*NEW VIDEO* "The Womb of Rejection"

[Applause] [Music] [Applause] [Music] we were all just like a genesis chapter to be found can you grab one of my papers people probably say you say either one so we concluded the message Sunday speaking about the concept of the world of rejection and we want to stay at that vein tonight Genesis chapter 2 a 5 so we talked Sunday again about the womb of ejection we were talking about Esau and Jacob right and we said that rejection for Esau we should see rejection for Esau began in the world get you started in the world for Esau and so we were in the Genesis chapter 25 verse 2 a 2-1 read a few verses here just to remind us of where we were and what we were talking about it says and the children in verse 22 the struggle together within her and she said if it be so why about us and she went to inquire of the Lord and the Lord said unto her two nations of about war and to matter of people shall be separated from the Bowers and the one people shall be stronger and the other people and the builder shall serve the younger this meat that makes when it went her days to be delivered or the field behold there were twins in her okay so the spirit of rejection here because they see that the prophecy was given now on the outside but on the the inside Rebekah's hold the plant receiver stated that the elder would serve the elder and we talked about how or something out that's out of order because the elder was supposed to be the one that gets the double portion of the inheritance right and so this is this is ty Laporte but it was already stated in the world I'm making a quarterback in the world that the elder would serve the younger and so the spirit of rejection was born in the womb it caused Esau to be at war with himself and at war with his brother Jacob rejection I'm going to give you a definition of that tonight as we know for rejection is dismissive or refuse it and so it is to dismiss or to refuse rejection it also means to not be accepted or to not be wanted and to not be accepted or to not be wanted we all do is some deep stuff to my son Justin to warn you of that before we go forward there by the good with that I mean you're already a build-a-bear we don't deal with some deep stuff to my soul rejection is is again dismissing or refuse it it means to not be accepting or to not be wanted some rejection it is very crushing right who wants to be rejected nobody but nobody wants to be rejected no one wants to be foolish to decide no one wants to feel like they are not accepted or not a part of something and as much as we say you know I don't need about it I don't care what they think I don't care what they say I don't care who lacks me you know those are movies talking did you hear what I said those are wounds talking because the old people understand that we are wired as human beings we are wired for connection and so if you understand it then why you so defensive all right so if you got the trace to a root and you'll find out that rejection has not been dealt with okay so just for my eyes that stuff is off balance can you move to this side thank you he's not in trouble my decision like we started get off balance that's not that was not a vision thank you so much okay so be these awards that have not been dealt with in the first chapter of my book above the sign of a champion shameless book I'm gonna be reference in the book Allah who has this book okay so I'm gonna pull some stuff from that book so even if you don't have it you'll be able to follow this gonna pour some concepts from there so in the first chapter of the book I speak about how we all experience rejection we all experience rejection in some form shake confession but whether it's not properly leveraged what rejection is not properly dealt with it takes root in the soul okay rejection takes root in the soul and here is what it produces I'm here's the type of things that rejection can produce insecurity validation seeking bitterness a lack of forgiveness anger personality disorders you look deeper even depression and anxiety so rejection the ruler of rejection can produce all of these fruit from the combat the root of rejection rejection watch this it can also change your mindset and cause your perspective or your outlook on life your outlook on people the way you see people for what you see relation ships even the way you see yourself to be flawed or distort it okay so rejection alright this tower rejection starts off as a soul move its rejection starts off as a soul whoa wo u indeed and it rejection starts off as what a soul moved it is a wounded place in the slow because earlier says it is crushing right no one wants to be rejected we as humans they're biologically wired for connection and so even in genesis i believe is to somewhere in the second chapter it says it's not good that man should be what alone and so that's not just about marriage that's that's a principle that we were supposed to be with lifetime because that I saw in the garden that every animal every one of the species had someone are something to connect with does that make sense something that looked like it and we produced after our own car and so god looked down in his wisdom is if oh it's not good that man should be alone because it was only one of him so he says now I have to make someone like him I have to pull something out of him that looks like him does that make sense so that he could have connection all right and so it's not giving we're by ourselves so rejection starts off as what a soul food here is the faith if the wound is not properly treated it opens up the door for the spirit of rejection again if the wound is not properly treated remember I said everyone deals with rejection if I were to poll the audience everyone in here has experienced some form of rejection whether you can get pigfoot for the kid farm team that's been so for rejection you come up at this rule low low-level real basic but that's rejection right so we've all experienced rejection rejection is not always bad but if we don't deal with it properly it is a soul wound and then it opens up the door for what the spirit of rejection what is a spirit a spirit is anything that influences you a spirit is anything that leads you directly guides you because the spirit is wind and breath and influence make sense so we're led by the Spirit of God where we're supposed to be as believers we're led by the Spirit of God so we know that we are the what sons of God we can't see the Spirit of God it's like the wind John chapter our belief is John chapter 3 says before the Spirit is like the wind we can't see it but it's moving right and so anything that is a spirit it moves you in control Isham it guides your behavior and your decision-making is just making sense so after a while you have a soul I need you to follow a soul moon and now you have a spirit of attention operating as well so after a while you need healing and deliverance what say that again I said you need healing and what deliverance right right this then healing and deliverance go together healing and deliverance go together and this is why I am particularly fun of the chakras dr. sharper and your pastor Charlotte was doing working with it I'm particularly fond of them because they very balanced approach to deliverance ministry balance the fortune I have not seen a lot of in my 20 plus years of ministry and I was really turned although Bobby to be honest with us those hello watching and watching the replay I was really to turn off what we had turn of deliverance ministry in the church because it was very unbalanced so we just got folks you know F of altar and and spitting up in buggies and those happen after that i'ma deal with stuff tonight so I see with them a