Karen Doesn't Tip, So I Refused her Order! - Reddit Stories

hey there mr redder here welcome back to another episode of our slash entitled people stories today we have a very special episode for you a compilation of some of the best entitled people stories we've read over the past year so sit back relax and enjoy a few hours of the most entitled people you've ever heard of and by the way karen assured me that for every thumbs up this video gets she won't try to get anyone fired for an entire week so please smash that like button and subscribe and turn on notifications for new stories from reddit every single day my aunt karen doesn't tip so i refused her instacart order i 23 female have been an instacart driver since march of 2020 and it's been a lucrative side business for me i'm always picky on what batches i accept miles driven the amounts of items shopped and the overall payout are all important to me a lot of my earnings are going towards the down payment for a house my aunt 37 is a notorious cheapskate even if it affects other people providing services to her she will pay what is required service fees and costs of items and not a penny more this includes in restaurants my mother and other family members are aware of her doing this but enable it by covering up constantly like slipping cash to the wait staff behind her back i absolutely refuse to go along with it not sure if this is relevant but my aunt doesn't get around that well physically weight and arthritis issues so being on her feet for a long period of time is difficult for her she called up my mother and asked if i was on instacart she said no i was in the kitchen eating lunch she said that she placed her first order excitedly since first orders have a promotional deal mom asked me to log in and i did i can see the map of where an address approximately is along with a few other things before accepting a batch it was obvious which one was hers i told my mom i wasn't taking it and it was a terrible order high amount of items 115 and a 15 mile round trip and no tip my mom went off on me saying that she's family and this should be an exception to my standards i told her that no tip equals no trip and that was it my aunt called my mom almost 30 minutes later whining that nobody will take her order i took the phone and told her that i saw the order and if she doesn't want to appropriately appreciate her shopper then she can go get the items herself with that said i took a much better order and walked out they're both mad at me and said i'm a terrible person for how i handled things am i the jerk edit i didn't expect to get all these responses thank you so much also would like to add that i am a shopper that always tries to go above and beyond for my customers whenever an item is out i'm texting customers with pictures of the shelves and offering substitution options i rarely refund items and customers are happy my rating is a perfect five star at the moment edit two my pay goes like this batch pay is seven dollars or sixty cents per mile whichever is more the rest of what i make is tips again thank you all so much for your responses edit three sorry for forgetting to mention this for all the international redditors out there but i'm located in the united states where some service slash gig workers depend on tips to survive crazy neighbor demands we take down our halloween decorations my husband and i moved into this neighborhood about two years ago after we got married we haven't been able to celebrate halloween the last two years due to lockdown it's our favorite holiday so this year we decided to go all out we filled our yard with tombstones and skeletons all of our bushes and trees are wrapped in fake webbing the tree closest to the street having a huge six foot spider dangling from its limbs the final touch was a huge rope web that we added extra webbing to fill it out that hangs from our roof all the way down to the street we got a couple of fuzzy spider decorations to place around the yard it took us hours to decorate and we were so excited my husband looked like a kid in a candy store yesterday while my husband was at work i heard a knock on my door it turned out to be my neighbor he looked absolutely frantic i didn't even have a chance to ask what was happened when he yelled at my face you need to take all this crap down i was really taken aback this neighbor has always been very nice to us i've seen other houses decorate in the past few years maybe not to this extent but i know it's not against our hoa rules i decided to ask if that was his issue just in case he looked at me completely dumbfounded and started going off cut the crap you need to put all this away my wife has arachnophobia your yard practically gave her a heart attack this morning i kind of messed up here and laughed i didn't think our purple fuzzy spiders with big googly eyes would even scare the little kids in the neighborhood you're pulling my leg right he got in my face and practically stepped into my house you're going to scare my wife to death if you and your husband don't take all this crap down i'm reporting you i'm a retired police officer and i can make this a real problem for you i started seeing red and getting really uncomfortable because i was completely home alone and my husband wouldn't be home for hours even if i wanted to take it down it would be impossible without his help listen this is our first time getting to celebrate halloween in our house and we really put a lot of effort into our yard none of our spiders even look realistic can we please not do this right now i don't give a hoot take it down or else he didn't really give me a chance to answer he just started walking back to his yard our decorations are not scary other neighbors have even said our yard is cute we also spend a few hundred dollars decorating it it would be a huge waste to take it all down i haven't told my husband yet because i know he's petty and will throw a fit and probably decorate it with even more spiders out of spite i refuse to take down our decorations this is really important to us and i just want to enjoy my favorite holiday with my husband am i the jerk update i talked to my husband about it and we're installing a ring doorbell this weekend i'll be taking it up with the hoa and documenting everything that happens going forward hoa president is a bully well his ego allows me to bully him so this is a story about a property i own but rent out this may sound strange but i don't think i could afford to live there these days it's become somewhat exclusive i guess this could also go in for revenge i've used dollars here because it's what most people reading this will relate to this doesn't take place in the u.s and i've given an approximate dollar value for local currency background a million years ago my property was part of a large farm i bought it about 30 years ago long after the farm was broken up but before there was any development near it the piece of land i got was near the back entrance that joined into a dirt road that ran past the more expensive plots were near the road in the front i originally bought a large chunk of the land intending to do some farming but that never happened about 20 years ago some of the owners got organized we'll call them the organized owners oh oh and had the area designated as a municipal suburb the municipality agreed to put in tarred roads water and electricity if a certain percentage of the properties were developed a construction company linked to the oo went around contacting the owners who had land but no buildings offering to build houses for us at a very very reasonable price contingent on them getting a certain minimum amount of people signing up while this was happening one of the oo approached me and offered to buy half my property i agreed and the money i got for the sale which was about four times what i'd paid for the entire chunk of land ten years prior combined with a small loan from the bank gave me what i needed to pay for a house to be built and it was a fairly large and nice house too i stayed in the house for a few years and my mom moved in with me i had decided to subdivide the property again and build her a house next to mine but unfortunately an undiagnosed tumor took her before the house could even be started well it was diagnosed but too late to do anything soon after she passed we moved out of the house and started renting it out about a few weeks before we moved out the ooh i'd sold the land to started talking about starting an hoa i wasn't interested and left soon after about two years later the neighbor o-oo contacted me there were two roads entering the area these days the original road that was near where the farmhouse had been and was entered from a fairly busy main road and my dirt road back entrance which was now a entrance from a wide but not very busy municipal road the hoa was trying to get the old farm road blocked off to improve security and decreased through traffic and wanted the road next to my property to be the main and only entrance to the hoa community and they were pressuring me to join i said no and i was adamant and eventually they accepted that but they told me they wanted to have a sign near the road welcoming people to the neighborhood and the only practical place to put it was on the edge of my property they also wanted to build a little guard hut and have a security guard permanently monitoring who went in and came out and they wanted to build his shed on my property we came to an agreement where they would mow the lawn and pay the equivalent of about 35 dollars per month in exchange for the land they needed i was very happy with this arrangement since the property was fairly large and it didn't really cost them anything since they already had a full-time gardening service servicing the hoa this all happened over a decade ago they eventually got the other main road blocked off and the hoa is paying for rent-a-cop to be permanently stationed close to my property as well as mowing my lawn and paying me enough money for takeaways for the family each month i'm occasionally contacted by members of the hoa to get me to sign up but i'm really not interested my property has been rented to the same tenant for all these years and everything there is going well for me until about three years ago when someone scared the crap out of my tenant's young daughter by making strange noises and firing off near her window three or four times over about a month this scared my tenant and i guess it scared the hoa because they and my tenant contacted me with a proposal i joined the hoa and they give me exclusions from the hoa rules including exclusions from paying the monthly fees and in addition they will build a wall around the entire hoa neighborhood including electric fencing and security cameras they told me they had wanted to do this for a while but were unwilling to build the wall on property that was not in the hoa i couldn't see the downside and so i agreed the dishonest dealings it took a little over a year to build the wall and everything got completed which was quite fast and then a month to the day after everything was done my tenant got an hoa warning about his dogs barking he told the hoa that while the property was in the hoa it was exempt from the rules the hoa told him that they had cancelled the exemptions and that he had 30 days to comply he contacted me and i opened some mail i'd gotten from the hoa i had ignored it since i was supposed to be exempt from the rules and fees man did i get a surprise they had retroactively cancelled the exemptions and were claiming one that i pay late fees going back over a year two that the easement agreed had been cancelled and that they were retroactively canceling it a year back because the hoa contract allowed them to use small unused portions of hoa members lands for the common good for free three that i refund them the money they had paid for the easement over that period four that i owed them money for the garden service mowing the large lawn and five that i would be fine for each infraction my tenant failed to remedy this started an expensive process involving lawyers and the court system that ended with a judge telling me that what the hoa had done was mostly legal they had the right to revoke the exemptions but that they had to give me a 30-day notice as i was walking to my car the neighbor ooh the one who bought half my land so many years ago told me that i was stupid to have refused to join when the hoa started as i could have been a founding member whatever that means and that next time i should be sure to understand the documents i signed before signing them the malicious compliance neighboro was right i should have read the contract better also i was interested in what it meant to be a founding member spoiler nothing and so when i got home i grabbed the hoa contract i'd signed as well as all the other documentation they had provided me with and started reading i was determined to break every rule i could find a loophole to break i didn't get past the first page while the street address of the property is used to identify it for all practical purposes in the city records it has a unique property number that has to be used on legal records when my mom moved in i'd subdivided the remaining property but hadn't yet started building on it and when i gave the hoa the easement all those years ago it had been on the property i had sliced off from my mom and when the hoa set up the contract they had simply used the property numbers from the easement the next afternoon the neighbor o.o delivered and had me sign for two documents one telling me that my exemptions would expire in 30 days and one letting me know that the easement would no longer be required after 30 days i think he was being a bit malicious here because i lived about an hour away from the property and he drove out himself the revenge exactly 30 days to the hour after the hoa had given me the 30 days notice i knocked on the neighbor ooh's door did i mention he was the president of the hoa and had him sign for two documents the first was that i planned to build a house on my hoa property which confused him and the second was notice that they had 30 days to remove from the property the guard shed the parts of the electric boom that were on my property as well as the sign he tried to engage me but i ignored him climbed into my car and drove off early the next morning i get a call from the hoa lawyer who explained to me that their junk would be staying on my property since it was in an unused part of my land i explained that i was building a house there and that the land would not be unused anymore i could hear the smirk as he told me that building a second house to be spiteful would not be accepted by the courts i sure hope he could hear the smirk in my voice when i told him that the property in question did not have a house and was in fact barely large enough for a house to be built and would not be large enough for any extraneous buildings i then told him to go look up the property in question and call me back i had sliced off just enough to be legal which was just enough to build a small house it took them just under five days to get back to me their lawyer told me that the terms of the easement meant that i could not cancel without their permission so i emailed him a photo of the document they sent to me cancelling the easement that afternoon neighbor o.o invited me to lunch his treat to discuss the problem i said no thanks he extended the offer again two days later and again i said no thanks others of the original oo contacted me to try to talk some sounded aggressive some sounded sympathetic i said no thanks to each one of them eventually the lawyer phoned and asked if we could come to some sort of an arrangement i asked what he had in mind and he told me that he was prepared to discuss exclusions in exchange for access to my property so i said no thanks and please don't call me again about 9 days before their 30 days was up i got a call from a different lawyer he said he wanted to negotiate a surrender his words not mine i agreed to meet him at his office the next day i had already had documents drawn up and the meeting was as simple as me giving him the documents and him reading them over my new easement offer one included everything offered by the old easement offer two i changed the line mow the lawn to get the property to hoa standards and keep it there since it was now in the hoa three would cost them about five hundred dollars per month instead of 35 this amount would increase with inflation the previous contract didn't include that bid for when canceled for whatever reason the hoa would have to pay me a cancellation fee of about 7 500 5. the contract automatically terminated 30 days after a any disciplinary action was taken against me my tenant or the property b any complaints were levied by the hoa against my property c any legal action was taken against the property by anyone in the hoa 6. that lawyer who had offered to negotiate surrender would be allowed to mediate any disputes between us at hoa's expense and that seven the hoa would pay all my legal fees if any legal action was taken against me i had deliberately left some insane things in there so that i could appear to concede some points or be negotiated down when the hoa got indignant about the points i actually cared about the lawyer didn't look happy he said that my proposal sounded unfair but that he'd have the hoa president look at them i reminded him that in eight days i'd be setting a group of men armed with sledgehammers and angry management issues loose on whatever of theirs was still on my property that evening i got an irate call from the hoa president he told me he was never going to sign the new contract i said okay he then told me i was charging too much per month and that it should be at the same rate as the previous contract i pointed out that when i signed the previous contract the area was under development and there was at least one other road leading in and out but that now there was only one and besides mine was now developed with everything they needed he told me that i was forcing them to sign a document they didn't want to sign i told him that he was free to not sign it he whined about everything he could think of and then eventually told me i'd be hearing from his lawyer the next morning surrender lawyer called to ask if i'd be willing to come to their offices to sign the contract i agreed when i got there that afternoon i learned that surrender lawyer was not a lawyer but a paralegal he handed me the contract and asked me to sign it he laughed when i told him i'd have to read through it first to make sure nothing was changed and mumbled something that sounded like i'm sure you would i read the contract nothing had been changed not a single thing and the hoa president had signed it with the surrender paralegal signing his witness i looked at him and said why did he sign this it was stupid to sign it and the paralegal looked at me and said i started telling him that signing it would be a bad decision but he told me i wasn't being paid to think or give legal advice and to shut up so i shut up i said do you understand what he signed here he looks at me and nods he said i asked him if i should have one of the lawyers look at it before giving it to you and he told me that we had already billed enough for this and that he had signed it and sue me after their easement was safe this happened about a year and a half ago it took six months for the hoa to find out how done for they were they wanted to sue me but their lawyers explained to them that there was no way to win even if the court sided with them all they would get is the easement contract voided and they did not think that the court would side with them the lawyers were adamant about one thing the hoa could not live with the hoa pays my legal fees if legal action was taken against me since it didn't limit the people taking legal action against me to the hoa as worded the hoa would be forced to pay for my legal fees if anyone took legal action against me they argued that the courts would probably not enforce that since the context of the agreement was to do with the hoa and i told them i was prepared to find out since the hoa would definitely be the ones taking actions against me if they challenged it i eventually signed an addendum to the contract that said that the neighbor oo hoa president would personally pay all my legal fees unless he held no position at all in the hoa and that the hoa would pay all legal fees if the hoa took legal action against me he resigned from the hoa at the end of that meeting i politely told him in front of everyone that he should not sign documents unless he understands what he's signing he didn't look pleased it came out during the mediation you cannot imagine how happy the lawyers were that their paralegal was mediating that without the ability to control access to the hoa neighborhood through the security boom partially on my property the hoa had become a gated community a number of years back the hoa would be in breach of their own articles and would be dissolved i also learned should have been obvious to me that all the security cameras were wired and all terminated in the guard house guard shed so basically it was my way or the end of the hoa that first mediation was really quite funny my paralegal looked more than a little glum as we assembled and he called everyone to order i suspected he had been told to work against me so i took the initiative i reminded everyone there that i had agreed to let paralegal mediate but that i had agreed to no arbitration at all if i didn't feel like the proceedings were fair i'd leave and they could go ahead and sue paralegal brightened up and things actually went quite well i'm writing this after getting home from the latest mediation i built a paddling pool for the neighborhood dogs as in i made it myself i dug a hole packed it with stone and added a concrete finish it was my first attempt and if i say so it looked well terrible the hoa called for a mediation meeting what they do now instead of taking official action i've declined their mediation requests in the past and which they told me as nicely as they could that the paddling pool was an eyesore right at the entrance of the hoa i asked them to create a list of what needed to be fixed and how it needed to be fixed to give to me at the next meeting the list was extensive it basically required the pool to be rebuilt from scratch i asked them if there was any way to reduce costs on the work they needed to get it up to