I'm Scatter Brained and Don't Know What Career to Pick!

[Music] how can i help you today so i'm calling um thank you first off for taking my call it's really exciting i've been thinking about calling you for a while yeah yeah so i finally got the courage to do so well you're gonna do great thank you so currently i'll just give you a little rundown i'm working full time i have a daughter she's almost 2 years old my husband's also working full-time i work in a hospital which is very unforgiving with our time with this whole coronavirus thing that's going on we have been our daycare has been stripped of us so my husband's company is being incredibly uh generous and helping us out with him being able to work remote but my company on the other hand is just it's they're not willing to budge um we're coming into september now uh next month where we're going to be losing somebody who's going who has been helping us with some of the daycare um just because she has to go back to work and unfortunately we're kind of put in a crossroads so it's i'm also not very happy with um the type of the line of work that i'm doing um i just i don't love it um the company i work for is great as far as pay and benefits but other than that that's pretty much it um so you know for me i i look at my husband's company and i'm like wow that's amazing they help us out you know as far as allowing him to work remote i would love to be in a position like that but i also like to be at work so it's been kind of like jogging my mind as to well what do i do from here i have a slew of things i would love to do my husband is so supportive and he's like hey steph whatever it is that you want to do i support you 100 however he also knows that i'm kind of scatterbrained when it comes to what exactly i want to do with my life in my career um so that's that's basically why i'm calling well let's let's so so let's do this you know what our focus is today is to see the clues to see the patterns to see the similarities in this slew of things you would love to do i love that you said slu by the way very people this is great that's what it is yeah i love it okay so taking a stab at it instead there's so many of them yeah i want you to think for a second all right now literally i want you right now to run your mind through the slew of things so i have a list actually that i follow how long is the well how long is the list um well there's like let me see probably 10 key points oh my gosh okay so now right so oh no well i'm gonna i've never done this before where i've had that long of a list but i'm gonna write right now in my moleskin your list give me the 10. okay so public speaking is number one um writing blogging podcasting helping people financial coaching something that uses my creativity i love running as a hobby hold on a second you're getting so fast financial coaching uh what was after that something that can use my creativity okay what type of creativity are you talking about um like writing i love to write oh okay we already got that one down there so that's good i'm gonna draw that one up there okay keep going um i like to run as a hobby yeah we're not worried about hobby we're gonna take hobby off the list because you can run no matter what you do for work you can always run i understand what i'm saying but but i do i totally get it but i get you gave me a clue there we'll maybe get to that keep going okay um something that allows me to be partial remote and something that i can still be in the field i think being something that has that uh is really what is that is that is that about not being stuck at the desk but being around people yeah so i like being in the field i like getting away from my house sometimes i mean i don't think working from home is the best option you know um full time but i definitely you know i i really want to find something that has a work life balance okay good like i said i have a two-year-old and i commute two hours to and from work every day oh gosh yeah you can't keep that up now listen it's really important that we we're not going to talk about that anymore but i want you to understand that that is a very key component and that is not addressing what you will do it's addressing how you will do it make sense okay absolutely so we want to figure out what's the work that stephanie wants to do then we go well how does she want to do it and we know you don't want to be stuck at home all the time you don't want to necessarily be stuck in the office okay keep going we should be close here yes i would love to work with animals and the other thing is help homeless or low-income families um help to gain financial stability okay all right is that it that's it all right now what we've got here is a really good list of clues okay so right out of the gate number one and two tell me what i think you're really passionate about doing this is defined as work we love and i think you love being verbal you love communication when you say public speaking and writing slash podcasting that is the performer that's just there's nothing wrong with that that's how i am you are very verbal you're very sharp you're very put together here on the phone even though you're slight bit nervous you can't tell and so you enjoy that you enjoy the pressure of coming up with content and delivering to an audience yes or no i do i love it okay so number three is helping people this is where we've got to dig because this is the answer to mission talent passion mission talent's what you do best i'm assuming that all the things you listed out you're pretty good at yes all right great so we didn't spend any time on that i knew that but i want their audience who's new to the show to hear this so then we've you've been listing out the things you love to do work that would really fire your soul up now now we got to go to pat to mission which is the result of your work all work creates results so we want to focus on a mission and the way we do that is we ask who are the people that stephanie most wants to help what's the problem or need or want or desire that they