balance because there are some things that have to happen after you get delivered I will help you right here after you get delivered which means to be rescued which needs to be set free which little bit to think about deliverance like this when a package comes to you that means that it changes locations it's been delivered so it came from Amazon we like Amazon a bag it came from Amazon to your house so the path you spend the delivered it changed locations but if you don't ever do anything with the package it makes no difference then they change locations and sometimes it's hard we're just changing locations but being set free we're being rescued but we don't do any maintenance after we get delivered I'm gonna take you to Bible in a minute so how do you get delivered now we must go on an intentional journey sometimes a intentional see it again integer now you must go on an intentional journey to transform and renew your mind as it after deliverance now you must go on an intentional journey to do what transfer and renew your mind you're faking now your attorney visited this terminology to unlearn what you have learned because anything that you have learned guess what you can't unlearn anyhow that you have can be broken any way that you think you can change your thinking can I prove it to you big ugly and not just scientifically Paul said I think myself I think myself at me best because if there's no homework number one golden disk each other Joshua's competitors ever pawns and I think myself happy what was he saying my thoughts are so powerful as a man thinketh in his heart so is he I just think myself out of sadness my thoughts are so powerful that I was I was sad or I should be sad but I'm think my so happy so I am happy the other said my probability is yes so I can literally use my thoughts to change my life I said I've been used for thoughts to change my life to change my mother so transformation has to come to work the mind which is the soul two scriptures here are to give you one the front part of our Romans chapter 12 verse 22 it talks about being transformed by the renewing of your words my mind is my soul rejection is a one is a soul world proverbs 23 and 7 that's what I referenced earlier it says that as a man thinketh in his heart so is he so this is the part that we often miss in spiritual deliverance making delivers sometimes unbalanced we have to understand that we have a part to play if I might instill change we're going back to the same thing we got delivered from young even talk to them I said if I - don't change we're going back to the same thing we got delivered from watch this or worse now the old say is I never understood it until recently no sense you say they'll come up in a prayer because if you don't really won't enough to me you just don't get playing you just up you because you just want to feel good and you're not ready to come all the way with God and when is it almost like you gonna leave you're worse okay go to Matthew chapter 12 turn to Matthew chapter 2 now so scriptures look I'm just gonna give you a chest that you cannot go back right there now first of all they go back and do due diligence to study but somebody's I got to stop now we gotta read Matthew chapter 12 little look at verses 43 to 45 what are we talking about here if the man doesn't change if I don't do something in the way of maintenance after deliverance ministry after I've been set free I'm going back to the same thing or something worse right let's look at Matthew chapter 12 verse 43 to 45 it says what the unclean spirit is own out of the man listen carefully he walketh through Dry places seeking rest and finding none case the first thing you need to know about Revelation is that demons - well places okay the kitchen of tomorrow 44 it says then he says I will return to my house not your house seat Obama he's out on the back home he said I'm coming back to your soul and I'll see that I'm coming back to my mind coming back to where I got evicted from okay he says I will return into my house from whence I came out and when he is come here you go empty come on swept and garnished so that means you've done no work you've done no maintenance you haven't done anything different from when you got delivered and set free first 45 assists bid goeth he and taketh with himself seven other spirits more wicked than himself this is serious and they enter in and dwell there and the last state of that man is worse than the first even subtle shall it be also unto this wicked generation it right out that write this down deliverance is not a one-time event it's a family decision again deliverance is not a one-time event it's a daily decision how do I walk out my deliverance daily I keep doors closed that should be closed I did something about the disconnect for some people I get filled Borup the Spirit of God and watch this onion healed healed people for the note-takers can maintain the deliverance that's good I said healed people can maintain their deliverance 60 I want you to be impressed with all the columns the genealogy be impressed all cars I don't want you to be impressed but give touch I don't want you to be impressed would get shot to get charged I would you get arrested another then I want you to be impressed with the journey healing journey yeah right but that's what you need to be impressed with because healing implies that I have been made whole and I have addressed the root cause to my issues and I've always keeping a check on myself in that area so if it's connection I'm always keeping a check on myself in that area does that make sense so here like happens in the mind your that healing happen is squared in the pound so the way God birthed isset me a few years ago I began to be unimpressed with with altar calls I begin to be unimpressed with quick fixes because here's what happens when we still talking about the woman rejection when we cry we roll we fall out most of the times dis Tipperary is it emotional HAP because I know that because we get up and we leave and we still see the same patterns of behaviors within ourselves so what good it gently [Music] nothing but we had an emotional experience it's why I never give you this is what the children of Israel write this write down Exodus 16 and 3 this is good example of what I'm talking about it it's like the children of Israel watched you speak this the children of Israel got delivered first generation they got delivered but they never got healed okay how can you say that this is God's people yeah but they never got healed how do I build it because every time they got in trouble every time things got hard for them they started saying things like they said Exodus 16 and 3 let us go back to the fleshpots of Egypt we had it better in Egypt we had it better in bondage as it mixes so they got delivered which means they changed locations they came from Egypt to the wilderness they were rescued come on God delivered them did he not he set up free and they had to church that day Oh Miriam got the two Marines they started dancing the horse is the rider than the C component have you read by really good church today they say some good songs they shout it they saw the work of the Lord but their minds never got filled because every time they got in trouble they always know what to go back so they were delivered but they were not healed and because they weren't healed they missed everything that don't have a stylist today we deliver but not so the strategist didn't assist if there has to be more right it has to be more than iron motional hat because we're laying hands casting out stuff and nothing is changing long-term even about the children of Israel believe is in the book of Hebrews it says that they heard the word is