My family DISOWNED me | storytime |Talking about my dad + my childhood

hello my name is monica and this video is brought to you by my childhood drama my family disowned me and i'm going to give you a summary of events that led up to the day when they cut me off for good so i do have notes on my phone if i don't have it right in front of me i am going to be all over the place like my brain's going to be going in like 100 different directions and nothing's going to make sense if you're not already confused i mean i'm still kind of confused so my dad was is and always will be an alcoholic and everyone on his side of the family knows that but they're a bunch of enablers no one on his side of the family wants to be bothered with him and all of his family lives in new jersey and my dad and i both live in florida i am the only family that he has within driving distance so growing up i was basically my dad's punching bag luckily he never put his hands on me even though he never hit me he was aggressive towards me he would throw things he would slam doors he would break stuff you know just man baby things throw in adult tantrums there was one day that he threw pots and pans at me and i just pretended we were playing like an extreme game of dodgeball if you can dodge a wrench you can dodge a ball what i lived in the same house as my dad until i was 17 and at 17 my parents finally divorced so i thought that the torment was over you know since i was gonna be out of his house he wasn't gonna be able to bully me anymore boy was i wrong the longer i was out of his house the more aggressive he became towards me so my dad was slash is a working alcoholic or a functioning alcoholic whichever one meaning he was able to hold down a job without his addiction interfering he wouldn't drink on the clock but as soon as his shift ended he would start drinking like he would literally start to drink on the way home from work like drinking and driving reckless and chaotic behavior by the time that he got home from work he was angry and aggressive and are ready to traumatize me emotionally so my parents had separate rooms my mom basically just lived in her room because she didn't want to deal with any of it and be bothered by him just like the rest of his family so i used to try to call my dad's side of the family like my grandparents his parents my uncle my aunt you know his brother and sister i would call them to basically try to tell on him and tell them what he was doing to me to see if they can make it stop somehow or help me or tell me what to do because i felt alone i basically just wanted someone to come and make him act right like just be a good dad someone make him be a good dad because as a child i had no idea what to do and i was raised not to talk back or disrespect my elders i was just raised to just you know basically be seen not hurt you know i would call my grandparents and stuff and my uncle and aunt and basically they would just tell me that i was overreacting and you know i knew he had a problem so why am i being so hard on him and he's trying his best and i should be trying to take care of him when i'm like 10 years old he's supposed to be taking care of me it i shouldn't have to be my dad's parent at 10 i should never have to be my parent's parent that basically sums up my entire childhood right it was just me getting home from school to see my drunk angry dad him verbally abusing me and me going to my room to cry into my pillow for 17 years until i left his house but we're getting to that over the years my dad told me he wished i was never born he called me stupid he called me ugly literally every word in the book any negative thing you could think of he has told me so why am i so affected by the comment section when they're mean to me you think i'd be a lot tougher he would basically just tell me all the things he'd want to tell a child to really destroy any confidence they had from the get-go you know as i grew older i would continue you know to try to reach out to his side of the family just to get blamed for him acting up basically like they would literally blame me for not being patient and loving with him like that's why he had to drink so much doesn't make any sense to me i don't think it ever will i just basically always got told that i need to be more patient and let him work on his problem on his own time and i should be nothing but a support system but it's hard to be a support system to someone that mentally destroys you every single day when you know especially when it's the person that is supposed to be your hero and your role model next chapter so my parents finally got a divorce when i was a senior in high school so at this point i was getting ready to move to college and i would be a few hours away from my dad now you know out of his reach out of driving distance out of a comfortable driving distance at least so i was sure that oh my god i'm stress burping but i was sure that he wouldn't be able to harass me anymore because i'm not there in person for him to bully me but that's when the phone calls started so now he basically became like my virtual bully so i was too far away for him to just stop by so he called me every single day and sometimes he would call me when he was at work like on his work break so he wasn't drunk so that was nice because you know it was the sober version of him