Is My Wife Revenge Cheating With Her Ex? | KARAMO

all right welcome to Toronto friends listen honesty is always the best policy but to be honest to your partner you have to be honest with yourself first Ali says he values honesty in his marriage so much that he confessed to his wife angel that he cheated on her months ago but now Ali wants to unlock Angel's phone because he discovered she was communicating with her exes please welcome Ali to get some clarity [Music] how you doing how are you doing you good yes sir good to meet you good to meet you all right Ollie yes sir we gotta know so you told your wife that you cheated on her yes I did um and as a man you already know that that doing that alone is not an easy thing to do but I love my wife I take my vows seriously have you ever cheated before I've never cheated before why did you cheat um I cheated because I mean it's it's a it definitely wasn't anything that she did Regular issues that I'm dealing with what was the issue that you said you were dealing with for yourself the thing that set my wife apart was the fact her honesty that she's a beautiful girl yes she is her looks caught me but her honesty Captivate her caught my heart first off was the amount of man that she went with she gave me a number and I gave her about I said Okay I accept that but I'm gonna give you about seven or eight more and you said you're trying for honesty and then you said added more I did I mean because I'm quite sure something she probably forgot about or something she was ashamed of well I'm not here to judge you all I'm here to do is find out the facts so if you said you cheated once and she spoke up to her and you told her why you cheated I hear that but what's confusing me is that if you cheated why do you have your wife here for me to unlock her phone that's the confusing part for me that's a that's a that's a good question as I opened up and I told her what I did she begins to tell me some things and I did not know that she had deep what did she tell you I mean to see her um she began to uh that she was still communicating with some of her exes okay was that the first time you found out that angel was talking to other men no that wasn't the first time okay so she was communicating with how many guys from her past at that time it was it was two after some time had went on I found out that one of those guys still communicating okay whether it was small talk or not you know the feelings that you have for this person and the feelings that this person had for you I kind of feel like that should have did what I did as far as just gone so okay um you told my producers that angel uses your words against you what do you mean by that Angels don't she don't use my word against me sometimes she has a play on words meaning if I question her and I don't say the exact specific dates or the exact specific time or the exact specific person then you can a story can be created around it that did not make me do what I did I did that I own up to that oh yeah I'm not saying that you're using that as an excuse my question for you is though is that I know that a couple of weeks ago you tried to exchange phones what happened so it was about two weeks after I had um exposed myself to her so at that point she uh we exchanged phones and everything was good and I happened to find something that I guess I probably should not have found what was it Communications okay Communications with somebody from from her past was it sexual nature what was it what is it I didn't see anything sexual nature it was just the fact that she was still communicating with somebody from her past and what did she do at that point when you said I found this stuff back and after about a few minutes we were allowed to switch phones back again you understand what I'm saying so that to me puts the question mark in my head like okay did you take the phone back and erase something and now it's okay for me to see the phone again well uh one of the things that I believe needs to happen right now is that we need to include an angel your wife into this conversation so everyone please help me welcome angel [Music] how are you doing you look beautiful [Music] that is her husband okay okay so Angel tell me how did you feel when Ollie confessed to you oh I think I felt like any other woman would but this man right here I love him he's everything to me when I first met him Trust and Believe I won't say that he was my ideal man at first but just after a couple of moments and and then moments turned into weeks and weeks of turns into months it's just he he's everything to me so of course when this information came out I was heartbroken I was like oh my goodness I mean you put this rock on my finger to do this to me yeah we took vows before God and you do this to me I mean so you stop communicating with other men why let me just say this and I want to set the record straight it was okay for me to do that in my ex marriage your first husband allowed you to talk yes he did but it was because I understand that and that's cool that's fine and dandy but at the end of the day the way we came to the relationship I came through cleaning up as I said and the things that I started to do left no interpretation that says that I'm cool yeah well if you talking to your ex it's not just that it's just for women if a man routines change it just it makes you feel a certain way it makes you insecure like what's going on if you normally let's say your day-to-day base you you normally home by six and then your six turn into ten eleven or one and two or three o'clock in the morning you wonder like what's going on what's going on I'm asking you what's going on oh I just did such and such so you're a little confused as to what's going on so excuse me I want to know those intricate details Angel um have you ever cheated on him Point Blank I have never cheated on this fine sexy man I have never no have you ever thought about cheating yes I have you thought about you yes I have okay because I'm a real woman and I'm gonna tell you why I'm a real woman a real woman is is going to be honest and say hey if this man if you feel like this man is out here cheating on you or something is just not right of course you're going to get those moments where you oh you know what maybe I should just maybe because I'm not sure as to what's going on yeah you are a free willed person you like to just do what you want to do sometimes that means that you like to just do things solo but for me as a woman I'm sitting at home with our baby and I'm thinking of what's going on because I'm used to you being at home or you having an explanation you understand what I'm saying I can understand that how has the broken trust affected the relationship and affected you horribly yeah this was my ideal man so for me to be heartbroken in the way that I have been heartbroken I mean for me to even come here like I said I'm telling y'all some stuff