If You STRUGGLE With Sleep, Watch This BEFORE BED... (Sleep Less & Better!) | Sadhguru

I thought we'd start off by talking about sleep I've been a practicing medical doctor now for over two decades and I would say that one of the commonest problems I've seen and a problem that is rapidly increasing is many people coming in saying I can't sleep I can't sleep doctor can you help me from your perspective what do you think is going on my my life and work is about how to make people more awake than they are right now now you're telling me people are having problem asleep to sleep I think the biggest problem is most people are half asleep during the day when they're awake to become more awake to life is more important if you become more awake to life sleeping when it's needed for the body because sleeping is a downtime for the body to uh kind of undo itself and also do itself fresh this is happening all the time probably I don't know how I'm not a medical practitioner nor do I have any knowledge in that area but from the yogic perspective from the perspective of you know how my life happens because you said your two decades practicing medicine I've been practicing life for six and a half decades so from that from that aspect I'm saying that uh sleep is a kind of a Down time both the hardware that we have and the software that we have Hardware will go into a certain level of fatigue that it needs to recoup itself and the software also goes into a different kind of fatigue where B software being more nebulous kind of substance can lose its form so sleep is a time to recoup that not necessarily making it the same form but it can come out with a new form every day flower blossoms no flower looks the same as it's another flower even in the same plant if the thousand flowers come out no flower looks exactly the same this is the nature of sleep every day when you sleep and wake up you don't have to wake up as the same person you don't have to wake up exactly same software unfortunately people are thinking that's a great virtue that always I remain the same no you must blossom into fresh possibilities sleep could be used as a tool to rejuvenate yourself to try transform yourself to become an absolutely new possibility but right now it is uh you know people because they're in a state a lot of people are in a state of lack of physical activity and on the level of the Mind I'm sorry I'm using such a term but uh it's a mental diarrhea through the day so in the night they can't stop it see if you have physical diarrhea you can't stop it in the night even in the night you will have to wake up this is what mind is doing what is important is people a lot of people today if they don't know any other more subtle way of doing things the simple thing to do is increase the physical activity and reduce the mental activity how do I reduce the mental activity if you invest more in perception and less in expression your mental activity will naturally come down right now this generation of people are too much expression hardly any perception when you say perception and expression what exactly do you mean by that because I think there's something very interesting there for me that I've not heard about in the context of sleep before so I wonder if you would mind expanding on that a little bit when we say perception say right now the five instruments of perception for you right now is seeing hearing smelling tasting and touching it is through this that you know entire life it is through this that you are a doctor yes or no yes even now if a patient comes to you you touch him you look at him you feel him and only through five senses you're perceiving life there are other ways to perceive life but let's not talk about that but five senses are vital if you want to survive on this planet as instruments of survival they are vital instruments so when we talk about sleep when we talk about food when we talk about health we're essentially talking about survival so let's limit ourselves to Five Senses so how you see how you hear how you smell how you taste how you touch is how you know the world and whatever information came into you how you process that depends on how you are identified let's say you're identified with a red flower if you go out into the garden you will see red will always look brighter than yellow purple this that there may be thousand other colors but in your eyes red will look brighter because somewhere you're little identified with that so what you're identified with it will Orient all the faculties that you have in that direction so when perception means one thing is what information goes into you you can also extend it to say how you process it is also perception but it is not technically it is not it is the process but because that is determined by certain identities that we have taken on if your identity is just one thing then your process becomes very simple in the our fundamental so when your process is very fundamental you know socially we would say he's a Fundamentalist yeah it's so fascinating you mentioned these five senses and you hinted that we can go beyond that I was recently reading a book where they were you know they were talking about some I think some African tribes who consider themselves to have I think 9 10 maybe 13 senses not one of those 13 senses with the same five as we consider to be the you know the the five senses balance in mind balance and body was one of them right now right now I'm in United States 13 is a bad number okay okay I'm saying we can come to conclusions and conclusions we are always misunderstanding our conclusions as perception yeah because socially when you say this is my perception that your perception this is my conclusion and that's your conclusion that's what we are saying we're misunderstanding conclusions as perceptions perception is just what comes into you so if somebody has 13 openings instead of five through which they are perceiving fantastic I won't limit the number yeah it was asked like this when are the Yogi the Shiva was asked by seven disciples how many ways can we attain to the highest possibility of Being Human he said 112 ways only because that is the number of possibilities that are there in the body then his wife who did not you know she's a woman and she likes variety she said why only 112 why can't there be more maybe you don't know so he dismissed her he said there are only 112 so she went into years of austerity and wanting to see if there are other ways to perceive then she came back uh because the others the disciples are still there she didn't want to admit that she lost or she could not find other ways so she came and sat down one step below him to indicate to him that she she's accepting defeat that she could not find more then out of his love and compassion for her he says only if you are deeply rooted or identified with your body there are 112 ways only but if your identity and your existence itself is not rooted in the body absolutely that you are using the body but you are not become the body if you keep yourself like that he said there are as many atoms there are in the universe that many doorways are there to perceive yeah beautiful really beautiful for those individuals who are struggling with as as you call it mental diarrhea there's too much going on in their minds they have Disturbed Minds for wants of about unfortunately not too much unfortunately not enough going on in their head silly stuff is running compulsively that's all not that they're coming up with some profound thought about the existence or the human well-being or the existence of Life on this planet nothing like that just day-to-day things going on what's on the WhatsApp messages is ruling their minds for the day so don't use the word too much nothing much going on but endlessly going on why do you think this problem is getting worse then do you think it's because we're moving more towards technology let's say 50 100 years ago people would be physically using their bodies in the day they would be getting physically and mentally tired which would help them in the evenings whereas now people can be looking at screens all day and having a lot of mental workouts as opposed to physical workouts I mean from your perspective why is this a problem that seems to be on the rise certainly here in the UK and in America all such people who are complaining about technology I think we should remove machines from their life and ask them to dig the Earth with their own hands I think uh they will understand what it used to be right see this is I must tell you this in the before before uh this pandemic I was in 2017 and 18 2017 and 2018 I was repeatedly invited for artificial intelligence conferences I said why are you guys inviting me for an artificial intelligence I'm not a technology person nor am I artificial why are you guys inviting me for this then they said how problem is these were all academics they said we're going to lose our jobs if this AI comes we're going to lose our jobs then I told them and I know a situation from 1970s I remember this so clearly that in the mazagon docks in Mumbai uh uh you know the coolies or the labor there went on strike because they installed the first gantry at that time the largest ships that came into massagon docks were about uh 125 000 tons and to unload that they would take 24 to 28 days physically unloading bag by bag or whatever they they put the first Gantry and all these guys went on strike what are we supposed to do with our muscle because you got a machine now so today a quarter million ton uh vessel gets unloaded in less than 24 hours yeah so what are all those muscles doing we don't know maybe they're working out in the gyms I don't know what they're doing but the same problem with our brains technology has come the idea of technology is Ultimate idea of technology is that none of us have to do any work that is we don't have to do anything for a living I don't do anything for my living somebody takes care of me always because it's about life it's not about making a living survival is not the goal of human existence survival has become a big thing because of me it's a challenge otherwise if you know just look back when uh don't look at Europe just look back other parts of the world 500 000 years ago people just went about and picked up whatever they want and they lived survival was not such a big challenge when the populations were low on nature was in abandoned abundance people just survived without much effort but survival became more and more challenged as we got more and more organized and as a species we became more dominant than other species not realizing that it's only in coherence with other species that we can exist here well these things have become a challenge now we have raised survival to Heaven even if we want to survive we're calling God's help because to survive you need four Limbs and a few brain cells which are working this is all you need to survive but we are making such a big deal about it and now we are complaining technology is the problem technology has made our lives easy so you and me are talking I'm in Tennessee you're in London uh you and me will we ever complain about technology I'm saying technology is the greatest thing that's happened to us and it has enabled Humanity to do things that we could not imagine possible just a few years ago so people are complaining because they're always complaining people are always complaining about everything as I said earlier the problem is this there has to be a certain amount of energy invested in perception because perception or continued perception will make the experience of Life profound right now even a 12 year old child is busy on social media expressing their emotions and their silly thoughts and whatever I'm sorry I shouldn't have used that word silly because I'll get trolled oh you think 12 year old children are silly they are not they're childish and it's okay that's how they should be at that age but that's not a time to express that's a time to perceive and make the experience of Life profound once your life experience of life becomes profound people will beg you to express that's how it should be now because there is technology and there are mediums everybody is busy expressing Non-Stop and where is the time for perception for them is this the difference between external and internal when you say Express that's giving that's putting things out putting things out it's the external World whereas when you say perception what I'm hearing is it's we're turning that round onto ourselves we're going inward it's like this you said externally internal tell me in your mind point out one thing to me which is not external I was going to say maybe no the language that you're expressing is external you picked it up from outside okay and tell me one thing in your body which is not external well I can't tell you but I can feel internally I can feel I can I can no no let's not go to the feelings but in your body is there one cell of body which is come from somewhere else no it's come externally whether for you from your parents or from the world around you in the form of food isn't it yeah so there is nothing in your body or in your head which is internal it's all external this is what is happening I was just you know yes yesterday I was just going through these people are having fun asking questions about me to chat GPT [Laughter] what all it's saying so it looks like it's a person talking but everything is information and even a person is just that it's just that we attach so much emotion and consequence to it we think it's something new it is not new what you have gathered is what you're saying this is what I am saying what you perceive you can process it in such a way that it becomes profound and valuable or you're just expressing in reflection of whatever you see boom boom it's going out every day okay so for that person then who is struggling with their sleep and they're quite wired in their brain in the evening I