"I'LL SMACK YOU UP!" JustPearlyThings Live Debate Escalates Out Of Control

cool me out on what I said I said you're Faith was weak right right let's go there you want to go back in the past to embarrass yourself again on a hall you may be an average person but you're not going to perceive yourself that way because you push yourself forward in some areas that make you not average and hopefully you're looking for other people to plug into that those are above average okay goodbye go go go okay because okay hold on can I just for my own safety what's a mountain place a man's place is to um look after me make sure he's got my best interests at heart and he has to make the final decision which improves both of us he is final decision we're always being my benefit so when he's not there to look after you who's looking after you I make sure I've ever got a man so any decision I might even meet for me being on the podcast I wouldn't be here if it wasn't for him because before I decided to come on the podcast I ask his permission people I think that's really strange I said what is your permission would you think about it this is what I'm gonna do and there's certain things he didn't like so I told Pearl you know what I can't do this I can't do that I can't do whatever and then we came to a conclusion but the final decision is always his and I trust him with it because he'll always have my best interests at heart and I'm a trained mechanic and maybe that's because you've got a good man yeah wait hold on even if you're a good man that sounds ridiculous yeah maybe because I can't I can't do what you just I can't do what you just said I can't because why would you need permit like there might be boundaries within the relationship so for instance like I don't want you to do like a pearl like strip show dance thing with like male strippers like I can understand that because that's like boundaries of the relationship but in terms of like I need your permission to do a show because I like if your boyfriend or husband or whatever if he's not like in this world you probably know better than he does like what's better for you I'd imagine but the thing is both not in this world we both don't know about social media he didn't and it's blown up well you're in this world now right right yeah but I still had his permission so there might be certain things that have developed since me being on the podcast that he doesn't agree with so I will cut them back I mean if you pick a good guy I mean he's a good guy yeah but imagine if he didn't have a good guy yeah and also you never know if you're a good guy until until you don't okay don't you know yourself better than anyone no not necessarily because I'm I'm human I've got bad things and I've got good things I'm just as bad as anybody else and I will always take other people's opinions and then when he says something I don't always take it as hard as pill knows because thanks to pearls you know sort of that food pilgrims we've had to like you know stop like being stubborn but you've given enough Humanity over your decision-making in life sorry because you can answer someone um Auntie what you said is the exact same situation with me I have a fiance and I would not come up here unless I've spoken to him about it and he's actually agreed with it so the only reason why I'm sitting here is because my fiance doesn't have a problem with me sitting here but can I ask you something right when you go out on the street which a lot of people don't recognize when you go out and you dress and you speak who do you represent when you go out as a woman in a relationship man your husband right so when you're at school and you're in uniform you represent the school yeah when you go out as a child you represent your parents if you have a man you represent your man you're a couple so people are going to know that if he sees you on a on a podcast and you're doing God knows what you're going to represent him people are going to know that's so-and-so's woman so you have to listen to him you don't don't he doesn't tell me what to do but I have to take his feelings into account do you flip that do you flip that into does he represent you as well when he's doing stuff yeah do you have authority over him to give him permission to do stuff or not yes certainly he won't do anything that's everything it works both ways okay okay yeah he has the final decision Effie's going to do something and he says oh I'm going to do that and I'm like you know what I don't agree with that because it's been so long 32 years and counting because it's been so long he he will know that there must be a reason behind it that I don't agree with him now he will even listen to me as I would do him because I don't have to take everything he says as gospel it's up to me whether to take it or not I will listen to him rather than listen to my friends want to finally listen to their friends what about most of us that haven't had 32 years and so why are you saying that I've been with my man two years and I must what he says goes this is what my struggle is what I'm trying to say is you've been able to build that trust you you've been able to know that he's got your best interests at heart yeah you've been able to know that he has your rights your right intentions but most of us haven't had 32 years to practice all that you know I can't adopt your position can I say something do you know something right you as a woman would know within the first six months whoever that man is for you I can't say that I would know me personally I wouldn't know I was a single parent just like you I was a single parent and we split out but when I met him back he was a single parent so I know that anything he says if it jars in my heart I have to think they must be know what that don't feel right let me discuss it but if I think to myself I am not going to be a detriment then I'll go with it because it's not harming me so every if I think in my head as a woman that what he's saying doesn't benefit me or harms me I will discuss it and then because it's not the fact that oh what he says goes I will discuss it with him and I want to hear where he's coming from because all right then for instance you've got a man and you both of you've got a favorite artists and the favorite artist gives you two free tickets to go and then your man looks at tick and says you know what you're not going what would you do like this conversation is going to happen with my man anyway honestly I think that I think the modern relationship is way too uh it wasn't no let me say the modern relationship I'm looking for is way too equal in terms of opinion and position there's there's a conversation it's about what's making me happy and if it's taking my best friend to that concert he wants