I’m Suing My Friend Because She Tried To Prove My Food Allergy Was Fake And I Ended Up In Hospital

why did you cut contact with your friend i was a 20 female and in college i was living with my two best friends one of them was moving out so that she could move in with her boyfriend i placed an ad looking for another roommate that's how i met erin before she moved in she informed me that she was vegetarian but she wouldn't have a problem if other roommates weren't she moved into our apartment a month later the next day after she moved in she cooked breakfast for us i was surprised we didn't ask her to and by her own words she wanted to do something nice she had made pancakes bacon strips and hash browns i'm deathly allergic to a few things so i immediately asked her what was in the food but i didn't mention my allergies huge mistake she listed the ingredients and i didn't find anything i was allergic to edit she told me it was regular bacon note that it was fake bacon or that it had soy i started eating and everything tastes a little off i try the bacon and definitely something is wrong at this point she does a ta-da and smugly told us i bet it tastes exactly like meat i am freaking out now i told her i am severely allergic to soy and asked her whether there was any soy now she is apologizing and said she didn't know and that she is sorry she lied and blah blah i am experiencing anaphylactic shock throat closing up dizzy the works my best friend freaks out and calls an ambulance i had to stay in the hospital for two days with the us healthcare the ambulance and my hospital stay racked up a lot of money money i didn't have in the meantime i also filed a complaint with the police food tampering is a felony i had a lucky break my best friend had filmed the breakfast to post it on instagram and she got the whole thing in video in the end erin had to plead guilty to some low degree of felony she didn't get any jail time but got community service once she was found guilty i sued her for the hospital fees i won that one too erin's scholarship was cancelled and she had to drop out she also went into debt paying medical fees i saw her on facebook a few days ago and she is still down on her luck i guess a felony charge makes it very hard no matter how small the charge was i know she is the idiot for lying about food i want to know whether i am the idiot for everything i did after because bottom line is i basically screwed a person's life because they put wrong ingredients on breakfast that they only made to do something nice i feel like everyone's the idiot here it does seem like she was trying to trick you into eating meat substitute which is a rotten thing to do but i also think it was your responsibility to ask does this have soy or other substances to which you are allergic explicitly or to otherwise inform her or anyone else who prepares food you're going to eat that you have life-threatening allergies considering i expect zero soy in actual bacon i'd say that being told it's regular bacon is the tipping point for me op is not the idiot you are not the idiot the reason that food tampering is considered a serious crime is because it can have precisely the kind of consequences you suffered she absolutely needed to be responsible for your costs and face the proper legal consequences for her reckless acts that literally endangered your life and could have killed you and for what in order to trick you into liking something vegetarian not at all to do anything actually nice for you she deliberately deceived you you did the right thing the things you needed to i feel horrible for aaron me too but she could have killed opie just because she wanted to prove that vegetarian bacon is as good as real bacon like what a pointless way to go well the real idiot here is the american healthcare system that gave op no sane proportional response she literally couldn't afford the hospital bill what was she supposed to do if healthcare had been free i think the range of options here would have been better as it is the incredible cost for an american hospital stay was a hot potato someone had to be holding when the smoke cleared i female 18 have colon cancer i've gone through a few rounds of chemo and up to have surgery soon i haven't lost my hair but i've noticeably lost a lot of weight due to just being so mentally and physically exhausted and just not having much appetite i will admit i've always been on the bigger side so if people saw me how there's a very massive difference in how i look i never made an announcement about it nor posted it on my social media accounts i only told my family members boyfriend and a couple of my very close and trusted friends honestly just felt that i was lucky enough to even be able to have mine removed and have an early intervention and have a couple of months worth of recovery compared to those who don't get the same liberty there was a zoom meeting for my class who graduated last year i was on screen with my boyfriend just had chemo and i was just really tired i only went on there to just help the current year looking into university and discussing my bachelor course with them so one of my old friends female 20 no longer friends because she's toxic asked me if the rumor was true about me having cancer i told her that i do have cancer but i was lucky for early intervention she then asked if i was being truthful because i still had hair i told her that my hair is thinning i have really thick curly hair and i've only had chemo like a couple of times but the doctor explains something about what they put in for what you have or something i don't really remember she was then like well why didn't i post it or whatever and i was like having cancer isn't something everybody needs to know i'm not going to become instagram famous i tried to ignore it but she kept going on and on talking about how her uncle had cancer and lost his hair and died and that what i have probably isn't cancer etc and i just was already exhausted i just said look i really don't feel like i need to validate my cancer to you don't believe me fine don't i really don't care i'm mentally and physically exhausted i've lost a crap ton of weight just look at my medical bills if you really want proof if you want to trade places let's do that or shut up she then went off at me calling me a liar and that i'm only seeking attention because colon cancer isn't serious and then she hung up and started blowing up my phone but i blocked her my boyfriend thinks it was hysterical one of my friends says that i hurt her feelings and publicly embarrassed her i feel bad now