that he regularly boosts for they heard the word but they still mr. promise they heard the word but they never entered it to the rest the rest of thought was to promise Li they heard the word but not mixed with faith so they heard good preaching good work the other one they heard Moses preaching to them giving up the low talking to them about the promised land but they never possessed it I don't get you that they never possessed it why because that their first be they will anger and if my mind is not healed I can shout all day but it's not going in that there's there's a hinderance somewhere say going so after you go to deliverance now let's let's work on that after that did you hear what I said let's look on the aftermath let's work on how those wounds affected you so you'll never go back again so now we eat follow up and I say follow this your father appointment tonight now that would need follow-up because there has to be something next right so out the deliverance there's the Sai question the Mystics after liver says discipleship after deliverers there's healing talk about the deliverance there's new line of skills new complex heals I gotta learn a new way after the difference that there's a healing that needs to take place in my mind and my brain after the difference I mean the earnest of new ways of thinking and behavior because all this time I've lived in bondage I've lived in Egypt and now God is saying I'm setting you free come o greater you have the kingdom but my mind can't even grasp that because I'm not healed up here okay okay cuz y'all quiet that was mean Estonia so the judgment starts off hopefully rejection starts off as a wound right and if it's not treated if it opens the door to the spirit of rejection and the spirit of rejection torments us emotionally torments and oppresses the soul the next thing I want to say to you about rejection is retention is a cycle rejection is what a cycle rejection is a cycle that opens the door listen carefully and opens the door to double mindedness Injection is a what and it opens the door to what okay right now James chapter 1 verse 5 through 8 James chapter 1 verse 5 through 8 is used to prove to this talks about how a double minded man is unstable in all of his ways and that man that is talking about it says that he should not expect to receive anything from the Lord so it's the cycle you still want to okay what a 71 rejection watch this II saw was rejected the reason since our mother esau was rejected and he ended up rejecting his inheritance remember something at first he didn't romans yeah then he wanted her but it was too late so I wanted and then I don't woman and I willing and I that's the same come on that's double like it is it not harder don't tell me is okay Michelle looking at me let's talk about it sometimes I would sometimes it though so is this not gonna give it to if I won't like what it's not going to give it to me so Dee was 12 and 17 we read that sucker that was our supplemental text it said that he he later more at the inheritance but he was rejected that's what the Texan he says he was rejected even though he sought it with tears but I want it back I'm sorry give me the pittance but I'm singing it with tears but what is that that's what double mindedness and double mindedness also opens the door to emotional instability this is something that is also produced by the spirit of rejection it's almost as if people that have experienced rejection and they taking that thing to the soul is going down to the root and the core of who they are because that's what our soul is it's the root and the core of who they are of who we are excuse me it's almost as if you cannot be satisfied that's the emotional instability it's like what are you won't help us tonight what more can I do to please you and that best if I can even handle myself that that's that s that wounded placed instead in a child cried out for what it didn't get and nothing can be done in the present except your own personal to heal that place there's nothing anyone can do to assist you in that okay so so I was like relationship okay that's not gonna do it that's not all he taught the inner child there's no get a relationship expert the notice to feel that knee and they can't feel that bite because they weren't there when you were a child so when we're double minded it opens the door to emotional instability can't be pleased you're a server I'm doing like this so we don't put yourself on the spot you'll see I'm talking about you you know some bad and you asking about what do you want I brought you roses just like that you work what is it you said you love it there what are you want that's what you asked for that's what I wanted last week what you got please be everything Oh what did you want that's the spirit of rejection and operation are you learning tonight when you're being held or your eyes being open it so double-mindedness produced by the spirit of rejection it also opens the door to emotional instability that's your neighbor what do you want you know my language is never scared can a be satisfied let's go back to talk about the water let's talk about the whole not to own the water W OMP this is what air so a lot even about what I'm just said about not being able to be satisfied rejection has to start somewhere it has to have an entry point somewhere but many of us it entered it had its place of origin in the world at birth or before birth but many of us it had its entrance and I place of origin hear me well most of the issues that we face we as an inclusive terms I was pulled us all in many of the issues that we face today is a misguided you know the classes might come up be we all be at the best class most of the issues that we are faced I said that we began in our childhood for some of us began in the world Jeremiah what it found since before I forget in the belly we know this I knew thee I sanctified the ecology our day to my prophet to the nation's something I said something that I hope you call I said that when you receive a prophetic word I wouldn't his prophetic destiny over your life the enemy also heard that - yes because God is a spirit and so is he so he heard the prophetic destiny over your life so so God watch just has destiny that he has prophesied over you God has thoughts with you come on he has spots he has plans he has all this mapped out for you but guess what so does the enemy the enemy has plans for you too so because he has tomatoes that you chew here's what happens he goes to war early he's trust prank you from your childhood why because he knows that God has already spoken something about you he's already prophesied over your life so he goes to war from the womb that's good as if he goes to war from the womb from the inception tried to fight see I can always tell when it's gonna be a good word because there's war from the inception there's war from the birthing of the world there's more for the beginning of service come on we can find a child I got this little levels nonsense yeah but always tell us what trying to train people keep your focus you know but keep your focus because the enemy is trying to throw you off balance and throw you off center so that you don't receive from God and if you get frustrated Oh what he's doing you're gonna miss but God already did you know Homer then I said if you get frustrated over what the enemy is doing you might just miss what God has already done he already prophesied he said before I formed you he didn't wait for you to come a fetus is that before I followed you in the belly I already knew you I already called you I already ordained you so why aren't you getting caught up in the warfare what the enemy is doing what God has already done so he starts the war