Let’s Talk Marriage| 20 30 Gathering | Pastor Beatrice 'Bee3' Byemanzi

[Applause] all right be seated do you want to know the seventh point [Music] number six [Applause] day what time will we leave i'm supposed to be at that wedding also [Applause] you know we had this conversation with apostle mosey how many weeks ago was it about two weeks ago so we were hanging out with him and he just said one of those days where we get a break and we say let's have lunch in the middle of town after he had finished teaching and we were telling him me i told him i want my girls to get married the boys in church are not talking to the girls the girls in church are being complicated we need to do something because you see between 20 and 30 i want to first speak to the young ladies because i'm a lady you you you're a hot item and it can fill your head what we don't want to happen is for you to get to that place where now you're saying lord anything anyone but for us what helped there's so much movement in the room i'm a bit distracted so if you could please settle down and and for me we had to ask a person what is the problem and he said what he has taught us today for me it was revelatory i won't lie to you like i remember even pastor solomon saying i've understood because he said humility and we said okay okay okay we've taught the ladies humility but so the gentleman also okay sometimes just the way you're dressed the way you look the things you do it makes it difficult then that's when he explained what he just explained that you see the men in the world are on a market they've been taught how to attract a young woman how to dress the perfume the cologne to buy the kind of gifts to buy everything they're on a market looking for a victim and that's why they can play five different girls at a goal because they're on the market so they they are they're sharp so the boys in church look like they're slow because they're not your movie boy they are not of the world they are not trying to actually they are not on the market trying to play with girls minds they are following god they are praying for a spouse they look slow they don't dress too good they are not fly they are not going around giving gifts to every girl and confusing her they need to be taught yes but you see you need to understand that it is he who finds now if you're the man and your job is to find and the girls look so complicated finding i i'm telling you i've been talking to some of my sons and they're scared of the girls because girls the way we talk you see it's not about it's how they hear you you're around her they wish to me there are those women he's listening he's saying i can't try that one yeah that one if i marry her she will kill me you know and when i think about some of us i think why we got married young we were it was i don't know maybe i don't know there was not much jeremy keeps telling me i'm the most uncomplicated bride they ever met and i remember my maid of honor telling me the same thing pastel in it she said i've never seen a bride like this i'll tell you i i told my bridesmaids choose what you want to wear if you can afford it these are the colors my maid of honor i told her the same thing find the tailor who you like taylor these are the colors she said are there specific shoes i'm like no don't you have shoes wear them jewellery i'm like don't you have jewelry which is golden wear it what do we do with hair go to your favorite saloon you'll come in the morning they stay with the style you want okay i i went i had a gown which i could afford i didn't care about deco i'm not saying that you have to be that sort of person but that what are you really what are what are your conditions for marriage are they worth it we had i told my husband to choose his deco which he liked because i told him really i don't care i just want a good marriage i've seen enough of these big weddings two weeks later they can't be together it doesn't matter these things that we do to show off to prove something some of you that decisions you're making concerning marriage are out of fear you saw your father not take care of finances so any man who looks like he doesn't have a house a range rover under what but those things can also disappear we've seen people have had it and lost it that can't be your decision maker okay i'm telling you when jeremy started dating me you see you see him now when jeremy was dating me he while he was he not mean a taxi our love was tuxedo taxi and border border doctor emmanuel oculo taxi and buddha border pastor christian subugar taxi and butter buddha plus some other strange things which included spaghetti which had what sugar he was trying to be creative he put sugar instead of salt they almost chucked him taxi and buddha jeremy would come and pick me during ministry time and pick me or not he would come on aboard the border pick me on my own about the buddha sometimes if things were tight we shared the border border we went together we arrived he dropped me home in a taxi not that no no i'm not saying a special hire as into the mu taxi community revenge you understand my boyfriend drops me in the taxi community hey you am i talking at all [Applause] but i saw a man whose heart was after god and i knew that if he's connected to my heavenly father we will be okay there was no uber we've been married 13 years you will be fine he didn't have jeremy lived in his parents home until a few months to our wedding when my relatives asked me i had to i would just say he lives in mangua not hard in his father's house it was true he lived in mango was it ally it was not a lie i covered i had seen those who moved out ayala where did you get the notion that a man must move out before he gets married why is it biblically isaac married his wife in his parents home i'm shaking tables get spiritually minded daughters of mine become spiritually minded many of you admire the men we've married but you don't know where we came from you've seen them 10 years later you do not know we had to have faith we had to see something of substance beyond what the eye could see i knew my husband couldn't