Leave Them ALONE... | Rich Sister Archetype

see that's what she get dragging somebody in who ain't got nothing and putting him off on family talking about family putting him off on me I'm the one who paid for this wedding T why you always got to let everybody know you pay for everything yes I do hello everybody I'm Coco Cosmos and in this video we're going to take a look at the rich sister archetype specifically in black movies you know how to spot them because they're usually type A have expensive looking items or you guessed it family members with their hand out I've noticed a pattern as I've gotten older and I want to take a deeper look at it let's get started what do these three women have in common they're all rich and all perceived as snobbish and rude no matter the circumstances no matter their past they're just mean for no reason right they got to be doing some form of hating or they're stingy or they've abandoned the family I I agree at all let's start with Kelly Whitmore in this Christmas I think you can guess what the movie is about Kelly is the second oldest sister third child of the family and big-time Harvard graduate that lives in New York she could be a bit blunt which is another running trait within the bougie sister character and I'm not mad at it when she arrives home for the holidays there's obvious tension between her and her sister Lisa's husband Malcolm because of his ego issues upon greeting the family they ask her about work and everyone jokes about her cooking skills but it turns into a thing once they ask when their brother Claude is going to settle down it's clear that there's resentment between Kelly and eldest sister Lisa but still love see Lisa did her big sister Duty and learned how to cook helped her mom with the family dry cleaning business and became a wife and mom herself but Kelly went off to college instead Lisa felt she didn't have much choice in the matter since everybody else left the house except for the baby brother who's College age that night at dinner she sees Lisa heating up Malcolm's food because he likes it extra hot and even cutting it for him like he's one of her kids and makes a comment I don't blame her either because that's a bit much then Malcolm asks Mel boyfriend while he chose an all back school putting his superiority complex on full display Kelly cannot stand this man especially since he's behind Lisa trying to talk the other siblings into selling the family business Lisa gets offended that Kelly is implying that she's Malcolm's puppet but it's more of a if the shoe fits kind of thing another thing about Kelly she doesn't have a man or any kids she's not adverse to it but she's just someone that deserves someone like her it's clear that the family prioritizes well family because this is the second time it's brought up in the convo with her mother reminding her that a career won't keep her warm again I don't blame Kelly your partner should always be on the some the same level as you are whether that be career kids or your mindset towards life in general you got to be on the same page she does find a decent enough guy though even if they first met at at the club she finds out about Malcolm's cheating on Lisa which just gives her more of a reason to hate this man but when she tells Lisa Lisa responds that she already knows but she can't leave him because she has no degree and doesn't want to be a single mother Kelly is not trying to hear that calls her pathetic for allowing it and tells her woman do it every day so it's not excuse they to some in the rain but they make up in the end and Lisa gets her revenge on Malcolm by destroying his priz possession Kelly is a true girls girl honestly she says the things that you hate to hear and has your back that's real family her relationship with Lisa got better because Lisa realized she wasn't really upset with everyone going their their own path she's upset that she seemed to get the short end of the stick Lisa may have disliked what Kelly had to say all of the time but knew it was true which is why she hated to hear it she's Unapologetic about leaving to make her life better which I also respect she didn't abandon the family she just did what was best for her let's move to example number two which has a similar sit situation Terry Joseph in Soul Food soul food is a movie all about family and centers around the matriarch Who falls illed and is told from the perspective of a mod Maxine's son and Terry's nephew Terry is a eldest sister and a lawyer who does really well for herself with a lawyer husband miles to compliment her success or and which you would assume we first meet Terry at her baby sister Bird's wedding where she's comforting her on her special day that Terry paid for because her newly made husband is bumping and grinding wiz's eggs in a short dress I'm not a shamer but that's just tasteless bro she also paid for Bird's hair salon and the taxes on her mom's house and just like Kelly chose education over domestication which comes up over Sunday dinner a family tradition and the focal point of the story she and Maxine start auguring over the dinner and we get a little back story into their beef turns out Maxine's current husband and father to her three children used to be Terry's boyfriend their mom had a rule that if they were going out on a date they had