LIVE_What You Need to Know About Goal Setting

hello friends good evening i hope all of you are doing pretty well i know it's uh i don't know how many day a month it has been for kovaid but i just hope that all of you are safe and today's topic uh i'll just give you a little background as to why we have chosen this topic so i was doing a session for a foundation and then i attended some webinars where the topic was around goal setting and in fact just a couple of days back i did my goals in my office for the h2 of uh 2020 yeah so i have put together some slides uh just like the previous sessions so let me uh bring that up for you okay i hope this is all visible now all right so let's deep dive into what we have today so any learner would like to know what is it they are going to gain after the session right and before i list down what i have for you today i think i also want to tell you that when our emotions are positive we learn quicker we stay focused and also we tend to absorb a lot and retain a lot so for the next uh one hour i would say whatever life situation you are in uh keep the other emotions aside and have a positive emotion for the next one r all right so from the beginning from now until we reach the objective of our session we are gonna cover some of these things so we will see what exactly is goal setting all about then every goal setting will demand some kind of change so we will see what is that change then we will see what is our identity because the changes that we want to bring in are in us then we will pick a goal we will see how you can pick a goal and if you need help as to how exactly that needs to be done we will see that as well then we will see some framework which you can use to define it we will also see how we can break that down and what exactly is the process and some key points and at the end we will have a little summary followed by some question and answers now regarding the question and answers i have a request because in my previous sessions i have seen a lot of you ask very wonderful questions unfortunately there is no email id next to it so in this one hour if i'm not getting an opportunity to reflect on your question then if there is an email id i take some time but i'll come back i'll revert and tell you the answer for the question that you have listed so please mention your email ids for those of you who are new to my sessions this is a little brief about myself i work with capgemini in the hr space and i am based out of hyderabad all right so now we'll go deeper into the goal setting so before making these slides i asked a couple of my friends as to what exactly do they want in life then all of them started giving me something or the other then i asked them okay what do you call them then these are some of the things that they mention someone said that's my goal someone said it's my aim they said this is my vision then aspiration ambition purpose dream so i think you can relate when you have to share or somebody comes and ask you about a question like what do you want to do in life then probably you will relate to one of these here right so they might all look similar but today's focus is especially on goal right the topic in our topic we have gold which is nothing but a future state that results in some that has some result right so you see this uh goal post so what happens is when a football enters the goal post that is when it is called a goal right so with that little perspective let's see what is the change that we want to bring in so as we said with goals you actually look at a future state so today you are let's say somebody like this and in the future you want to become like this now for different people it means different things right but here i am taking an example of you as a person now you can replace it with something else like uh from the audience some of you might have a goal wherein let's say there is a school in the remote part of india and doesn't have great facilities and your goal is to gather funds so that you can spend on that school and make the facility a little better right but there is a dependency on other people to give you those funds right so there is a different strategy that needs to be applied for those goals but here i am talking about something which is directly in your control something like losing weight for example yep but before you get there there is an identity that all of us have how many times did you ask this question who am i and if you have not then it's okay because that's normal because we are not the same as yesterday and we are not a static snapshot right we are a dynamic ongoing process because every day we come across a different environment we learn something yes there are certain traits and all that stuff but we are never the same person so there is a very nice book called mojo by marshall goldsmith and i pick a reference from his book where very nicely he uh helps us identify ourselves especially i think it is relevant if we have to put it into a process like goal setting so you have to draw a vertical line or a horizontal line so that the four quadrants can be formed and then type past at one end and future on the other end and on the horizontal type u and others on the other side right so you see those four quadrants getting formed what you have to do now is in this it is nothing but your remembered identity what you remembered about yourself what were the instances how you behaved and all that so basically it is your own mind where you remember about your past okay that is remembered identity then if you have to put in others into the equation and look at the past then it is what the people have reflected about you so it is the reflected identity they keep reminding you about your behavior your attitude or your personality or whatever so it's the others who are telling you in the first case it was you who were remembering it in the other case people are telling you and if you have to look at the future and what others have been telling you it is that what you will be or what you can be and i think if you just go back to your childhood i'm sure if some uncle or aunt came to your place and based on what your parents informed them or their observations they might have told you you will be a good doctor or you will make a good engineer and all so that is a programmed identity so basically an idea has