early because he knows that God is smoking but destiny over all of our lives so because we're so impressionable as children these are the formative years as we terminus psychology this is where a lot of issues especially rejection have their genesis until these things are dealt with by the route they'll continue to produce fruit II caught it said until those things are dealt with by the route that would take it just reduce food I need to have this as a side product or something you miss them just because you're not a child anymore does it mean you're not still being affected by childhood stuff so just because you're not a child anymore does it mean you're not still being affected by childhood stuff you only heal what you reveal so why did I say that we'd all have some stuff that's buried that we like to forget about that we like to press down and that's why deliverance ministry is so good because it comes to uncover some stuff I recovered to recover so the livers vision of lots of stuff that you thought you forgot about but your mind and your body never forgot it so once the deliverance ministry happens those things come to the surface and I'm enough to go to the healing ministry and even counseling and therapy sometimes to deal with the effects of what was uncovered so again it don't just give it the halter it doesn't mean because you shouted about it it doesn't in at the different session it doesn't end at oh wow I'm free I feel free they say a feeling you have to do what maintain that deliverance are walking out the healing process okay let's go back to the world for Esau we see it at the world I said it earlier we said at Sunday he didn't lose the inheritance outside of the womb he lost it in the world right oh this is about inheritance honor this is about what God has already said about you what God has already done for you in terms of prophetic destiny it was prophesied that the younger would rule the elder so he was just living out Esau was just living out the things that were prophesied over him say something say it again Esau was just living out in his infancy in his childhood in his adulthood he's just living out what was what prophesied over him okay question what was prophesied because he saw big well prophesied spoken over you okay maybe you missed that train what was prophesied was spoken over you things like you're worthless do you never be anything I never wanted you but you were a mistake I really wanted a girl I'm really one of the boy these are not only word curses these to come so wolves so injuries wow these are planted seeds that need to be dug up by the root and if you this there is an emotion don't misters there is an emotion attached to every workers there's an emulsion attached to every memory and what we are as humans but we are nothing but walking memories we're walking memories waiting to be triggered most of us are key members and religion has told us that we could discover it we do ministry over many times projection is what's driving us anyway it's the spirit of rejection that's driving us anyway though I will prove them wrong become successful I am now so Society has even taught us that not just religion I call it the deception of success what does it profit a man to gain the world that's Matthew 16:26 so there is the Greek word suit Cain is where we get our word psyche is whether we're a psychology comes from it's talking about your soul is your mind so it's not just talking about salvation losing your soul in that memory is that what does it promise you to gain all of these things and lose your mind but when rejection is driving you rejection should never be a motivating factor I'm gonna prove them wrong should never be your own abating factor my purpose should be my motivating factor it's about what you got to get a new car driving down a street so we define ourselves you know how let me really just you know how I'll do rejection have been pulled up and I was all over living in those and fix you want to know how a lot of minutes of things have happened this year and then you never knew about it unless I told you you know it here this community some things I did tell y'all I got a brand new car the showroom floor I don't think I've ever posted the car on Facebook this is a 2019 then all the people you see I will go now but I'm just use it they said I've been looking back does that define who I am they rejected passing oh let them eat most is not me big sister hello I've moved got a raise got two raises got a new car and I've never had to show it because I never had to prove to anybody that I was on the cover I did it all in silence I don't have anything to prove if you find out you found out yeah is that so what begins to happen is we define ourselves by what we do and what we have accomplished and that's not when we really are most of the times we don't know because of rejection this is something I said Sunday and I'm gonna rephrase it because of rejection sometimes people really know who we are but you hear that because of rejection we don't really know who we are how can I say that Sunday rejection is not only a destiny thief is an identity thief I think sometimes it does to be killer and identity thief okay now good when he's in deep breaths the spirit of rejection we I gave you the thing about double mindedness right and we talked a little bit about the world we don't come back I'm gonna take a break because I don't know dude relax let's just deal with a lineup matter the spirit of rejection also opens up the door for the orphan spirit okay so make no event a spirit of rejection also opens up the door of what the orphan spirit so we dealt with double mindedness which is the gateway with motional stability so you got one thing leads to another one thing leads to another don't deal with that root but it also opens you up for the orphan spirit watch this listen carefully we've been talking about my spiritual inheritance we still in this series because it's all related and if you connect to the dots you will see that but listen to this orphans don't receive an inheritance John 14 and 18 Jesus said I will not leave you as orphans but I would come to you it's hard for orphans to receive love because they feel unworthy they feel disconnected they feel like they don't fit and feel like they don't alone it's the orphan spirit it has a root in rejection carpet so rejection will leave you feeling unworthy need this picture again John 14 18 Jesus said and I'm gonna come back to them Jesus said I will not leave you as orphans I will come to you so rejection will leave you feeling unworthy and that opens you up for something else that we mention Sunday apathy apathy is indifference like about Esau I've been taking a leave it I'm about to die what what used to my house what inheritance mama don't like me anyway you've been with a story David Tisza you turn it together because Rebecca bob was there clear Rebecca loved Jacob and sent him up to receive well she did just split it in her heart her heart is tired action so if I would have let me anyway so I don't know by the time what used to happen is inheritance but the bottom was clear that Isaac loved Esau so we had favoritism in the house what happened he says this is what you thought was operating in because they're an orphan spirit I can take it illegal what good is it to me what inheritance what destiny prophetic destiny what whatever and that's how we sit at church sometimes it's not making a connection with our spirit because we're wounded in our soul does that make sense so God has to heal us completely without debate home but what does it but what great here the kingdom all right I might let it make it gotten even talking to me do you know how many people sit in