afford diary i talked to my auntie it had to be script so he knew in his heart when they were there threatening his father that it was just for tradition after that they would tell them at dinner that by the way those cows you can have them but we are building something our children will have the capacity to do whatever they want you have to look beyond what you can see now that man had to take a chance on me as well i was the most my wedding he chose the cake he chose that deco you know what it doesn't matter maybe even when we are 25 years in virtual care about cake and deco those things don't make a marriage i kept telling him babe if we're the only ones who show up we'll get married we'll find a witness in the church i'm not going to get stressed we borrowed cars from our friends for our wedding one was what kind of car for the bridesmaids wasn't even a means what kind of car was it a mitsubishi from jk he gave it to us we put in fuel we drove ourselves then someone had a benz there were two buses from friends we borrowed them why are you spending three hundred thousand on because you don't own to drive them for two hours to impress people who want care and will talk about you and you're in financial trouble who are you trying to impress i'm now told people were telling me here that people take fudged gifts for introductions that you hire a car and pretend that you've given what kind of hypocrisy and madness is that how can you build such a foundation for your marriage absolute dishonor to your people it's demonic you are in this world but you must understand you're not of this world what are you copying we spent a whole year in counseling we looked for pastelnet and chris because we looked and we admired their marriage so much and they opened their life to us people were telling us the first year will be the hardest we waited for your idea it wasn't coming do you know why we prepared for marriage not the wedding many of you spend all your time planning your wedding on pinterest stressing spending money you don't have then you get married and you don't know what to do with a man or a woman because you spend time on nonsense cheap things for instagram who will care when you're dying in your marriage because you have an instagram picture [Applause] [Music] rubbish [Applause] i lived in homes of very rich people with very broken marriages could afford everything some of you it's about money if he can't if he can't if he can't okay marry the money and be happy that that's all you're getting you will marry money and you will cry many tears money money is a thing you can build there are principles you can start where you are we started saving our car money putting it our wedding was not expect i don't even think our wedding costs 30 million i'm telling you guys and 13 years ago it's not a very long time ago i was still doing weddings of over 100 million 200 hours was less than 30. you know where we where we put uh he's 22 million and we didn't and you know it was 22 million you guys my relatives talked about the venue how can you go to such a place i'm like if you want if you feel that you want to take us to another place pay you want to impress people pay this is what we can afford and i'm not embarrassed about it one day we will afford a bigger one but i'm not trying to live a life i don't have pretending to be what you're not will not make you that thing embrace where you are well knowing that there will be more recently i was talking to some of my spiritual daughters and telling them age doesn't matter you can't marry a younger man it really doesn't matter those are all those are all what i named for them people who they didn't even know are married to each other and the man is younger by seven years five years there's one of nine years i told them who cares you see the things of the spirit they can't some of you are struggling right now where did you get the idea that the person needs to be older what will it help you with tell me how does edge help you are you here or you've left did you come for truth today [Music] [Applause] who are you listening to who is informing you about who you should choose to marry how great is their marriage money more women's movements which break down men and you think you will marry a man you will end up with your girlfriends for life you sit with them you break down man after man man after man and that spirit carries the men can sense that you think they are nothing if i was telling them ladies listen to me if you find some gentleman who loves jesus and is committed to him they were telling me but they are boring i said those are the best they'll give you peace you say you want mr spontaneous don't come to us crying when he's very spontaneous when you get married [Music] spontaneous with another woman spontaneous with bank accounts spontaneous with debts because you want spontaneous then you find this one who looks so boring he's very predictable you know where he is from morning to evening you can tell who he's with what he's doing at any given time those are the ones you should marry quickly quickly bowering it means that they are predictable they have character they are you don't understand you're not they are worried wakati when he says he's here is he there and you want it spontaneous because you saw it in the movie [Music] i married one of the most predictable men you will ever find and i have peace peace i would be who are dating and i would be in ginger for my fieldwork and i could tell you from morning to evening what my husband is doing at every hour of that day and you know what that's better than being there with your heart beating all the time wandering calling at work to see if he's there checking over checking i know what the man is doing all the time you're looking spontaneity he's so boring marry him quickly if you find a boa marry quickly those are gold gold then you can t you can't be spontaneous on his behalf he's not stopping you from being spontaneous you'll be spontaneous you suggest spontaneous but ladies i'm serious and i'm speaking to you because we are the ones hearing the most