even though he was you know sober dad was still an it was just a little bit better than him being drunk even when he'd call me during the day he would still call a few hours later you know when he was drunk just to basically remind me why i was worthless you know like just father-daughter things like my daily encouragement i know what you're thinking monica why didn't you just ignore his calls block his ass you know um i tried if i would ignore his calls he would get all of his family literally everybody and his mother to then call and text me non-stop asking why are you ignoring your dad your dad is so upset because you won't speak to him why are you being so mean to your dad he's your father what's wrong with you you're too good for your dad just because you're off to college now like you know just reminding me that there was no escape basically it was either i ignore his daily drunk call and get harassed for the rest of the evening maybe the next few days by his family or just answer his call just listen to him tell me off for a few minutes and then hang up and go on with my evening i chose what i thought was easier which was just let him tell me off and get back to whatever i was doing another really annoying thing about that was whenever i would ignore his phone calls not only would he you know get his whole family to gang up on me but he would tell them like just lies about me he would literally tell them oh you know monica is so disrespectful she doesn't appreciate anything she doesn't love me oh she's such an old she thinks she's better than me she's a she's a like just not things you should call your daughter or son or anyone why are you spreading rumors about me too to her own family like you know what i mean like why are you doing me like that like that sucks and then you know now i have half my family who already just see me as my dad's caretaker they now they also think i'm all these horrible things like on top of that you know it was it was hard to deal with and my family would believe him knowing that he was a lying alcoholic they would still believe him because you know he just has a problem and he can't help himself and it's my fault for not being there enough maybe if i was there more he wouldn't be an alcoholic you know i mean i don't think that but they think that make it make sense now you see why it was just easier for me to just answer the phone when he called me that's how my college experience went um no parties just daddy issues so a few years go by and now i'm back in my hometown living with chaz and the phone calls continue but now my dad starts coming to our home because we are within a reasonable distance you know so and oh when he'd come over he would come over drunk and angry it was never just a cozy visit it was more like you know i better put on my emotional armor because i'm about to get my feelings hurt it's a long one i'm sorry he continues to come to my home and disrupt my life still right with his harassment and his kind of words right now his family is frequently calling me to see how my dad is because you know he's all by himself and he has no one to take care of him since i'm you know really out on my own not like i was out on my own when i moved for college but now since you know i'm a homeowner i'm really an adult and you know it just shows it really shows everyone that i don't need him so now he's really freaking out you know i mean think he'd be happy for little life accomplishments not afraid of me progressing his family's calling me and telling me you know like they're all worried and i'm not doing my part as his daughter and i should be more concerned about him i should be spending more time with him and you know all this stuff keep in mind even though he was enough to me i did go and try to visit him every weekend just to make sure he was okay and just to check up on him and i would try to call him early in the day before you know he would get drunk sometimes he was already drunk by like 9 10 am when i called him but i would check up on him frequently just because he is my dad and i worried about him i am his daughter and i love him and i truly want the best for him i just want him to you know just choose me over the alcohol just once you know i don't know show me the same affection that you show the bottle you know basically my family blamed me for him getting you know even worse in his alcoholism because i have my own life now i have my own house i have my fur children i'm engaged like i have my own life and they blame me for having my own life and not constantly keeping tabs on him and reporting back to them but keep in mind none of them call my dad either none of his family call and check up on my dad they never came down to florida to visit they never invited him to new jersey to come stay you know like they could give a damn about him it's just me having to wipe his ass all the time so skip forward to 2019 and now chaz and i are about to get married my dad and his entire family are coming to the wedding so i reach out to some of his family i'm sorry i just keep stress burping my dad and his family are all coming to the wedding so i reach out to some of his family just to ask if they could keep an eye on him during the wedding to make sure he doesn't drink too much the last thing we want is for him to basically expose himself and embarrass me