Mark Gungor Key To Incredible Sex Part 4

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okay now we're gonna do the yomomma session the number one key to an incredible sex and I just want to set this up a little bit for you guys so you can kind of understand where I'm coming from in addition to some of the things that I do being a minister and a relationship speaker and a musician and whatever I'm also a pilot and if I were to try and tell you how to go for my home airport in Stevens Point Wisconsin to Green Bay oh we got a Green Bay person there I say pastor how do you get there how did I'd say what you pretty much would fly a heading of zero-niner-zero actually technically it's a little more north of that but for our example that's fine you flies zero-niner-zero you pretty much go right from Stevens Point to Green Bay okay now that's assuming there are no other variables for example if the wind starts blowing very hard out of the north and you keep flying zero-niner-zero you won't get to Green Bay you'll wind up in Milwaukee or Chicago or who knows where else depending on the strength of the wind so if the wind is coming that hard you know we might change our heading to you know zero six five or something now we're flying more like this to go this way okay if you keep just pointing the plane to where you want to go without adjusting to the variables you'll always get off course so it seems kind of odd but a lot of times you're flying in weird angles so you can go straight now what I'm going to share with you when I talk about sexual issues here is how to get from point A to point B but it depends on your variables and everybody has them all right and it's impossible for me to cover all of that in this session I'll try and do the best that I can but you're gonna have to use your own best wisdom your best judgment common sense to understand why something I might share may not exactly help you get to where you need to get because of your past or whatever the deal is and then you adjust accordingly and if you're really stuck you know give us a call you know call our office we would love to help you and we really appreciate when people call us and asking us questions about well how do I deal with this problem and that sort of thing so so just keep that in mind I understand you might have some big variables and and you'll just have to adjust for yourself than that the other thing that I want you to keep in mind is this you know being a minister sometimes when you start talking about sexual things in and you start to try to explain to people why you have certain moral stands you know they don't really understand but there's a reason for that the reason God encourages people to wait until marriage to have sex is because when you have sex outside of marriage you run a very high risk of messing things up now this is particularly true for men men tend to imprint off of their early sexual experiences much like a bird some of these birds these cranes and stuff they imprint on the first thing they see after they're born either of you you know about this but there's some animals that when they're born the first thing it sees it imprints on and thinks it's its mama so if this is these stupid cranes are born in a chickens around it's gonna follow the chicken and ignore its mother and and professionals who deal with these animals have to be very very careful not to be seen over there I've watched them work with them while they actually dress up like gigantic cranes to get around them because they're not the brightest things in the world everywhere and and men tend to imprint off of their early sexual experiences if a man's early sexual experiences are in the context of lust which is what they are outside of marriage is not really about love it's about lusts there's a lot heat about the back seat of a car it's about someone they don't really know they tend to imprint on that they tend to imprint on the sex and not the girl are you following me it's like when they have this you know these early orgasmic experiences it's like their psyche goes well what was that and it starts taking pictures you know this is because I want to remember they want her and they imprint off of this and that's why a lot of guys they get stuck here that's why a lot of men are constantly even in their marriages are trying to recreate a lust environment trying to get fulfilled sexually as a married man trying to force their wives to do things that a lot of them are very uncomfortable in doing why are they doing that because they're trying to recreate this thing they're trying to recreate this thing see if a man's early sexual experience is in the context of marriage where he falls in love with this girl and all these people gather together and they all approve of it and they have this wedding and and they're in a church and their God approves them and they're all their friends and family approve of it and they have the biggest celebration of their life and then on their wedding night and on their honeymoon they starts having these first experiences you know now is that he's imprinting on the girl and it connects to the girl at a very deep level that's why people who wait until they're married to have sex have a fraction of the divorce rate of the rest of the world because he's imprinting on her as opposed to just sex I I met a man and not too long ago who told me after a session he says you know I got a promise of what is it he said that I'm just not interested in sex you know which to a Puerto Rican is very odd and Oh God it's like speaking Swahili man I don't know what he's talking about and uh and I said what do