know that you have in previous conversations interviews that I've seen you give you have recommended things like you know eat three to four hours before bedtime uh shower in the evening maybe light a candle maybe do some yoga or meditate how did those practices in your view help people fall asleep when ultimately as you say it's actually about expression versus perception where do those practices fit in see these are like uh when somebody comes to you you're a doctor when somebody comes to you with some problem right now they got some pain and they're in pain what do you do you give a painkiller is that a solution for life no at that moment it's a solution because somebody's in pain so these are just like that but the real thing is this the important thing is which is more important for you how awake you are right now is more important for you or how asleep you are is more important for you because between sleep and wakefulness the differences of life and death when you're asleep you're dead literally now people are struggling with sleep because they have been told there's a prescription you must sleep for eight hours a day otherwise you will have heart attack something something all kinds of research around us I know this is going to get me a massive amount of troll but it's all right because the important thing is people must understand what you call as life is far more profound then Keyhole understanding of do this do this do this we can handle that when you're not well we can say okay please do this take this tablet do this do this but why are you not well should you not look at it why is it that you don't sleep or why is it that you're not fully awake it's very important to look at life more profoundly than to come to tidbits of do this do this and it'll be okay definitely if you go to bed with a full stomach you'll cause much damage to the system you are a doctor I am sure you have seen the inerts of a human being either dead or alive you've seen them so you know all the vital organs are in this region thoracic region none of them have been fitted with proper clamps and nuts and bolts all of them are hanging in Nets am I correct sir yeah doctor they're all hanging in Nets now you fill one bag full of food because most people say there was a time when human beings could eat whatever they came in front of them fully load it and push it and eat it because their activity was at that level this is how they used to eat even now if you see the labor class it's like that because they're physically working 18 hours a day but today everybody it's the same way even though they are not doing that kind of work slowly awareness is coming fortunately otherwise we have to evolve as our activity evolves because of machines once again our food also has to evolve how we consume how much we consume when we consume so when we eat all kinds of food particularly if you're eating meat in some way you put this in your body and then try to sleep of course you will fall asleep because it will create so much inertia but now this huge heavy bag you know metabolism drops in sleep when metabolic activity drops digestive process will not happen well the that is a known fact now with this heavy bag lying on various other organs as you roll this way that way it crushes your liver it crushes your spleen it does so many things this heavy bag is a road roller in your body if you sleep like this it depends on your Constitution if you're uh you know if your parents have given a strong Constitution then it may take a few years before you get ill if you are a little fragile Constitution within months you will get there every day if you do this so minimum three to four hours space must be there and above all you must eat light in the night now the problem is but I woke up I went to bed at nine o'clock I woke up at 12 30. well that's perfect so you must not go to bed at nine o'clock you must go to bed at 12 o'clock and woke up wake up at four o'clock in the morning that's how it should be now your somebody has told you you must sleep for eight hours that's somebody who told you you must sleep for eight hours obviously is eating wrong and living wrong now that's become the standard everywhere there is no prescription for sleep on a given day this body may need five hours sleep another day it may need only two hours sleep because it depends on the type of activity what I have done on that day you just just go by the requirement of the body who is giving you moral values as to how to sleep yeah is it written in one of The Commandments thou shall sleep eight hours yeah I really love that because one of the things I've honestly found in my entire career as a doctor over the course of my career is that number one different things work for different people and one of the problems I see subguru at the moment and I wonder what your perspective is on this given the position you have in society given how many people look up to you for guidance I strongly feel that we have given up our own inner expertise and knowing to outside experts so one of the reasons I think people get confused let's say they hear one interview with One expert saying you should eat X Y and Z and then they hear an interview with another expert who says no you should eat a b and c and you shouldn't eat X Y and Z same expert also is changing his opinion every two years exactly and I think then people get really confused and say well I don't know which ones to follow anymore but I think that's the wrong question it's the wrong approach it's not which one of those should I follow it which is the right approach for me see because people are listening to internet they're not listening to their own life nor are they listening to any other life around them this listening to life this is why this is what I meant by perception yeah you listen to what your body is speaking whether I should eat today or not your body will tell you there's a there is a massive I mean you come from Indian background so I'm telling you in India there is a traditional understanding on which days you must eat which days you should not eat moon is in a certain phase on that day we won't eat we'll be just on fruit diet if we can fast we will Fast otherwise we are on fruit diet otherwise essentially the idea is on that day you must be in light stomach because your digestive process is not the same on that day these are things that will come to you by observation there is no observation everything is gathered knowledge see we are misunderstanding information for intelligence this is a serious mistake information is not intelligence information is data and the data for your your medical professional you know this very well the data for your body and the data for my body will be entirely different on many levels and you are the expert and you say this is it and I am the expert I said that is it this is not the way there is no this is it that is it the only thing is you must become more awake not asleep because sleep is the problem right now for me getting people to a higher level of wakefulness is the problem if everybody is fully awake they would realize what's happening in their system have they ever paid attention to what is happening whether the stomach is ready to take in food or not right now we are still behaving like foraging animals whenever food comes in front of us we must eat so that has to go it is not you must eat this you must not eat that the important thing is you must just this is a litmus test for people if you eat food immediately after food yeah right now see they've fixed this in America when they serve you a platter of food along with that a bucket full of Coca-Cola are one of those Brands which is essentially Coke will come otherwise a bucket full of coffee will come I'm saying a bucket because I don't see any tumblers and glasses yeah cups in America it's all buckets yeah you know what I'm saying I I really do yeah so when this bucket comes and you drink this if you don't drink that most probably you will fall asleep right there on the table Yeah because the food is so dull so full of inertia when I say so full of inertia almost everything that it's not only in a restaurant or something almost at homes also the food that most people are eating I'm talking about well-to-do people I'm not talking about homeless people on the street well to do people are generally eating an average of 60 to 90 day 90 day old food on a daily basis in in yoga in Southern India even today is generally followed in yogic culture any food that we cook we must eat within one and a half hours after that we won't touch it because it will gather what is called as Thomas literally means inertia inertia ultimate level of inertia in you is death partial inertia is coma or sleep is that what you want you want aliveness you want dynamism in every cell in your body if that has to come you eat food and just observe no other stimulant just observe if they don't drink a coffee or a Coke or light up a cigarette they can't stay awake yeah you just sit there if you feel drowsy you have not eaten the wrong food if you eat food and you feel very alive that's the right food to eat you also recommend having a shower in the evening now conventionally many people in Western countries will shower in the morning but when I heard you speak about this it was really fascinating to me because it it implies the way he was speaking implied that you were getting a physical cleansing and a kind of emotional cleansing if you take your shower in the evening could you just elaborate on that a little bit please uh physical cleansing for sure everybody understands the because today you're going out in the world there's so much pollution and what you eat and work and mix with people you know we are a heavily populated planet right now whether you're going to an office or you get into your bus or wherever you're coming in contact with so many bodies maybe not directly but in so many other ways with their breath with the atmosphere around you Automobiles of course because they are part of their living creatures who live with us without them we can't exist all these things together so definitely a physical cleansing is there I did not say emotional cleansing see over 70 percent of your body is water if you just allow water it has to be running water if water runs over you today running water me does not mean River it means a shower so I said shower because everybody can't go to river and river is not in a condition where you can even dip yourself anymore because they have become cesspools across the world so living that aside if water runs over you so there is a process in when the build uh nuclear reactors and also other things which are related to that nuclear science when they want to purify a metal they will purify it in a normal chemical processes to a certain point but still some micro amount of impurities remain in the metal part of metallurgical process so what they do is uh let's say a copper Rod we want to purify this now we put a copper ring around it which is not touching it with a little space but with electrical charge move it up and down up and down and they find that is the best way to get it to 100 purity so this is something that we exercise all the time that one thing is let the water flow over you debris in certain Seasons we have what is called as windwash and you come from Bengal so you know this maybe I don't know you grew up in UK probably yeah so uh maybe if you've gone back home or to ancestral homes you would see when somebody goes out and comes especially children or anybody goes out with lots of people and if they come back with a little shrunken face immediately the ladies in the house will say come and sit down here and they'll do a firewash it's called creation Ashana you know have you seen this yeah with firewash because all the five elements can get affected one way or the other by constant transaction in the world so when you come back you may not be able to do all those things at least water wash you can do and water wash is important not only for washing your skin but apart from that just water flowing over your body you will see there is a certain release in the system your perspective might be on this I've found that rituals and routines can be incredibly helpful for people now of course everyone has to find the right routine for them but routines both in the evening and in the morning I have found myself and with many of my patients can be incredibly helpful for physical and mental well-being so make sure you're taking action after watching this video I have created a free breathing guide that's going to help you reduce stress calm your minds and boost your energy in this guide I share with you six really simple breathing practices that work immediately even just one minute a day will start to make a big difference to receive your free guides all you have to do is click on the link in the description box below let me let me be a little more not so complicated let me come down to the world see you're always shooting for the ideal but how many people are willing to shoot for the ideal when you know I was talking to a group of people many years ago in Nashville and I was saying see if you really want to live an ideal life this is the way you eat this what you do this is the time you get up that's what you do so one guy stood up and said sadhguru if I if I don't want to be really ideal not don't want to be really top-notch if I want to be number two or three kind of Life what should I do so you're talking about that so let me come to that my aspiration is always how to push people to the Top Notch yeah but people always choose number two three number 13 you know whatever because they think there is something more important in life than life itself it's a serious mistake that human beings are making they think their work or their office or their home or their anything is more important than life itself this is life all right how disease is most important because what