to bring a sister with them it was at this moment that they fell for each other and Terry knew what was on the horizon there was nothing confirmed though until she caught them making out in the car it's been semi cordial attitudes ever since der's not going to sit back and let her throw Jabs at her but that's still her sister like right now as Faith the black sheep of the family shows up to the house the three sisters all start talking about how she shouldn't be there and Maxine has no room in her house then Maxine went to labor a little while after that all the sisters are with their mom at the hospital because she burned her arm while cooking and learned that she's not taking care of her diabetes properly they get the news that she needs surgery and after being stubborn about it she agrees then we get to see how Terry lives and she does very well for herself don't know if we can say the same about the husband because over dinner they start discussing money and how some of it is missing from their joint account a whole $5,000 mil says he took it out for studio time turns out he wants to take being a musician more seriously Terry is shocked and thought it was just a hobby because how could you throw away a prestigious gig like being an attorney to go into the unstable career of being a music artist bro is super offended by that and walks off saying they're getting separate accounts Terry tells him just to let her know next time faith is here by the way Big Mama goes to have the surgery but it doesn't go well she had a stroke during the surgery and is now in a coma while everyone's visiting Maxine says that Sunday dinner is still happening and Terry thinks that's ludicrous they they start arguing over it and Terry boils it down to her always having to be the responsible one and the one to go to law school a lot of people would say that doesn't have anything to do with anything but to me she's clearly the disciplined responsible and mature one of the family especially when they pushed her into that role when they started using her as their Bank the fact that Maxine just couldn't keep her hands off Terry's boyfriend it it shows everything they took a vote on it and no one goes anyway so it doesn't matter M tries to cheer Terry up with some music and dancing but she's not into it he then tells her he's committing to music and quit his job after she can't make it to his show she's annoyed and she has that right because you quit your job without a word to your wife who you already gave a preview of your married life to when you started working less hours then Faith walks in so Terry asks her how the job search is going Faith tells her about the audition and Terry wants to know what's her actual angle because her track record is absolutely terrible then Terry's husband cheats with faith I hate hate hate how this is painted as to unappreciated creatives then the look on their faces after it's already done I can't stand them because Faith showed up to miles's Gig that Terry missed and Miles played music for Faith's audition and all Terry did was tell them both to get real Faith's dance routine was ass anyway and miles's group is carrying him they don't know that Terry knows until he comes out at Maxine and Kenny's 11th anniversary party and the sisters try badgering more money out of her Maxine volunteers Terry and miles to pay for their mom's hospital bills and Terry will be damned she says that they can sell the house Maxine and bird say that's not an option never mind the fact that Terry has been paying the taxes and utilities on the house anyways then Terry drops the bomb after Kenny says she should think about the family the family the family I love the family in my house you know what the family my husband yeah faith my husband miles well said because damn that famine honestly Big Mama ends up passing away after this event after waking up briefly from her coma they have the funeral then Maxine sees Terry has put the house up for sale all the sisters meet up at a restaurant where Maxine serves Terry with a cease and theist on the sail of the [Laughter] house you fools bra is pregnant by the way and here's another thing that burns my buns their mom always said Maxine was the strongest of the family like we have to be serious these people would run a nun ragged mind you miles was husband number two so her sister stole her boyfriend she divorced the first husband and now her cousin has had sex with her new husband and the family thinks her money is for the community what the does this look like a charity I would have lost my mind so long ago I commend her on holding it together her nephew Amad tricks everybody into coming over for Sunday dinner by telling them that big mom left him hidden money and he was splitted with them everyone shows up ready to go after seeing everybody there but they stay for the food it didn't stay Cordia for long though after LM tells everyone he got his job back after being locked up Terry tells him that she called in a favor to get a out and he should be thankful so he can focus on his pregnant wife oh yeah bird flirts with her ex to get her husband a job after Li told her he can find his own the ex starts instigating at the job and Lim throws a punch job lost then he starts getting active at bird Salon like he broke a glass door grabbed a rough