been planted in your mind because at that point in time in that time and space you behaved or performed in a certain way and they felt that the future this will be good for you and the last is what you actually want to be so this is where the emphasis should be because uh what you wear you wear right what you are is okay but from here on what is it that you would like to be so that is where the focus needs to be so when you sit down to think about your goals start off with your identity the future state what is the created identity that you want for yourself all right so now you have to pick a goal now goals can be of different types you have academic goals you have personal goals you have extracurricular goals the list can be a lot right and i understand on this call it's just not the students that we have but we see a trend of a lot of lecturers professors and some working professionals on the call as well but for the lecture i have chosen or stressed more on the students because i feel they are at the beginning of their journey and they can make some changes uh for a better future not that where you are you can't make a change because as i was in in my introduction i was saying that i am in hr but i was not in a chart throughout i recently moved into hr after i realized where i want to be so you can also make that but for students it's a little easier right and uh i think goals differ in terms of our time frame and importance so for instance you might have an academic goal you can have a personal goal but during exam time i think your academic goals needs to be focused more on than your personal goals right and then you have to ask this question this is extremely important as to what is important to you and why is it important to you what do you want because nobody is going to define your goals when you join an organization yes there are company goals then your department goals and then your team goals and your individual goals but apart from that if you have to have your own individual goals then nobody else is going to decide and in organizations they also give you an opportunity to decide your personal goals right so goals are always personal and for our context today we are going to focus more on the personal goals all right you might still be wondering but how right so again marshall goldsmith comes to our rescue he wrote another wonderful book called triggers in that he has again given us a model same horizontal and vertical line type change at the top and keep at the bottom and deduct minus and a plus once again you get those four quadrants and in this what you have to do is type maintain between keep and a plus sign and type accept between keep and a minus sign remove from change and minus and add between change and addition yeah so this is basically if i start if i have to start with uh an order from a keep and a plus i would say what do you want to protect and preserve so what you have today what is it that you want to protect and preserve or for that matter maybe improve as well will put into this quadrant then second is what do you want to make peace with where there is an acceptance from your side there might be some limitations in your life so you have to make peace with that then the third is what do you want to get rid of something that you have which is not adding any value you need to get rid of that and lastly on that ad side which is the change in a plus is what do you want to add in your life because when you put a goal it can be to maintain where you are or to act to remove or to add so just to give you an example so that this model is a little clear suppose let's say you are a second year student in a four year course and you don't have any backlogs so you have to maintain in the first one on the right hand side corner so you have to maintain that consistency in not having backlogs in your third year as well yeah now you have received certain marks in your first year and there is no way you can improve them let's say so you have to make peace with it that okay that is and let's say you play a lot of pubg during study hours then you have to remove the change that you need to bring is you need to remove the activity of spending a lot of time playing pubg and the fourth the addition between change and a plus is you need to work harder because you know that when companies come to hire they look at candidates or students who have a certain cgpa score or a percentage so you have to work harder now please don't go about and putting a goal that i will get 90 in my third year or final year that kind of stuff because giving marks is in the control of your teacher what is in your control is studying harder right i hope that brings a little clarity but if it has not don't worry just stay with me in the subsequent slides we will see uh a great uh framework that you can use to put your goals now that framework is something like this your goals needs to be specific because why are we even trying to define goals is because goals give you that direction goals give you some motivation right so they have to be very very specific it should not be loosely defined and i will give you an example as to how specific your goals can be your goals should be measurable you should be able to measure your goals that's another important part then your goals needs to be either attainable or achievable the fourth is it needs to be realistic or relevant in the time and space you are in the last is it needs to be time bound and again for those of you who have a good eye for detail you will see certain words uh underlined and if you make the meaning out of it if you add all of that together it stands for smart so in our organization as well when somebody is setting goals we always tell them set smart goals and when we say set smart goals it directly talks about the different the definitions that you see for each letter in the word smart let me give you an example you see this example and i'm sure you must have heard this from others or if you yourself have set goals you might have said at one point in time i will lose weight now is this specific definitely not but there is a very strong word within this which is a will now just imagine somebody saying i want to lose weight and somebody's saying i lose weight the most powerful is i lose weight then i want to lose weight because if you are saying i want to lose