I Cut Ties With My Brother After He Cheated With My Now Ex Girlfriend. Now He is Furious and Want...

first story op cut ties with his brother for cheating with his now ex-girlfriend now years later his estranged brother is furious that op didn't invite him to his wedding and his entitled parents demand to invite him or they will walk off so op Uninvited his parents too back when my 25-year-old ex Maria 24-year-old and I were dating we set my brother Arthur 24-year-old up with his ex Jen who was Maria's I guess now ex- best friend Maria and I dated for about a year and Arthur and Jen dated for about 9 months we'd constantly do things together since Maria and Jen were best friends out of our little group my personality matched Jen's the most which led to us getting close I felt so comfortable around Jen and we both had a moment of weakness we were at a party and we did the deed We snuck around for about a week before Arthur and Maria found out Jen and I decided we'd be better together so we broke off our relationship and started dating each other Jen and I dated for about 6 months and it was amazing until I found out she was cheating on me and she left me for the other guy I was heartbroken I thought I had found my match I kept thinking about how good Maria was to me in hindsight she treated me way better than Jen ever did I went to message her to beg her to take me back but decided to look at her Instagram pictures first and that's when I found out that she and Arthur had started dating in the six- months Jen and I were together they've been together for 4 years and I found out from my parents that they're getting married in September it hurts so much to find that out out what hurt even more was the fact that I didn't receive an invitation I mean I know things have happened between us but Arthur and I are brothers we're family when I told my parents I hadn't received an invitation they called Arthur and tried to get him to invite me but all that ended up doing was getting them Uninvited I tried calling Arthur to get them reinvites my parents haven't said anything but I feel like they're mad at me for getting them Uninvited from Arthur's wedding am I wrong for accidentally getting my parents Uninvited from my brother's wedding top comments dear God you expected the person you cheated on to take your cheating ARS back and you're shocked to discover your brother doesn't want your cheating ARS at his wedding go figure I'd bet Mom and Dad tried thee if you don't invite your brother we won't come trick I can picture my brother unemotionally saying could buy me I'll save you the trouble of having to RSVP no you're not invited they fished around and found out I'd argue his parents ruined it for themselves what parents would petition the groom for an invitation to the person who cheated on the bride and help the groom's ex-girlfriend cheat on him the Betrayal is so massive an NC and no wedding invitation are the unlubed Bilbo of consequences from those actions to advocate for op is to take sides and given op's Behavior it makes me wonder if op is the golden child or at least favored a bit more the brother responds my brother slept with and ran off with my ex and now wants an invite to my wedding getting my parents Uninvited in the process original post by auway 6 b789 M1 123451 in Ren titled people I 24m wasn't even going to make a post about this but my brother who I'll call Turk 25m made four posts about it so I thought I should share my side of the story I'll use the same names he did for the sake of Simplicity my fiance is Maria 24f and my ex is Jen 24 a little over 5 years ago my brother started dating Maria my now fiance 3 months after they started dating they set me up with her now ex- best friend Jen the four of us did a lot together since the girls were best friends Turk and Maria dated for a year and Jen and I dated for 9 months at the end of our relationship I came home early and found Turk and Jen having SX in my bed after I processed the situation I called Maria because I'd like to know if I was in her place she came over and we confronted Turk and Jen they dumped us and I found out 2 Days Later that we started dating each other it broke me I came home to find my brother effing my girlfriend only to run off with her I had to move back in with my parents it was infuriating because they kept talking about how happy Turk and Jen were throughout the next couple of months Maria and I started talking we were two people in similar shtt situations and we found some comfort in each other four months after we got dumped Maria and I officially started dating six months after we got dumped Turk found out that Jen was cheating on him and she left him for the other guy I actually only found this out today from Reading Turk's post Maria would get the occasional message from Turk trying to reconnect but she ignored him anyway moving on now Maria and I are engaged and getting married in September my parents were invited until my mom called me and threatened to not come if I didn't invite Turk I told her not to bother coming regardless in my mother's eyes a Turk can do no wrong when he effed and started dating my ex I told my parents everything he did did and my mom tried defending him our relationship isn't the greatest but it was somewhat decent after I Uninvited my parents I only Uninvited my mom but my dad texted me and said he's not coming if my mom isn't Turk blew up my phone trying to get a hold of me this is the first time he's even tried reaching out to me in four years like I said before Turk posted about this situation here on Reddit as well and apparently my parents told