My dark life in Nigeria, Kenyan women need to hear this- Jane Mwangi : Part 1 | Tuko Talks |Tuko TV

a witchdoctor, who will work on you to the extend that no man will be able to resist you and start doing prostitution I told them to get serious  I remember when she came and found me on the bed lying in a pool of blood, she said they have already used this one they said this one has already been used for rituals are they called rituals you getting me? and the violence, they would even break her hands were used to receive a beaten and it was very bad because of that and I have come to understand she was also a victim  I felt like I was ready to get married so the first man who gave me some little comfort by then everybody was telling me the guy who made me pregnant did not want to be responsible yet I was pregnant   yet he knew he was not the one responsible to me that was a Romeo and Juliet kind of love you understand I remember while I was in High School   My mum used to take her responsibilities, she paid my school fees  there's no single day I was sent out of school she would do me some good shopping my school mates thought I came from a rich home but I used to pray hard everyday for schools not to close I would spend the holidays at my aunties house or other relatives place do such men really exist? those who who can take responsibility for another man's pregnancy he had even told his parents I must ensure this marriage works I did not want to jump from one man to another you understand that they always say when a guy is the only son in the family they don't work hard because he did not want to work he did not want to work  because they would see me as the fault it's not a priority to me   I knew domestic violence was normal in a marriage, everyone goes through that I stuck in that marriage even though the guy would come home drunk and beat me so badly, I couldn't leave because I wanted to break the generational curses by holding on to that marriage by all means no one wanted me to come back to Kenya but my boyfriend wouldn't let me work there there's a day he went and tattooed my name on his hand and sent me a video I went crazy the moment I saw a tattoo and I felt that was real love, but I have some to realize right now I have realized when he went and had the tattoo with a message Jane I love you and he told me I will die without you I took a flight home when I came home someone he used to call a cousin yet you are living with someone, you have even gotten her pregnant they were employed in their salon the guy spoke to me sweetly and I decided to stay I stayed back and we started life afresh under the same roof the mum came to the house and she told me this is the new wife the mum asked him between the two of them who do you want he said I want her but I also want her too when I heard that I wanted to kill myself when I imagined all the sacrifices I have made to this guy even the times we would eat ugali and salt and how I traveled all the way from Germany I said by the way God I went to the village there was no one in the village, I was living in the whole compound alone there was no one not even a gate man   eventually I gave birth to my son Being in marriage, I had not experienced the life of partying    I never went to the party I tried to engage the baby daddies the way they brought up their son also the woman was not the son's agemate are you getting me? something was just off with the family and I said let me just move on with life I said by the way I have been too nice I said better the bad girls because they end up better husbands   the local clubs but before I even got deeper into clubbing I never used to believe in those things of love at first sight this guy i felt had him too i guess  at some point he fell really hard and   I was so open with him there are things to hide  if you think you are experiencing hardship then you listen to other people you will know your situation is even better they said it's a mistake but I had the courage to keep them some people aborted up to 5 kids I told him I have kids and he told me and we moved in together but I just did not want I just felt I did not want that money wasted I am the good girl ever been with a man who takes you to live in such a good house but you tell him no I just want that cheap one but he insisted I was doing some business it was an online business before we met I was into online business the man wanted to go to B Club daily or just go clubbing daily before you get married to a Nigerian    most people get married because of money when they give you a house, you are supposed to keep quiet they would ask is he paying your house rent? is he buying food? yes and you wonder no one will judge me but maybe because I am Kenyan I did not pay much attention to it and remember I was still naive   eventually I came to realize that at some point my passport that is when I came to realize   Nigerians will use you they must get something from you it's either you are helping in transaction or some other thing they can't just be there with you and you know what if it's someone who loves you they will not put you in that risk and put stolen money in your account it is you who will be arrested someone leaves you with huge bills and fly back to Nigeria and you are there thinking you are in love   but you know what someone who loves you will not put you in such a risk he became bankrupt, the online thing was no longer working, there was no money coming from abroad any more no more money was coming from abroad we were now living in arrears, in the same house I was warning him about you tell me how long a small business can sustain rent of KSh 70,000 per month the burden is on you alone at some point I was now the bred winner in the house I was the one taking care of everything and I was pregnant at that time I would carry the handbags, sandals on my back and head straight to town hawk and at that time I was living in a house of KSh 70,000 and the guy did not want to move out of that place because of his status which I told him from the beginning but why were you also not leaving him with all his problems a time came when I sunk into debts I took loans I was giving the money to this man and he was even lying to me that his people were not financially okay I even took loans from merry go round and all the places I could think of and give him before I knew it I was having debts of up to KSh 400,000  no I have to just leave even if people call me a single mother he was also very violent   I used to notice some things but because I was naive I would just ignore you can't keep calling people and telling them about your problems I left home while in class 8 I was all by myself on the streets when schools close when schools close I am like eventually I