Megan Good and DeVon Franklin on Being Celibate & Freaky! Past Relationship Baggage and Faith

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saw her face right yeah Minority Report star hmm I can't even name all the shows she's on I was counting on one day oh and she didn't come alone she came with a young man that changed her life as she changed his come on come on with it film company executive also been in some films if I'm not mistaken my first film did long yes indeed um also he's a preacher of the good word have a be like that help change your life around make you feel good about breathing every single day he's a preacher but he doesn't preach to you that's what's dope I watch them I watch them in his videos and I go just do got a lot of pizzazz about him he might tell you what you need to do is set it in front of you so you get at least see it because of people don't put it in front of you you don't know you remain ignorant so he puts it all together and then you got to make that decision but he'll drive you into the right direction and they put it all together in this book out there reading I'm about their relationship and relationships just outside of that relationships in general right here's a guideline for you if you wondering why you keep repeating the same cycle I believe you even talked about this in the book you got friends who constantly said they're gonna change things and they keep when it comes to relationships and they go through the same cycle and eventually you got to ask yourself is it me you know that's wrong they're here to talk about their new book the weight Devon Franklin Megan good welcome to the show ladies and gentlemen thank you thank you thank you what's up y'all my thing we get into your relationship we knew it was coming we do is call it right first and foremost um what made you decide to write this book the weight together you know I mean it's we started talking about our relationship well the news publish that we got engaged and as we were doing independent interviews about the various projects we had people start asking us about our relationship yeah and over the years we just started sharing and the more we share the more people wanted to know but they weren't asking from a gossip standpoint they really wanted to know how do I find true love yeah how do I find healthy love and because of the interest around those independent interviews we thought why not write a book that would help people today learn how to date in a healthy way that would produce a success not only in their love life but their life in general in a great period right there right and it did he turned away from not what a nicer seeing everything so this is interesting because I wonder how open you guys would be in the book and a Megan you gonna talk about in the book how were you when you met him you were actually in a relationship at the time right or coming out of a relationship so first time you met on the first thought was it oh I'm gonna date this guy great alright um then eventually you got out of that relationship and not someone but God told you yeah this was gonna be your husband yeah it's I actually had met Devon almost seven years prior before on the general meeting and he had see this little film that I had direct not I'm sorry not directed produced and he was just like listen you know I didn't know you were that good of an actress I really want to see you succeed I'm on your team and we connected over being Christians as well and wanted to use our platforms and then cut to I would see him at events over the years I would see him at church events three events and then when Jumping the Broom came around that at that time that was a huge shift in my life because I was on the tail end of that past that relationship that I wasn't at that time and I remember seeing Devon on set and getting a chance to spend time with them and thinking like wow that's the kind of guy I wish I could marry like because it's his humility his heart his love for God his love for people you know all of that and then when I left Nova Scotia which is where we filmed jumping the broom it was a few months later where I gotten out of that relationship and I was just like Lord what am I supposed to be doing because I'm hitting a wall here spiritually emotionally you know I'm not liking the direction that I'm heading and what am I supposed to be doing and in that time I got confirmation that he was my husband but it was actually nine months later when he asked me out and I spent that next nine months you know just working on myself and making mistakes and figuring it out and realizing I needed to be Sullivan and all of that so that had nothing to do with the preacher saying hey we're gonna be celibate know anything what that was you yeah you guys go on to say there's a difference between abstinence and celibacy right yeah yeah explain that what we say is that you know abstinence is just because sometimes you have any options yeah it's not always a choice celibacy is when you do practice abstinence but with a purpose and what we talked about a celibacy is you're doing it with the larger goal in mind one to do a God's Way and then two to produce the overall success you want in your life and we say you know sometimes we just say abstinence and that's it but absence doesn't give you a plan you know celibacy as we talked about the wait is the really the practice of that it gives you a plan it gives you a purpose and having been you know I've been here before and we talked about a little of this and as a man you know my journey you know practicing the weight was 10 a little over 10 years before Megan and I got married and if I didn't have a higher purpose in mind if I wasn't doing it for a greater reason I wouldn't have been able to kept the commitment and so abstinence is like oh I'm just not doing it but celibacy is like no I'm doing it and here's why I'm doing it ten years oh my god and