Neil deGrasse Tyson Reveals Daily Ritual for Happiness & Life Purpose | E205

we just spent half hour talking about this and I hardly ever talk about it why it's not wrong I didn't say it was wrong okay world renowned astrophysicist turned TV host he's a man with the answers to the toughest questions on the planet and of course best-selling author in the last 50 years we've increased life expectancy 20 years there will be a time where Homo sapiens have achieved escape velocity from Death that generation will never die unless you're hit by a bus that brings to you the question if you could live forever would you how different the world would be what are the things that you are most concerned about with the direction of travel of the human race a lot of things so there's some delusional Force operating on people's understanding of the world in which they live if you post an opinion on anything it gets attacked do you see what happened with Neil deGrasse Tyson she tweeted something that many people took great offense to part of what it is to be a scientist is figure out all the ways you could bias yourself and remove them as far as possible don't let it interfere with objective truths but what's the personal toll on you I don't know why he tweeted that stupid and awful he's just a weird Twitter lunatic is it how long can I keep talking about before this episode starts I have a small favor to ask from you two months ago 74 of people that watch this channel didn't subscribe we're now down to 69 my goal is 50 so if you've ever liked any of the videos we've posted if you like this channel can you do me a quick favor and hit the Subscribe button it helps this channel more than you know and the bigger the channel gets as you've seen the bigger the guests get thank you and enjoy this episode [Music] oh yeah [Music] I have always believed that to fully understand a person you have to understand their origin story maybe that's a similar sort of analogy for the universe so the place I wanted to start with you is by understanding the most important context from your earliest years that are responsible for the person that is sat in front of me today wow this is a very Marvel Comics of you like what's the origin story of Superman Batman Spider-Man uh your question is very well placed because everyone who's been touched by some series of events unfortunately some for some people traumatic events but for all people some series of events that shaped who they are and I'd like to say that there was a series of events that planted the seeds of who I would become but I I wouldn't say that they were responsible I mean it requires a lot of continual investment of time energy and focus to shape a career rather than say oh it happened then and I'd just been coasting ever since no that's not how that works so I grew up in the Bronx and in New York City surely as is true in London you don't have a relationship with the night sky in a busy City you at least certainly in New York City there were tall buildings if you look up to see the sky there's a building in the way there's light pollution there's and back then there was air pollution so since no one has a relationship with with the night sky then one can ask what is your access to it of course it's our local planetarium the Hayden Planetarium and I my family my parents my brother and sister there was a tactical strategic thing my parents did I didn't know it at the time but every weekend or every other weekend we went places we were exposed to all manner of things that talented adults do Beyond just the doctor lawyer you know engineer Beyond those standard professions so first it was entertaining but it also meant we had exposure to other ways of thinking about what you might do with your life one of those trips when I was nine years old was to the Hayden Planetarium and I was Star Struck you sit in a big chair and the lights dim and the stars come out more stars than you can count and I thought it was a hoax I said there aren't that many stars I've seen the night sky from the Bronx you're lying to me and only later what I learn upon going deep into the rural areas of the country we have relatives in the Caribbean we visited there I'd see the night sky as nature intended it's day when I have access to Great telescopes on mountaintops and I look up at this crystalline clear night skies I still say to myself oh that is so beautiful it reminds me of the Hayden planetarium so it's a uh I know that's kind of a sad commentary on what it is to grow up in a city but it's I feel like the universe chose me and since I was nine years old onward I have committed my life to learning more and more about the universe and that that's the the most important seed that was planted cyrillan Sun cheetah is that your parents Cheryl is my father and son cheetah is my mother correct what was the influence that they individually had on you from the from almost vicariously learning from them but also the direct influence they had on you they were immoral influence a cultural influence and I will add not that you explicitly ask this but I think it fits right in this moment um consider the period the 1960s you could go one of two ways if you're an angry black man it's like you can raise your fist and threaten violence as a retaliation of the violence against you or you can find some other way that doesn't involve violence that involves some kind of Peace some kind of understanding and my father and while he grew up in the 30s and 40s he served in a segregated Army okay so the stuff he lived through and while I have my own stories none of them compare to his average story yet at the end of the day he was never bitter I remembered him saying when you look at the images of angry white people screaming at black children entering a school who are protected by the National Guard because an edict had to be delivered to grant them access to education he would say they simply don't know any better they were raised that way you want to hate them and my father never hated never so I go through life and at least several times a week every week of my life growing up I have stories today they would call them microaggressions but then it was just same different day but I never got bitter because you asked what influence do they have on me it was the non-bitter influence you say that's they don't know any better they think they're doing the right thing maybe we can make a difference going forward I saw the emotion in your face when you talked about your father yeah it's I think we need that today the world I I reached a point where okay how long can I keep talking about the universe and not bring it down to earth not bring some science principles to people's thinkings they want to tribalize they want to hate they want to choose you want to create laws to restrict your freedoms just because of who you worship or don't worship or who you sleep with or what you look like or what you know how reflective to light your skin color is right what side of a Line in the Sand you were born on I like invoking an alien trope aliens they don't know anything about us they just see this beautiful planet with water on it and continents and clouds and they visit and they say this is cool oh this is one species that's everywhere oh they're very successful they're humans and they're Homo sapiens and heck that's cool and then they get a little closer look and they say oh my gosh what are they there's a war over here why oh because there's some resource on this side that's not over there and they want it there's a coastline there's oil there's this there's a elements in a mine they they they they worship a different God to look at the violence and hatred that we commit upon each other and they'll run back home and tell their fellow alien brethren there's no sign of intelligent life on Earth so anyhow so I've I've yeah my head has been in the stars but my feet have been on Earth my entire life why why does that connect so deep because it's so obvious it connects so deeply with you is that linked to what the resilience to bitterness that your father demonstrated when he was abused and was attacked with racial abuse is that is that the reason why it's so linked so closely to your heart I I don't know um he didn't he didn't burden us with his stories unless we asked or unless it came up in a moment it was it wasn't that way it was I saw his Integrity in the face of what was going on in the world and it's you can a person could be a mentor even if they don't say anything because you can observe them observe their conduct their their behavior their how they respond to adversity do they fight back do they want to commit violence do they want to have a conversation to explore the differences you know I am I'm uh my mother's from Nigeria my dad's from England so I'm of I guess dual ethnicity or whatever the politically correct term is it's called human okay I'm human just say it repeat after me what race are you you're the human race you you just spent 10 seconds telling me how anthropologists liked to divide up the world and force us to then agree with their categories line everybody up from Ghost white to coal black and you'll have a human being of every single skin color in between okay well did you happen to be born over there so you're human tell me which mixture you are I don't give a rat's ass okay you're a human being sitting across the table from me now continue sorry sorry it's your podcast I don't mean to jump all in myself it's fine I'm fine with it and I've I've come to learn about what it was to be black in the 1960s 70s from my guest and it's helped me to understand my mother better because I have to I have my mother didn't react like your father did you talked about my mother was like Nigerian she came to the UK we lived in an all-white area she didn't react like your father did and so it skewed my perspective on on race relations but then from doing this