"In My Feelings”- Ebenezer Quaye

[Music] we're gonna start in the word proverbs 22 and 7 and it says the rich rules over the poor and the borrower is servant to the lender it's a quick one you can sit down now for those of you who are taking notes the title for this message is in my feelings I love it cuz I could tell people were in their feelings as I said in my feelings and that's why y'all felt that I caught it these days I tend to be very careful with buzzwords and catchphrases that I use because I have come to understand that the power of what you say affects how you think and who you are death and life is in the power of the tongue and so I take that very seriously literally down to all of the little catch phrases in the buzzwords that I say and there are there are some that come and go and there are a couple that I just I see them and I hear them and I know the sentiment behind them but I can't even fix my lips to say them because I mean like now I can't say that because I don't know what exactly I'm speaking over myself in full and sometimes we say these things and we say them casually and we say them with a sense of humor and we say them when we're joking and and then all of a sudden we don't realize that we've spoken something over us that isn't necessarily true and now we got a problem because then we gotta get serious about that thing so one of the catch phrases me and my wife laugh about all the time is oh gosh it's not that it's no that's the one I'm gonna preach about it's trying to remember oh yes I feel some kind of way I don't know who started that but I've always thought that was the funniest phrase I have ever heard because without question when the person who says I feel some kind of way says it to you even though they say it's some kind of way you know exactly how they feel and I'm like I know how you really feel you know how you really feel let's stop playing around just name the thing already I feel some kind of way about this after you some kind of know you don't feel some kind of weight you're frustrated you're mad you're in disgust whatever you're in love with it I feel some kind of way about her you love her her you're in love with him just say it it's okay I just you know when I get around them I feel some kind of way if you don't name that thing it won't happen stop it as a word in itself and so the the next colloquialism I will jokingly say I'm at war with but we'll discuss it today is I'm in my feelings people love to say and they'll use it to describe being overly sensitive I'm in my feelings right now I'm just I'm in my feelings I just I'm in my feelings and and I hear it so much that I'm kind of curious I'm like what is in your feelings that is so great that you feel the need to be there like do you have table in that mug like is there a couch is like what's happening in this domain know that you just feel the need to be in there and never come out it must be like free Netflix I don't know but people I'm just I'm in my feelings and it will mean an a range of things for any number of feelings people just crawl up in the fillings and I start to hear the phrase more and more and then suddenly for whatever reason it dawned on me why I I can't quite get myself out to say it and it's because of the way it's phrased I'm in my feelings this bottle of water let's say I wanted to be in this bottle of water I just want to go for a swim I don't want to pay for a pool I just want to be in this bottle of water the only way I can get into this bottle of water is to shrink that means I have to take the stature and the size of who I am right now the reality of Who I am right now and I have to shrink it to get in it and I also just happen to be thirsty so if I am now looking at that phrase from this lens that means in order for me to be in my feelings I have to shrink Who I am to get in the feelings and the only reason that that doesn't work is because I am bigger than my feelings I am bigger than all of my feelings I'm bigger than any single feeling by itself but I am especially bigger than all of them combined I am more than my feelings you are more than your feelings why are you saying I'm in my feelings when you can't actually fit yourself in your feelings unless we shrink ourselves God creates us as a huge composite of things thoughts spirit mind feelings and they all come together in alignment with the holy spirit to create this amazing and wondrous incredible thing called you but then we have this phrase or these moments where emotions present themselves in such a way that it overtakes us I will say I have had that feeling I don't know if anybody else has have you ever been in a situation where literally before you can think your emotions just rushing and it's a crazy thing yesterday I was out at the beach with my son and so we're standing in the sand and normally my son he's three years old he his beach experience consists of him looking at the waves and run in another direction that's his idea daddy I want to play in the water I want to play in the water okay let's go to the water No and then he runs away this is his idea playing with the what he playing with he's not gonna go anywhere near he's gonna play with it I said okay son let's go play in the water but this time I said ah we got a plan I said we're gonna stand right here and let the waves hit us so we stood little wave came and hit his toes he thought about moving but then he stopped and then the second wave came I was a little bit above his feet he started giggling that's a guy got him no more running