hoa standards and they assured me there was not i thanked them pulled out a copy of the agreement where they had agreed to get the property to hoa standards which i'd highlighted and handed it to them with a list i told them the hoa usually preferred if the things were dealt with within 30 days they started arguing until the mediator reminded them that they could not enforce me to comply without causing the easement to end i should mention that their lawyers usually no longer attend these things they said they would get it done i also learned a lot about neighbor ooh that day i found out that neighbor o.o sold his property about three months back and is apparently leaving the country for australia 2. i found out that the hoa had successfully sued him for a crapload of money they had lost to his mismanagement as part of his vendetta against me 3. i also learned that he had a vendetta against me i have no idea what i did to upset him i'm not sure if i will mess with the hoa anymore i already think i'm so close to breaking them the only thing stopping them from canceling the contract is the massive financial loss if they do i guess a lot depends on how they treat me and my tenants going forward also i do like the monthly payments though so i'm motivated to play nice neighborhoo was right though in the end you really shouldn't sign documents unless you understand what you're signing sorry that offer has expired i'm helping my friends who opened an independent guesthouse before lockdown and managed to hang on till now our rates went down to 70 dollars at one point but now we're back to normal season rates the business really started booming once people started traveling again earlier this year so i'm helping them with bookkeeping and training the front desk people most people we get here are really excited to be out here and totally normal humans who know how hotels work i'm however baffled by the people who are saving our business by demanding we go way below our asking rate yesterday the main front desk employee jane called up to my office jane someone would like to know if they can have a discounted rate if they book for 14 days me okay 90 dollars plus tax i hang up and go back to answering emails phone rings again jane uh she says the room should be thirty dollars can you please come down i went to the front desk to see that jane had clearly been crying and i braced myself for a fight me hi my name is aenon can i help you customer i'd like a discount for the lengthy stay i'm about to book me yes ma'am the rate we offer is 90 plus tax should i go ahead and book you at that rate karen this place is basically a hostel how dare you charge me so much i won't pay that i've worked at scummy places before and i'd have no problem admitting if it did in fact need work but this place is really good at proactive repairs everyone's rooms and bathrooms are private and self-contained so i'm not sure how we're comparable to a hostel we're also lakefront with nice views of the mountains me well the nearest hostel is over an hour away in nelson would you like me to call ahead to see if there are any rooms available is it lakefront no ma'am well what's available on the lake then it's xyz resort shall i call them well what are their rates i'm now just trying to get her to go anywhere else so i call the resort to nelson nothing is ever cheap there it's a tourist town their nightly rate is 220 plus tax and i tell her such okay fine i'll take the room at ninety dollars she begins to rummage in her purse me sorry ma'am that offer isn't available anymore we're only offering the posted rates on our site you just told me that was your rate yes and you declined the room at that price and didn't proceed with the booking so now the rate is our posted rate shall i book you at that rate this went on for a bit but i gave up and gave her the owner's number and told her because of lockdown she couldn't wait in the lobby as she was threatening to sit there till she got a room she left the lobby stomping like a kid i have no idea where this lady ended up booking but i feel so sorry for them edit please stop dming me telling me that i'm a jerk sorry you've had to accept getting yelled at at your jobs but we don't accept these kinds of guests who are demanding to pay a rate we've never advertised hold on did you miss the part where you are in my driveway i live right between a town that has several major roads and a town that once a year hosts a regionally major fair animals tractor pulls smashy cars live music and fried everything etc my road connects the two parallel roads that join the two towns so it's the start of a magical week full of idiots trying to find a non-existent shortcut and dumping their trash at the end of my driveway first day of the fair meaning tomorrow is when i'll find the traditional chinese takeout box filled with trash i'm venting my rage at an old tree stump by my driveway when lo and behold an intrepid middle-aged seeker of the northwest passage sails towards me in a particularly crappy ford ranger idiot hi me still swinging my axe if you're going to the fair this isn't the road you're looking for you should head back guy no one ever tell you you should look at people when you're talking to them me realizing he's one of those types and i take a break nope if you're going to the fair this isn't the road guy okay so how do i get there uh you should probably go back the way you came and get back in line no i was already there i mean more like a shortcut you uh do live here so you know where those are me oh that one yeah you want to turn the other way out of the driveway there'll be another line of cars get into it wait what no i was already there i mean a faster way to get to the fair me look friend there are two exits off this road pick one get in line you'll get to the fair die wow what's your problem you're not very helpful me it's not my job to help you i told you what you need now please leave me alone excuse me i just want some information why can't you just help me me i did or what do you want me to do rearrange a road for you you can't talk to me like that why not i don't know you and i don't want to get out of here what did you just say to me i'm just asking you for help and i told you what you need to know kindly go away i'm what the heck did you just hold on did you miss the part where you are in my driveway i'm not the fair's help desk and i definitely don't owe you any favors go away i don't know if it was what i said the fact that i was slowly losing my temper and still holding an axe or the siren song of flags and bacon-wrapped oreos calling him but that's when the spell broke the idiot proceeded to gawk at me then threw his truck into reverse and went tearing back up my driveway he almost lost it and would have hit the edge of the fence if someone else hadn't taken it out the preceding year something tells me it would have been my fault for leaving a tree somewhere he could have hit it so i almost wish he had clipped something just to see what would have happened next and sure maybe i was a little too hostile at first but expecting good customer service from random strangers is probably a bit much either way i've since acquired a no trespassing sign edit couple folks have recommended getting or replacing the gate the problem with that is that gates block me in too and i don't really care for that also while it wasn't the case at the time there's since been a stand your ground law implemented so future incidents definitely can't have any escalation and while i do understand that they only apply in places where someone is legally permitted to be and this had essentially turned into trespassing i'd rather not take any chances on account of no amount of being right is a win when you're also being hurt garrett never shipped my order so i'm destroying her company in may i entered into an agreement to purchase an antique tapestry for several thousand dollars per the agreement i would pay x amount every 15 days until it was paid at which point the tapestry would be shipped to me i made sure that everything was in writing official invoice tracked electronic payments i made my payments not a penny was late it was paid off at the end of august seller wrote to me confirming that it was paid off and that she would send it out the next day and send me the tracking number a week passed and nothing arrived no tracking number no tapestry every couple of days i would ask for the tracking number and was answered with promises to get it out the next day followed by excuses as to why it hadn't gone out yet i heard everything from getting ready for a grand opening so it was locked in her business partner's house and she didn't have a key at one point she even asked me to drive five hours to meet her to pick it up in person i don't have time for that at the end of september after a month of broken promises and flimsy excuses i requested a refund which she didn't even acknowledge but promised to get it out the next day today a week into october i called my card company and asked for a reversal as i was near the cut off to file a claim for the first payment i filed the invoice and submitted the entire string of conversations my card company agreed that this was a breach of contract and started the process of charge reversal i contacted the seller one final time to tell them that i was done waiting and had requested a reversal from my card company don't send just forget it suddenly i'm getting photos of her right now with it in her car not even boxed up saying she's at ups wants to send it out to me right now and that her company doesn't offer refunds uh sweetie it's not a refund if you never sent me the tapestry that's called theft i held firm and told her that the time to have sent me a photo of it in the car was the day after i paid it off and the last opportunity she had to correct it was when i first asked for the refund i told her i would even refrain from leaving negative feedback as long as i got my money back now her mom is contacting me begging me to reconsider saying they don't have the money to refund that this is a small business one of them lost their job they're the ones who stuck out their necks for me etc not sure how they came to that conclusion since they have both my money and the tapestry they don't have the money and i'll take their business the mom has even gone so far as to say she'll personally pay for it to be overnighted to me i am done i demanded a refund i lived with super heavy furniture moved out from the walls for over a month anticipating delivery and i just had it all put back in place am i the jerk for insisting on a refund at this point well who do you think is the jerk op or the seller please let us know definitely the seller treat your customers like that and you deserve to go out of business entitled sister tries to have me arrested then tries to break in and steal our stuff we come from a big new york italian family my older sister and i are total polar opposites she was boisterous very popular very full of herself and self-obsessed never finishes anything never finished school can't hold a job etc i very small thin tomboyish uncoordinated clumsy very shy bookworm i did not have many friends and usually was wandering alone somewhere or reading i've had a job since i was 13. long story but all ties in as it's only within a few days of it all happening we are both adults and are both married my sister has a son and i'm pregnant with my first child after giving birth we move back to the city my family lives in my older sister is having marital issues and is getting ready to leave her husband my husband and i had a decent sized house that we were renting from my uncle a friend of ours from college was staying in one of the rooms after a discussion we decided to invite my sister and her son who was almost five to move in with us as a live-in nanny we let her know that she would not have to pay any rent or utilities and that she would need to watch my daughter whenever we needed for work she readily agreed my husband and i worked opposite shifts so this was perfect for us we moved her in right away we had her sign a paper agreeing to the whole thing nothing technically legal but just something we can refer to later if needed things went south pretty quickly i will be paraphrasing as this was a long time ago an exact wording won't be possible but pretty spot on firstly let me note that my older sister had gained a substantial amount of weight which made certain areas of her upper torso much larger than before we get up one morning to make coffee our roommate is already up my sister comes out wearing nothing but a very baggy tank top and drawls that were much too small for her my husband spit out his coffee our roommate walked in and immediately walked back out i told my sister to go change she huffed put her hands on her hips and loudly yelled this is my house too i'll dress how i won't i told her to take some pride in herself and go put something on she stomped off like a kid dressed and came back out my husband asked me loudly on purpose so my sister would hear this isn't going to be a problem with her going forward is it i looked dead at her face and said it better not be right she looked at me rolled her eyes and said fine but that just means these idiots pointing at my husband and roommate don't know what they are missing still full of herself fantastic this has only been about two weeks since moving her in the next day our roommate came to us and said that he believed my sister may have taken money from his room he stated that he left a small amount of cash on his nightstand and it was gone now his door was always closed but it was open when he came home my sister unfortunately has stolen cash from me many times when we were kids growing up so i knew it was probably her i went to confront her about it knowing full well she took it again she immediately started off by yelling as loud as she could i did not steal anyone's money you always blame me for this and you never have any proof her son came running around the corner with a fistful of dollars and a big smile is this the money mama the money you said we could go get mcdonald's with i stared at her and then at my nephew she walked over to him took the money from him and told me this is my money i already had this before i moved in the one thing she hadn't noticed was mixed in with us dollars or some mexican pesos our roommate's family lived in tucson arizona his father was a professor at u of a and was of mexican descent they would often go south of the border to visit as they had a very large extended family i quickly snatched the money from my sister's hands i examined the money and when i pulled out the pesos i again stared at her i said and just what did you think you were going to do with these she slammed her fist in the wall and told me to buzz off in italian and stomped off and slammed her door my nephew stood there almost in tears he was scared and upset he and i had a wonderful relationship so i set him down and told him that everything was okay and not to worry i would bring him to mcdonald's and get him the bestest happy meal ever this brightened him up and he went skipping off the next day we started our work week i gave my sister our schedules i went over everything with her as my daughter had been premature there was a little bit of extra care involved she was a few months old now but she was very small and had a severe lactose allergy my sister then mentioned that a friend of hers wanted her to go out and party the next night i told her that she knew she had to watch the baby she knew several weeks ahead of time what my schedule was and had agreed to it she said i never get to go anywhere and now that i'm free of that man i want to go party can't you have that guy who lives here water i said that guy is our friend he's not in town and it's not his job to watch our daughter it's your job you agreed to live here rent free to watch her whenever we need it she rolled her eyes and stated this is ridiculous it's one darn night can't you figure something else out i told her if you would like to pay for a babysitter to come over then fine but if not then you will do as you agreed she said fine everything went fine the first night came home baby asleep sister and nephew asleep note on the fridge from hubby stating all seemed good i go to bed i'm woken up about three hours later to hear kids screaming and laughing i get up go out to the living room to see i have a house full of kids and some of my sister's friends including the one that wanted her to party sitting on the couch and stairs i immediately say what the heck is going on my sister and her friends look up one of the friends says uh oh party police i grabbed my sister's arm and pulled her to the kitchen what the heck is going on here i'm trying to sleep she replies since i cannot leave i invited my friends over to have some fun i'm really irritated at this point your friends need to leave immediately you did not ask if you could bring all these people here and it's a work day slash work night for us have some respect and you know my daughter cannot have a bunch of people around her she's still too vulnerable my sister waves her hand and replies oh give it a rest she's in her crib no one is near her and i need my friends i need to socialize i haven't been able to have fun in years i insisted again that her friends leave now i reminded my sister that no matter what she thinks this is my house she stomps off again and asks everyone to leave i get up to go to work that evening everything seems to be fine my nephew bounces in happy as always thrilled with his happy meal toy we got him the other day my sister brushes past me literally bumping my shoulder i stare again at her she mumbles something under her breath and heads to the kitchen i walk in after her and she turns and stares at me she slams a jar in the counter and immediately starts yelling at me i didn't know i was going to have to watch your dane kid all the time i want to go do my own thing shocked i asked her at what point did she not understand that she would be a live-in nanny to watch the baby whenever we were working she said that's not the point i know what i said but i didn't think he was serious i said fine we'll talk when i get home in the morning from work and figure out where we need to go from here i got my things and left for work two hours later i get a call at work from someone identifying themselves as a police officer they're asking me to come home due to an incident at the house i arrive about 30 minutes later and see three police cruisers lights on several officers milling around my home my older sister standing next to an officer talking and my roommate who appears to have just come back from out of town talking to another officer my husband also is now arriving home from school a police sergeant walks up to me asks my name i let him know who i am he asked me to follow him over to where my sister is while following the officer i noticed a few dozen yards away the friend my sister wanted to go party with parked in her car watching the officer directs me to where my sister is i wander over and immediately my sister starts yelling at me how could you do that how could you just leave her like that what is wrong with you i stand frozen not understanding the situation yet the officer looks at me and asks where i've been i tell him i was at work the officer asks if i make it a habit to leave my infant alone at home while i work it finally dawns on me what's going on i tell the officer absolutely not never my sister here was hired to be our live-in nanny and was to be watching her tonight she watched her last night as well she has the schedule in detail and we have discussed everything at length my sister immediately shouts that's a lie i had no idea you were going to work i was leaving with my friend to go out for the night when i heard the baby cry i had no idea you left her here i figured you guys had gone out for the night our roommate and my husband join us my roommate says he came home to find my sister on the phone with the police accusing me of abandonment my sister's friend was in the house telling her to hurry so they wouldn't miss the drink specials at a local bar my husband goes in the house with an officer shows them our work schedule on the fridge my sister's room and the baby's crib in her room he then shows him the paper we had her sign with all the agreed to info another officer goes over to the car parked down the street and tells the friend to come over the officer starts to question the friend about the phone call my sister immediately starts yelling she has nothing to do with this she was here to pick me up when we both heard the baby crying i tell the officer that this is par for the course with my sister she made all this up my sister again starts screaming at the top of her lungs this is all a lie i don't know what she's telling you but it's a lie i had no idea the baby was here alone and starts to fake cry and just as things seem ridiculous enough my nephew was brought out crying and telling the officer holding him but mommy said it was okay to leave the baby that auntie would be home soon and we were going to go out i started to laugh i almost bent over laughing as my sister reached for her son saying he doesn't know what he's saying my nephew said mommy don't lie you said we were going to go play that was awesome the look on her face and the officers faces were priceless my sister had fabricated this ridiculous story and called the police all so she didn't have to work and could go out drinking the crib was in her room the work schedule and the signed paper plus out of the mouths of babes my nephew telling his mommy not to lie in front of half a dozen police officers i was upset but i was laughing the officers were upset now too realizing the situation i told the officers i wanted my sister off my property she was not on the lease they escorted her in the house had her pack up the few belongings that she came with which wasn't much just clothes hygiene stuff and a few personal knickknacks i walked up to my sister with a signed agreement tore it in half and handed it to her i told her that she was never welcome back and i wanted nothing to do with her ever again she could go with her friend she was escorted off the lawn i told the officers i didn't want to press any charges she had no money and nowhere to go other than her friend that was more than enough the police eventually leave my husband roommate and i go sit in the living room staring at each other we have no words we