because obviously i didn't intend to do that but i also feel pretty justified in how i handled it does that make sense am i the idiot for how i responded also the meeting was recorded so it's posted on an online forum where everyone can see it you are not the idiot if anything she embarrassed herself lots of people keep their diagnosis to themselves and or only share to those they are closest with because ready for this it's nobody's business unless you want to make it their business and then questioning that you're really not that sick because of xyz is just plain rude keep her blocked and focus on your health omg no not the idiot you were so very very very tame in my opinion questioning your cancer because you still have hair is the nastiest thing i have ever heard not every hardship you go through has to be posted on social media to be valid and true the entitlement of this woman astonishes me do not apologize for anything and do not accept her apology either i have been living with my roommate holly for almost one and a half years olly wasn't a good roommate i was doing most of the chores i didn't like her much but she seemed to think i was a really good friend of hers any time i tried to talk to her she would either deflect or give excuses she told me once that it was my fault because i do it better than her and she is now not used to doing chores six months ago she told me that she got pregnant i was covering half of her rent too because she didn't have any money i wanted to ask her to move out but again she would say something or give excuses or start crying and i would back off few months later situation got worse for her quit her job couldn't find another we were speaking one day and she told me how lucky she felt having a friend like me she thanked me for being so nice about the rent and the food and she also told me she is not feeling scared about being a single mom as i would be there to help her i freaked out hard helping a person when they were in a spot is one thing but it was clear that she was expecting me to help her even after the baby was born i didn't want that another month passed by i was making plans to leave me and my friend found an apartment to share on september the 3rd when she wasn't at home i moved all my things to my new apartment since most of the things outside her room were mine the apartment was pretty bare when i left i called my landlord and informed him that i won't be renewing my lease which was ending at the end of september he promised to return my security deposit in full at the end of the month after that i left a message to holly that i had moved out and she has to talk to the landlord about her situation from next month to be clear i paid my share of the rent for this month to the landlord and told him to ask holly about the rest and about making a new lease and new security deposit i refuse to attend any more calls from her bottom line is i left a 8 or 9 months pregnant woman who was depending on me for many things like rent food etc on her own during a global situation while she was jobless she had left me multiple voicemails and telling me how i should have talked to her and at least given a heads up instead of just moving out she told me that she is struggling a lot and she is about to give birth soon and that i need to help her she is saying that it's horrible of me to help her so much and then abandon her she told me that she wants to meet me and explain things she thinks that talking to her would make me move back i refuse to respond all my friends have conflicted opinions some think i could have talked to her and resolved it some think that i should have at least given her a heads up some think i should move back in many think that it's not my fault at all again she has one month to figure things out with the landlord before the lease ends i didn't talk to her because it never worked in the past and i didn't want to be guilt-tripped out of moving here for unbiased opinions am i the idiot everyone sucks here so of course your roommate is in the wrong for many things but at the same time you indulged her and covered a lot of her expenses were you firm in stating that you won't take over her expenses anymore you really didn't give her a lot of time to find a new place i don't know the market where you are but here you don't get an apartment in one month and it seems to me that you deceived her she was convinced you would continue to help out so i don't think you were firm enough with your plans of course she shouldn't depend on you and should be a responsible adult so she's the idiot too of course you are the idiot you were super nice and supportive for a year and a half and then ghosted in the night like a basic conversation about your feelings or just your plans would have been reasonable is she supposed to read your mind no you are not the idiot because she is intentionally gaslighting you there are clearly some victim blaming emotional manipulations going in here even if it's small it's your fault i am not able to pay rent do chores you do it better than me you kept doing it so it's your fault that i am not able to do it now you tried to talk to her you tried to get her to do chores didn't work you tried to talk about paying rent properly didn't work each time she pulled some emotional manipulation crying deflecting gaslighting so you didn't have any reason to think that talking would work you could have given her a notice to move out when she couldn't pay rent instead you helped her even now she has one month to figure out with the landlord which is the standard notice period i was friends with a girl named jenny in middle and high school our friendship was tumultuous she tended to say mean things and could be very judgmental she called me skinny witch a lot despite me asking her not to she also talked about me behind my back a lot i stayed friends with her because i had low self-esteem and didn't want to be completely friendless it's pathetic i know after we graduated i got my own apartment and job then started college we were about 18 or 19. she met a guy named david online and they decided to meet for an outing they chose not to call a date it wasn't going super well so jenny had david come with her to my apartment to watch movies she liked him but he just wanted to be friends and told her as much i played wingman regardless trying to help her out days later david starts texting me jenny admits she gave him my number because he asked for it and she thought we had a lot in common i'm furious at first but decide to let it go at first i don't like david but as we talk we