Tony Robbins Saves A Marriage - 8 Minutes

I'm having a lot of conflict about what I should do what I should have believed and I'm scared to death to go home I don't want to be in this situation to have to go home and say to my daughter daddy's not gonna be living here anymore and my wife had a big fight which we still haven't resolved I spoke to my daughter about my daughter's five and half years old she said I'll miss you daddy I said I'll miss you too darling look really love you and then so come speak to mommy and so don't miss you Jose oh I said you missed me I've been really busy I want to be with my wife I love my wife but we don't have that many things in common we've got a lot of different things that we value and that word that we're interested in what's gonna happen when you go there have to make a decision and what's changed I'm working even harder when I don't do you know really early mornings to late nights I've got outside interests as well which she doesn't like what are your outside interests I play in a band but you could be there because you could give up the man yeah and she'd like you to do that yeah what instrument you play guitar tell me what it feels like when you play the guitar look at that what did you just ice it's astonishing yeah just honest thing that's a great word it's like being a god it's like being a god yeah and when you go home with your wife how significant you feel what do you think the chances him giving up the band are yeah no way no he'll give her up before he'll give up the band we had a fight about that about a year ago it was a case of you will do something about this or else and we came to a compromise and what was that compromise that I would only play you know three times a month sometimes I see she's saying here's something that makes him feel like a god and the maximum you couldn't be God like us three times a month and here's what I want from you by the way I love you but she wouldn't see it that way I'm sure because what she's saying is you're not here with your family you're not here with me and I'm here with your kids and I know whatever she has a different perspective fairly but I want you to see his window on the world first do you love your wife yes why'd you pause I'm questioning it the reason he's questioning it is because he's not fulfilled their sob I'm gonna fulfill how could I love her and if she doesn't want me to be completely fulfilled how can I love her and even if I love her too I don't want to believe I love her because then I'm trapped how far off am I I know well if I asked your wife what's her name Andrea if I asked Andrea score kneel for me how significant does he make you feel let's do that what a switch hat you're in her body right now and I'm asking you Andrea tell me about Neil over there how significant is he make you feel zero to ten you know when he leaves never comes home it's the band more important than you are he knows I hate that rock music and wants to go play it anyway maybe it's three three does he love you yes he does how love do you feel though these days zero to ten by him three three and how certain are you that he's gonna stay and love you thanks 4 9 8 or 9 how certain do you feel though in moments about that sink a night you're thinking is yourself right now how many ladies agree with me raise your hand this is where you're deluded how much variety is he bring home to you surprise desires playfulness you don't expect to serve you to light you up zero to ten five five how much you guys growing together no zero Sarah how much do you feel like he's trying to contribute to you from your perspective Andrea probably zero so here's a man who wants to contribute nothing to you on a zero to ten things for a three and importance when a deuteron thinks you're a three of love yeah give you a five a variety but he's sticking around it at a what would you want to do to him Neil if you were her changing will get rid of him well you're thinking like a man with a get rid of him part he was the father of your daughter are you really gonna just get rid no idea yes you do is he the source of your security financially yes are you gonna get rid of him he's the father of your daughter and he's the source of your survival are you gonna get rid of him no no what are you gonna do when you feel insignificant and unloved and uncontrolled each Ange make him change you're right how are you gonna do that what tools do you have in your arsenal make him stay at home more often how you gonna make him stay at home give him an ultimatum gave an ultimatum what's the ultimate even say it says it's you you spend more time at home and you don't go off playing with the bunt or or I leave and take your daughter with you oh no she'll probably say oh you leave and I'll keep your daughter yeah what's her nature not when you're frustrated with her when she's feels herself not when she's stressed what's her nature she's very creative in her own way you know she's she's into art she paints she doesn't do it often enough because she always says she's not good in our favor no say it you know the stuff you do is fantastic let's put it up on the wall you should sell this to a gallery you could you should exhibit I'm not good enough I'm not good enough but that's the female form women do that with each other oh yes you are no I'm not yes you are ho no Yorba no you're better no one I'm not betting a better that's one Downs Minh ship she's begging for your attention yeah which I get I don't know but she wants so much more so do you like that nature that artistic nature does that appeal is it I love it in fact isn't that part of your nature if she follows but she represses it on herself no she's begging for you to be your man and show her the artist inside she's begging for that goals in life her goals are - no idea I've no idea what goes on so you can't leave you have no clue you've been too focused on yourself even your good man until you've gone and giving everything you have as a man to fill up those six needs with her attends you can't walk away because you haven't done what's necessary and you know it that's why you're on the fence because you'd really done everything you would have left because you're a smart man and you're strong man what does it take for her to feel loved what is she really after in this life you fill her up so much that she wants to give to you now and she says honey go to the band go go do it twice a week but you won't know until you give completely and totally no-holds-barred that woman needs to be lit up and even if she wasn't the right woman for you the next 90 days should be the greatest 90 days of her life word never has a man given her more attention and focused and caring and love and you tell her after those 90 days this is what I need honey can we make this work and you'll know the truth at that point what do you think Sunshine State fine but first fill her up like she's never been filled up then decide give a hand like I was very low on the list of priority even though I would never admit but now it's completely switched around so I just think it's amazing we have a winner [Music] [Music] you [Music]

Channel: Robbins-Madanes Training

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Keywords: tony, robbins, anthony, tickets, seminar, coaching, life, wife

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Length: 8min 26sec (506 seconds)

Published: Sat May 22 2010