around in circles cuz daddy is tired we're gonna stand right here cuz I need a break and so we stood and the waves start coming in a wave start coming and it come higher and higher and higher and higher until eventually at some point I had to grab him and snatch him out of the way because the waves were starting to come about chest high the interesting thing was we weren't actually moving we stood right in the same place but here's the interesting thing about waves you know our emotions are just like these waves emotions don't sit don't stand or sit still because in order to have a wave there needs to be movement emotions are always in flux they're always moving they're coming and they're going they come in waves little waves medium waves big waves tidal waves tiny little puddles they're always coming and going these are how our emotions work and what I found so fascinating was that as we stood err we didn't have to do anything the ground the footing the sand that we were on was not a permanent thing it was not stable see when you are on ground that is stable it doesn't matter what wave of emotions comes to hit you it cannot draw you into them and then find you with the waves over your head but what we were standing on was not stable it was sand and so as we stood the waves would crash and here's the best part we didn't realize it we weren't even paying attention I had to look and I said what's going on because I'm not walking towards that thing but because eventually I started to pay attention I could start to sense when the waves were going to get bigger if we pay attention to the horizon of our experience if we are looking over how things affect us on a day-to-day basis eventually you can look out over it and you say okay I think that's going to be a big wave instead of waiting and then having a massive wage wave catch you off guard you can look out over the horizon you see the little ripple because it always starts that way that's why you don't move if it was a massive wave you would see it from afar and be like oh no I'm out of here and just dip out but it starts as a little ripple as far away that's a cute little ripple why so nice look at the water shimmering ah okay it's good closer Oh let's get bigger oh oh that's really big oh oh okay I'm out this this is not for me that's when it's time to go but that's because we're paying attention big waves of emotion don't catch you unless you're off guard waves don't overtake you and overflow you unless you turn your back on them and so what I saw was that these emotions these waves as they come after as they come at us we have to be attentive to the environment around us because the environment will tell us when a wave is coming you will know when a wave of incredible anger is coming it's not going to run up on you you just kinda have to pay attention to your environment and say wait a minute these are the things that this emotion and I see them laid out in front of me I get up in the morning I don't get up in the morning on time I know I'm supposed to get up at 7:00 I got up at 8:00 the minute I get out the bed I'm already mad I have my feet have hit the ground mad because I know what time I was supposed to get up but I didn't just that one thing and now the lens of man is on your face and everything that happens afterward makes you mad you ever been in that mood your day starts off wrong and it doesn't matter what people say to you like good morning well god bless you then hey would you like a cookie I didn't know I had no idea hey would you like to go out to lunch your growling at everybody and people offering new things people trying to say good morning to you people make eye contact what are you looking at me you're a human being and you're standing right in my face but it's interesting how these waves show up and if we don't pay attention they'll overtake us they will draw us in they will erode what we're standing on if it isn't solid now if you're standing on your identity and you're standing on who you are and you're standing on the Word of God and you're standing on who God has called you to be and you're standing on your promise and you're standing on your purpose and you are standing on your destiny and you are standing on God's plan for you when your emotions show up and they try to overtake you you say oh no no no no no I'm bigger than that that's when you start commanding waves to cease that's when you say peace and be still and waves bow down because you know the power and the presence of who is on the inside of you and so I'm looking at this whole thing about how were in our feelings and in our feelings and and and it and it troubles me a little bit because I don't want to be inside of something that I'm actually bigger than because now I'm out of order which brings me to our verse now you're wondering why did I pick this verse which is normally a verse reserved for things of financial natures and yet here I am talking about being your fillings it's interesting I actually want to look at this from the second half of the verse first come with me on this I'm gonna come back to the first half - I want to look at the section where it says and the borrower is servant to the lender I think this is a financial principle we all can understand very easily but I want to apply this to what we are talking about today it's interesting because emotions cannot take you over unless you let them okay yeah that hit that's okay y'all gotta Amen that I feel you emotions do not overtake you unless you let them here's how emotions are temporary