we do depends on how this is physically mentally emotionally spiritually how this one is is what it will do you cannot do anything that you are not do you agree with me doctor I completely agree yeah okay you cannot do anything other than what you are if you are a confusion you will do confusion maybe with great conviction that's the problem this is why people believe something this is why people at Heart of philosophies this is why people adhere to certain boom boom boom practices or rituals or habits because you can beat the confusion with this otherwise every day in the morning you have to get up and figure out okay what do I do today that's a fantastic way to be if you are not if you don't have a mind which constantly threatens you with confusion if you have cultured your mind to a certain level of discipline then the best way to get a piece without any ritual but that percentage of population is very very small super small so for the rest of the people the best thing is some kind of a ritual well here we're even here at the Yoga Center morning wake up time is whatever 5 30 Everybody Must assemble for sadhana it starts with a certain ritual then everybody has their specific there are some common practices then everybody has specific practices to do till eight in the morning is completely spent in this and totally in silence everybody is doing their thing with some people do more with the body some people with the mind some people with energies according to their individual needs but some basic practices which are common and rest everybody is doing this so without this ritual there wouldn't be a Yoga Center I am not against the ritual fundamentally I am against it but in practice I am not against it so in the morning you get up and brush your teeth you can either do it ritualistically all you see that there is a need it has to be done so there are two ways to do it you can do it consciously or by habit I would always prefer that you do it consciously but most people if you leave it to their Consciousness their Consciousness will go back to sleep because their problem is they want to sleep better okay they don't want to be more awake when I I'm not against sleep why I am saying this sleep is compared to your awake wakefulness right now your sleep is inertia isn't it yeah even though you're a doctor when you're asleep as far as you are concerned maybe not medically as far as you are concerned you're in some kind of coma or we can say we are dead actually we're gone so in that sense if you're sleeping eight hours a day one third of your life you will slip it away that means you won't live there is lot of time to die I'm saying because see you are 45 am I correct you're absolutely correct so uh so you're 45 years ago you were born before that how long were you dead and it turn itself you don't know endless amount of time now I'll bless you with another 100 years 100 years later when you die see when I say death I'm not wishing you death all I am saying is all of us nobody is negotiating death we're only negotiating time I said hundred years more good enough right I'll take that that's good that's uh maybe maybe a bit too young but that's okay 100 years later when you die how long will you be dead and Eternity again again endless amount of time so I'm saying we are dead for a very long time we are alive for a very little time in this time please tell all your people not to focus on how to sleep how to stay awake yeah my understanding from researching this conversation is that you only sleep maybe two to three hours four hours a night something like that the rest of the basis of activity if you don't sleep well tonight you won't live well tomorrow it's very simple but I've heard you say that the human body actually has no requirement for sleep it actually has a requirement for rest and sleep is just one form of rest almost 26 27 years on an average I slept only two and a half hours per day now I'm you know I'm 60 nearly 66 now I'm getting a little lazy so I'm sleeping average for four and a quarter four and a half hours maybe uh but uh that's more than enough for the body it's not like I ever wake up with an alarm Bell I have never used alarm bells in my life uh everybody my my daughter laughing at me I don't know how to set an alarm on my phone I just wake up when body is done with sleep it wakes up yeah it's eager to wake up so first of all this is the important thing have you kept your life both within and around you in such a dynamic and interesting way that your everything in you is eager to wake up or you know one more day is it also that if if really the body is asking for rest I've been thinking a lot about this because I've been thinking how come sudguroni sleeps two three now he's getting lazy sleeping four hours a night okay conventional medical wisdom would say that most humans need seven eight you know at least six and a half hours for example now there's two things for me to say though like firstly so the prescription is one third of your life you must slip it off yeah I'm coming to that but I I accept what you're saying and it's clear to me that in your mid 60s if I look at your skin your energy levels it you know your cognition where can you see my this is my hair you can't see much of my skin I can I can see enough to know that there's real vitality and um and real health and you know Health well-being Vitality there what's interesting to me it's two things first thing early on in this conversation you said rung and you've had two decades of clinical practice but you've had 65 years or you know 60 plus years of life experience now I am actually a very open-minded medical doctor I've always felt that lived experience is also very very valid the other thing I wanted to share there is that I remember I'm not I'm not trying to depreciate the scientific the value of scientific knowledge because uh it has done wonders to us it has done Miracles I'm not either I I'm not either I'm I also what a funny problem with science is when it comes to life we are putting everything under microscope and having a keyhole vision of pieces the nature of life and the universe is such if you start studying this by pieces and make keep making conclusions because nobody will fund your research if you don't tell them what is the conclusion if you study for 10 years something you study my little finger for 10 years and if you don't say anything nobody is going to fund you no University is going to keep you no government is going to support you everybody say you're doing nothing if you say no no this is too complex we have to study Everything at Once nobody is going to support you they want to know what all is happening in the little finger but there's nothing happening in the little finger which is not instigated by the entire system so I'm saying the problem is just this the problem is of Economics the problem is of attitude the problem is not of science really science could bring so many things it's already brought so many solutions and this thing at the same time it is also multiplied our problems made our problems far more complex than what it was why this has happened is simply because every Keyhole Vision that we have immediately we have to publish it we have to put it to use otherwise nobody is going to support science yeah I'm also trying to denigrate science I think what has happened in my profession is that there's been an over focus on small reductionist areas of Science and we've not taken into consideration the whole and I think a lot of things you're talking about really speak to that for me like the human body the way we function physical body and Minds you can't reduce it down and and still get a picture of the entire hole what's one of being that has been one of my frustrations in medicine and and so let me just share with you that it's interesting for me I've had a a European um allopathic medical training right but at the same time I've been brought up in an Indian family so a lot of these uh principles the ayurvedic medicine would be talking about for years have also been embedded in me by my family and what I've always found fascinating particularly over the last few years is how many things that ayurvedic medicine have spoken about for years fasting circadian biology food as medicine getting natural light in the morning are now finally being supported by modern science and you know people are now encouraging people to do these things doctors are as well yeah you know in India they've been talking about this for thousands of years the uh in in the in our centers Everybody Eats at 10 in the morning and seven in the evening we are all physically very active only two meals irrespective of your age I generally eat only one meal if I'm at home if I travel out maybe I'll eat something in the morning it depends because meals are not food is not you know it doesn't come as I want it will come some way in whatever form it comes so to compensate for that you may end up eating two uh two times a day otherwise once a day so now we've been saying this and you should see the amount of argument we've had in the last 40 Years of with doctors and scientists telling us this will cause this problem this will cause that problem this will happen that will happen this is a diabetic person how can he eat only twice he must eat 10 times a day well the thing is whether diabetes is a commercial Enterprise or is it a a problem that needs to go away right now I'm in United States there's no single small village which can be without a fire station you know always ready fire stations are ready even the tiniest Villages and uh firemen are there apart from that there are volunteers who train for this everybody is ready so much investment in putting off fire which is very nice but there is not enough investment in in teaching our children how not to set fire to our homes there's not enough investment in Building Homes which will not easily catch fire so this whole whatever you said I don't want to go by geographical uh identities of being European or Indian or whatever uh essentially the modern medicine has been born out of terrible uh infectious diseases like plague and malaria and whatever else not malaria many other things to handle this they came up with some miracle Solutions and even now allopathy has the best solutions for infectious diseases because it's a chemical War is essentially a chemical war or a physical War because I call surgery a physical War medicine as chemical War so chemical warfare or fighting with knives is two ways of doing this when an enemy has entered that's the only way to handle it so in emergencies there is nothing like allopathic system all right yeah if you have had a serious injury or you've been infected with something you run to the doctor that's the best thing to do that's what everybody should do but allopathy is called medicine not Health that's appropriate I'm where I'm very deeply appreciate the honesty behind that when you go to a college you say I'm studying medicine you're not studying Health you're studying medicine maybe you're understanding the biochemistry to some extent and how to manipulate it from outside but I'm asking you a simple thing both for physiological and psychological thing this this uh especially when I come to the psychological aspect there's a massive you must see the amount of trolls I get for this but I'm insisting on this because I'm a living proof that I can put myself through any kind of situation any kind means just about any kind of situation and still I am intact uh psychologically emotionally energy wise physically I'm intact because there is a certain way to do it you as a doctor you know the most complex chemical Factory on the planet is human system yeah no debate on that so this chemical Factory who is running it is a question if you're in a state of volatile reaction compulsive impulsive reactions then just about anything runs this chemistry but if you are a good CEO of this chemical Factory what kind of chemicals would you produce would you produce chemicals that will create health peace Joy blissfulness ecstasy or would you create anxiety stress tension nonsense whatever else that makes you suffer so for all infectious ailments allopathy is a Wonder yeah no question but when we say chronic ailments it essentially means that we are manufacturing the disease unconsciously you are not able to create the right kind of chemistry within yourself for some reason whatever there is Maybe sometimes it may have external stimuli sometimes it may be completely internal the way you think the way you emote the way you identified the way you relate to everything around you all this may be causing there may be genetic factors also but genetic factors usually make a certain organ susceptible it doesn't necessarily cause the disease because the we have always looked at this your father has this problem you must have this problem there is no such thing you can completely reverse this by changing your lifestyle by changing your attitude by changing the way you are you can completely reverse that it's possible but for you it may take more effort than it takes for somebody else yeah the always argument is that guy is not doing anything right but he's okay all right he is blessed with a certain level of stability in his system you may have to work harder but for everybody it is possible if you are a good CEO you would produce chemistry of blissfulness yeah if you are creating a chemistry of ill health and volatility you're a lousy CEO that's all it is it's peaceful to hear that I very much agree with so much of that perspective on hell that's something I've discovered for myself it's something I've discovered through my practice through seeing patients through helping them reverse chronic diseases by changing the inputs into the system you know changing how they think changing how they approach the world changing how they eat all of these kinds of things you know what was coming up for me there said Guru you