him that Maria and I were getting married and that started this whole thing of them getting uninvited he stopped calling me but he's blowing up my phone with texts begging me to reinvite my parents and possibly give him an invite so yeah I just wanted to get my side out there top comments your mom downplaying what he did to you is kind of telling whose side she's on I've come across that piece it seems in Turk's eyes that he didn't do anything wrong either and trying to get a hold of Maria is also trying to steal her from you you're better off without all of them in your life moving forward good luck with your upcoming wedding Turks are dck you should give them invites but to a different location like a graveyard since he can't stop digging up the past with Maria just make sure no one gives them the real address that's a funny idea your entire family is toxic how dare they take the Turk side at this point op cut your losses you said your parents thought Turk could do no wrong that'll never change they constantly disregard your feelings which isn't okay you were broken from witnessing Turk and Jen having asex in your effing bed how could your parents think that's okay so what did they expect when you didn't invite your brother to one of the most precious times of your life I'm proud of you for standing up for yourself and Maria that takes a lot of self-respect and strength I'm thrilled for you to have found someone who completes you letun go you deserve happiness as I said though get out of there more guilt trips and toxic behavior from your family will ensue otherwise you deserve better thank you so much I think this is the beginning of the end of my relationship with my parents my parents and I have a pretty rocky relationship since my brother can do no wrong in their eyes yet I do almost everything wrong in their eyes they threaten not to come if I didn't invite my brother and I said don't bother coming at all update a small update about my brother who slept with and ran off with my ex then tried to get an invite to my wedding here's a summary since my original post is pretty long my brother Turk set me up with my ex I walked in on him and my ex having SX in my bed and it broke me my my wife Maria was also cheated on so we understood each other Maria and I dated for 4 years until we got married a couple of weeks ago two months before my wedding Turk talked to my parents and got my mom to try to get him invited but all that did was get my mom Uninvited my dad didn't come because my mom didn't that's basically it my wedding was amazing it went so smoothly I didn't hear from Turk he didn't even show up as far as I know my parents didn't show up and try to make a scene or anything which was good my mom didn't text me but my dad texted me saying congratulations I guess Turk talked to my mom because she texted me shortly after my honeymoon basically begging me to forgive Turk because he's my brother I didn't text back it's not worth it that was a week ago and I haven't gotten any other texts from my mom or turk since and that's it the funny part is that Turk is still trying to get our mom to solve his problems but all of that's behind me now comments user one congrats on getting married I was glad it was drama free hopefully your parents will learn to respect your boundaries in the future muser to things like this are so weird with Mom saying to forgive him because he's family but no one ever saying to F your family's Partners congrats on your marriage now go forth and live your best life user three what's more they usually don't advise The Sibling they want forgiven to go gravel to their brother or sister or even offer a common apology not that anyone is required to forgive somebody for an offense of that magnitude no matter what they do but I've noticed that the parents who demand that the injured sibling forgive don't even also demand that the offender do everything in their power to earn forgiveness it's just supposed to be handed to them on a platter ususer four exactly where is the Contrition apology an attempt to make amends that's what is usually required before forgiveness could be considered but there's none of that here Second Story a stranged homophobic Mill offers to pay for the entire wedding only to ruin it at the last moment but first this is a throwaway account out because the last thing my friends need is to be exposed this is not about my J&M but I'm so damn angry as if she were so I need to vent context my friend f is gay and has been with his fdh for about 10 years they had to fight a lot to be together in addition to being estranged from both families they work in a very manly meaning homophobic field and have endured all kinds of career setbacks along with a very hostile environment on a daily basis a few years ago their company went through a high level management change and they finally had some relief fdh got promoted and proposed to F now after all they have been through they have planned a dream wedding and a big party not in terms of the number of people as I said they are NC with family and obviously have no work friends but in terms of Extravaganza it took more than a year of intense planning a few months ago to everyone's surprise F's mom contacted him for the first time in almost a decade she had heard about the wedding no idea how and wanted to make amends to make a long story short she was incredibly sorry for how she treated him she knew better nowadays and asked if she could be part of this important event in his life she even begged him to let her pay for the whole thing his parents are quite wealthy as a very big apology F was over