can we all agree on that all right so an emotion it doesn't matter what emotion it is it could be anger it can be frustration they can be happiness they can be joy it is temporary it is fleeting it is temporal it will be here and it will go so here is the emotion on the inside of us we have the presence and the power of God greater is He that is in me than he who is in the world so I have the power of God on the inside of me I have the power of eternity on the inside of me God has placed a measure of the power of today tomorrow and yesterday and all of time on the inside of me the word says it so I believe it greater is He that is in me than he who is in the world so he is in me so eternity is on the inside of me by the power of God and then this feeling shows up that is temporary and tries to take me over how can that which is temporary take over that which is eternal and this is why I say we have to allow it to take place in order for it to happen so this feeling shows up no matter what feeling it is and it says hey I need you to do something for me and this is where the second part of the verse comes into place the borrower is servant to the lender what your emotions do is they lend you can write this down emotions lend you the authority to demote your mind and promote your feelings say it again emotions lend you the authority to demote your mind and promote your feelings any situation where your emotions start to overtake you is usually a dire or an extreme situation the hard part about being in dire and extreme situations is the hardest thing to do is to think we take for granted how hard it is to think it is very easy to feel it is very hard to think that is why we will pay to feel but we pay people to think feelings are easy you can sit there and a feeling will just come over you you don't have to do no work but thinking thinking in the midst of feelings thinking in the midst of stimuli and circumstances thinking is hard work and we do it all of the time whether we are aware of it or not and it is taxing it can be draining and so now this situation shows up it's hard enough just to think to get yourself through a normal day then an extraordinary day shows up that requires more of your thought than you really feel like using and here's when your emotions show up and say you know what I can do for you I am going to lend you the authority to put me in charge let me run this next five minutes put your thoughts to the side and let me run this next three four five minutes you'll feel so much better emotions are like the the bank robber that shows up to rob you and think of your thoughts as the security guard and they run up to the security guard and say hey you know what I know you're tired you've been on a been on on ship for about 2535 straight hours you're exhausted I know why don't you just take a break just take a break I'll take care of everything when you come back it'll be all right and then your end because we and listen this happens to all of us we get weary let me not sit here and lie to you we get tired we get weary and that's when emotions show up to overtake you it is not when you are in your right mind because when you're in your right mind they have no authority and they know this your emotions wait for you to come out of your mind because in order to get into your feelings you have to be out of your mind and so your emotions just lay in the cut and wait I see the stress rising I see the situation coming I know watch this I know you're a breaking point and it's coming I know you're about to break I know that letter is about to be opened and it's about to say oh this happened to your finances and that's when you're gonna break here I come just go wait for it I know that letter that you were waiting for that you thought was an exception but actually as a rejection is coming and I'm gonna wait for you to open that letter and the minute you open that letter here comes frustration here comes anger here comes down here comes fear just sitting there waiting like yeah yeah yeah yeah go ahead go ahead open it open it open it open it because the minute you open it they're all gonna show up to your door doo doo doo doo doo let us in let us in and let go of your thoughts so that you can stop working let your mind just chill and you'll feel better just put that thing down and let your emotions wash over you here's the crazy part about it it says that the borrower is slave to the lender so when you borrow this authority which by the way is yours how can you borrow something that is yours this is the ultimate hustle it's like selling you the car you already own it shows up you borrow this authority that's already yours and you feel the relief of not having to think and you mistake the relief for not having to think for peace oh I feel so at ease I don't have to think about this anymore here's the irony when you let your emotions take over and run wild and they leave because they will they are temporary your emotions leave and then you're in a whole mess and the only way to get out of the mess is to think but now you have to think to get yourself out of a bigger mess than you were in before the emotion showed up see you get charged interest emotions don't tell you that they charge you they don't tell you that they will let you borrow this authority to let your thoughts down but they charge you the repercussions and your future it is a cost and this is how the borrower becomes slave to the lender this is how we become slave to our emotions because our emotions show up and we get so