nonsense if you speak to most of the men bambi they are scared of us we are so complex ladies to kakane everything you've believed ask yourself from where have i got that is it from the word of god is it from the bible says let the older women teach the younger women how to love in the word of god marital love can be taught it's not an emotion it can be told so come to all the women and ask them this is the man what do you think you see when you've been married 13 years you smell chaos from a distance he comes sharp while talking you're like get behind me you sense something is off but some of you you come to the pastor at the point of marriage give them a card what do we do we say oh congratulations then you wait and asking you for a contribution who are you marrying maybe he looks he doesn't dress well is that a deal breaker you can't teach him how to dress [Applause] [Applause] he dresses so good he looks so fine you don't know that they found him with sharp shoes and gentle trousers and p at you imagine a 19 year old with cufflinks black tie with shave your papa bless so now and apparently when he tried to date cop baby she first thought you no i'm not able to manage so some of you that boy looks so local he dresses so badly some of them smell bad you can buy him a deodorant it's not a deal breaker you can talk to his pastor and say musumba kavooka neva muganda of chevo bailey deodorant then he comes back and yeah you sh you help him out you guys they were just not parented well some of these boys grew up like little wild somethings too many sons maybe raised by a father who doesn't know about grooming just need to teach him man on top and too much prayer they're always praying prayer mountain what whatever younger when you're a little bit they've not bathed they've been in fasting for two days when they say hello you almost faint ladies i'm coming to the gentleman don't worry but ladies remember we are the ones to be found so be findable humble yourself put away your degrees they're not marrying degrees be a human being be careful how you talk [Music] ask all the because the truth is you desire marriage many of you so don't pretend that you don't care you care and the quicker they are go the harder it becomes so all those ideas age he must have a house he must have a car by this age whose story are you writing are you good who told you that at a particular age a man should have abcd do you know where they came from by the time pastor linnett got married to pastor chris pastor chris bambi had you finished even university yeah in gatana mala he had two trousers and five shots and no degree rika shatter two trousers five shots and no degree what a cv some of you see pastor christie and you're like i'm a footer guy you are since if i can get a man like pastor christine they bring him with two trousers five shots are not degree and you refuse [Applause] and they've been multiplied ladies if you find a man who loves jesus deeply on the outside he may look rough around the edges talk to an older spiritual woman and do what she says and you will live a life of no stress and good marriage you're listening to the world too much some there are not too many shouts and demands from the ladies but i hope that you're opening your heart why listen to me i've been married 13 years i'm very happily married my friends have been married long they are happily married we know a thing or two about what we are talking about and we love you enough not to tell you things which should kill you why would we come here to set you up for no success we want what's best for you gentlemen [Music] don't make things too difficult also you if you're here at that 20 30 gathering gentlemen please bear minimum body odor [Music] it's a serious turn off maybe you don't even know but in gamambi if you don't shave and bathe well and put on antiperspirant forget about deodorant for men your body order is stronger so we are anti-perspirant what is that anticipated called that is best for men old spice old spice gentlemen go to the supermarket it's about 15 000 shillings there's one that is a stick me i like to go proper let's not even go into it get old spice remember to bathe before mixing it with brush your teeth and your tongue if you're fasting be chewing gum or drinking water because if the mouth is always closed then you come close to talk to the sister she might not remain in the same spirits it's called the moving anointing they move away they move you away from them [Music] gentlemen aching to your finances i know that i can't expect you to be or a billionaire from the beginning many of us have gone through a lot but be doing something don't be those brothers who hung around doing nothing praying believing god what does that mean believing god is active do something do something no matter what it is do something no woman wants to be there worried about if her husband to be will take care of things or her current husband you see even if what you're bringing in is little you're bringing in something and you're you're pushing you see you're pushing but when you're there hanging around praying it's scary for the lady because she starts to see a future where you'll be in trouble so don't throw around straight statements like me i don't care if if my wife earns more than me that's an alarm called a bell for a woman she starts to say oh and this one of those lazy men who's going to make me suffer don't even if you think it in your head don't say it just repent you should care you're the hunter you're the caregiver that's how god made you be generous i'm not we're not asking for too much but be quite generous say but jeremy would buy me with gifts bambika nicholas you know i want to wear with you small small things and then don't hang around a girl with no reason so many girls complain you are he's there he's around me what is it are you a fly are you a bee torikuchi what do you want i know it's hard but say what you want be bald sweater say it remove that you so move to the next target focus be clear with the girl ask the other gentleman who are older than you how did you do it what