just sit for a while the next day husband is off at work roommate is sleeping in i take baby to go to a doctor's appointment and the grocery store then to stop at my dad's place for a brief visit i left a note on the fridge letting my roommate know where i was just as i arrive at my dad's he jogs down the hallway and says better go home your roommate just called it takes me about 15 minutes to get home and standing in front of the door is my sister screaming at the top of her lungs with two police officers on either side of her i drive up and get out of my car my sister immediately tries to rush at me screaming at me in italian the officers stop her my roommate comes around the backyard having come out of the back door instead of the front where my sister was i ask what the heck is going on neighbors are now coming out to see what's happening my roommate called the police because my sister tried to kick in the door said that we had all of her electronic equipment in there and that this was her house and we illegally removed her when he wouldn't let her in she began kicking and pounding on the door and screaming at the top of her lungs my husband had a very nice stereo setup with a multi-disc cd player speakers subwoofers tuner several dozen cds etc we had a new large tv with several video game consoles dvd vhs players and a bookshelf full of movies and video games my sister was attempting to break into the house and steal all of it my sister was unhinged at this point she was so incensed that spit was flying away from her mouth when she was screaming how dare you do this to me those are all my things you stole everything from me you are a liar and a thief turning the police on me i will get you for this i'm going to have you evicted i'm calling dad he will have his brother kick you out and you'll be on the street on the street you jerk the police ask us if she's on the lease we tell them no and give them the report from last night it looks at the report nods and says oh this is that place yeah we heard about this is this the same lady that called in the false report last night i tell him yes same person the officer asks if i would like to trespass her i tell him absolutely he turns to her while his partner takes out some papers and starts writing he gives her the spiel regarding the trespass order the officer looks at me and i walk over and quietly say see that car park two houses down yes that one can you issue the driver a trespass order too that is the other person from last night the officer waves over the car they tell my sister if they have one more incident with her she will be under arrest she stomps off down the street to her friend's car literally screaming at the top of her lungs everything you can imagine in english and italian we thank the officers and they take off i talk to my neighbors and apologize for the trouble most of my neighbors are elderly and very understanding a retired navy officer next door says that he will be happy to keep an eye on the house for us when we aren't home i thank him profusely he pats his truck and says your sister is a nut i agreed i head back over to dad's place to visit and go over the last two days events while baby is inside sleeping my dad and i go to his garage to do some work on a project car of his being the only kid of his who knows how to work on cars this is our thing we bust a few knuckles have a couple of drinks and just hang out for a while a couple hours later we hear a car screech to a stop in front of the house he has a very long dirt driveway so the car was still on pavement out jumps my sister red-faced and fuming red she immediately starts stomping down the driveway fists balled up my dad and i are sitting on the edge of the car near the engine hood up staring at her she starts screaming did she tell you she kicked me and your grandson out on the street did she tell you she lied to the police about abandoning her daughter did she tell you that she called the police on me when i tried to get things she stole from me i am the victim here not her i want her evicted from uncle's house i want you to call him now and kick her out she has no right to do this to me no right to be here my dad looks down at me and i shrug she stops about 30 feet in front of us she literally starts jumping up and down i want her kicked out now now now seeing a 25 year old woman jumping up and down screaming like a two-year-old was quite the sight my dad looks at her my dad can look at you and make your bones freeze the look of death my sister immediately stops and says no that was it just no turns around and starts working on the car again i smirked at my sister and raged she starts screaming at me again my dad slowly turns around takes two steps towards her and in a deep loud reverberating voice says kinda means enough you will not behave in this manner you will not talk to your sister until you can be civil go away now you do not ever disobey my dad my sister still red-faced turns around and walks off to the car gets in her friend revs the engine of her very old b-dub sedan screams forget you both and takes off my dad turns around and says well how about some pizza takes another drink and goes back to working on the engine i haven't spoken to my sister since my daughter is now 27. make me stand outside in 104 degree heat i'll stage a revolution this took place during the first summer of lockdown where i live some context for you my town is basically on the edge of nowhere we have a medical center for basic stuff but a full hospital is 30 to 40 minutes in any direction depending on where you choose to go with that in mind we get people from a huge surrounding area that go to our town center for tests simple medical exams etc maybe as many as 50 small communities use our center on a daily basis so it's constantly busy the center itself is quite small compared to hospitals in the city the various clinics and a basic er take up most of the space with an area by the front doors for the public to sit in if they're waiting for a ride or something visiting a doctor it is that waiting area that is the cause for my story today one day during the first summer of lockdown here i had to go to the medical center for tests some things to know about me i'm challenged with multiple disabilities i am legally blind have significant mobility and balance issues and a rather severe heart condition as such i use a walking frame and travel using the city's provided disabled transports that particular day i had finished my tests early and had 45 minutes to wait until my transport was scheduled to return to pick me up i figured no problem i will just sit in the waiting area and well wait i shuffled over to the seats with my walker plainly evident and was confronted by a new sign staff only say what now i looked around at all the empty seats and vacant tables and turned to the clerks at the entrance me can i please have a seat in the waiting area until my transport comes back clerk coldly no it's staff only you need to wait outside me uh i can't stand for 45 minutes waiting for my transport gesturing to my plainly apparent walking frame that i was clearly leaning heavily on clerk not my problem there are benches to sit on outside me the benches are full and we're supposed to be social distancing not cuddling up to random strangers on a park bench clerk if you want i suppose i could let you take a wheelchair out and sit in that me how am i to manage a wheelchair and my walking frame at the same time clerk again not my problem if you want you can call center management when you get home are we done here me i guess we are done huh and went outside to find a spot to wait well i stood outside for the 45 minutes while the sun beat down on what turned out to be 104 degrees fahrenheit day as i stood there i noticed that there was a line of patients growing steadily longer also standing outside in the heat waiting to be led into the building some looked fit but let's face it nobody comes to a medical center because they feel 100 percent most of them looked quite ill and some were looking pretty faint by the time they got through the doors by the time my transport arrived i was badly sunburned thirsty as heck exhausted and feeling more than a bit faint myself my driver was shocked and insisted on walking me to my front door when he got me home to make sure i was okay shout out to all transport drivers you guys rock the rest of the day was a complete loss i spent it drinking water sleeping and nursing the burns on my shoulders and face i was a right mess the next day however i was upset i had plenty of time to recover and to think and i kept coming back to the line of patients standing in the heat the more i thought about it the angrier i got malicious compliance the words the clerk so smugly said you can call center management when you get home if you want dance through my sun-baked brain like a mantra i call center management what followed was a half-hour conversation with the sweetest lady she was so nice and so upset when i told her all about what went on the day before she was especially concerned when she found out about the line of people waiting outside on what turned out to be the hottest day we had that summer after our talk the manager promised to look into it and to get back to me now normally that's sort of a brush off right not so with this lady two days later she called me back turned out she had spent the day before sitting at the clerk's desk observing things that went on things like patients being forced to stand in the rain waiting to get into the center patients being poorly spoken to by the same clerk and the cherry on top at one point a tiny elderly lady tried to sit down in the waiting area and the same clerk ran over and rudely shoved her aside and snapped stuff only with her boss sitting right there the manager went over tore down the signs apologized to the lady and helped her to a seat then took the clerk into her office for a chat the results the center was immediately restructured staff were moved into an unused gift shop the waiting room was returned to the public and best of all the registry desks were removed so patients no longer had to stand outside waiting to get into the building i never saw that clerk there again i know this isn't as exciting as most stories on here but knowing i was part of making things so much better for so many still makes me happy am i the jerk for reminding my husband's friend that i make three times his salary i'm 30 female and my husband who's 32 male has a friend mike who's 36 who fancies himself the wolf of wall street mike got some money when his grandpa passed away 150k and blew it all very quickly in get rich quick schemes as well as trying out day trading he's currently working in a call center while still trying to make it big he has no inheritance money left the issue is that mike is really bad at making financial decisions and so he keeps losing money but that doesn't stop him from repeating over and over that next year he'll make his first million he's been saying this for five years i wouldn't mind his attitude as much except he constantly belittles me and my husband looking down on us for our car when he doesn't even have one or saying that smart people work for themselves as a dig to our jobs he finally made money last week two thousand dollars and he came over for dinner he was on a huge high for making money and was much more arrogant than usual talking about how he was going to buy a really expensive car and wouldn't be caught dead with the car we on he then kept saying i made 2k in 15 minutes nobody else at this table can say that why are you friends with this guy he then proceeded to try to give us financial advice which consisted of him putting down mine and my husband's jobs he makes the same amount as my husband and way less than me i got fed up with his attitude and said mike we didn't make 2k in 15 minutes but i do make 100k a year which is about three times what you make and i never blew 150k so i really don't think you're in a place to advise on finances he stormed out and said i was the jerk my husband thinks i should have been nicer since i know how he is am i the jerk well who do you think is the jerk op or mike please let us know i think the husband's the jerk for not telling mike to shut his am i the jerk for not paying the vet bills after my neighbor's dog ate food i left outside this week i 28 female hosted a family gathering the people there were my sister and her family four in total my brother and his wife my boyfriend and mine and his parents i live relatively out in the country so it's not exactly common for whole properties to be fenced usually it's just fences for animals since it was nice out we ate lunch outside some of the food wasn't immediately brought inside after we ate including some desserts that were mostly chocolate and a bit of fruit i figured the food would probably be fine being left out for a little bit and if not it could just be thrown away the food was covered too after we ate we went down to the small pond that's on my property for a little bit probably half an hour or 45 minutes it has a nice dock and a view of the trees and is a great place to spend some time when we got back up to where the food was left the neighbor's dog was on the table eating the food and had ripped the covers off i got my neighbors and they apologized but asked what the dog had eaten i told them and some of the food was toxic to dogs chocolate grapes etc they started freaking out and rushed their dog to the vet yesterday they contacted me and asked if i would pay the vet bills their dog survived but needed extensive care and it racked up quite a bit in vet bills i offered to pay a quarter of the bills but they wanted all of it because the food she ate was mine i told them if they hadn't let their dog on my property it wouldn't have eaten my food they said that it had accidentally gotten out and they didn't mean to and that i should pay all the bills i then made a remark about how they should pay for the food the dog ate but they weren't amused and got more upset i told them a quarter or nothing and they're still upset about it and want me to pay more i did leave the food out though am i the jerk for not paying the full cost well who do you think is the jerk op or her neighbors please let us know i'm sorry your neighbors are so stupid but i am glad the doggo is okay and please don't pay anything for those vet bills these idiots need to learn to keep their dog off your property karen buys a 900 necklace with my money i'm male 34 and my wife who's 30 her birthday was a couple of weeks ago she was very honest and vocal about what she wanted and it was an sl buckled bracelet i bought it for her and it cost me three hundred dollars using my own account we do not purchase each other's gifts using the joint account since money is tight the gift broke my back but still i wanted her to feel appreciated on her birthday i gave her the bracelet and she was thrilled said she admired it and put it on right away later that night and after the birthday celebration was over i found out that my wife purchased a 900 necklace using my account i asked why she bought herself a gift knowing i already purchased her a gift and asked why she'd used my money she nervously said she wasn't sure that i was going to get her anything for her birthday and so she planned ahead and bought the necklace she said that she used my money because obviously the gift is supposed to come from me i was puzzled as she explained her reasons i was mad 900 was a lot to spend on a gift besides i already bought her a gift so this was unnecessary spending process i told her since i did bring her the gift she wanted then she needed to return the alternative gift she bought for herself she refused and argued that i was being heartless and selfish to make her return her birthday gift i insisted and told her i'd do it myself if she kept refusing she said she will just return the 300 gift but i said no not the 300 gift that i agreed to pay for and she should return the 900 gift i never agreed to let her have she returned it after i pressured her and kept sulking saying i'm a controlling jerk with no regard for her feelings on her birthday she got her sister involved and she ended up calling me a jerk for making money a priority over my wife's happiness it's been two weeks and she's still cold-shouldering me well who do you think is the jerk op or his wife please let us know divorce exists for a reason buddy boy sounds like you got a little more than you bargained for i underestimated my mother i haven't been on reddit lately due to a personal matter with my girlfriend her only remaining grandparent was hospitalized we left town together and drove a couple hundred miles to go and support my girlfriend's family because girlfriend and i have been together for so long i'm rather close to her family her parents often joke that one day i'll be their son-in-law whether i like it or not but while my girlfriend and i were away my mother found out where my sister and future brother-in-law live now i kind of expected that to happen at some point but i figured after saying we were disowned that maybe my mother would leave us alone but evil mama bear will always be evil mama bear won't she while hundreds of miles away from home i got warning from my cousin that visits my mother that she'd found out some time ago where my sister was living by spotting her at the local supermarket and following her car home apparently evil mama bear just didn't say anything to anyone that she knew for a while but let it slip to my cousin that she knew and was giddy about getting her daughter back as she supposedly put it my sister is a creature of habit and tends to go shopping at the same places and times weekly and our mother knows that so her tracking down my sister this way isn't all that surprising but sister never goes out without her fiance future brother-in-law anymore and he told me he's always packing a taser now apparently evil mama bear waited till i wasn't around to make her move she's craftier than i gave her credit for i phoned my sister that i had heard from our cousin that evil mama bear knows where she lives and to be ready and the following day evil mama bear showed up at sis front door with flowers and of all things a holy bible she rang the doorbell several times and sister did not answer so she resorted to crying and banging on the door to make a scene and finally future brother-in-law answered and he had both a wireless camera nearby on a table and a police style body cam that i gave them to record with just in case this happened as soon as future brother-in-law opened the door evil mama bear threw her arms out like she was gonna hug and kiss him only to pull back as soon as she realized my sister wasn't the one to open the door she looked completely stunned to be face to face with future brother-in-law for a moment before finally speaking i'm looking for my daughter please let me see her future brother-in-law i don't think so whatever you want to say you can say from here mom please i have to talk to her now this is all a huge misunderstanding sister emerges from another room what i understand mom is that you are a jerk who hates my fiance demanded i don't have my baby and then tried to attack me then you disowned me saying you no longer have any kids what about that was a misunderstanding mom holds up the bible please i wasn't myself then i've done a lot of soul searching and gone to church i found god come home you can live in my bedroom i'll sleep in the basement i'll even let your boyfriend move back in too total lie my cousin would have told me if she was going to church she can't stand church she'd probably start burning if she stepped into one and from what my cousin also told me she's never once stopped referring to future brother-in-law with rude names sister oh what about how you referred to all of us as rude names and then broke graggles windows with rocks that had more mean names written all over them mom i did what i had to do craggler ruins everything sister craggle didn't ruin anything he just finally opened my eyes to what kind of a person you really are and what person i let you turn me into mother mom don't you mean mommy sis no i mean mother i'm never calling you mummy again mom starts bawling and holding up her bible again but the bible says to honor thy father and thy mother future brother-in-law yeah and it also says not to provoke your kids to wrath i've never read the bible and even i know that have you even read it or did you just buy it along with those flowers on the way here mom but the bible says future brother-in-law not to lie steal commit adultery or bear false witness how many of those are you guilty of huh sister all of them mom throws the flowers and bible onto the ground it's craggle isn't it he's turned you against me everyone is against me said while stamping her foot says craggle didn't do anything to do that it was all you then i kid you not my mother let out a loud noise that sounded a lot like a and then proceeded to lunge at sis but future brother-in-law intercepted her and had her pinned on the floor in seconds pretty easily as she's not very big brother-in-law honey call the police mom you can't do this to me i am your mother you are supposed to love me from there on it was just some repetitive nonsense while future brother-in-law held her down until the police arrived predictably as soon as they showed up evil mama bear started screaming help this jerk is attacking me for just wanting to see my daughter he's brainwashed her do something sis i do not want her near me evil mama bear struggled a bit more and the cops had to restrain her she ended up screaming at them that they were all names too which got her a shiny pair of bracelets and a frog march into a police car the police got a copy of the camera footage and then carted evil mama bear off to jail still waiting to find out how that one is going to go down future brother-in-law has mentioned possibly wanting to go after her for crime because of the names that she used sister threw the flowers into the trash and future brother-in-law dropped the bible that she had brought with her into a church donation bin they said it looked like the kind you'd find in a department bookstore rack anyway i still can't do a lot because i'm not at home but sister and future brother-in-law said they're gonna file for their own restraining order soon respect the schedule kiddo this story took place about two years ago over the span of about two weeks i work in a factory on an assembly line that