church and they're saved and they're not even sure that God loves them they say it they read it they've heard it preached but they're disconnected from the B idea they can't get it in their head that God really loves me that's projection that's the orphan spirit they're still operating is Orpheus they have not received I will give you three scriptures here they have not received the spirit of adoption that's talked about in Romans 8 and 15 Romans 8 and 15 is this when you have not received the spirit of bondage again to fear but you received the spirit of adoption by whom we cry Abba Father jesus said when you pray pray like this our Father who art in heaven when you don't understand those scriptures in that concept you need to pray write your pasta and prayer is incorrect you go into prayer to feed it already but God will give it to me why you bring it now I'm trying to make this real simple when you that's rejection so people who deal with the orphan spirit listen their relationship with God is that relationship is religion as Laura based his workspace what what does that mean the more I do for God the more you'll love me no that's not how they can you don't be they browsing on this that's not as that's not how that grows see it oh that that's that's how that worked with your parents that's how that worked with our TV all right no that's bad theology the song even says he's a good-good and I loved whatever Moses is we're not orcas we have a father he's album first of three juices but look now are we first John three to two now are we the sons of God Ephesians one at six it says that we have been accepted not reject it that's the opposite we have been accepted Ephesians 1 and 6 that's the future that if you have Duncan Egyptian you need to trip this picture out and post it somewhere that needs to be no meditation scriptures for the rest of the week when the rest of the month if you just want six since we have been accepted in the beloved because of Jesus Christ there's no more separation between us and our family farm we have been exempted we were not a people but now we are people because of Jesus make sense so you got to repeat that until that gives it to your spirit and today I was sitting somewhere the Lord said to me tell them to stop making me trying to make me pay for the appearance that weren't there for their parents I didn't love the book no the baby have a loving trusting relationship with me and I'm not like their natural merits know who that was for but healing the delivers has got to come to these waters because if not it makes us distant from God our Father oh and here's here's a thing y'all did I don't get another one here here's the thing about the spirit of the orphan not only if the author does not have a mother or a father they also don't have a family Miss America now holy you orphans not have a mother or a father but because they don't have a mother or father they also disconnected and family so we're in in in church we are in the body of Christ and we start talking about things like community teen teen ministry what community what team is be myself and I'm not just about rejection so no matter paint process if you've not been delivered from the spirit of rejection and if you've not dealt with that soul that's in you it'll make sense to you you don't register because you still are thin but acts twenty or thirty twos we get the first something of this series next twenty or thirty two it tells us that our inheritance is among the sent it's a month the brother in the sister in mom it's about the community now by yourself come on destiny connections yeah oh this is together but will you up really the spirit of rejection now that makes sense to you is our foreign you know but I can't even process it so you miss all of the emeritus you miss everything I'm asking you that's cool of people like I thought this was different customer this about people come back after here in the world of Sunday and I've recovered to the own tradition follow-up as if this Sunday in earlier tonight then Rajesh it can happen something move it can start in the world right if you don't get healed if you don't get delivered you're now carrying around the wound of bitterness right neuroscience teaches us that we are wired for connection I said that girl gave it and the Bible teaches us that for justice science comes along in we think we're smart but God has allowed us to have this missile we are wired for connection neuroscience is just a discipline that studies that the function of the nervous system and the brain ok so we are wired for cognition watch this it starts in the woman whatever kind of baby he is lucky and just kind of look up at the baby and get you an example okay it starts where connection starts in the woman I'm going to walk you through some of this as you can you can get a real-life example and you can kind of understand yourself babies connect with their other from the one right this work their attachment now if you better know psychology plans we've heard that word before around me attachment although I mix it in religion yes I what we've been doing anything working abscess get wisdom but all by getting get understanding so we'll get some good understanding we perish who's a boy I'm like what so let's go to the room let me flow our flow amen thank you very much attachment theory attention before I go into attachment I want to let you know something we are products of our environment yes you know we promise of our environment this is called shaping this is this old argument nature versus nurture psychology 101 and they come from the environment over or did they come out like that come on scripture back that up Thomas 51 David said I was born in sin the follow shapen in iniquity so watch this here's the revelation wife fix us situations shape us people shape us Travie and rejection is a trouble rejection shapes us it shapes our personality is shaped by identity and who we are what happens to us matters it doesn't have to define us but it matters it's a part of our story so what does this have to do with attachment theory attachment theory States and I'm over briefs to this if you need a better definition you can get with me after but I'm trying to say that I'm gonna push through attachment theory states or is a theory Revit of human development that basically states that the way we connect with our parents governs the way that we have relationships later in life particularly our mothers okay the way we connect Peretz covers the way we have relationships later in life attachment theory also says that the way we connect with our parents are their nurtured by our parents it affects how secure we feel about ourselves okay so it's about relationships with other people and it's how I feel about myself well what if I was rejected it would take a detour the Colet is a form of abuse and a form of rejection neglect is a form of abuse and rejection so let's break this down if you have a parent here take your caregiver who neglected you ignore you that includes adoption giving you up giving you to another relative talks of abortion distant parents if you have a parent or caretaker who did not meet your needs whether you realize it or do not that had a profound effect on you either too distant if you did not walk because even a process in determines how you normally deal with them but how you deal with other people does that make sense mmm this is and also determines what you do to get your needs met what does that mean because a child who doesn't get their needs met the correct way will result to alternative ways to get their needs met so so example the child that that's acting out and we call them bad will never use mr. Romeo the child is acting out that