mentioned you only sleep two to four hours a night let's say rights whereas conventional wisdom I say conventional modern medical wisdom would say Let me let me correct that uh and let me correct that for you please I'm saying you don't decide how much to sleep you keep the body very vibrant energetic eat right and do those things sleep when the body wakes up it wakes up my body wakes up in four hours four and a half hours time these days now if I wake up in two and a half three hours I'm lazy enough to just again try to go back for another hour it's not that ever I'm waking up with an alarm Bell yeah it is don't prescribe sleep just learn to keep the body very alive and energetic naturally the downtime will be less it's like this if you have a car uh I don't want to mention a brand here because you're in UK all right so let's say you have a car which needs uh service downtime one day in a month all right still worth having that car but if it needs 10 days in a month service better to take public transport isn't it so that's all it is the downtime is too much downtime is too much not because that's a prescription downtime is too much because we have not kept it well how it should be yeah so in my language I'm hearing that as if the purpose of sleep is to help the body rest right if you're generating a lot of physical stress emotional stress psychological stress throughout the day your body May naturally need a lot more sleep to recover from all that stress that you've generated but if you can learn to live with more peace and calm and joy and purpose maybe in that system you're generating less stress in the first place therefore when you uh allow the body where do you say less stress because you believe stress is compulsory no stress okay okay I love that I love that hey I I I like to push myself and go for things and I I love that so are you then saying it is possible to live in a state of no stress absolutely see you're looking at it being a doctor you're looking at it in terms of symptoms if there is more stress this this this this will happen this is the main problem with allopathy that it's symptomatic that say right now it's like this let's say you're driving on the London streets the guy in front of you puts a blinker that he wants to turn right suppose we shoot the blinker off will he go straight so symptoms are just indicators we are treating the whole symptom kill the symptom and everything is fine now if you kill the symptom it will become the problem will become more complex and more complex this is why with the advancement of medicine we should have achieved fantastic sense of Health instead of that we are complicating health as I repeat as I say this when it comes to there are two types of ailments that we can get one is infection infection means an external organism has invaded us this is a war when it comes to war everything is fair in Love and War you know you fight you put chemicals you nuclear bomb it you radiate it do whatever the hell somehow get rid of it that's all but we're talking about chronic ailments which is over 70 percent of the human problem yeah this is self-created self-manufactured from within because we have not taken charge of the system yeah I know you teach inner engineering around the world in your institutes and I believe that one of the things within that course is meditative practices things like yoga and of course we we started off this conversation talking about sleep and rest we mentioned sharing in the evening we mentioned uh eating three to four hours before bed I presume you think that oh I shouldn't presume would you say that some form of yoga or meditative practice in the evening is a good thing to help people switch off from the day and to allow them to relax uh uh when we say in engineering say right now when would you say something is well engineered let's say a building or a machine or let's say an automobile when would you say this automobile is well engineered when it does exactly what you want when it fulfills the purpose for which you're driving it the same goes for this right now what is the problem when you want to stay awake you can't stay awake when you want to sleep you cannot sleep this means this machine is not well engineered fundamental design is fine but still what we do inside and the software that we create on a daily basis is not well engineered so if you engineer this properly you ask this question is it possible to live stress-free of course because well engineered means you live here with least amount of friction in physical world physical world has friction can't help because any physical movement even if you move your hand through the hair there is a certain amount of friction all right it may be negligible but there is certain amount of friction but why should there be friction in software Hardware there is friction why there is friction in software that is simply self-created bad software if your software is making noises with friction and it needs lubrication it's badly set up software isn't it Hardware creaks a little bit that needs to be managed that needs to be lubricated so the yoga the other things that your topic talking about is about that but there is something more profound than that when you say yoga I know you're thinking of physical postures we must understand this yoga means Union Union means there are many ways to see this when you breathe what you exhale the trees are inhaling what the trees exhale I am inhaling but today somebody may ask where is the damn tree I am sitting in an air-conditioned room and breathing all right where is the tree because people don't bother to even look at that so I am saying this is just on one level on every level every cell in the body every subatomic particle in the body is in constant interaction with everything otherwise this cannot exist here for one moment this life cannot exist here for one moment this is Yoga when it comes to your living experience that nobody uh has to tell you see what tree is giving out oxygen you are giving out carbon dioxide exchange happening not like that if you pay attention to your breath really pay attention to your breath you know this yeah you just know this by experience when you know this you're in yoga it's not just about breath in every aspect of your life the food that you eat is Yoga isn't it whatever soil became food what was food is sitting here as your body today and one day this will be soil once again so how come human beings don't know this everything has to be written in a book Because as I said in the beginning no perception simply information we are Mis misunderstanding information for perception and intelligence above all yeah yeah because right from the day you went to school today everywhere in the world the school has become largely European foundations all right so you're only rewarded for your memory you're never rewarded for your attention please see this this is a very wrong way to create a civilization it's been a real honest speaking test today you've certainly given me a lot of Food For Thoughts I always love to finish off each conversation on my podcast with something practical something inspirational for the many people around the world who are struggling with their physical and mental well-being just to finish off our first and hopefully not our last conversations together do you have any final words for people to inspire them so instead of telling them how to sleep let me tell them how to wake up tomorrow morning when they wake up they must know that every day so many people a few hundred thousand people don't wake up the next day that is natural death happens so when you wake up in the morning pinch yourself and see if you're genuinely alive give yourself a smile oh what do I smile at okay the ceiling is all right your bedroom ceiling is good enough but the important thing is you're alive because if you really look at it you think you have a job you think you have money you think you have wealth you think you're a family no the only thing that you have is life if this one thing is taken out of you you have nothing all right so knowing this and also I already told you you've been dead for so long you're just alive for a brief time and again you'll be dead forever so this brief time if you're still alive today just give yourself a smile and every time you look at your watch oh it's known time and still alive how many died from 10 to noon we don't know I am still alive smile hello because this is the greatest thing the greatest phenomena Happening Here is life you need to pay attention to that and it's throbbing within you it's not somewhere up there it's throbbing within you so you focus more on how to come awake and become more and more awake sleep will take care of itself thank you for sharing your wisdom namaskaram thank you very much if you enjoyed that conversation keep watching for more practical tips on how finding purpose and happiness can transform your life I understand that you feel lost that some days you wake up you don't want to get out of bed some days you don't have the motivation to do the things that you know you want to do the things that you said you were going to do I get it you know I have days like that many of my patients have days like that but even though you may feel like that at the moment that's not the way it has to stay right it's not that hard to change it once you identify what's driving it now for many of us what is often behind it is that we're not truly living our life we're trying to live somebody else's life as we end up chasing the wrong things we end up chasing our dreams only to realize that actually our dreams don't make us happy now I know that sounds a bit cynical but for many of us it's absolutely true well I saw this patient a few years ago from the outside it looked as though he was crushing it he had a nice car he ran his own business he was making good money he also felt lazy unmotivated indifferent to life he thought he had depression and what I spoke to him I got to know him it was so clear he didn't need an antidepressants he needed to spend time with his friends and that was the prescription I gave him I said listen every week once a week see one of your friends in person and when you're with them don't look at your phone six weeks later completely transformed different energy big smile motivation back energy back right completely different he didn't need an antidepressant he needed time with his friends but what about you how often do you spend time nourishing the important relationships in your life I mean who are those people partner children childhood friends work colleagues like who it's going to be for you it's going to be different for me but we know that relationships are really really important they're the number one factor for our health and our happiness yet many of us were so busy trying to get more do more acquire more that we forget about what's really important I mean let me ask you this imagine you're on your deathbeds look back over your life what are three things you'll want to have done three things she will want to have achieved go and do it now ask yourself well sure you're unique you've got your own desires you've got your own preferences but we're not as unique as we think we know with a high degree of certainty what you are going to say on your deathbed how do I know that because palliative care nurses have told us they spent years caring for people again with their lives and they all say the same things I wish I'd work less I wish I spent more time with my friends and family I wish I'd allowed myself to be happy I wish I'd lived my life and not somebody else's see that's the big problem that's what I did for much of my life I thought that acquiring more doing more getting more getting a promotion what was going to make me happy but I got all those things and it didn't so what are you chasing are you chasing your dreams are you chasing what is truly going to make you happy or do you think that getting a better job getting more money having a nicer phone do you think those things are going to make you happy for most of us honestly they don't one of the biggest problems across Society is that we confuse success and happiness we think they're the same thing but for most of us they're not now the cat overlap sure the can overlap but for most of us they don't for most of us they're two completely separate things and therefore we need to spend a bit of time asking ourselves what is it that success really means for me you know what is a successful life for me what does a successful life look like and it's certainly by spending a bit of time thinking about it defining it for you not for your friends not for your mate at work not for me this is for you right Define what it means for you so try this right now on one sheet of paper write down three things that you could do this week that truly make you happy well I would say pause the video do it right now what are three things and ask yourself could you do those three things every week right the second part of this exercise is called write your own happy ending I've already said to you imagine you're on your deathbed well right down now on your deathbed looking back at your life what are those three things that you will want to have done right so now you should have two sheets of paper now bring them close together and now ask yourself if you do those three weekly happiness habits will you get that happy ending that you just Define that you want for yourself if you do those three happiness habits every week week after week month after month will you get that happy ending that you just defined for yourself you see this is an exercise that's not about beating yourself up making yourself feel guilty or ashamed nothing like that it's about awareness right it's simply about saying well if at the end of my life I say I want to have spent time with my friends and family which is pretty much what we all say and what we're all going to say and you look