I'm Always Asked, "How Do I Follow My Dreams?"

if you know someone who's quit on their dream you know the hard reality the adversity was greater than their love the adversity was greater than their love for their family they sold their family out it's the hard truth I ain't gonna sell out my family there ain't any word game any adversity any obstacle anything you can put in front of me is going to get me to sell my family up the river and that's exactly what you're doing when you quit now by the way you can course correct you can readjust you can redirect you can start over but when you quit and lay down entirely in your life you have said you don't love your family enough you don't love yourself enough that this obstacle is bigger than that most of you are afraid to get a big Vision because you think you're going to miss it and then you're afraid to really pursue it and Chase it because you're afraid you'll fail you'll never do anything for yourself but you'll do stuff to achieve your vision and you'll do stuff to make other people happy what I recommend you do is once you get that vision is you link your love for other people to that vision and dream because as long as you tell yourself I love these people more than I'm afraid that this dream won't happen I love these people more than I'm worried about the obstacles and the roadblocks I love my family my love is greater than anything that will get in the way many many times I wanted to quit and I would remind myself I love my More Than This obstacle I love my family Morgan I'm afraid I love my family More Than This adversity I will love my family longer and it will endure far past this problem and once I attach my love to the dream the people I love to the dream I became a pretty Unstoppable Force because there was no cop out [Music] hey it's Ed my lad I just want to thank you for being here and I would ask you to please subscribe to the show if you just click the Subscribe button here I would really appreciate it it helps the show grow so we can get even more successful guests on the program to help you at the same time if you're subscribed you're going to get access to the programs before anybody else in the world gets access to them so if you would click subscribe right here thanks so much all right welcome back to the show everybody so grateful that you're here with me today today's question was very simple Ed how do I change my present right now by the way if you have a question you want answered on the show you can submit it on my Instagram you submit it there we get thousands of them but there's a chance your question will get answered on the show and so today is all about leadership and vision and dreams because I've been asked about this topic a lot and don't discount yourself if you have a child if you have a company a business if you are a human being you're a leader in the context that I'm going to cover today okay so today's topic is this I want you to write this down here's the title it takes Leaders with vision to help people with dreams let me say it to you again this is this is Big Stuff it takes Leaders with vision to help people with dreams that's not my saying I heard it somewhere many many years ago but I've lived by it it takes Leaders with vision to help people with dreams what does that mean Ed well here's what it means the first thing is it's a reminder that everybody you meet has a dream everybody's born with a dream there's a heart that dreams as we get older those dreams can change they can evolve they can even die and get buried but every human being has a dream that dream could be to be a multi-millionaire billionaire that dream could be to lead millions of people that dream could be to be a mother or a father that dream could be a particular career that dream could have a particular body that dream could be to live with this particular set of emotions for some of you your dreams as simple as my dream is to begin to be happy I'm tired of living sad or down or worried or angry but remember this every human being you meet has a dream it might be a big one that's long term and it might be just a short one their dream might just be man can I get through today with a little bit of peace with a little bit of bliss but everybody's got a dream and I reminded myself of that when I meet humans that they have dreams every precious person has one and like I said there's millions of them and there's varieties of them and some people have lots of different dreams but this is a context and a syntax that you begin to see your brothers and sisters differently that server at the restaurant that's serving you that you don't make eye contact with when they ask you how's the food or what would you like to order that person's got a dream that dream might be just that you acknowledge them that dream might be that they want to be the best server that's ever lived that dream might be that you know they want to have a big YouTube channel someday that dream might be they want to write a book that dream might be that they want to meet their the love of their life but that person's got a dream that's why they were born you were born to live a dream you were born to make your dreams come true and I know this and so what those people are looking for is a leader and all a leader means is I can help you I see something that you don't see I see a potential so as a leader in a company many of you run companies or businesses remember this it takes Leaders with vision to help people with dreams what does that mean that means that you need to begin to work on your vision because everybody you meet's got a dream if you're a mother what's the vision for your family what's your vision for your children are you sowing seeds in them of vision and Visionary leadership in them I read a book a long time ago that really changed my life it's an old book it's written by a guy named guy Kawasaki and it's called selling the dream and what he was really writing about was Apple he was the guy that kind of marketed the old Macintosh for Apple but the entire book is the context of what Apple was doing to become a great company and if you really understand and study that company Steve Jobs was a great dream seller see selling the dream is