makes car parts and my boss at the time was stingy about meeting quotas and people respecting the schedule down to the minute let's call him mike now for some setup we'd clock in at 7 00 am work eight hours and clock out at 3 pm breaks included we had to do some paperwork both before we started production and after we ended it mike was up in our faces from day one about needing to be in at least 15 minutes before our shift started so we could clear the paperwork the bus dropped us off at 6 45 am and we need to go to the lockers to change so that was impossible begin production at exactly 7 am and stop 5 minutes before 3 pm so we'd have just enough time to finish ending paperwork but he of course had never done that paperwork himself and either didn't know or didn't care that it actually took closer to 20 minutes now that paperwork was essential if a shift didn't do it they'd get chewed out by quality control and combined with the fact that mike was strict about the quota eight hours just weren't enough to do everything they wanted it was closer to nine hours but i said fine i'll let it slide and started coming to work with my own car just so i could be early and also stay 15 to 20 minutes over to finish up i wasn't reimbursed for gas i wasn't paid overtime for coming early and leaving late but it stopped the near daily arguments with mike so i relented fast forward about six months and me and my team had a solid routine in place everything went smoothly we mostly met the quota the paperwork was always done until one day it wasn't one monday morning my car had trouble starting up and i'd already missed the bus so i called mike to let him know i'd be running a bit late i figured hey he noticed i try my best every day and he had let it slide this one time how wrong i was mike was polite over the phone but he chewed me out the moment i got in i was two minutes late i made it in at 702 next time you're late don't bother coming in i don't need lazy people working here that was just one of the nasty things he said but it's the one i remember the most clearly because it blew me away he used me being late to guilt-trip me into working copious amounts of overtime that week and i accepted just to appease him i wasn't a very confrontational person so i always took the path of least resistance in an argument and long story short the overtime left me so drained that i overslept friday and was late again this time i made it in at 703. i should fire you right now for this i already gave you a warning monday was the first thing he said to me when i came in sorry i was just too tired i foolishly tried to defend myself it won't happen again plus i've been coming in early and leaving late for months can't you cut me some slack for three minutes i didn't ask you to do that he answered which was a lie since he expressly asked us to come in 15 minutes early every day your shift starts exactly at 7am and ends exactly at 3pm not a minute earlier or later got it boss i said all giddy inside the next week i came in at exactly 7 am and left at exactly 3 pm production started at 7 20 and ended at 2 40 so i could do the paperwork that of course affected our quota and it didn't take mike long to notice we argued over that as well obviously but i reminded him of what he said earlier and it actually shut him up he tried to get me to relent and start coming in 15 minutes early and leaving 20 minutes late again but i just laughed and said nope not my problem but this story doesn't end here because of course mike tried to pull more crap with me he tried to get me fired for this but it didn't fly with hr his write-ups just bounced when he sent them further up the command chain but he did notice something that i didn't i clocked in a few seconds after seven we used an electronic log with individual access cards so he passed a new rule that he planned to enforce retroactively only full hours are paid if you clock in or out too late or early the hour gets cut he came to confront me about that the following monday a few minutes after i got in hey exo i noticed that you clocked in too late every day last week so we'll have to cut five hours from your payroll he said with a smug grin this took me a back a bit because i'd never heard of that rule before and i saw others clocking in at the same time as me so i just stared at him in shock he clearly derived pleasure from this thinking he finally bested me i'd have my pay cut for my insolence i also checked and found that you clocked in five seconds too late right now he continued so this hour will also go unpaid i asked yup he said nearly ecstatic by that point awesome i answered with a grin see you at eight i turned and left grabbed a coffee and a sandwich and i waited in the break room mike came after me ten minutes later and finally apologized asking me to return to work so you'll pay me for this hour i asked no you clocked in too late then i'm not obliged to work it i said fine it will be paid now get back to work be relented and the five hours from last week i demanded because if not i'll leave five hours early today to compensate he looked like he was about to lose it but he accepted i got back to work those hours were paid and we returned to our normal routine of me coming in early and leaving a bit late and mike never bothered me for being late a few minutes ever again though it was a rare occurrence for the two years i worked under him until he left i still work there i was late maybe three more times but he couldn't stand my guts and actively avoided me after that point am i the jerk for telling my entire family that my cousin's child free wedding isn't 100 child free i need some insight to see if i'm in the wrong because i really don't feel like i am i 32 female just received an invite to my cousin alex's 30 female wedding it stated on the invite that the wedding was child free i'm not new to child free weddings but what has me frustrated is the fact that there will be kids at the wedding alex plans on having her and her future husband 33 male his nieces and nephews at their wedding i overheard her asking her sister if her niece could be the flower girl at a family get-together this confused me because child free means no kids so i called alex and asked i told her and said that if her nieces and nephews are going then my daughter who's five similar in age to her nieces and nephews should be allowed to go too alex said that only those in the bridal party are the exception and that she wants her nieces and nephews at the wedding when i asked why they could come and not my daughter she said it's because she knows her nieces and nephews are well behaved so there will be no issues she also knows her sister and brother-in-law's parents very well and to top it off she is a teacher who wants a day where she doesn't have to deal with the kids of others she also said she is closer to them i told her that her reasoning was ridiculous because child free means no kids including her nieces and nephews alex told me i was more than welcome to decline the invite so i did i ended up venting to my mother married to alex's dad's brother and while she didn't agree with alex she said she could understand her feelings however my dad didn't like it and called her dad my uncle mitch asking why my daughter could not come mitch told my dad that it is alex's wedding and she can do as she pleases he also said cousins are not the same as nieces and nephews especially since they are in the bridal party my dad said since mitch is paying for it that he should talk alex into allowing kids but he declined and said that he and my aunt don't believe paying for the wedding gives them a say and even if it did he agrees with alex this upset my dad since he then told other family members now several members are upset that alex and her future husbands nieces and nephews will be there but no one else is allowed to bring their kids we have a fairly large family and we all watch each other's kids so finding child care will be difficult most of the families say it's alex's wedding and her reasons make sense but i and some of my cousins are refusing to attend alex doesn't seem to care one way or the other one cousin told alex she was bringing her kid anyway to which alex said make sure you wear sneakers so it's easier on your feet as you're escorted back to your car which is how we found out she's having the security guard from her school checking the guest list and that he knows to not let any kids in am i the jerk well who do you think is the jerk opie or alex please let us know sir you're in the back blast area this happened 20 years ago as i went through basic training in ait for the army in 2001. man writing this makes me feel old the summer of 2001 i graduated high school and enrolled in the army i shipped off two days prior to my 19th birthday i arrived at fort knox kentucky on my birthday and what a pleasant present that was drill sergeants can be malicious compliance animals as they are in the epitome of buy the book and doing what you are told fast forward we are in our brm phase basic rifle marksmanship and after the depressing start of going into heck on my birthday basic training actually started being fun and brm was no exception being raised in a farm i already had the basic concepts down and though i was not a natural i was pretty decent when it came to shooting the pop-up targets qualification day came and with basic training being one big competition between everything from squad members to platoons and even companies the drill sergeant decided to sweeten the pot and give the two top qualifiers the prize of shooting off an at4 think bazooka but smaller we were all excited and did our best several people shot 40 for 40 and they had a shoot off for the top two i only managed 32 out of 40 but was still happy the two winners are declared and we gather around for safety brief and instruction block on how to use these before firing you are told to yell back blast area clear and that tells anyone in the wake of the concussion of the blast that they should move to the left or right so they are out of the danger zone the two winners get their at4 get in position to fire the first guy goes and screams his warning and aims at the old tank 400 yards away big boom men turn into kids and holler and cheer second winner steps up and gets prepared looks back yells his warning and stops a platoon leader had come up and was standing about 20 feet directly behind the soldier getting ready the drill sergeant asks the platoon leader to move to the left or right but he doesn't he walks back about 30 yards or so and nods his head indicating that he's good the drill sergeant doesn't move and yells sir that's not far enough he tells the platoon leader that the effective back blast area of an at4 is 100 yards and he should move the platoon leader did not like being given instructions by an enlisted soldier and since the platoon leader was fresh out of officer training thought he knew everything replies back that he did not need to be retaught what he already had learned and to continue on with the exercise to which the drill sergeant nodded and looked at the soldier and said carry on the soldier now looking very timid and scared is hesitant and pauses the drill sergeant approaches and loud enough for everyone to hear says did you not just hear the lawful order your platoon leader gave you carry on soldier the guy swallows yells back blast area clear one more time checks his rear shrugs aims at the old tank and fires the platoon leader was knocked flat on his back as the concussion wave hit him he got up uneasily and looked up every bit of mucus this apparently sick platoon leader had in his face was oozing out of him by now the drill sergeant gives the all clear nods at the platoon leader and grins platoon leader burns holes in the drill sergeant with his eyes but can barely keep standing as he hobbles over to the medic to get checked out next level version of read the menu couple came in the other day wife was nice husband was a jerk first thing he does when i greet him is toss the menu on the table and angrily point at the brunch section what is this no one can read this look at how tiny this print is what is this huh specials or what sir that's the brunch menu we serve brunch from ten to three on saturdays and sundays so we're on our lunch and dinner menu which is right over here for you gestures to the menu no normal person can read this menu i'm sorry sir we don't have a more accessible physical menu available but if you use these qr codes you can pull it up on your smartphone and magnify it to your comfort level no i should not have to do that tell me what are your recommendations gives recommendations with great detail no i do not want those they sound messy and i don't like that kind of food i give different recommendations with great detail no i don't want it so what kind of food were you in the mood for i want fish or something i give fish recommendations in great detail at this point i basically read the entire menu to them as we don't have a large amount of items give me some time i'll look at the menu on my phone i come back a few minutes later to see him seething angrily at his phone i ask if he has any more questions he asks about several dishes until we've gone through the entire menu at this point i already let my managers know about the situation i had time because we weren't busy so i tried helping the man find something he'd like with some modifications again we've gone through the entire menu together i basically read the whole darn thing to him like a bedtime story i want a rib eye medium rare with vegetables sir we do not carry steaks do you have filet mignon or something sir as i said we do not carry steaks really he gives a stink face and that stupid squinty grin that jerky entitled customers always make sir we've gone through the whole menu then i want mahi-mahi so you want our mahi-mahi tacos no i want a full mahi-mahi with potatoes or something i can offer you our salmon it comes on a bed of butternut squash puree and grilled brussels sprouts corn asparagus and fingerling tomatoes makes the stupid squinty grin of contempt again you can get salmon anywhere i don't want that okay well then i'm not sure what i can do for you just get me the mahi-mahi tacos those come breaded we can make them grilled for you if you'd like no just have them come normally long story cut short he said he liked the tacos as he was eating them then when he was done eating all of them he told me that they were so disgusting he wouldn't feed them to his dog he says he hates breaded fish weird because i told him that it was breaded and offered an alternative i asked him why he said they were good earlier and he said he's not a liar and he's not trying to get anything for free and i said yup you're not getting it for free regardless you ate it tip 10 wish i'd seen it before he left so i could have scribbled out the tip in front of him i don't need your money forget you illiterate jerk influencer gets mad when we say no tries to ruin us and it backfires this happened three years ago before lockdown and you need to know a few things first our sanctuary was only two years old at the time it is out in the country not too far from town but far enough that the town is no bother to us now at this time jax actually went viral for a few weeks basic viral video we had an animal that did something cute with jax that was caught on camera upload to the sanctuary twitter and boom viral so our sanctuary raises in popularity jax even got a bunch of fan girls can't blame them cute guy plus cute animals hard not to love anyways this resulted in a lot of influencers contacting us looking to work with us now not all were bad some actually wanted to help but some were just plain crazy like this one we will call her ella fake name ella originally contacted us through an email asking to meet in person after some checking we agreed this is how the meeting went ella comes into our office jax hey how can i help you side note jax was in his sanctuary uniform because the guy literally never takes it off ella i'm here to talk to the owner just to note ella seemed to be turning her nose up to jax jax that would be me you must be ella yeah she seemed mad that jax didn't immediately recognize her jax well let's go back into the meeting room ella follows jax and i back jax so i was told you want to help out the sanctuary yeah i have an offer that benefits you both okay let's hear it well i'm getting married and i would like to take my wedding photos here posing with some of the animals jax huh ella as you likely already know from my channel i'm an animal lover and i think this would be a great place for my wedding photos jax i'm sorry but no we can't do that i do not allow people in the sanctuary with the animals it stresses them out it wouldn't be a lot of us just me and my fiance and my bridesmaids my two kids and the cameraman jax i'm sorry but the answer is still no we won't be long a few hours at the most no i'm sorry this is ridiculous i am trying to help you jax by stressing out my animals yeah sure you know who i am right jax no i don't actually one of a million wannabe celebrities i'm guessing forget you you're going to regret this one video i can have hundreds of thousands of loyal fans after you jax oh i'm so scared i think you need to leave you she leaves two days later she actually posted a video and the best part she literally told the story word for word what happened she didn't change anything to make herself look better just the complete truth like she actually thought she was right in this situation well her fans weren't happy and started calling her out as entitled and full of herself for wanting to risk the safety of the animals and thinking she was more important she lost a few thousand followers and was called out on a few lesser-known drama channels she issued an apology but was also called out for that because people thought she made too many excuses throughout it she has kids and wanted them in the photos too forgot to mention this people keep asking for names this is why it's not going to happen one it's against the rules two as i said we get a lot of influencers some we do and don't work with i will not be revealing any names as i don't want to risk bringing trouble to the sanctuary people will sue over anything nowadays am i the jerk for not giving up my man cave to accommodate my mother-in-law my wife and i got married four years ago she had two kids from a previous relationship now eight and ten that she has full custody of their dad is not much of a figure in their lives i inherited my parents house when they passed about a decade ago and since my wife and her kids were living in an apartment we decided it would be easiest if they moved into my house after we got married the kids now have their own rooms there's a yard for them to play in we got a dog it's been really nice about a year ago my wife's dad got sick and passed it's been hard on a lot of her family members but especially her mom a few months ago my wife brought up the idea of having her mom move in with us so that she wouldn't be alone i was very hesitant since her mom has her own health issues and adding another adult to the house changes the dynamics of the household completely after a lot of discussion and pressure from my wife i finally opened up to the idea but there are still roadblocks the biggest being that we do not have a spare bedroom for mother-in-law my wife's idea is to make the basement a kind of mother-in-law suite however i've spent the last decade turning the basement into my man cave think bar pool table poker table big screen tvs etc i did a lot of the work myself and i'm pretty proud of it i told my wife that it's pretty much a non-starter for me to give up that space as it's something i've been working on for a long time since before i even met her my solution is to have the kids go back to sharing a room and mother-in-law gets the other bedroom my wife said that her kids have gotten used to having their own space and she won't force them to give that up i asked her why it's okay for me to have to give up my space but not anyone else i told her i'm the one who is gaining nothing from having mother-in-law moving in mother-in-law would get to be around family my wife gets her mom close kids get their grandma and i would have to give up something that i worked long and hard for doesn't exactly sound like a sweet deal for me she called me a selfish jerk and told me that i'm being ridiculous and stubborn she told me that this is now her house too and she's not going to make her kids sacrifice their space when we have a perfectly good space that mother-in-law could use i told her that the basement is the one place in the house that i do not want changed under any circumstances no exceptions we've been fighting about this for weeks with neither of us willing to budge my wife is getting more and more hostile towards me and our relationship is suffering do i just need to bite the bullet and give up my space i think i'm already giving up a lot by allowing mother-in-law to move in with us but am i being a jerk about this well who do you think is the jerk op or his wife please let us know if i tried to get reddit boy to do something like this my entitled butt would be out on the street you got that right my niece has been getting paid to spy on me i broke up with my ex after i found out i was pregnant because of how he behaved when i told him i was living with him at the time so i moved in with my brother and his family until i could find my own place my pregnancy has been extremely rough and my ex wouldn't leave me alone so my sister-in-law insisted i stay with them for the duration of my pregnancy so that they could make sure i was okay my brother has a 15 year old daughter called amelia we're very close since i used to babysit her all the time when she was younger my sister-in-law found out that amelia has been sending my ex information about me since i moved in with them when i asked amelia why she would do something like that she started crying and said she did it because she overheard me telling her parents that i miss my ex and that when he first asked for her help he said the same thing to her and that he was just worried about me and the baby so she thought she was helping us my brother was upset and yelled at her for what she did and made sure she showed us her phone to see what she had sent to him from the messages we found out that she was giving him information pictures and videos of me in exchange for money my brother ended up making her give me all of the