podcast and meeting people like you hearing some of those very specific stories of abuse I almost can't believe it and now I have this huge amount of empathy for my mother because I've sat here with the guests and one of the stories I heard you tell was about your farther competing in athletics and how people would scream the n-word at him while he was running oh yeah so that this was for me one of the most insightful lessons that I got from all the stories from him yes so he uh he was a an athlete actually world-class track uh that's its own story because he he was uh kind of muscular all right certainly in his day not Charles Atlas muscular but relative to other kids in his class in high school he was muscular and they were in their gym class and you line up and getting ready for the next unit right there was gymnastics and then there was like track and field so they had the track unit and that gym teacher pointed to my father on the line and said we're about to do the running unit and just so you know um do you see Cyril Tyson over there the returns he said he has the kind of body that would not make a good runner and he said to himself no one is going to tell me what I can't do in this world and he started running and he became world class and at one point he had the fifth fastest time in the world in his special event so that was that's an important lesson career lesson why are there people running around telling you what you can't accomplish in a free Society I can get it if we're not a free Society but why should anyone tell you what you can't or shouldn't do so that was lesson number one for me but then his best friend also a runner Johnny Johnson was his name uh there's a race Johnny Johnson is running around on the last turn of the track and there's a runner from the New York Athletic Club several Paces behind him the coach of that Runner goes up the side of the track and screams to his Runner as he points to Johnny Johnson ahead of him catch that Johnny Johnson overheard this foreign Johnson said to himself was this is one he ain't gonna catch that's just and increase the distance okay so so that comment from the coach could have done one of two things it could have demotivated you because then you wallow in the racism of the world or it could motivate you to succeed ever since I heard that story every racist encounter I have ever had simply motivates me to succeed all the more period and I see that throughout your story as you go through you know College University um and you go into your post grad there's moments over and over again where people or circumstance encourage you away from what's clearly your passion the thing you're clearly pursuing yeah people didn't yeah and again this is not the kind of racism that the 1950s or 40s you know I wasn't lynched yeah you know so so again I don't want to claim equal I'm trauma to what earlier Generations had experienced but you can get let's call it institutional racism where you don't even racism I'm talking about people trying to put you off your passion telling you that's I call you that racist what I'm saying is they see that I'm athletic I'm athletic most of my life and they can't wrap their head around me being something other than an athlete that they watch on television when I say well I actually like astrophysics but you're so good at this other sport no I want to be in the physics Club no we we need you on the the basketball team and they think they're doing me a favor they think they're saying nice things to me but every one of those is a force operating against my ambitions and so in a way just that my skin color in my life's Arc was a path of most resistance compared to where I wanted to land and by the way I don't we are we just spent a half hour talking about this and I hardly ever talk about it I don't talk about because I don't you know I don't need to maybe if it's a counseling session but I'm perfectly fine I'm a happy guy happily married got two kids and I hardly ever talk about skin color because I I want to make it irrelevant as quickly as I possibly can in every context I'm possibly in so if you're going to invite me to give a public talk in February Black History Month I will decline that invitation if you only think of me as a black scientist then I have failed as a scientist period period uh you want me to oh what do you know how I realized this okay so I will tell you the moment after which I was a different person interacting with the public okay I'm in graduate school there's an explosion on the Sun and the Press it's over the wires press hears about this so they want to get a comment on it explosion on the Sun so they called Columbia the department of astronomy and they're looking for some it was lunch time they were all out to lunch I'm a I'm a grant I'm a doctoral candidate I'm there for my PhD and so the department uh admin is going through the the roster and they get to me say Neil no one is here can you take this call so I said sure and they said oh hello who are you I'm Neil deGrasse Tyson doctoral candidate and astrophysics they say you know there's an explosion on the sun should we be worried I said oh it's a solar flare they happen with some frequency it's a wave of particles coming towards Earth and they said you mean the Earth is fine I said the Earth is fine and they said can you tell us that on camera sure okay we'll send up a limo to pick you up in a half hour and so the whole conversation there was and it was pre-taped I get home I put on the TV and I watched this interview and I had an out of Body Experience I just witnessed something I've never seen before in my life you know what that was it was the news interviewing a black person me who is not an Entertainer or athlete okay interviewing a black person for expertise that had nothing to do with being black the interview didn't say at the end well how do black people feel about solar flares oh does this affect affect dark skin differently none of that it was will Earth be safe and he's getting that expertise from a black person I had never seen that and then I thought well is it just because I'm on TV and I'm a little more aware so I watched for the next two years every time there was a black person brought onto the news for expertise it was someone who's a member of Congress representing a community and they want Enterprise zones for the economics there is someone who is worried about the poverty and the inner city never had an audience seen a black person as an expert oh they would have attorneys but it's talking about a court case about a black person would they ever being a black attorney to talk about a court case about a white person no and I said to myself that's is the answer that's how I we turn an entire world of people who think black people are just dumb and stupid lazy shiftless and all they can do is shine my shoes and entertain me and sing and be the athlete on the field if there was an ever a force to change that it's not people telling them they should think differently it's me being visible in a way where they have no other choice but to say oh my gosh this person knows more about this subject than I do and he has dark skin so the next time they see a homeless black person they're not saying oh black people are just like they have to confront the fact that they just saw a black person tell them that Earth was safe so it's just quite simple the next time you're driving your car and somebody comes up with a squeegee to wash your window at the red light and begs for money and if that person is black maybe you'll think twice about the causes and effects of poverty of the forces that operate that discriminate against one community of people versus another so ever since that moment I have declined interviews that want me because I'm black and even in this interview I'm not entirely comfortable spending a half hour talking about it because it it turns this interview into something about me being black which then is someone hears or hears me for the first time oh let's get him he has all these stories about being black let's get him to talk to this group about in this racial uh in this race conference no I will decline that invitation so let's talk about [Music] um a separate Point what advice would you give me on how you pursue the thing that sets your heart on fire your passion or whatever you want to call it without falling into the OR conforming to the like external pressure to become a doctoral lawyer like I'm thinking about the people that are watching this that have a passion but they don't consider it to be a job as many people didn't consider what you do now to be a job back then and they're being forced by the external words parents expectations social media to go and do something else they don't want to do what would you say to those people I can tell you this that if you don't have I didn't realize when I was nine how unusual it was to be that passionate that young not until I got to college half the people my freshman year didn't yet know what they wanted to major in and I said I'm majoring in astrophysics I say it was that because it was early in the catalog alphabetically of things you might major no I felt this and known this half my life and so I I in college I was sensitized to people who were still looking still searching well we have the benefit of longer life expectancy today than 50 years ago I mentioned this only because if you don't want to be if you don't know what you want to be when you grow up and you're 30 that's just fine but I don't want to have to blame you for not exposing yourself to what you can be when you grow up if you're sitting home watching football and say I don't know what I want to do with my life once you do what my parents did visit a new thing every weekend go on a trip talk to experts in all manner of tasks and you know visit a chef School visit a a geology Expedition do just do things and if you like it