a skill and a talent you build listen to me but most people are oblivious that it's important most people think that's only for the Steve Jobs is the world or the Ed mylettes of the world you want to be a great father you get great at selling a dream to your children and your family and your spouse you want to be a great business person entrepreneur you get great at selling the dream and having a vision for where you want to go you want to be a great anything you want to lead yourself in life you better have a big time Vision you'll be able to sell yourself on that dream life's about Vision that's why the Bible talks about where there is no vision the people will perish they will literally die you're a dead human without a dream you're a dead human without a dream so you should constantly be working on your dream muscle your vision muscle and your ability to sell yourself and other people on that Vision I am talking to you today because I had a dream and a vision that I could help millions of people that I could use an ability I thought I might have to communicate to reach people remember this we constantly move in our life towards where what we're most familiar with we move to the familiar we gravitate to The Familiar we develop patterns and behaviors that are familiar that's why when you drive home usually from wherever you work you don't even have to consciously think about how you're getting there you just kind of pull right off the freeway when it happens don't you you're not even thinking about it because it's familiar to you you get in the shower you don't think you know what today I'm going to soap here first and then shampoo you gotta root you just do it unconsciously your life most of it is unconscious because your brain is trying to save energy by creating habits that are repetitive and that are familiar well if you're only familiar with the tasks you have to do or as a mom or a dad familiar with I gotta cook them lunch I gotta get dinner I got to pick them up for school and you just do the monotonous stuff and you never have a family that's loaded with a vision or a dream of where they're going or for each individual child you have or for your spouse that you're selling them a dream and a vision of who they could be and how much you believe in them of all the things I'm not very good at I'm amazing at selling people on themselves I'll tell people that all the time server in a restaurant's a great example if I say I say man you're awesome you are awesome you're amazing thank you man I you're not even going to be here someday or you want to do something out of here I could see you I could see you out of here doing more or if they do want to be they'll say I could see you running this place someday with my kids since they were little I was selling them a dream and a vision I assume that my let's are going to do something awesome I'm telling you Hey listen to me the mylettes are doing something awesome they still get text measurement hey let's do something great today we're gonna do something freaking great as a family and kick some butt today making a difference but my lesser leaders we got a vision and I sell them that dream over and over again think about all the people you admire in your life think about them what's one thing they all have in common they had a big old dream a vision and a dream that they sold either themselves or you let's go through a few and by the way when I'm saying this what about you what Vision are you constantly selling yourself on what Vision are you selling your colleagues on what Vision are you selling your spouse or boyfriend or girlfriend on your children on your parents on do you do that are you conscious of it because that's called being alive the ability to grab a vision and develop it is a muscle and to do it repetitively even when people are rolling their eyes at you going I heard this before and here's the kicker get good at selling it that's the second step think about who you admire let's just go through a few people let's say you're a follower of Jesus just curious did he have any dream he sold do you have any vision his vision his dream was everlasting life for you that's about as big as it gets you bought the dream and the vision if you're a Believer whatever your faith is you've bought the vision and the dream of this person that is your deity in my case I'm a Christian and then what did he do he sold the dream he cast the vision and he sold the dream over and over and over and over and over again and then he built a team of people that sold it and it's become the biggest movement in the history of mankind maybe you're not religious how about Martin Luther King do you admire him wow that's interesting because his most famous speech is I have a dream and he sold the dream he did it with his oratory skills he did it with his physical labor in the marches and the standing in the difficult times up against adversity and then he had other people who caught that dream like the Rosa Parks of the world who started to carry that dream and that vision okay maybe you're into politics who do you like Trump or Obama because you don't like them both what did Obama have hope and change if you loved Obama you were all about Hope and change and he embodied bad hope and that change that you love maybe you didn't like Obama maybe you're a a Trumper you love Donald Trump did he have a vision does he have a vision make America great again that's the vision and he sold the dream on it now it's even more powerful when you embody that dream so let me give you some steps you gotta you gotta get great at seeing a vision for yourself and other people then you got to sell a big enough dream that the dream of everybody within your stewardship can fit inside the one you're selling so if you're a business leader you got to sell it big here's your number one problem if you're running a business right now you ain't selling it big enough you got to see it bigger ready for this get in the big man sell it bigger get in the big when Apple was just a board company jobs is about being talking about being the most transformative company of all time that was crazy how about me some guy that's just plugging away as an entrepreneur 25 years ago a dream