weight you are still wishing but the moment you use will it's kind of that you have already taken a decision right but as you can see here in spite of that strong will mentioned in this goal statement it is not a very strong goal statement how about something like this where you say i will lose 10 kgs by december 2020 by making 10 000 steps every day now we will see if all these are fitting into it is it specific yes it is not just a loosely defined but it looks very specific what you want to do then is it measurable yes because you can weigh yourself now and you can weigh yourself at a later point in time and see whether you have reduced or not is it achievable why not 10 000 steps in a day is not a big deal if you work for 10 minutes you cover 10 1000 steps so all you need is 100 minutes in a day which is just over an hour is it realistic yes walking you don't need any equipment you don't have to go to a gym for that matter you don't even have to go out of the house i have a friend recently for some social cause she did 100 kilometers in her home in 10 days so it's very much realistic is it time bound yes we have already mentioned that december 2020 is the target that we have set so i hope you get some clarity when you sit down to define your goal statement how you need to define that and as a famous motivational speaker zig zagger says a goal properly defined is halfway reached because as we said goal provides you a direction and if you take care of these properties of how to define a goal then you are halfway there because you are clear in your mind and i guess most of us struggle in terms of how to even define a goal all right now what we will see is how we can break it down so it's not like if you thought that oh that's simple it is not it's not like you write it on a piece of paper and forget it just like the famous new year resolutions most of us make but very few actually achieve them so what you have to do is you have to convert your goals into habits now i'm sure you don't need a definition for habit because every day when you get up you go and brush your teeth nobody tells you anything you automatically in an autopilot mode you go and do that so that's a habit right so but there is a process behind a habit as well and this is very nicely put by james claire in his book atomic habits wherein he says there are three r's that one needs to follow to form habits let's see what up there he says first is a reminder and i think this is very crucial because just imagine throughout the day there are so many distractions that you have so how is it that you will stay on track for your goal so you need some kind of reminder the second is the routine there is a particular process that you have to follow in order to progress and then the third is the reward yeah so let's see reminder is it starts the habit the moment you see a reminder it starts the habit habit is nothing but the action that you take and the reward is nothing but the benefit that you will enjoy and i will share with you a personal example that uh happened just when covet started okay so reminder is the first step when kobit happened at least for people like me who work in i.t we don't have to go to work we are working from home which means there is less mobility and i used to do gyming to stay healthy but that is not happening and one day i was sitting uh taking calls and i was on meetings and my legs started hurting so i thought let me just walk and while walking i came across this book i don't know how many of you can actually clearly see this it might look pretty inverted in the camera but the title of the book is the power of habit so like james clear in atomic habit the three r's charles duhigg who is the author of this book he also says similar stuff but he uses cue routine and reward but on the same principles the moment i saw this book i thought why don't i utilize this environment that i am in and make the best use of this because i always wanted to lose weight not that i am obese but i am definitely overweight and i have tried the diet plans i have tried mindful eating i tried going to the gym but i did not see those great benefits so i thought okay this kovid is going to be there for a very long time so why don't i start doing something else then i said okay let me first put reminder so this is a screen grab of my phone as you can see from morning 8 30 so obviously i can't show all the screens but until evening 8 30 i have put a reminder for every 1 hour even if i am on a call like how i am on a call i have a bluetooth hands-free i carry my laptop in my hand and i kind of wanted to walk so the first decision in the process of forming a habit is this putting a reminder because you have a goal statement so for me my goal statement was what you saw in the smart i said 10 kgs less by december by doing 10 000 step every day right you saw that example so that was my example so the first decision is to put this reminder then second is your routine now routine is very crucial because we change bit by bit and day by day goal is good to set a direction but the process is best for making progress so if you fix the input the output the result will be absolutely fine so you just need the commitment for this process because progress is gradual it doesn't happen just in one day so what is the action so if you remember from our previous slide we said routine is nothing but the action that you have to take so for me the action was to walk so as you can see though i started this somewhere in the beginning of april but you see in the month of may i had hit the target of 10 000 in the month of june 10 000 and this is a monthly trend that you see there in the month of july i missed it by two days for whatever reason and then august again i am able to catch up right so many people feel and they put off their happiness when they achieve the goal right but why do we have to even put off our happiness until we achieve the goal it is the process so if you have seen ms dhoni's interview sometimes and the interviewer or the commentator asks him like okay what has happened he always says that i was having fun while playing i was having fun and please pay attention to some of his short videos on probably the success and he always says that it is the process that is important it is not the end objective as long as you enjoy the process the results will