in front of the rest of the family like in front of oh my feet are falling asleep in front of my newfound family you could imagine why i didn't want him to act up during the wedding right funnily enough it wasn't him i had to be worried about but that's not today's video i figured it wouldn't be too much to ask right it's his family they're all going to be at the same table what's the big deal you know like just make sure he doesn't overdo it on the drinking like preferably don't let him have any drinks at all but that's definitely asking too much right they responded to me by uh blaming me for pushing him too much they remind me he's trying his best and it's a big day for him so let him celebrate a little bit so an insane you know if he gets drunk it's not a big deal it's a big party like who cares you know like it's your dad and i'm just like oh my oh i care and the rest of my family is gonna care like just do me this one favor i haven't asked you guys for anything my entire life and all i'm asking you is to you know help handle my dad's alcohol intake just for a few hours it should not be this difficult there's literally no point in talking to them because they're all dumb so i you know rely on my mom and her brother my only one and true uncle eva to you know keep an eye on my dad and if he starts to act up to take them out of there so now it's about two months before the wedding and my mom and dad are both asking who is going to walk me down the aisle my dad wanted to walk me and my mom wanted both of them to walk me so i decided to walk myself my dad didn't deserve to walk me down the aisle and to be frank i didn't want my mom to walk me i figured i'm my own dad so i will walk myself down the aisle though i actually did a three-way call with my mom and my dad to tell both of them because i can't get them to be in the same room together and i just wanted to have this conversation with both parents at the same time i did it early in the morning to make sure nobody was drunk uh meaning just you know my dad my mom is not an alcoholic so i call them up and i tell them you know what i'm gonna walk myself down the aisle and surprise surprise my dad did not take that news very well my mom was like that's a great idea good for you lock yourself you know all the support but my dad cursed me out and it was the meanest he has ever been to me my entire life he just really showed me how much he thinks i'm worth and it is absolutely nothing like in that phone call it just it took him a few minutes to completely rip my heart out and stomp on it and then throw it in a food processor and and then it's you know where i'm going with this it just it really hurt my feelings so like i said um he wasn't drunk when he said all these things you know i asked him do you realize what you're saying to me like do you understand what you are telling me right now and he said yes i mean everything i say he meant it he meant all those hurtful things he you know called me completely worthless he said i wish i never had you like just you know the same same old stuff you know just the just the nice things he's always said he also blamed me for his harsh words because i was the one that made him so angry so that's why he had to you know be so rude and so mean to me just you know as i know i know i said it before but i never talked back to an authority figure or an adult growing up it's just how i was raised i didn't start to stand up for myself until my 20s which was just a few years ago my decision to walk myself down the aisle resulted in my dad saying he wasn't going to the wedding which let's be honest i was happy about because now i don't have to worry about him being a drunk goal the entire time and honestly did anyone really want him there from the start not me and you know what my dad didn't even know that chad and i were engaged until months after we were engaged because every time we went over there to tell him we would try to go you know early in the morning and tell him in person to you know celebrate with them he was drunk already and no chaz did not have to ask my dad his permission to uh marry me because he doesn't need his permission okay i choose who i want to marry and let's be honest even if chaz wanted to ask my dad it would have taken him like three years to find him out of time that he was sober so anyway my dad didn't want to go to the wedding which resulted in his family not wanting to go to the wedding and then his brother my uncle not my good uncle my dad's brother so just another round he sent me an essay talking about how selfish i was and how he is my father and he will be walking me down the aisle and a bunch of other which i calmly responded to and explained what happened and my reasoning behind my decision then my uncle replied saying well i have to stand by my brother so i'm not going so i said okay great i'll take you off the guest list thanks for letting me know then my dumb uncle screenshotted our entire conversation and just sent it right back to me because he was trying to send it to my dad and probably the rest of the family so they could all talk more about me and then i said yes he didn't mean to send that to me huh and he uh that's the last thing i heard from him he did not reply to that one an extra side side side no so my uncle actually pretends to be a businessman and what i mean by that