How to stop being lazy and pathetic

okay so I have been getting constant DMS about Liz can you make a video about how to not be lazy how can I be more productive blah blah blah whatever I'm gonna make this video I'm gonna get really fast into it because I know a lazy person watching this will even be too lazy to watch this video so let's get right into it let's get into the first point realize that nobody cares if you're lazy you know what lazy people are they're the Forgotten ones people that don't want to do anything with their lives they're they will always just end up on the sideline everybody has problems nobody cares about your victim mindset and about how life was hard for you and how unfair it is it's unfair to everyone okay to everyone you're not special and life goes on that's it live moves everyone is busy with their own lives and so you have to do the same thing nobody will sit and pity the pity you literally maybe for one or two seconds okay like oh that's sad but like come on we gotta get moving honey I had this uh neighbor in the country where I grew up and where my family lives this woman she's literally like constantly complaining constantly drinking she's so racist she hates Muslims and she literally terrorized us for the whole time we're living there um and she's constantly just drinking her life away because you know she's sad and she can't accomplish anything whatever blah blah me not my mom she's literally immigrant that fled from the war that came bought us a house is taking care by her own of five children and just getting everything done and do you think she complains no she has no option to be lazy she has no option to play the victim you know when Lacy goes out of the door when you're in survival mode people that need to survive have no option to be lazy people that are walking up on the stairs and they can barely breathe they have no option anymore than to lose that weight people that are so vulnerable and their bodies cannot handle of them being so under it have no option but to gain weight people that have to go to work because otherwise there's no food on the table have no option to be lazy you guys that are just saying that oh I'm just lazy whatever you're privileged you're speaking from privilege if you have the option to be lazy you're privileged hi guys my name is Liz and welcome back to my channel in this video I will show you how to become productive how to overcome your laziness and yeah so keep watching before we get into it I want to say a huge thank you to Better Health for sponsoring this video better help is the world's largest therapy service and it's 100 online with better help you get access to over 30 000 license and experience therapist that can help you with a wide range of issues get started you just answer a few questions about your needs and preferences in therapy that way better health can match you with the right therapist from their Network then you can talk to therapist however you feel comfortable whether it's via text chat phone or vertical you can message your therapist at any time and schedule a live session when it's convenient for you if your therapist is for whatever reason not the right fit for you you can switch therapists with no additional charge basically with better help you get the same professionalism as an in-person therapist and this is a therapist that makes for you and you have way more flexible scheduling hours and at a way more 40 of your first month at betterhelp.com wizardless and I've also linked them down in the description below another thing you need to realize is the halo effect the halo effect is basically when we see like a beautiful person we will think that oh they are less likely to do something bad because we associate someone beautiful with a good person you you know it's the same way the halo effect also worked for successful people so if we see a successful person we are more likely to think that that person is successful in every area of their life for example they have a successful business we will also automatically think they have they're successful in their relationships they're successful everywhere we literally start to admire people that are successful and beautiful because we think that they have it all together see you know what you cannot benefit from the halo effect uh when you're lazy okay it takes it takes effort to be beautiful and to maintain Beauty I remember there was this one uh supermodel she talked about this she's like there was this one woman that commented and said that uh oh why are you doing all this stuff to take care of yourself and all these things and she says I have no other option this is my career do you think she wants to literally like watch what she eats go to the gym do all these procedures to keep yourself in shape probably not like unless you're probably not you know she just wants to sit at home and do nothing as well she has no option because that's her career she does all that stuff and takes care of herself she can benefit from the halo effect same way when somebody goes to like has her own business it's working very hard to create wealth for themselves or Independence or free the same way they have to work very hard to get all that stuff but see what you guys see is only successes and oh she looks good and oh he has all the money you guys don't see all the work that comes like behind it these people have no option to be lazy yes some people are born into wealth they have a very easy and more easy than others I know this is also a privilege but most people are not and they also created for themselves some people come from zero and create it for themselves you know