you'll probably be better at that than anything else you choose to do because you you will invest even your downtime doing it and as the saying goes pick something you would do for free and make that your career and you'll never live a sad day in your life so that's one variant on a pick something that you love and all the time when other people say you know I need a vacation from this job you you're going to say vacation what's that people say that to me do you want a vacation from from what from the astrophysics you're doing but I like what I'm doing if I'm on vacation I love being on the beach but from the beach I'm thinking about it first it's not to get away from the universe all right not that that could literally happen anyway so that's what I would say you want to be independent minded listen to people's comments people have life experience don't ignore it but what you want to do is fold it in to your own sensibilities provided you have sensibilities to begin with otherwise you become this ping pong ball a batted back and forth between one person suggestion and another in the cover of your book um it talks about the polarization that we're we're seeing in the world at the moment what is you know what is the what are the things that you are most concerned about when you think about the direction of travel of the human race and life here on Earth and what's going on what are the things that trouble you at a very deep level in terms of our direction of travel a lot of things so let me put this in context in science if I put a conclusion forward it's not you're not going to ask me did you look at both sides of that no that's not the question is did you look at all sides of it we have this binary mind where we think oh you're forming are you force or against us is it black or white are you a boy are you a girl is it up or is it down this is intellectually lazy because practically everything that exists in this universe manifests on a spectrum so here's a Here's a thought and you're gonna say well did you look at both no I looked at all sides did you realize that if this changes that could change this and did you did you figure out how sensitive it is to that if I didn't I'm not doing my job as a scientist okay so we live in a Time especially fractured by the forces of social media I say this only because if you post an opinion on anything in social media it gets attacked you'll be people who agree with it fine but the noise and the fireworks are when you get attacked I don't think it used to be that way I think there was a time when I would Express an opinion and you say oh that's interesting here's my opinion uh so why do you think that way and here's why I think that that's interesting I never thought about it that way cool you spend 15 minutes talk comparing and con contrasting opinions then you go out for a beer at the pub this is how I remembered it am I misremembering I I don't think so it could be attacked now what are the consequences what do you actually after by attacking someone with a different opinion oh I know what it is you want everyone to have exactly the same opinion you do well that's not this country either no you know what's on our currency on our currency e pluribus unum okay out of the many we have won not out of the one we have one it is the many it is the plurality pluribus it's Latin okay a plurality means people coexist who think differently about the world and we celebrate that or at least we ought to otherwise we're all the same and we can make a country where everybody's the same and that's called a dictatorship is that really what it really think through fully the consequences of that let me get back to the violence part I want to do on the point of social media you had a you had a tweet that you did that went viral that got attacked right I mean there was one in particular that I think was was attacked him on the others I can't even remember it off the top it's never my intent yeah to post a tweet that gets attacked of course if it gets attacked it's like I didn't see that coming I I count myself as an educator among the ranks of Educators and my goal is to Enlighten and educate not to anger people so I still maintain a forbidden Twitter file on my computer these are tweets that no I'm not going to post it even though it's true objectively true it would be too upsetting to people is there another way so anytime that happens like oh my gosh okay let me see if I can tune that differently next time but if you know it's true and you believe it's important you still might not post it because it might upset people in ways that are not productive give me an example no no I will quote my father okay it's not good enough to be right you also have to be effective if you're not effective go home doesn't matter if you are in the right so if I post something that just creates more divisiveness I need to find another way to achieve the same goal without the conflict so no I'm not just about put the truth out there and if it if if it triggers landmines so what it's the truth no that's not being an educator I'm really there's a point here I really want to answer for my for my own because something I've been thinking a lot about as we see this polarization in every facet of conversation and public discourse I've started to think that maybe the antidote is the very few amongst us that have the guts to stand by the truth regardless of the hours they take and I'm seeing that a little bit with with some big commentators I shout name names because that'll be a headline but um I'm thinking actually they're like their they're braver I guess in the courage to say the truth regardless of the fact they're going to get piled on because it doesn't fit the narrative is actually helping us it's helping us almost um yeah it's it's helping it moves the needle yeah yeah okay so I I see that I'm just saying I believe however delusionally that you can achieve the same goal without angering people and part of the goal of that book is to offer ways to think about points of conflict in fresh ways that do not trigger people to dig their heels in and fight more ferociously to defend their opinions now I want to put this in context because I started out by describing an idea and you're gonna say did you consider both sides no I consider it all sides I'm people want to think we're in the most violent times can we look at violence against trans the trans community first there was always violence against trans people nobody was talking about it because there's violence against other people there were violence against black people there's violence against women there's there's a whole list of people who were more represented statistically in the world than trans people where we went through periods of our social justice Arc to try to rectify those problems and so the fact that trans rights are on the table now is itself a measure of progress because we're not talking about gay marriage anymore we're not talking under President Clinton one of our more more Progressive liberal presidents do you know what the the thing was it was gays in the military don't ask don't tell that was considered a progressive stance in the 1990s under a liberal president don't ask don't tell now in Qatar with the with the they say we will welcome uh gay people but don't exhibit the gayness in the stands and everyone is jumping all over them for that regressive posture it's exactly what we were 30 years ago don't ask don't tell I don't mind if your gay just don't kiss another man in front of me if you're a man otherwise okay with it all right so what I'm saying is look at the other things that preceded it and you can declare progress having led up to it that's my point not that it's still you don't still have to worry about it and it still needs Solutions and you still have to somehow change people's sense of what equality is and equal access and opportunity and equity and inclusion that all still needs to happen but that is not happening now or less so with black people so there are measures of progress that are kind of perverse but real you know what my father used to say he said I'll know we've achieved equality when a black person can be indicted for embezzlements when a black person can be sent to jail for embezzling 500 million dollars I know we've made it okay okay like it's a perverse measure but it's it's another way to think about the progress that has actually happened in this world all I'm saying is we may be living in some of the safest times there ever was in the history of civilization I don't think we should lose sight of that people are afraid to say it I think because the worry and it's an authentic a legitimate worry that you might just get complacent and sit back and say see everything is fine it requires no more work and no more effort I'm saying Maybe we should pick in addition to worrying about the violence that persists to this day we should look at the successes and say well what did we do right let's do more of that and there's not much of people saying look how far we've come let's list how we achieve this why don't people do that well on Twitter two days ago and the question was do you it was essentially do you feel optimistic about the future I clicked yes and I was in the tiny minority in 78 roughly 70 percent of people I think was slightly more felt pessimistic about the future either worried and fearful about the future right and there's here's another statistic which is in the spirit of that but it's a little more more thorough it was uh Gallup poll one of the I forgot which one it might have been a different one but one of the official polling agencies uh for the past 30 years have asked people each year in the United States um are things more dangerous for you just in your community and in your this year than last year 27 of those years people said it's more dangerous this year than last year I don't feel as safe as I did