is that he's had like three or four failed businesses that he funds solely off of my dad's retirement fund one of the last interactions i had with my uncle and dad was my uncle calling up my dad on the phone because they were talking and i just happened to be there in the room and my uncle was you know going on about how much debt he's in because all his failed businesses and whatever other he's talking about and then he literally tells my dad i'm just down the days for mom and dad to pass so i could finally sell their house and pay off all my debts those are your parents like are you going to talk about your parents like that so basically just from that you know small amount of information you guys can probably see that um he's absolutely disgusting and he's a horrible person now it's a month until the wedding and i haven't heard from my dad or anyone from his family so the wedding day came and went and still nothing went on her honeymoon and now it's like you know if you guys didn't know we got married in november so thanksgivings pass christmas has passed now still haven't heard anything from anyone and the day after christmas is actually chaz's birthday so i surprised him with a trip to new york for his birthday because he's always wanted to go again my family all lives in new jersey so i don't know why but i thought it would be a good idea if i just reached out to my grandparents just to let them know like hey i'm in the area if you want i can stop by you can meet my husband and you know just to reconnect a little i think my grandma even though she didn't believe me when i would tell her the horrible things my dad would do to me she was always the nicest about it and sometimes she would just try to be neutral about the old situation even though she leaned towards my dad's side more often than not but i don't know i feel like she was the only one that did care for me at some points and chaz has never met any of my dad's family he only knows my dad so i just thought it'd be neat if he met you know my grandma and i don't know what i was thinking i mean i just explained to you what i was thinking that's what i was thinking so i reached out to her and i called her up and when she heard my voice on the other line because for some reason none of my family ever saved my phone number every time i would call them they're like who is this which is like another weird thing she answered the phone heard my voice and said oh no and then hung up so i was like oh she no that that has to be a mistake she didn't mean that so i called back and i heard her picking up the phone and hanging up because she didn't have a cell phone she has like an old house phone so you hear it when it you know picks up and and like you hear the click when it hangs up so i kept calling her and she kept picking up and hanging up so i couldn't leave a message it broke my heart so i was like you know i feel like you're like the last piece of this fuck-up puzzle like you're the only hope i had and anyone in this family and it just hurt it just really hurt and that was the last time i literally had any contact with anyone from that side of the family no one has tried to talk to me no one's reached out to me i haven't heard anything from them it's been a year and it was very difficult at first i felt like a part of me died even though they weren't nice to me they really didn't love me they were my family over the last year i realized that just because you're related to a group of people truly doesn't mean anything you choose your own family you know like pokemon [Music] with all the insane things that have happened this year it's actually been one of the most stress-free years that i've ever had just because my dad and his toxic family were not involved in it they were not a part of my year this year a weight has been lifted off my shoulders i literally had so much free time this year without their constant cause that i made a youtube channel that's why i'm here so if i can say one thing to my dad and his family i would say you all deserve each other you're all absolutely disgusting and thank you for removing me from your family because honestly if you didn't cut me out i don't know how many more years of my life i would have wasted trying to connect with you so you did me a favor that's the story of how my family disowned me thank you for coming to my ted talk and speaking of family uh make sure you subscribe so you can be a part of our little internet family okay if you don't have a real family like me you have an internet family and if any of you can relate to this i'm really sorry i know it sucks no matter what situation you're in i'm sending all my love to you okay i love you guys and you're more than welcome to join our internet family i will never disown you oh my god keep burping some stress did you guys see this but behind me because it's an actual representation of my dad an ass that could be it for this video i just wanted to sit down and drag my ex family a little bit and tell you guys a story so merry christmas happy holidays whatever you celebrate and have a wonderful day today okay bye see you in the next one so now that my lunch is prepped should we get into the story or what [Music] [Applause] [Music] do you

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Length: 22min 55sec (1375 seconds)

Published: Mon Dec 21 2020