Is He A Stranger Or My Father? | KARAMO

I took this DNA test because it was what Lavon wanted here's the backstory I only had a one or two night stand with Leon's mother and we dated maybe twice and two years later she introduced me to my child I was Furious so I was very angry for a while she originally told another man that leavon was his child she was in a relationship with this man but then 2 years later she comes to me and tells me that leavon is my child for the record i' never denied leavon she'd always had full access to me email phone social media as well I was not allowed access to leavon even though the doors were always open for her and didn't not get the reciprocation of what I gave it's been about 15 or so years since the last time I spoke with her she raised her two middle fingers to me it was disturbing for me it still hurts me now because that picture is in my mind as if it happened two minutes ago it really bothered me it's getting to me right now after that I released everything but my heart to her I would accept her her effort but for me to reach out to her that to me was the end why do you have doubts that Ryan is your father um when I was younger My grandmother raised me she showed me this picture of this man and you know I kind of see myself more in that man then I see in you know Ryan um I don't look like him um I was my mom she would tell me that he gave her a hard time because of you know how I look I don't look like his other kids I don't have any of their physical features or anything so you know I feel like I've been on this healing Journey for maybe um internally for like the last year or two and I feel like this is me getting over like the last step in my journey thank you I'm glad you taking a step so did you and Ryan have a relationship at all when you were um no he not that I can remember he he just wasn't there um he wasn't there physically very much he wasn't there emotionally he just was not present at all um and not not enough for me like cuz I'm a mom and you know just just being a parent you know sometimes it's just not enough and I don't feel like it was enough as a child as an adult like ever so when did you fall out of touch with him um maybe when I graduated high school I I went through like you know this I did it without two phase or whatever um and then I think that was the last I actually like really spoke to him um and then shortly after I joined the military and then after about two years I had spoke to him again and then he's like you know what are you doing with your life and I was like well I'm in the military he just was kind of like why couldn't you pick something else and I'm just like you know um it was kind of like you know a eel type thing and I I just I just thought it was thank you we're applauding you for what you appreciate your service you um and I I just was like just because it wasn't what you I don't even know what you wanted me to do but just because it wasn't something that's ideal to you you're just like you just shunned it yeah you disregarded what you do will you try to work things out with him if he is your father um probably not probably not why do you say that just because I know what kind of person he is I don't feel like it's genuine listen everyone I want to hear from your potential father so let's welcome Ryan to the show I don't talk over people and I don't allow people to talk over me okay I'm not talking over you I'm very calm collected okay you don't even deserve that but I'll give it to you then why am I here I don't know cuz I don't know I don't know if you're my dad or not but we gonna find out today okay so the email specifically stated I don't want you in my life I don't want you in my daughter's life and what she doesn't know is that I didn't know she was my child until she she was 2 years old first that's first okay so every time I traveled for my job every time I touched down in New Orleans her house was the first house that I went to to pick her up whatever time I had it was going to be with her three years down the line I'm in her grandfather's house m going to pick her up yeah three years down the line this man tells me stay away from my daughter 3 weeks later I'm traveling back to New Orleans for more business go to her mom's house and her grandmother's in the house upstairs and I hear what is he doing here why is he here okay so whatever Dave told you I was a child I don't know what you're talking about exactly you were a child so from your point of view it sounds as if you're saying that her F her mother side of the family mother granddaughter mother grandmother and grandfather feel as if that this wasn't your child yeah none of my other daughters disrespect me like this were you in your other children's lives yeah okay and any one of them can tell you that she got no different when we were connecting okay I still needed you I I still needed you did you express that you needed me or did you express that I have to tell you that I need you you're my dad you're my dad I know that my daughter needs me just as much as she needs me now and then when she's 26 the fact that you're blaming this on me you're blaming on my mom like how is it our fault take some damn accountability go to therapy go do whatever you need to do but the keep saying I tried when are you going to realize you try and it's not good enough I don't know where you live you don't know where I live like how am I supposed to reach out to you if I don't know where you are do you have access to your sisters no I should be ask you have access to my sister problem you have access to my sister problem you know you know that I talk to Brienne almost every if not every week you could get my number from her but you did not when when when did it cross your mind to say you know what I'mma get this number from Bri so I can contact my daughter are you done go ahead tell me when you did it here's the problem my God so if we're talking about accountability I am your father you are my daughter I owe you I don't owe you nothing there you go you should be there for me like what part are you missing are you missing it is it going over your head I don't have to do I don't oh you you brought me into this world you take care of me I brought my child into this world I take care of her like what are you missing you have another daughter that you brought here today what's her name her name's Brienne Brienne okay then listen everyone Brienne is here today this is your oldest daughter and I want to meet her and get her side of the store so everyone please bring out Brienne over that hi Brienne I can see that you're emotional yes what what's making you emotional this is just really sad to watch I guess um because I can hear equal pain honestly um like