at your weekly life and go I'm so busy with work or commitment to what I have to do that I don't have time to nurture my friends and family well that's okay what but at least now you know why can you make one small shift can you go well this week actually you know what yeah work is busy but can I carve out half an hour this week to see one of my friends or go around and spend time with your mum you know whatever it is for you so it's a very simple exercise but it's deceptively simple and it's one you can do regularly right you can keep tweaking this as I do I know at the end of my life either wanted to suspense quality time with my friends and family other ones have done something that contributes to the well-being of other people I'll also want to have had time to engage in things that I'm passionate about right those are my three things so I know each week if I can go for a long walk with my wife and kids at the weekends if I can be present for five meals to sit with them undistracted then I know week after week I'm gonna have nourished those important relationships if I record an episode of my podcasts every week after week month after month I know at the end of my life I'll have ticked that second box I will have done something that's contributed to the well-being of other people and if I have time each week to go for a walk or play my guitar or practice playing snooker right if I get two or three episodes a week where I can do that I know I'm having time to nourish my passion so I'll get that happy ending that I want at the end of my life I guess what we're talking about is an intentional life it's about a life where you have specified what you want out of it and then you've gone to go and get that but for many of us we chase the dreams of other people we chase the idea that Society is given to us well that's the big problem that's what happened to my dad's my dad works so hard that he literally killed himself working but our dads was an immigrant to the UK from India in the 1960s right he came over with nothing his goal was to give himself his family certainly his kids and his wife in the UK but also his family back home a better life and you know what by certain definitions dad did that now I love my Dad I'm so proud and glad what he did for me and my brother and our family but he killed himself working right we see fell for the myth that many people fall for that getting more is going to lead to happiness but the price we often pay for getting more kills us or makes us sick why this part of our brain called the want brain right and it's basically this this part of the brain that makes us think that getting more getting a promotion you know getting more resources for us and our family getting another slab of chocolate another glass of wine is going to truly make us happy now that part of your brain is a relic from the olden days where actually we probably did need to compete for resources and actually those things did help us but for many of us now I know not all of us but for many of us these days that's not the world in which we live right trying to acquire more at the expense of other people it's not going to make us happy in fact it just makes us feel empty and discontent now dad's desire for Success was so great that he did more than his body could stand it literally killed him dad was a consultant doctor in Manchester World infirmary and dad would come home from his day job at around I don't know 5 30 or 6 p.m in the evening he'd have dinner then he'd go upstairs he'd shave come down says a car would pick him up at 7 pm right Dad would go out all night do GP house calls seeing patients and he'd arrive back in a car at 7 00 am he'd come back in again he'd have breakfast that Mum and made for him he'd go upstairs and shave and then he would drive maybe 30 or 40 minutes into Central Manchester to do his day job that Dad did that for 30 years he only slept three nights a week for 30 years which is why no doubt in my mind in his late 50s he gets really sick with lupus which is an autoimmune disease and kidney failure it was overwork now look I get it Dad did what he felt he had to do why he didn't have connections in the UK he didn't he came here with nothing in terms of money I understand that but it came at a cost you know as a kid I hardly saw my dads dad was doing what he felt he had to do and I thank him for that but I don't want to make the same choices that Dad made but I didn't want to have that life I don't need to and you could argue that because of the sacrifices he made maybe I don't need to and that's true I don't need to in the same way that he felt he had to but here's the thing many of us are doing the same thing we may have different pressures we may have different motivations but many of us are chasing more we think it's going to bring happiness but it doesn't you know I've done the same thing I took on the idea as a child that I was only a value when I achieved something or succeeded now every situation in life has got multiple perspectives and actually being able to choose the perspective that works for you is a really important skill for our happiness for our health for our well-being I'm going to teach you some things on that in just a moment but when it comes to perspective let me share with you an instant from my childhood which really demonstrates how every situation has got multiple perspectives so if I came back from school with 19 out of 20 in a test my parents would ask me why didn't you get 20. if I came back with 99 then ask me why don't you get 100 if I came second in the class they said well who came top why didn't you come top now I asked my mum just the other day why did she and dad do that when I was a kid well they did it from a place of love they like many immigrants they struggle face discrimination right they had a hard life and they want to avoid their children having to do that so in their eyes if we prioritize academic Excellence if my son does really well at school he goes to a good University gets a good job right that he's not going to have the same problems that we had no I understand that I love that I love that place of Love and Desire that the children are going to have a better life but what did I take on as a little boy I took on the idea that I'm only worthy of Love worthy of praise worthy of anything if I'm top of the class if I get full marks same situation two different perspectives so how does that play out for me it means that actually I don't feel good in who I am unless I'm Top Dog unless I have succeeded and then yeah it can drive you on to huge levels of what Society calls success a good job right a nice promotion a nice salary but if the drive for those things is because you don't feel enough and you think those things are going to complete you and make you feel enough or you may be in for a rude awakening like I was like you get those things and you realize there's still a deep hole in your heart that those things didn't fill but that's going on all over the world these days that may be going on in your life what's your drive why are you pushing so hard to get the things that you think are going to make you happy is it coming from a place of lack or was it coming from a place of love because that's the key question that really is the number one question where's your drive coming from you see if it's coming from a place of lack if you think that when I achieve this I'm going to show them I'm going to prove to those people that I could do it well what you might find is that when you get those things and you may well do you may find that there's no pot of gold there just emptiness a few weeks ago I spoke to Johnny Wilkinson on my podcast now everyone in the UK knows who Johnny Wilkinson is but if you don't Johnny Wilkinson is probably one of the world's most famous rugby players now what's really incredible about his story is that at the age of 24 he'd achieved all of his dreams right so it's a little kids he wipes out on a piece of paper I want to play for England and I want to win the World Cup the age of 24 that's exactly what he's done not only has he won the World Cup with England he does it in the most fairy tale of settings in the final minute of the game he kicks the winning goal that helps his Country lift the World Cup all sounds great doesn't it he's got his dreams well here's the problem those dreams didn't make him happy he felt empty afterwards lonely a thing of discontent he talks about the following morning he woke up feeling nothing what's next you know all the focus was on the goal right so you get the goal but then what happens many of us are chasing that same fallacy we think when we get our dream it's going to make us happy but if that drive comes from that place of lack rather than a place of love and fullness you can have a problem I've had that problem Johnny Wilkins has had that problem we see that all over the world so many people who you may look up to whites to tell you the same story the dreams didn't make them happy so what's the solution you've got to Define what the right dream is for you then you start chasing the stuff that's going to make you happy in your life it's not that hard that exercise I just mentioned do it do it regularly write the three happiness habits down that you can do each week that you feel are truly going to make you happy write down the three things that you're gonna say on your deathbed and bring those two things into alignment so maybe not this week right maybe it'll take you a month or two to really get there make that take a bit longer that's okay it's a journey many of us are blind to this though many of us feel we're chasing the sub that's going to make us happy many of us feel if we work harder we get a promotion we get a better car we get a nicer job it's gonna do it for us but it doesn't and that's the reason why so many of us are feeling lazy we're feeling unmotivated we don't feel we've got energy it's because our life is not aligned with who we really are success happiness you know we're confused it too but what is happiness right because she could say that term happiness to 10 different people and they'll come up with 10 different interpretations of what that means you know what do you think of when you hear the word happiness do you think it's a smile on your face every day seven days a week you know 52 weeks a year is that what you think happiness is do you think happiness is basically that feeling you're gonna get one day when everything in life goes perfectly there's no more struggle there's no more obstacles the world is the way you would like it to be well if that's what happiness is you could be waiting a very long time because happiness is an inside job right so when I say happiness I say what I mean I have this term that I call Core happiness and core happiness I want you to think of like a three-legged stool right each of the three legs is separate but it's essential if any one of those legs starts to fall down your feelings of happiness will probably start to collapse so what are those three legs well the three legs are alignments contentment and control right so what's alignment alignment is when the person who you really are inside and the person who you are actually being out there in the world are one and the same that's alignment right that's basically when your inner values and your external actions start to match up but that's what alignment is so how aligned are you in your life at the moment the second leg is contentment now contentment is that feeling of peace with your life and your decisions it's that feeling you get when you do certain things and you get that that feeling of calm well that's contentment and then the third leg is control now control is a really important one it's all about controlling the world around you or other people but that's impossible like we see that all the time like the world is inherently uncontrollable it's not about that it's about a sense of control what are the things that you can do regularly ideally on a daily basis that give you a sense of control over your life because we know that people with a better sense of control they have more motivation they have higher levels of success they earn more money the happier the healthier they live longer right so alignment containment and control these are the three core legs off the core happiness still what I love about them and the reason I designed this model of happiness is to make it really practical model right because otherwise happiness feels like this impossible destination that one day we're just going to stumble across when everything just happens to go right but that's very disempowering happiness is a skill it's a skill that you can practice you can develop you can get better ads once you know what to work on right but do you know what to work on did someone teach you the skill of happiness but no one taught me the skill of Happiness as a child my parents didn't teach me school didn't teach me the world around me certainly did not teach me as I've already mentioned the world around me gave me the wrong idea the world around me taught me that more stuff more things more money more status is going to make me happy but it doesn't and that's why I'm so Keen to help you understand that happiness is a skill that you can work on and what's great about this three-legged stool is that each of those legs you can work on it in your daily life and as you work on them the side effects is going to be that you feel happier more often so you're not directly working on happiness you're working on the things that breed happiness right and the things that I'm talking about actually things that you can work on actually most of these things they don't cost any money they just require a commitment from you to go yeah you know what I actually want to feel better than I currently do I want a bit more happiness in my life happiness is not about saying everything's going to go perfect in your life obstacles problems are an