to the average man may not tell you all right so this is the thing I appreciate your honesty but but I think what you're looking for by saying that is a reward for your audience you don't get a reward for cheating [Applause] honest that's right some of the things I don't know hold on I'm not I'm not gonna give you a crown for you for you taking vows baby okay you have done an excellent job and I'm proud of if you haven't been cheating any any further I'm proud of you but you're not going to get a reward for being eight years straight with me okay you're not gonna get it okay we've been talking now and I have some of your unhealthy behaviors that I wanted to point out real quick so you cheated in July so it's very recent you've been gaslighting your girl lied about the number of times you cheated that is very incorrect I have only stepped out on my wife one time and that's the one time that I have told her about okay then Angel let's go on to you your unhealthy behaviors because you got some as well here all right holding on to the past relationships Revenge cheating the biggest one for me now is the control him going to the pool hall he should be able to go on his own right because the more that there is this sort of control it means that you're not healing for the mistrust okay the only way you heal from mistrust is by saying Hey listen I'm gonna let you go do what you do but if I see something this time you're not gonna be able to Gaslight me and tell me that I'm not feeling it it's done you understand yes all right now listen um I told you the unhealthy behaviors that I've seen but now you both came here to do one thing which is unlock the phones thank you so Angel it's time to unlock your phone first Ali you brought Angel here because you want to know if she was communicating with a specific boyfriend that was your concern and that's what we looked for and searched for for you correct yes yes all right then well listen we looked up the DMS we looked up your emails we looked up your apps zero DMs one email and one app so we went through all of our DMS we could not find any communication with the specific x that you are looking for there was one email that we found to show that angel is still being a reference for her ex that you were concerned about it doesn't mean that there's anything going on but it does mean that you were a reference for him at some point what was that what is that that's the only thing that we found in the emails are you still in communication with him are you helping him in any way not communication with him and not helping him in any way okay but but I have asked about him well this shows that you're being a reference for a job for him the email show that you are that you are actually do it being a job reference for your ex but that was that I can't remember I honestly can't remember but what I'm saying is I mean I know we've talked about this situation a job reference um I have to look back at that one all right well when it comes down to the apps this is actually a good one it showed that you have now recently deleted all of his contact information on your apps scrum that's right that's right so there is a positive there that's right that is the only communication that is the only information she has on her phone regarding her ex that you were questioning about how does it make you feel now knowing that it's it's I feel good I really I really never that's right I'm never gonna cheat on you because I love you I've been faithful eight years straight I ain't never opened my legs up to nobody but you so I'm not gonna let nobody make me feel like anything less than what I am all right Ollie well now it's time to unlock your phone [Music] we went through your text your email and your photos let's see on text we found zero emails we found zero photos we found so our investigator went through your photos deleted photos photos that you had in the cloud which is where we found two photos that I need you to look at these were photos that were downloaded in February do you know this woman yes you do know who this woman is do you know who this woman is yes okay who is this woman that's his sister this is his sister great great good these are these are sisters well listen you in the clear there brother because the only photos we found were these I love you very much good job all right listen choose ball truth Bob at the moment all right you admitted to cheating we've already talked about this no more about you know like trying to get your crown for being in for cheating all right you don't get to absolve yourself just because you were honest all right the thing is that she has to take her time to heal and to figure out how she's going to trust you again she needs time to heal from the trust that was broken so right now when you're in spaces where she's saying like I don't know what you're doing you got to just Humble Pie and say you know what I gotta do what you're saying I gotta show you that I'm willing to rebuild the trust can you make that commitment to rebuild the trust with your woman to show her like I'll do whatever to show you I'm not gonna make this mistake again I'm doing it anyway now with you angel I need you to understand that it's okay for him to take time and to be alone I understand it's going to be hard as you rebuild the trust but you have to find it in yourself to say you know what if he's showing me the action to show that he's going to be here he's going to do right then you've got to be able to allow him to have his own space and time just like you have your space and time you understand yeah what's going on in your mind right now it don't feel good to be hurt there's a lot of trauma there that you need to heal around and his actions will start to help that healing in your relationship but there's a lot more healing that you're gonna have to do on your own when men cheat or they do something where they can't be honest has nothing to do with you as a woman and I know you know that on the surface but there's still a part of your pain that makes you feel like well why me other people's actions men's actions have nothing to do with the strong beautiful amazing woman you are you were with a man right now who unfortunately stepped out once but I feel like he's on a journey to show you that he loves it he doesn't want to do it again the one thing you do have to take accountability for is that when you feel something trust your gut okay because too many times we start to know something's going on we start to justify it don't justify it all right if you feel something speak up all right that's right I believe in y'all y'all gonna be great thank you yeah y'all a great couple hold on where you going I'll tell you where you're going right here to subscribe and right here to watch more period

Channel: Karamo Show

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Length: 14min 14sec (854 seconds)

Published: Thu Dec 22 2022