to see me smile and he wants to see me happy that's what's going to happen in that concert but he didn't answer the question so the question was I asked you what would you do like when he asks you to do something that you don't want to do but if it's in my best interest I cannot put myself the only man or the only being is God that can tell me by speech by Grace God says obey your man the man the man he's my man he didn't put a ring on it you should be with him until you put string on it right but what I'm trying to say is if I'm a feminist what does it mean for me as a single woman that's what I'm trying to understand from this conversation okay so can I try to add a little bit of context on it because it's like a okay so basically what what they're saying is okay so yes working taking out the rubbish doing all of these things are seen as as masculinity right however I don't think we're speaking in that regard because obviously these are things that have to be done you have to take out the rubbish you have to work you have to do these things but I think we especially as a single person however we're basically but you're still a feminine that doesn't make you masculine what makes you masculine is when when you're like so let's put everything in context now so I said I made the same statement as Auntie right so I'm going to put things into context if I wanted to go shopping in Tesco's for example I don't need his permission right because I'm going Tesco's and I'm doing food shopping if somebody invites me to a club or some kind of event then I need to sit down and speak to him and explain to him where I'm going what type of event is what kind of people are there all right let's let's say for example I'll put an outfit on and I put on a short dress and and my breasts are revealing okay now if he says to me you look nice babe go out and have a good time as soon as he's finished that sentence me and him are done because me I can't be the guy like that to me that's a simp okay so if my my man or my husband says to me you need to go back and you need to change because what you're wearing is inappropriate now look a lot of people will be like no why why I compare what I want if I want to work but you're not you're not thinking because if you if you're going out with your husband right and you go to a club or a place and you're wearing a short skirt and your breasts are out you'll there's a huge possibility that you're going to put your husband in a situation no but he's next to me let me land let me land okay so for example my fiance right if me and him went out to a place and he wouldn't let me wear that anyway in the first place but let's say he did and we went out to a place right and a guy comes and and Taps my bum it's less likely right and if he does do that if I had a bbo you will attack my ass not necessarily but look look we we have to go about intentions if I come to a place and aren't properly covered up jeans and a guy does that he's getting smoked right there's no if so but about it because this girl is respecting herself she's dressed up nicely and you've come out of your way yeah and you've you've slapped her ass now my fiance if he was with me right and somebody did that there's a huge possibility he's going to jail for life but then you're wearing tight jeans why not wear this on a long skirt in it if we're going if you're going to do more you're going to do what you can wear along you can what you should do then because no no you're calling for it also with the little tightness getting away from the clothes you guys this is what I'm so confused about it Auntie you kind of did it and then walked to a more agreeable area you guys talk about things that are basic relationship Norms but you like frame them in the most toxic way possible I don't understand so you talk about like if I'm gonna wear something and go out to a club my boy my my boyfriend my husband whatever is going to approve of it which it to some extent like can make sense in a relationship context but if you flip that around if your boyfriend or husband says I'm gonna go out to party you know and there's like you know 10 girls there and like two guys I imagine you have to okay that right you'd have to tell him whether or not you give him permission to do that no yes okay so you guys frame these things like my my husband is the ultimate Authority and blah blah but that's not true for all you guys it's a back and forth like you're gonna be okaying what he does he's gonna be okay what you do that has nothing to do with masculinity or femininity or anything like that that's just like two adults having a relationship figuring out where the boundaries are thank you yeah so so what do you mean by your place when you say auntie because what does he saying this it is an equal exchange of um looking up for each other no I think with me I'm different because if I'm gonna wear a short skirt and something sexy I'm always going to work with them with my man mostly I wear it at home but if I want to go out and I'll say to him what do you think about this and do you know what what um Destiny said what we've been saying it's just normal no more respect for each other and I respect him and his decisions and his opinions and he will respect mine so it's not like I'm blindly following where he wants to go because Effie wanted to go somewhere or talk to certain people other sitting in the past you know what I don't like your friends and as a man I would say you know I'm not going to say don't go out of him I'll say in this watch out for this this is what I spotted this this this and this and I'll let him go ahead and eventually he will not you know what you were right so it's just about respect but I find that these modern people now they don't have the basic respect for each other in the relationship so what happens in like lesbian relationships then is I don't know well again everything the man says everything that was said is fine for relationships there's I just there's not like a masculine feminine like when you start talking about you're going to talk to your partner you're gonna make sure that they understand where you're coming from hopefully you love each other and you know each other hopefully you both have each other's best interests at heart and then you advise it that's at the end of the day someone wears the pants like someone's leading and someone's following it's it's like no no no sometimes wait and sometimes it's reverse but at some at some point like you have to trust someone's leadership that it's going to depend on the domain that you guys are experts in right so you said you were a mechanic thank you right so I'm guessing that traditionally men are going to have to say over the car because men tend to know but I'm guessing you