words do i say but be clear take her out check under the table say man i like you man i just reached into twitch corey hey you're spying spy why are you spying the attacker for you are the one who's always preparing the way john the baptist john the baptist they take her john the baptist john the baptist they take her vamo john the baptist in a severe mood you get a reputation girl starts saying ah that one takutura don't don't even ah that one is just wasting your time you people get married young if you're still between 20 and 30 be open to marriage and be open to marriage to a man who loves jesus other things can be fixed finances can be fixed how they look can be fixed dress code can be fixed those are not character issues especially if a man is submitted to authority marry quickly feelings will come feelings are simply chemical imbalances and you don't even know why you feel there are many you've seen in movies so if you're you like denzel washington any man that's close to him will make your heart pump a little faster will make chemical imbalances happen in your system because you are told that that's the kind of man so maybe you want a tall duck and handsome and now he's light-skinned shortened a little bit here and there [Applause] you can color him in your head you may not increase his height it may not be possible but if you think about it in the larger scheme of things how does height make you happy in your marriage skin color i wanted to marry a white man so that i can my babies can have curly beautiful hair oh yeah that was my vision heya how do you marry for hair [Applause] [Music] guys i'm serious let's keep the major things major the most important thing that apostle told you here and that jesus says to you do not be unequally hooked and some of you are in relationships right now with men who don't even believe in god get out run for your life you may think that it's a good deal he's not too serious about this religion he will get serious and you will weep tears we've seen enough we've cancelled enough we've held women crying enough and men some of you men are dating girls they're so hot you know hips are confusing you those hips will they keep you happy when you can't agree on type you can't agree on who your child your children will be raised will they be believing in god or not especially men understand that the woman will have the most influence on your children believe you me i pray for you more than i pray for the girls they'll go their mother's way think of jacob his mother influenced and took the blessing the woman has the power don't be deceived those children will listen to her they will go her religion they will do what she does and right now you think you're in charge you're not because you're a man you're the head but you have a helper and she really influences your children so find a woman who loves jesus deeply forget about hip size [Applause] [Music] you will look at those hips and you'll be so annoyed you'll want to kill those hips when she can't listen to you i was telling my husband that you know someone said something that when someone shows you who they are believe them don't never believe that you're going to change a person you don't have that power you're not the holy spirit if he's playing around with your heart right now he'll play around with it later you don't have the power to change him no i'll change him you won't you will cry but that will not be your story because you listen to wise counsel so people even gentlemen forget about age you're looking for a girl she must be younger there are some older women who are going to build for you but someone told you how she must be a certain way some of you if that girl says she has a child you run a child is not a cause that's a decision when she was younger none of you wants to be judged by something you did in your past some of those women are some of the most fantastic wives you'll ever have because she had a child when she was 15 and unwise but she can build for you a life beyond your wildest dreams are you looking for the other one find a young man or a young woman who loves jesus don't date for long you're christians you will tempt yourselves don't date for long six months is enough time where do you know why you're shouting someone told you you need five years have you met those who that had for five years and divorced what are you doing in five years that you can't find out in six months let me ask you something how long did isaac get rebecca [Music] not they didn't even date musumba but two minutes the bible says that every that isaac saw rebecca from a distance and he loved her and he married her [Music] do you know how long it took elder camara to ask his wife to marry him exactly three deaths he took her out once took her out twice you know for the son and the holy spirit on the third date he said will you marry me why are we wasting time they are very happily married [Applause] identified in circle paralyzed [Music] why are you wasting time you start having married people problems when you're not even married why are you dating for four years money could cheat you're kidding that romance [Music] am i talking at all [Applause] six months is more than it's half a year what are you doing what are you pushing that pause you've met the girl uh-huh christians who are not of the world those that stuff you've embraced someone told it to you and it's not jesus you need two years based on what which biblical principle told you that the bible says he who finds not a girlfriend not he who finds someone to date not he who finds someone to quote he says he who finds a what wife you meet her you know that seat i've found a wife they find a good thing some of you a boy came to you and immediately said i want to marry you started running because you used to the ones who waste your time it's too fast based on what does he love jesus is he under authority marry him it's just icing on a cake [Music] mariang when you're young you'll be like me i didn't know what i wanted what gown i went to that place and asked them i think sisters bride which gown fits me they showed