last year okay now let's plot the crime rate over the past 30 years it has been a precipitous drop this is Trump there's some bumps in there but basically it has dropped for 30 years since the basically the 1980s 90s up until today so there's some delusional Force operating on people's understanding of the world in which they live and then people wanted to blame it I think in part correctly on local news what's the first thing you see you put on not the national the local news um there's a crime committed and that we have video Services you know we didn't used to have surveillance video now you see the person beating up on the old person or the person breaking into the jewelry now you see it you say oh my gosh um you know clutch your blood your loved ones and your valuables our ability to show you violence is greater than ever before and it affects us emotionally part of what it is to be a scientist is to figure out all the ways you could bias yourself and remove them as far as possible as much as you can what is the scientific method if not I give my own wording of the scientific method it's simply do whatever it takes to not fool yourself into thinking something is true that is not or that something is not true that is so I so that poll would have told me I'm going to look at the actual data and I'm going to look at the and I'm going to react to the actual data not to my feelings about an objective truth nothing wrong with feelings it's the source of the greatest art in the world and it's our emotions how we feel for people but if you're going to make legislation if you're going to act on your feelings and there's an objective truth that informs those of feelings that's the path you should take otherwise we're a house of cards that could collapse at any moment because somebody feels like you're gonna harm them or they feel like it's dangerous or they feel like excuse me I love human feelings but don't let it interfere with objective truths don't let it interfere with 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found it on some like dodgy like pirated website and I just I watched I think it was eight episodes security yeah I watched them all that night and I and then I went back and watched the previous one with Carl Sagan um it just captivated me and it has ever since I actually would cite that as my as the start of my fascination with the universe and one of the really profound things I took from it when we're talking about objective truth and feelings is there's a scene in in the documentary where you kind of like zoom out and it keeps going and going and going and going and going and going and it made me talking about objective truth and feelings it made me feel so insignificant I realized that I am objectively irrelevant and that was a wonderful feeling because with that it strips away the the burden of your own self-importance and ego um do we matter so the cosmic perspective is incompatible with your ego okay I should say your ego is incompatible with the cosmic perspective that's the proper way to order that sentence the constant perspective shows you how small we are in size in time in space and if you go in with a high ego you might resist that you might say no I'm important I but I think of it differently the we know one of the greatest Gifts of modern astrophysics to civilization dare I call it a gift is the knowledge that the atoms of your body are traceable not only to the Big Bang origin of the universe itself but especially to Stars that it manufactured those elements and later in their lives on death exploded scattering that enrichment across gas clouds so that their next generation of stars would have planets and on at least one of those planets life so we are not just figuratively we are literally Stardust so when you go out and look up at the night sky yeah your urge is I'm small and that's large and yes you're alive in this universe but there's another way to look at it the universe is alive within you you have kinship with the cosmos that feeling to me is greater than any ego you could have possibly walked into the room with first that feeling borders on spiritual second third we have trained ourselves to equate being special with being different you're special you do something thinks some way that no one else does so I'm special well let me turn that on its head and say maybe we're special not because we're different but because we're the same all humans are Stardust all humans share a chemistry with all a biology with all other life on Earth there's one Genesis on this Earth we have DNA and you have DNA in common with a banana I beg your pardon you can ask well where are the arms and legs no DNA goes deeper than that DNA controls chemistry it controls metabolism it controls all kinds of things that are prescribed in the DNA and that's where we have commonality with other life forms on Earth so why not look around and say I'm not special because I'm a different I'm special because I'm the same as you as others as the tree as the brook as the animals you know the Woodland creatures and we can all sit here and look up at the night sky and say yes we have kinship with the cosmos I feel large because of that not small you mentioned the pursuit of happiness Ali when you're talking about one of the central sort of like Doctrine doctrines of the American dream that pursuit of of happiness and um you know in what you've just said about the Universe I was I was pondering where meaning is derived from so I'll kind of asked the question at the same time this happiness and meaning where does where does that come from in in your perspective what I have found is is an urge people have to search for meaning is it under this rock behind metaphorically right is it under a rock I'm going to search is there meaning that is it behind a tree is if if I join this group well that will be will I find meaning with them if I and I think okay go ahead but what you do is relegating meaning in your life to a search and suppose you don't find meaning that'd be a force of disappointment in your life you're setting yourself up to be disappointed if you don't find meaning so how I have another idea I use this for myself I may or may not work for others I recognize long ago that in a free Society where I'm not enslaved and I'm not you know an indentured servant and I have some freedom of choice that I have the power to manufacture meaning in my life I can make decisions about my own life that create the meaning for me a meaningful life is learning something new tomorrow that I didn't know yesterday otherwise it's a wasted day you know the prisoner who puts x's in the boxes on the wall for the day they get out I have that in my head and the day that I got is the day I die all right and what these boxes remind you of is every day you're alive you're one day closer to death so there's one fewer days in there to accomplish something that you might have wanted to accomplish so I want to keep learning about our world about each other about things I don't otherwise know about and there are people who only read things that they agree with or that they already know about or that it's their their feeding some urge to be on what's the word to be validated I have books on my shelf at my bedside every book is a subject that I either know nothing about or I completely disagree with going into the book I said maybe it'll change my mind learn new ideas okay I once presented that list to the New York Times when they said because I my book was doing well at one point and they try to get authors to talk about other books to keep the book Wheel turning because fewer people are reading today so what books are you reading so on your shelves I've listed the books one of them was uh a book in his in his 30th printing or something it was originally written back in the early 60s I think maybe even the 50s a book by Barry Goldwater it's called the conscience of a conservative and so I'm reading this and people wrote to me after they saw this list they said I didn't know you're a closet conservative I didn't know you're really a republican did you vote for Trump and all of a sudden people were presuming that if I'm reading a book on something that book must be what my whole life is about rather than it's a portal to another place of how people think and what people do so that shocked me actually that because that tells me that most people must have just books that continue to feed their own interests and that is the best way to not grow in this world so one of my measures of meaning is how much more do I know about the world tomorrow than I did yesterday because almost any path you take take will make you wiser as a person so I value wisdom that gives meaning to my life A New Perspective it's not just knowledge no what is the ark it's it's there's there's data data can become information on further study becomes knowledge and after enough time when you see how the knowledge plugs in and applies it can become wisdom wisdom is the distilled essence of all the details the wisest statements ever spoken to you generally have no detail in them at all do they it's as I've heard it said this way wisdom is what's left over after you've forgotten all the details it's the distilled essence of it all so I want to be wiser on the porch on my rocking chair I don't want to be the old curmudgeon in my day we did it best no I don't want to be that guy no so that's one source of meaning another and it's just directly traceable to my parents but I'd like to also think it's traceable to common sense is spend a little bit of your life lessening the suffering of others I don't mean redirect your life some people do they work in soup kitchens and start not-for-profits to serve yes I I'm not that person no because my the universe is what calls me but in my day in a week do something that lessens the suffering of someone else however trifling that gesture is and that's an