you mean he's I don't I don't know I'm just I'm just not interested in her and she's really upset with him and I said well are you never interested in sex he says well you know if we if we go out have a nice dinner and go to a hotel or something then then I can then I can get into it I said let me ask a question what were you a virgin when you got married and I said we pretty sexually active yours eyes kind of lit up well yeah yeah yeah and I said won't you tell me about it well it would be a typical experience oh you know I I find these women and pick them up in bars and take them out for dinner go to some hotel I said you see what you've done you've so imprinted off of that that you constantly try to go back there you try to go back there in fact psychologists today my whole sex culture that you get from experts is all lust based because they assume virtually everybody's already done this so they try and encourage people to keep recreating you keep fantasizing and create imagining and all this other kind of stuff and it can be very very destructive and men can have a really hard time really truly connecting with their wives can you get past that yes you can and I'm gonna show you how but you just gotta understand it's gonna be different for you than for everybody else same was true with women they also imprint but they imprint in a different way it's not so much on the sex as so much what happens after the sex and when women have sex outside of marriage nothing happens after sex there's no connection there's no follow-up they imprint on that sex equals nothing sex means nothing that's why so many when married women have such negative attitudes about sex what I was talking about last night how this is such a key thing they don't even comprehend it because they have learned falsely that sex means nothing if a woman waits until her wedding night and sees how that is how she connects with this guy she understands this means everything this is a key this is a very fundamental thing particularly if you're very bad for women who've been sexually molested because not only did that doesn't mean anything their whole experience was for stop them and that so has such an impact those early experiences are so important it's not like God is embarrassed about sex God is not a prude he's seen you naked he can handle it it would really freak me out but he can handle it some people say yeah you shouldn't have sex before team is just puritanical no no no no no this stuff has a huge impact on people that a lot of you will struggle with this for the rest of your life I'm gonna show you how to help you with the struggle which is not what you want to hear you want to hear how you just fix it it'll all go away it won't probably just all go away you will struggle with this for the rest of your life all the more reason you need to tell your children what I'm about to tell you so they do this right it's a matter of like metabolism you know how some people they can eat anything they want and they never gain weight you know that we all hate those people you know I don't they never have to think about it it just it's natural to them they need anything and they stay slim all the time then there's the rest of us we so much as look at food we gain five pounds what is the difference we can still be at a healthy weight but it's a lot harder for us it's a lot more work for us a lot more energy for us to get into a healthy place what I'm talking to you about has to do with sexual metabolism if you do this right in the beginning those people have an automatic natural healthy metabolism and they carry it with them throughout their whole lives that's why these people usually stay married forever these guys should get married you know 18 years old you know like Debbie and I did and and died at 103 you know with just what but it's they have this healthy sexual metabolism because they didn't get all messed up and everybody else has struggled that's not to say you cannot have a good sex life you can you can have a wonderful sex life it's just for a lot of you is gonna be more deliberate and you're gonna have to work at it a little bit harder than others are you following what I'm saying I'm not trying to discourage you but I'm not gonna whitewash this to you that's why you want to encourage your kids wait for the love of God wait and particularly for women not only psychologically they have now determined through research that women's physically do not respond the same after they've had multiple sexual partners women typically when they have sex they release a chemical called oxytocin into their bloodstream it's it's it gives them this buzz and helps them to connect emotionally it's the same chemical that's released in a woman when she breastfeeds a little baby and it helps her to connect they call it the bonding chemical they have measured that women who have multiple sexual partners they start releasing less and less oxytocin just a physical thing I mean this is really dramatic for women if physically they can't even get the same buzz you know it's not worth it you can make it work you can have a healthy sex life I'm gonna show you how to do it but all the more reason you want to encourage your kids wait do this right don't tell sex is wrong sex it's wrong man I told my kids sex rocks sign me up jag I like this alright but do it the right way if you don't do it the right way they can struggle some of you are struggling now some of you will struggle for the rest of your lives you can get it right just remove it but your metabolism is gonna be different you'll take more energy and that's okay are you hearing me don't get