inevitable part of life but once you understand that actually your inner happiness and your inner well-being is largely under your control irrespective of how people are tracing you irrespective of what's going on in the world around you that is a huge realization right and I'm so passionate about this because until about five or six years ago I honestly felt that my happiness was dependent on the world around me if the world goes a certain way I'm Gonna Be Happy if people treat me a certain way I'm Gonna Be Happy but that's a very disempowering place to be because that effectively means that your happiness dependent on other people dependent on external things is that the place you want to be in no I don't want to be in that place I'm not in that place right I am no longer in that place I now know because I've worked on it because I practiced there I know that my inner well-being is kind of up to me sure there may be things going on in the world that I would prefer were different to the way they are but I still know that even in the face of that I still have the inner resources and tools to make myself happy and it's all to do with this core happiness tool so let me talk about alignment right because being the person out there in the world who you really are inside is really really important but many of us are not doing that we're performing at life we're trying to be someone who we are not in order to fit in and sure that may have served you as a child you may have needed to do that depending on your upbringing you know how you were parented what was going at your school I understand that but just because that worked for you as a child it doesn't mean that same strategy is going to work for you now as an adult in fact for many of us for most of us for all of us I think a key step that we take in life to move towards being that happier calmer more contented person is understanding those childhood strategies for what they were I mentioned that I took on the belief that I'm only loved and Worthy when I get top marks or I'm a success that may have served me for some part of my life yeah we can debate that but I tell you what now at this stage in my life as a husband as a father that was not serving me at all it was making me feel very very lonely inside and often when we've got this discontentment with who we are and how we're acting we fill that Gap with what I call junk happiness habits well we've all got a junk capitalist habit many of us have got several it could be sugar it could be alcohol it could be gambling it could be three or four hours on Instagram it could be online shopping why there's nothing necessarily wrong with these habits the problem is is if we engage in them too often or we make the mistake we we kid ourselves that those things are truly making us happy and for most of us they're simply not they're a distraction we go to them because we we feel there's a void inside who we are and we look to fill that void with those habits and I tell you as you work on the skill of happiness you will find as I have that you engage in those junk happiness habits less and less because what we all need to understand is that all of our behaviors are there for a reason they all serve a need in our life and often we try and change the behavior without understanding what's driving it which is why you know in the New Year people can give up sugar for three weeks they can do a workout regime for three or four weeks but almost always they revert back because the underlying drive that lets that behavior has not changed now I've seen this firsthand with patients I've seen it first time on myself you will experience this as well when you work on these three legs that the core happiness still you will find that a lot of the behaviors that you may well have tried to stop yourself using willpower and motivation potentially unsuccessfully you'll find it gets so much easier and effortlessly a lot of them will fall by the wayside so how do you live in a lion's life right because it's easy to say that live in alignment with who you are but what does that mean well do a simple way to start figuring that out is to ask yourself right now what are your values what are the things that really encompass you know what's important to you what is important to you is it kindness compassion family nature the environment being curious having time by yourself spending time engaging in passions being enthusiastic you know what is it can you pick three things in fact if three is too hard can you pick one was there one thing I said about you thought yeah it's kind of a value for me okay write it down right if that's a value that sits well with you right now then you write that down and then you ask yourself am I living by that value in every aspect of my life in my personal life in my professional life in my social life again if you're not that's okay but you're bringing a bit of awareness now and intention to what's going on right you're like ah I value kindness but actually you know what at work I don't like one of my colleagues so I was a bit underhand to get a leg up on him in my office okay I understand I understand you may have done that but here's the thing right you can't hide from yourself in those moments in bed at night when you're lying there you know what you've done right so with kindness is something that you truly value and you're not showcasing that in every aspect of your life well that's an opportunity to learn an opportunity to go now actually that's not who I am that's not really who I am and actually do that you close that Gap you're living a more aligned life then you engage in less junk happiness habits now what is meaning and purpose for in here right because we're hearing that a lot aren't we that it's not about happiness it's about meaning well I think meaning and purpose are important things but I don't think that the same thing as happiness if you enjoyed this video I think you are really going to enjoy my new book happy Minds happy life the new science and mental well-being I've been practicing doctor for over 20 years now and I can tell you there's a very strong link between happiness and health happier people are healthier and they live longer now happiness is actually a trainable skill that all of us can get better at once we know what to work on and that's what my book is about or the simple free tools that you can use in your life to help you feel calmer more content more in control yes happier but also healthier you can order the book right now all you have to do is click the link in the description box below I think meaning and purpose are important things I think they're necessary ingredients for happiness but they're not happiness in and of themselves and if you look at my core happiness stool with the three legs alignment contentment and control this fits under alignment right because something that gives you meaning or gives you a sense of purpose is ultimately when you feel and are acting in alignment that's what it is by definition and if you're struggling with all the kind of information out there on meaning and purpose and you're putting pressure on yourself to go man I need a life of meaning and purpose and I don't have one I work in a course Center I don't enjoy it but actually it pays the bills that's okay right take the pressure off yourself and let's go back to values if one of your values is kindness right and you don't like your job but you need to do that job at the moment to pay your bills we'll go back to that value if on your way to work in the morning you stop off at a coffee shop and you're kind to the barista if on the bus on the way to the call center you're kind to the bus driver if in the call center you're kind to your work colleagues you know when you come home you're living a life of meaning right you're living in accordance with your values one of your core values is kindness you are living in accordance with that and I promise you because I've experienced myself I've seen it with my patients when you start to act more in alignment with who you really are you will find that actually you will change that job other opportunities will come into your life you'll actually start to figure out what it truly is that you want to do in life accepting that at the moment you may not be able to make that change that's okay these things are not All or Nothing what I'm passionate about making health and happiness as accessible to as many people as possible and all of us no matter who we are benefits from understanding what our values are so start with one see if you can get to three my three values today are Integrity curiosity and compassion every week at least once our reassess are these still the values that sit right to me how much of my life am I living in accordance with that and it's really helpful because you know even if I've had a tough week at work or there's problems with the health of one of my family members let's say I can combat those values and go even in the midst of all these problems did I act with integrity curiosity and compassion in my job as a daughter did I do that in my role as a father with my children did I do that in my role as a husband did I do that in my role as a podcast host did I do that with my guest and it's just a very simple way of bringing us into alignment so what do you value in life do you know have you ever thought about it can you write down three values can you write down one well look let me share some common values with you and just see if any of these connects with you right there's uh curiosity Integrity compassion family creativity honesty the climate Solitude conscientiousness wisdom nature standing up for other people humility loyalty self-respect intimacy time for friends and family empathy being a good listener right that's not an exhaustive list it's just some ideas to get you going and started you know was there one in that list that connected with you fine start there was it kindness right write that down and then ask yourself am I showcasing kindness in every aspect of my life or are there parts of my life what I'm not able to do that now a big part of what I'm talking about at the moment is getting to know yourself right spending a bit of time analyzing what's going on who you really are who do you really want to be out there and I think one of the big reasons why you might feel stuck why so many of us feel stuck in our lives is we don't have any time to ourselves right we're constantly consuming information even good information right many of us wake up like do you wake up and it's the first thing you do you pick up your phone and you look at your email and then you go to Instagram and then you go to the news and you know is that your whole day right and you get to work are you still looking at screens and you're consuming consumer consuming if we are constantly consuming even if it's great content well we're never having any time where we're allowing our innermost thoughts and emotions to come up a little while ago one of my friends said to me that his old boss had a counter on his desk and he would literally say things like only 66 days to go to I'm in Florida on that Beach and everything got me thinking that guy like so many of us like maybe you is literally counting down until that one week when you're on holiday when life is going to be good when you're on the beach you've got the sun you've got time and it really made me think well what is a holiday what is it that so many people love about a holiday now of course there's many things right time away from work it could be the sun it could be you know nice food whatever I think one of the big things holidays give us is perspective you know that feeling when you're on a plane and literally as you start to take off you start to get this 30 000 foot view on the state of your life all those little things that you were worried about they just seem trivial you get that kind of real big picture perspective on your life and I've come to the conclusion that we don't need to wait for that one week a year for our holiday we can all take a daily Holiday from our lives every day we need to take a holiday something that gives us that perspective on our life because without that perspective how are you ever going to find time to figure out what you're feeling you know are you living an authentic life what your values are how will you know if you're constantly consuming so what does a daily holiday look like it could be anything it could be a walk it could be a jog it could be journaling it could be meditation it could be breath work it could be I don't know painting whatever you like something that is done by yourself for yourself right this is a practice of solitude basically intentional Solitude not loneliness right loneliness is different this is intentional Solitude to allow your innermost thoughts and emotions to come up you know my brother he each day will either go for a walk or a run and I suppose somebody says yeah when he comes back he's got a different perspective on all the kind of little problems in his life many of my patients tell me the same thing so what is it going to be for you do you take a daily Holiday from your life maybe you used to maybe you go for a walk now and again and you've never thought about it through this lens of it being a daily holiday but that's exactly what it is so many of these breaks we think about calories or energy consumption what it's going to do for our physical health but I want to reframe that for you the reason so many of us are feeling lazy unmotivated struggling you know what many of us are feeling lost is because we don't know how we truly feel we're never giving ourselves time to understand that you know for me I have to have I say I have to have I don't have to have it I choose to have every morning at least 20 or 30 minutes to myself because I know when I do that I'm able to take the Pulse on the state of my life I'm able to make changes I'm able to feel when I'm stressed or