said let me move back to a small house   and at that time my child was very small I don't want to go to the bar and start doing some crazy things and he also duped me because I killed my business with this Nigerian I actually settled my hospital bills when I went to give birthsand took care of everything I was still very understanding because I knew he did not have money and I knew my business I will not suffer when I have my own business one day I said to myself I am going to Nigeria I used to receive good from Nigeria started being disloyal  I said Nigeria was not that far and they are just brokers I said I sold everything in the house   I took a flight I knew in 2 weeks time I will be back    little did I know those 2 weeks will turn out to be 2 years and before I travelled to Nigeria I tried to get married 3 times but I did not work out I am one of those women who perseveres in marriage I had no clothes, ate salt but I was still faithful I was just there charms I was ready either use charms or church because I was facing some kind of rejection some kind of shame humiliation all the time hate that was even the reason charms I used to hear I had never seen what charms look like   but I heard there were people in Nigeria who help out guys once they place their hand on you and you receive a break through sure but I was a bit skeptical because I don't believe in those things if someone told me about them, it was just like a movie to me I stayed in a hotel and I  if you are a foreigner there it's like you come from abroad I got so many marriage proposals while there someone thinks that I will give them a green card I told her I need this and this and she told me and I said okay   so the first time we went to the market is not what people think so the first day we went and bought stuffs she would take me out then the next day I would go to the market again so eventually I packed my stuffs, they were almost worth KSh 400,000 - KSh 500,000 in the room it was now a few days to travel back home   I took my stuffs and she told me I know of an office they even had stickers   it was a full office, there were stickers even the one for freight they were offering shipping services I spoke to someone and I even paid for the shipping I paid for the shipping and gave them all my luggage there was no office by the way you had been duped there was no office asking around I was told I was like I went back to the hotel, it was now 2 days to my flight back home she acted like she was trying to help me I reported the matter to the police station the owner of the hotel came to see me, I explained everything to him and he felt so sorry for me he comforted me and even gave me free accommodation for a few days the girl had disappeared with my bag the phone had my bag, my phone and everything where had she gone to she just disappeared I had been given free accommodation for a few days in the hotel I was thinking about what I had been through in Kenya and the debts that were waiting for me the money I owe people yet this stock was the only hope to my business what will I do, how will I go back home yet I had even sold everything in the house on the other hand my marriage had failed I had to make money by all means with 3 children to feed, my business had collapsed I told myself even if I go back home I will still end up into prostitution I preferred doing it in a foreign land where my people will not see me and no one knows me anyway I hooked up with another another lady there who told me you know what eventually my free accommodation in the hotel elapsed the lady told me I packed my clothes I had just a few just for 2 weeks I stuffed them in my suit case and followed her she took me to another house but when I got in so depending on your pocket if you have a lot of money there were rooms also for people who had no money at all this bungalow so you will just be called and told when I went there    but I could not come home empty handed yet debts of upto KSh 500,000 were staring at me I had children who needed care, I had lost all my money in business, money that I had taken loans I would get jailed guys will sue me because I owe them I had nothing in the house to the shame and the shame I said you know what  I stayed with that lady I noticed she did not want to take me at this point I did nit have a passport, I had nothing and no on asked me anything summoned me privately she called me in her bedroom I will never forget I explained everything to her and she asked me don't you want to go home I told her she told me you will make money and the way she told me but  she told me no one wants to risk no one wants a hand in it to perform rituals on you so that no man can resist you the other thing mainly is for your own protection and start prostituting here I told them get serious guys   these things don't exist unless you believe in them    I told that madam by the way I don't believe they can happen to me either because I was naive and ignorant I did not want to believe these things exist, I was telling them to stop watching a lot of movies I had never experienced those things in the family and where I was born I told that lady God will protect me the way I am I don't even know how to tell you this I had no graduated   now that is how I sunk even deeper into alcohol because most people don't know I got depressed because now I was living a reckless life I had suffered since I was young I tried marriage but it failed I was just tired whenever I though abut my babies there was nothing I would be coming to do here in Kenya I would have just stayed in Nigeria   I started paying debts   I was not used to that lifestyle of partying every night that was my weakness whenever I made some money I would use it to the last coin before going back to the streets again can buy the whole of Kenya also it used not to be so good, there were no clients   I was not at peace because so I will use that trick to mint more money from you at least to at least last and you will send me because I have tried to keep the relationship a little bit more we have those people you meet and you try to hold yourself a bit the temporary inability to move or speak while falling asleep or upon waking I started having very heavy menses   it was a heavy abnormal flow my friend told me just sleep over it then tomorrow we shall see what to do I was just hearing voices of people talking but I could not open my eyes   I could not walk, I was lying in a pool of blood was called  I remember when she came and found me on the bed lying in a pool of blood, she said they have already used this one    they said this one has been used already and at that time I was still in my sleep asking him to save me

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Published: Wed Feb 24 2021