and started yelling in her face and throw some stuff I mean what would you think is going on so again Terry stepping up she made some calls to that side of the family that would ha handle it limb was strapped and call a scene at a bar so since limb's a felon he's not supposed to be carrying and gets arrested bird snaps at Terry basically saying she needs to mind her business Faith starts to leave but Maxine tells her to stay so they can solve it as a family man move bro Terry and Miles have an open conversation at the table about their unhappy marriage for whatever reason the house almost burns down and they find the money big mama was hiding and for some reason the ending tries to give the illusion of a happy ending with the family forgiving each other and keeping miles around even after the divorce and Terry being happy that she's alone and made partner no absolutely not hell no Terry should have dropped her family like a hot rock and have them fend for themselves if Terry was really like that she could have had that Soul by next week ceas insist be damned considering she has a power of attorney left miles with nothing but his pocket change and moved on speaking of moving on last but not least we have Kimberly and media's big happy family who is a little similar to Terry Kimberly is a real estate agent and the younger more successful sister of the family she's married to Calvin which I don't know what his job is but he looks important and has a son named CJ with him we're first introduced to her when she arrives at her mom Shirley's house after Shirley has bam Kimberly and Tammy's Aunt invite her everyone over for dinner the reason for wanting everyone together is Shirley's cancer coming back stronger than ever and her not having long to live Kimberly in walks in with an attitude after being a little late because of work this well definitely set the president she spoke the truth though Tammy's kids don't have any in home training especially the older one Tammy comes back after taking the other son to the bathroom and makes this comment I know you're not talking about my children my boys that I'm raising she's so hateful you'll see why in a second Kimberly wants to know why she's even here and is very impatient to leave it's clear she doesn't hang around her family too long and after a whole thing with Byron and his baby mama Byron leaves with his son and kiberly leaves too saying she has to go pick hers up from daycare she says this in a calm voice mind you and if K wanted to be exceptionally sweet she could have come back for the dinner but here comes Tammy raising her voice when it doesn't need to be raised Calvin tries to make peace and Tammy says she's sorry that he has to go home to that her own sister later on Byron gets arrested for the second time for potential drug dealing he used to deal but after he got arrested the first time he quit but since there's a rumor going around that he's back in it I guess cops got wind of it and got a warrant Charley shows up at Kimberly's house asking for bail money Kimberly's actually shocked that she made it there and ask her what's going on she's speaking to her in a reasonable tone now she gets Anno wait to hear this is about Byron get arrest him and tells her that she's not giving her any money Charlie tells her he wasn't dealing drugs this time and kimly ask how she knows and she drops this line I looked into his eyes a mother knows a mother knows Kimberly is better than me because I would have told her to get off my porch after that this is not the first go round with Byron and his legal troubles clearly guess who fo the bill cimberly she paid off her mom's mortgage lawyer fees and I'm assuming bail Calvin comes down and tries to see what the problem is and Kimberly tries to shoot him away but he invites her mom in oh my God Shirley then tries to bypass everything that Kimberly just told her he then tells Shirley that he'll bail Byron out he disrespects Kimberly in her own home Kimberly said what she said and Calvin tries to scold her and honestly Calvin should have stayed out of it that's her family he only got married in if she made this decision it's for a reason but he went above her in the SE of family then Shirley has a nerve to say this I don't know why she treats me that way are you sure no idea at all that is some grade A so Meda finally getes everyone to come to the dinner sure they wanted but here's where everything comes out even approaching Kimberly at her damn job of all places like how very dare you y'all begging and begging for my money but when I need to make it everyone has a problem and then Calvin gets on his damn so bugs and threatens to take her some from her see the wait my anger issues are built I don't Bop Somebody by now we would have had to scrap specifically Tammy I'm not the one who got pregnant at 13 and had Mama to raise my child Tam it say something now disgusting like it's some sort of gotcha moment now Byron starts asking too many questions and finds out that he's Kimberly's son he's the product of sexual assault when Kimberly was 13 at the house Calvin starts packing a bag and take CJ with him he says he can't take her behavior anymore and says he can't believe the secrets she's been hiding and honestly he should go to hell and he had no right to take her son then Charle dies and