probably know more than your husband does right and if he comes back with a 50 pound bill for blinker fluid you're probably going to be better you're probably gonna make fun of him right but you know something right I just put on knows and as you most probably know yes I'm a mechanic but he's more stable minded than me and as you know from the [ __ ] car that I picked you up in right because I must have been having a blind non-mechanic feminine moment where I just went in and asked for the cheapest car with four doors and you saw it the car's a piece of [ __ ] it's for somebody single it's not for someone that's got three grandchildren because three grandchildren he fills the car but whereas he hasn't seen the car yet because I didn't discuss it with him and he's going to look at me and say why did you get that car yes I could take it back but I've decided to punish myself for being such a stupid woman and choosing such a stupid car when I was feeling in my most feminine moments so yeah I can do that but whereas even though I'm a trained mechanic enema nails and the certain things that he will do in the no I won't say that most of the things he will do I always say your brake light needs to win but he expects me to do the brake light because I'm trying to do just the brake light I'm just saying that in every relationship like both sides are going to know more things than the other side like so there are going to be some things where the husband is going to have like the grand Authority but not because he's the man uh but just because that's the stuff that he knows but the last decision you see with me we were discuss stumps discuss stuff and I will say this and he will say that and then I might be right and he'll say you know what go with you or he might be right and I'll say go with you but if we come to a stalemate me I would say you know what we're gonna go with you because the decision is all yours because if the [ __ ] it's the fan me as a [ __ ] woman I will say you know you made that decision so the final decision is always his whoever he agrees with me or whoever he you agree or whether I agree with him I prefer the final decision to be his because I just think personally the ideal situation is when you're with a guy that you can trust his decision making and I think the girls and the girls that I see where they wear the pants in the relationship they're miserable oh my God it just depends on the thing like any there are plenty of women where guys wear the pants and they're miserable too there are lots of people in natural miserable relationships it doesn't happen both ways sure at times I've just seen I think that when women wear the pants they're miserable yes can I just say why does someone have to wear the pants why can't why can't we make decisions together like he said if you're more if you have more expertise in that field then say okay like if I'm I'm trying to make a decision with my man now I know about properties right say he doesn't know anything about properties I'm going to be like oh babe because I've bought a property this is what I'm gonna tell you and because he's probably like men know more about cars I don't know about cars I will never tell my man anything about cars because I I assume because men seem to know more about cars and if he has a nice car he he's been driving for a long time I'm gonna think you know what that's his field why does it have to be someone wear the pants do you know something right that's what women feel to understand when they hear about a submissive woman do I look like a woman that just does what her man says no I want to take for instance you my man is a saver I like to invest in property he has got more money in the bank than me I have got more properties than him and even when it comes to getting properties he was a saver he was like no I need to save money whatever and I was like this is what I think you know he said go with it you know what I was right it doesn't make a difference because he made the final decision because a selfish man a man that just wants to feel all full of himself will just go with what he wants and we're not talking the lady in the red coat I'm sorry we're not talking about that we're talking about where you've got a man that leads and a proper man when you've got a man that you can trust he will take into account what you said he could be taking account what he says and he would weigh up the pros and cons and he will come out with the best decision for you whoever it means you side with him or whatever it means it's side of you and if he's not sure he will even say you know what if he's a stubborn big-headed bullish man he was like you know what my name rules so I'm gonna go no when I was talking about Brandon property my man didn't agree with me and I explained you know what this this this this but it seemed like an impossibility to him in his mind as a natural saver but he was like you know what go for it now we've got the properties he's got the money I haven't got no money if I need money I'll go to him but on paper I've got more money but in reality he's got more cash so you just don't go with a man just because because a lot of women think that oh I might know more about this but he's the mass he has to make the fine decision best lack of respect if a man respects you he will take into account your decisions your research your qualifications before he makes the final decision and if a man is going to go with all your knowledge all your experience all your decision making and what you've been doing for a lifetime and go against it but don't you think about you don't you think you're talking about skills in a man that is a man that has lived a man that's matured a man that has had relationships learn about himself and others we're talking about men in their 20s and 30s that have yet to become exactly and I think so we cannot we cannot have the same attitude at all you're talking generationally completely different I think the value basis the way that they are raised are different you are your expectations for our 2023 men that have been raised with sometimes very little Foundation You're Expecting so much for them to have all of these qualities that your man of X years and X age and big big age are having guys I think the point is to pick a good man that you can 100 but I'm talking about we're here now we're here trying to find this good man in the mecca we're like oh no the nonsense hold on hold on hold on I've been listening to like I haven't even said nothing for ages yeah like it comes down to who you pick yeah 100 it comes down to you pick so you can say all of this oh yeah oh we're trying to find these Good Men At what age are you trying to find these good and where where are you trying to find can I can