me this one i said i put it on i i didn't even have a whole crew of people to come and choose with me a gown how much it's booked why are you stressing but we are not yet married because we need money for a wedding you should be buying land my husband we paid six months rent before we got married and that's what we were spending our money on some of you you get married you spent all the money on a wedding you don't have rent go and talk to pastor chris and lynette they will tell you the truth of what it means to enter a marriage in debt borrowing to impress then you are then you are struggling in your marriage because you try to impress people who don't care they'll have something else to talk about after two days they'll look at your gown for exactly five minutes talk about it on the wedding day by tomorrow you don't matter meanwhile you enter the hall [Music] for us we spent what do we tell the couples who come to us secure the honeymoon do marriage counseling plan for your future financially the wedding what can you actually afford do something beautiful but don't break yourself as much as possible use the contributions from people to do your wedding not your own money we didn't use our money for our wedding that 30 million came from people 22 million our money went into rent honeymoon we went to zanzibar for five five or six days a beautiful five-star hotel had so much fun while others were having weddings over 100 million and going back to the apartment because there's no money for honeymoon [Music] and if you're dating someone do not have sex before marriage do not do it do not build covenants where there is no cut do not [Applause] [Music] do not if you've already been doing it today is the last day stop you're creating things even if you get married to each other you've created mistrust in your marriage because you'll always wonder if he's away is he with someone why you couldn't control himself when he was with you so you're not sure he'll control himself if he's away it's time for us to talk about virginity again in the church it's nothing to be ashamed of it is of god and it's okay to say i failed now i'm getting back on track there's nothing i used to feel ashamed about those things you guys it's okay to know one person sexually all your life in fact it's the best because i don't know anything else the best i'll ever experience is jeremy behmann's i don't have anything to compare it to and that's better than being there comparing to the other who jumped up and down in the bed let's go there [Music] experience is not the best teacher when it comes to your sexuality you will have so many things to undo so many issues to deal with in your heart do not i ask someone now i'm going to end this here in first timothy i think chapter 5 paul says to timothy let the older men he tells to do you know to treat the older men as fathers the older women as mothers and he says that treat the younger women as sisters and the younger men as brothers in all purity many of you ask how far is too far my question my answer to you is whatever you would never do with your brother don't do it with a man you've not yet married unless you go around kissing your brothers and going a certain way what every time that is your brother that is someone else's husband or wife one day when you don't marry them you will meet them in a restaurant and they will have known you a certain way that they have no business knowing you but you can't stop it today treat them as brothers jeremy i treated him as a brother i i told him it could i mean who knows the day before the wedding you could change your mind you are my brother until the moment we say those vows and walk out of that church then you are my husband he was my brother and you you have brother jeremy even though we're dating i had a ring it was a promise of something until the covenant anything that a brother couldn't do with a sister we could not do that's the word of the lord it protects you treats the younger men as brothers the younger women and sisters with all purity so don't start asking alpha is too far how now so what's that the mark of commitment commitment in every dating relationship you ask questions you get to know each other you visit relatives you prepare for marriage you go out on dates you go you hang out with friends you ask you see if you're busy doing things you shouldn't be doing you're too confused you don't even ask the critical questions you feel about getting married how many children you want to have i don't know what is your plan for this i don't know what are you busy doing doing stuff you shouldn't be doing that keeps you quiet use your mouth to talk when you're dating [Applause] i'm here as your mother i'm telling you what i have told my daughters talk eat drink yeah [Music] love so much get to know the man get to ask the questions get to meet their friends get to hang out with others get to see how they respond to different things i mean you don't need to be who told you that you need to be getting intimate with that person you don't that confuses you because you see when you need to walk away from a relationship you walk away as brothers i dated a young man before i dated jeremy but i'm telling you we are friends they have been friends with jeremy there is nothing that he was my brother he still is like there's nothing there's nothing to feel uncomfortable about absolutely nothing but some of us when you end that relationship that that ties are too many you don't even know how to be around this person without feeling a certain way because they took something okay actually you gave them something they didn't take it you're in charge you're here thinking i'm powerless how do i you have a choice to go back today and say listen we can't do this anymore i'm a child of god many of you are going to realize they'll marry you quickly because if i'm getting what i should get when i'm married without the commitment of marriage why should i marry you you know why christian marriages happen quickly while people did for six months there's something you want which you can't get until you're married