I Finally Found Love 사랑을 찾았어요 💕

[Music] we're all searching for love when my 12-year relationship including 7 years of marriage fell apart I said never again for a while I put on a facade telling everyone that I'm happy to be single but deep down I secretly yearned to meet someone and falling in love again but fear held me back I dreaded the possibility of heartbreak and abandonment all over again why do we love if we get hurt I pondered plus my single life was surprisingly fulfilling I wasn't dating but I made new friendships and ventured out more my soul trip opened my eyes to new experiences and I cherished quality time with my parents focusing on my personal growth I still had days when I'm crippled with pain and anxiety but I found happiness within myself so I decided to explore love further but I didn't know how because it had been so long since I dated and I hadn't really dated before my ex then I realized marriage or long-term relationships don't automatically make you an expert in matter of the heart it's more about understanding yourself deeply and using that knowledge to create happiness for both you and your partner so I feel like I had to learn about myself and I decided to do it while I'm dating I immersed myself in the online dating jungle from October 2022 to June 2023 I met fascinating and accomplished people through a dating app over those 9 months I went on more than 50 First Dates sometimes I had to stack them two dates in a single day I can't quite explain how I managed it but you know me I dive head first into everything I do during the time I connected with a few people and let me tell you I have some wild and juicy stories to share anyways like everyone else I faced challenges in the dating world but amidst it all I Finally Found Love and I'm in love but today's video is not about my relationship it's about my journey to find myself through dating and being in a relationship it All Began 2 years ago when I found myself crying on the floor of half empty apartment I remember the silence was so suffocating and the only sound that I could hear was my own cries so I often turned on the TV just to have a little bit of background noise so that I don't feel as lonely but even then as I lay in bed I couldn't help but feeling this emptiness it felt like no one was there for me but then slowly but surely the pain began to fade I started building a routine I try to engage in activities that brought me joy even on the rough days and definitely healing was quite a process but I embraced it that's when I realized I did have someone over along myself I had myself this realization didn't come to me in an instant during the time I started therapy to navigate negative emotions and my first experience was with better help and I'm thrilled to introduce today's sponsor better help you guys already know I love better H hope it's because I think theyve done an amazing job on creating an online platform that connect people with licensed therapists who are trained to 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changes or simply seeking personal growth consider exploring better help remember you're not alone sometimes the best companion that you can have is yourself and therapy could be a best friend along the journey in reality therapy is actually empowering seriously having someone who listens to your struggles and provides an outside perspective is invaluable it helps prevent you from becoming trapped in your negative thoughts especially if you're introverted like myself so therapy taught me how to open up and that transformation completely changed my life you might assume I'm an extrovert because of my social media presence when dancing but the truth is I consistently score over 90% introversion on the nbti test yeah every single time anyways I rarely open up about myself to anyone not even to my close friends or my parents so nobody knows what I'm really going through and it's been like that my entire life but talking to a therapist allowed me to open up to my loved ones and I started getting their support right away and that helped me a lot so I realize sometimes you just need to share your struggles with your loved ones you just need to open up I know that's the hard part but you just need to open up then you're going to get their support and another reason I adore betterle help it's highly customizable whether you're battling loneliness overwhelming anxiety looking for dating advice or simply feeling disconnected from yourself better help can connect you with a therapist who aligns with your unique needs and preferences by matching you with a therapist based on your answer to a questionnaire so no more random Google searches hoping that you can find someone who can address your specific concerns and better hope even ask about your religion which is really important in my opinion because you can get different advice and perspective depending on the therapist background most of the things I'm going to talk about today stems from my understanding and discoveries through my therapy experience so all thanks to better help and the guidance of my therapist hey please remember seeking help is sign of strength not weakness yeah I ramble so much about therapy I truly believe therapy and self-investment go hand inand and they're basically Pinnacle of self-love so if you're curious about starting therapy check out the link in the description box you can get 10% off first month with better help I literally talked to my therapist about all all my dates and we dissect each date what happened how I reacted and so on and she tells me her perspective which is really refreshing my dating experience actually revealed a lot of problems that I didn't even know I had there's so many things going on that I'm working on right now but it's getting better because I want to be better I didn't know I was anxious at touchman style yeah I was really surprised about that because I I thought that I'm so independent I am independent but I mean it is complicated okay so you need to talk to your therapist because every individual different and then very complex we're complex being so you can't be just one type I mean we're all mixture of everything basically so yeah you need to talk to your therapist to figure out what you really are and you need to learn about yourself layer by layer yeah so I confronted all my problems maybe there's some I still haven't discovered yet but you know the challenges we face in a relationship often stem from deeper issues within us we need to uncover it dissect it and try to work on it otherwise we're going to just repeat the same mistakes over and over and I didn't want that to happen I learned that a lot of my issues were correlated with my traumatic experiences in life and most recent one was my divorce so we talked about my divorce a lot and it taught me the fundamental truth the quality of my romantic relationship is directly tied to the relationship that I have with myself so a lot of people say you need to work on yourself before you meet someone you need to heal first and date but my dating experience turned inward through my dating experience I learned about myself a lot which boosted my self-awareness seriously each person I encounter along this journey left me with a unique lesson ironically I was focusing so much on dating and having a relationships but that taught me about myself who I really am yeah I think this wisdom that I gain from my dating experience will continue to shape my path uh and I'm going to use this knowledge to be better partner to my current boyfriend and try my best to be better all right all right guys thank you for watching and hope this video gave you different perspective on dating if you're afraid to date and um because you feel like you're still heartbroken and you're not ready to be honest you're never going to be ready for anything in life so I feel like at some point we just need to jump in and start dating initiate something you never know what's going to happen you never know what you're going to learn I'm so glad I start dating again because I met my boyfriend I mean our relationship is not perfect we both have our owns and we're still working on a lot of stuff but we're building something together um yeah this relationship gives me so much joy I hope this video encouraged you to rethink about dating and having a relationship yeah so I hope you guys enjoyed this video and I will see you next time [Music] bye [Music]

Channel: Dr. Sarang Choi

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Length: 12min 3sec (723 seconds)

Published: Tue Apr 16 2024