How to tell someone you love them without using words | The love languages you need to understand

I love you I love you I love you I love you I love you I love you I love you I love you so much I love you for many guys this is really tough to do so if you can't just say it why don't you just show it here's how I'll be right back [Music] welcome back to the video today's video is sponsored by Passion air and a remittance service called lemonade Finance if you're someone who sends money to friends and family in Africa from the UK Canada and now the US I've got brilliant news for you I'll be telling you about later in today's video for now though a great way to think about showing someone you love them without words is the idea that's hidden in the five love languages speaking someone's love language is about doing the things that mean love to them the five love languages how to express heartfelt's commitment to your mate is actually a 1992 book by Dr Gary Chapman it outlines five general ways that romantic Partners Express and experience Love Now Dr Chapman suggests that to discover another person's love language one must observe the way they express love to others and analyze what they complain about most often and what they request from their significant other most of the time he theorizes that people tend to naturally Give Love in a way that they prefer to receive love and better communication between couples can be accomplished when one can demonstrate caring to the other person in the love language the recipient understands stay with me because I believe there are some crucial lessons to be learned here here are the five love languages and how you can use them to express your love for someone number one quality time some people want you to spend your free time with them and be really present when you're together so try not to fixate on the time part of the love language and instead focus on the quality try to show the other person doing something together is important to you as well for example if you take a walk together you can point things out to each other if you're watching a film try talking about it afterwards it's important to avoid looking at your phone and being distracted when you're with them they want to feel like you're present with them and engaged in the shared activity if you want to show someone you love them without ever saying it spend quality time with them number two receiving gifts now it's easy to think of someone who loves receiving gifts as maybe shallow or mercenary but that's not necessarily true someone who has receiving gifts as their love language wants to know that you're thinking about them when you're not together and you want to find things that bring them Joy the best gift for someone like this is something personal that takes feelings and preferences into accounts and I'm talking about thoughtful gifts this could be something as simple as even a stone or a pebble you collected during your first walk together you can hurt the other person if you get this gift wrong giving impersonal generic or thoughtless gifts is worse than giving them nothing at all for example giving your lover chocolates might be romantic but if they're allergic to chocolates they'll be heard that you hadn't really given it much thought before giving them that gift acts of service now someone whose love language is acts of service wants to know you care enough to make their lives easier they're looking for you to pay attention and look for ways you can step in to help acts of service can be big gestures or small touches or anything in between you can make them a cup of coffee in the morning defrost their car windscreen before a busy day sweep up the leaves in their yard you can help them move house getting acts of service right is about finding a balance between being caring and being invasive trying to do tasks where you can makes a difference if you're not sure try asking can I help by doing x y and z if your loved one wants acts of service it's important not to over promise offering to help with something and then letting them down can feel like rejection only making a cursory effort or not completing a task will also leave them feeling sad and disappointed number four touch now for some people touch is their natural way of expressing love and how they know they're loved in return someone who has touched as a primary love language isn't always looking for sexual touch actually they're looking for affectionate touch as well touch is about letting them know that you want to be near them and literally reaching out often it's casual touches that mean the most a hand in the small of their back a kiss on their forehead or taking their hand as you walk if your loved one wants touch it's important to give them these kinds of affectionate touches as well as sexual intimacy if you're already down that line often touch-oriented people will feel uncomfortable being sexual if they haven't been getting enough affectionate or comforting contact from you so don't get this mixed up at all even if her love language is touch it doesn't mean she will want to jump in the sack with you every chance that she gets now before I give you the final tip let me take 30 seconds to tell you about lemonade Finance now it's an app that everyone is using to send money to Africa lemonade Finance allows Africans in Canada the UK and the US to send money to 10 African countries including my favorite Ghana Kenya Nigeria Senegal Ivory Coast Benin Cameroon Tanzania Uganda and Rwanda now I mean lemonade Finance is allowing you to send money home with zero fees yep and they've got the best rates on the market all you need to do is to download the lemonade finance app and I'll leave a link in the description below if you click on that link you can get a 10 cash back on your first transaction above 100 pounds and you can also use my code Jessica OS you know in the app to get your special discount back to the video number five words of affirmation now some people like to hear how much they mean to you and if this is the kind of person and this is the kind of love they understand well there's no way around it you have to say it and this doesn't necessarily mean you have to say I love you Compliments are often key to helping someone who needs words of affirmation to feel loved if they ask for your opinion pay attention if they ask how do I look you may hurt them if you just say fine you're okay dismissively if you're really uncomfortable using words remember that most people speak several Love Languages many people have one dominant love language and several secondary others so you may want to like try and figure out what their secondary love language is and maybe try and bolster how uncomfortable you are with the first specific one or the first one with the second one by being better at maybe exhibiting or showing love with the second one that they better understand in conclusion it will be very helpful to really understand these Love Languages when it comes to dealing with the opposite sex and even with yourself and like I previously mentioned no one has just one love language if you know or guess your partner or your love interests secondary love language you can be especially loving by combining the two for example if they respond well to gifts and touch you can buy them some nice massage oil and promise them a massage combine acts of service and Quality Time by taking care of say an errand for them it's a free time up for you to be able to spend together these are simple ways to be able to pull things like this off and finally before I end this video a special thank you to passionnaire for coming through once again remember passion air will fly you from one Guardian City to the next safely affordably anytime you visit Ghana make sure you try out passion air log on to flypassionair.com I'll leave a link in the description go see our website book your tickets today thanks for watching share this video to anyone else who might find the video beneficial I'll catch you in the next one my name is Jessica cheers

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Length: 8min 51sec (531 seconds)

Published: Thu Sep 01 2022