money she made from spying on me and grounded her a few days later it was just me and her home she came up to me and begged me to give her the money back because she was saving to take these expensive art classes that her parents couldn't afford she kept saying she was sorry and that she didn't do any of this to hurt me i ended up telling her i wouldn't give her the money back which made her cry again i did confront my ex about it but he was not apologetic at all and told me i should have let her keep the money since she was just a kid and this was all of his doing not hers he also said he wouldn't have had to resort to this if i had just spoken to him myself like an adult am i the jerk a wild karen gets banned from a hardware store and i get free food this happened on australia a while ago this occurred just before our first lockdown and there were mandatory requirements when shopping at retail stores for context in high school and all throughout university college for you americans i worked at a mom and pop hardware store so i know my way around hardware please note that in our big box hardware stores there isn't much customer service most staff are there to check on stock levels stock shelves and attend the cash register the old war horses staff are always occupied helping people but they are in short supply so it's a saturday and i need some plumbing supplies i'm in one of the most intimidating aisles for a lot of people it's got all the copper tap and toilet fittings i've got all the items i need and i've been there a good 20 minutes i can see an older gentleman struggling and trying to work out what he needs i catch his eye and he waves me over enthusiastically i grab what he needs for a leaky cistern and instruct him on how to install it he thanks me and he leaves as i'm about to leave another old gentleman waves at me and asks me for help i show him a direct replacement for his tap washes but then proceed to show him a ceramic fitting that basically makes sure he never has to replace washes again he balks at the price but i convince him to get it once a salesman always a salesman plus he gets a senior discount as i'm about to leave with a gentleman a wild karen appears from behind me silent as a mouse but mousy she is not she's dumpy she's middle-aged big bushy brown hair and face that's caked in makeup screeching at me oi you i want these items as i turn she shoves a list in my face now if she had smiled at me and asked politely i would have been happy to help her but forget that noise i smile and politely decline sorry i don't work here indicating my clothes i've got a blue singlet on blue cargo shorts pockets full with plumbing products staff wear red and green so i turn and proceed to leave karen reaches out her claw-like hand and tries to turn me towards her but i slip out of her grasp you helped him indicating the old fella's still standing next to me you work here don't lie to me she screams ma'am i don't work here i attempt my best withering gays i'll let the counter know you need help and they will send someone along i make a hasty retreat with the old gentleman karen's hot on my tail screaming at the top of her lungs calling me some really inappropriate names and saying that i'm a jerk besides other things i've ignored her and i think this has infuriated her even more she tried a couple of times to get a hold of me but i've struggled it off once of which she loses her footing and trips this enables me to get the heck out of dodge i can hear her lumbering along on my heels screeching like a velociraptor a member of staff let's call her s intercepts karen and asks her to stop screaming karen points to me and starts ranting about me calling me names making up a story about me being rude and assaulting her clearly as soon as she says assault the situation has now escalated and she's in for a very big surprise s turns to me and rolls her eyes she knows this is going to be a long one i do too i turn to the old gentleman and tell him to get in line because this is going to be a while he tells me it's fine i'll need a witness my heart bursts a little so security gets called i have a quick conversation with a manager and relay the events that have unfolded the old man relays the same thing i also indicate that there are multiple security cameras around the place i asked the manager if she can remind karen that there are multiple security cameras around police get called anyways and unlucky for her no time to recant there is already a patrol car in the parking lot they just had lunch they isolate us me the old fellow and karen and do a quick interview so i'm chilling in the office 60ish minutes officers come in and have reviewed the tapes and ask if i want to press any charges i declined and they let me go manager is waiting for me and walks me to the checkout lets me know karen is getting a lifetime ban didn't know they even did that i pay for my plumbing supplies with a trade discount as i'm walking to the exit i see old fellas sitting on the bench he gets up and asks me if i want a sausage we have a good laugh over sausage with onions and a coke i offer to come over and fit the tap washes for him and we organize a time for tomorrow morning for me to drop by he actually only lives the street away from me as i'm getting in my car karen emerges with the cops and the manager she looks distressed at least she's not in cuffs i know she's not got many options so i drive by as she's talking to someone on the phone and wind down my window hey see across the road the sign that says the name of the store they're a trade plumbing supply store if you go there and don't be a jerk they will have everything on your list yes sir about 15 years ago i was in the army and i had what we'll call a very unique skill set there were several people in my unit with that specific skill set but for some odd reason all of the hot 20 to 26 year old ladies got monday through thursday shifts and had friday saturday and sunday off while guys like me got thursday through monday night shift despite having seniority over some of the ladies in both rank and time on mission to make things worse administrative staff like our commanding officer and platoon sergeant bosses worked monday through friday and weren't willing to budge on us being active during their work hours this meant that quarterly training like power points we had to watch for harassment typically occurred both on my day off and in the middle of my sleep time given that i worked 16 hour shifts and the round trip to base was an hour i was perpetually sleep deprived even if i got off of work on time and went straight home i could get optimistically six hours of sleep per day between driving eating and showering this went on for years over my objections i literally went nearly two years without a day off concurrently with my wife a day worker interestingly the army did a study demonstrating that after around 18 hours of consciousness you make the same number of stupid and careless mistakes as if you were legally intoxicated sadly no one told my platoon sergeant aka my boss he decided that sleep deprivation didn't matter in fact one day when i was transitioning from a junior enlisted technically a specialist but if you're not familiar with army ranks think private to an nco sergeant my platoon sergeant decided i needed some nco responsibilities reasonable we were having a range day we had to qualify annually and we needed a duty driver to shuttle soldiers back and forth from the barracks i was voluntold suffice it to say that i was on loan to a certain agency and i needed to put in an ops release to miss work it was rejected due to staffing issues at the time there was no one else available that could do a certain thing that i could do i told my platoon sergeant and he informed me that the ops release was a courtesy i was going and it would only take eight to ten hours but sergeant i tried to explain i worked 16 hours straight leading up to the start of this driving and i'd have to work another 14 straight hours at the end of it on top of that as driver i'd be driving soldiers down winding roads i'm not familiar with and a van bigger than anything i've ever driven before while half asleep then at the end of what would be a 40 hour shift i'd need to drive 30 minutes to get home does that seem safe safe specialist do you think the soldiers overseas are safe right now as i said about 15 years ago well no but at least they're getting hazard pay you're dismissed specialist so i mean what could i do i only fell asleep twice while driving and both times were at stoplights i also made every single passenger aware of my sleep situation keep in mind i was already sleep deprived coming into this so they made sure to chat with me bring me coffee and do other things that decreased their chances of getting hurt that day around hour 38 of this around 40 hour shift an important person swung by my place of duty to check on something i was literally standing up leaning against a cubicle eyes basically asleep with four empty quad coffees if starbucks had a size above venti it would be quad sitting on my desk per tradition there was an nco with the officer i got chewed out backwards forwards sideways upside down and in dimensions i was not hither too aware of by military protocol the nco beside the angry officer did the chewing out he threatened me with the actual dereliction of duty charges as well this ended with now explain to me specialist why on god's green earth you think it's okay to sleep on duty so i explained to him that i was literally semi-conscious on my feet i drunk so much coffee i'd started having heart palpitations and decided to stop and that it was hour 38 on duty and i was simply at my limits i cannot stress enough that important people cared about what i was doing a lot really important people at this point the officer stepped in you've been doing this for 38 straight hours so i explained to her how i had to drive a van around during my sleep time and this important mission had informed my unit that i was irreplaceable but my unit decided it was crucial that specifically the guy with the irreplaceable skill set who was working shift be the duty driver that day i further explained how this wasn't that uncommon i couldn't even remember the last time i had a week where i was allowed to sleep during my sleep time for the entire week uninterrupted the number of silly things that i had to do instead of sleeping was mind-boggling who is your commissioning officer i tried not to smile and told her carry on specialist needless to say by lunchtime aka the equivalent of maybe 1am for me i got a phone call report to the placoon sergeant's office right now i sighed to say that i was sleepy was something of an understatement and keep in mind i got home around 8 am and had to work again around 4 pm the round trip to base alone would take an hour plus i had to get dressed be presentable and deal with their nonsense then undressed again afterwards then dressed again and drive back please explain to me why the command sergeant major just chewed me out over our in-house scheduling decisions so i told him what happened you told them that should i have lied to my mission commander about my level of readiness sergeant he turned red like santa's cheeks not a norse berserker no berserker-like traits at all nope i took a totally professional step backwards he was about six foot two and 250 pounds of nco and uh i felt like i was hogging all of his oxygen get out so i did it came down from on high that our unit was to have two quarterly training days henceforth no more waking us shift workers up one to two times per week every week for administrative crap period all missions were informed that our soldiers would be doing one of the two training days pick one happy ending right yeah that's never how it works in the military when you get someone above you in trouble what's the nastiest stupidest duty you can imagine giving someone that was stateside in a strategic unit the urinalysis guy for those of you that don't know it's his duty to plan and execute your analysis this requires literally monitoring your fellow soldiers because there's a variety of products that can fool your analysis and the only way to you know what just trust me it's nasty fortunately there was a loophole you see the powers that be are aware of the good ol boys system that develop sometimes in the army and it's really really important that the guys with weapons aren't on anything as a result her regs as they existed at that time and maybe even now if the urinalysis guy calls it your analysis it takes a full bird kernel to cancel it that's one step down from a general that's right when the urinalysis guide decides it's time for the monthly year analysis wake up get in uniform drive to where he says it's happening and god help you if you've got alcohol or something in your system to make matters worse for them a friend of mine let's call him kroger had been punished for having alcohol in his system during one of their analysis it was on his day off because he was a shift worker and it was during hours that were duty hours to the day workers but off duty for us i had about a year left no intention of re-enlisting and my unit had already been slapped down by angry people for messing with me let's do this malicious compliance time imagine this it's 11 p.m on a friday on a long weekend long for them not me you see shift workers didn't get holidays off unless we took leave and i needed mine for family time like thanksgiving and christmas because without it i'd have been working every single holiday the mission must go on after all now anyone that's ever seen an army movie knows that joe's like booze and anyone that's ever had to deal with the urinalysis knows that they can detect alcohol mind you being at your analysis guy is a big deal you're on legal orders and everything entered into big army's database between the time i began the formal process of calling a year analysis and the time i would have had them coming in around 3am on their days off since they'd established the precedent that soldiers don't get pays off whenever we complain about losing sleep to stuff like this my orders vanished to this day i don't know how they did it i suspect that our co or some other bigwigs were at a party or something and realized that they were about to have to explain to a full bird colonel how half of their unit popped hot on a urinalysis which would have required legally required that colonel having a one-on-one chat with me about why i chose that time and perhaps a discussion about how the unit was being run yeah they never gave me another duty the entire time i had left in the army i never had issue with another leave request and they generally just left me alone at the time i thought it was because i'd made my point that i was sick of their crap but looking back i wonder who would have come up positive for what specific things during that surprise year analysis such that they were able to rescind my big army orders in less than one day and in the middle of the night at that neighbor thinks he's entitled to take our fence down i rent a house with my sister and brother-in-law as well as my hubby and kids at the time of this i only had the one kid and it's only my sister and i in this story the neighbor isn't so much of a neighbor but a guy who bought the house next door tore it down and built two of those skinny houses i can't remember what they're called property investors developers i have no idea it was summer so my sister and i were out in our backyard with my daughter playing around when this guy pops his head over the fence and asks if we can talk i don't like talking to people so my sister went up to him to see what was up guy hey i'm so-and-so do you live here sister yes we do great i own these two houses next door and i'm trying to get them ready to put on the market i have guys coming to build a fence and i was hoping you'd be okay with me having them rebuild this side of your fence as well i'll cover the costs of everything sister that sounds great but unfortunately we don't own the place we rent so you'll have to call my landlord i can give you his info guy looking slightly frustrated okay my sister gives him our landlord's number and he leaves we send off a quick text to our landlord to let him know what happened and that someone would be calling him about the fence landlord was game as he didn't have to pay for anything but had a feeling the guy would want to change the fence style so definitely wanted to talk to him about it a little over a week later it was morning i let my dogs out and went to make my daughter breakfast i was about to start when the doorbell rang there was a guy dressed in construction gear i opened the door before i can say hello he goes instruction dude you need to get your dogs inside me and why is that construction dude because we're here to take the fence down and we can't do that with the dogs out there me oh sorry i didn't realize everything had been all sorted out no one notified me yeah i'll get them in i closed the door and as i'm about to head to the back door a thought crosses my mind that maybe i should confirm everything with my landlord well good thing i did because he had not received one call from anyone about the fans not even a missed call from a number he didn't recognize nothing at this point my sister was awake and i had continued to leave my dogs outside my landlord suggested for the supervisor and asking him to have the guy who hired him call my landlord i forgot to mention totally important though my landlord owns the whole fins even though it's technically a shared fence he's the one who owns it completely they need my landlord's permission to take it down or face destruction of property charges i don't even have a chance to finish writing my landlord's number down before there's another knock on my door my sister answers this time construction dude you need to get the dogs inside sister you need permission to be here my landlord just informed us that he had no idea anyone was coming to take the fence down today or any day which is pretty concerning since he's the one that owns the fence construction dude i don't know anything about the sister i get that that's why i need to talk to the supervisor i can give him landlord's number and we can get all of this cleared up my sister then goes to talk to the supervisor i stayed inside with my daughter dog's still outside my sister comes back and says the supervisor was going to call the guy who owns the houses to get him to call our landlord about 20 minutes go by when construction dude comes back everything has been cleared up could you get the dogs in now sister yes we can thank you i let the dogs in and my sister and i go about our day i should have called my landlord to confirm a second time about an hour later i get a text from my landlord landlord hey no one's called me yet are the contraction guys still there when i tell you my heart was in my stomach and throat all at the same time i quickly call him me oh my gosh you need to get down here i'm so sorry the construction dude came to the door and said they worked everything out with you and were given the go-ahead to start working i should have called you again but i didn't even think i'm so sorry so sorry landlord whoa whoa it's okay it's not your fault you shouldn't even have to be dealing with any of this the guy should have called me as soon as you said you didn't own the place can you do me a favor though go see how much of the fence they tore down and take pictures please me yeah i can do that landlord awesome send them to me as soon as you have the pictures i'm on my way i then go out back to have a smoke and pretend i'm playing on my phone while getting pictures they had already taken down the majority of the fence and the only parts left was the frame about halfway down i sent the pictures off to my landlord then went inside to wait till he got there now reader if you haven't already figured out my landlord is a super calm guy he knows his laws and knew this was going to go his way no matter how it played out when he got to the house he walked up to the supervisor with a smile on his face everything that follows was told to me by landlord after he was done talking i'm trying to remember this as best i can so landlord went to the supervisor landlord hey i'm c i own this house here and this happens to be my fence you're currently tearing apart supervisor eyes go a bit wide oh we had permission to landlord no you had permission from no one no one with the authority to give you permission anyway i also know for a fact my tenant told you that you needed to have your client call me supervisor i called him and he said he didn't need to do that and that everything was good to go he's already had your permission landlord then i suggest you call him up for me please supervisor calls the guy and explains that my landlord was there and wanted to talk to him landlord hey there it's c i'm the guy that owns the house that you're currently destroying the fence off i'm just wondering why you thought you had permission to tear apart my fins guy oh i didn't realize the house was owned by someone else the girl i talked to said i could go ahead and replace the fence landlord laughs no no she didn't she told you that she didn't own the place and you needed to call me even gave you my number guy now that's not true landlord don't just don't i trust my tenants more than i trust you so stop with this and instead let's talk about the fence i want my fence back the way it was guy i was of course going to put the fence back i was going to change the style a bit is that all right landlord no it's not had you called me you and i could have worked out a new style of fins all i would have asked is that you at least look similar to the rest of my fins now if you want a new fence you can pay to have my whole fence replaced to look the same guy okay i'll have the fence redone the way it was landlord sounds great also don't forget the nice side faces me we all then had a good laugh about how everything played out before leaving my landlord asked if we needed them to do anything to make all this easier on us since we were the ones living here we asked that he have them bring in a temporary fence so that we could still let the dogs out landlords said he would make sure they brought one in at the expense of the guy of course you may think this is the end but it's not a temporary fence was brought in essentially these huge metal panels held together by a metal connector at the bottom in zip ties we didn't