have that she really connects to and then what's the solution or solutions to the the need or the desire that she gets most fired up about providing are you tracking with me still i am yeah all right now you know the answer to this i want you to say it and i don't want you to try to make it perfect i want performer stephanie to go away and i want the heart behind the performance to reveal itself right now who are the people you most want to help the people i would love to help is other women um something along the lines of being in domestic relationships like domestic violence relationships um overcoming that and also other working moms who are struggling with work-life balance okay so that's the that's the problem you want to help solve so we know it's women but then you then you went down folks i want you to follow along how simple this exercise is for you she said i want to help women who are struggling with domestic violence or have struggled with it and i want to help moms who feel like they're overwhelmed with all the stuff all right absolutely so what's the solution what solution is it writing and speaking giving them content that is both um informative and inspiring um i would love to do something like that i'm asking you i didn't mean to put that in your head i'm saying is that what you want to do because i'm going back to what you i'm going back to the work you love to do which is to speak and to write and to create yes so everything i ever tell my husband is i would love to do like some kind of a motivational speaking type of role and he's like well steph you know well there you go you know baby steps right yeah so we don't just that's right you don't just start as a motivational speaker well we started and that's where i'm i'm sorry go ahead well i'm just gonna tell you you know where you get started on this right now is in your zip code okay so the first place i write about in the proximity principle is where you are the place where you are most people feel you got to move somewhere to go somewhere in your career and you don't so in your zip code stephanie where are the women that are dealing with domestic abuse where are those moms that are stressed out where are they gathering whether it's churches community centers community centers i can't talk centers or online socially right so that's where the podcast and social media comes in you know it the old the old line from one of my favorite movies of all time field of dreams says if you build it they will come right and you've got to build it and those women will come to you so you start really small start volunteering at your church or whatever wherever you do life find the women that are in that in that need area and you've defined very clearly two needs where are those women hanging out how do i find them in one socket rhode island and we start there right and you start the podcast and who cares how many people are listening to it to start you start start locally local guests if you can get some national guests great start blogging start writing about what you've experienced because my guess is you have a very personal connection to domestic violence i do yes okay right from your right from your experience okay yeah see you know my problem is that i had started blogging about a year ago and i took it all down i was like this is stupid nobody wants to read it this is just dumb um and i i've been thinking about it since and i'm like you know who cares if people don't like it like you like it somebody's out there who's gonna well wait a second stephanie are you writing that content for me to stumble upon and read and give you a compliment i was probably writing for somebody else instead of just being able to write for myself let me ask you the question again are you writing that content for ken coleman to stumble across it and then send you a note on facebook and go really well done i love your sentence structure really compelling not at all so listen to me listen to me stephanie who are you writing that for i don't know no you do no you do stephanie who are you writing a blog post about domestic violence for who do you want to read it for other women who have been through this yes you are writing for the woman who is being abused that's who you're writing it for not from not for the rest of us right we live in such a world of hate and it's so easy to get caught up in it i know but you know what yeah you got to remember who you're writing for yeah so true and you got a right to touch the heart of women that are in a really destructive situation right all right stephanie so you know who and you know where they are you need to start helping them now and then start creating content to help those people locally and keep doing it and don't stop doing it and then the growth and the platform and the audience and the the excellence will all take care of itself but you got to start doing it now and you got a supportive husband who is behind you and we're going to do this on the side you're going to stay in the hospital job that you can't stand because now you realize it's your foundation for the future all right absolutely hey stephanie listen to me i really believe in you and i'm glad you called and i took a long time to i know i'm long-winded on these calls i'm just gonna call it out you youtubers are going gee whiz he went nine minutes with the first guy in 12 minutes maybe you're not thinking about it and i just brought your attention to it i don't care because stephanie listen to me let me tell you why i took so long with you what you're doing is literally going to save women's lives well that just gave me goosebumps so thank you well but that's the truth and i believe that from the core of my being so you better get about doing it and i want to hear back from you when you start doing it i sure will i'll let you know stephanie you matter you have what it takes thank you thank you so much for taking it michael you bet that's why we do it folks

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Length: 12min 31sec (751 seconds)

Published: Sat Sep 12 2020