MY RULES/THOUGHTS ON SCREEN TIME WITH MY KIDS||WHAT WORKS FOR US|ASHLEE ANSWERS

hi guys welcome back to my channel if you're new thanks so much for stopping by and checking out to these video a quick little introduction my name is Ashley and I am a homeschooling mom of four kiddos ranging from first grade all the way up to sixth grade and I talk a lot about motherhood homeschooling fitness and lots of other fun things sprinkled in there I'm here on my channel so today is actually a video that you guys requested from me to make um I really really try to listen to my viewers when it comes to video topics and suggestions because I want to make videos that are relevant to you guys so this is not me creating a video because I think that this would be a good topic this is a topic that you guys asked me to share what my roles are on and I'm sure from the title and the thumbnail of the video you can kind of gather what I'm gonna be talking about um but I just want to make that clear that this was requested by you guys and if you do have any topics or video requests that you would really like to see me make always send them to me and leave them down below um I don't always get to them immediately but I do keep an organized list and I really roll through those it's actually very very rare that I make a video on my channel just on a whim that is something I've thought of all of the videos really do come from you guys um and so I think that that's really cool so today is no exception we are gonna be talking about screen time we are gonna be talking about my opinions on it my thoughts on it so of course this is just what I think this is just my opinion and what works for my kids so don't get offended if yours is different than mine but that's what we're gonna be talking about today so screen time I get asked a lot what my rules are for screen time so I'm just gonna cut to the chase and share with you the rules I'm just have my Starbucks here this is the new it's like a cold brew protein I got the almond one it's really really good I'm really loved so check out that new Starbucks drink the next time you go um so for me in our house myself and my husband have made pretty I would say strict rules on screen time good reasons for it um but just to share what our rules are on that topic are none of my children have cell phones or shall I say smart phones I do have a prepaid flip phone that does not have internet capabilities on it that we just recently bought within the last six months for my oldest um for when she goes to youth group and things like where we're dropping her off so she does have that but none of my kids have cell phones um none of my kids have TVs in their rooms um none of my kids have tablets in their rooms my kiddos do have the Amazon Kindle but those are kept like excuse me in a basket in our school area and they have to ask permission to use them our computer is in our school room so it's in an open area for family use they are allowed to use it but of course it's for a reason and a purpose and they do ask permission to use a lot of times my kids want to like sketch something and they want to see like an image of that so that will ask mom can you help me look up a picture of let's my son draws like the Rugrats so he'll say can you look up a picture of the Rugrats so we help with like navigating Google searches and that's and then they use it for school so that's pretty much the extent of their computer usage and our TVs are in our loft so we have one up there that has like Netflix on it we do not have cable TV so we have Netflix on our upstairs TV as well as our downstairs TV so that's the amount of screens that we have in our house and that's where they're located I think that that those are important things because it just eliminates a lot of temptation and a lot of risk by simply having computers and screens being in public areas in your home and it also takes away the risk of internet predators and lots of different issues with your children just not being online none of my kids have social media I don't foresee that changing anytime soon um there's just it's not necessary and I actually think that it does more harm than good when it comes to their young developing minds and self-esteem and confidence I look back when I was a teenage girl and a preteen girl and if I would have had social media undoubtedly there would be things that were out on the internet that I could never take back that I would be absolutely ashamed and horrified of so I would not want my daughter or sons for that matter to be subject to what is out there and that is why we do not allow them to have free access to those things but that's more Internet safety I think this question what is my role on screen time is pertaining to moms who probably are feeling like their kids may spend a little too much time in front of electronic devices and so while I share what my rules are I do not want to make you feel bad if this is an area that you're struggling in um I understand that it is really a struggle for some homes and kids probably more so than it is mine because we've always had really strict guidelines surrounding those things um just for the sheer fact of like child development even when my kids were really little they would watch like one cartoon show in the morning Mickey Mouse Clubhouse and then I would turn off the TV I just and that was already like 11 and 12 years ago so this was before like iPads and things like that um but I just knew that like my pediatrician said that little kids shouldn't be in front of the TV very much so I was really cautious about it and I would turn it off when they were then watching that one show so we've never used electronics in our house to manage behavior or manage misbehavior and I think that that is kind of key to letting electronic device use not become an issue in your house is kind of having those parameters set appropriately first when we go out to dinner we do not bring electronics I expect my kids to sit at the dinner table at a restaurant and act like normal human beings whether that's a human being on their good day or a human being on their bad day I will not utilize a screen just to keep them quiet it's just not something that we've ever done in fact when we go on road trips I still limit how much time they're using on that we pack things like word searches and books and drawing and coloring and car bingo we got this year and then maybe for like the last leg of a drive if it's a long time I'll say you guys can play on your Kindles but really we've never had it be like an issue because we've always had guidelines set so my kids on school days are not allowed any electronic time during the day that means TV that means computer that means Kindle that means all those things no TV no electronics it's just easier that way for me however at night time so this is after they've done their chores done their school we've had a full day of learning they've played outside when the weather permits they've done all the things when they have to go to their siblings activities meaning like my boys are sitting with me at gymnastics for 90 minutes I will allow them to bring their Kindle during that time so we use it for specific instances like that where they've already read for hours that day they've drawn they've done creative thinking like they've done everything I don't mind if they play their Kindle while their sister does gym sticks at the end of the day but it's not an everyday thing and that is probably the extent of the amount of time they play on like an iPad or a Kindle is like one time a week um as far as TV goes we usually will do a family movie night on like Fridays or Saturdays depending so they are watching some TV then and then on the weekends when we don't have a soccer tournament to wake up and get right to they will turn on Netflix and watch shows on there they all have their favorites they love like the Hula's series my youngest like spirit they will watch a show on there in the morning time and I don't mind that at all so on the weekends we allow a little more TV during the school weeks there is no TV there is no screen time during the day until the evening and sometimes we will like if we don't have somewhere to be at night you know we'll turn on a little show in the loft while everyone's kind of preparing for bedtime or like I said they play their Kindles while their sister is at gymnastics or or whatever um but it is really limited and I understand that I am probably really really strict and probably some of you are thinking way too strict but that's okay because this is just what works for my house and my kiddos um and what I believe to be best for their young developing minds so I hope that that gives you an idea of what screen time we allow in our house and if you've got any questions for me you can go ahead and post them down in the comments below um I will be happy to answer them as long as they are kind and respectful because I realize sharing anything like this can really ruffle feathers and that's not the intention I just wanted to answer the question cuz you guys have asked and I know I'm gonna get asked also about video games so before I go let me mention video games we only have one gaming system in our house and it's actually the Wii and it's outdated but my kids don't know and they don't care so sometimes we'll play Mario Kart or whatever we'll be similar to win those TV times would occur like on a Saturday afternoon or a Sunday evening it's not an everyday thing so also for video games as well so anyways thanks for watching this video guys if you have any other topics you want me to discuss leave them down below I'm thinking of creating a new playlist for my channel um talking about like topics like this if I get enough requests so let me know if you've got one and be sure to give this video a thumbs up and I will see you guys really soon thanks for watching bye

Channel: Grace and Grit

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Keywords: iMovie, screen time, screen time with kids, ashlee williams, grace and grit, how to balance sceen time

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Length: 11min 54sec (714 seconds)

Published: Fri Sep 28 2018