infusion of good yeah I'm value judging it I'm saying yes it is a good thing to lessen the suffering of others yeah I'm declaring that I try not to ever put opinions out there but it's my opinion that if you lessen the suffering of others you make a better world and don't we all want to live in a better world if your happiness were a recipe right consisting of various ingredients that needed to be present in certain quantities for you to be a happy person and under the assumption that you know no one is perfectly happy under any kind of vague sense of the word what what is missing from your list of ingredients at the moment or what could you have more of that I don't think of life that way okay how do you think of Life how why is that wrong that question I didn't say it was wrong I don't value judge okay it's not what's right or wrong it's it's um I don't live life that way because it means you carry with you the emotions I could be happier if I were doing this and how come I'm not and all of a sudden well then I must be miserable if I'm not as happy as I could be no I don't measure day to day am I happy or not I it's not the measure yes it's in there but that's not the metric the metric is am I successful at what at what I'm doing am I no no it's not even that it's am I as good at this as I can be if you're not going to try to improve go home find something else so I remember in my first interview on National Television a new planet had just been discovered around another star an exoplanet it was Banner headlines we now have 5 000 in the catalog but back then in 1995 it was Banner headline another planet and we kind of always knew they'd be out there we just didn't have the tools to figure it out NBC News sent an action cam up to the Planetarium I was freshly appointed as director they didn't know me as a person but I carry title and so the Chiron on the TV image gets to say Neil deGrasse Tyson director Hayden planetarium okay they came up and interviewed me tell us about this new planet how was it discovered right so I gave my best professorial reply best oh my gosh it was it's a Doppler shift that the orbiting planet um influences the position of the star in space it's not just the star sits there fixed in the universe and planets orbit it they both orbit their common center of gravity and so the star you can't see the planet it's too dim but you look at the star and the star is jiggling back and forth and I motion that with my body and I said and you measure this movement back and forth with the Doppler shift you calculate it and you can infer the existence of this planet and bada bing it's a planet and I went on I went on for like probably four times that length with my Pro and then I go home it's national news I get to call everybody hey everybody my friends in California I'm gonna be on TV check it out and so when the segment aired all they showed was me jiggling my hips like this and say it's a planet and I said oh they don't want my professor reply they want a reply that fits in their medium a sound bite medium so let me practice that so I went home and stared in the mirror and had people just shout out objects names places people things and I assembled sound bites for each one of them it's like three sentences it's got to be informative makes you smile a little bit and the information has to be tasty so you want to tell someone else that's a sound bite okay we could do that now mention anything in the universe just just not a question just a word just anything Moz Mars ooh do you know Mars is red because it's rust it's a rusted planet and rust has the color of red the whole plant has a lot of iron on Mars and red is the color of blood hence Mars the God of War it might have life there we're still looking boom sound bite Venus okay Venus the goddess of love and beauty and Venus as an object in the night sky is stupefyingly brilliant until you learn it's has a runaway greenhouse effect and it's 900 degrees Fahrenheit 500 degrees Celsius on its surface it would vaporize you so much for the love and beauty and a Venus so it's it's the least explored Planet because of how hostile it is to our space probes well we got this I'm not giving you a 10-minute lecture on the thermodynamics of Venus so my point is when I saw that what I did did not serve the needs I invested a lot of energy so that I could be exactly what they needed so that their task is simplified and I get better at something that could serve a greater good I'm not I don't want to say that's happiness I'm going to say that's fulfillment of an objective where I improved in what it is I was doing I have to say when I know it's going to meet you this question which was so friend of mine for me is there is so many people that talk about the stars in the universe but there's only one you and what I mean by that is I don't know what you mean by that so would I have had anyone else on this podcast that talks about the stars in the universe no the reason why you are a dream guest is because you create a bridge through exactly what you've described making it engaging and interesting and uh fun and exciting because of the way that you communicate and like people don't often think about this whether they're computer programmers or they are archaeologists or whatever that it's great to know stuff but like I think Ricky Gervais makes the joke where the Daddy Long Legs where he says you can have all the venom in the world but if you don't have the the teeth to inject the Venom if you don't have the skill of like communication and storytelling and engagement the Venom is pointless so what I will say is uh I will give one other example and I'll tie a bow on it uh the first time I was invited to appear on The Daily Show it's a very popular comedic news program in the United States uh hosted by um Jon Stewart Justin was a comedian he's brilliant he's very into current events we all know him he's Sharp and I've seen politicians get interviewed by him and they want to deliver their stump speech and their deer in the headlights because he's just dancing circles around them and on my first interview I said I am not going to be the deer in the headlines okay so I studied his show with a stopwatch and I said how many seconds does he on average does he give his guests to speak before he comedically interrupts them okay write that down it was anywhere between 9 and 12 seconds which doesn't sound like much but it's it it works comedically right then I said how far back in time does he reference a current event to put in a joke that he might give because you can't go too far back because no one remembers it the joke has to work without you reminding people what they're supposed to know so very intensely the the previous day a little less the second day by the time of the third day in the past there's hardly any reference to it okay so I studied the last two or three days of current events I practice my sound bites even more to fit them into this time frame and I get on the show and I deliver the lines that means sound bites oh but I come pre-loaded with anything he could possibly ask me so I'm like I'm I'm I I waddle into the studio with a utility belt's worth of thoughts and ideas that he could be asking me okay so I'm there and if you see me on these shows I'm a little manic because the it's coursing through me all this knowledge and information that I need a response to just in case he asks me so we do this and I get the point and he makes the comedic point and now my thought is not dangling in the middle of a joke because I completed the thought the joke tightens that up and then we move on right so we go through this whole interview Eddie mentions the current event and I have a little sound bitey thing about that after the interview people come up to me you know what they said they said Neil you're such a natural and you have such good chemistry with Jon Stewart my they have no idea how much time I invested to look natural pardon my expletive there but we smile all the time yeah what I'm saying is I want it to be as good as I possibly could have been in that interview knowing his audience because each host has their own audience you want to serve Their audience I don't want to just give the stump speech so everything that I imagine for myself was for him and his audience I would communicate differently on a different talks daytime talk shows are different than the evening comedic news on a documentary it's different so my only point of this with these examples are I pay attention to whether people are paying attention to me if I'm giving you an explanation and you're drifting that's not working let me pull that out of the utility belt let me try something else um if I talk about black holes in a particular oh you're leaning in in the conversation in your eyebrows are right that worked so I have a database of people's expressions while I'm talking to them and and I sift that yeah yeah so that I pick and choose what is most impactful in the few minutes we have together otherwise I'm dragging you through a syllabus that who the hell cares what are the devices that you you probably don't do even do an intentionally you're saying it's natural you know don't edit that out okay but okay so what are the what are the devices that you intentionally work very very hard on to employ that that I might take from you and become as good a speaker as you are as engaging and as like captivating despite the fact that you're delivering such complex subject matter at times but it still seems accessible to someone like me that is just simply a a chimp not everything that excites me as a professional in the field will excite you you need to know you need to sort them into those categories and maybe there's something that will excite me and you'll see me get all excited and you'll get giddy because you like watching me get excited that's a different dynamic in that moment all right it is kind of fun