say thank you riches yeah right you're saying about picking the problem I find nowadays is that the woman is picking don't let the women pick the Men supposed to pick yeah it's what um Camilla yeah yeah the problem is at 25 there are no men like this okay if you're a 22 year old woman you're not gonna find a 25 year old guy that's ready to take charge and Lead everything no that is true that is true absolutely true that's absolutely true I'm so sorry I know there are a lot of children but you're not gonna find a 25 year old guy that has all of it when the average kid gets out of school today at like 20 to 23 years old you're thinking how when in England you finish college no you don't university university I'm sorry we call it different things in America yeah if in University if you finish that at 20 to 23 there's no way 21. full degrees there's no cultural students 24 25 as a man you are not gonna have all the faculty that you were when you reach 30 35 you don't have that lived experience yet to know what it's like to lead a household to live a life to exist in like the world and and to navigate it's so funny that you guys are the first ones to say that we have two high expectations and then come and tell us that we're not picking the right men and that we just picking responsible you can date an older guy if you if you think that you need a 35 year old guy I'm all right come on did you say I'm a young man just like myself so we can relate together again like I don't want anything you guys keep talking about how you need a man to lead yeah I already know myself I'm an adult you know I've spent a lot of time with myself I am in I am in tune with myself what I want is partnership yes my Lord I want a man that we can actually share its experiences together elitas yeah I think the problem is when I listen to Pearl and rich as an artist a little bit mainly you two guys it feels like you guys are saying that women need to look for fathers can I just say something when I met my man we were both in our 20s thank you and the thing is it's in the 80s but if you had the same standards now which I have met some really good young men that had the same standards as my men have but you know what the women don't want them because they're average men well all your videos everybody's videos the women Auntie can I add something when I met my man I was average he was average he was sexy as hell and all the young girls wanted him do you know what I mean but we were both average people and he was he was always sensible from planning to settle why can't I want amazing but this is the thing this is the thing you can what would you want why can't you get it is amazing he's always been amazing he was amazed it's like everybody's saying I need to have it as average as average why I ain't average I am not average I'm gonna let you know right what makes you not average because if I look at my age mates my successes my achievements my personality my drive my motivation is once are you a single parent because sometimes as a single parent because you've been in the relation you've been there before you've got different expectations no I'm saying I didn't start as a single parent I met my husband and I had a child nobody met nobody meets as a single parent I really don't like that my man was a single parent I was just going against the women my man was a single pyramid too what is it there's how many people in here wait eight most of us are average most people are average and when you talk about drive that's the top things that men look for well I'm looking forward okay so when you when you speak about average right because remember everything we speak about needs to be within context okay so when you spoke you said compared to my peers right yeah so age me so so maybe compared to your peers you may not be average that was my evidence however however if we go to another context right and then we compare you to people like Rihanna Beyonce who are one millionaires hang on right because you're not capable one second you can because I'll tell you why let me explain why right when you meet a guy right you can be very pretty you could be very attractive you could be like all of these things right but um he'll still look at you as average because oh if if he could if look there's always it depends what you compare the average with okay so like you said with your peers you can apply that to that but if you apply average on a larger scale okay where people are millionaires people are mad famous millions of followers they all look at you as average compared to that person do you wanna stop trying to say no but we have to look overall because you've got to remember people are being brainwashed out here they're still they're looking at Rihanna they're looking at Beyonce they're looking at the problems all of these people yes the whole thing if you don't mind can I just finish what I was saying so that's the first thing I was going to say is it is in context right who you're comparing yourself to because nowadays is guys are looking for girls of the majority of guys look I'm I'm a woman right but all my life I've I'm Road I'm Hood all my friends are savages they're all Road man I don't I don't chill with girls I've got one female that's my friend all my friends are males so I hear them when they speak this younger generation a lot of them are actually looking for girls with money that's what they want girls with money girls with cars girls with like that's that's how they're they're thinking now their thinking is completely different so a normal basic nine to five working person or or or working across or whatever is average to them it's average because they're seeing these things every day so that's the first point I wanted to make right the second point I wanted to make is people are like oh you know the man should be in control the man's um uh you have to listen to the man and the man's got the power but really and truly right if you're married right or you're in a serious relationship with a man you're the one that's in control you're the one that's in power and I'll tell you why because when your husband respects you right he'll do anything for you you ring them and say to him look I need milk he's dropping everything and he's coming he's bringing milk if you leaving him and say Tim I need this or something's happened or he's coming he's coming running straight for you so really you're actually in control as long as there's respect there right and there's the love there and you're playing your role when he's playing his his role they say that a woman is the neck to a man's head so you can turn his head whichever way you want to turn his head you just gotta know how to what were you going to say something I really hate how being a single mother