years Megan you gotta put a bunch of bottle of waters in the closet get you so snacks she'll food until that first time and mi don't turn the phone's off imma keep it clean that's right I love like I said laughter I said I went to the best concerts period you didn't even put me what type of music it was initially after he hung out was why he was like yo I went to one of the best shows and concerts ever I was like who was it was Kurt yeah yeah yeah we had a good time hanging um Tracy G yeah as someone who's practiced celibacy this is my celibacy squad talk about that and I'm really happy because you know I feel like people are overly comfortable just talking about sex in general we're so comfortable that's normalized and so it's crazy that speaking against sex in a way is taboo we're just holding off on it you know and one of the questions I have for you guys even though we both have in common Christianity and our morals in that light but for someone who doesn't see themselves made in the reflection of God what is a good argument for celibacy mm-hmm I mean there's there several one of them is even outside of that the the discipline that we were able to get the control over ourselves over our bodies the way that it shifted both of our entire lives for me it shifted my career I actually got a better career in the past couple years and I had before and not because he gave me a job but as I had just disciplined my focus my work ethic I just had control over myself and I had more power than I ever had before was you know in the past I had more insecurities I had more baggage I had more things I hadn't dealt with and when I began to get free of all that stuff it just empowered me as a woman and shifted my entire life yeah and I feel like you know in relationships a lot a lot of people you know are suffering suffering from post traumatic relationship disorder hell yeah oh where where you go you know from one situation and you completely got hurt and then instead of dealing with it in healing you go right into the next situation and sometime the thing that we you know really fight against is is sex the admission price for love so the idea that no I actually want you to love me because of who I am not based on how I perform exactly and so we feel that even if you may not view yourself in the image of God that there are a lot of practical reasons to practice the weight one is healing and two is give the person a chance to know who you are and get a chance to see who they are because people they like to hide people talk about the best actors are in Hollywood know a lot of the best actors are show up in your dating life because people want to act like they're there the right thing just to get the thing from you and then once they get it they show you who they really are and your if you had known that to begin with you probably wouldn't make the decision Devon Franklin is here Megan good is here and he listened he wrote this book because he's going verbatim like I could things that I read in that book ah you got a question you have about relationships about making about Devon call us eight eight eight seven four two three three four five sway in the morning minority portal a father make a girl make a good Devon Franklin the book the way to powerful practice for finding the love of your life and the life you love arm this is a great book about relationships by two successful people you would never know was at the core of it all had to be but after reading its book you figure it out I'm really happy for you guys absolutely Devon you've given up a lot of game in this book arm that a lot of men may question you about because you spell me out in a few instances turns out needed yeah you got me bro you got me all right which part just the parts you continue to make the same mistakes over and over again and you think it's the people when you got a that part really stuck out at me I was actually in the bathroom reading and it made me look up at the mirror like oh man he's talking to me you know we've all we've all gone through that but also I like um the way in general like you're asking people to do something that's just really aren't that's really not in their DNA what kind of response have you gotten from that just the practice of waiting you use an analogy that if I could recall correctly you compared it to action film what you said the way they make action films what you would know they build up attention yeah you know yeah until you reach that climax yeah and it's similar to that but yeah yeah what in that part of the book it's all about how to get the energy from the wait yeah and you know in any good movie you know there that what makes the movie good is the amount of tension and the conflict and so when you look at a relationship but she has a man a lot of times what happens is you know we say we want all these things in life based upon how we're raised you know as a man I gotta have you know all these women I gotta have the car they have to have the job and all this kind of stuff but what I have found is that when you make a different choice you actually are able to have more success and a lot of that tension of like oh you know do I really want this - do I not you're able to then look at that tension and you master it instead of it mastering you and what I have found is that so many men are not taught like yeah okay you may have a sexual urge that doesn't mean that you bow to it that isn't me because so cuz in our society it's like oh no you not only do bout to but you you mostly supposed to get as many women as you can and I just wanted to just talk from my point of view as a man saying look you know having lived a version of that life we it hurts us - uh-huh and as men I'm like hey how can we get discipline in that area how can we begin to master that area and part of it I do believe is waiting because as I began to wait as Megan mentioned earlier I saw more success in my career because