show up and i guess this is where many people give up and to as you can see i i had and you don't have to be fixated on your goal just imagine in the month of july when i missed it by two days and i could not get a green bar on this graph there is a possibility that you will get demotivated and you will punish yourself for missing it so don't do that because enjoy the process okay this shows that the first arrow is your reminder then actions are the multiple arrows and you are inching closer towards your goal the third one is the reward right so what is the reward for this example that we are taking you have to be 10 kgs lesser by december 2020 right so i started off with 90 kgs as you can see here when i was when this coved happened i was over 90 kgs and my target as you can see the dotted line is 80. and if you see from april uh it had come down in may because the body saw some change because i was walking 10 000 steps every day for one month body suddenly didn't realize what is happening and probably i lost weight but you see may and june there was no decrease in my weight in fact in july it slightly went up but again in august it's coming down so just think if you are motivated then anybody will work harder but when these things happen when you don't see the movement of the needle as few people call it you become frustrated you start blaming the environment or you start blaming something else right but henry ford i i don't know how many of you know about henry ford uh he said uh a very famous quote where obstacles are fruitful things you see when you take off your eyes from the goal because if you have a goal and these obstacles will start looking like fruitful things to you because you completely forgot about your goal and i'm sure majority of us will fall into uh this trap of not seeing uh immediate changes or gradual changes so what do you do in a situation like this and the reason why it is coming down now is because i realized that probably my calorie intake and my calorie burning a there is no deficit so i have started doing some high intensity internal interval trainings as well and i could see and i'm pretty confident that i'll reach my goal by december 2020 as you can see i'm already at 85 now so it's just a matter of five more and i'll be done all right so as we have agreed it is a journey you might have heard that success is a journey it is not a destination so if you are there and if you have a goal and there is a steep uh that you have to climb then there are certain things which are at your disposal which you can make use of the first is your family if you happen to stay with family then family can provide immense support they are the biggest support system who will help you in staying on track towards your goal right second is the mentors or the coaches if you don't have then i would strongly say please find them because they will help you and they will redirect you they will tell you when you are going off track and i have heard often from some people i think these days people say that you don't have to share your goals with everybody because you will not meet the end objective of the goal i think what they are saying is when you inform somebody about your goal and you keep telling about all the people that you come across then you will receive some kind of appreciation from them so your mind is playing the trick because when somebody appreciates you start feeling good so there are chances that you are only talking about the goal that you have to others and people are giving you appreciation you have started to feel good and your drive will go down but there are a lot of people who are genuinely interested in your well-being so i think it is absolutely okay to share your goals with them and in fact even ask certain people if you are stuck or you need some help and people are willing to help then you also need to take care of the environment that you are in because just imagine somebody had a different goal which requires some outdoor activities and in kovitz situation unfortunately that person cannot do it because the environment doesn't support so again if i go back to my example of losing weight and not having access to the gym or the outdoors what i'm left with with just indoor so i'll have to make the best use of what the environment i am in and lastly you have to make changes and take a different course as well so again taking the same example if i continued walking walking walking and even i don't know if i had put on twelve two thousand steps more and increased from ten thousand to twelve thousand i don't think so they it would have resulted in something better right so you have to think whether the goal is still relevant whether the habit that you have formed is really going to help you or you need to make certain adjustments as c.s lewis said you can't go back and change the beginning but you can start where you are and change the ending so if you have to just look at this picture where you are at the starting point and you are somewhere in the middle what you have covered you can't do anything about it but what you can do is from where you are to the end of your goal all right so with that i hope you got a gist of the models that you can use the framework of smart that you can use and how you need to convert the goal into a habit by following the three hours the reminder the routine and the reward but uh let me just uh i'm looking at the time we have half an hour so i'll take 10 minutes to just talk about some key points because it's very difficult to put the entire goal setting into an hour lecture but there are certain key points a lot of us uh pay attention on the deadline so we feel good when we are writing a goal statement and we feel good when we write a deadline but from the time we write until the deadline we are sleeping just like how happy this person in the picture is sleeping but the time you set it to the deadline is where the efforts are required because the magic happens there as you have seen i have set the goals in the month of april for december and if i don't do anything in between nothing is going to happen then there are many steps that you have to take so in this picture as you can see you have a goal but sometimes you miss the step or you don't see a way out so consider it as a ladder if there are not enough steps in the ladder then it's very