we called in the bag are they really bad or are they just a needle attention and how sad is it the only way that they can get a parent or caretaker our teacher to pay attention to them is to act that yeah I thought pastors do this too because the universe would feel like they have to act out there like I'm saving they have the act out they have to cause confusion they have to cause chaos to get attention designate that me it needs to be met that's deep-seated that some human behavior stuff that man the pastor's have to understand beyond knowing how to look at home amen okay some people don't know what to do unless they are defined that's how they raise that's what they feel comfortable deal so that the brain needs to be healed to change because that's all they're they're accustomed to so attachment is what makes us feel secure and safe as infants and children is the bun that we're supposed to have with our parents when a child is first born they typically want the child to be next to whom the mother one to bond with the woman they just hang on so things like I'll give it your birth and you know postpartum depression or if they keep that from happening but the ideal situation is that the child immediately burns with whom now they're different attachment styles I want to give you three main ones that I deal with in the book now these are research phase this is not something you know Kayla would off the top of them here this is things that people researched after observing children I want to give you these three really quickly the first attachment style is secure attachment secure attachment now all this is on Google and is it the book not trying to sell the university payment secure attachment now secure attachment that sounds pretty good right okay the next one is a belated attention it so avoidant attachment it is where the child doesn't really desire the baby rather doesn't really desire just be close to the mother and they're not distressed by her absence and I'm really sure you know that's their something a couple of weeks ago can't remember what I was preaching about but I said I was talking about connection I believe I said you know it's natural for a child to cry when the mother leaves the room okay that's an attachment style that's the secure attachment but when they were doing this research many years ago what they observed with some children is that when the mother left the room the bank is didn't care now what is that to me these are babies they can't talk we're looking at how you attach to mother the third one is ambivalent attachment eight lviv al e TM bill Alerts attachment now this one is the most complicated because this is a combination of both positive and negative emotions if it's the child doesn't know what to do as it relates to their relationship with their mother as it relates to the attachment because the inconsistency in care of the mother has the child confused so when the mother comes in goes they don't know what the mother comes back in the room okay does the mother want me to come back to her but does she want me to sell the amount my business your content so I'm a little word searching I've been different so people are have attached to Paris like this so we still talk about the woman rejection you see something that inheritance trust me when you see people who are kept going that this type of attacking style early in life here's what you see they have a love-hate relationship with a big way they love so it is disability like this is power my me to issue it to me I'm a demanding that goes back to can you I don't have a saddle in order to do this answer what do you want see how this stuff that happens in our child mule affects us see how rejection starts sometimes of the world good and the third trimesters of pregnancy the fetus starts to include psychologically what does that mean it means that things start to get passed down from the mother to the baby so the child starts picking up on everything that the mother does it feels so attachment and bonding starts in the womb it starts with that fetus so watch this if the mother has a stressful pregnancy who feels that if there's abuse that baby picks it up the womb of rejection if the mother drinks now we know this one this is fit properly and what the drinks was gonna develop fetal alcohol stroke these are the things that are passed down from mother to fetus is called prenatal trauma let's go back to stress if the mother is stressed out the entire tomorrow for pregnancy living in a stressful environment working living with people who are stressing her out stressed out about pregnancy just overwhelmed in general guess who picks it up the fetus Oh turns out the old people were right get off your feet stop stressing the baby out you heard know people say that okay they were right they even have the science but they were right some of those I want to give you this may be a little more scientific but I just kind of threw this in here also what the mother is stressed the front brain of the fetus does it develop properly what is my front brain is my thinking it's not reasoning it's my emotional control and attention ok challenges fan they kick me attention okay what was the mother doing whether the mother had gone a little see how all this starts in a woman trauma it's passed down abuse can start in the world trauma can start in the world and so can rejection so if the child is not loaded let's go back to projection if the child is not loaded think about those he that are going to deliver us with the shoppers think about that questionnaire that she filled out think about that it has questions on that I call it an assessment cuz I'm in the psychological field and that's basically what it is but think about those questions it asks did you pond with your mother right no what's the other things that ask I look at that word it answer you premature doesn't it or whatever wedlock adoptive thinking about a portion were you the right six and some of us were confused about that what it was asked it was okay when they planted for a girl you were boy why are those pushed us being ends because guess who's speaking other than up all that rejection the fetus of a baby stone attached will the children are born with Trustees relationship and connection issues problems managing and regulating their emotions some some issues that we have a way back to the world this is deep stuff look at my role we are some Isaac in Jesus name because neuroscience teaches us that the brain can be repaired somebody recently crazy and not dedicating it by dealing with the and confronted it almost signed our soap box out that right here when people start telling oh don't go signal five inches we'll put you on a bunch of medication you listen to somebody don't know what the world ain't talking about you listen to a religious nut because but you have deep trauma like that and you go and see somebody beneficently the first thing they're not going to do is put you on medication because that doesn't heal you that not you that's what religious will to take home you're gonna see a shrink them happier now that medication please tell me what they talk about so the brain can be prepared not by meditating but by dealing with it so science teacher suspend but I'm afraid teaches us that healing is to chew up its bread right and Jehovah Rapha is the Lord who heals us so it doesn't matter what happened to you as a child if you hooked up with your of Arafah heal they can't take place a man stopped me but sometimes we need to be aware we need to be aware of what's going on with us and going on open inside of us I think we don't deal with this I lose you say this all the time if you don't know your stuff we'll deal with you some other