Long Lost Family S5 E 1

for thousands of people across Britain someone is missing from their lives people have a history in our past I don't have that she needs to know that she was wanted sometimes you just got to do things for love I went to femaie dad because I went to know who I am finding someone when the trails gone cold can feel like an impossible task but that's where we step in we found her offering a last chance to people desperate for help she feels she's given you away twice ha ha Farrell this month just to know that she wants to be a part of my life he's number with no idea where our searches will lead we've traveled the world uncovering family secrets and finding people that no one else has been able to trace hello how are you doing huh you all right and finally answering questions that have haunted entire lives first my death just to hold them once after so long was absolutely Bridget this week two firsts on the lost family a couple searching together for their son need to know that has been okay but he forgives us for what we did and our first father searching for his daughter I want to know that it wasn't my choosing to leave you our first search comes from Ontario Canada and a couple whose happy marriage hides a painful decision made years ago oh yeah like that one - mm-hmm we've got a look at these in 50 years know when Susan and Chris Allerton are retired and have just celebrated their 50th wedding anniversary that's me and my child bride chiller bride we'll look at you look like just go by I thought that but two years before they were married the couple were forced to make a decision they've had to live with ever since we had our first child adopted yeah you know all these years down the road um you just think he should have been part of our lives Susan and Kris are returning to Scunthorpe in North Lincolnshire where they both grew up I met Kris at school he was a year above me hasn't it changed yeah 52 years 52 years since we were here together 84 - oh yes we got on and we never looked back yeah instantly it just felt right the feelings that we had fall another and it seemed like the most natural thing but nobody was explaining to me what was going to happen in the early 1960s a time when sex education was rarely taught in schools Susan found herself pregnant she was only 14 years old and Kris 15 when I found out I was pregnant I was absolutely horrified mum felt that I'd brought shame on the family it was a disgrace what we'd done I got called down to the headmistress office and she said I was a slot I couldn't see that what we'd done was wrong or evil you know cuz it never seemed that way but neither of us would finish school I mean it wasn't as if either set of parents were saying we'll keep this kid here we'll look after it everybody just wanted to get it done with forget about it move on it was decided that the baby would be adopted and Susan was sent her local mother and baby home this really brings back memories cuz I'm visualizing it with all crumbs outside and babies today it's a school boarding house I was the youngest one here still a child I didn't visit I wasn't gonna forget about your or leave it to stew by yourself I felt almost desperate for her but there was no sense of an alternative on the 17th of September 1962 Susan gave birth to a baby boy who the couple named Anthony I used to tell him how beautiful he was how I loved him and hug him but then of course I was going to have to let him go after six weeks the day came for Susan to give up her baby for adoption oh it was an awful day but kept saying well it's time now it's time to hand the baby over but I just kept hanging on really tight and in the end the nuns got hold of the baby very roughly and just pulled him away and then I was heartbroken I can remember just crying and crying I felt very sorry for the ties that a mother has with a child I just wanted to look after it I think that's probably why we stayed together as soon as they were old enough Susan and Kris got married and in 1981 Chris took a job as a steel worker in Canada the couple had five more children but they never forgot about Anthony every day I think about him too you just get on with life because that's what you have to do and and I think that that's been easier for Chris than them for me I look at it in a rational light more than an emotional one every time it came up I would say is better off he got the best sturdy possibly gooder but Susan is still haunted by doubts about whether they did do the right thing for their baby are we gonna live out our lives and never know need to know that has been okay but if it gives us what we did when sue and Chris gave their son up for adoption before they were married or contact ceased because of the confidentiality surrounding an adopted person's new identity they had no way on their own discovering what happened to him we had to work with a specialist into Mujib legally allowed to access adoption records the information that came back revealed that Anthony had been adopted by a couple living at Peterborough it was now called Andrew field working as a lorry driver Andrew lives with his partner and their two sons in a village just outside beautiful right this will be great he agreed to meet me to find out more about the circumstances leading to his adoption this is the first time that we've had to tell someone but it's not just their birth mother it's come looking but their parents stayed together and in fact both of them are searching for him what the impact will this have on Andrew hello Nikki nice to meet you your - nice to meet you come on in thank you very much nice Thanks all right okay so have you always known you were adopted no and my adoptive father told me when I was 13 basically the only information that I was given was my mother was only 15 and I wasn't old enough to look after me I gotta tell you something your birth mother