difficult for you to reach on the top so you have to figure out what is that missing step and add that missing step so that it forms the bridge and you can go on the other side and enjoy the result i don't know if you have ever done rock climbing but it's a very slow process unless you're a superhuman like a superman or a spiderman but it is a slow process but what is more important in that it it involves small steps you have to carefully put your hand and you have to use your feet and all that right so it's always the small steps that matter now there are two things here one is you can say i can't or you can say i don't now just pay attention just like our first example of i will right now we are using i can't and i don't so when you say i can't it actually creates a feedback loop and it kind of sends a reminder to your brain about your limitations so what i mean by this is imagine you are out with your friends and you have already set a goal that you don't want to put on weight and you know that eat drinking coca-cola pepsi any aerated drink for that matter now don't ask me if diet coke is fine or not i'm not getting into that but you have made a resolve that you don't want you those things are bad for you and your friend offers you a pepsi and you go back and say that i can't drink okay chances are pretty high that you will give in for that temptation the more you say i can't i can't because you are sending signals to your brain about your limitation now the same scenario just think you say i don't drink pepsi or i don't drink thumbs up whatever so when you say statements like these it actually shows control and power over the situation you're not limiting yourself but you are showing power so next time when you are in the middle of your goal and if you say something like okay i can't do this then for sure you will not do it so similarly when you have to stop some temptations say i don't do that so that you stay on track all right i'm sure you recognize a lot of faces from these six pictures be it cricket football running formula one tennis or for that matter boxing and i have used a sports person as an example here because for a goal setting kind of a subject these guys come very close because they beat their own records and they become good at themselves right but the key here is mastery follows consistency if they are the masters in their game that is primarily because of the consistency and if you say that okay their performance has been consistent their performance has been consistent because of the efforts that they have put in and while you are throughout that journey there will be certain small things that will be good in your journey so we call them small wins so celebrate those uh small wins as well because that provides a kind of a motivation all right so with that we come to the end of our session and uh i was thinking how can i summarize because there are so many points here but uh i said let me just uh write the word goal and try and think about what can happen what can i write beside each letter and a simple one is go on and leap now you're sitting at one place now leap is you've got to get up go get a pen paper and start writing what is it that you want yup so we come to con question and answers we have 20 minutes let me just uh go to my list here let's see okay there are so many questions here and without any order i'll try and pick the ones which are relevant to our subject and as i said don't get disheartened if i can't complete everything i will come back to you you have to give me some time maybe a week two weeks sometimes three weeks but i will definitely respond to your question as long as that is relevant and i have an answer for that okay so where is the question all right so there is a question from shivarama what should be planned by an engineering student for the preparation of job interview okay now this is a pretty big one because it involves a lot of things so first thing is uh is the interview important or the company that is coming to hire you is that important so if it is the company then your focus needs to be on something else and if it is just getting the grip of how to attain interviews or crack interviews then there are certain strategies that you need to follow and we have a lot of video lectures we have done in the past you can refer and i'm sure you will get some answers on that okay so anuja is asking what you need to know about goal setting so we just covered that anuja um ah okay this is a question from yogesh what to do when the career study you thought to choose and after choosing it you feel like you made a wrong choice and how to know what is the right choice okay so i um i the other day i was reading a book called wasted in engineering now i'm not saying that uh whoever is in is in engineering will get wasted but that is a perspective of somebody who has done it and probably is doing something else so as i said yogesh certain things you have to accept if you are in your second year of engineering and you have two more years then i don't know how feasible it is for somebody to quit and then go and start studying something else but instead i would say you can continue but if you feel that your interest is somewhere else and you have already identified it you are very passionate about it your values your belief system and your attitude towards that thing is very very clear then you can craft a plan side by side while you are still in your studies it would be very very radical if you just leave everything and go after it because in the current context i really don't know when there are certain uncertainties out there so i would say decide and do it parallelly but if there is an option for you to do it then you can go ahead and do it so if i take my example now i realize that i will be good in hr but did i leave my company and go and join any other company and applied there as a for an hr position no because it would have it might have not been successful because everybody else will ask for an experience in hr but because i have been in this company capgemini for 10 years i understand the processes that happen i know a couple of people here so it becomes a little easier for the company to take a decision uh to give that opportunity to somebody like me right so like that you have to and this idea of going into hr came into my mind though i was not very