of being worth hundreds of millions of dollars of influence and millions of people of using my story to change you'd have laughed your ass off at me back in those days well people aren't laughing anymore are they because I got a big old Vision I started selling myself the dream when you sell it and then you embody it so here that's step one get a vision step two start selling that dream step three make it repetitive being in business or being a mom or being a dad or being a leader is not coming up with new things you say to old people it's saying old things to new people let me say that to you again too many of you are trying to create some new thing you're saying to the old team what you need to be doing is saying the old things to new people so I've said it over and over and over so you got to sell it big enough but everybody's dream is fits inside of it so the mylettes are gonna do something awesome Max you can play on the PGA tour Bella boo you can have your own business and run for president someday if you it fits inside the dream that I'm selling if you're running a company you gotta get the dreams of everybody to fit inside that the third thing is you gotta back it up with Massive Action it can't just be words people gotta watch you go oh she means it now you get good at selling that dream and you do it repetitively you don't end up suffering from what I call leadership fatigue where you get tired of hearing from yourself you get tired of saying it most businesses fail because the leader gets tired of selling the dream and acting like it most parents fail because they get tired if they ever sold a dream they get tired of selling it because the kids don't behave they don't act like it and they finally just quit the more you sell the dream and sell the vision I'm convinced the problem for most kids is they're being raised by parents who don't sell a big Vision in a big dream and tell them how amazing it's going to be when you're a leader that's a position that means you have a Viewpoint the people behind you can't see you have a job as a leader as a mom as a dad as a business leader as a coach to say hey let me tell you what I see because you can't see it let me tell you all it's amazing it's going to be when we get there how worth it it's going to be to go through the trials and tribulations how worth it is to go through the ups and downs and put the work in let me say it to you again because this is going quick okay you gotta see something they don't see because of your position as leader and you got to be able to say let me tell you what I see and you tell them over and over and over and you tell them in different ways until they get it but you say the same thing and you tell them how amazing it's going to be when we get there go all the way back to Jesus let me tell you what I see I See You in Heaven someday let me tell you how amazing Heaven's going to be let me tell you how amazing it is right over and over and over do you tell them how to get there over and over and over again it's got to be big it's got to be bold it's got to capture people's hearts and they've got to see themselves fitting inside the one you're selling it can't be a selfish dream unless you're just leading you then you got to do the hard one you gotta validate it with your action they gotta see you go wow she's serious she's in here two hours earlier than she used to be oh my gosh she's got this dream of doing this bodybuilding contest she's doing look how disciplined she is with her diet my gosh you know she takes off on lunch and works out in addition to her morning workout they start seeing it man he's talking big stuff for the company right now he's talking major plans major Vision unbelievable stuff have you seen how he's working right now this dude's a maniac he means it you validate the dream with your actions you tell your kid they're going to play high school basketball how often are you getting out there shooting with them how often are you getting up early how many videos are you sending them on shooting stuff how many articles what the coach are you trying to get work to get them with validate it with your actions you become a Powerhouse and then it starts to get momentum this is what happens in life you got to learn to do this if I was to tell you one thing about your life I would wish for you is that you would get a bigger vision for you if there's one thing I would wish for your company is that you get a bigger vision for your company if there's one thing I'd wish for your family is that you get a bigger vision and after you have those things then what I would wish for you is that you work on the development of selling that dream and getting better at selling yourself and others on that dream then I'd wish you'd repeat it almost to the point of people thinking you're crazy and then what I would wish is that everybody can fit inside the one you're selling and then what I'd wish is that you'd validate it by taking massive action you start doing that your life changes the reason your life is not changing if you want it to is you don't have a compelling vision that's greater than your fears and the way you make a dream happen by the way you might say I don't know what my dream and my vision is let me tell you what it is your dreams will move you in your life always is either the future you want or other people you'll never do anything for yourself but you'll do stuff to achieve your vision and you'll do stuff to make other people happy what I recommend you do is once you get that vision is you link your love for other people to that vision and dream because as long as you tell yourself I love these people more than I'm afraid that this dream won't happen I love these people more than I'm worried about the obstacles and the roadblocks I love my family I love my whatever it is more than I'm scared more than the adversity my love is greater than anything that will get in the way most of you are afraid to get a big Vision because you think you're going to miss it and then you're afraid to really pursue it and Chase it because you're afraid you'll fail many many times I wanted to quit and I would remind myself I love my family More Than This obstacle I love my family more but I'm