stayed with your father and they went on to have five children and they're both looking for you I wasn't expecting that Matt song by on Sue's no Chris unbelievable now that definitely has not we for six I don't blame you there were teenage sweethearts I just happened to Sunan too young so I'll take it on on the oldest you had five siblings but one Christian passed away but you have James and Paul and Suzy and Adam well I can see you know this is I can't really like I'm normally quite articulate but I can't really get and a grasp on but you know just you take your time picketing I'm actually just you know you're clearly thinking it through and it's a fair thing to get your Hedren just debate yeah all those years and the pair of them have been together all the time and yeah but she's in desperate you know to one day find you mm-hmm but your biological father Chris is way of dealing with it was just you know don't I rock the applecart you know you were t really comfortable family a stable environment yeah couldn't wish for a better I'd bring him to be honest with you did you ever consider looking it up yeah yeah I did um but no didn't take it any further you know my birth mother may have gone on to marry had a family and unsaid anything about me that's why this just means so much to know that susan has been looking for me and especially father as well just can't believe that I've so he chipped the bits well I've got a photograph of them Wow so definitely resemblance there did you ever think about the man who had been involved yes but to be honest with you I just assumed that it be maybe long gone yeah it's brilliant that really is I'm just blown away your hair and my gel I'm all alone with other and I'm here for my mother is okay I am angelarts over I'm looking at a picture of my mama's oh yeah are you dad I'm a daddy myself mmm carefully for now he's injured before we tell Susan and Kris that we've found their son our second search is on behalf of a former British soldier who had to leave his baby daughter behind in Germany never to see her again the instant she was born this feeling of love came over me this was my daughter I want to know that it wasn't my choosing to leave born in West Yorkshire to a Chinese father and English mother Paul right now lives in Poole with his partner Julie I just want to know if I've ever been in her thoughts never know when he was 18 Paul was in the Army stationed in Hamlin in Germany I've never been abroad before but it wasn't really holiday in the 1980s there were over 50,000 British troops in West Germany as part of the West's cold war defences this is the first time Paul has been back brilliant so many good memories there I mean the first thing you learn when you are though is how to order beer it was in one of the bars that the soldiers hung out in that Paul met his first love a local girl called Michelle and before long she was pregnant it was a shock because we hadn't planned it but once the shock dissipated it was excitement on the 5th of June 1985 Michelle gave birth to a baby girl who they called Corinna the instant she was born this feeling came over me of love and it was overwhelming really I couldn't believe that this was my daughter she was so fragile absolutely my knees I would change the nappies feed her I wanted to be involved as much as I could Paul continued to balance life as a soldier and the new dad then just before Karina's first birthday he got some devastating news I was called into the sergeant majors office and he informed me that I was getting Posey back to the UK it was you're going back to England next week it was that quick and I said look I've got a family and he said but you're not married and if you're not married it's the way it is Paula Michele had discussed marriage but she was only 18 and would have had to go to England with him Michele may have been a bit scared about leaving home because being married to a soldier isn't easy it's just didn't happen although he planned to keep in touch the day came for Paul to say goodbye to his daughter I held Karina for the last time get Ricky Stoll Oliver and gave her back to Michele because I had to go got in the car I remember looking back it was a feeling of helplessness I was leaving my daughter and there's nothing I could do about you when former soldier Paul Wright was posted back to Britain from Germany he was separated from his baby daughter Karina I always always thought about always although Duty kept him in the UK Paul desperately tried to stay in touch with his family back in the 80s it was just you know telephone boxes there was no Mobile's so I would collect 50 peas and I would have them stacked on the shelf in the telephone box I would keep ringing Michelle finding out how Karina wars we just be talking and talking until they run out but after six months it wasn't Michelle but her grandmother who would answer the phone her grandmother then told me she's married now don't call again I just felt helpless I would write letters I'd send Karina parcels of clothes because she was my daughter but I've never received letters back and it just that was it having been shut out by Karina's family Paul reluctantly gave up trying to keep in touch good or bad you can look back at your life well mine's got this little piece taken out and it's just missing it was only when Kareena became an adult the pool felt able to try and find her but so far his search has got nowhere I do worry that she may think that I didn't care that I abandoned her I want to know how her life has been has she got children of her own she's 29 now and I left when she was 1 ever since Kareena turned 18 more than 10 years ago Paula's been trying to find her it wasn't sure the exact spelling of a German surname virtue a whether in fact her name had changed when her mother got married before we got anywhere we needed to know Karina's surname in Germany unlike the UK