used to relax saying and not allowing our thoughts to do the work they're supposed to do that we get addicted to that feeling of relaxing and we mistake it for peace and now the next situation comes up and what are your emotions do well the last time you let me run things you got a good night of sleep now you woke up to 10 times the problem but you got that good night of sleep so let's do it again and again and again and we find ourselves in a cycle of constantly borrowing from our emotions to allow our minds to be at rest the irony is if we use our minds to create the time and create the space to allow the holy spirit to do the work and give us the revelation of what is on the inside of us we will have the real peace that is beyond all understanding and that will last longer than any emotion that shows up but this is hard I'm talking about it because I lived it and we'll have to live it again I want to make sure we break this cycle of borrowing literally allowing emotion to lend us authority that we already have first of all emotions are not supposed to run you you are supposed to employ your emotions oh five people clap you feel that later it's good it's good it's good your emotions are not supposed to run you your emotions are not supposed to tell you what to do they should not dictate your actions they should not dictate your motives they do not dictate your identity your emotions are a temporary thing at best they suggest God has the final say your emotions just makes suggestions see y'all got me jumping forward in my notes so we talk about being the borrower that the borrower being slave to the lender I want to make sure we are not slave to our emotions so I have a couple of concepts a couple of principles that I want us to have in mind so that when it shows up we have things to work with the first thing we need to do is make sure we restore the order here's what I mean by us restoring the order to be in your feelings is to be out of order when we're in our feelings whatever those feelings are we're out of order because there is no feeling that was meant to operate on its own somebody's saying love but what about love all I got is love all I need is love baby I got you you got me we got love we don't need to think we don't need to count we don't need a plan girl we got love boy we got love we don't make it we gonna be all right I said this is my wife yesterday love is great have a plan no plan it won't last you won't have it will be incomplete love it'll be love and we've been in love every all you know Allah is love is incomplete you know is incomplete it's just a piece of what God has spoken for you but we get in a place where all we want is just a piece to have some peace so we don't have to think and then that love wears off and the prayer begins God get me out of this why did you send this person into my life how could you let me do this God why you do me so dirty I can't believe this happening oh my god God help me he's like my thoughts are not your thoughts about ways are not your ways so we have to make sure we restore the order of things we can't let any emotion have its own way with us and restoring the order is consistently remember remembering he who is in us is greater than he who is in the world I have the power of eternity in me so nothing temporary can rule over me as long as we continue to wrap our minds around this over and over again because the next trick that comes is emotion will show up and rush you so hard it will try to get you to forget what is on the inside of you and so now you are in your feelings with nothing to fight with and the authority that your emotions have now taken is a false authority and it is out of order and it's chaotic have you ever felt this before you literally feel out of control your feelings are all over the place you're happy one minute you're sad the next minute you're frustrated then you feel overwhelming joy and overwhelming sadness and you're all over the place and it's because the sand that which you are standing on is eroding because the waves that the emotions just keep coming and instead of standing on something that is not a full you got stand on his word you have to stand on his revelation you have to stand on his promise that is firm it stays under your feet and when you stand the waves come and they go and they come and they go but you are still standing in the same place and that's what allows you to walk away so the first thing I want to make sure we do is restore the order I cannot enter into something that is smaller than I am I refuse to and I refuse to shrink for it so after we restore this order understanding that the Holy Spirit is always at work on the inside of us always at work I feel that always at work on the inside of us just because we don't feel the Holy Spirit at work does not mean the Holy Spirit is not working the Holy Spirit does not work according to our feelings the Holy Spirit works according to the Lord God is not waiting for you to feel good to bless you God blesses you and you feel good this next thing I've discussed a couple of emotions and I want to make sure that we take the stigma off of a few things our second concept there are no there are no good emotions and bad emotions we won't work that one there are no good emotions or bad emotions there are checked emotions and unchecked emotions because we label emotions as good and bad happy is good angry is bad joy is good frustration is bad according to the word in Ecclesiastes there is a time for everything and that includes every emotion now