care it worked they built the fence but they left a huge gap between the sidewalk and the backyard and the fence about a foot deep and wide enough that i could fit my whole leg in it no problem they also left the temporary fence for two weeks until my dad took it apart and heaved it over the fence also my front gate had to be taken apart and instead of building it the way it was originally it was connected to fence went as wide as sidewalk but then another little bit of fence was built to connect it to the house instead they built me a barn door instead of a gate so heavy that it leans so i have to lift it every time i go to open it or else it's hard to get it unlocked i also don't have sidewalk where the new lock was it dipped down into a rock bed where i would be too short to even reach the lock called my landlord and he had the guy have the workers come back twice once to pack the gap they left behind and then the second time so they could add paving stones to the rock bed so that i could reach the lock again this was all done on the guy's dime and when he tried to complain about it my landlord reminded him that this could have gone a whole other way and be costing him a lot more money also that he could make him have them rebuild the gate to the original instead of just fixing the problems they created hope you guys enjoyed am i the jerk for telling my boyfriend i don't want to spend time with his family i went to meet my boyfriend's family for the first time and it was a weird vibe first his brother who was in a similar field of work started quizzing me on my work like it was a job interview i ended up joking that i don't talk shop unless i'm getting paid for it after that went on for a while he asked me kind of rudely if i just got into that field to meet a wealthy man my boyfriend and his family are wealthy so i said that i was in it to out earn the wealthy man another joke or half joke at least i like my financial independence next his cousins asked me if i was a workaholic like some ex of some guy in the family who was never home and never did her household chores i said nah i'm out of work at five on the dot i care a lot about a good work-life balance then they were saying i was such a millennial which i don't know what they even meant by that there was more but overall it felt like a job interview or an interrogation rather than a social event it felt like i was being asked questions and set up to be judged i left early after a conversation with his mom who was asking me about my homemaking skills and not really liking my answers that my boyfriend is the better cook and before i met him i was eating too much take out but he's teaching me how to cook his mom made a comment about how in her day the ladies brought something special to the table i kinda tried to play it off as a joke saying that i bring him beer but it really didn't land anyway i headed out early and he stayed that night but as soon as he left too he wanted to talk about why i had dipped super early i said i felt like i was being interviewed for a job of being a good wifey instead of just meeting people socially and i feel like that's not something i enjoy i like hanging out with people who are chill and accepting he said he felt like they were just being protective and trying to make sure he was ending up with a good partner and they meant well and they are like that whenever a new partner gets introduced but they warm up to people quick that every lady in the family had been questioned a bit and bond over it later on i said i already know i'm a catch and honestly they were disrespecting us both me by making judgy comments and him by not trusting him to pick a good partner himself i said that i didn't feel like going for thanksgiving or christmas anymore unless some people apologize and agree to not do this weird hazing stuff again he said that he felt like i was being unreasonable i should give them another chance at thanksgiving i feel like he's being insensitive and pushing me to go somewhere i'm not respected again am i the jerk for telling my boyfriend i don't want to go to his family's holiday after they met me and it felt like they questioned my worth for hours am i the jerk for refusing to help save my mother's house that my dad and stepmom kicked me out of my dad stepmom stepbrother and i were living in the house my mother originally owned i moved out after my stepbrother took the box that had all of his mother's jewelry out of his mother's closet and concealed it inside my closet i had no idea about it until my stepmom walked into my room and asked me one more time if i still insisted on not letting my stepbrother share the car my dad gave me i said no and she said okay then then casually walked to my closet opened it pulled out her jewelry box and started yelling i freaked out asking or what was going on dad came into the room and she started crying claiming i stole her entire jewelry box and was planning to sell it i was stunned i swore i didn't steal anything yet my dad didn't believe me my stepmom demanded i get out of the house and i had to leave because of the pressure my stepbrother admitted to putting the box inside my closet and bragged about it i lived with my uncle for seven years i missed my room backyard and my mother's memories in that house my stepbrother took over everything my dad didn't attempt to connect for years and kept calling me thief until recently when i visited my uncles and he happened to be there he looked thin and exhausted he said he found out my stepmom set me up and apologized for not believing me then he said he forgave her and hoped i'd forgive him because he won't forgive himself if i don't he then talked about having debts and needing money to pay off debts or he'd lose the house and ask to borrow money from me i got quiet then i asked why can't they sell the jewelry they accused me of stealing the car he took back heck where's my stepbrother when they need him my dad shook his head and asked if my mom would want for me to see him homeless with no help or worse see the house she built and her memories there go to waste i said i won't pay after they kicked me out of my mother's house because stepmom didn't want me there you must be wondering where my stepbrother is now he's passed on he moved to another town became a police officer for four years he conned people out of their money in houses he robbed people blind took possession of their legal documents and falsified them to his own benefits he passed suddenly at the age of 33 so he didn't enjoy his ill-gotten gains for long my dad and uncle agreed that by paying i'm saving my mother's house but it's no longer her house after my stepmom turned it into a shrine for her son who she calls a hero and used my room as storage for his things when i walked in for the first time after years i felt nothing the connection is no longer there i still refused to pay and we had an argument then i left my uncle is saying i'm making a mistake by thinking irrationally and in a spiteful manner and should consider that my dad and stepmom are helpless sick grieving and need help am i the jerk karen waitrish chases us down claiming the 50 tip we left was not good enough last night my husband and i went out to a very nice dinner at a steakhouse the total was like 150 dollars for the two of us and we didn't even get dessert we both preferred to tip cash so we used a card to pay for the meal rounded to the nearest dollar for the tip there and then left a 50 bill on the table the restaurant did close at 10 pm and it was just after 10 10 when we got outside we both thought the 50 was enough of a tip but the waitress disagreed she followed us outside and got very upset that we stiffed her at first we thought she had only seen the card slip so we explained that we'd left cash on the table she scoffed at us and said that she knows that but 30 percent isn't high enough this is a very nice neighborhood so she likely did often get higher tips but we weren't too thrilled with our service we had to wait for refills even though there were only a few people maybe like 10 in the restaurant the food also took forever to come out we'd have been gone before closing and had time for dessert but the food came very slowly she was demanding a higher tip so my husband pulled out a hundred and asked for the 50 back she clearly thought she was going to get the hundred so she gave it back my husband put them both in his wallet and we got into the car and drove away i know servers depend on their tips to survive as they get paid rubbish were we the jerks here for taking the tip back my husband and i are conflicted on this well who do you think is the jerk op or the waitress please let us know hold on karen is a waitress my brain's starting to hurt got forty thousand dollars for accidentally confiding a secret to a gossiping co-worker i worked at a chain salon in the us for minimum wage plus tips we got paid on a sliding scale the more you added services the more your hourly pay then for back to school we started offering 10 haircuts it's dumb to offer a big discount on back to school because that's when everyone needs a haircut but whatever except to advertise this sale we had to stand on a rickety step stool and hang a ten foot long three foot wide banner off the roof of our store the staff stool alone made it a dangerous task but on top of it the sidewalk was uneven our manager insisted we do twice a day open and close in case someone steals the banner because certainly someone would want to steal a banner with a logo that says 10 haircuts it was annoying but i was looking forward to my next paycheck i had a high service dollar per hour which should have meant a bigger hourly pay and paycheck except it didn't that seven dollar haircut discount it was coming out of our final service dollar calculations and we ended up making significantly less than usual i'd worked there for years and this was the smallest back-to-school paycheck i'd ever seen i went in the next day and was upset that morning a co-worker who was a total brown nose and gossip and i were outside setting up the banner it was my turn to stand on the rickety step stool and i said i was glad this will be the last time i ever do this i was fully prepared to make a joke about how i was going to fall and hurt myself when the petty revenge idea came into my mind and i swiftly executed it when she asked why i told her not to tell anyone but i'd accepted a job at another salon with a set schedule higher commission and five dollars more an hour i said i'd planned on putting in my two weeks but they needed me to start sooner so i was going to work the weekend and not come back this would leave us understaffed for the back-to-school rush after reiterating she could not tell anyone especially not our boss she agreed i left early that day and on my next shift my boss pulled me into her office she said she had heard a rumor that i was leaving to work at a different salon i told her i had a much better offer elsewhere but if she could match it then i would love to stay she had to put a call into our district leader about the raise but said i could work with a set schedule starting the following week i was working until 9 00 pm some days and at 9 00 am the next the unpredictable schedule made finding child care a pain in the butt i was consistently ranked number two in sales for our store and the district so the dl approved the raise and i stayed there another five years which means i got an additional thirty nine thousand dollars and pay for accidentally telling the salon gossip my secret i also got 20 commission on the 500 to 1 000 a week in product sales the pro revenge i also started printing out my service sales slips from the day before at the beginning of every shift so that when payroll readjusted the paychecks to include coupons i could pull out my record and dispute it according to payroll there was nothing they could do about it i stayed another five years raising the issue sporadically until they brought back the 10 haircut sale and i quit a few months after i left i was made aware that a different employee in another state filed a class-action lawsuit and i got a letter asking if i wanted to be part of it i accepted and the lawyer loved receiving five years worth of documentation emails from corporate and payroll etc they had to go back through all of my paychecks and compensate me for the difference this included adding the free haircuts rewards program and discounted haircuts as their whole amount increasing the service dollar 19 cents an hour here and 30 cents an hour there added up and despite the fact that the settlement was split with a lot of people i got ten thousand dollars from that in addition to my adjusted pay which was around half the settlement amount how i made my landlord and neighbor pay over fourteen thousand dollars in fines for harassing me first of all before i start i'm about eighty percent sure these two are involved with each other in a romantic way so i travel a lot and i live in an rv mostly full-time i've stayed at the same park however for the last nine months i've had issues here they've called the police on me for arguing not joking they will ignore me in the office all because there was a small mistake on the paperwork when i stayed here on an overnight nine months ago something happened and they tried to use that to kick me out however the owner said it didn't matter and all info is pulled from the registration so blaming the paperwork for being off by one year on the rv as a cause for eviction was far-fetched there were a few other incidents but i just figured it's cheap here and i can pay my rent over the phone who cares and don't really plan on going anywhere is where i am all the parks are full for snowbird season plus i got a new job here anyways we had a neighbor who was miserable we could tell from day one we also have two cats they hang out on our porch mostly all the time occasionally they stray but they're older and don't go far so around six weeks ago after nine months of being my neighbor and never saying a word he started acting very erratic randomly approached my wife as she was washing the car outside and got in her face and started screaming saying that he dug cat poop out of the dirt behind his 1979 bus on bricks and now he was going to put traps out and poison somehow management had heard the commotion and he had told them to come but they pulled up and quickly pulled him to the side to talk to him privately refusing to even listen to us we were very weirded out calling him baby sweetheart etc so they said it's his space he can trap all he wants if your animals are going onto his property then that's your fault now this park is known to have so many cats they keep feeders by the front office i warned them what they were doing was illegal but they said we've been doing this a long time we know exactly what we're doing call animal control if you don't believe me i said okay but he threatened to hurt them so i'm making a police report in case anything happens i want him to be on record as having threatened them they came took the report and oh man did that make him mad still at this point i hadn't figured out how to get my revenge animal control said it was legal and didn't do anything we immediately got the cats microchipped and went to lowe's to buy cat traps to teach our cats what a trap is and how to not go into one easiest trick i've ever taught an animal took one try and now they're terrified of anything resembling a trap we were stumped the cats were going stir crazy then five days later she leaves a letter on my door a self-help eviction saying i have no choice but to leave immediately and she was turning off the power on this day i told her if she did i would call the local police as that's a self-help eviction and you've already demonstrated malice by calling the police on me for asking you a question you don't like assisting in the trapping of my cats while encouraging other cats to stay self-help evicting and at one point she refused my cdc declaration letter and i have all these things recorded on video on top of all of this she says he needs to start his harley and let it run for 45 minutes to warm up even if he's not riding that's what harley's need two feet from my bedroom window when he knows i work nights and i'm asleep essentially trying to force me out saying my dummy camera isn't allowed however his real camera pointed at myspace is i was very prepared for an eviction threat as these guys get away with so much being that they can threaten eviction and people will just roll out in their rvs not me no no not me after the manager finally spoke to the owner she realized she had dug herself into a hole and now couldn't evict me unless i had not paid rent as they had refused to show me a contract or any rules the entire time i've been here they don't like to have written rules so they can change them as they need the manager told me i was never allowed into the office unless to get mail and i must pay rent over the phone with a card still though i wasn't comfortable because my neighbor now had put out around four different traps some as close as one foot from my property line he still hadn't caught anything so by chance i ran into a property manager while out shopping for my own trap and he told me some interesting things i did a little research and found out that trapping in nevada is illegal without a permit too many protected species so i knew the cats would never go into a trap we did about five sessions with them and they got to the point where they even saw the trap they'd just hide so i told the landlord it's fine he can keep the traps i had heard from a neighbor that he saw the managers opening up the storage room and loading his truck with animal traps but he didn't know about our situation so he was confused this is when i put my plan together i knew the longer he saw he was getting his way the more traps he would put out and the more erratic he would become he started revving his harley for 45 minutes about three times a day while sitting inside with the radio on blast then he'd get a chop saw and cut lumber into as small of pieces as he could and then stand 10 feet back and launch them into a steel trailer i had around 2 gigabytes of video for my cell phone so i only actually caught about half of it i knew he was losing it i put a dummy camera facing his front door and that's what did it he got too close and pushed my wife on camera i had successfully driven him nuts and had what i needed for a civil harassment suit and i just let him stew every few days i'd noticed a new trap finally when he got up to 14 traps his tiny rv space looked like a landmine of cat traps my cats were and probably are still traumatized from the site the next move was to call the nevada fish and wildlife i emailed the pictures of the traps they finally showed up today and found his 14 traps the fine is one thousand dollars per trap these people also are cops that don't get to ever bust anyone so they took it very seriously they confiscated his traps and hit the park with fourteen thousand dollars in fines afterwards she called me asking me why i would do that i informed her i'm not done and that i'm building a case on her and her little friend for harassment i've since been moved to one of the best spots on the property near the million dollar rvs next to the pool and hot tub with a bar and pizza about 200 foot walk and yes i begged for a new spot to end this from day one but she said we are booked up full all winter we won't have even one spot until after christmas open offices suck but i've proven my point okay so i just turned 20 and was the youngest guy at a company i just half a year started working for the guy which was just a bit older was over 30 and he and i could get along really well and i was lucky since i'm quite an introvert that he took me into a small group of really nice colleagues that were more friends than just work buddies the office we worked in looked really nice but all the levels were connected with a large open area so when someone on the first floor was making a call people on the third floor could follow the entire conversation this wasn't a huge deal most of the time because we always had a radio turned on and people who wanted to concentrate just put on headphones overall a very informal workplace and no real management layer just a couple of directors and no actual managers me and the rest of the group were sitting on the top floor and since my buddy was a lunatic we were laughing and just chatting a bit in comes a message from the ceo asking me to come into the meeting room which was only one of two closed offices in the entire building this wasn't that strange since even though i was young i had particular skills with the company relied on so they had often asked if i could join a meeting but this time only the ceo sat there and instead of the usual joking around he asked me to sit down like a school principal would if you did something wrong i noticed that you're coming along nicely with a lot of your colleagues and i think they really have respect for you the thing is it's rather noisy lately but i don't want them thinking i'm sort of a police officer demanding them to stay quiet since we're all friends in here so i want you to keep the noise levels down and tell them to stay productive i told him that i would pass on the message but that it didn't look like it was my place to tell the people who worked here for years and are all at least 10 years older than i was that they had to obey my authority since i didn't feel i had any well since the rest of the group dug into the meeting calendar and found out there wasn't anything planned they instantly looked at me when i came back with those big eyes which are ready for gossip i passed on the message and they were all a bit shocked stating that they were like this for years and they never had any trouble a couple of weeks later i got called into the meeting room for again by the ceo my colleagues directly noticed how i walked away from my desk that i was called in again as i had my head worried about what the issue was this time no one else was called in in the meantime just me and yes i was asked to sit down again and the ceo began with a huge sigh the office is still very noisy i had a really simple request to keep it down and you just couldn't listen you're even the one talking the loudest of all i was raised to not interrupt people but that time i did well you've stated before that i have a deep voice which carries through the entire building since then i've done my best to keep my