have the same laughter or smile that I would had as a 14-year-old looking at this grandness I I I I I have not been able to accept the fact that I'm in the same industry him and living at the same time I'm still a fan you know I guess something like that what I will say is that your inner child is too alive totally good analysis inner teenage guy no no child like I see so okay hey you want to know me I'll give you myself in uh in in three lines so my day is chocked as a good day if I have do three of these things one if I experience something new or I have the ability to make somebody else experience something new like it could be a different food a new taste maybe a miracle fruit or Wasabi something some new experience that they didn't know and exist like really are so if I taught somebody something new if I learned something new on a day or if I met somebody I want to keep in touch with if one of these box gets ticked my day is a very very good day and I'm a very grateful person if this doesn't happen then I've wasted that day so I always look for this so I'm always const ly looking for opportunities where I can look feel taste experience something new or make somebody else experience it very rarely in my podcasting Journey do I feel like I've created something that has a 20-year shelf life this is one of those moments awesome man so thank you Arad thank you pleasure man thank you so muchir congratulations again on the award it's very well deserved and I see now why it is thank you so much sir uh I have a lot of gratitude in my for the time you've given me today these are all the questions I had for you anyway so I'm glad that it's going to stay on the internet forever now this interaction I'm I'm going to be returning to this podcast a lot and trust me that doesn't happen so it's very few people and the thing is you you've said things pretty casually in a brotherly way but there were some very very deep anecdotes in this uh so thank you for answering my questions because no one teaches you how to be 31 you don't need to be taught you you'll figure it out you're a smart K you've done so much but uh yeah I guess sharing my experience makes me feel like you have another option to look into that's it yeah uh I feel every human you come across if the conversation goes to a certain level of depth then they paint a version of their their paint on your story correct so well put very well put the best podcast are for me and this is one of those very nicely put man thank you deep thank you uh before I let you go just quickly give us some dope on shatan yeah ah so hey that is not that this is not the reaction I was expecting when I when I did Shian right so as an actor I was thinking I'm playing a negative lead I'm playing the bad guy and aay Sir is playing the good guy and it should be fun let me explore what I can do and while shooting this film we didn't think that the we didn't know the title of the film was going to be shatan so when we got done with the film and you know of course I they did the post- production and editing everything and suddenly the producer calls me and says I have decided to name the film shaan and uh you the Shan and the film so I said oh what are you saying how come and a s said no that's how it's going to be uh and he made the whole trailer and the teaser on my character which like I said earlier the most generous kind of guy will do and so I wasn't at all prepared for this you know just you just get a whacker from out of the bloom and all of a sudden then people started talking about shaan and then a is promoting the film and me and and then now the film is released and it's the third day and uh it's doing numbers that has surpassed everybody body's expectation so I am going to live with that VIN for a long time to come it's a very very Epic trailer that's what I'll say yeah uh if you've not seen the trailer go see it see the movie man it's already released and please go see Shan in theaters uh I I actually think that there's certain movies where you should see the trailer before you see the movie yeah yeah uh it's compelling enough and there are very few trailers which um travel through the Realms of WhatsApp so yeah yeah yeah if a trailer needs to be good enough to be able to do that oh really I didn't know that I think trailers are very important for this generation because of it is enough so like I said we didn't do any other interviews we didn't go for publicity nothing he said trailer has done the job the audience will come and sure enough they came very very dark uh very very twisted and very very intriguing uh I'm going to say this openly um there are very few movies I truly wish to watch in a theater and Shan hit the mark just from the trailer I'm not just saying that so it's not horror just to let you know that's fine psychological Thriller that's great yeah yeah it's uh you'll like it it's intelligent enough to stimulate looking forward arm one and I'm looking forward to the next time I get to speak to you perhaps next year after I've had some growth and I get to know what it's like being 32 hey the feeling is very mutual man thank you so much thank you so much very very sweet had a lot of fun good me too that was the episode for today um our madon has just left my house I haven't completely digested everything that we spoke about but these were just my questions because no one teaches you how to grow up as I am upskilling my own mind and heart I hope that you're also getting upskilled through this journey podcasting has been a massive blessing in my life uh it's something I encourage a lot of people to take up especially if you're a content creator especially if you're in media this process of podcasting can be extremely upskilling as well as value adding to your own existence it's been the best decision of my life and I encourage you to take up podcasting if you need any help with that we've designed a specialized discounted podcasting course just for you we've linked it down below this was a legendary episode with the legendary AR madavan please go watch shaan it's now in theaters AR madavan is going to be back on the show very very soon hopefully but next year most definitely I hope to do the conversation in Hindi at that point because this is one of those human beings who has infinite value and infinite observational capabilities which is why he will always keep bringing you an infinite number of podcasts if he's the guest at least once a year I hope to have him back on the show this was a very very special and memorable TRS episode for me from R and the team we'll see you in three or 4 days [Music] a

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Length: 109min 38sec (6578 seconds)

Published: Fri Mar 15 2024