as much as I've talked about emotions I don't want you to think I'm bad-mouthing them you need them they tell you what's going on they are a suggestion but at the same time we have to keep remembering that there are no good or bad emotions just emotions that we haven't checked and emotions that are running wild there is not a single emotion that should run wild in your life yes that includes happiness and joy let me break that one down because someone wants to stay happy and feel happy all the time I need to break this down to you that's not the way you're supposed to be I just hurt somebody's feelings you felt that the thing with happiness just like all feelings there's a season there's a time there's a moment there's an age when God does something and he blesses us of course we want to celebrate that thing and when we celebrate it we have that feeling of joy and of happiness but here is the interesting thing if we're not careful if we have a history in our former brokenness of a broken way of celebrating things that give us joy we will celebrate the godly thing in an ungodly way so this happiness that is unchecked because we have not consulted God with what to do with the blessing that he has given us this happiness will have us cursed the blessing as we celebrate it okay that hurt that hurt that hurt that hurt that hurt that hurt that hurt God blesses you O Lord I want increase J okay he gives you a brand new car of course God can give you more than that I know he has way more levels than that but let's keep it where it is we're in LA people sit in traffic and everybody wants to feel like they own a new car God gives you a new car you say oh my God thank you for this car and then you take the car and you go get the friends who you know don't know how to act in your car and you invite them into your car and you let them drive your car with you in it while you're all celebrate then they put that car into a wall you was happy you celebrated but you didn't celebrate the way God would have you celebrate that which he has given you see even in the midst of the emotion it doesn't matter which emotion it is it could be anger it could be sadness they can be frustration it can be discussed it could be joy they could be happiness in the midst of it God how do you want me to deal with this emotion what do you want me to do with this emotion and it counts for all of them I love that in a word and so it's the word that we quote often be angry but do not sin it's Ephesians 4 we talk about all the time be angry but do not sin be angry but don't sin and I'll talk about anger as well happiness is dangerous when there's no context happiness is dangerous when there's no direction happiness is dangerous when there's no input from God God I'm feeling great about what you gave me tell me how to celebrate you with it I'm not gonna get so happy about what god bless it about what he's giving to me that I then forget to check in with him on how to choose and what to do with it and the same thing with anger people are negative about anger here's the thing anger has its place now I'm not saying it needs to rule you and it's it's crazy to me that of all the emotions anger is the only one that has management there's no frustration management class there's no happiness management course anger is the only one you've got to have management but anger has its place because when something happens to you when you feel like something has happened to you that is an injustice you have a right to be angry and it is out of order to pretend that you are not angry when you know that you are angry and God knows that you are angry but it says do not sin I love this to sin meaning to mr. mark be angry but don't miss the mark emotions have their own mark they have their own goal nobody knows what they are they come they go nobody has nobody can figure out where an emotion it's coming from or why it's going where it's going it just comes and goes emotions have their own art anger has its own mark God has given you a vision for who you are where you're going and what you are to do that is your mark so when you feel angry you say Lord I feel angry now how can I take this anger and make it work for me so that I'm still hitting my mark I planned this vacation I said oh my god I can't wait to go on vacation all I got to do is work two more weeks take that paycheck I'm going on vacation I got the pictures on the gram I got the pictures on my vision board I'm gonna be sitting under a palm tree with a coconut and I'm a sip it and I'm gonna love it it's gonna be great and then you go to work and you get laid off you don't hurt your vacation is gone you planned that all week you plan it all year and now that vacation is gone you know what you are right now that's right and there's no time to pretend that the joy of the Lord is with you don't pretend that the joy of the Lord is my strength you just lost your job hold on can you just process that before we fast-forward and that's a real thing that we do we cannot skip the stages of emotions because when we skip the stages of emotions they're running us you feel it tell God about it God why would this happen to me and then it becomes now I'm frustrated and I'm angry and God says but now I can work with you I need you to take that frustration and that anger and channel it into creativity to create an opportunity for yourself so that no one can hire you and no one can fire you and instead I'm going for on vacation for seven days and six nights you can vacation three months out of the year because