legitimate convinced I got some stuff to deal with Gamow say about I gots to come on we got some stuff to deal with we guys have stuff to pull up by the room okay couple more things have I'll be done you know saturate no y'all and builder I like using words amen let's talk about the root of business very briefly let me touch on this for the sake of community right for the sake of capital for the sake of teams the sake of business because I could work it together this will even help you get your interpersonal relationships as if something Sunday and I kept drilling it even in the clothes I said there's no need for us to fight amongst ourselves we were all in the same house and we're all entitled to the pure juice but the spirit rejection that starts as a rule will keep you at war with yourself and then at war with the people around you but it's really yourself that you get more with it it's not the people around you is you okay Hebrews 4:15 we read this Sunday he was 12 and 15 New Living Translation it says look after each other so that no one of you fails to receive the grace of God watch out that no poisonous root of bitterness grows up to trouble you corrupting me so what we often fail to realize is that whitter in a gathering when you're the Google people a church a team of business whatever though there's strength in numbers and in blessing farmers on unity correct what we gathered understand this we are gathering a collection of issues somebody called me I say we've gathered a collection of issue all these issues have come ever in one place he was at stupid 47 so we know all that the book of Acts chapter 2 it entails do you know extend it to look at Acts chapter 2 but acts 2.47 it says something like this and he added souls to the church daily such as should be saved when it says he added Souls I always tell people look under the other side of it especially leaders and when I say this the latest they're like hold on when they see new people come in when I see crowds people coming they say Oh God because here's what you need to look at when the Bible says and he hadn't souls to the church notice it didn't say he had a spirits does we are saved we don't have to regenerate his spirits but we all got the Holy Ghost so if he had his spirits we'd all be good but it didn't say he had his spirits they said he had his souls what is I'm so little because our mind is our we lose our emotions cuz all I miss so he had his souls to the church so anytime God is added to the church he's adding people with problems don't catch time don't you got a group of people with a group of issues even embarrassing relationships you got a not a group but you've got two people let's make it play you got two people with issues coming together trying to become a one it's the same concept when you understand that you understand this here that sometimes it's not you it's them sometimes it's not there as you watch this oh it is submissive art okay what do you mean when God told Noah build the ark he built it you put his whole family on there you put all the panels on there God shut the door is sealed it so it was a church it was a community but we don't want to work together there's no way to get our myths out the art can't we just think about that so us and all my heart we all hold it together all the animals stick and you stink too okay so if you brought your soul your shoes to the table and I brought mine hello some time but I got a deal with me I'm not you but I got a deal with me if I don't deal with me operate in the wrong spirit and I can sport the whole gathering that's why he said be careful that no root of bitterness you ruining and spoiling many people because I have a responsibility to deal with me if I don't deal with me my issues that go spread all over the arc why are they acting like that it's not you why they treat me like that it's not you can I help me it's not me they're at war with themselves and you're an easy target you got it's not you miss them it's a reflection of what's going a little bit inside of them they're dealing with their own issues and it's manifesting on the outside you're just an easy target you just never ejector that was in the screen projector it just you just described the other projector and latex trying because that lashing out y'all connected all this because when you deal it with the scooter projection and you're not going to deal it with it you usually don't regulate emotions will some other thing you know do is the lash power and other people stop right either single or human brain and you got a partner we the Holy Spirit to do your part additional big fish my brain is being healed amen so so that's how sometimes I know we're not healed the way we bite and devour one another in church in families in marriages in communities were lashing out at one another because healed people don't lash out at work our clients an hour too late as in heal people collisions chapter 5 verse 14 through 15 of it is DVDs and since the whole wall is is sucked up and this one commandment love you late but has yourself but if you are always fighting and devouring one another watch out beware and you also don't destroy one another so we're given a model of the new testament of love forgiveness you should not be reach monetized in church commissions 5 14 and 15 the Bible says the strong lot of every infirmities of the weak we are helpers one to another I think we don't do that then we're gonna all stay in immaturity so my pitch is honey you don't know what I've been through can I help you although it's y'all been rejected we all been through something let's not start the comparing trembles club well I got hurt order you I got rejected okay we all been there let's get healed together come on sister how do I give you Wednesday they're really great things how do I give you number one get the book just Halloween as we've talked about - what all days what's the hell we just got a big mouth with today but really at time I'm gonna do this my big it but I don't how are you do have a word acknowledgement so I'm not acknowledged I think we've done some of that but you have to do that most have to acknowledge part of a rejection route I still have this amount of work to do Excel makes sense they first have to acknowledge the first step to healing is self-awareness after acknowledge where I am and what's going on with me number two I said I would be quickly action I said actually because we must didn't stay in acknowledgment I talked about either the book house without the where rejection as a badge of honor what does it be ain't nobody ever done that different me I had to do it for myself rejection was my protection see I'm sick of all these hate of messages you got a bunch of wounded people looking for audience validation so he was rejected I was rejected - let's get together how I reject the church but that one is a lie let's get together out of rejected conference y'all all messed up so acknowledgment should move you into action mixes so once I acknowledge hey I guess is new information tonight I got some new understanding that I was about understanding that been open that should move you into action to do something here are some actions number three so number one was it Maoist me at number two was action here are the action is the actual actions number three community all these followers three community we are healed in permissiveness if you can hear over and over again alright we are healed in community we grow in community and community is the last thing rejected hurt wounded people wanna do because I want to be by myself I want to be on my own why did it in this way okay James 5:16 it says confess your faults one to another so that you may be healed so community