diminishes your value as a human being how how you can go from a tense on the other ones like oh now you're a five because you're singing but that says nothing about who you are as a person this is nothing about your Mastery about your talent about the discipline that takes together listen listen at the end of the day at the end of the day yeah you have to just respect what the market wants what at the end of the day do you know how much money let me just Finish Master because I'll let you talk do your thing I will do my thing yeah at the end of the day if you don't care what the market wants and you talk and you tell yourself oh I'm not average I'm not average bro like you're just going to continue losing buff you should maybe understand the market guess what Coca-Cola understands its Market that's why Coca-Cola is successful bro so you can be deluded and think armor 10 and this because I'm I'm got money and I went to this school and blah blah blah like I bro I do these podcasts the same thing and these women come and say the same thing because I went to this school and I've got money right the market does not care about that yeah and I'm sorry and I'm sorry to say it I'm sorry to say like you're saying Oh but you know a single mother diminishing who you are as a person no you could be a great person and be a single mom you can be an excellent person but at the end of the day the market for the most part is not going to want to cover it depends it says something about your decision making if you become a single mother are you all right yeah um it's either you don't pick the right guys oh it's something about your decision making maybe you don't pick the right guys so abusive women that choose lovely amazing men that just decide to be physically abusive because I chose that yeah is that what you're saying so I chose to be a single with divorcee because of a individual's choice to be violent is that what you're saying it's your choice to get in a relationship with him oh because it's a man it says life life turns out better if you take accountability for your choices sometimes okay on the man I disagree the single mother an abusive man he's wrong I agree with you where do we take accountability I have to say I disagree with you yeah I'd definitely disagree with you then I'll tell you why look I'm 38 I'm not a young girl I've been married and I've been divorced I've got experience I've had a kid you know I've been there I've done that so if somebody gets married at a young age right they're young right so they're not that clued right look let me start from the look we always talk about a problem but we never ever get to the court of why that problem occurs but everybody's here so everyone's gonna wait as a young girl I'm sure you'll all agree with me okay as a young girl we are brainwashed we are sold a fairy tale right we are all thinking oh we're gonna wear this white dress and we're gonna get married we're going to be in love and no we shouldn't have been taught that we should have been taught the realness marriage is very hard it's a struggle you've got to make sure you know who your married look and also people change over time somebody who can marry them and when you married him they were okay and over time gradually they got mental breakdown they became a psychopath they became uh anti-social but again we all grew up in the same society and people have different outcomes based on their choices so if you make a choice can I finish what I'm saying I think I think what you're saying everything that we say has to be within context you know some people might get married and the husband dies and they become single mother you know we're not talking about exceptions we're talking about the rule are the majority of single mothers widows no but does it go the other way do no does Men's Valley diminish when they become no it doesn't matter no because they can just get up and they can go and remember personally personally for me personally I don't I'm not into the guys with kids that's not my thing but in general no I mean most guys I know that have kids say it helps them in dating girls like it yeah no a guy can just get up and start all over again when it comes to men but it's not about accountability it's about outcomes like what outcomes do you get and and the outcomes that single mothers have a harder time in dating a single woman is often times when men not always but oftentimes when men have kids their outcomes are better they get more girls because women like to see women like to see a guy that can take care of a kid it signals to us that like you know again it's not my thing personally add on to that because I I am well I'm not I'm single mom I'm engaged I'm getting married however before I got engaged and I was it was me and my child um it is so so the the guy he can just literally leave and go and start a whole new life we remarry have a kid you however he's not going to take that kid with him he that woman doesn't have to ask for worry about that child you're the one who's going to keep that child with you 24 7. so if you try to decide to date right it's not as simple you can't just go out and date you've got to think about your child especially if it's a little girl or a boy you've got to know who you're bringing to your house you've got to know who you're bringing around your child and then let's say for example like even when you're married it's the child's own father he starts to get jealous of that child he'll start telling you oh I'm not getting any time anymore so how do you think a guy who's not even the father of that child is going to fill would you you want would you want your brother to date a single mother over a single woman okay hold on all else equal everybody wants a person without a child versus a person with a child that's going to be true although sequel the reason why men tend to get away with it more than women because women are often the ones taking care of the kid now you might think in your mind well I know some single dads are really successful but single dads that fight for custody is already a minority of a minority so you're already probably selecting for pretty successful guys so I think the single dads will say that again single dads that are fighting for custody of kids who can take care of their kids you're already selecting for a pretty rare guy yeah right because they can't they don't typically win no because they don't typically fight for they usually just cut it around but the reason is like I've talked to different attorneys about this and the reason most attorneys will tell guys not to fight for custody because it's because it's so expensive no no they tell them not to fight because oftentimes they won't win because when when a court is trying to figure