I like watching uh you know I have a colleague who's like all into leeches right he specializes in invertebrates and leeches among them just to hear them talk about I don't care about leeches but he does he's like wow I didn't know anyone could care that much about a blood sucking invertebrate but it was just I'm delighted to watch that all right but so you saw it things that excite you from things that could excite someone else well how do you know you have to practice that okay uh strike up conversations watch if people care about what you say is there some other conversation that distracts them from your conversation with them well go back to the drawing board on that one okay and I also be a good listener watch what excites other people when they're in conversations with other people and that's what I've done so in that way I'm I'm fully socialized my parents were social creatures and we held dinner parties often uh hosting conversations and I'd watch that uh I'm a kid so I'm not for their dinner parties I didn't have a seat at the table but um the idea of being able to communicate and my father's a sociologist that's all he ever did uh that I think mattered Within Me and you have to be able to read people's facial you know what we did with my kids uh it was first evidence that they were not autistic but also I think it's good practice get a when they're old enough to start thinking about human emotion Maybe eight nine to early between years between 8 and 12. where they can actively think about what someone else thinks and feels okay is the person angry is a person happy is they sad are they jealous are they whatever okay so what I did was or what you can do is find a romantic comedy that is well acted all right where so you have stars that really do it right and sit down and watch the movie with the sound off and have your kids ask them what do you think they're thinking now what do you think she's feeling what do you think she's saying what do you think she's going to do next and you just watch it and the actors are not only delivering lines they're feeling their roles and you might have to wait if your kid is a little slower that way maybe they have to be 13 or 14 Middle School where your social standing becomes matters more than in elementary school where you're not even you don't even care right so maybe it's a middle school thing more than an elementary school thing in that way you can say you thought she said well let's check and you go back and it turns out yes she was jealous in that moment and so it trains you to read a facial expression and a good actor will do this that's what makes them good actors and you don't rely on the sound just the visual and it's an exercise in Reading faces reading people reading emotions and so you want to do this and in the limit you can come in full up empaths right I think that's a noun yeah uh an empath uh that has shaped some people's careers this is real we're human we're social creatures so yeah I fold that in because I want to reach you oh and what things do you care about in my podcast it's called Star Talk I have a co-host who's a comedian a professional stand-up comedian and the anatomy of the podcast is there's sort of the Trinity there's the science content there's the humor and his pop culture why do I care about pop culture because you walk into the room already framed in a scaffold of pop culture if I know that in advance I don't have to start from scratch when I'm teaching you something I'm going to say oh I have a bit of science that I can clad onto this part of your scaffold your pop culture scaffold and you know something it fits it sticks and you say whoa I never knew that about this there's an American football game that ended in a tie and but we don't end in ties right so there's an overtime and you reach a point where it's sudden death over time sudden death where the next person that scores wins the game so this person was was ready to kick for a it's called a field goal and it's 50 yards out 50 yards oh my gosh okay that's hard so they kick it and no one breathes for the three or four seconds the ball is so the ball tumbles in the air and there it goes and everybody just follows it and look it up and the ball hit the left upright and careened in for the win and I said whoa wait a minute what's the orientation of the stadium that's north south this is a round ball hitting a round post and going in do you realize round things hitting other round things fractions of an inch make a difference so I did a fast calculation and then I tweeted the Cincinnati Bengals for the for the sudden death field goal was that careened off the upright was aided by a one centimeter shift to the right given to it by the rotation of the Earth people lost their minds okay people okay the the Cincinnati Bengals or the local newspaper said God help them win the game it's and so everybody so I didn't have to say what football is who the Cincinnati Bengals are what a sudden death goal is what a field goal is or explain that the goal posts have a left and a right goal post I didn't have to introduce any of that that's an example of the pop culture that someone walks into the room with and I found a bit of science that I know they're going to care about because it touches something that's pop culture that they already care about and I would follow that up with it's a coriolis force and it's why storms rotate clockwise counterclockwise in the northern Hemi I'd follow it up with the lesson plan but I got your interest yeah okay yeah I just start out that way there's such a thing as a coriolis for no no go away they care go where they can that and that's what I do professionally if I spoke to Alice and I said your wife and I said Alice what does Neil struggle with what would she say to me struggle with oh um personally well I I I don't know entirely um but I know I like to eat more than I like to exercise and I used to be very high high highly tuned athlete so I remember what it's like to be in complete shape I I remember I also used to dance so I could could do a full split I was doing you know I could I was like totally in shape and so I have that memory which in a way is worse than never having been in shape so she'll say I wouldn't call it struggling but I would say she would say that [Music] um I need to carve out more time to exercise just to stay healthy I think is so that that's one of them uh another thing we we talk a lot that we've been married 34 years and you'd say what's the secret you know anytime someone asks you what the secret is there being lazy because it assumes just know this one thing and everything will be better how much of life actually works that way when someone said what's your secret to knowing astrophysics it's like you know working at it 60 hours a week that's the secret somebody asked a chef what's your secret in this recipe it's because I went to Chef's school for six years that's the secret so I've never asked someone what's your secret because I that's disrespect for the actual work that could go into what it is to gain the expertise or the state of existence that someone has achieved um I think in a marriage it's uh you know most or half and in divorce within some number of years so uh what's what's going on with the institution and I think we're not trained how to communicate you're living with a person every day of your life it's really easy to take that person for granted it's really easy to to uh to enter states of boredom because you've already talked about so what you do you do new things with each other as often as you can iguana trip explore new hobbies you go you know you take up a new sport you play tennis or whatever just do something new as you would with any other new person right why does the other new person look really good because they're new okay uh so you could you can always be new in your marriage if you do new things why not travel travel together then every day is a new experience you both share so when you get back home you have something new to talk about new to share new to places to grow and this thing where I want to go on a dating app where I can find someone who's just like me I don't want anyone just like me I already have me I want someone different I want someone I can learn from someone with different interests that I could grow into so not that I've ever used a dating app but if I had a dating app uh that's I would look for someone who is just really different and it's odd because so many of the apps are finding someone just like you all right there's now like a Christian app and a Jewish app and uh this app and a and a find someone who has this category it's like wow why not just have some fun but somebody who's just different one of the themes we talk about a lot on this podcast is mental health and the conversation around mental health is really developed over the last 10 years from a time when we didn't completely oh my gosh yeah it's a it's complete the perception of it has completely changed in terms of being destigmatized but then our awareness and our understanding of concept of physical health and mental health is now more present than ever was there an event that put your mental health in focus for yours for you like really made you cognizant of the fact that you have mental health and it's something that you have to I was going to say Protect but just yeah keep healthy I guess that's you know okay I don't have a simple I have an answer but it's not simple how much time you got left here um there's a friend I told you it's a long story but you asked it there was someone my age maybe one year older when I was in high school who died who was the son of a very close family friend of my parents we might have played together as very small children but I didn't know him as a teenager okay he died of brain cancer okay very tragic you're 17 years old and you die of brain cancer ready to go off to college and