when my workload's building up without that if I went straight on Instagram and email I wouldn't know that and you end up blowing up later you end up falling out with someone later because you weren't paying attention now when I was a junior doctor in Edinburgh I might want to guess maybe 20 years ago right I remember being taught about something called early Warning Systems right it was great I was so mesmerized by this as a young doctor and I remember the the Consultants are saying we can predict who's going to end up needing a high dependency bed or an intensive care unit beds three or four hours before they end up there because if we take regular what we call observation so pulse respiratory rates oxygen saturations and if we start to see them moving in a certain direction we can predict with a high degree of certainty who's going to need more serious care and because we can do that we can take preemptive action to stop that patient needing to go to High dependency or in intensive care and I see this daily holiday that's the same thing it allows you to take aversive action allows you to understand oh man yeah you know what life isn't good at the moment I'm struggling like maybe I'm working too hard I'm not prioritizing my sleep enough right are you sleeping enough you know are you going to bed early enough whatever it might be it allows you to start paying attention paying attention to the message that our body is always trying to give us since I started taking a daily holiday I've realized that when my workload or stress load is building I start to feel a tightness in the upper part of my right back now that was probably going on for years but I never would have known because I never spent time paying attention these days and it happened just a few weeks ago in my morning routine in my practice of solitude I could feel it and for me it was like ah okay cool there's a lot going on at the moment you need to make sure tonight you go to bed early or you need to reduce how many commitments you've got today because actually if you don't you're gonna struggle to get motivated you're gonna struggle you're going to feel lost like many people do a lot of the time that comes down to our the fact that we're not paying attention right so I really really want to think about this what do you do on a daily basis that allows you to pay attention to the signals that your body is trying to give you it doesn't need to be hard it doesn't need to cost money it could literally be you have your morning cup of tea or coffee and you just sit in silence whilst you're drinking it instead of looking at your emails or YouTube or whatever at the same time embrace the silence now I understand if you're not used to doing that you may find it tricky at first right many of us are so used to distracting ourselves from our lives that we don't know what to do when we don't have that distraction so go easy start with five minutes you don't have to suddenly go from nothing to 30 minutes meditation start with five minutes if five minutes is too much start with one minute but I promise you once you start to spend a bit of time with yourself not with a screen not with another person not with information coming from outside you will start to understand what is going on in your body that's going to enable you to make better decisions and if we look at it through the lens of that core happiness tool a daily practice of Solitude right you taking a holiday from your life every day will strengthen all three legs off that core happiness still after which you feel more content you definitely feel a sense of control over your life and because of the learnings you get you're much more likely to act in alignment so it's one of those magic practices that works on all three legs of the stool now I mentioned before that perspective is a key skill for happiness but I think it's I think it's arguably the most important thing that ability that knowledge that actually I get to choose my response in any situation it's liberating it's freeing it's empowering but many of us and for much of my life I was in this boats we don't get that we're programmed we're conditioned to react a certain way we think that if people around us acted in a different way we'd be happier it's not a great place to be because you're dependent on the world around you and people around you to be a certain way in order for you to be happy and if that's what you're waiting for you could be waiting a long time is that you do you allow the thoughts and actions of others to really affect how you feel can someone cut you up in the road with their car and it can ruin your day are you the type of person when that happens you get frustrated I can't believe that person did that they shouldn't be driving um you know they need a new driving test they should be prosecuted what does that do for you do you feel good afterwards you know you calm you engage in what you're doing or do you feel an emotional tension that you then have to somehow neutralize using whatever sugar online scrolling you know an extra beer after work whatever it might be that emotional tension is real and that's something we don't realize I don't think Society realizes this I don't think much of the medical profession have typically realized it's that emotional stress that we we create I get that's hard to get your head rounds or it may be hard for you to get your head rounds but that person has just cut you up in the roads that happened but they didn't cause you to get stressed at its core you chose now I know I say that with compassion I honestly do like someone to tell me this 10 years ago I would have been like well what do you mean had that person not done that I wouldn't feel like this I mean how empowering is that but I can only feel good when other people act a certain way now you can train yourself to choose a different response to choose what I call a happiness story in every situation so that driver for example it could be maybe that driver is late for his job and he's on his last warning and that job is really important because that's how he feeds his wife and his children maybe that driver maybe their child was up with earache last night so they're knackers and they're being really unmindful but maybe you might do the same thing in that situation right there's all kinds of scenarios that you could come up with and you can choose that perspective if you want and when you choose a happiness perspective you completely change how you feel in your body we don't bring in that emotional stress which leads to all kinds of compensatory behaviors you feel calmer you feel more content you feel more in control of the Worlds and you can train yourself to do this so on a daily basis I train myself I call it working out on the social gym right I look for bits of friction and resistance in my daily life and I use it as an opportunity to try and reframe things now look let's just think about this for a minute right what is truth because I think this is really interesting question to ponder right so let's say a couple having a disagreement or a fight argument whatever happens well I think it kind of depends on who you ask right if you ask one partner they will give you a report about the incident you ask the other partner you walk around to the other side of the table ask the other person they're likely to give you a completely different report of the same incidents and have you ever been in that situation has that happened with your partner or a friend or a work colleague I know for me it has so that's really interesting isn't it one scenario but two different perspectives there's this great study that I loved reading about by these psychologists they took football fans or soccer fans and they showed them an incident that happened same incident they asked them tell me what happened two completely different stories of the same situation what does that teach us it teaches us that there are multiple perspectives and we can choose a perspective that makes us happy you can train yourself to do this I literally do this on a daily basis and that's why I'm at the stage now where it happens automatically most of the time I'm not perfect sometimes I'm unable to do it but I have an awareness now I go oh wow hey wrong and you could have chosen a different perspective there now one of the things that's really helped me is this idea that if I was that other person I'd be doing exactly the same as them now just think about that for a moment what that phrase means is if I was that person with their upbringing with their childhood with their bullying experiences with their toxic first boss when they were 17 years old I'd probably have the same world for you and programming as them I'd probably be acting in exactly the same way now you may go well that's not true you know I'd act differently I sort of invite you to consider that there's a different perspective there that if that person could have acted differently they would have but based upon their programming on their view of the world that's why they acted like that now you don't have to take this perspective you could choose to judge them and think if you were them you'd act differently that's fine it's your life you entitled to do and choose the perspective that you want to but what's that doing for you what's that judgment doing for you what what how does it feel when you think that you're better than someone else and you would act differently than them see I know from my own life from seeing tens of thousands of patients over the last 20 years that that's never helpful it keeps you locked in a cycle which leads to people feeling unmotivated lazy and lost why it's you can train yourself to choose a different perspective I've come to the conclusion that when it comes to your happiness the truth doesn't matter your perspective on the situation is what determines how you feel about it now that doesn't mean you should put up with stuff like you can still prefer things to be different than they are but when you start to choose a happiness response in every situation you make better decisions right so let's say your boss sends you an email that you don't like let's say you think it was short it was rude it was Curt you thought things like I can't believe he sent that email to me like that does he not know I've worked the last three weekends he should know I know how to do my job I don't need to be told that pick a story it doesn't matter all of those are disempowering now here's the benefit of choosing a happiness story right if you can go okay well what else could have been going on here maybe my boss is under pressure from his or her boss maybe there's real Financial pressure in the company and they're taking that out on Me Maybe my boss is having a problem in his relationship or her relationship at the moment but it doesn't really matter but it just leads to compassion you start to look at the world through different eyes right and then what happens is if you can do that you're less triggered you're less emotionally worked up and that then allows you if you want to to say to your boss Hey listen um hey if you've got 10 minutes on Friday just a couple things I'd love to talk to you about right and you can then go into a meeting in a non-triggered and non-emotional way and probably engage collaboratively about making changes but if you approach your boss with that feeling of you shouldn't have done that I'm feeling triggered you know I feel undervalued and you bring that in with that emotional tension How well was that going to go we think about your own life and maybe a relationship you have at the moment or in the past if you were feeling angry and triggered when you try to address something how well did it go or that it just add more fuel into the fire than the other partner responds with more fuel and before you know it there's an inferno blazing I think we all know that right so this is a very very important skill for your emotional regulation yes it will help your motivation yes it will help you with your happiness yes it will help you with your health but it will also help you get more out of life help you to change things that you don't like it's a key skill to learn now if you're thinking you know what I like that in theory but I can't do that there are some situations in life where it's just not possible to do that I understand that that's what I used to think and I get there are some situations in life that are really really tricky to apply this in but I want to tell you about one of the most powerful conversations I've had in my entire life on my podcast with this wonderful lady called Dr Edith eager now I expect to Dr eager I don't know almost two years ago and I think about that conversation every day when I spoke to her she was 93 years old right when she was 16 years old she grew up in Eastern Europe I think she had a date with her boyfriend that night she was thinking about what dress she was going to wear her family got a knock on the door and essentially her her sister and her parents got put on a train to Auschwitz concentration camp now within a couple of hours of getting there her parents were murdered and later that day Edith Dr ego was asked to dance for some of the senior prison guards and she said to me he said wrong and listen I never forgot the last thing that my mum said to me and she said Edie always remember nobody can take from you the contents that you put inside your mind so she said when I was dancing in Auschwitz I wasn't dancing in Auschwitz in my mind I was dancing in Budapest Opera House I was wearing this peaceful dress there was an orchestra playing there was a full house in the audience I thought that's pretty incredible then she said to me while she was in Auschwitz she started to see the prison guards as the prisoners I was like what do you mean she said no well in my mind they weren't free they weren't living the life but they wanted to in my mind I was free I thought I mean this is pretty incredible