out who's going to get custody of the kids it's very it's very expensive it's like do you want to waste your life savings when you're most likely are not going to win no no no none of this is true you can go you can go you can look up all the numbers if you want the reason why men typically don't fight is because one they don't because if they fight and they're in a bad place to win because they haven't been taking care of the kid they're not going to have a good account from the judge when the judge is looking when the judge let me finish let me finishes when the judge is looking at who gets custody it's not about who puts up the better defense in court who's got the more expensive lower it's who spent most time with the child so if the mom has spent 95 of the time with the kid doesn't matter how much you pay to a lawyer you're not gonna win because she's a housewife when men do fight for custody they win 60 of the time but but the problem the problem is like women can make it so the dad doesn't even see the kid and then go to court and then say whose fault is that wait hold on hold on you just went on a whole spiel about take accountability for your decisions blah blah and now you're saying what is the mom playing hide and go seek exactly what do you take accountability what do you mean when you say the wife has made it so the husband can't take care of the kids well they're they're you've never heard of cases where women don't let the dad see the kid earlier you said we were going to talk about exceptions you want to talk about the rules so don't give me the hide and go seek with the kid it's it's more common than you think that's you're still you're being sneaky there when you say that it's more common than you think how long did you think your mom is hiding the kid from the husband give me a percentage give me a percentage what percentage um that's a good question um I don't know because in the UK if that be the case and I work in the industry it's 275 to get a c101 application to go to the court for contact for your child it isn't what it is in America it's very easy I can go out and do a bottle for 275. so I don't want to hear that excuse because I can go to court and police can turn up at my door if I go against that order that's what I'm trying to say it's always expensive what is the what is the most expensive bad it's child custody the most expensive thing is okay most expensive thing is taking care of it can I say something I think Auntie's been one of them right and I just want to say a few things I was picked I was in a relationship it was abusive and nobody can't tell me that with hindsight you can't see that there's loads of red flags so when he asked me to marry him and I said no if he was a lost man enough I won't marry you I saved myself from getting married and getting stuck in a relationship so yes I was a single parent whose dad the child's dad asked me to marry him and I thought about it and I thought not on your life and actually said if you were the last man in earth I'll marry you that's the last thing I remembered I was that cold on the floor you know why because I couldn't imagine myself my mom and dad were married and I thought to myself this guy I got into it this guy picked me I never picked him this guy picked me I fell in love got into a relationship it was abusive and I thought to myself the last thing I need is to get married and tied to this man forever so if I knew that there were red flags before when he I could have turned around and said oh yeah I must say you know I mean I want to get married he proposed to me had the ring one knee everything I could have said yeah then I would have been stuck in an abusive relationship as a married woman and then I would have got divorced and still been a single woman who'd been married before and an abusive relationship but I decided no so too many women out there they think you know what that will go by they see a red flag oh that's nothing they see this that was nothing and then they go along with that oh yeah let's get married now I could have gone along with it everybody was like yeah on the outside you threw it together it's working he drops you shopping he picks you up he takes you here he takes you there but I knew in my heart that he was abusive nobody couldn't see it and I decided that rather than get caught up in the great big wedding thing knock it on its head so when women are talking about they're not average as a single parent I had to be different I had to stop going out there and thinking to yourself you know what I need a man I didn't need a man I know I needed to do I made the choice I needed to look after my child I needed to make sure I didn't have any more children I need to make sure that I become a positive role model for him and make sure that he had male mentors out there so much so that eventually when I got back to the first man that I was in love with by the time we got back together again he was a single parent it was willing to take me as a single parent and I took him as a single parent so as far as I'm concerned don't go out if you're a single parent look for other single parents if you can't find no one that you trust that you can hang over to single parents unite single men who are parents go have a single women who are parents because the women who are out there now nobody wants to be average everybody wants to be above average but you know what I'm average this is who I am I met somebody average we got on great and it works I don't want to find someone with a fancy car when I met him he never was even driving eventually got a fancy car and I got it to drive he gave it to me but you don't hang your hat too high women out there and the average makeup don't make you more than average intelligence don't make you more than average education don't make you more than average the clothes that you wear don't make you more than average the podcast you go on to do not make you more than average it makes you go popular Outdoors out talking let me finish let me finish let me experience on it I can't expand if I don't finish talking again I'm in English I'm Caribbean I'm not African so shut up and let me finish when I finish talking I've been sitting here hey they will be on here talking [ __ ] speak for yourself say that you are the best Michael stop okay 30 seconds then Michael you can go I'm talking she's talking look at me and look at her you're gonna tell me okay wait come on okay okay okay she said look at you as in you and then look at me as a meme you're saying single moms are average right and then you're a single mom and you're a lot older than me and you're saying look at you and look at me seriously auntie are the best right Africans are the best right you're gonna put yourself up against me