there are no national online records of births our ages and deaths all these records are held locally so to investigate Karina's surname we had to go to the Town Hall in Hamlet where she was born after trawling the archives we found the original record of Korea's birth and this is where we had our breakthrough her name had been altered on the paperwork we discovered that Karina's name had been changed when she was a little girl and her mother got married from Bircher to Zee Bernhard at last we find the name of the woman we were looking for the town hall officials found an address for her locally and contacted her on our behalf Kareena confirmed that she was Paul's daughter divorced with two children she lives with her fiance just outside Hamlet Paul has always felt an unconditional love for his daughter Karina but what does she know about him and how does she feel about the fact that he hasn't been a part of her life for nearly 30 years I arranged to meet her in a cafe near to where she lives Karina try we get to Zenon thank good yeah Nikki look at that nervous yeah it's okay sorry Karina's brought her friend Julie along to help with translation so when you heard that Paul your father is looking for you Fox that like unbelievable Oh fantastic he's always thought about you huh so how old were you when you actually find out about Paul 13 so before that what were you told about your father was when we do for hugs afternoon photos um yeah Majesty Fatih didn't mind water I done got a heart attack she always fought her stepfather was her father so that must be a massive shock yeah what do you know about your father ash why's this ya know Qantas Anna I'm Eva we that's wouldn't hang that masseur when he went back to England he went to telephone and also he sent you cards and presents did you get those cards and did you get those presents no nothing my mood ah um voice mr. Zubov on in bukhoma on showers as a fan for Socata lion does my father know Lana Pascal chic chat what did you feel about that ah they're sour of my muta life side dish um that's Mishnah to risk of what justice um I find helped us yeah has worked hurting contact so heightened and did you have pictures of him that you know what he looked like yeah um it's our spy stick become a charity photo Smith Fletcher studies in I yeah yeah brilliant this one uh how old were you when you first saw these 18 18 yeah how often did you look at them say oft yeah stand by mute and born so on and when you looked at them but it but what were you thinking I use it like a doctor's foot in their ganna kid Manish cannabis voice yeah come on good I've got a photograph of your father now yeah Oh okay Thabo feelings kiting with you okay that it's beautiful good Shh Paul has written a letter okay would you like me to read it give it my best dear Karina I've thought about you every day of your life and imagine all kinds of conversations we might have had as you grow with each passing year I was born to an English mother Chinese father so if you've ever wondered where your looks come from now you know the day you were born was the happiest of my life I've always wanted to find you I want to see how my beautiful daughter has turned out so much love Paul so you're happy Lukie yeah and you want to see him yeah he's like an awful factors haha she's waited a long time to before we tell Paul that we've found his daughter I'm on my way to see Susan and Chris Allison who as unmarried teenagers were forced to give up their first child for adoption when the decision was made neither they nor their family could have ever imagined that they would still be together 52 years on they've spent all of that time hoping that their son has been happy and I can now tell them that he has and that Andrew can at last be part of their family hi i'm davina time sweetly Chris thank you very much I think your story is a particularly amazing one because actually I've never spoken to a couple looking for their child and I know hmm that's amazing yeah because it can drive people apart no no not a chance and there was no way yeah I could live laughter uh so you were there for Susan really weren't you well I hope I was yeah he was so what would it mean to you if if he was found cover it would be marvelous wouldn't it yeah it would yeah yeah well he has been found mm-hmm he has been found really good Wow that's that's amazing no I'll tell me let me how it goes back okay it's still down here is it yeah well is he interested in see unison yeah yes oh isn't that great yeah get that I think I'm sorry Chris all right love never expected this no no oh it's okay go he let you know what's been in there for years okay are you okay sure yeah yeah okay it's a kind of inhalation um yeah kind of hi all these years you've always been so matter-of-fact about it and in there there was all those emotions but he couldn't hold back anymore yeah I didn't believe that it was gonna work out this way I thought that by now he probably wouldn't be interested or you know um what should I tell you about about him yeah so his name is Andrew mm-hmm Andrea she live in England he does he had a really good up manner oh that's a relief he had lovely parents yeah I have got a photograph oh this is amazing are you alright you're like yeah yeah is it I was kind of hoping he mad about some hair but I guess the curse yes it goes on that's amazing he's written your letter this Susan and Chris what a surprise his message they escape to find out mother and father brothers and a sister exist left me lost for words I have often thought about my mother adding 15 years to my age at birthday and wondering how you are where you were I feel blessed for the opportunity to meet you both your son Andrew it's more that wonderful okay yeah yeah I can't wait just wonderful you it's a week since we told Susan and chrysella ttan that their son Andrew has been found a good morning Andrew and his partner