I hear my sister say I just wish you would have been there and I hear my dad say that he tried but I guess like he's hurt by whatever could be or shouldn't or would be if he if she is his it's not and although he's never denied her I do think that you know the onus is never on the kid you know I I I and I've told my dad this I've told him over and over again you don't get to stop trying you know did you did you ever decide did you ever decide to take a DN test yourself did you did you take a DNA test before ever think about doing it um yes or no we did 99.999% from what you're saying you didn't know about this that you've confirmed that this is your daughter yeah and that makes you even more wrong and you didn't wait I mean at the end of the day but you asked me a question I'm going to go back to your question you asked me when she before you came out here and I asked her if she want a relationship and she said um probably not um and and knowing that you've known since I was two and it and and if the results are the same why would I want a relationship with you because you've known sh when she says that to me the thing that I hear is someone who's been rejected their entire life doesn't want to get rejected again on the stage so before she gets rejected she's going to make sure that she's going to like protect herself from you I'm good with that if that's where she is I know I am not going to make her I'm not going apologize like that's literally it but but that's when someone's trying to protect themselves from them all you have to do is ensure them that you can trust me that I will be there that I will love you that's what she's screaming out for that's hitting me I have to go over the images the hurt as much as I I got to tell you this before we can go any further I got I I think it's time that we solve this um 30-year DNA outcome this is what's most important right now before we can get to anything else you said you had facts you need the clear answers now because you are a child if this is or not your father so I think this is your moment for you to open this to find out if Ryan is your father or not before I open this I'm just going to let you know that this is not going to change how feel it's not but I need this for myself no I know I'm okay with that and for you to know all these years and then for you to just not try that makes you're a terrible person like you're a terrible person you're not a good dad because how are you going to know this all your life and then yeah just not acknowledge me or my existence it's like I owe you something and I don't owe you anything that's fair so I'm going to open this you should Ryan is Leon's biological father oh my sisters I mean I knew you were my sister um you're very supportive sister thank you I think all of us here can see that yes you probably had some pain that you experienc having you know older adults tell you like you're not wanted you're not around this is not your child but for you to confirm that this is your child and for you to still not fight for her or to be there for her and to treat her differently makes you 100% wrong it does it does she brought you here because somewhere in her heart she does want a relationship yeah somewhere in her heart she does want that and because of the fact that you have not been able to acknowledge your your actions and just give her she said on this stage can you just apologize and you haven't been able to give her that why well as I mentioned you can literally just say you're sorry like you can just say you're sorry okay um as I mentioned there is a lot of demonstration of pain for me my God I can't not acknowledge what this situation has done to me as well okay there there's a stubbornness in you right now and a pride that you got to let go I'm going to let you know right now because if you don't let go of it it's going to the relationship is is already ruined but what's what's happening is with time this could be mended but right now you you dying on this hill is not helping you do you believe that it could be mended the first thing that I said when this producer asked me what was the first thing I I would do when I see her was I said I wanted to hug my daughter I know but that won't be received well right but but can you see why it won't be received well clearly yeah so Leon okay let me apologize to you for these pains that I have caused you and for me I would love for us to have a dialogue so I'm apologizing now I know and before you finish that sentence I'm apologizing now okay let me tell you something you're a great let me tell you something you a great Med everything you have said and done is exactly how it handle it you are exceptional and I'm sorry that you have to be in in between this but I'm also happy that you have a sister that is hearing you and acknowledging this you have your answers and you know but I what is sad for me is that he's always know and I think that's the problem for you you've done an exceptional job through that pain still finding a life and a family of your own so I want to applaud that because that is a strength in you that you have and I think it needs to just be acknowledged that wow you did it and you did it very well and I'm proud of you but I also know that there is a a little girl in there that needs you she needs her dad and she wants her I'm here for her I would change that statement to an action statement and say I will be there for you on Tuesday by calling you and I will make sure every Tuesday I call you I will make sure that I am there on your birthday and I will be there on every birthday because blanket statements of I'll be there for you are not going to do anything for her but action steps will help to build this relationship if he's able to show you action steps will you be would you be open to having a relationship with him yes yes I would are you sure I I I said it I don't want to hug you please I don't want to hug you it's her boundary she gets it the thing that I think is great for you to take away from here is that the fact that she just said that she is willing that is the biggest thing she said she's willing big thing now if you're willing to to do those action steps you know you have a willing daughter but her rejection and her pain is deep so it's going to take time so I wish you the best of luck and I wish you best of luck and I'm glad you got answers okay I'm really happy for you I'm really happy I knew you I wish you best of luck I really do I really do wish you best can't get enough of car then subscribe to our YouTube page right here and check your local listings to watch on your TV

Channel: Karamo Show

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Length: 15min 8sec (908 seconds)

Published: Wed Dec 06 2023