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my parents would tie us together via a rope so that we were always together and i could always make sure she obeyed the therapist when she heard that story was just like really shocked and she looked at me and she said elizabeth that's child abuse and i was like my parents said it was fine like they thought it was fine and she was like no that's child abuse you know the religious group your parents are in is definitely a cult [Music] i am faith elizabeth hunter and today i'm going to be talking about how i grew up in a cult there was no tv in our house we weren't allowed to watch movies or television shows we weren't allowed to listen to any contemporary non-christian music i was not allowed to cut my hair i was not allowed to wear makeup i was not allowed to wear high heels i felt like there were so many rules i know we had like a notebook with all the rules listed and it's kind of weird to think back on that the cult i was in was part of the institute in basic life principles which was started by bill gothard and he ran a homeschool program called the advanced training institute we read the bible every day we were supposed to meditate and think about the bible i would wake up at least by 6 am and read the bible for 30 minutes and then our education was all driven around the bible so we had bible lessons throughout the day whether it was english math science it was always scripture all of our like life skills were driven to be married so i knew that once i was like 17 or 18 it was time to start thinking about getting married and i wasn't supposed to date or flirt with any guys because my dad was going to pick my husband and then all of my life skills were all about things i needed to do to be a good wife so i learned how to bake bread and i learned how to sew and i learned how to play piano so if my husband wanted me to play piano for the church then i could play the piano for the church the biggest idea i remember is that everything in life is determined by your dad and there's an umbrella of authority that your dad has so there's god your dad and then you so if you do anything that goes outside of your dad's instructions then god will no longer protect you and you could be open to all sorts of danger my dad told me if i ever speed like if i ever drive down the road faster than i'm supposed to then i'd be out from under the umbrella of protection and god would let me get in a car wreck and die because i was not obeying my dad because i was speeding and he did not want me to speed so then for several years after i was got my driver's license i was terrified anytime i noticed that i'd gone over the speed limit that i was gonna die and it was gonna be my fault because god was going to let me die i got sick with like the flu or something and i remember i was getting cold medicine and my mom looked at me and she said so you're sick so you must have done something to get sick you god is punishing you because you've gone out from under the umbrella of protection and you've gotten like this is why you're sick as you must have done something to be punished and i was like racking my brain trying to think of something i did to disobey my parents to be out from under the umbrella of protection to get sick and i couldn't think of it and i was really distraught but of course i was sick so i wasn't thinking that properly but that was always a warning that whenever you got sick or were physically injured of any way that their first thought was you must have done something and god let this happen to you because you disobeyed when i would go into the grocery store we weren't allowed to look at the magazines with like celebrities on them because that was like immoral and bad and my dad would encourage us to turn the magazines over so turn them to the back while we're standing in line at the grocery store so that they wouldn't be a temptation to people coming in line after us i didn't know who the beatles were i don't know who anybody was i was not allowed to wear any clothing that had words on the front of it because my mom said it brought attraction to my bodies my dad didn't like me wearing green because he didn't like the color green so my mom told me not to put on green clothes because it would be offensive to my dad and i was supposed to honor my dad i was not allowed to stay up past 8 30 at night i went to bed at 8 30 every day i was not allowed to eat any like non-kosher food because my dad wanted us to obey the laws of the old testament my food was highly regulated by my parents and like they decided what we did and didn't eat i was not allowed to read any books that were not approved by my parents one book i knew that was not approved by my parents that i got in trouble for reading was anne frank the diary of a young girl someone gave it to my parents and it was on the bookshelf and i took it and read it and i got in trouble for that because it wasn't approved i was a child who played with dolls and then i was an adult and there was no in between i never had a chance to like go on a first date and like have that like first crush because every crushes were considered bad i didn't get to like experience messing up on your makeup dyeing your hair silly color i didn't get to like actually think through and decide things for myself i didn't get to make decisions as a teenager every decision was made for me so then i when i was an adult it was i had crippling anxiety to figure out how to start making decisions on my own because my whole life my parents had made every decision for me [Music] so i was being stalked at college by several different guys in my classes because i didn't understand how to set boundaries and i was telling my roommate and she said elizabeth i think you should go to therapy and get help and i was like helpful but she's like just to like talk about your childhood and like how that is affecting you now and i was like okay i can go do that like the fourth or fifth session i start to tell a story and i said that i was really i felt really like i was in charge of my sister's like life and that i had failed her because she was she was not doing what i thought she should be doing my therapist said why do you feel responsible for your sister and i said well my parents always told me it was my job to make sure that she obeyed the rules and then when my sister refused to like hang out with me and like ran from the room when i was supposed to be watching her and i would give up on watching her my parents would tie us together via a rope so that we were always together and i could always make sure she obeyed so the therapist when she heard that story was just like really shocked and she looked at me and she said elizabeth that's child abuse and i was like my parents said it was fine like they thought it was fine and she was like no that's child abuse and she said you know the religious group your parents are in is definitely a cult and i was like really and she said yeah they like control what you eat and how the people you see every day and what you what you read and everything about your life that's that's a cult and i was like oh and it for the first time it like i realized what had happened was child abuse and that my parents religious beliefs were not just religious beliefs but were actually harmful cult ideas i do see myself as a cult survivor and it was kind of started as a joke to just like talk about some funny things my parents said to me on like a podcast and then i decided to make a tick tock instead and it kind of just took off and i feel like a lot of folks in the us have gone through trauma that's related to religion and maybe it's not a cult but it's very fundamental religion that abuses people and hurts people and just by having my story out there and just sharing that you don't have to let that abuse define you you can name it you can tell people that it existed without covering it up so i just started making tech talks to like educate people about that and then it turned into people were very interested to hear my story but it will hopefully be healing for other people to who have gone through that that you can recover you can move on and you can also be a better person [Music] whilst everybody was having their orgies free love sex they would no longer be permitted to enjoy the sex for each other they had to fantasize that they were actually having sex with jesus men included

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Length: 8min 20sec (500 seconds)

Published: Thu Feb 24 2022

Reddit Comments

[u/Hunlea]

Her sister is definitely not allowed to go to college now

[u/hotcarl23]

Imagine the reaction of her parents when they get asked for comment by something called ladbible, it's perfect

[u/octarine-noise]

I love how she tells us she wasn't allowed to wear green, because her father hated the color... while wearing a green sweater.

Take that, dad!

[u/sirbruce]

The cult's own logic doesn't make sense. The graphic shows that God's umbrella is larger than the Father's, but they are teaching that if you venture outside the protection of the Father's umbrella, God will not protect you. That's literally the opposite of what the graphic shows.

[u/frozensummit]

Institute in Basic Life Principles, if anyone wonders what the actual cult is.

[u/SmokePenisEveryday]

I worked with a chick who was home schooled by her uber religious parents. It came off very cultish when she talked about her upbringing. A lot of what was shared in this video lined up with what that coworker would talk about.

[u/afterglobe]

This is the same cult that the Duggar’s are a part of.

[u/InvertedSpaghetti]

Just want to share this other channel for anyone who found this video interesting - a woman who grew up in an Amish cult is slowly sharing her story on YouTube

https://youtube.com/channel/UCw_zKUptIlbbIFzo55Ag9TQ

[u/stigs_cousin]

that fucking hat was child abuse