very clear but i was still asking questions i was talking to people but i could clearly see my inclination now within hr also you have a lot of things you have learning and development you have talent management there are a lot right so it took some time it took me almost one year to 18 months to decide that yes that is where i want to go but the point is keep asking keep reflecting on your current situation what is the environment looking like and then take a call okay all right ah okay this question cyan is asking how can we stay focused in our goal in our life because many hurdles and hard days will come in by our lives and we how we can always stay motivated no matter what happens yes uh all our life situations are different our environments are different our responsibilities are different our support systems are different and as i said hurdles are an opportunity for you to even become more stronger because again just see so if you take your career let's talk about a career okay i'm not referring to an entrepreneur or a business whatever i'm referring to a career a normal job if you feel that okay that is what you want to do a career is a long shot you start your career maybe at the age of 20 22 and you retire at around 58 or sometimes 60 whatever it's a long shot there is so much that can happen in between so maybe at one particular point in time you are going through certain obstacles certain hardships don't be fixated on the current part because this might not be the case in the future and i'm sure i mean take example of ms dhoni again i think his movie ms dhoni there are a lot of answers to these questions he was also going through hardships he was not having fun at all in uh his uh job in the railway and he came into the mainstream after a pretty uh different age right so don't look at your current position have that bigger view of what is it that you want to do in life and keep working towards it as people say you have short-term goals you have medium-term goals and you have long-term goals right so think through what is it that you want in the long run and in the short term if certain things are coming don't get too demotivated with that okay all right i'm just gonna pick all right there is a question from spurti okay i know spurty you have been very consistent in attending my sessions thank you so how can i overcome failure in goal setting and how to avoid unavoidable distraction in achieving goal so i would say there is no failure in setting up a goal because if you thought that you have to set a goal then you are far better than those people who don't even think about setting up goals so i don't consider that as a failure at all maybe yes you have set a goal which is not relevant to that current position you are in or to your situation or your aspiration so nothing is a failure i think that is a learning and as far as distractions are concerned then i think if you are serious enough about your goal and if you follow the 3r model there is no way you can get distracted because now just imagine i am working and for a moment think this is not a lecture and i am in my office and i am on a conference call with somebody most of the time it is not a video it's just an audio and my phone just gives me a reminder and i get up and i start walking 10 minutes 1000 step that's it so those reminders are important and people say that some people and if i remember what i have read in some books they take print outs and then they paste it on the mirror or a particular place they go day in day out they see it because our mind the way it process our processing information processing capacity gets funneled so if you look at a funnel then everything comes and then there is a small pipe through which uh only some relevant information goes out so it's just like that i'm sure yes it's a very much possibility that we get distracted in the current world but the reminder will help you in not getting distracted okay let's see okay praveen is asking a question how to control mind and focus on one thing without fear now focusing i just answered but fear part uh there is a separate uh lecture we did but that is more to do with fear on the interviews but i think every fear results in the same reaction within the body so if you have time go through my other lecture on how to uh address the fear how to handle the nervousness in interview you will get to know more about fear okay all right so there is a question from deva prashanth how to set goals we have just seen it so what is a goal okay darshan is asking a question what is the goal so as i said you can refer it as goal few people call it an objective and companies have a different way of doing it so basically what is the result that you want and a future based event that you want to get to now there are different types of goals but basically which has some result okay all right i'm just gonna see for something which is not a repetition okay narayanan is asking can we keep multiple goals and try to follow them all at the same time it also depends on the environment so yesterday i was talking to somebody and she said that okay i have office and i have to do those and i have these many books to finish and then i have the house responsibilities and i also need to sleep because that is very important so what is it that you pay much focus on so yes you might have small small goals but do you have the bandwidth so that is where the smart frameworks comes into picture whether they are achievable and are they realistic so if you feel that yes you can get up in the morning 5 30 until about 7 30 you can dedicate time for studies and your personal goal is to gain muscle so from 7 30 till 9 30 you can spend time in the gym and 9 30 you go to your college or work and then you come back and you do something else so you are academic goals are met and then you your personal goals are met and if there is any sports that you play you can do it in the evening and your extracurricular goals are also met so yes there's a possibility you can have multiple goals okay we have 10 more minutes i'm just gonna pick um ah this is a question from manon everyone says to change a habit it takes 21 days uh what what do what to do in that 21 days so you have to do action you have to follow the routine and there's another book called outlier and this guy i think it's marshall malcolm the other one is