have a spark he asked me out and i said no i knew jenny still liked him he reminded me they were just friends he kept asking and i said i wanted to clear things with jenny first so i called her asking for her blessing before i'll say yes jenny went nuts she said i was a horrible friend called me names and couldn't believe i would stab her in the back like this i tried to apologize and explained that i never meant for it to happen but she wouldn't hear it she said i was not allowed to date david ever because she liked him she and her sister started posting awful stuff about me online including pictures of me talking about how ugly and horrible i was then they started calling me at all hours leaving mean messages i tried to appeal to our other friends but they agreed with her for breaking the girl code since my friends already hated me now i went out with david anyway and we're still together over a decade later i haven't spoken to jenny or our friends in years now this has bothered me for a long time i've always tried to be a good friend and not pull any shady stuff so now i ask you am i the idiot not the idiot they met online and went on one date not a date which didn't go well that is not a relationship that should be subject to the girl code she gave him your number it's almost like she set you up to be in this situation like some bizarre social experiment she sounds like she was a pretty awful friend and you're well shot of her and your other friends which sounds like they were fed a load of crap about it all not the idiot david had made it clear he only wanted to be friends with jenny she doesn't own him and can't decide who he dates any potential idiotness is wiped clean from you being together 10 years later you try to handle it maturely but she firmly went into wrong territory by slamming you online full disclosure i was in a similar situation but my jenny said yes to me dating my husband she was hurt i only found this out afterwards but she was respectful and we are still friends 12 years later last october a guy showed up at my friend's house claiming he was the father of a friend's kid and that he got friend's wife pregnant in an affair but ran off and broke contact everything broke loose on the guy first but seeing how the wife was acting suspicious he confronted her where she admitted to the cheating but claimed the child was my friends friend got a paternity test done and found out he is not the father he was hurt and depressed he left his house and stayed at a room away to think about the situation his wife reached out to all our common friends and they all asked him to forgive the wife and move on friend was feeling complicated his thoughts kept revolving around the kid the divorce law in my area says the infidelity is grounds for divorce but it is the father's responsibility to make sure his kids are secure financially but if the father can prove that the wife committed paternity fraud he gets out easy any lawyer could take this case and win due to his conflicting feelings he had a massive breakdown the wife and child also showed up to his place and caused a scene asking for forgiveness and for daddy to come back i usually stayed and listened to what he was feeling and saying not giving any of my inputs and after the last time wife and child showed up he said he wanted to know what to do i tried to avoid adding my answer in any way and said there were no right answers and that he should do what makes him happy and mentally healthy he kept on pressing me for a more direct answer and well seeing how desperate he was for an answer i told him that i would leave my wife in such a case without regret she can manage her child on her own i would do that because i know how cold i can get friend is my polar opposite he literally does not hurt a fly but this was just a hypothetical scenario and that the one experiencing this case in real life should look for his answer not my hypothetical response this happened in april this year mid-july my friend finally divorced his wife and she moved out he made a facebook post thanking me for giving him advice that made him resolve to leave fake happiness for his own selfish happiness the ex-wife called me a monster for destroying their happiness most of our friends and my wife are livid because they said i broke up their marriage wife is angry because my advice caused him to abandon his not his child that the child has lost the person they knew as their father i am pretty sure i was clear about what i said and that it was not advice but if he followed that part then i'm not blaming him for what he did friends and wife still think i am the nasty idiot because there could have been better ways to handle the situation so read it am i hello well mate based on your wife's reaction if you have kids i reckon you should get a paternity test seriously is there some kind of conspiracy in your neighborhood where all the wives are having affairs and having kids with men other than their husband because i can think of no other reason why everything would tell your mate that staying with a woman who committed adultery lied about it for presumably nine years or more and allowed him to raise a kid he didn't know wasn't his it's a good idea screw those guys you are not wrong edit after reading through a lot of responses i've come to accept that a lot of people appear to believe the age-old two parents who hate each other is better than one which is absolutely ridiculous my first boyfriend had parents who stayed together for him and he was so emotionally messed up it was a nightmare he honestly didn't realize until his father remarried what a loving relationship should look like that's so sad to this day i am thankful that my mother walked away when she realized the relationship with my father wasn't working you are not the idiot well everyone is an idiot even the friend for their actions here except for you and the kid the kid is a victim in all of this you kept your mouth shut and then you were pressed for answers and you said what you would do friend took advice and then blasted you all over facebook not cool that was highly inappropriate friend is an idiot wife is a nasty idiot for cheating and then lying about the kid friends are the idiots because they think cheating can be brushed off and he should just raise another dude's kid anyway sounds like a prison sentence to me knowing i am living with a lying wife who couldn't stay faithful i would forever wonder if she was cheating or not

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Length: 19min 10sec (1150 seconds)

Published: Sun Sep 20 2020