afraid I love my family More Than This adversity I will love my family longer and it will endure far past this problem and once I attached my love to the dream the people I love to the dream I became a pretty Unstoppable Force because there was no cop out and by the way if you know someone who's quit on their dream you know the hard reality the adversity was greater than their love the adversity was greater than their love for their family they sold their family out that's the hard truth I can sell out my family there ain't any word game any adversity any obstacle anything you're going to put in front of me is going to get me to sell my family up the river and that's exactly what you're doing when you quit let me ask you this let's just get this straight is there anything bigger than your love for these other people is there anything that would come in your way that would be bigger than your love maybe your love for your lord your love for your family anything bigger than that good I hope the answer was no because if there's nothing bigger than that you're gonna win unless of course you renegotiate that at some point which a lot of people do you ever seen someone who's been defeated in their dream quietly they might blame someone else they might have their excuse but deepen their soul deep in their intuition deep inside them they know they sold out they sold out here's the great news I've quit many things before but I got back up again it's not too late you can decide right now that's it he's right I'm gonna start attaching my vision and my dreams to my love for these other people and I'm getting up I'm gonna be a different Force now let me ask you this question any of you that have kids and if you don't have kids just pick somebody you love let's say you were sitting in a meeting right now someone walked up to you and handed you a note and said that person was in a serious car accident picture your children if you have children or your grandchildren if you don't have children your mom or your dad your boyfriend or your girlfriend you're in a very big meeting room and you got handed a note so and so has been in an accident and it's serious you need to come now what would you do you get right up and run out of that room wouldn't you in a minute wouldn't you would you stop and go wait a minute I don't want to be rude to the speaker I don't want to get up and bother the other people in the room what's everyone going to think about me when I get up is everyone going to say wouldn't occur to you at all that stupid stuff of what other people are going to think because you got to get to this person you love right because your love is greater than that moment and when you got up if you started to run out of the room and someone stopped you go hey someone said what are you doing you can't get up in the middle of the meeting there's no way you can do this that's rude sit your butt back down which you go oh okay I I don't want to be rude would you do that or would you go get out of my way my baby my child my girlfriend my mom has been in an accident get out of here and you steamroll and when you got to the door they said hey you need to get back in there this door is locked there's no way out what would you do go well I guess that's a sign I'm not supposed to get to my dream it's God giving me a sign too much adversity is that what you say it's a sign nah you know what I bet you do I bet you kick the door down wouldn't you you sure would you kick that door now bam no obstacle when you got out to your car and it didn't start and it wouldn't go you're like well I guess that means I'm not supposed to get there man one thing after the other I guess I'll just lay down here another obstacle another sign just not meant to be I just don't have what it takes to get to my child would you do that heck no you'd go carjack a dadgum car if you had to wouldn't you you'd ask I need your car I need your car I need your car I need to take me right now you'd get a new you do whatever you could you get an Uber you get attacked you'd run and get anything it took when you got to the hospital if you got to the door they go hey slow down there's procedure here you got to sign in are you family you got to be like hey I gotta get to my family no obstacle well hey we need these you don't you would you say well man I if before I do it I need to know the exact words I'm supposed to say I need to be totally prepared for when I get to the I need total preparation before I can get to the screw preparation you're never going to be totally prepared for that moment you have to have the perfect words or the perfect moment or the perfect knowledge or understand everything that's all out the damn window when you want something to get somebody that bad you'd get to your baby wouldn't you you would need the perfect words you wouldn't need to know everything you wouldn't wait to get started for the right timing none of that crap would matter would it because you're going to get there because you love them so much that's how your dream has to be and by the way that's the truth of how people make their dreams come true and here's the truth about the people that don't they don't attach that love that urgency that Obsession and so little stupid things start to seem big what are these people gonna think oh my gosh someone rejected me and told me to sit back down the doors are closed there's no way to get in that room and make it happen you'd find a way to get that door knocked down wouldn't you there's no door closed it didn't start there's a setback my car no wouldn't matter when you got there they said hey we need this information we need to hear the right words from you you wouldn't wait around and go well let me sit in the parking lot and prepare for another three weeks before I get started so the timing's better and I know everything I need to know when I get in that hospital no you know enough and you'd get going what you would say is I'll figure it out when I get in there isn't it trivial and isn't it silly when you put it in that context what we let stop us and why we lay down after a while Ed how do I get back up in my life I'm telling you how you get back up by getting a new vision by repeatedly selling yourself