so you need to marry quickly but if i'm getting it we can date for seven years actually why are we getting married stop going to their homes to wash their clothes you're the weekend wife to cook their food i never cooked that man food until he married me and i'm a very good cook i never washed his clothes i never cleaned his house i would advise should we bring someone to clean for you it's not me but when you marry me oh i will put your house in order the house will be clean the clothes will be washed the food will be cooked but until then i'm your sister you take me out to eat the food yeah you spend some money you make an investment maybe you realize this investment is going on too long let's get married ladies you have the power stop giving in too easily have you understood are you living here wondering what i said okay number seven is i'm not going to spend time on it it's get established financially 20 to 30 are the years of hunting [Music] this is the time to hunt hunt you're young you're energetic try out new things don't be this lazy person who sits there saying the statement i'm believing god stop saying that stuff believe in god is active start something do something make money don't look down on any job if you have no job get a job stop looking down on the other one whatever it is it's better than doing nothing the other job will find you doing something young women get working use your brain use your energies think grow you don't need to depend on another on a man that idea that a man is the one who takes care of you know it's god and he's given you the power to get wealth as much as he has given a man the power to get wealth get busy establish yourself try out new things take risks financially this is the time learn learn learn he tells timothy meditate on these things in verse 15 give yourself entirely to them so that your progress is evident to all your progress must be evident to all financial luck can seriously hinder your passions and dreams you can want to do something but you have no money for it so take care of it be the best at what you do when i worked where i worked before worship harvest i was the best receptionist therefore they promoted me they had to create a role for me then i was so good at it they moved me forward they are so good at it you know it was just and i had this desire to be so exceptional not they were paying me absolutely nothing really when i think about it 150k 250k you're working long hours for me it wasn't about them it was good you will promote me you see my faithfulness if you're at a job give it your very best don't be those lazy people who give bare minimum no give your very best your young you have energy wake up early stay up a little later you won't be able to do these things as you continue in life do them now give everything try new things invest money is simply a function of wisdom sign up for classes and it's the lowest capital it's the list we should be faithful in if you can't be faithful in the area of money it's going to be very difficult to be faithful elsewhere proverbs 21 20 says there is desirable treasure and oil in the dwelling of the wise but a foolish man squanders it don't squander these years of your life don't squander them putting hanging out wasting time doing what you see in the movies that's the movies it's not real life this is the life you have it's not a dress rehearsal give everything a hundred and twenty percent with those people when they ask you for one thing you deliver ten not because of what they're going to pay you but you're training yourself to be a certain person you'll be promoted no question about it if you get promoted excellence promotes if the person where you are doesn't recognize it god will make another one recognize i used one head hunt in restaurants for my team i didn't care what graduation you had had if you're excellent there we bring you in we train you excellence stands out so be that person wherever you are make money save money invest you're not too young to do that don't wait until you're 40. start at 20 have a head start start early start now don't waste time this is the time of your life you guys me i look at you i mean i'm a little out of the 30s now and i'm just like look guys i wish we had this sort of conference i wish someone told me the things you're hearing stand out take responsibility for your life don't blame another person this one who didn't do this for you now you're in charge what are you going to do with your life make decisions for you not your auntie your uncle don't marry because the relatives like the man they won't live with him or the woman they won't live with her for life you have a governing system inside ask wise men and women listen to your heart do what god is telling you to do this is the best time of your life i'm telling you you're living in a time of great energy great resources you're alive you know god this time wasting that has already been removed by knowing god you don't waste time in other things but now focus get intense hang around people who are like-minded don't be deceived 20-something year-olds are doing crazy good stuff in this nation they're not out in the dance clubs you're alone with your few friends i don't know who said it but they say that if your five friends are fools you're the sixth you're the sixth full so look around do you like the trajectory of the lives that your friends your friends lives are taking if not find some new friends and then attract your other friends to a place of strength eventually i started my journey and without even knowing it you know god has been writing a story i started tithing at the age of 13. yeah my pocket money 200 shillings tithe 2 000 shillings tithe i have my receipts from washi harvest when i was on campus 1k tafe a receipt of 1 000 500 shootings and they would still have to give me my receipt a chevy town boom receipt but you see you don't realize that something is happening you you don't wait until you're all done until you have more money you want to be faithful with more if you're not faithful than little i started ministering at around