My Aspergers Diagnosis Journey: Part 2 - Revelation

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- Okay, so welcome to Part 2 of my diagnosis story. Part one, I looked at how I went for 30 years without realizing that I was on the spectrum, and so in this part, I'll be looking at what was the trigger and how I suddenly over a relatively short amount of time came to be very sure that I was on the spectrum and started identifying as having Asperger's. So, I guess the biggest trigger at the start was I ready a book called Look Me in the Eye: My Life With Asperger's, which is an autobiography of a man with Asperger's in the U.S. Called John Elder Robison, and he was describing all of these things in this book that I just seemed to understand at a really, really deep level, and he was explaining them to the reader as if the reader wasn't supposed to understand. So, I'll give you an example, something like his psychologist would write down in his notes, oh, Johnny doesn't like to play with the other children, and he would explain in his own language, Johnny would love to play with the other children. The other children are really mean to Johnny. Johnny would prefer to sit by himself than to put up with the meanness of the other children, so you can see how there's the outside perspective that the rest of the world sees, and then his inside perspective, whereas I found that I could really easily relate to his inside perspective, and I didn't need him to explain it to me before I understood it. So, there were a lot of things that were a bit of triggers for me and thinking oh, wow, I do that, too. So, I got about halfway through this book. I didn't even finish it, put it down, started researching Asperger's online. I did an online test, I found the autism quotient test and the official diagnosis was probably, so that wasn't very helpful, but then I found, I was still quite motivated, so I found a group called Aspergers Victoria and they had a support group meeting the next day or something like that, so I sent them an email and I said hey, I'm thinking, I'm not sure, I might be on the spectrum. Can I come along to your meeting? And I got back a very, very welcoming yes, of course you can. Just turn up. You'll be fine, no issues there at all. I had massive reservations thinking can I really just tag along to a support group meeting about this condition that I know virtually nothing about and the Internet diagnosis said probably, but I went and I was really worried about being an imposter basically so I overcompensated by introducing myself hi, my name's Paul, I diagnosed myself yesterday, and that was supposed to be a joke, but no one took it like a joke. They basically said welcome, you're one of us now! And that really, really threw me. I was expecting some resistance. I was expecting people to say hang on, hang on, you need to prove that you're one of us. You can't just come in here with no knowledge of anything and expect us to be welcoming of you, but I found the exact opposite, and I was quite frankly shocked. There was just no judgment there. It was all 100% welcoming. Anyway, so, the next question for me, in my state of shock, thrown off guard by this reaction I didn't expect, the next question was so, do I? Maybe I do belong here. How do I know if I belong with this group or not? And I was looking around the room and everyone was so different to each other, and I was thinking to myself how on earth am I going to figure out if I belong with these people when they're all so different to each other? And then something quite magical happened. We were having a discussion, and the discussion topic was what to do when you go to the supermarket and the thing that you were asked to buy isn't there? And we probably talked about this for a good 20 or 30 minutes, and in that discussion, I found that all of these other people had been asking themselves similar questions that I've been asking themselves that had similar issues that I had been having, and most importantly, they really loved all of my strategies because obviously I had spent a lot of time thinking about this, and I had a strategy for ever situation. All right, if this, then give 'em a call, if you're not sure about this, then do this, so yeah, so that was really good. Okay, okay, okay, what else, what else? So, that really was quite a magical moment when I realized that I had found my tribe. I have been looking for a place to belong for a very, very long time, always feeling like I'm on the outside and I don't quite fit in anywhere, and all the sudden with this group, I feel like I'm supposed to be there, and I guess from that moment on, I was just sure that I was on the spectrum, and it wasn't because of any kind of intellectual reasoning, it was just from an overwhelming feeling of wow, I've never been in a place with people that I've felt so similar to in my entire life. There must be something to this. I must be one of them that are in Asperger's support group. I must have Asperger's, so that was the kind of emotional logic that was going on, and it was only afterwards that I started obsessing about actually reading up about Asperger's and okay, what is it? Does this apply to me? How is this working? And what I found was I was so sure from that experience that I was on the spectrum that I started reading this books and telling off the books and going no, that's not what's happening. That's what it looks like on the outside, but that's not what's happening on the inside, a little bit like this autobiography that I was reading, and that's partly why I was inspired to start this blog, Asperger's from the Inside because I felt so strongly that from the outside, we get misjudged all the time, and I'd finally found people that validated my perception of the world and said you're not crazy, this is actually a thing. I'm rambling a little bit, but that's okay. So, what I learned at that support group meeting, and what I've continued to learn for the three years ever since is that if you want to understand Asperger's, autism, you need to meet people on the spectrum in real life because if you just read about it in a book, it's not gonna tell you what it actually looks like in real life, and that was my experience, and that was the biggest thing that showed me that I was on the spectrum, was reading about this guy's autobiography and then meeting other people on the spectrum in real life. So, the next question I had to ask myself is okay, so I know I'm on the spectrum. Are other people gonna be as accepting because what I found was that the Asperger's community, no one wanted an official diagnosis. That was the last question on their mind, whereas when I spoke to others who didn't really know anything about Asperger's or autism, they were pretty skeptical. They were like, what do you mean you're on the spectrum? You can't just diagnose yourself. You need to go see a psychologist and stuff for that. So, I was reading up a lot, and a big, big question is the pros and cons of getting a diagnosis, and there are plenty of them, and the one that really, really stood out to me is that it's a common experience, and it was definitely my experience to feel as though I've spent my whole life not being believed when I say I don't work that way, when I say this particular thing that you've asked me to do, I can't do it for these reasons or I need to do it this way because your mainstream way doesn't work for me for all of these reasons are not really believed, and I felt like the label of Asperger's gave me something to point to and say see, I told you I wasn't crazy. Not crazy, I'm not insane. My mother had me tested, which is quote I like from the Sheldon Cooper character. "I'm not insane, my mother had me tested." So, I really appreciated that validation that I felt from the community of other aspies that I've met, but what was I gonna do in the rest of the world if I didn't have a piece of paper to back me up like that, and what I realized is there's always going to be people who don't believe you, even if you've got a piece of paper and you say look, this is a document that's recognized by the government. Don't tell me that I'm not on the spectrum. That's still not enough for people sometimes, so I was umming and ahing about it for a long time, and I decided that because the diagnosis meant so much to me in terms of that validation, it was really important for myself to be sure to get a professional opinion to be sure that I wasn't crazy essentially because I had decided that I belong and that I have Asperger's, but I can very easily doubt myself. So, I decided to seek a diagnosis and that will be the topic of part three of this series of my diagnosis journey, so stay tuned for that. 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Keywords: asperger syndrome (disease or medical condition), real life aspergers, emotional intelligence aspergers, emotional intelligence asd, coping strategies aspergers, aspergers diagnosis story, aspergers diagnosis journey, asd diagnosis, autism diagnosis, aspergers diagnosis, adult diagnosis, adult diagnosis aspergers, adult diagnosis asd, aspie diagnosis, what is aspergers, late diagnosis, late diagnosis aspergers, my aspergers story, autism acceptance, aspergers acceptance
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Length: 11min 27sec (687 seconds)
Published: Sat Mar 17 2018
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