voice down it didn't matter as he continued his lecture in the end he made a conclusion i didn't want to do this but i'm going to split you guys up you guys are no longer allowed to sit where you want even though we have a flexible workplace i'm starting with you you'll be sitting across from me on the first floor it's not for the noise it's just better for your productivity i'll be informing the rest and you're not allowed to discuss this with them at all so being both upset and flabbergasted i took my laptop and backpack without saying a word and moved to the first floor i picked up my headphones which i normally never use put them on and went to town on my work this became my routine for two weeks and if someone had a question sorry i have to concentrate on my work if they needed me in a meeting in order to get a new client i responded with i won't be able to be as productive as i need to be and most of all i worked exactly the hours i was paid to instead of coming in 30 minutes early and staying 30 minutes longer as well the ceo started noticing me turning bitter and tried turning it around hi lovely day ain't it which i responded to with uh-huh and putting on my headphones again want me to grab you a cup of coffee no i'm good thanks even though i still worked my butt off during work hours it became noticeable that the hourly rate dropped and my colleagues started complaining to the directors that they really needed my expertise but that i wasn't available for them the ceo loved calling me into his office but now that he had to admit to his defeat i just received a small message while he set across me you're free to sit wherever you want it has come to my attention that it is in the interest of the company if i give you and your colleagues a bit more freedom he continued to bug me about leaving five minutes early even if i came in 30 minutes before i had to but he never dared to talk about my worth ethics ever again moral of the story don't try to push for more productivity it might backfire oh and open offices suck got stiffed by a jerk last night decided to confront him after he set up my bar for 3 hours and 30 minutes after we close so it's a typical sunday night in the bible belt i'm used to crappy tippers at this point and i rarely say anything to those jerk tippers as i know it's unprofessional and can cost me my job but there were these two guys eating and drinking at the bar i work at at first they seemed friendly and nice they were getting into craft beer so i showed them some stuff poured some samples yadda yadda they sat at the bar for about three hours one of them had their bill already cashed out and wrote a fat line through the tip line and i wanted to know why i didn't get tipped the dude that stiffed me had a total wine shirt on so i figured he worked in customer service and should at least have the decency to tip their fellow service worker so i confront them as they were getting up very swiftly out of their seats i straight up asked was everything okay with the service they replied yeah man everything was awesome thanks for staying open late for us and i go well guys you didn't tip me and i didn't know if it was something i did or not but like what the heck i depend on tips to pay my bills i just want to know if it was something i did i know i shouldn't have said this and been so aggressive but i obviously was thinking with my emotions and not my brain meanwhile my other co-worker she was bartending with me came up to the dudes who stiffed us and said i just want you to know that i make two dollars and 13 cents an hour and you didn't tip me so i wanted to say thank you she's about six months pregnant so i'm sure she was more upset at them than i was his friend felt horrible and came back and left 20 percent and the dude who stiffed us was so embarrassed that he stormed away came back left two dollars on the tip line his bill was 37 and then stormed off well today i was about to go into work and the total wine guy called my boss told her that i embarrassed him in front of a full restaurant even though it was 30 minutes after close and they were the only ones there and that he was going to leave a tip but i didn't give him a chance even though he was cashed out for a whole hour before he got up to leave my co-worker and i received a warning and were told not to do that again but you know although that was so unprofessional of us to pull that stunt i'm pretty sure that guy is going to remember that for a while and may start tipping bartenders and servers especially if he's going to be drinking craft beer and breweries and bars that being said i don't think it's smart to confront crappy tippers especially cursing around them because they can definitely get you back and cost your employment gonna try my hardest to stay humble after that one karen gets sent to the hospital it started off as a good day until i went shopping at the local safe stay with what's going on in the world i was determined to not linger and moved on about my shopping with purpose not lingering anywhere unless i had to such as in the case of pausing to read a label i did pause to help one elderly lady who asked me politely if i could get something off a top shelf for her that was my mistake i turned to go back to my shopping when i heard him excuse me the call of the wild kieran before i even turned i popped out the words i don't work here never did turned as i spoke and there before me was a living meme every inch of a kieran you helped that old jerk she screeched so don't try to tell me you don't work here i helped her because she asked politely for my help you rude jerk unlike you so you can just toddle off and take care of your own shopping and by the way i don't work here i said sharply to her turned and went back to my shopping steadfastly ignoring her screeching and yelling she followed me all the while screeching for a manager a worker approached to see what was going on and she yelled not asked full-on yelled at her to get a manager immediately the workers scuttled off not wanting to deal with an irate customer to find a manager can't hold her to any blame here it didn't take long for her manager to show up she the karen started yelling how i was rude to her and refused to help her while at work blah blah blah while she was informed that i'm just another customer she went crazy and got much louder insisting that i do work there and she saw me helping someone else it was then she made a huge mistake i turned and stepped a few feet away to grab something i was getting anyways when she screeched a wordless and charged after me she made a grab for me determined to see me punished for not being her servant of the moment i dodged her easily and stepped aside letting her rush past when she did she tripped and fell flat on her face and didn't immediately get up i had not done anything to her she did this to herself if that were the end you all know i wouldn't have posted here by the time she started to stir the police in an ambulance had been called police arrived first within five minutes so must have been nearby they were checking her over as best they could without moving her when she started stirring and trying to get up of course she tried to say that i had shoved her but the manager had already told them what happened they would view the security footage when she had been seen too she was a mess too she looked like she had really gotten hurt i wasn't cuffed as i was being calm and not angry if anything i was concerned for her the paramedics arrived shortly after and did their thing and hauled her off on a gurney last thing she yelled is that she was suing everyone very loudly and very rudely i pointed at the ceiling and said security cameras good luck with your suit the police took a look at the security footage got my name address and phone number and sent me on my way i'm puzzled at how nearly everywhere i go someone thinks i work there most people are polite and even apologetic when informed that i don't work there but some they make shopping or getting out a hilarious and annoying adventure am i the jerk for asking my brother to give me twenty thousand pounds to help pay for my wedding since he makes a lot more money than me i 23 female am engaged to my fiance 27 male i'm also the mother to my daughter who's four i wasn't able to go to university full time since i was raising my daughter however i'm currently studying history online or i will hopefully be able to become a history teacher balancing studying while raising my daughter hasn't been easy however having my fiance supporting the family has really helped since my fiance works in a research lab we have enough money to live comfortably but saving up money to have our dream wedding would take years my brother 28 male works as a hospital doctor his wife also works as a hospital doctor so to say that they are well off would be an understatement my brother hasn't had the same struggles of raising a child since they both don't want any kids i don't mind the fact that they don't want to have kids but they've been able to save a lot of money due to this recently i asked my brother if he would be able to help pay for my wedding since having him contribute to my wedding would help make it a magical moment for me my brother offered to give me 5 000 pounds towards my wedding which honestly surprised me i might be wrong here but surely as a hospital doctor my brother should be able to contribute more to my wedding i told him that i'd really appreciate it if he could give me twenty thousand pounds for my wedding since it would really mean a lot but he refused i'd be lying if i said i didn't make my annoyances with my brother clear and i told him that his refusal to help pay for my wedding is selfish and that if he doesn't help contribute to my wedding then he won't be able to come since it isn't my fault that i don't have a lot of money to fund my wedding we had an argument afterwards and i haven't been returning his calls since the rest of my family is helping to contribute to my wedding which makes his refusal even worse despite my brother's actions my father thinks that i'm being too harsh on my brother and that me not inviting him to my wedding would be upsetting for him am i missing something here am i the jerk well who do you think is the jerk opie or her brother please let us know no ma'am the cashier did not think you were 88 years old i'm the assistant guest services manager for a semi-upscale grocery store on this day i was behind the service desk working on the schedule and answering the phone i get a call from a woman who is clearly irritated off the bat she requests to speak to the highest available manager there are about five i could have chosen from that day but i've learned how to field some of these calls to keep them off my boss's desk which she appreciates me yes ma'am my immediate supervisor has stepped away to lunch but i'm the assistant guest services manager i'd love to try and help if i can lady well i just got home and read my receipt for the wine i purchased earlier and i am livid young man me i'm so sorry to hear that what seems to be the problem karen i am not 88 years old i wasn't even born in november this was extremely rude of your cashier to make a joke at my expense at this point i have to stop and think what the heck do i even have a cash here that would find that amusing no no wait a minute me ma'am did we check your id karen no because i must look like an old hag to you kids i'm 34. me on your receipt is the birth date listed as 11 22 33 yes me i see the problem now in order to keep lines moving we enter one one two two three three as the birth date for anyone we believe to be over 28 years of age karen oh oh oh my gosh i'm so sorry that makes sense my checkouts at your store always fast me we try and i'm glad you shopped at our store today i hope you plan to return well your potato salad is really amazing see you soon and thank you click am i the jerk for not inviting my son to my wedding i 34 male used to be in a relationship with sarah 35 female we met in middle school dated on and off in high school and even talked about marriage in college this all came to an end when i caught her cheating with my roommate and we broke up it was really hard but it got worse when i found out that she was pregnant immediately i sought her out and to confront the possibility of her baby being mine and sarah avoided me while sending her friends and new boyfriend adam the guy she cheated with after me to stop harassing her i reached out to her mom explicitly stating that i only wish to know if there was a chance that i was the father and after enough persistence sarah contacted me directly called me pathetic that i wasn't the father and if i continued she would call the police being a broke 19 year old i took her at her word and washed my hands of the situation and transferred to another college and moved on with my life eventually i met my fiance miranda 29 female and we've been very happy together before the lockdown we were supposed to get married but understandably that got pushed back now that restrictions are loosening up we're moving forward with the plans but have drastically cut down on the number of invites to abide by the venue safety policy after completing the list and sending out the invitations i was recently contacted by kevin 15 male claiming to be my son obviously i didn't take him at his word and asked who his mom was and he said sarah i told him that before he was born his mom assured me that i wasn't the father and asked him why he thought i was kevin explained that it came out that sarah's husband adam wasn't his biological dad divorced her and hasn't spoken to kevin in years i agreed to take a paternity test and was shocked that i was his dad i had asked sarah if there was any chance and she had denied it miranda was surprised but also supportive and i've been speaking to kevin regularly while also making plans to see him he saw on social media that miranda and i were planning on getting married in the spring and wanted to come unfortunately everyone that we've already invited have all rsvp and made special accommodations to attend our child free wedding there's no way kevin can come without miranda and i disinviting someone else which we feel is rude i told kevin that while i can't invite him to the wedding i promise to put together another event so he can meet more people in my family he seemed understanding but his maternal grandmother called me up to berate me for not making him a priority now that i'm aware of his existence am i the jerk eta because i keep seeing this the venue has a policy on the number of people who can attend due to safety this isn't about fire codes but lockdown not the fact that the wedding is child free ata too thank you to those of you suggesting that we explain the situation to our guests to see if anyone would be kind enough to allow kevin to come instead i will talk to miranda about this but also reach out to kevin directly since so far only his grandmother is giving me flak for not inviting him be rude to my wife i'll double your rent my mom has been living in a house which belonged to my dad they were divorced and he wanted her to have a good place to stay he passed last year and i inherited the place after checking out the place and running the numbers i learned that the place is in terrible shape it needs a ton of repairs my mom doesn't take good care of it and he has only been charging her 500 per month which is almost 1 6 the market rate i will be losing money on the place i do not have a good relationship with my mother she's mean my mother literally asked my wife if she was dating me for a green card i've had very limited contact with her since i found out her true colors i have no interest in spending my family's money on her i've told her about six months ago that i will be doubling the rent and i was dead serious about it she didn't take me seriously i presented her a new contract and she is bitterly angry with me she can afford to pay it she's got a substantial part of my dad's assets when they divorced i'm sure she still has the money i feel like a jerk because she's stubborn and she's strong-arming my brother into moving in with him my brother and his wife are softies who can't say no to her thin veneer of politeness i feel like crap because she's probably going to move in with them and make their life heck we are not exactly hurting for money and i feel like a jerk for creating a situation where my brother will have to take her in not the jerk maybe your brother can learn to set some boundaries next lose your temper on the hotel staff kiss your job goodbye i've moved from working as a waitress to working hotel i've been doing it for four months now there are similarities and there are differences both jobs you have to deal with jerks i was a waitress but mostly hostess in the restaurant industry so now i work front desk oh the joys sitting people is similar to checking people into rooms my back story over the hotel i work for has had the fortune of being booked out for three months by a company trial bases and if things work out it could turn into a year-long contract thus far everything has been running smooth and we like these people and they like us when i first started i of course experienced all types of people and my experience as a waitress hostess has taught me very well how to handle them since this company bought us out very rarely do we get the karen's it's been two months into this arrangement a week ago at around 8ish i check a gentleman in explain how things work he goes to his room my shift is about to end and my relief arrives he's always early it's 10 55 pm the gentleman i shall now name k calls the front desk my relief who shall be named r for relief answers the phone and puts it on speaker hi he says i checked in a few hours ago and i don't like this room oh i'm sorry to hear this sir r says what's the problem with the room it's just too loud i can hear the highway i want to get a quieter room not facing the highway well sir it is a bit late and most of our rooms are checked in but if you could give us a moment we will call you back if we can find a room for you r and k hang up i'm trying to get all my things done so i can leave arya is trying to get everything settled for his light auditing we shouldn't give him another room i tell r it's not that i don't want to help the guests i really do but we're limited on rooms and we have like 10 more reservations they booked their people for also since he's settled in his room for a while i don't have housekeeping around to clean it up and give it to the next guest it's not like we're expecting these 10 people to show up this late but you never know they might show up and one of them will be out of a room just look for me he says so i do as requested and i find a room while also not sacrificing one of the ten it's a courtyard facing room yeah let's all dance i make all the changes and call the guy to inform him we have found him a room not facing the highway hello k this is front desk we have a room for you i cheerfully inform him the clock strikes 11 p.m and i'm exhausted and i want to go home but i want to make sure this is settled before i leave what room is it so i tell him here the fun part begins no i don't want that room he informs me it will be near the lobby and during the day time the lobby will be too loud i take a moment to collect myself well i'm sorry sir i say with my best sugary goodness voice ever because my i will hurt you voice wants to come out and i know that could lose us this contract and thus far i want to keep this contract because until this moment i haven't had to deal with any jerks it's refreshing but you want a courtyard facing room i found you a courtyard facing room it is 11pm tonight and if you are unaware we are booked solid and are limited on the rooms we have available our stops what he's doing and his interest is peaked he comes forward and places the call on speaker so he can hear k stops using his friendly voice well that is unacceptable he says i demand a better room because i'm not staying in this room because it's too loud and i refuse to take the other room r who has been with this hotel for such a long time starts to chime in and i can see that he's ready to match this guy's tone i stop him my waitressing and hosting skills have come forward i want to make sure i get my tip while also putting someone in their place still in my best sugary goodness voice that will get you cavities i respond well sir it is late and like i said we cannot accommodate your request if you had checked in earlier like at 3 pm it cuts me off well i wasn't here at 3 p.m i checked in at 8 p.m now it's time for him to insert company into this i work for blank and i demand i get this service my company is paying for me to stay here and i want a better room i continue as if he didn't interrupt me i would have been able to switch rooms for you as i had plenty of rooms facing courtyard but you checked in late it is 11pm and unfortunately because your company has booked the whole hotel almost every room once again is cutting me off r is ready wanting to speak but i shake my head i whisper i got this i work for blink company and i want a different room he says nearly yelling i wonder if people are aware that you yelling makes us want to help you less again continuing as if he never interrupted me is booked now i have found a room for you and it is yours so you can either take this room or stay in yours he grows silent because he knows i'm not budging finally he speaks this is unacceptable i will let blank know about this so are you staying in your room or switching rooms well i don't want that room and you're being a jerk and not finding me a better room it takes every ounce of energy for me not to lose it on this guy so i'm a jerk because i can't give you something i don't have well sir i begin and have resorted to my favorite treating him like a first grade teacher treats a little kid we don't use that kind of language when we aren't getting our way we should express ourselves in other ways i'm truly sorry that it's very late at night and we cannot accommodate you and i'm so sorry to tell you but the room i was trying to offer you is no longer available it was given away i'm ticked and i will let the company know about this well i am sorry sir and please feel free to tell your company this i will be surely telling them about this interaction as well and telling them that you've used this kind of language with me i hope he hangs up like dude you're asking late at night and think we can do it r applauds