they had Kimberly sobbing over her corpse and begging forgiveness I hate that so bad media walks around the house after the funeral and noticed all the drama and the foolishness she sits them down to get to the Bottom of Everything Calvin and Kimberly go upstairs to talk things out it's actually a sweet moment can we blame any of them for their behavior everyone's always so giving with someone else's money or they're just straight up jealous of Life Choices that they didn't make that's none of their fault you decided to stay in your hometown or that you took a different career path that doesn't give you the right to their potential generosity potential the only person I can give any leeway to is Kelly's older sister Lisa now I'm an only child but I've heard and seen a lot about the eldest daughter Ro in the family which is basically being a second mom and I'm so sorry to those people but I could never Lisa was expected to help her mother because everyone else left and she took on the responsibilities as eldest daughter but when her sister came at her with real facts she wasn't trying to hear it because she felt she didn't have any real choice at that point hence the resentment I only give her a pass because I feel it's pretty realistic given the circumstances of course he going to stay with the guy because you have kids with him and he's the only guy you've ever known of course you want people to mind their business regarding decisions you made it takes time to realize actually this isn't what I want and I'm hurting myself by staying in this situation everybody else in these movies can take a long walk off a short plank for all I care the family knew what faith and miles did were disgusting and still kep them around in the name of family even after the divorce that's absurd to me and they treated her like a personal ATM on top of it which is driving me up a wall they tried so hard to make it seem like Terry was being selfish when really she was just toing everyone and Tammy was an for no reason nothing was wrong with her at all unless she's also harboring some sort of covered up trauma but coming straight from her husband she's always been this way for no reason this is why I hate how these women are painted like they're being for no reason they've put up with so much trying to keep themselves together that their suffering doesn't matter at all like right here Terry is clearly afraid of losing miles or being unsupportive so she tries to calm him down and seem reasonable she never said that he couldn't do music just that it should remain a hobby and not take up so much of their income if he's not going to contribute enough to cover it again she's not trying to pay for literally every little thing for everyone when it comes to Kimberly she gave what she was going to give and put her foot now they hated that I'll admit that she doesn't have to be so mean to her husband and yelling at the baby was a little harsh though he does need to learn I too wouldn't want my child to end up like Tammy's badass kids I only have to assume that she has been stuck in a trauma response for so many years that she barely notices she thinks her anger is warranted which it is but it shouldn't be directed at everybody again I can only assume that because of her turning down counseling and I don't blame Calvin for trying to leave but he didn't have to take her child from her I'm glad he gave her a chance to heal at least everyone treated her like a villain and the writing painted her like a villain that just hates everyone and everything it's so dumb but I know it's accurate because some families are notorious for having that keep family business as family business only but it's a fact that everyone except Byron and Calvin knew why she was behaving the way she was especially her mom and big sister but they wanted to play dumb there's nothing wrong with having a little money and not paying for every little thing that a family member wants or needs it gets tiring having to take care of everybody but you then they're upset when you actually have to work for the money they're asking for why is it always expected that the more well-off family members will just take care of it everything why is it never just seen as potential generosity at the end of the day these are just movies but there has to be some truth to them I think the characters were written very well except for Kimberly and Terry's ending in my opinion I don't like how she was portrayed as this hateful woman that's fused Venom every chance he get for like 75% of the movie The Reason comes out after all these years poor Byron became collateral damage and then she applies the it's her dead mom seemingly regretful I hate it I don't want her to be sorry I want her to dance on her grave to be honest is this weird thing in society that you're not supposed to speak ill of the Dead I only believe that to a certain extent because if the person was an living that doesn't make them less of an just because they died we got to get real here I may make a part two exploring Tony Childs from girlfriends and Eva dandd from Deliver Us from Eva but what what do y'all think got any other tropes you want me to talk about let me know in the comments below Coco Cosmos [Music] oh

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Published: Sat Apr 06 2024