Paul Washer - What is Biblical Masculinity and Why is it Important?

paul thanks again for being with us i want to ask you about biblical masculinity the idea of biblical masculinity is disappearing in today's culture and yet we see that it is so important as we look at the scripture talk to me about biblical masculinity and why it's so important well first of all there is a difference between a man and a woman i know that today that's shocking but you know paul told the corinthians act like men there had to be a basis for that but here's what we need to understand let's say that my father's generation and for the most part my generation the idea of being a man was uh john wayne okay and if you watch some of the john wayne movies there was a lot of things noble about that but there were a lot of things that weren't noble so john wayne and that type of thing isn't the model the archetype of what a man is to be and then if you go to the other extreme which you seem to find today it's the very opposite of that person a very passive uh delicate man a fearful man a it's like his psyche is broken and he just crumbles part of that we need to realize is is one aspect of the judgment of god isaiah 3 is very clear about that that we have young men ruling over older men noblemen are removed from society and and there's there's all sorts of things revealed there in isaiah 3. what we've got to realize is this our main problem is simply again not studying the bible our main problem is not looking at christ or looking at christ through some filtered lens rather than the raw scripture my desire is not to be like john wayne it's also not to be like the other extreme i want to set my sights on being like jesus christ now also i need to think about something there is a headship in the family and and i am to be the head of my home that doesn't mean that i um you know everything revolves around me my headship serves one purpose that i lead my home for the benefit of my wife and children no matter how costly it is to me my headship is sacrificial and one of the things about being a true man if we look at the model of christ it is self-giving and self-sacrifice it's always look at what christ did he gave himself and gave himself and gave himself until there was nothing left to give that is my responsibility to my wife and my children also if you want to talk about christ is our protector he stood in front of us he stood in front of his bride anyone wants to come to get his bride anyone wants to come to get god's children he's going to stand between them and the ones he loves this requires strength courage i think that young men need to grow in character number one and the primary characteristic should be love which is self-giving this is not about me it doesn't matter how much i hurt doesn't matter how much i suffer doesn't matter matter if my expectations aren't met my needs aren't met my wants aren't met that's not what it's about it's about me dying for a woman and my children serving giving and stop looking in the mirror and stop being self-absorbed self-giving but then there's some practical things also it's my job to to feed my family and it doesn't matter like in in the rougher times when heart cry was first starting out working construction doing all these different things hours a day coming home at night whatever i had to do to put food on the table that's my job if someone's going to stand in the door and going to hurt my family it's my job to stand in the door it's my job to take the brunt of everything this world has to throw at my wife and my family and so you know i was raised we raised charlotte cattle and quarter horses so i mean it was rodeo from the word go i mean you know and your dad my dad would just you're going to be tough yeah if you don't die you're going to be tough my sons were raised by a preacher yeah and so and they were homeschooled so they weren't knocking about in football or rugby or this or that and so i had to create scenarios uh physical scenarios for them i made them work from the time they were little uh they lifted weights they they learned how to fight they did all these things because that's part of if when my sons marry i expect them to do everything they have to do and be everything they have to be to protect that woman that they've married and to protect their children and so there's there's there's all kinds of things that go into that and and we have to realize that um you know we want to know that there's a noble and righteous government we want to know that all these things are in place to protect us but the responsibility i have is above all those other things to care for a wife you know i told my boys i said let me look at your hands are there any calluses on your hands you know all right i'm gonna work you and that's what we did yeah we did so i created scenarios to make them tough uh i didn't have much time for the outdoors because of my hectic schedule but i made time so they'd be sitting out in the snow for 10 hours hunting or whatever just to make them tough talk about work ethic and how important that is in the molding of men yeah i purposely we lived in a lived up basically kind of up a hill with a logging road and uh we had no central heat or air conditioning in our cabin for all the most of the years of the boys and they were cutting wood constantly yeah i know a man who lives in a suburb and so what he would do when his sons would disobey he he went out to lowe's and he bought a pallet of cinder blocks there were probably a hundred cinder blocks and then he put an empty pallet way on the other side of the backyard and he would have the boys okay you dishonored your mother you're gonna do a hundred push-ups this many setups and you're gonna move all those cinder blocks from over there to over there yeah you know and it just toughness uh just briefly paul you mentioned you know your definition of masculinity is not some external facade it is sacrificial service that is not defined you said by passivity but because of inner strength by being a man of character is there anything else if you're talking to a young man and and i was 15 25 35 you say if you want to be a man you need to do this what would you say i know this sounds just so simple but you need to know who jesus really was as he walked on this earth and you need to imitate him and you do that by if someone you know if you take some silly course on manhood there's no telling what's going to end up but if you will just get in the word and say who is this christ and then know this love look i i know a guy who went into the jungle with me one time he was slight he was afraid of absolutely everything i mean he was so afraid he's afraid of his shadow the leaves the spiders the snakes he was afraid of everything you'd say well you know how can you admire a guy like that i admire him why he was slight he wasn't strong he wasn't necessarily an outdoorsman and he was scared do you know why he was there love he was there because he loved the people and he wanted them to know christ it's look it's love that makes a man strong it's love that makes a man fight like a tiger it's it's love and that's what i want him to see you take him you know you take um a samuel rutherford you know you read samuel rutherford and and his writing is so poetic and at times you know you're like whoa that's a little bit too much you know and yet here was a man who would defy anything because of his love for christ because of his love for his people and and so you know i don't want to build this the lord has spent many years destroying my bravado it's one of the reasons for all my illnesses everything else it's to destroy that we're not talking about some carnal strength or discipline or he's got muscles you know coming out of his ears i want a man who loves so much and he will just lay down his life lay down his life lay down his life and he's not if i would say the greatest cause of weakness among young men today is self-absorption [Music] instead of sacrificial love and service that's what will make a man defy armies when bolder bigger men turn tail and run that little puny man who loves will stand his ground he loves christ you know and some will say are you afraid yes i'm afraid there's been so many times i've been so afraid i didn't know what to do what keeps you in those moments because you're going to face enemies that doesn't matter who you are these this is not the movies they're going to take you down and what makes you stand is not that you know krav maga what's going to make you stand is you've been conformed to the image of christ and you love as you said act like men is a biblical command yes so i'm thankful just for your clarity unreeling to us what that even means and how it's possible so thank you so much paul you

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Length: 10min 48sec (648 seconds)

Published: Fri Aug 13 2021