Mel Robbins Life Advice Will Leave You SPEECHLESS – Most Underrated Speech

thank you to our friends at babel for sponsoring today's video should you have big dreams of course you should should you dream of building a mansion on the ocean if that's your thing yes should you dream of the log cabin yes if you want a lamborghini or the new ford broncos should you put yeah yes yes yes if you want the family if you want the body should you think about yeah absolutely here's where everybody goes wrong you dream about the end you make this gorgeous collage of all this stuff that has nothing to do with your current life that literally as you're sitting in your studio apartment and you're looking for a job and you're staring at a mansion going someday it's going to make you feel like a loser because the gap between where you are and where you want to go it seems insurmountable and so what happens based on the research is when you only visualize the end game it's demotivating at first it's really fun to like have a bottle of wine and make your like collage i'm gonna visualize i'm slapping this up there's my vision for this fabulous law of attraction baby come on think about it it's gonna come to me okay i've been doing this for two days i'm not i'm still in this apartment with the cat box that needs to be changed the way to visualize properly is to visualize the bridge between where you are and where you need to go and particularly the horrible stuff visualize working a day job and telling your friends that you're not going to go out tonight because you're working on something visualize making cold calls and being told no visualize not going to that party because you're staying in on a saturday and not going to the barbecue because you're putting in the work visualize sitting at a seminar and learning from other people visualize watching youtube videos visualize your first ever course failing miserably literally that's the sort of thing that you want to visualize yourself doing and pushing through because that's going to help you do the work as you will start to realize you are walking by an entirely different world every single day because you're not looking for it there are opportunities there are signs there are mile markers on your path that you are literally tuning out and we can all sit in this moment and look back and see how the dots of our life connect us here you start to ground yourself in the idea that this too is a dot on the map of your life and it is leading you somewhere incredible law of attraction is simply your thoughts become things and it's true we've talked all about how when you have a negative self-talk it tends to draw more of that to you i think about it like lint in a dryer once negative stuff starts collecting it collects a lot more so here's what everybody gets wrong about manifesting everybody at least kind of in the mass market what you're trained to think about when you think about manifesting is vision boards and when you hear the word vision boards you think about the big stuff so let's use your example of the marathon the vision board would be lewis crossing the yes i did it exactly that will not help you because when you hit mile 13 on the actual race and it is sleeting rain and it feels nothing like that thing on your vision board you're going to start a negative dialogue i can't do this my knees hurt this is not what i thought it was going to be i'm not ready for this i didn't train for this and you are going to tank yourself what you do by visualizing the bridge is you train your nervous system and your mind to do the hard work so you should visualize not crossing the finish line but what is it like to be at mile 12 when your batteries run out on your earbuds i'm serious and you keep going what's it like when your shoelace breaks and now your heel is lifting and you're starting to get a blood blister at mile 17. what's it feel like when you wake up and it is pouring rain and you visualize yourself running anyway that way when you visualize the work you are preparing your body for it so you're not resistant to it when it comes and so you are literally building up almost like this resilience and this muscle inside of you to do the work to get the thing so yeah create the vision board but make sure in addition to crossing the finish line you have somebody running in the rain you have somebody who you have an alarm clock that says 513. you have you know these images that show the stuff that you don't want to do so like for people who want to launch a business for example like a lot of people that i'm sure follow both of us are dying to launch a business or interested in being an influencer social media or making money online and what you visualize are the checks or you visualize the money you're going to make or you visualize how cool it's going to be when you're a lifestyle entrepreneur or whatever the hell it is don't do that i am constantly training my mind to work for me and there's this little trick that i talk about in the book that is all sort of the beginning of having a high five attitude and a high five attitude is the ability to catch yourself when you're going mentally low and to flip yourself back up into a high five attitude okay the thing that i know to be true is that you cannot control the things around you you can't control what's going to happen you can't even control how your nervous system might respond or what thoughts might pop into your head but you can always choose what you do next and what you make it mean right and so that's where all the power is we've talked a lot about negative self-talk and part of the reason why negative self-talk is so crippling is not only because you've repeated it for so long and now it's a pattern but it's also because you have a filter on your brain called the reticular activity system this puppy is the keys to everything and and it's remarkable that uh most of us have never heard of it we've experienced it but we don't know how to use it to our advantage so the res imagine a hair net on your brain only it's like electric meaning it's alive okay now the res has one job and the job is block out 99 of what's going on and let in one percent of what's going on our brains at this moment in history are having to process about 34 days worth of cell phone data in one day it's crazy and so your res has a monster job it's like a bouncer at a bar you're not coming in you can come in there are only four things that automatically get through the bouncer in your brain the ras number one your name so you've experienced being in a crowded place and somebody's like you think you hear lewis you're like huh somebody call my name that was the bouncer in your brain the second thing that always gets let in is any threat to your safety so there are loud noises all over all the time but only ones in close proximity make you go like this that was the bouncer in your brain letting it in okay the third thing that gets let in is when you sense that your partner is interested in sex with you or someone else and the fourth one and this is where this is the billion dollar thing that everybody needs to know the bouncer in your brain lets in whatever you think is important to you so when you get intentional about telling your brain what's important to you like i'm interested in a tesla your brain's literally like oh let's let all the tesla's in come on in here's the downside to this if you have told yourself that you are a bad person for the last 10 years guess what your brain thinks is important examples that mean you're a bad person right so i'm going to give you a very specific example so i personally don't think i'm a bad person i don't think i'm perfect but i know i do my best i mean well i don't have that story about myself at all i used to but i don't let's say i oversleep and i miss the dentist i miss a dentist appointment i'm like ugh i gotta pay the 25 bucks i had to reschedule that thing that kind of blows that's all i think and then i go on my daughter who constantly beats herself up and says she's a bad person this is a real example by the way she oversleeps misses a dentist appointment and it becomes see i always screw everything up i'm a tear i i'm always messing things up i'm about like everything that gets let in confirms that you're a bad person she finds proof and evidence that's the bouncer in your mind i'm here to tell you that when you get intentional about what you want to think about yourself it changes in real time what your brain lets in and what it doesn't that helps you with the other things that you're doing the high five in the mirror okay i'm not thinking about that the pathetic monster hey you know just because i missed the dentist appointment doesn't mean i'm a bad person do the best i can here give myself a break right high five you know what i'm saying shake it off get back in there it lights true right right because it's these little things somebody cuts you off somebody reaches for the last thing of cereal that you wanted to buy at the grocery store you think it's like a sign the world's out to get you this is all your story and your mind skewing the world to prove all of the stuff you keep repeating and the only way to get a handle on it is to start acting the opposite like high-five yourself even though you don't feel like it interrupt the crap that you keep saying put your hands on your heart and settle your body down all of these things are things that somebody does when they care about themselves when they think they deserve to be treated with goodness when they think they deserve support [Music] and when they realize they need it it does begin with you 2022 is the year of self-development the year you finally buckle down and do what you've always wanted to and with babel your 2022 language goals can be reached in no time it's as easy as un de tois i started babble at the beginning of the year to learn french i've always loved the language and wanted to grow my skills this year babel 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Length: 11min 39sec (699 seconds)

Published: Mon May 30 2022