On Confronting @destiny

I've heard you say you you're not confrontational by nature is that what you said or you don't enjoy well I'm an agreeable person I would have been a clinician this remarkable to me because you do go on the offensive when you feel like someone's attacking you which is of course what you should do I think in moderation you did this recently with that fell Destiny yeah I mean that was fun to watch and I thought the two of you it was an excellent exchange but you seem to have no trouble calling people out and getting yeah well just because I'm agreeable doesn't mean I'm an idiot you know and there is a distinction there and it's been something I've wrestled with my whole life because I was a Peaceable and agreeable child okay and uh I grew up in a relatively rough town and with relatively rough people and I had to learn to hold my own and that was a I skipped a grade so I was young and small in my class that also put me at a disadvantage especially athletically and my friends were like tough kids and you had to learn to defend yourself and I could defend myself verbally okay so and I so as an agreeable person did you have to learn how to you know be disagreeable definitely have it be uncomfortable but just keep going anyway yeah I learn that all the time every agreeable person has to learn that I mean that's partly what you do as a therapist one of the things that one of the reasons people come for Psychotherapy is because they're depressed are anxious that's very common yeah the other most common reason is for so-called assertiveness training right people don't know how to stand up for themselves well those are agreeable people you know they're other centered and and maternal in in some fundamental sense the problem with that is that it's not a good strategy for dealing with snakes yeah so you know everyone's a victim it's like no not everyone mhm like there are victims infants for example could take care of them they could use some care you know adult men they're not infants yeah but I thought it ended well you and Destin you know cuz you even said like Hey we're getting everything out here we're trying to we're trying to come to something and sometimes you have to be a little unruly in how you out you the problem with the I I found that likely the most I had the most qualms about that podcast of any podcast I've done well the reason is is see I learned this when I was like 24 I learned that I had a proclivity to battle verbally to be right okay right and that was a status thing I'm right you're wrong so you know that redounds to my credit I use my verbal intelligence as a weapon of dominance well I I stopped doing that when I was like 23 I thought oh that's not that's not that's the prideful worship of the luciferian intellect it's a really bad idea like seriously it's a seriously bad idea and so I don't like talking to people who want to be right and Destiny wants to be right also a massive thanks to hallow for sponsoring this podcast hall.com frad is where you want to go if you want to try out their entire app for 3 months for free it is an absolutely fantastic app they actually have all of my audio podcasts on there right now so you can listen to them over there they have Catholic Loi meditation amazing stuff hello /m matr to get 3 months for free hey thanks so much for watching this clip if you want to watch more clips of me chatting with Jordan Peterson click these videos somewhere here on this screen

Channel: Pints With Aquinas

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Length: 3min 41sec (221 seconds)

Published: Sat May 11 2024