marshall goldsmith this guy is marshall malkin if i remember it correctly he said if you want to master something if you want to get better at something you need 10 000 r's so for instance let's say you want to pick up uh a skill like playing a guitar you have to practice or play or enjoy the guitar for 10 000 hours and if you translate that even if you do eight hours every day just playing guitar then it is about close to five years so now habit formation and being a master at something which one do you want i think all of us should try and go for the master and i don't know how true is 21 days because i'm sure if there are some smokers on the lecture somebody might have given up for 21 days but have relapsed and come back and started smoking so what do we have to say about that right so i really don't know the science behind 21 but i can definitely agree with 10 000 because in 10 000 just imagine the amount of repetitions you will do the routine that you will follow and you will become better at it so i would say forget about 21 aim at 10 000. all right okay um there are bigger bigger questions and i'm sorry i you just reading those questions it might take up a lot of time okay samaresh is asking please tell us the formula for being consistent so it's not a straight one answer but uh let me try so in order to maintain consistency first you need to be clear on what you want to do second there has to be an intrinsic motivation so there are different types of motivation when you hear the word motivation there is an extrinsic motivation as some of them call it which is related to an outcome which is not in your control so let's say earning money if somebody says i want to earn a lot of money that is an extrinsic motivation you don't print your own money right the money comes from somewhere else some other source so that is extrinsic motivation instinctive motivation is something from within you thoroughly enjoy doing it and i'll just give you an example so this is my fifth session and i'm very happy nptel has given me this opportunity and coming on to these sessions there is some bit of homework that i have to do and i have always felt motivated because i feel that through this medium thousands of people are getting to know something they might have not read or came across these points in a collective fashion right so you need to look at those things which gives you intrinsic motivation and when that happens automatically consistency will be there you don't have to make effort i i'm sure today if you go and tell dhoni though he has retired but if you ask him okay can we play if he is idle then definitely he will not say no i will not because he thoroughly enjoys the game yeah all right so i see a lot of things coming around motivation so maybe you guys are giving me a clue that next time when i come here for a session i'll have to do a session on go deeper into the motivation part okay and there's a question from pooja she's asking changing the goal frequently is that a good habit if yes how okay so when you say often uh or frequently i don't know how frequently but uh if you didn't don't stay on track then it is definitely not good because you saw reminders and routine and in the middle of the routine you go back to the drawing board and completely change the goal i really don't know then the goal itself is not applicable so that is where you will have to if we go back to the first slide where we said a future state which has some result so look at it from where you are that is as is and where you want to be the future and see okay how is this going to look like visualize okay visualization is another technique which will help you in staying on track and a lot of the sports personalities do it i mean michael phelp if you know his story who has won so many gold medals in olympics he visualizes himself of doing that enjoying it and what kind of stimulations he will feel while he is doing while he is swimming right so when you spend serious amount of time thinking through if you are not clear getting answers or taking help from mentors once you craft then there is no need for you to change goals frequently you have to make adjustments to your goals fine but changing goals because of confusion is not a good habit i would say okay all right okay so naveen is asking could you please give me an example related to smart goal related to studies okay and we have two minutes and very quickly i'll tell you if we have to go back to our smart example that i gave so a study is i will study for two hours every day until my term exams whatever so you are saying two hours which is measurable you can keep the timer on when you sit down for studies and you are saying every day that is also achievable it is realistic and you are saying by the term exam or whatever exam time so that is time bond also as simple as that yeah all right uh okay there are so many questions here okay there are a lot of repetitions ah amole is asking how to control emotional on personal issues it's an obstacle to achieve the goals completely agree we can't uh keep our emotions aside and still uh stay focused on the goals so here i'll quote what stephen covey he wrote a very nice book seven habits of highly influential people he said there are certain things which are in your control it's called circle of influence and there are certain things which are outside of your control and that is called circle of concern so the emotions that you feel can be triggered by something else which is not in your control unless if you yourself are depressed or feeling anxious that also has certain underlying reasons because of which you do but if something is causing you then i would say don't focus on that try and focus on the thing that matters to you which is your goal so that those emotions will not hinder your focus all right so we are right on time and i know you might have a lot of other things to do i have thoroughly enjoyed talking to you sharing i wish i could talk to you but sharing my views and i can promise you i have seen motivation coming a lot of times so i will give it a thought and see if i can put together something for an hour lecture in the next month so thank you for joining and you guys have a lovely weekend ahead and take care and don't forget to write that

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Published: Tue Sep 01 2020