this dream and by attaching your love like that precious child or a loved one who was in an accident that type of urgency that type of love that type of obsession towards chasing it and now you're up and when those obstacles do come they may rattle you they may stagger you but they won't stop you you're unstoppable it's pretty good there's three types of people in life there's motivational people motivational people are awesome you see them and you get motivated what they do is they get you motivated based on your motives if you do this you get a Lambo if you do this you'll get money if you do this you'll get a body if you do this you'll get a relationship so you are moved by your motives nothing wrong with being motivated or being a motivational person in fact I'd like to think I am a motivational person I am motivated but that's a low level of movement it's a low level of Chase it's a low level of juice but it is a level and it's more than most people have so if you're looking for motivation you can get it the second level is far more powerful though if you can add it you can stack it I'm motivated and you stack to the next level so you get motivation you want that you want the external you want motives then you move to step two which is inspirational people or inspired people those people are a different type of force because inspire people the root of the word inspires to be in spirit so you got motivation going now you got inspiration going in your life inspirational people they move mountains there's an in spirit it touches your soul it moves you at an energetic level that life force that Soul spirit level that can overcome about anything motivational people can get stopped sometimes if they don't get their motive or they do get what they were motivated by I've watched a lot of people get what they wanted they got the car they got the money they got some position or title they got the degree and then what because they were only motivated meaning they're only after their motive and once you get it what's left or if you don't get it that next level is so powerful which is to be inspirational or to be in spirit that's to move people with love what I'm talking about today is to go to the next level you need to be inspired and then the third type of person is very rare those are aspirational people aspirational people are people you aspire to be like so if you want to get your family motivated or your company motivated let's take your company hey if we do X or Y I'm paying this bonus if we do X Y or Z we're taking a company trip if we do X Y or Z it'll mean a job promotion for you that's motivating people and you should do that the next level though is to get them inspired in spirit which is to say we're going to make a difference in other people's lives we're going to make history we're going to create change we're going to change the planet we're going to rewrite or wrong we're going to do something great as a company we're going to make history that or as a family we're going to take the whole family to a new level we're going to create generational wealth this family is going to be joyous and different and amazing I said earlier one of the things about Dr King that was so powerful Was Not only was he motivational but it was inspirational you felt something spiritual you felt something in your soul you felt a an emotion but it was even beyond that wasn't he the reason he was a transformational figure is because he was aspirational people aspired to be like him he didn't just speak he went to the March he stood in the line he stood in the tough place he took the hits he lived under threat for so long and still stood by his beliefs and his dream he was aspirational if you're a follower of Jesus sure heck was motivating man what an inspirational man what an inspirational figure when he was walking this Earth unbelievably inspirational but he was more he was aspirational he lived it he literally died for you and for me doesn't get any more aspirational than that and that's how you create a big movement that's how you create an amazing family that's how you do something great motivational inspirational and aspirational at least today start by being motivated but be working your way towards being inspirational and take Massive Action on a regular basis and you will become aspirational back it up with massive action anyway that's what I think you do to change your life today now there's a million things I can talk about I talk about them every week but in today's case it takes Leaders with vision to help people with dreams and everybody you meet has a dream everybody you meet has a dream in their heart or they used to and it is your job to re-invigorate to turn that light on to create that fire in other people with a kind word by telling them what you see and then if they see you living a certain way they want to be more like you then you become aspirational in your family let me tell you what I see let me tell you what I see I see a vision for our family I see a vision for you my son I see a vision for you my daughter I see a vision for you you're gonna do something great with your life and you repeat it over and over and over again you tell them about their giftedness and their greatness and what they're good at you back it up with the actions you take that's how you transform that and your company is the same thing let me tell you where I see we're going if we get there there's this trip there's this contest there's this reward there's this promotion but beyond that we're going to make history we're gonna do something great we're going to change this industry we're going to do something awesome people are going to know who we are we're going to be on the map we're going to compete and then they see you act in a certain way and then they're aspirational and you validate the dream all right everybody I hope this helped you guys today help me I'm fired up man I'm like sweating and shaking and ready to do something great if today meant something to you share it with somebody that means something to you God bless you guys max out your life [Music] foreign

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Length: 29min 41sec (1781 seconds)

Published: Thu Sep 28 2023