now I was asking Richie riches sorry Esther wait wait okay that's a violation don't disrespect African people no one has never got this respected Africa he is here saying that African people are the best right I'm not dispute in this point of view I'm going back what's on the stage and I'm saying look at you right with your knowledge and your african-ness and look at me and you're gonna tell me that Africans are the best I'm not saying that what he's saying is wrong I'm saying that talk about what we've got here okay talk about the sense talk about the brain work talk about the educational and the professional speaking okay we have heads okay ah um all right I'm gonna take a second to read super Dance I'm sorry um okay guys like the video subscribe to the channel um and especially like that is the most important metric that YouTube uses to push out this content so um saying steer um disapporia Wars UK um NSK Destiny misquoted the lead attorney Pearl is right I watched that entire stream plus others for the lead attorney where he breaks it down go watch the lead attorney for specific Saint stear have them shed their ego Auntie um Steve why are you listening to the chick with the blue hair about masculinity it's all jereme's fault sipping on sweet delicious single mother tears I'm JB quinnon the fragile rock is dispensing misinformation see Dumbledore um destiny you are clueless as a top one percent Man Who as a top one percent man who also has a jurist doctor and has spent well over a hundred fifty thousand dollars in court fees over my kids you have no idea how family law Works um pray that you never find out Caleb it's obvious Pearl goes whenever Destiny is getting a banger clip to distract people Alexandria Rubio wrong I lost my son Destiny is wrong KCF Sac single mothers always blame men never self-respect um Nico can y'all please stop talking and bring on Ice Spice zestany in the house and no ice spice y'all are a Munch where is she QB quinnin the energy is only attractive for a corporation HR um supervision anything that's paradoxical to the role of mammy C Dumbledore tell me you're a loser without telling me you're a loser single mothers hold my beer house phone it's good to see Destiny finally embracing British culture he looks so happy sat on that he sat on the couch I bet he's rethinking all the bad things he's said about us now you have beef with British people you're not even British [ __ ] off oh yeah no I'm asking the question I didn't know I jumped around today and as soon as I heard someone say the word Tuesday I wanted to fly the back fly the [ __ ] back home okay Jesus Christ look I'm trying to get out of this country I love my British brothers and sisters JB Quinn and um nobody wants a workaholic ass loss check that's the equivalent to y'all wanting a sassy man see Dumbledore an angry middle-aged single mother divorcee is above average is there and in what way Jay Queen and being overweight as a woman makes you average in the dating Market no matter how you feel um Chipotle can the granny let the other guests talk the granny hasn't had one good point so far Marcus B the distinction between men and women when going out is men approach women so a man so a man going out won't be approached the same way a woman will be Saint Serge look at KR just waiting to cook um Chipotle okay and big name in the building Destiny is vosh Friend or Foe um house phone does this channel have members and mods uh yes we do sign up Corin Auntie stopped taking oh this was from earlier okay okay so next question okay I didn't get to say nothing oh okay oh I'm sorry go ahead and then often can I just add something on really quickly okay okay go ahead Michael all right so is this mic even working I don't even know it does we can hear you all right so basically like the reason why I said Africans are the best because like at the end of the day you're not little uh back and forth you said something along the lines of oh yeah uh uh you're African don't tell me nothing I'm Caribbean and I'm gonna finish what I'm saying and the way he said it it came across as like it came across offensive in it I didn't say that you said something along the lines not word for word but something along them lines and that's why I said Africa is the best I didn't say in a in a way as um putting down Caribbeans but I said it is like a stop so that like like we would actually start to think about what we're saying and then it just went all mad from there but at the end of the day like I just feel like that like people just say a lot of stuff and just need to think about what they're saying when they rewind it they will say I didn't set up again I didn't say anything about Africans no that's not why I said no you're not listening I said I did that you said you are African no I never said that you bro did you hear what I just said go ahead because you keep on calling me bro I'm a woman I've not got balls you might think I am but I ain't so I'm asking you I didn't understand what you said in the first place for no reason to me again you're too hyped to be honest I think honestly and I won't call you bro ever again I think honestly that you're too hyped for no reason bro to be honest like you're just hyped for no reason and your preface well everyone everyone can rewind and watch it and see users I think he said something it sounded like you were disrespecting him for being African and he's like Africans are the best not to [ __ ] on you for being Caribbean but because he wanted to like stop that train of thought I think that's what happened there was a misunderstandings yeah my best friends are African bro okay we like we we like Africans and Caribbean everyone's cool okay and white people yeah white people too you know everyone thank you everyone everyone needs to just be careful how you speak because people will take offense like if you say things in a certain type of way or anything like that people will take offense especially maybe people need to listen no no no no no no everyone needs to be careful what they say they need to be careful because um get over it get okay okay I'll give you I'm gonna give her a chance to respond just because you've talked a lot do you want to say thank you yeah yeah just just can you speak on the mic yeah yeah I think our microphone might be off is she muted okay I think Auntie you seem to have um a pattern in which you say things and not realize what you've said because that's what you did to me last time I don't think you even realized because I think you said something about faith whatever I'm not gonna bring it back but the point is because it's happened before I think you don't realize that it's what you're doing so I'm not even calling you out right now I'm just saying maybe just be cool if people