all the rest they bust in cool kids from the school okay and they unloaded and they filled this Chapel and there's a closed casket because it was it was brain cancer so you know it was a picture of him on the casket and I'm watching this and the you know the his classmates are like holding each other as they walk up the aisle and there's the organ playing no it's not a New Orleans song where you sort of celebrate the life of the person who just died it was the kind of organ music where you want to be sad that the person died and I'm watching this and then I start getting emotional and like a tear shows up in my eye and I said wait a minute I don't know this kid I don't even remember him I'd be crying because the organ is making me cry I'd be crying because I'm seeing other people who did know him cry and I did a fast calculation how many people are dying in this hour in the city or in the country or in the world am I crying for them who I equally don't know I rationalized an emotional state out of this this pain and misery and I said if I'm not cheering for everybody else who dies who I don't know I should not be tearing for this person and so I suck the tears back up and just observed it anthropologically that there's a funeral going on right in front of me that was an expression of control over my emotions that is basically how I lived for the first 19 years of my life what was the cost the cost no cost why would there be a cost why should there be a cost to not having forced emotions by other to to no there's what cost I'm I'm a geek kid okay and emotions are something that interfere with rational thought but this change so what I can say to you is you're emotional what's the cost for not being rational okay I could totally put the question back on you what's the question you slammed the door you hung up the phone back when we had phones to hung up you slammed it down you cried when you didn't even know the person okay that's your cost so we maybe we're simply different people I'm not saying they shouldn't have cried they knew him of course they're going to cry I didn't organist stop making me cry and so I didn't okay so how did that change my freshman year college it all changed it all changed first semester I take a class in Art and Design they play music and they say draw the music and it's like I don't know what you're talking about feel the music and draw how it makes you feel I say it's just music I'm listening to I'm like it's like two ships passing in the night I don't know what the hell this person is talking about I don't know what he means I don't know you know should I still stay in this class with is it a waste of time what's going on here and he says okay here's what you do draw the energy in the music and excuse me I like I'm a physicist right energy is equals mc squared there's kinetic energy there's mechanical energy there's chemical energy energy is not what you draw out of music okay okay so I said all right I don't know what he's saying but I'll try something and then he criticizes it okay so I don't know what the hell I'm doing why am I in this class should I drop the class okay then they roll in the pumpkins is they draw the pumpkins okay now I can I can do this it's it's a task there's a pumpkin in front of me I'm gonna draw it so I draw pumpkins and it takes me a few tries to get the hang of it but I'm I'm one of the world's best pumpkin drawers to this day because of that we spent weeks drawing pumpkins and they're also leaning on each other and they have these sort of seams in them and the not all of them have the same size handle the neck that comes out and some have bruises and there's like 30 of them up in the front room so I'm drawing them I said okay uh is this is this all we're gonna do with this okay after pumpkins became the entire meaning of my life for two or three weeks we returned to the studio the pumpkins are still there and then they said now draw the space between the pumpkins and I just snapped it was like wait a minute you're telling me that I give object and meaning objective meaning to these things that we call pumpkins and now these pumpkins are just the boundaries to something else that I'm giving meaning to and that's the space between the pumpkins it was like whoa so started drawing the space between the pumpkins and the pumpkins were now the edges of things not the object of what I'm drawing and my brain turned inside out and I started looking around I say are these lights or is it a shadow that makes the shape am I in a space is the space what's real or is it the boundary of the space if the boundary weren't there would I still be in this space I still be breathing this air but we wouldn't call it his face because that boundary isn't there so the bow so my I would everything looked different after them everything and from that moment onward I could talk to artists with abstract vocabulary how does this painting feel what does it do for you what do you what are your what are your emotions it's it it it opened up a box an emotional state that was previously non-communicative with the rest of my mind it was kept there I could act it's not that I didn't know how to cry it's just that the crying had nothing to do with anything else that was objectively real so what they did it it it found the place where it pried had opened and there was spillage there was cross spillage so I can tell you this now there's no way this sentence could have come out of my head on my iPhone I have skin it's not a casing it's just what's called a skin and it is a section of Van Gogh's starry night the actual name of the painting is the starry night okay it's got these swirly beautiful colors and all right it's my favorite painting why because it's certainly not what he saw the sky has never looked this way but it's definitely what he felt and for me an artist's task their Duty in this world not to prescribe about this but for me their duty is to show me the world as I do not see it take me someplace give me a perspective that will broaden my interpretation of reality that is a thought an idea a sentence that could have never come out of my mouth until that moment where I drew the space between the pumpkins and that access to abstract thinking to now in the early days I'd watch a Broadway musical and two people walk up to each other speaking uh oh a song is about to happen and then they sing about their love for each other I say why don't you just cut the song just say you love each other move on to the next scene that's how I felt as a child after college after that course I see the two people walk up to each other and they're speaking their emotions and I'm saying you know when you sing your emotions it reaches a deeper part not only within yourself but within the listeners because there's more of your emotion expressed when you sing and so now I long for the song in a Broadway musical the simplicity of expressed emotion so I don't want to quite say I'm the opposite of what I was when I suck back the tears in that funeral but I'm going to say that dare I suggest a well-developed access to both your emotions and your rational self with some control over the two you don't want rampant contamination but just be able to close the door every now and then between the two and then open it I think conservice greatly as a civilization if I were to offer perspective and advice there are times where you need your rational self otherwise you will not make a decision that's in the best interest of your health your wealth or your security but don't let that hide what emotions you might have because the world's greatest art as far as I can tell issues fourth from rampant emotion that we're capable of as human beings Neil thank you we have a closing tradition on this podcast where the last guest asks a question for the next guest without knowing who they're going to ask it for and they write it in this book and I don't get to see it till open it is fun once you get to see it now I get to see it now okay Jack Jack always looks but I never look when was the last time you cried and why uh I cry often now that the door to my emotions has been found in Pride open so I cry often I cry at very simple things I cry at uh simple emotional moments in in in a play resident of New York city so we consume as many londoners surely you consume the theater scene um I'll cry even in a moment in a musical my musical is supposed to make you happy but there might be a tender moment I tear up if I see acts of of um sensitivity and kindness in a situation where you would not expect it okay if you see a war-torn scene and a soldier picks up a doll and hands it to a child does it a soldier who's brandishing a weapon for killing people and they take a moment to do that I'll tear up I'm tearing up now just thinking of such a scene when that happens so I tear up in unexpected acts of kindness because it's hope for the world I'll tear up in a movie uh usually in a theater because it's a big immersive experience less so at home on a TV even the same movie I might feel a little more in a theater immersiveness matters because it's it's coming at you for more in more ways with greater strength the sound is greater the visual effects are greater uh you're there as a participant in the film so um so I I probably will tear up once or twice a week for those reasons and more but those are the more common sort of reasons that arise Neil thank you thank you for the inspiration over the last decade thank you for um being the Starry Messenger in my life which is the name of your new book because you were it's funny I was thinking about it as as we started this conversation that that was actually the moment that I became obsessed with the universe when I first watched you present Cosmos all those years ago um and this book is just a continuation of that but it's a very current book in the sense that it speaks to some of the profound issues that are