Jordan Peterson: Toxic Relationships

there's little monsters they pop up and you could whack them with a hammer like whack-a-mole no problem if you wanted to but if you don't do that for 360,000 decisions then they all aggregate into this looming chaos monster and the probability that that thing's gonna eat you is or that you're gonna live in its belly because that's where you end up it's a very bad idea and it's often the case that people just don't have enough time and energy left or willpower or character by that time because they're destroying their own character they're they've had it you cannot help them you cannot fix it they're done they can't be rescued from hell oh that's easy it's like it's like it's like remember I told you about those experiments with the mint married couples the ones that are gonna get divorced they walk into the little bed and breakfast and it's hi dear and with a kind of no no I smile it's like that's a predatory smile it's like I kind of like you but these are really teeth and they're for eating you know really it's not pleasant and so they're interacting with each other both of them are really nice but they're not they're not nice at all they're carnivorous right to the damn core and so on the surface it's all roses and sunshine and like a little inch below it's all like their grid like you could see their unconscious you'd see two people with their hands around each other's throat and their body knows that because up goes the cortisol up goes the heart rate they're sweating away you know that's the belly of the beast that's what that is and your body it's smart it knows where you are you're you know you can ignore it which you do you know it's like oh this isn't too bad it's like yeah it's it is it's really bad it's really really really bad and you do that long enough it's like good luck for you you know you've you've polluted your psyche and your surroundings to such a degree that you can't fix it and it gets worse than that because if you stay there long enough you won't even want to fix it you'll be so angry at yourself or the other person that you're going to try as hard as you can to do everything you possibly can to make it as bad as you possibly can and since you have virtually an unlimited imagination for evil it can get really bad so and you get into a self-sustaining spiral at some point that's a that's a hellish descent and the reason that hell is bottomless is because no matter how bad it is there's some damn devious nasty horrible little thing that you can do that you will do that will make it worse so you know people who think that hell isn't real they're just not paying any attention at all it's plenty real well you could make a pretty strong case that if a seven-headed snake with infinite lengths came rolling towards you it's like time to head for the hills right not like stand there with your bronze axe sure but it wasn't conscious it was mimic mimicry which is how you do it do you know you don't go to a movie like go iron math because iron man's mythological to the core especially the Avengers movie it had a brilliant mythological theme and you don't go there and watch Iron Man and then come out and say well let's decode Iron Man into his you know behavioral micro elements and incorporate those you don't do that you're gripped by it you're gripped by it and the transmission of information is at a level that's below articulation it's imagistic so maybe it's modifying the structure of the contents of your right hemisphere who god only knows it's it's embodied you know that's why you you know what happens you take a kid out to see a Superman movie and then you bring them home what do they want to do they want to put on a little Superman cape and wander around being Superman you know and that's the level at which the information is being transmitted so that well what Superman liked well we'll play that out to the degree that you can play it out then the Superman element in so far as you can mimic it now becomes part of your behavioral repertoire so did they know what they were doing it depends on what you mean by know could they fully articulate what they were doing no but neither can we so that's what they knew like they weren't taking something they knew in an articulated form and saying let's represent it as a Hydra and a hero it's completely the other way around it's like we don't know what the hell we're doing but it seems sort of like a guy with a bronze axe attacking a snake it's like what kind of snake well it's an infinite snake with many heads you know and that would have been a work of imagination maybe maybe conscious imagination you know like because those are artistic productions definitely but they're products of fantasy so this chaos monster dragon breaks itself into two things that's the initial differentiation so it breaks itself into the great father and the great mother so that's the emergence so it's the great mother in some sense emerges first in the great father second although you can't really say that like the way the myths work is that three things emerge at the same time the great mother so that's kind of the unknown as you confront it and the great father which is you as a reader and then the hero which is you as an active agent you might say one of those precedes the other but that isn't how it works and in the myths it just says no no what soon as things split that's what they split into there has to be something there has to be the interpretation of something and there has to be the interpreter those are the fundamental elements of being and so it's an it's an idea the fundamental elements of being are there's a pool of information there's a reader of the information so that would be ho-oh cyrus roughly speaking and then there's a reader and so think about what happens when you're reading a book you know you might say well where is the book and you say well here's the book it's this little chunk of wood fiber it's like well no that's what your visual system deludes you into thinking when you're using it that's not the book at all the book contains patterns it contains representations of behavioral patterns and the way that you interpret those behavioral patterns is by using the reader that's in your head which is really that structure that hierarchical structure that I talked to about because if you didn't have that your damn head you couldn't understand the book because the only thing that like if you and I are talking and we're communicating there's a lot we have to agree on before we can even say anything about which we might disagree so if I'm writing a book for you people as the readers what I have to do is assume a bunch of things that you know because then I don't have to say those things because it would take an infinite amount of time to say everything that I need to say so I have to assume that there's a trillion things I don't have to say because I already know that you know them and so then I can play at the fringes with those things so for example I can lay out a story about my character becoming angry and I don't have to like tell you you know well we could tell he's angry because his his brow is furrowed and you know he's starting to sweat and there's a bad taste in his mouth and if you're angry that's how you feel and because you already know all that so I don't to bother with that I can just say you know what you just set up the situation and poof you know what anger means you know what sorrow means you know what love means etc etc so that's why the reader has to be there and the thing to read sorry the the structure the interpreter has to be there and the thing that's doing the interpreter interpretation and the thing that's being interpreted has to all come out at the same time poof and that's the the hero the great mother and the great father so that's how they pop out now let me show you some cool things there they are now students sent me the one on the left that's an ancient Chinese representation and then that one's Greek it's so cool look at that you have the dragon in the background the snake with the knot in its tail that's ancient Greek that and that's its Chinese it's a very old Chinese representation and out of the snake pops the divine parents well why is that well it's partly because that one of the primary things that emerges out of undifferentiated reality for human beings is the male and the female the father and the mother I mean that's the first things you come into contact with roughly speaking when you emerge out of the void and that's archetypal we know who a father is we know who a mother is it's like that's the differentiation of the genders what time is it yeah okay okay well let's leave it there that's good now we've got into the great mother and the great father and I'm gonna show you their symbolic representation and they're positive because one of the things that happens is you get the great mother and the great father pop up and then the next thing is that they differentiate again and they differentiate into positive mother and negative mother and pause the farther a negative father and then out and then at the same time the cross the product of those two things which is the hero that also emerges and it's differentiates into the hero and the adversary and so then you have you have enough at that point you have enough Tiff's at differentiation at that point in terms of representation that you can basically encapsulate the whole world and so that's at the base of our conceptual structures

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Length: 10min 4sec (604 seconds)

Published: Thu Mar 01 2018