you pay yourself and you own your land and you own your business and you can employ other people and pay for their vacations and bless them too you mad do some winning frustrated do something with it now start thinking get out of your feelings and get into your thoughts if you channel anger right it can do some things you put somebody up against the wall they get real creative I'm all for joyful fighting I get that but that angry fighting when you know something has come up against you that doesn't have the right to step to you that's the fight and that's where your victory will be but you will not have victory if you live in the anger you take that anger you say hey anger come here I got a job for you I got some motivation I need that I have a fire that needs to be lit you come here light this fire I got things to do I got a purpose to go I got a destiny to unfold in front of me you feel joyful you feel blessed by what God does for you you are in an amazing state of bliss and happiness good god I love this feeling of happiness this true feeling of happiness because I know you made a promise and you put a word on my life and that word came to pass now what do I do with this happiness oh I know I get another word I don't get so happy that I leave the word I don't get so happy that I lose the process I was in the prayer closet fervently for seven years and then that thing came to pass and it came to pass and it blessed me and now all of a sudden I don't know God I can't get in a prayer closet I'm so distracted I can't find my word my app doesn't work Google Maps won't get me to church anymore really really don't blame that on Google Maps you've been going to church for seven years you know the route you know the shortcuts to don't lie to yourself but this is what happens when we don't allow our emotions to rule us instead we employ them with the understanding there are no good emotions and bad emotions just emotions that are checked and unchecked this third piece I want to leave you with your emotions can suggest but they cannot justify or confirm your actions this will save your life you never want to do something and the only justification you have is an emotion this is tough for us to understand because we feel all the time I got a feeling about this I should do it I feel this therefore I should do when in fact sometimes you feel and you feel because God is trying to put your finger on something that's happening on the inside of you so instead of doing something on the outside of you take the moment for introspection and look on the inside of you what is this thing I'm feeling why am I feeling it and what can i how can I use it to focus me on what God has for me nothing you do in life should be justified by only a feeling because feelings were never meant to justify anything and feelings don't confirm anything you can feel good about a thing that's cursing you oh pop a couple eyes open with that one you can feel good about a thing it feels good listen how I said it it feels good not that it is good God has not revealed to me that it is good or for my good or is his good it just feels good and the thing is chopping you off at the knees I do it with food I do y'all know me I love a good cookie warm baked chocolate chip cookie one two four five seven they feel great til I step on a scale and all of a sudden I'm accountable for the thing that felt good but is not good for me all of a sudden my blood sugar is through the roof and everything hurts emotions will have you sacrifice your future for the gratification of now so emotions can make suggestions that's fine but they should never justify any of our actions especially major major moves a really leery of people who make moves based on emotions like don't make business decisions based on your emotions don't make financial decisions based on your emotions and this is important don't make relationship decisions based on your emotions that's not even in my notes you can have all of the feelings in the world for somebody and they're not for you you feel it every time you get around them you feel something there's chemistry between us I just feel the sparks I see the stars I lose my mind when I'm around them well you said it you lost your mind and you're cool with that that's the hardest thing to have a friend say that to you like man every time I get her around him I just lose my mind you're like ooh how can I break this to you that's not cool because at some point when a la work is wears off you got to think cannot make decisions based solely on emotions because there are people around you that you don't like but they have a seed of your destiny on the inside of them because they are a challenge to your faith and they are a challenge to your communication skills they are a challenge to your bridge building they are a challenge to expand your understanding there are a challenge to making you more flexible and adaptable so that you can work with people you don't like so that you can do the things that you do like your emotions can't dictate and it cannot justify this last thing I want to leave us with because I've spent all this time I only talked about half of the verse I didn't forget the first app it says the rich rules over the poor this we have an understanding from a financial level about says the rich rules over the poor I love this now this word rich at the root of this word rich it means to accumulate and to grow this doesn't say anything about money it says to accumulate and to grow this is where poor just means destitute or in need