I was able to think clearer I wasn't out just chasing every woman trying to manipulate them for my own physical good I was actually looking at the women I was dating saying hey are you going to be my wife and if they weren't it gave me clarity on how to move on faster versus staying in the situation because sex was on the table the other thing that did one last things I think that it did was it gave me a whole lot more success in my career because I had the energy to focus on the things I wanted and began to excel in a way that that many people said how are we able to move in Hollywood so young a lot of it has to do because the discipline I was trying to practice in my personal life does the same apply to homosexuality in which way and and in terms of the weight and giving in to the urge I think the same applies across the board you know when you're dealing with the issue of sex we believe that waiting for sex until marriage is the right way to go okay what are your thoughts on homosexuality just in general I believe that we are all God's children and I believe at the end of the day I this issue always becomes a polarizing issue yeah and it becomes a thing that tries to divide not only those of faith but those not of faith and our goal here is to not do that we have to look at everyone the same when God does or all his children we all are on this earth and we are all here for a journey and we need each other to practice that love versus being in a situation where because you're one way or you view a different way or you live a different way I look at you differently treat you differently that's not the platform that we have and that's not the kind of Christianity I want to prep frankly making these tweets about what men would talk but I fell to believe that men are the culprits and a lot of sexuality in this world today in a society we can't be who we are without you guys and I think women think just like men when it comes to that - I think women are just as guilty absolutely um but what I say to two women is that you know we we have to take our power back over ourselves and we have to start loving ourselves more and just because you know you want to hook up with someone or you want to have sex with them but that's just what you want to do and a lot of women can operate to some degree the same as a man can and a lot of women also are more emotional and can't you know it just depends on the particular person but I say to the woman for me I was less emotional in the past but I realized that over time all I did was accumulate constant baggage insecurities I didn't even know that I had until I had to deal with them um you know just just things that looking back now I had to literally reprogram and heal from all of that stuff that I had accumulated over the years I don't mean like miscellaneous people I'm talking about relationship that I was in for two three four years all the stuff that came with it because in that relationship with that particular person I thought that I knew that person and you know because we were being intimate I was kind of blinded to some degree and I would settle for certain things or be okay with certain things that were not realistically things I could be okay with long term and things that made me happy long term or things that didn't make me question myself long term so I say to a woman you know just because you have the ability to move a certain way does not mean that it benefits you and if anything I would say that it hurts you a lot more than you could really realize right now Devon Franklin Megan good they're both here Tracey truth okay this is the big question does the weight mean we gotta break up oral sex that's a very important question classify oral sex is sex others don't how do y'all feel look here here's the beautiful thing about the way and this is what we have always tried to do is s way said earlier everyone has to look at their life take the principle and decide how to apply when we talk about celibacy and we talk about doing that with the purpose we do Ramin we mean refraining from sex and what's so important is that so many people want to be told do this do that no you need to wrestle with this wrestle with it figure out how does it apply to my life when we talk about the definition we're very clear about it but at the same time we want people to read it digest it and make their own plans on how they're going to practice the way do we think this should be off the table yeah we think it should be off the table for sure and it's very important when people read the book to be able to say okay how am I going to navigate this because so many times specifically religiously a lot of times it's like do the rule that's on you we wanted to write the book which is really about how to do it so that each person takes individual accountability responsibility for the choices they're making their life all right we got on Rodney on the line from Tennessee good morning Rodney how are you what I what I would I'm sway man real quick and I just want to say man that you are one of the last great radio personalities in the country man so salutes you backers there is not a farm to support Thank You writing farm system I'm nothing without my through Rodney but I wanna get my crew Megan to Devon everybody was here while I'm accepting this award Rodney thank you bro yo real quick I got a question for Devon man talk about rest with everything um my question is is you know what do you do you know if you if you're a guy you know I believe in you know you test drive the vehicle before you purchase it so like you know you I believe in the whole no sex before marriage and everything that sounds great but what if you practice that you get married to her and then after you get married honeymoon you realize the sucker horrible and I think that a lot of men think about that before they jump the broom it's like what if I get into it and I like okay great question