the moon it looked like everything was falling into place in his life when he told me about it I felt uneasy but I brushed it off crediting it to my unforgiving nature and previous hatred of her I have known him for 17 plus years and even before he came out she was already what any satanic Offspring aspires to be and mostly because it was none of my business fdh also expressed concerns about her sudden generosity but had to back off because F was so happy to have his mom back in his life that fdh felt he didn't have the right to take that away from him over the next year J&M made the wedding her top priority in life she intermediated every transaction contacted the suppliers back and forth basically organized the whole thing and signed all the checks everyone was quite amused that things were going so well and I almost believed she was a human being for a change we should all know better Flash Forward to today 10 days before the big day F receives a call from one of the suppliers saying J&M Was Out Of Reach and if F had another number they could call sure but maybe he could help oh it's nothing much just an issue with the repayment wait what repayment the partial repayment on the cancellation Say What Again F hung up tried to call J&M with no luck then called fdh who being the smart man he is immediately reached out to all the suppliers you guessed right she canceled the whole thing including the very exclusive almost a year-long reservation venue she took all the matter into her own hands to make sure she could sneakily cancel it's since she signed all the contracts to let them find out only on the wedding day again she spent thousands of dollars even with the repayments she may have gotten so she could undo it at the last minute and make sure the wedding wasn't happening F just called me in tears I have never hated anyone so hard in my life and I'm a Prett hateful be how much of a sociopath do you have to be to do that to go this far only to destroy their only son's happiness I can't believe it but jokes on her we assembling all the friends tonight to see how we can solve this because this wedding is going to happen even if I have to officiate it myself edit I just got out of the Gathering and wanted to give you guys some updates since a lot of you are being so supportive and helpful but I can't reply individually now because I have a humongous number of things to take care of ASAP one thank you so much to all the people offering all kinds of help here and by p.m unfortunately I'm several countries and probably in Ocean away from most of you and even if that were not the case I can't share information that leads to identification in any possible way I know decent human beings can only be supportive of my friends but in the narrow-minded dark AG sh toll we live in a fairly good amount of people will side with J&M for having prevented sin someone said in the comments that she must belong to a big old church and you couldn't be more right and might feel inspired to take some action and of course J&M cannot know in any circumstance what we are about to do but all these comments are giving me incredible energy and I'll need a lot of that in the following days so thanks again you guys two the first thing to do tomorrow is to call all the venues and try to get them back on the field that might be harder than we thought since apparently J&M has been canceling everything for weeks all while pretending she was in contact with the suppliers honestly Merill stre has nothing on that woman today's call was just an incredible Lucky Strike cj&m God loves the queers you two faced psychotic satanic Witch three F was not at the reunion today fdh said he had an anxiety attack or something similar and had to be sedated of all the awful stuff these two had to deal with over the course of their lives this is by far the hardest and most heartbreaking one I'm worried that even if we pull off the wedding that woman will crush him Beyond repair but fear nothing beloved internet we be marrying the those bastards so hard they have no idea we reunited a very solid group of people who are highly committed to making this happen the thing about having almost everyone around you against you is that those who are by your side are really by your side I'll update you guys as soon as possible Sleepless edit some people are suggesting going to the media for support or telling their story to get sympathy unfortunately that won't fly where I live as I said most people are more likely to side with J&M the hate is strong with these people update hey guys first of all thanks to everyone who offered help and support I couldn't take time to reply to you all but I was very moved by your generosity so yes the wedding happened on Friday and I still can't wrap my head around it I'll tell everything and it will be long so bear with me me and another friend took some days off work to focus solely on the event we were in charge of bribing and bullying all the vendors to cancel the cancellation Inception style it took us 2 days to reach them all do you guys have any idea how many details are involved in a wedding honestly if I ever get married it'll be at McDonald's anyway as a lot of you predicted most of them were happy to oblige and the group organized to DIY what was left we also had to make a few changes to the original plans due to budget restrictions to my surprise the main concern got solved quickly which was the location as we expected it was already booked but F and fd's boss was sent from above like an angel on suits and immediately offered his house to host the wedding and guys why aren't we all seos that was