Karen are making the three and a half thousand mile trip to Canada to meet them after meeting with Nikki it's sort of going round my mind all the time when I'm awake and it's the first thing I think about when I wake up just to think this time tomorrow I'm going to be meeting my parents and my answer that's an incredible thing that looks good yeah I do we've been looking at the photograph all week reading the letter and rereading it I'm actually trying to save her everything about it I'm not taking anything for granted I'm just looking forward to meeting him and hopefully he can become part of our lives Susan and Kris are meeting their son in a cafe in their local town port Dover this is it look how did you have do it oh it's pounding I can tell you oh wow Wow it's a mirror it's not alive wow that is just all the time in there yeah oh yeah yeah like come on it's good to hear that you'd had a really good upbringing yeah yeah yeah parents were great you know that was a real comfort to me because I just didn't want to part with you at all now really get a sense that you've you've forgiven those four you know there's nothing to forgive is er that's alright if you've had a good life exactly it turned out great thank you and like you you two obviously just blown away when when I was told that the pair of you were together that was incredible your siblings want to get to know you did I I've got a photo of them all together and it's Suzie's wedding so there's everybody that's nearly 20 years ago yeah do you think genuinely that they're gonna be all right about me absolutely we can empower the family oh definitely sometime in the summer we'll have a little bit of a get-together you know so you can maybe see everybody that's the way he's grown into a fine man I had a deep love for him when he was a baby and I still feel that way now It was as if we'd known each other years I'm in the world really I'm happy I really hope that we follow up that we continue to get to know each other can't possibly change anything that's already gone but it can certainly change the future we've been searching on behalf a former soldier Paul Wright who's desperate to find his daughter Karina he last saw her as a baby 28 years ago when he was posted back to the UK from Germany Paul's never been able to explain to his daughter that it wasn't his choice to leave her but I'm on my way to tell him that Karina has been found and at last he'll get to tell her how much she means to him Hey hello Davina are you yeah oh yeah hi sweetie Angie thank you very much how hard has it been for you to feel sort of powerless in your daughter's life I mean it is hard um but it was the power that was taken away from me it was unfortunately the nature of the job and given an opportunity to start again now what would your wishes be not to let her go not to just think well that's it I had it in my head daddy was gonna be the last time I was gonna see her yeah well it wasn't the last time you're going to see her as we found her oh she obviously knows about me Nana she does she does she always known about me she was told about you when she was 13 right she never saw any of the letters you know when she was 18 she saw a picture of you and her for the first time well she treasured that photo she put it up on her wall she thought about you all the time let's go dinner don't see a picture for now let's lift it yeah you should water Wow Wow my god there's no mistake and she's my daughter ELISA she's beautiful she doesn't speak fluent English but she did want to write to you in English do you Paul I do not at all know how to stop I so hoped to meet you some day and now it's is over see so I am very excited I honestly already I honestly already assumed that you'd already given up nice that it is not so a few years ago you even became crud would you like to see a picture of your grunting here your little granddaughters Oh forgive are they see that they look like that mother don't you like to meet up Oh lovely all right last saw his daughter Karina when his army posting in Germany came to an end nearly 30 years ago today he's going to see her again for the first time since she was a baby all right I've got butterflies okay horse traveled with his partner julita Hamlin where his daughter was born okay see you later he later 28 years after he left Karina will at last get to know the man who is her father spit up sweet um let's see Charl I've been waiting for this for 28 years I just want to let it know it wasn't my choice to leave really really nervous now really really nervous I'm so excited that I can meet my father after so long Karina wants to meet Paul in a cafe just down the river from where they last lived together you you ah they went a long time for this listener it's wonderful to see you I never wanted to leave you never I know I know to me you have always and will always be my daughter always I want to be part of your life to fellow Sylvain you understand me yeah this broken be shot good he's here yeah that's that's English degassing yahoo virgin simply I want to give you this fear oh yeah so small thing I was in the army my evenings were looking after you our way to the end only what I did have a worry maybe that connection wouldn't be there but yenna was he was there oh my god he was so overwhelming wonderful well thank you presents for you okay people this to help me so long it off go but it is far um this is sh thankful yet in the famous one from the toy hi hello drama Kudo oh hello banker I wanted to see me as they're done I don't ever ever want to let go again next time on long-lost family a man looking for the father he's never met how often is he thought about me what has he thought about me and a woman who had to give up her daughter not once but twice I had a big decision to make I never sewed again you you

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Published: Tue Oct 13 2015