is what we need for many healthy relationships is what happens in community reestablishing what it looks like to have boundaries what it looks like to trust to people okay this is what view of people do they have healthy relationships but you hear what I said I said you know people at work and all the relationships the only people to heal things isolation is a trick of the enemy he won't she find herself he won't you alone so he can pick you up but we should our unified we're stronger together so even when I say get a community I'm not talking about joining again the rejected Club that's an even more so trick you gotta be like us to get in here okay you may reject it okay let's get together and let's have a club I was gonna be crazy we get rejected okay this must be rejection together and they know about it being healed you aren't just in a circle in a cycle that's not healthy either I thought you said it in a relationship not like that come I say healthy relationships the next thing I haven't listed is 18 so a this community be forgiveness and walking in love every day first Corinthians 13 forgiveness is a choice it's not a feeling said that last sighted mark last if you waited to feel like forgiveness about it you may go never do it's not a feeling it is a choice to vent the other person go let them go on their offenses so now you're free to deal with you and yourself and how what they did affected you so forgiveness is a choice as good as a decision that you make a decision to walk in love into the least in my heart at least once' man so be forgiveness and walking in love see reconnect with your identity this is a good one reconnect with your identity because inside of your identity is your purpose and your destiny I said it again inside of your identity is your purpose and your destiny your course so rejection is a destiny killer again and as an identity thief it arrives you of your identity trauma abuse neglect it robs you of your identity so you have to reconnect with who you actually are outside of what happened to you because what if it is to happen if you you'll start defining yourself by what happened to you instead of who you actually are does that make sense so you have to begin to go to God and let me reveal your opportunity to you in a very practical sense but I'm walking people do this and I think I did this at the retreat that we just did it was Friday we did the exercise Who am I so our guess is that question Who am I using I am statements so that they can reconnect with who they are at the core of their being beyond their trauma that won't be on dentistry beyond what happened to them Who am I as a person and that what should do it here the process alright D address your thinking your thinking from verse 23 and 70 as a man thinketh in his heart so is he your life follows that you get to get your thoughts whether you're buying this point that's where your life is following so you have to be intentional about renewing your mind daily because the myth her rejection to - of course rejection changed the way that you thought the way that you believe about life about yourself about other people so you got to be intentional about what we do in your mind or some people renewing your mind includes counseling and therapy there's absolutely nothing wrong that harbors 1114 I think says their safety and a multitude of counselors Amen for doing your mind also includes the word Romans 12 it G so to renew my mind I have to get in the word as well and back to the science science teaches us that this is how our brain begins to change this is how we begin to cut new pathways in our brain by receiving new information and not just receiving that information but also a body that information that sounds like prescription don't just be hearers of the word Dewar's also so if you get new information if I eat nothing tonight you think you just said he receipt no if you really receive it hear it and apply it it literally cuts a pathway in your brain a pecker is like the lane in your brain and it happens by repetition that's what you need to read that's why you need to write because as you write you know if you remember every call things better why is that because your brain is operated by repetition that makes sense our content so the more you do something the more your brain says oh this is how it's supposed to be so the whole you read your word among the more your brain says oh this is how it's supposed to be and this is what I need to know make sense so until the corners know if you have problems that's just do something the easier circle always pork we haven't problems with anger you know find a prescription later and start rehearsing think out loud so your brain can get the message out this is what we're supposed to do come on that's the science behind retention call me the sign sometimes II prayer and the word we just did that you just talked about that not a patient go back not a beige equal back that you're not in the presence of your father not a patient on that you trying to heal rejection how am I gonna do that we already established who the father is now additional father - none of the presence of our founder intentionally in his premise intentionally seeking him and not from a serpent slave - ever from a sight ship - a a relationship that we come boldly come up to the throne of grace so that's the last one intentionally in his presence so don't let what happened in the womb and your childhood in life keep you from possessing what God says is yours necessity of divine spiritual inheritance so healing and deliverance must come tonight my responsibility was to help you understand that rejection started alone and those things that we dealt with as children just because we are out of it than me morality how we really dealt with it and the deliverance that we're receiving either the personal delivers that some of us are receiving even in this ministry a personal intercession i love it there's a balanced approach to that healing of the difference go together being healed helps me to walk out the deliverance process and i never go back to what I was aiming give kind of a kind of break [Applause] [Music] about maybe right at home tonight at the wordlessly receipt or the Opera Prayer over these as they have heard the words and as they received the word tonight on G became to do a deep cleansing thank you thought that should begin to do a deep work on the inside and I'm thinking well that our past does not define us but with that we'll move it forward God assessing our inheritance and we're possessing a divine destiny in the name of Jesus God but I hope this word to go down I'm even an epic course where we may have been overwhelmed or missing things that help us to connect the dots even throughout the week and also that clarity can come that the eyes of our understanding can continue to be open and that fruitfulness feet aren't pushing it this season in the name of Jesus father I thank you God no matter what has happened to us no matter what we bit through it no matter what the enemy has sent our way gotta keep our way because they're fifty over us and that before we eat with or and concede that you have spoken destiny over our lines and so God we thank you tonight with divine destiny we thank you for listening and we think that each don't manifest and nothing shall hold us back in this season and we can be praised glory and honor in Jesus name [Applause]

Channel: Joshua P. Smith

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Keywords: psychology, trauma, rejection, attachment styles, spirituality, therapy, counseling, faith, emotional health, deliverance, neuroplasticity

Id: nCdFUDKLU_0

Length: 91min 9sec (5469 seconds)

Published: Sun Jan 12 2020