a thinging fairy tale Mansion I completely changed my mind about the McDonald's wedding I also ended up helping with some flower ornaments and they turned out fantastic I have real talent guys at the end the whole place looked like a perfect dream and in my opinion even better than the original idea friends won in jum's ear then the food became the main concern the Grooms especially f are passionate Foodies and the meals were supposed to be the star of the event it's where they put in the most planning effort and Love and Money Etc the original caterer refused to reconsider the wedding because the menu was unique and needed several important ingredients which they claimed to be unable to get on such short notice but we were fully committed to making it as close to their dream as possible we wanted to show F that for that one person going as far as she could to make him miserable there were dozens going even further to make him happy so pretty much everyone went above and beyond to make that dinner happen including an angel from that caterer company who went behind their boss back and handed us the whole dinner plan I don't know the details I was on flower duty but I heard people contacted friends overseas and had them buy ingredients locally then ship them to our country on top priority for a small fortune and they effing nailed it the dinner was so Sublime that it almost overshadowed my flower ornaments I mean the Grooms friends 2 and J&M zero finally the party happened and it was completely over the top not as fancy as initially planned but with an energy I've never experienced before I think because every single person there got involved in some way to make the Party happen because their wedding meant a victory over so many obstacles for more than 10 years and because queer people know how to celebrate like nobody else you know how every graduation party is fun but when it's your own it's so cathartic because you know how much it took you to get there F and fdh were so happy grateful and emotional they kept thanking everybody and there was so much love that evening that we all kind of forgot the wedding was supposed to be anything different from what it was friends 1,000 and JM Z and then at the end of the night guys OMG I'm already tearing up okay so as you can imagine even with all the DIY this wedding was expensive because J&M was paying their plans were quite above what they could afford in the first place even with our money gifts and their original wedding budget they still had to relocate their honeymoon budget to make NS meet it was fine they would just postpone the honeymoon but then their boss announced that both groom departments chipped in to give them their honeymoon as originally intended guys you must remember my original post where I stated how much they suffered for years at their workplace and how archaic and homophobic the place I live is for example the company's HR several years ago refused to register their relationship disclaimer because that's not what a real couple is and was fully supported by corporate and now their peers not only acknowledged their love but also gave them their honeymoon fdh who has been in the company longer and suffered greater cried so hard he couldn't even say thanks he just stayed there sobbing for a solid 10 minutes it was the most beautiful thing I've ever seen so maybe their co-workers are not all closed-minded bigots as we assumed as a friend of our said sometimes we get so defensive due to past trauma that we don't give people a chance to be good we just assume they will hurt us as everyone else always has and we cut them off to avoid it anyway the Grooms already plan on offering a Thanksgiving dinner when they get back from their trip friends infinity and J&M can go go hug Satan finally about F and jum F confessed to me that not even in his Wildest Dreams could he plan a better wedding and that he never felt so loved but that a mother hurts you in a place that nobody else can reach only himself with a lot of counseling and therapy nevertheless all that love at least cleared his mind and made him believe that he could overcome the dark place he's in right now knowing that he'd have people there for him he also made me promise to not take any action to get back at J&M because he knows me too and I was already Googling cheaper ways to keep people alive he said any contact with her would only add more to the pain and he can't take even an ounce more than what he's already enduring another friend pointed out that she is not your regular crazy hateful old lady unprovoked she pulled a long very expensive and cruel stunt there's no way of knowing how far she can go in Vendetta mode and she clearly has the means and the will to be dangerous so we are not poking that church bear it would give us a momentary sense of accomplishment but it would hurt my friend and maybe even put them at risk the best revenge is for them to be safe and happy and Go full andc with that lady now I'll go rest some more because at my age you can't party that hard and not suffer the consequences thanks for reading tldr we managed to make the wedding happen everyone got involved and it was amazing the Grooms co-workers chipped in to gift them their honeymoon and maybe they are not as hateful bigots as we expected no revenge against J&M is in place to protect my friend from further damage thank you for watching the video if you are interested in listening to these kinds of stories we've got more in store for you simply subscribe to our Channel hit the like button and share it with your friends

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