that age i joined worship habits when i was 19. they planted when i was 21 and i was in the team serving on the worship team not knowing what i'm doing friends now is the time when your mind is open you're not stuck on something allow god to direct your life but please make decisions from today make some decisions for you not for anyone else in your life not for your parents it's time to stop living for others and look inside and say from today i'm responsible for my life if i choose to do this i've chosen it if i choose to marry this person i've chosen it if i choose this financial life i've chosen it if i choose this you know social life i've chosen it choose take responsibility grow up take responsibility for your life everyone is living their life leave yours it's time to embrace greatness thank you it's time to live the life that god placed you on this earth to live so what is jesus saying to you what is we've been here you've listened to an incredible teaching on following from pastor blesso [Music] you've listened to an incredible teaching on how much you don't look for purpose but you serve purpose it's in the serving it's in the availability it's in saying yes it's in living beyond yourself it's embracing the uncomfortable you heard about the seven things that should happen between 30 and 40 seek god i remember the overnights as 20 year olds just following people around praying prayer overnight prayer mountain you know retreats oh reading through the bible cover to cover we didn't know what we were doing people tell me i've had my relatives tell me that when i would come home in s fo vac s to work that i would sit down my cousins that's what they say i really don't remember but i believe them because many of them are saying the same thing and i'll tell them to read their bible then tell me what they've learned i don't remember doing that but it's because that's what i was into my friend recently told me that she came to visit me at university and i asked her what have you read in the bible and apparently she told me i haven't read my bible today told i can't talk to you go in the room read your bible then we will talk you know that radicalness it was in the 20s and god was building something this is the time to get serious about the word of god you have more time than you think you do discover and define your life's work i'm reading those things for you again become an authority in your discipline serving the ministry hey find mentors and fathers don't be afraid of fathers find a spouse and get married get established financially why don't we get up on our feet right now as we close shortly the team will be coming to close but i want you to take a moment you've been here so much has been said i don't want you to walk away without saying what one thing is going to change in my life as a result of being in this room today no one can make that decision or manage it for you and i want you to think about that as timothy plays those keys for a moment i want you to think what one thing [Music] and i want you to think in your mind who is going to keep me accountable and send them a message and tell them you know what this is going to change in my life keep me accountable moving forward i'm going to do this differently some of you need to say yes to some people you've been saying no to some of you need to say no to some people some of you need to start praying one hour daily some of you it's fasting weekly some of you it's getting a job and not looking down on the work that is being offered to you and staying in that limbo of believing god what does that mean some of you it's just forgiving someone who hurt you whatever it is i want you to think about it and i want you to send a message to someone right now not tomorrow not one hour later because we'll walk out and things will happen pick up that phone obedience is better than sacrifice and just tell someone this thing and tell someone who you know will keep you accountable who makes you uncomfortable what's the other one who will say i understand tell them this thing some of you need to send a message to your pastor and say i'm i'm i'm saying yes to starting that mission or community i'm saying yes to being at that hosting center whatever it is send that message in obedience don't wait for a feeling and i believe god is going to do amazing things in our lives father i thank you because the entrance of your word brings light and gives understanding to the symbol i thank you that today you've brought light to places where there was darkness today you've brought understanding where things seemed complicated today you've broken down walls and barriers today you've realigned destinies something has shifted in the spirit concerning the lives of the people who have been here today to hear what you've said oh god and now lord holy spirit it's not by power it's not by might but by your spirit we open ourselves to you to hear your voice on different things to pursue you like never before to do what you've asked us to do to be where you've asked us to be and the god of grace will be with us friends may the lord bless you may he cause his face to shine on you may you open the eyes of your understanding to his will may you be open to the mysteries of the knowledge of god may you receive the spirit of knowledge and wisdom and understanding in the things of god may you be drawn to the things of god more than the things of this world may you be attracted to the work of god and the things of god more than anything else may you serve god with all your heart may you'll die empty may you die having fulfilled your purpose in your generation and for those of you who feel like you're behind schedule receive grace to catch up receive the grace to catch up because god is able to turn things around he did it for moses for abraham receive the grace to catch up and not to be discouraged in any way may you receive the wisdom to know what to do and the grace to do it and follow through in jesus name amen amen

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Length: 50min 46sec (3046 seconds)

Published: Tue May 25 2021