call me excuse me do me a favor put your head back a bit I want to see her cool me out call me out on what I said I said you're faithful this week right right let's go there you want to go back in the pasta embarrass yourself again cool me out get over here you even offended him and I'm just saying maybe sometimes just listen to people when they're saying they're offended by what you say maybe just stop and think well tell me exactly what I said that offended him okay okay I'm gonna guys guys guys that's your auntie stop stop stop okay we're gonna talk about anything else wait can I can I do a thing on the average thing real quick because we we were talking about that for real fine okay so can I add off to you one bit I was gonna say well it's not my show so whatever yeah whatever's alive okay so what the reason why when somebody calls somebody average that's usually perceived to be an insult right I think we hear it that way we give it that way nobody's ever told somebody that there's a their average is like a nice thing to say to somebody now we can say that like oh well averages most people are average kind of but also not really right if you look at like an average person like an average person has 1.9 legs because some people are missing legs but no human has 1.9 legs either they have two or one right when we look at who we are as people there are some things that we excel at and there are some things that we don't do anything at so I think that's why we never feel average right because we're above average hopefully at whatever our competency is in So when you say that somebody's average it's always going to be perceived as an insult so I'm sure that uh Camilla or anybody else you guys all had crazy degree you guys are all more educated than I am right I'm sure sure that on a whole you might be an average person but you're not going to perceive yourself that way because you push yourself forward in some areas that make you not average and hopefully you're looking for other people to plug into that those above average I just want to say it's not about even my degree you know it's not about my masters it's about what I've overcome and achieved in this life that makes me a Survivor and above average I have been homeless on the street and I'm sitting here today and not representing that my struggle My Success makes me above average and nobody can't tell me that I'm not because if that's what I need to tell myself to get up in the morning and do my [ __ ] that's what's gonna have to happen that's who will win okay I was gonna give you a chance but you can't you can't come on Wow 30 30 seconds ago 30 seconds and then you guys all right all right guys okay okay all right thank you in the first rule of the podcast don't interrupt the horse there we're not going to tolerate that no more if that happens you gotta go thank you okay yeah are you all cool with that okay all right cool thank you I know and no disrespectful stuff either thank you okay wait wait oh come on okay no no no no no stop okay thank you um we're gonna go on to the next question all right all right so I'm gonna need okay this might be your platform but respect okay okay goodbye go go go okay because don't call me bro that's what we have to say you don't mind I'm just embarrassing yourself do you know something right do you know something about excuse me excuse me excuse me what's your name hello young lady what's your name t do you know what I'm gonna do for the first time ever I'm gonna [ __ ] follow you you're lucky you're waiting to myself bro wow yeah it sounds right well teach you a lesson next time you're [ __ ] talking to your mother yeah [Music] let's go you need you you keep over toss get get get out get out get out get out get out [ __ ] how many bodies you've got oh my God get out get out get get the [ __ ] up get the [ __ ] out of my apartment get out oh my God okay hold on can I just for my own safety who are we allowed to call Bro here and who are we not allowed to call bro I just want to know get the [ __ ] out lock the door blessing go lock the other side too blessing lock the phone yeah the only reason was because she kept interrupting me Jesus Christ look it I don't oh my God what can you go check just go go double check go okay yeah but she's saying I was disrespectful to her yeah okay okay guys guys guys guys guys guys guys okay okay she's gonna be like waiting outside tonight and it didn't I was like don't be scared yeah the only reason I was gonna let her talk is the crazy thing but she kept interrupting me and I was just like if you're gonna keep interrupting me you have to go like I don't think I don't know if she could hear you honestly you didn't call her name as well no she could she could hear she could she just kept no she I give up wow they're saying Esther's the same one in this podcast okay um I can't believe Auntie Jenny was worse than me just saying okay hold on we shouldn't shut down anybody I'm not trying to be fair I didn't think anyone was that crazy until she started yeah okay my next question I actually didn't think it was that bad but I guess I just want to know why she's so mad that cooler broke when I could everyone broke it's like it's just a respect thing it's like your elders like I just would never I don't know yeah yeah it's just like I just wouldn't call people that but I don't think no I don't I don't think you meant it like that no I I think they were already upset and then him saying bro was just like a Timber but they were cool and they were calling each other you couldn't sit either it doesn't matter yeah and I think it's because you kept antagonizing the situation she was like don't call me brain you're like all right bro what I'm speaking like it's just my vernacular that's just how I speak in it like so I'm even thinking like oh yeah I'm trying to push her buttons like all my thing was is that let me say something because at this point I've said the least out of everybody do you get what I'm saying so I was just talking about auntie I said the most yeah yeah but she wasn't the one talking at that moment at that moment exactly that's the moment I'm talking about I'm trying to go on to the next stop yeah what are we here yeah um okay so I was gonna live yeah we're alive but that was amazing got a lot of good Clips out of that one okay pop this is too much space yourself yeah that was mad blessings telling you guys to yeah Destiny the crazy thing is I've never had a kick out I have never I have never I've made it a whole year almost I've never had anyone walk out I brought that Miami energy back I know I was like what the hell oh my gosh in Miami of Europe what is London the Miami of Europe no no um okay

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Published: Wed Feb 08 2023