give this question a lot first of all I think that it's really important to not view a woman as a vehicle and to even contextualize her in that way because when we do that we kind of lower her value and at the same time we lower our value you know as a man what I have learned is that when you have a foundation of love and trust when then you get into sex in marriage you actually have a safer environment to be able to explore and to learn each other and what I also know is that as a man with here's the thing I don't want a woman to like me or to fall in love with me because of what I do in the bedroom I want a woman to fall in love with me because of who I am what I'm about where I am going and I can tell you that when as a man we begin to shift our focus to those things I promise you I'm not saying look you know you don't need to find out do you have chemistry in the book we talk about this thing called passion chemistry you know is there an attractiveness you know when when you kiss do you feel a spark when you hold her hand do you feel like okay yes there's some chemistry those things are very important but certainly don't believe I think that's actually a false way to look at it that you have to test drive a vehicle and again I don't like to work reference women that way but I can tell you when you get into marriage and you have that environment and you begin to explore sexually it's a safer wonderful incredible environment where both of you can experiment and begin to learn each other in that way and it adds a whole nother dimension to your life right like I got some growing to do because I can't be happy when you say okay we feel free hey you know what in in marriage man hey that's right exactly exactly that's what we want to hear you guys think can we still be freaky yeah it has a many merit in my manner fun all right Chiquita real quick go ahead would you like this papi Chiquita you did I'm here go ahead I just wanna say thank you to Megan for the book and again I just had a question I want to see how would I go about of letting my fiancee know that I want to go through this process even though we've been together for nine years and have three children I think he probably would not even want to be in a relationship thinking just know why he can't have sex until we're married mm-hmm I mean I think if anything it should push you closer to the goal you know if you guys have already been together for as long as you've been together and you are planning to get married I think that you know saying hey honey this is something that I want to try and this is something that I believe will bless our you know relationship and our marriage and everything about us I don't think that a I mean it depends on the person but I feel like it's a lot less scary knowing that you guys are already planning to get married and and it would be a time that you would refrain just to bless your marriage and then ultimately go into marriage and have plenty of wonderful lovemaking all right plus I got three kids here and going away all right yep I don't have a kids anything yeah yeah and yeah I got a ring down is it a Nelson just a gut instinct couple years ago couple years on Franco well me like a baby so you know I got a daughter like well you know bring them over okay drop them off in Harlem um D be real quick you wanna say something real quick yeah I wanted to give them a little relationship quiz I mean does it sound a real picture perfect so I figured you know why not test their love nothing is greater than the power of love but we figured why not give you a little test to see how well you know your significant other right now on sway in the morning all right three quick questions right let's see if they agree what was your last argument about and who won what was our last argument about um what was yesterday what did we do traveling when we arguing that wasn't an argument what was it you were irritated because someone oh yeah yeah that wasn't that wasn't argued all right next one next hi number two what does the other person do that gets on your last nerve start with you Devon she leaves her stuff out the side of the bed is is amiss okay is organized chaos second of all he really leaves his stuff when you go into his office or his bedroom messy messy NIST messiness last question why do you want me to help you clean your room oh that's right that's right that's right I want her to help me in a room if she said no and I was like I thought a wife is supposed to help her if we can make an executive decision that from moving here forward we're going to try to keep it clean and I don't mind helping but if it just gonna be dirty every time and no I'm not help you clean it up but there's what to her credit I went in the room started cleaning in lo and behold she came in to help me okay so yeah so she wins no arguments okay don't make it wins all right that's right last question what about the other person turns you on you go baby would you talk with what turned me on three times you all about me go ahead laughing Gideon it's my um his heart his physique um oh good laugh okay um you Jim polls Oh red I'm light-skinned after his wife I don't blow I mean obviously your personality her her smile or eyes and just you know when she's like doing her work oh man it's amazing because I don't think she realized how powerful she is and how she carries herself and what she means to so many people so when I see her just on point and doing it it's the biggest turn-on in the world are you guys I do I want to marry y'all our beautiful the book is called the weight of powerful practice of finding love of your life and the life you love Devon thank you for coming I appreciate you weigh continued success and they found in the book now can you order it right now get this book man this is great reading I read the whole book trust me sway in the morning holy pond shade 45

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