so a better translation of this is the rich that which accumulates and grows rules over the poor that which is destitute or in need the last concept I want to leave us with is growth rules over need watch this growth rules over need why is this important as long as you continue to grow in the things of God as long as you continue to grow in the Word of God in the revelation and the understanding of who God has spoken for you to be you will not need your emotions to justify who you are in any given moment when you have the understanding that all I have to do so that an emotion does not overcome me is continue to grow you cannot be ruled by your emotion because here's what happens you're in a perpetual state of growth you are committed to growing every time you read the Word of God it says something new about you it reveals another piece of your identity and you grow in stature it says in the word that as Jesus was in the temple and he studied he grew in favor and in stature so when you are committed to studying and being in the Word of God and what it says to you you'll grow in stature so the emotion shows up and it does not matter what size of the emotion the emotion shows up and you look at that thing and you say I'm bigger than you because I'm continuing to grow as it is approaching you you're growing it can't possibly overtake you if you continue to grow you want to master this thing you want to employ your emotions keep growing keep growing growth rules over need you won't have to borrow authority to not have to think or to relax from your emotions when you continue to take the authority that's on a be inside of you and grow never be stuck with the same idea of your identity for more than a season you are a living growing thing God has made you so masterfully and wonderfully he did not call you to stay exactly the same not even for a day you should be different after this word I see bigger people right now I see emotions bowing down right now somebody came in in their feelings and they just put their feelings under their feet I see it right now I'm looking right at you I see it and now it's time for us all to not just see it for a minute or see a forward but see it all the time and this is important when we do the things we do we never want to be labeled by an emotion oh here's what I mean you ever have that person who's in your circle and the first thing you think about them is an emotion that's how you describe them you're like Ralph Oh angry Ralph John oh you mean mad John frustrated Bobby and that's a lot of syllables but you can't help but say frustrated Bobby because that's how you know Bobby he's always frustrated this isn't good you never want to be labeled by an emotion because then you are assigning a state over a being you are literally telling somebody or somebody might even say this about you don't accept it if it comes towards you it is not the truth it is a lie put that thing under your foot but you never want to be defined by an emotion because emotions come and go you have the power of eternity in you when somebody labels you by an emotion and they only know you by an emotion their leader literally squeezing you into an identity that does not fit you I don't want to just be happy pastor ebenezer I'm bigger than that God has put more dimensions to me than that because if everybody assumes I'm happy on the time people come at you crazy because they think you'll always be happy and then you got to show them listen I'm a nice person I have the joy of the Lord but I have the spirit of David [Applause] and you can come to the crib and you can see all the Giants heads on my wall to prove it don't let the smile fool you or vice versa people won't approach you because they think you're angry all the time opportunities will pass you by because people have associated a a temporary feeling and watch this they have made it and have proclaimed it as a permanent state over you and we can't do that not after today no no no no no no no don't let anyone ever assign an emotion over your identity and we also have to make sure we don't do that for others as well because we rob ourselves by looking at somebody in a one-dimensional way meanwhile God has created them with multiple dimensions and it's one of those other dimensions that we haven't discovered yet that's going to bless us growth rules over need the best weapon we have against our and our emotions becoming bigger than we are is to just keep growing rehearse this thing say it to you I laid out these four principles and I'll say this and then we're gonna go the first was to restore the order the second there are no good emotions or bad emotions just checked and unchecked the third your emotions can suggest but not justify or confirm the fourth growth rules over need is the last thing I'm gonna leave you with and then we're gonna go now I've said all of this and maybe some of us are in their feelings a little bit right now but I want to leave you with this it's a plan but understand something we all have moments where our emotions get the best of us everybody including me I've had moments where my emotions got the best of me but what I have learned is that when I continue to reinforce these principles those moments become fewer and far between when people learn to surf they don't take their board and run out into the biggest 200-foot wave they can find and just go for it they surf first off they learn how to balance then make it on a little baby waves I don't care how old you are you could be on a baby waves with little baby kids