discouraged you can still do it it'll just be different than if you would have waited I wish to God we'd all waited I know we didn't and and it depends on the amount of damage I mean just cuz you have one or two as it doesn't know you're seriously damaged but some people really be in tune to this stuff for they got married you struggle I know you really struggle with this stuff and uh and hopefully what I share with you in this session will really help you okay y'all okay you ready now what we're going to do is we are going to focus on the woman they say why is that because she's a lot more complicated than you thank you dear so we're gonna focus on what it takes for a woman to experience great sex you see all a man needs for great sex is for you to show up Oh Oh we need his oxygen where is she alright alright so guys are easy women are a little bit more complicated and we're going to approach this and again keep in mind I'm going to be dealing with this issue from a stereotypical standpoint that a man is more interested in sex than his wife if you're the opposite you just have to interpolate and a lot of the same rules apply all right so anyway so number five what does a girl need first we're gonna sign with five to go up to the number one key to incredible sex she needs romance looking at the Song of Solomon he writes how delightful is your love my bride how much more pleasing is your love than wine and the fragrance of your perfume than any spice here's a man who knew how to talk to a woman he was romantic romantic one of the things that really has me ticked off today with the whole porn thing and there's lots of them that have any tick tock but the fundamental one is that it has changed men today it used to be that men were lovers of women but this whole porn thing has turned so many men into self-centered pigs it's not about making love to the woman it's about being stratified in what you do this to me why did you do that well how do I get your head out of the toilet all right you wanted to be have a great sex life you've got to learn how to be a lover to the girl you know a lot of guys get mad because women aren't as turned on as they are automatically I don't have as much desire as they have guys will say my wife's not interested in sex sure she is all women are interested in sex all women have sexual desire but it's different from you your job is to be a lover to her and awaken the sexual desire that is in her all right and a lot of guys they don't want to do that they just want to be lazy I know I are one the guy should focus on the girl it should be the man's goal to bring his wife to orgasm you know and and you usually can tell by the way she responds the little booze and the eyes and some of y'all it's you because a lot of women say well I saw embarrass me I I couldn't do that you know and and I said girls if your husband has to constantly ask you if you've been at a promised land you ain't communicating so on I don't know what to do you know come up with a signal you know whisper bingo in his ear it makes for great code later you can talk around the kids they have no idea what you're talking about hey baby up for some bingo later yeah I can use some bingo you know your kids will say man you ever see mom and dad played bingo what's with the bingo thing of course if you're Catholic I'm really freaking y'all cause y'all played bingo every Thursday night at your church but that's the different bingo all right lovers of women you should be focusing on the girl you need to romance the girl and romancing the girl isn't in the middle of the night going hey you like well I'm interested that well you know look if your wife likes you waking her up in the dead of sleep then go for it I don't care there's a minute you feel turned on you don't have to be immediately gratified all that's doing is God reminding you be nice to the girl be nice to the girl be nice to the girl all right and then that should kick you into your romantic mode not your hey come here baby help me out it is your job to be a lover to the girl and I'll tell you what this whole desire thing really has a lot of couples stressed out because we've always heard you know all of our lives and all the books and all the sex education this is how it works you know desire leads to arousal which leads to sex right we've all heard that great only one problem with that it's not true for millions of people particularly women there are some guys this works for them too and then they really struggle because they should be this way but a lot of people they're not a lot of women exhibit little to no desire at all and then they feel badly about themselves because they think well I should I should who told you should some stupid textbook who cares I have discovered asking couples and interviewing them that you know this whole desire thing a lot of guys you just know never interested in the same she doesn't want us of sex and ice I said really I said well let me ask you a question will she have sex with you oh yeah well what she like when she does oh she's incredible she's good in fact I've actually come to the point I don't have any data to support this but just you know from from the couples I have talked to but I've come to believe that some of the most sexual people on the planet exhibit little to no desire at all upfront in fact a lot of women who are incredible sexual animals are only feel like who only feel like doing it when they're doing it they don't lead with this big desire thing in front now stop and think how that changes your view to yourself because right now if you think would you I never feel that much or something