happening in the world the inside cover I think presents a really great explanation of that in a time when our political and cultural views feel more polarized than ever Tyson provides a much needed antidote to so much of what divides us while making a passionate case for the twin Chariots of Enlightenment a cosmic perspective and the rationality of science and that's exactly what this book is it's a necessary antidote to the modern times we're living in well thank you for your support of that I will say that Starry Messenger comes from Galileo where he first perfects the telescope after only just having heard that a telescope was invented in the Netherlands he said oh my gosh that's let me make my own version of it he makes the best version that exists in the world observes the night sky notices that Venus goes through phases which can only happen if Venus is going around the Sun and not around Earth uh it could he notices that the sun has spots the moon has craters the Jupiter has moons that orbit it he didn't call in moons they're called Jupiter's stars because why would you think they were moons who knows and he reports this with the first evidence that Earth is not the center of all emotion and he called it siderius nuncius Starry Messenger the Star Messenger wasn't him the story messenger was these messages themselves from the sky that are conflicting with prevailing belief systems about humans and about Earth and he got into big trouble with the church so what I as an astrophysicist I found all the starry messages I could and applied them to our plight here on Earth and that's the summary of what's going on in that book death is a topic you mentioned in this book yes life and death life and death I'm more compelled by death as should we all be yeah I I was a Christian growing up until the age of about 18 and then when I discovered atheism or agnosticism or whatever they want to call it my perspective of death change and I actually became really comfortable with death the prospect of death where do you think and where are you at in your perspective and thoughts on death for myself or just in general in general and yourself probably quite Inseparable I imagine I don't know death uh it death comes up as a as a topic of conversation commonly when we talk about prolonging life and now that we're into the genome and into human physiology might there be a day where you can live forever okay and there's something called The Generation that will have escape velocity do you know what that is okay I'll tell you what it is so in the last 50 years we've increased life expectancy 20 years in the last 10 years we've increased life expectancy by five years so there will be a time where in the last year we increase life expectancy by a year at that moment Homo sapiens have achieved escape velocity from death okay that generation will never die unless you're hit by a bus okay so that brings you the question if you could live forever would you and my reply to that and I don't want to answer for other people so this is my I want to be very clear that yes I have my opinions but I don't care if you share my opinions should have your own opinions okay my Outlook on this is well let's take for example a bouquet of flowers if you buy a bouquet of flowers and hand them to your loved one and the bouquet the flowers are made of plastic how would your loved one reply to that they they probably think you don't love them but you say but darling they'll last forever okay no that's not the variable here that's not what matters the fact that flowers die is the very reason why they have meaning as a gift your hand at flowers They're going to be dead in seven days that means you know you better pay attention to them you're going to smell them you're going to take care of them you're going to make sure you change the water and trim the stems and you're gonna put it in a central place so that not only you see them but so does everybody else you're going to celebrate those flowers while they are alive because the day is going to come very quickly where they're going to die and in their senescence you're gonna nurse them through as the neck gets a little weak on the stem you might try to prop them up until they're gone it is the fact that they're going to die that gives them meaning as a gift and dare I say that my knowledge that I'm going to die gives not only meaning to my being alive it gives urgency to it on my deathbed I do not want to regret having the interest and ability to have solved the problem that I did not solve uh to have an experience that I could have had but then I did not knowing I'm going to die means I'm gonna wake up in the morning and I'm going to be all about action action I was I will tell people I love them if I love them I will accomplish things I will learn this thing I wanted to learn I will do all I can because you know what I wanted my tombstone it's a quote from a famous American educator of two centuries ago his name is Horace Mann who's also a university president I think it was he gave a commencement speech one of his last and he says to the graduates I beseech you love that word nobody uses that word anymore beseeche Shakespeare loved it I beseech you to treasure up in your hearts these my parting words be ashamed to die until you have scored some victory for Humanity I want that on my tombstone I don't want any other Monument but that on my tombstone if everyone lived to that goal how different the world would be how enriched it would be with people's energy to improve the lot not only of others as individuals but of your neighborhood your Society civilization itself so that's what I think of when I think of death by the way in there I referenced dogs there's a dog over there for anyone there's a dog over there called Leica in the corner of this room like where I heard that name like uh 65 years ago like a orbits Earth if I Stoke to Opeth the first animal to orbit Earth then there's some guinea pigs and then there are some chimps and then Yuri Gagarin orbits the earth the first human I think he was the seventh mammal to orbit the earth I had to check my notes on this but it was if you add up mammals humans were very late in the in the space achievement scale so when you come home for having been away if you own a dog you will know exactly what I'm describing by the way this does not happen with cats so with a dog the dog is happy to see you not just happy hey glad you're home it's they jump up and down and they want to lick your face and they want to jump into your lap if it's a lap dog and if it's a if it's an Irish Wolfhound they'll want to knock you over and lick you in the face they're excited by you first I would ask did you do anything that day that deserved that praise all right so one famous quote is be the person that your dog thinks you are okay that's a high bar let me say but there's the and by the way if you go out to just check the mail and come back the dog is happy to see you so now wait a minute why uh let me just make up a reason okay I'm just pulling this out of my ass you ready okay uh dogs don't live as long as we do the famous dog year calculation there's some nuances to it but the blunt calculation is one dog year is seven human years okay so when a dog is 10 they're like 70. all right when a dog is 12 they're 84. they're getting ready to die okay dogs die between age basically 12 and 16. okay all right wait a minute if it's a factor of seven difference it means we live an entire week of Our Lives for every single day a dog lives so maybe the dog knows it won't live as long as we will maybe it knows it's got a truncated life expectancy relative to humans maybe it knows it's got to make Every Day Count we could languish away five days out of the week you still have the other two days to watch football with your friends the dog doesn't have that luxury so I'm making this up I'm going to declare that dogs know that every day of their lives matter and therefore they're going to make it count and they're going to be happy every day you ever wake up to a dog that's depressed never uh no you know I'll walk myself today don't worry about it I'll feed myself I don't want to eat up no they've been sick all right that's how you know they're sick they're not licking you in the face that's a sad day for the dog but then they pop back dogs don't stay sick for long because they live seven times faster than we do have you ever taken a dog to the vet and they perform surgery on the dog okay you know where I'm going here they perform surgery the next day the dog is out running around in the park I've seen dog with the leg amputated amputated leg and the next day they're a little slower but they're kind of walking around and they still want to lick you in the face and as good as new after three days if we had one of our legs amputated oh my gosh I'm still in the hospital a month later dogs live in the fast lane and maybe they know it and so I want to think to myself no I'm not licking people in the face but I want to experience the joy and the urgency the dogs do simply by being alive Neil thank you thank you for the generosity of your time thank you for all the inspiration thank you for uh schooling me in the most um unintentional way on how to be a wonderful engaging communicator and how to make very complex subject matter fun and accessible for everybody well thank you can I end with the beginning quote of the book please may I at the beginning of the book I wanted to set the mood because Earth from space is very different than Earth from Earth's surface oh dedicated to the memory of Cyril deGrasse Tyson and all others who want to see the world as it could be rather than as it is my father okay so here's the quote Apollo astronaut Edgar Mitchell Apollo 14. he went to the moon and saw Earth because that's kind of what happened we went to the moon to discover 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