me and says girl if it was me i would have done things differently but i love your approach i put in my report about the whole conversation and the next day when i come in my manager pulls me aside and tells me the guest complained about me to the company saying i wasn't being accommodating boss said he read my report looked at everything talked to r and guess what his room is no longer occupied i found out a couple days later the guy got fired for being rude what these people don't know is that his company told us to tell them when they are being unkind to us because if they are they're fired if they can be rude to us then they don't want them working for them edit this company who booked us is a huge company that deals with customer service and that is the reason that they told us to do this if they can treat us like this then how will they treat their customers entitled parent wanted my truck and called the cops saying i stole it this happened a few years ago and i'm on mobile so please excuse formatting i moved northwest from the bible belt of the south three years ago and my truck is an 01 gmc southern comfort this truck originally belongs to my father but when he passed he left it to me i 27 female had to fix many issues with it from lift or tick front rack leaking exhaust fell off and even the broken fuel pump i fixed it up the way he wanted and took a nice road trip getting it up here i moved to an area with an influx of individuals from california and the karen is one of the few that are nuts she complained to the front desk of the apartment complex for anything and everything she once yelled at random people at the parking lot because she wanted an eco-friendly environment and demanded we all sell our gas vehicles for teslas when we said we can't afford them she screamed at more people about how she could afford hers i don't drive the truck very often because dad wanted to keep the mileage low and it's a low rider so it's a sunday driver it's been over two years since this happened it was late summer and i decided i'll take it to the car wash to clean it up a bit now this truck is loud but not obnoxious everyone who has owned a v8 knows a cold start in the morning can be loud and the flowmaster outlaw under it doesn't help she came out banshee screaming at me that i need to tone it down because people are sleeping it was 9 00 am i apologized and said i haven't cranked it in over a week it's going to be a little loud it's a 5.3 liter v8 she looked at me more and smiled and asked can my son have it me what no why would you ask that her well my son is in high school and would absolutely love it plus you have multiple vehicles and you don't need more than one me absolutely not this truck belonged to my dad and it's not for sale if you don't give it to me i'll tell the front desk on you me go ahead and i drive off i later got a call from the front desk that she complained and to meet them there me hello manager how can i help you manager hey op karen is here complaining that your truck is too loud do you have the copy of the exhaust paperwork me yeah i'll go get it grabbed it out of my center console and handed it to my manager manager you see karen her truck is in legal noise ordinance limit and even then it's not that loud me i'm sorry karen you feel my truck is too loud but it's in legal limit and i don't drive it every day karen stormed off slamming the manager's door me shrugged shoulders i don't know what her problem is but she tried to ask me to give her the truck earlier manager weird a few days passed and it was nice but as i was going to go put gas in my truck karen once again asked for it for her son i said no she threatened that she would call the police on me i said go ahead waited by my truck for them they came and said they got a report of a stolen vehicle they separated us and i told them everything officer so karen has been harassing you and demanded the truck she claimed you took the keys from her son and pushed him me yes officer here are the registrations from the last several years including the ones with my dad's name on them if you follow me i'll get the title that's in my name and his death certificate we got the papers from my lock box officers reviewed them together and told karen ma'am filing a false report is serious karen but she stole my son's truck officer no you falsely called us and harassed her karen shoved the officers trying to run between them and was arrested for assault karen was evicted for throwing rocks at gas trucks in the parking lot a few months later and encouraging her two teen sons to jump in the beds of the trucks she claimed they were free-range kids yes like chickens and thus were above the law she also screamed at a couple and left a bag of dog poop on their door yeah she wasn't very pleasant as a neighbor am i the jerk for not backing up my neighbor on her noise complaint and saying actually her family is more disruptive i live on a corner with two houses close by one to the left of my place with a family living there and one behind my place that a young couple recently moved into and is renovating we're in a residential area of a city but it can be noisy with traffic neighbors close by pedestrians etc i'm pretty good at tuning the noise out the family next door is probably the most disruptive though since they have kids who spend a lot of time outside when i'm at work and they yell a lot they often have other neighbors kids over their trampoline or playset so the group gets pretty loud when i'm working from home i've never said anything despite them distracting me from work because i figure being tolerant of some noise is just part of living in a city at the other house the young couple seems to be renovating and diying but there isn't as much noise or at least not as much that is attention grabbing as yelling or big groups of kids they do a lot of their work after my work day has ended and i'm either less in need of quiet or going out at night and not there to hear it anyway the wife of the family next door approached me recently saying she was filing noise complaints with the city and the police about the new couple she asked me to file reports too to put more pressure on the city and the cops i told her i wasn't bothered by the renovation noise so i wasn't going to report anything she seemed surprised by that saying that i was even closer and that it must be bothering me because even at her house which was further the noise was making it unlivable i said that i genuinely wasn't bothered she got frustrated with me saying i didn't care about the community and how the neighborhood was being brought down by young people with no respect she said that they should hire contractors who can do the job quickly instead i said well i don't think it's a good idea reporting them they're not that loud and you'd probably be starting things off on the wrong foot she said that they were making her house unlivable i was getting kind of frustrated and i said i live the same distance from their house and your house and honestly y'all are a lot louder than them they've never been loud enough to be disruptive to me but honestly your family often is i wouldn't be standing in a glass house throwing rocks like that if i were you she got really frustrated with me and accused me of being just like them inconsiderate young people and banding together with them i said that she was being a hypocrite and if she kept trying to get me to report the new neighbors for noise i'd be reporting her house instead because out of everyone her house was the noisy one that made her really mad saying we were all childish and inconsiderate am i the jerk for telling my neighbor that actually she was the noisy one am i the jerk for leaving after my boyfriend made me sit in the kitchen by myself when his doctor friends came to visit hi this is a minor conflict that me female 31 and my boyfriend male 33 had this week we've been together for nine months he's a pediatrician and i have a job at an elementary school he's sweet and makes me feel happy whenever we're together he was missing me lately and had been wanting me to visit and he was too busy so i only got the chance to visit yesterday we sat down in the living room in his apartment and he was about to make some coffee when the door rang 13 minutes after i arrived he went to take a look through the hole then returned and asked me to get up and follow him to the kitchen i asked why but he didn't say he had me enter the kitchen and said his two friends who are his work colleagues doctors came to visit and he wanted me to sit tight for a few minutes till they leave i was confused i asked why not let me just meet them and he said no not like this and asked me to not come out of the kitchen until they leave then went to welcome them i sat still waiting as the time passed they stayed for an hour and i started calling donny but he didn't answer me i felt uncomfortable and couldn't wait anymore after i was being ignored like that i just took my purse and walked out the kitchen and told donnie that i got bored of waiting for his friends to leave then said i was leaving and walked through the door immediately feeling upset he was stunned and so were his friends he called me later saying what i did was disrespectful and rude he said he asked me this one favor and i didn't do it i replied that i left because of the treatment i received no matter how much he tells me to make myself at home i was still a guest and i was made to feel like i was less than his doctor friends but he swore it wasn't like that and that he considers himself lucky to have known me but still said what i did was not cool and leaving like that and saying what i said in front of his friends was wrong of me i'm adding more information to make a few things clear edit one i already met his family and other people but none of them are in the same field he's in we also meet publicly edit too he claimed that they were talking about stuff i wouldn't understand and i'd feel awkward sitting there not knowing what they were talking about edit three he said i should have made myself busy making dinner in the kitchen instead of waiting until his friends leave since we agreed to eat dinner together but i ruined our plans talk about red flags old school construction architect with an ego so this dates back to 1998. i had been working construction for a year as a drywall finisher spreading mud when i was offered a job on a big crew only reason they wanted me was to be a translator between english and french i was good but not fast or great at this point but hey eighteen dollars an hour was good money we were working on a five-story building it was the first time i really had seen just the bones of a building for those who are unfamiliar with this era of construction i'm going to give a little background on how it worked on sites this big each company had their own construction trailer no one really had email so each trailer had a couple of phone lines and a secretary this building was for a real estate company it was to be their headquarters it was designed by an architect in new york as a favor to the owner of the building so here's where the problem goes my boss al had all the framing hanging the drywall finished the seams and acoustic ceiling sealing tiles with metal grid al goes to the general contractor with an issue on third floor training room al we got height problem with third floor ceiling general contractor what's wrong now al he's got it at four feet off the floor contractor wait what al yeah both ceiling reflected plan and elevation shows four feet off the finish floor if i scale it it would be twelve contractor yeah that don't sound right go ahead and send a request for information back then requests for information were different than today usually meant someone was going to have to pay so al faxes over the request for information and marks it urgent when request for information comes back they were sent to both the general contractor and the subcontractor so i'm sitting with al and the general contractor just chatting around and both secretaries come out to the site almost running with high heels through the debris and both with grins on their faces i'm thinking oh no this should be good al and general contractor slow down ladies where's the fire general contractor secretary you got an urgent fax al secretary we got the request for information back looking at the other secretary giggling they look at their paper then look at me and the general contractor reads it aloud request for information from office of jerk architect inc urgent request information of discrepancy on ceiling height from al office about training room answer how hard is it for you construction workers to understand never scale anything i don't make mistakes refer to page a 804 for detailed height instructions cue malicious compliance general contractor well al what does a804 say about ceiling heights al four feet bud general contractor hey frenchie do you think you can translate that to the ceiling guys and tell them it's a hot priority i want it done by sunday al you heard him tell him to drop what he's doing and go do it me 10-4 i go to the guy and they greet me i tell them what had just transpired and told them that al said to make it four feet they grumbled saying they would charge to do it again now this training room wasn't your typical space it was 300 feet long by 40 feet wide that could be separated to make multiple training rooms or one giant one with a folding partition monday came general contractor instructs the electrician to install all the lights as per prince yes even his prints had four feet notation typically we would wait for electrical inspection but we didn't by wednesday the crew is putting tiles in saturday comes and there's an owner meeting where he walks the job site with general contractor and talks about progress everything is going good until he gets to the third floor training room door and sees a bar four feet from the ground and all the wires for the ceiling are in plain sight owner what the heck is this don't you know how to read blueprints general contractor yes sir we do when we did we also sent an rfi shows them the facts owner grins yeah he definitely has an ego from heck do you have everything documented pitchers and all general contractor you know it owner okay smartypants now do it at 12 feet four feet from the deck you're making 20 on this mess up aren't you general contractor 20 to the build invoice we're going to have demo crew come in then all new materials plus the crew already said it's going to be a 50 up charge since we're preventing them from going to their next site yeah just be happy it's not coming out of your pocket because the architect gave wrong information and it was built as per his guidelines he had to pay out a few thousand out of his pocket to us dumb construction workers to fix his mistake learn two valuable lessons that day one always do as you're told no matter if it makes sense except when it's endangering someone and two document everything no matter how trivial it will cover you am i the jerk for telling my boyfriend i'm tired of him always bringing his friend around i've been dating my boyfriend for a year he has this friend who's a girl not that it really matters it's just the situation altogether upsetting me even if it was a guy i'd be bothered the same way so he's very close with her to the point that sometimes i feel like i'm third wheeling them i feel like i'm in one of those three people friend groups and i'm the outcast while the other two friends are closer she'll always invite herself even to our own romantic couple dates at first i tried to be patient with it and not make a huge deal out of it but lately it's getting too much i mean i've always expressed some discomfort to my boyfriend about it but he says we'll see what we can do but he'll do nothing we were celebrating our one year anniversary last weekend and she called him mid-dinner and said she's coming over we were having dinner at his house he told her it's our anniversary and it's better to hang out another time and she insisted and said she won't be a bother and will show up anyway because she's too bored to be alone she hung up on him after that and 10 minutes after she showed up during those 10 minutes i was really upset and talked to him about this and how it can't keep happening he said he'll see what he can do about it and not to worry so she came over and decided she wanted to watch a movie then she started treating me like a maid asking me if i could cook something so that she could eat as well because she didn't like the food we had prepared for our anniversary and made a joke that we didn't think of her while preparing the food to avoid a fight i let myself act like a maid for her i shouldn't have the next day we all arranged to go have drinks during the whole time out she kept complaining about how much she hates public spaces she chose the place we went to and how she can't stand people she always pointed out how disgusted she is by couples and she's glad we're not the classic lovey-dovey couple and she can enjoy being out with us then i accidentally slipped and told her that it's because you never leave us the option of having lovey-dovey time alone she took offense to it and confronted me by saying that if i don't like it i should be the one to leave i told my boyfriend that i'm tired of him bringing her around so she can boss me around and always have a negative energy about everything she called me the jerk and my boyfriend partly agreed with her saying i shouldn't take it too far once we got home i told my boyfriend that i've been telling him how it's bothering me for ages yet he does nothing to fix the situation he says i'm right but i shouldn't be mean to her because she's upset now and she just wants to be friendly that made me feel a bit guilty and i want to know am i the jerk why are you with this guy these stories never cease to amaze me why is it so difficult for people to understand patio seating our restaurant opened a makeshift patio for lockdown and it's the biggest source of frustration at my job so many folks come in to order takeout from us only to walk outside and eat at our tables i get it the weather is nice and they want to enjoy their food but we have signs and tell customers that the outside patio are fully serviced and for dine-ins only most people understand and pack up and leave when we ask but sometimes we get difficult people who like to argue last night i had to argue with a group of guys and their wife and baby we just got food why can't we sit here do you always get food from restaurants and take outs and start eating there we paid for our food yes you got takeout this is for dine-ins we're not dining inside we're outside the tables outside are the very same as inside same rules same policies same service let me see your policy sir you don't work here and it went back and forth mind you i gave them three different chances to change their order from take out to dine in i explained to them that the tables outside won't be available to them and they nodded their heads saying yes they want takeout all three times the thing that got me was during the entire time of me arguing with them telling them they can't eat their take out there one of them opened another box in my face and started eating that too i then told them they gotta pack it up or i'm calling the cops for trespassing dude then asked if he gets some fries then it's cool right i told him that's not how it works people can't order 100 in take out and then sit down and get a side of fries for five dollars to sit there so i told them i'm refusing them service they had to go and i called the police also frustrating was when the cops came they asked me to just get him some fries i had to pull the cops to the side and explain to them that it's not fair to my server if they get some fries what's the tip going to be 50 cents then we got to clean everything else up took them 20 minutes and more talking to police to finally leave but they finished their food anyways so i'm still mad about it if anyone's reading and made it this far would you suggest anything to help the situation why can't i use my ripped up receipt for a return this was about a year ago but it's still super vivid in my mind i was working as a cashier at a craft store and a lady comes in to return some fabric i asked her if she has a receipt to which she pulled out a receipt that was ripped in half for me to pull up the transaction i need the barcode on the receipt of course that was not the part of the receipt she kept cast we've got me we've got the lady we've got the manager me ma'am do you have the other half of the receipt karen no i ripped them so that they fit in my wallet me okay well i don't see the fabric on this half of the receipt so did you possibly pay with a card i can't look up the transaction otherwise karen no i paid cash i expect cash back since i have the receipt me ma'am it doesn't show me on the receipt how much you purchased this fabric for i can't help you no your policy says if i have a receipt i can return it me you have half of the receipt well how else would i get it to fit in here shows me the little wallet slot she puts them in i see other torn up receipts me maybe fold them get me your manager at this point she's whispering under her breath how useless i am of course like i'm the one that tore her recede now my manager has been working here for over 40 years at this location and seems to get a kick out of dumb karen's manager sorry i can't return the fabric without a receipt or a credit card to look it up well how maybe you should fold them instead of rip them in half excuse me but your return policy states manager yeah and for that to happen you need the full receipt we don't even know you bought the fabric from here karen starts opening the folded fabric to try and see if there is our logo or something on the seamed edge which has another fabric store's name on it manager see that's why we need the full receipt this isn't even our fabric this is our store karen scoffs well hopefully they will do a better job at returns than you guys manager not if you only have half the receipt they won't she was a great manager i loved her support our channel by joining as a member today and we'll give you a shout out in our next video or come watch this video next you won't believe what karen does in that one

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Views: 360,954

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Length: 181min 38sec (10898 seconds)

Published: Sat Jun 25 2022