wrong with me and then you develop a negative attitude about sex see and a lot of guys get angry at their wives because she never initiates it she never she never lies who cares who cares I promise you in my house I am the initiator I am the initiator I will initiate and then I'll be back who cares who cares missus really got a lot of people messed up I'm telling you a lot of women this is not fair until you start waking it in her okay so you've got to learn to be a lover to the girl learn how to awaken the desire that is in her which leads me to the next point which she needs foreplay now you're preaching brother and let me say this to you you know a lot of guys way of initiating sex is they'll ask their wife you want to have sex and the answer more often than not is no why would you ask a question that's most likely to be responded with a no I never asked my wife if she wants to have sex never I just go for it because I am the initiator you may not feel like it now but you will when I finished the head of your idea of romance and for players you wanna have sex it's something wrong with you come on rise up take your place now check this out Song of Solomon I love this he writes your stature is like that of the palm tree and your breasts I like clusters affront I said to myself I will climb the palm tree now take home the fruit now the problem here is most guys don't want to take the time to climb the boundary they just want to hop on a cherry picker and swing in and grab the coconut go ahead set you wait come on stop that you've got to learn how to Kalama DePalma tree you got to learn how to touch it a girl how to romance of a girl and you need two people mega to mix it up you got don't be so puke and predictable a lot of you guys the minute you touch her she knows what's coming why does she act like that because you're so obvious you're so predictable women are not interested in a formula men are by nature formulaic you do this you get that alright and she's nice you know you'd do that every time with her she just get away from me you need to mix it up gotta learn how to collide my DePalma tree you know you don't know him you really want great foreplay turn it into a 24-hour deal I call it slow roasting your woman man it rocks don't mean sister hurry you know kiss the girl leave her alone flirt with the girl leave her don't touch the girl leave her alone keep her guessing what's going on you know my wife will come out of the shower say baby just lay down I'll give her a back rub she'll fall asleep now cover up now crawl into bed next to her turn off light go to sleep I couldn't do that pastor I go blind you won't go blind you've got to learn how it aligned with a palma tree take it a time Oh worry about this desire thing you see you know I'm waiting for her to have all this desire on front stop you're gonna be a very old man before you have sex again all right number three she needs time check this out he says how beautiful you are my darling your eyes behind your veil are doves your hair is like a flock of goats not my choice of words but apparently four thousand years ago this was hot talk your lips are like a scarlet ribbon your mouth there's a lovely your neck is like the Tower of David your two breasts are like two fawns like twin funds of a gazelle that browse among lilies check this out he says until the dawn breaks and the shadows flee in other words all lie no this dude had to be in his 20s man I'm telling you Miss Puerto Ricans way past old hey long I gotta tell you right now wait oh the night along what's he gonna do all night long he says I will go to the mountain of myrrh and to the hill of incense where death is that pasture let me splain it to you if you look in the back of your Bible where they have all those nice maps of the Holy Land and stuff you can look as hard as you want you won't find myrrh Mountain anywhere so well where is it I don't think it's rude talks about her hair her eyes and her nose and her lips in her neck and her breasts ends up at Murr Mountain where do you think it is the Bible yes it is and the one thing is he's there all night which brings me to a very delicate subject and for the love of God don't raise your hands the fork point out anyone but this is a problem for a lot of guys I was watchin this TV show once my wife was in the hospital and I was in the hospital with her and we're just kind of killing time watching TV and flipping through the channels and all these daytime shows different shows talk shows and we hit this one in the ladies's today we're going to be discussing why women have a difficult time achieving orgasm as okay I'm in let's watch this one I like this one so they have these women and they have these psychologists and these doctors and they're all what's wrong we think we stank and then they would go to the commercials and they would do these teasers where they would ask a question and then give potential answers and then you had to wait till after the commercial to get the answer right it's a teaser make you stick around well about halfway through the show they asked this one question what is the average length of a man's sexual experience a two minutes be ten minutes see 20 minutes and it went to commercial I looked at Debbie and I said you know what the answer is she goes no what I said two minutes she goes oh nah I said you watch came back in two minutes and then they went on what's wrong with us how can we have a hard time a TV hello did you see the screen I do the math if a woman needs anywhere from 7 to 14 minutes and a boys done in 2 minutes you got yourself a math problem and the worst part of it is two minutes