it doesn't matter you're on a baby waves accept it you get on the baby waves and you get it know in the medium waves and you're comfortable then you get out on bigger waves and get out on big waves I'm saying all of this to say you can practice these things before this huge wave of emotion tries to rush up on you study the little ripples and waves in your life right now study the little blips on the inside of you the little hint of anger the little hint of joy the little hint of happiness a little hint of frustration and apply these things right now because what happens is when the moment hits you will be able to use it and be quicker about it the more often you do it you will stay in your mind long enough for the feeling to pass and we get better and better and better and better until eventually that thing comes we don't even bother dealing with it like nope I saw you from fifty miles away I'm out of here I am not standing here to let this come and overtake me this is not my place the more we do this with all of the little emotions we have it prepares us for the big emotions that are coming because if we don't practice this and we become accustomed to having our emotions take us over that's when our emotions become our identity and people will see that and speak it over you when it shouldn't be I don't want anybody to be labeled by that I just I feel that so strong you're too great that's you're too great God has put too much treasure on the inside of you your seed is too precious to allow it to not grow because in a weed known as emotion has become entangled in it and is trying to choke your identity out you're better you're bigger you're bigger you're bigger you're bigger you're bigger say it to yourself until you cannot stand hearing it because eventually you will you will acknowledge it and become it you are bigger you are bigger you are bigger so I'm done rule over your emotions employ your emotions so that they do not have rule over you and you will feel so much better let's stand my goodness I am over please excuse me as we talked about feelings and being in your feelings I want to take this time to address a few things and to have people come to this altar that we may do it together in a house in a spirit of togetherness if you have been the person who has allowed their feelings to run them your feelings make your decisions for you watch this people use the word your impulsive if you know you've been that person or have had those moments or you find that your emotions at critical times when you need to make critical decisions come to you before your thoughts sleep come on down and let's break that off of you come on down let's break that off of you come on down we're gonna restore this order right here and right now come on down come on down emotions will not rush you again without a plan as others are coming down I also want to call down those of you who have been labeled unfairly by one emotion people have literally associated one specific emotion to you and you feel not only trapped but you feel like you're starting to wonder if this thing really is all I am Who am I speaking to you right now you're starting to literally wonder is frustrated really all I am because I am frustrated all the time and all people say is that I'm frustrated and then no one comes around me because I'm frustrated and that makes me even more frustrated whoever you are if that one emotion has labeled you come on down we will break that label off of you we will tear that label off of you and allow God to reveal the rest of who you are to you come on down online audience you come down where you are I've got you - I got you - last group of people if you know you are ready to begin a journey with God where he reveals to you who you are before your feelings do if you want to start that journey where his word rules over your feelings encounter after encounter day after day season after season come on down and start this journey come on down let's start today right here right now his word above your feelings come on down if you want to commit to that life come on down take your authority is here at this altar come on down take your authority it's here at this altar thank you thank you for coming come on down [Applause] Heavenly Father we thank you that you've allowed the mental of authority over our emotions to fall upon us today you have equipped us you have spoken to us you have shown us O God that when we are plugged into you and committed to growing our emotions serve the purpose that you reveal to us and not what they would reveal to us so Heavenly Father right now we lay down every label we lay down every designation anything that has limited our identity to an emotion we take that chain off of us and we leave it here at this altar and we crush it under our feet we accept the fullness of who you have called us to be you have said we are an incredible wonder that you've placed a seed on us that is meant to grow an identity on the inside of us that is meant to be revealed and we lay hold of your identity over an emotion or a label right now and we say thank you God because from this moment forward we will not allow a word to be spoken over us we will not allow an motion or a declaration to be spoken over us that is not the fullness of who you have said we are we seal this in Jesus name Amen amen amen amen amen amen amen amen amen [Applause] [Music]

Channel: ONE | A Potter's House Church

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Length: 58min 16sec (3496 seconds)

Published: Sun Oct 13 2019