and the absolute hell of a concentration camp she was reframing some some pretty I was gonna say pretty difficult I mean that's an understatement some horrendous situation she was reframing and one of the last things she said to me was wrong and look I've lived in Auschwitz and I can tell you this the greatest prison you will ever live inside is the prison you create inside your mind that's the phrase I think about every day when I think I can't reframe a situation I think back to Edith eager I think well wrong if she could do that in Auschwitz you can probably do that for this kind of small incident in your own life and it's been transformative I promise you there is no greater skill I've learned over the last five or six years than this and the thing is it's like any skill the more you do it the better you get so if every day or even once a week but ideally I'd say every day in the evening reflects on your day reflects on one moment in your day when you got triggers when you were feeling frustrated by the actions of somebody else and just practice rewriting that story put a different slant on it put a different perspective on it now try that try that for seven days and just see how you feel you don't feel any different fine so you know what I'm going to ignore that dots Chastity I'm not going to listen to what he has to say fine I'm not trying to convince you right I'm trying to inspire you and Empower you I would humbly suggest that you give this a go right and see what difference it makes because I'm almost certain that you will experience such big changes in how you feel and your motivation and your energy and the way you see the worlds it's very hard for me to make the case you actually have to do it yourself to experience it but I gotta tell you it's it becomes almost addictive because every day becomes a school day every day instead of waiting for people around you to act differently you're kind of taking control and then before you know it if you do this every day or even once or twice a week within a few weeks you'll be like a different person within a few months you'll be completely transformed and that will impact your health your happiness your relationships your productivity it will all get better on the back of that one of the most powerful things about learning to reframe every bit of social friction in your life is that you start to view the worlds with a more compassionate lens right you start to lead with compassion in your interactions with others which is always a good place to be right it feels good I promise you it will feel good for you but that's another beautiful side effects which is when we can train ourselves to be more compassionate to other people often we find it easy to be compassionate to ourselves it doesn't always Translate but it can definitely help because you know if you can learn to put a different perspective on other people's lives then you can sort of then take that next step of applying it to yourself now one of the big reasons why many of us struggle with our health or our happiness is because we don't treat ourselves very well we treat other people much better than we treat ourselves now the way many of us talk to ourselves in our heads sometimes out louds we'd never in a million years say that to our friend or our partner or our child but we say it to ourselves and again we don't think it matters but this emotional stress is real it leads to physical health problems it's one of the big things that I don't think we're talking about enough in health Professor Kristen naff one of the leading experts in the world on self-compassion has shown with her research that people who are compassionate to themselves bytes they have more motivation they do better in their work their immune system functions better they have slower aging right they're happier all kinds of things happen when we're compassionate to ourselves and her research has also shown when we talk negatively to ourselves in our heads when you call yourself a loser or taught down to yourself you're activating your body's stress response stress hormones like cortisol starts to go up this is real and it has a really negative impact on our health and our happiness right so self-compassion is the practice of being as kind to yourself if not more than you would be to your friends and family a negative self-talk is a big part of that now this is something I work on a lot with my patients is something I've had to work on with myself because the truth is this it is simply not possible to be healthy or happy if you hate yourself and many of us do we try and kid ourselves that we don't but the way we act to ourselves the way we self-sabotage the way we talk to ourselves it's not compassionate why I had this patience 48 year old lady who'd been seen many dots for a few years she had some quite vague symptoms she had some upper abdominal pain she had some upper arm pain she tried various medications she wasn't getting better she was very very frustrated she changed her lifestyle she had a really good diet really good movement she was sleeping well but she was kind of still struggling and she ended up coming to see me and I got to know her I know it's a pattern in her wider life which was that she would always end up in relationships with men who was significantly older than her and they were always married and they treat her really badly and we spent a bit of time talking about this stuff and it was really clear where this came from in her childhoods she always felt that her older sister had got more attention than her she basically learned to accept having less attention than she ideally would once or ideally deserved right that was a childhood strategy for coping that was no longer serving her in adulthood so we tried a few things I shared with her a few self-compassion exercises right and it took a while this wasn't an overnight fix but bit by bit she started to do these exercises where she was learning to be kind to herself and it took many months but after doing them consistently after changing the relationship she had with herself she ended up in a relationship with a guy of the same age who treated her really well a few months after that a Simpsons pretty much disappeared by emotional health the way we feel about ourselves the way we talk to ourselves is real it makes a difference to our biology it can make a difference to our physical health and for many of us who were struggling in life and feel lost one of the big things we have to learn to do is treat ourselves with respect not taught down to ourselves so what can you do with us all kinds of exercises you can do right it's a really simple one that I did with that patience that I that I think is really useful is to try and write down five things that you like about yourself now I used to say five things you love about yourself but for many people that they find that really off-putting I can't write things I love about myself but that's essentially what I'm asking you to do can you do that do you think you could do that right now pause this video and write down five qualities that you have that you really like now look if five feels tough can you do one if you are struggling with this this is a very very good sign that this is something you really need to work on right this really makes a difference it was this great study in America that showed that people who can write themselves a self-compassionate letter every day for seven days so a whole letter being compassionate to themselves or happier three months later three months later this stuff is real so how do you talk to yourself it doesn't matter if you don't talk yourself well at the moment that's okay but once you know once you have that awareness we can now start to make a change there's another exercise I love called the mirror exercise can you go to a mirror in your house or your Apartments and can you look at yourself and stay looking and you have to turn away do you have to look away it's too painful now only some of these things can be tricky and difficult but if they are it's a good sign that you need to work on them you know you can get better and I understand for some people there is deep trauma and past experience Associated and linked to the way we feel here and of course seeing a healthcare professional or a therapist can be really really useful I understand that but I also understand that not everyone has access to that so go easy you know maybe it's something you want to Aspire to you want to look into options around you to help you with that but in the meantime let's get started write down a few things you like about yourself do it every day do it for seven days and just watch how this starts to change the other thing that happens is you start to do this you'll start to catch yourself when you say things like oh I'm such a loser I used to say that to myself if things went wrong I don't anymore I don't think I've said that to myself I don't know three four maybe even five years it's just not who I am anymore it was a strategy that potentially served me in my childhood but it was no longer serving me and if you're a parent or if you're around kids maybe this will motivate you to really take action here if you talk to yourself negatively out loud what message do you think your kids are taking on if you call yourself a loser what do you think your kids are going to learn to do to themselves yeah I've got to be honest since I became a dad just over 11 years ago that's been a big drive for me to make a lot of these changes because I know the best way that I can be a good parent for my children is to sort all this kind of internal stuff out inside me because as I feel happier and calmer and more content and I'm living more aligned as I really feel I am these days I'm a much better parent I'm a Kinder calmer more compassionate parents right so I don't know what your motivation is going to be for making these changes but if your parent do think about that and if we bring this back to that core happiness stool right that I've been talking about throughout this video again treating yourself with kindness and respect again it's one of those magic interventions that literally hits every leg of the stool right when you taught yourself negatively what does that do to your contentment well you feel less content you feel out of control and you're definitely not acting in alignment so you're basically are weakening all three legs of this core happiness still which is why you feel discontent you feel lazy and unmotivated but once you start to talk yourself with respect with kindness with compassion that will start to change you start to strengthen all three of those legs which in turn means you are going to feel more and more happy and you're going to feel happier more often and that's kind of what we all want so one of the big reasons why so many of us are feeling lost is because we don't feel truly happy we don't have that core happiness that all of us deep down really wants I remember that core happiness in fact happiness is a trainable skill it's a skill that you can work on you can practice every single day and actually pretty much everything I've spoken about in this video is free of charge you don't have to buy anything right doesn't cost any money it takes a bit of time it takes a commitment from you that actually I don't want to feel this way anymore I want to get more out of my life these principles work whether you you know whether you feel really overloaded stressed out or close to burnout these principles and tools work and even if you just feel you know what life's okay but I think there could be something more I could be getting out of life these same principles are going to work they're going to help you build and strengthen core happiness and that's going to mean you engage in less junk happiness habits and it means you're going to get more out of your life you're not going to feel lost anymore you're going to have a clear Direction and a path to follow and work on but ideas inspiration without action leads to nothing right so think about some of the principles think about some of the tools that I've outlined even if you just think of one of them and go you know what I like some of these ideas that one really resonated with me I'm going to bring that one into my life start there that's completely fine you don't have to do them all in fact I'd say don't do them all it's too much pick one thing see how you go bring it into your life for a week or two then come back to the video pick another one right slow but steady that's always the best way for pretty much everyone right so pick one you know Define What happiness looks like for you wipe down those three core values make sure you take a holiday each day from your life work on the skill of taking a different perspective on choosing a happiness story in every situation or at least in as many situations as you can remember it gets better it gets easier with practice and finally think about how you taught yourself how you treat yourself right maybe some of those self-compassion exercises write down five qualities you like about yourself maybe you need to start there I promise you it's not as hard as you think to make a change I know that you feel lost from time to time and you struggle with motivation but these practices will really make a difference as long as you start implementing them we all struggle from time to time and feel lost and need a bit of help these tools absolutely work I've used them on myself I've used them with my patients and I know for you they will make a difference as long as you start to practice them to dive deeper into your health and well-being check out this master class on why so many of us feel tired all of the time and what we can do to change it when you feel tired all the time it affects three key components of your life your health your happiness but also your relationships

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Published: Fri May 26 2023