is the average Oh guys you can do better than the two-minute drill there's all kinds of things you can do to all kinds of books as all kinds of helps those exercises you can do and I don't like exercise them but this stuff I can do you know that way you can get past this two-minute drill problem now ladies you have to understand the number one element to enable a man to beat the two-minute drill is regular consistent sex yeah that's what I'm talking about you make a guy wait for two weeks imean gonna last 30 seconds for crying out loud alright you need to help this boy become a lover to you you gotta help him get his stamina alright but you gotta be focused on the girl now all you are is focused on yourself like guys that's 2 minutes is more than enough time there's you know it's all about that Thanks and then II wonder why she does want to have sex later well it's a drag for her I know women who've been married their entire married lives who've never had an orgasm never but who'd been married before I knew what an orgasm was they knew what I was talking about come into my office now I don't know I said well let me ask a question does he ever ring your bell no so have you ever had your bell rung yeah so she knew what I was talking about been married before so let me ask you a question when he makes love to you she was yeah I said 2 minutes or less she goes how did you know I mean come on guys we can do better than the two-minute drill alright number 2 she needs privacy he writes let us go early to the vineyards secret place private place to see if the vines have budded if their blossoms have open if the Bhama Granite's are in bloom people sure are in the gardening and there he says I will give you my love it's gonna be very difficult for a woman to feel very sexual or turned on if she doesn't feel that her lovemaking to you is safe and private all right which means chances are if you have dinner guests waiting in the next room she won't be very interested - a lot of guys we'd have no problem with that major Samson down those Doritos in the cupboard we'll be with you in a little bed about two minutes I'd say she's not gonna be interested in that you nitwit that's why for a lot of women just having children makes it difficult for them to feel very sexual I call children the anti sex because they're always around they're always around it's always around and it's hard for them to feel very sexual you got to work with her on that and ladies you know there's locks on your doors use them you know you can't just neglect the sexual needs of your husband until they're 18 how are you gonna be gone eventually everything changes with children you know you're not the same anymore women you guys have to understand it physically they're different emotionally they're different everything's change those beautiful seductive breasts are suddenly transformed from erogenous zones into public utilities and guys she's being touched all day long and then you come home hey baby touch me and I now you hang a couple of monkeys from your testicles all day long see how you feel at the end of the day I'm good I'm good thanks I'm okay thank you thanks thanks for asking I'm good I'm good boys she's not the same but girls he is ain't nothing happened to him he's still the same wild man you married and a lot of couples they really mess up at this point in their marriages that's why a lot of marriages only make it to about the five to seven year mark just long enough for the Rugrats to come in help set the cat the apple cart and you fail to make the proper adjustments and it destroys the relationship ladies you cannot get so engrossed in being mommies that you forget about the sexual needs of your husband super Johnny needs me Johnny needs me I think what Johnny needs he needs a father and if you keep it up he's not gonna have one it's not worth it and girls have to be really careful about rejecting your husband's sexually I know if you're aware of this but for most men as few as 3 or 4 rejections in a row and he'll begin to shut down sexually if you have a husband who argues with you about sex consider yourself blessed by God because at least you keep it on the front table but a lot of guys they just shut down yeah I've had women in conferences like this will come up to me tears running down their faces and I'd do that to my husband now you won't touch feet it's not worth it why do you think all the jokes on TV are about the young sexually frustrated man but the older sexually frustrated woman because she comes back to life see you're gonna come back to where you were but now he won't care about you anymore he won't feel safe to be the initiator anymore and it's gonna he said well why don't we do everything you know it rarely ever goes back to the way it was you might have to turn into the initiator I mean is that it's not worth it you younger ones watch yourselves during this time I understand you're tired and guys get a clue the girl is exhausted give her a break let her rest they just did a survey on USA Today weekend this weekend don't know if you saw it but they said what were men's number one interest it was sex food and sleep and they surveyed women and their top three interests were sleep food and sex I mean you're being traded in for a cheeseburger Jack you know help the girl let her rest give her a break you want her to be a lover to you let her take a nap you take the little Rugrats for a while let them peel your brain apart all right and all of this now leads us to the number one key to incredible sex which I will give to you right after this break

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