it takes it literally takes discipline it's you think these people want to do all that stuff no I know so many people business owners and stuff that said like I'm so frustrated I like but they rather have this than no Freedom they want the freedom so yeah then you have to put in the work another thing is focus on working on your life force I was watching this Netflix documentary it's on Jonah Hill psychiatrist uh he's his name is Phil Stutz he was basically saying that when you feel like you're lazy or whatever the only thing you need to focus on is your life force what is your life force First Things First Health and diet you can focus on moving your body doing some exercise going to the gym if that's what you want and the food you put in your body that's what you have control over right now make sure it's a foods that nourish your body make sure it's foods that don't spike your insulin or spike your glucose so if if you eat foods like that that are filled with carbs and sugar you're gonna feel lazy you're gonna like feel like you don't want to do anything throughout the day because you feel heavy so think about nutrition what are you putting in your body how are you moving your body then second thing on your life force is your relationships so what people do is when they get lazy or they don't feel good about themselves they basically isolate I do this I start to isolate myself right I don't want to be around people see that's a bad thing you should do what you actually should do is in that moment you should connect with people you should connect with your friends and family and talk to them about how you're feeling because that is much better than Welling in your own self-pity in your own like feeling bad about yourself trust me because I do this all the time it doesn't work if you don't feel comfortable telling your friends family talk to a stranger talk to a stranger just tell them or tell a therapist talk to a therapist and tell them how you're feeling and and whatever you're going as humans we need connection if we isolate ourselves we feel worse we are social creatures we need connection with people and the third thing of your life first is you focus on the relationship with yourself how are you treating yourself how are you talking to yourself in your head what are you even watching what are you watching on your phone constantly all day what are you watching what are you engaging your own minds in what is going on there are you journaling are you writing down stuff do you even have a relationship with yourself and there's also one thing yeah people they they tell me like oh I can't manifest when people cannot manifest is because they are not connected with their own energy manifesting is connecting with your own energy and working with your energy but the reason that this A and H people can are unable to do that is because we're constantly on our phone and we're constantly distracted or we constantly go out to people and we're never by ourselves or we never take the time to sit with ourselves to meditate to write things down even writing stuff down if you just start to write things will come to you because sometimes God speaks to you your spirit guide speak to you but because your mind is constantly racing you cannot focus on that so you cannot accept guidance so you feel lost and you feel like you're alone but you're not alone you're not alone you're just not willing to listen if you focus on these three things health and diet your relationships to people people and your relationships to yourself then you don't need anything else if you just keep continuing focusing on this everything else will fall into place 100 create routines in your life and stick to it have routines we as humans we need routine see for me I have a standard morning routine I have a standard night routine and throughout my week I know when I'm going to the gym I know when I'm doing what when I'm creating content I know these things I have routines and yes sometimes I don't stick to my routines but I have a base and I have always something to get back to when I go off track most of you people have no routines and just leave everything up in the air we don't work like that you need a structurized thing you know and some of y'all I'm gonna call you out as well your house is dirty yeah you never clean your house one thing I cannot stand and I cannot work in is a dirty place I always need to clean and have a clean space because honestly a clean space is a clean mic if your room is a mess right now you go ahead you stop this video I want you to clean right now right now because that's huge disrespect to yourself not even cleaning after yourself there's a reason why you made this commitment and remind yourself of that reason if you knew anything about me my whole life I did not have social media I was not that teenager that was on Instagram whatever I never wanted never even literally considered it the only time I've ever been on social media was to make a career out of it why did I want to make my career out of it because I wanted to help my mom pay her bills and help her with her finances and help my family now I'm able to do that see when I get demotivated and I don't want to do this anymore and I don't want to do social media anymore because to be honest to stand here right now and be judged by millions of people and some people telling me that I'm so dumb and what I'm saying is common sense and whatever or that I'm ugly it's not nice okay it's really not nice and I don't want to be this center of attention but at the end of the day I made this commitment to my myself because I'm not gonna let my family suffer I'm not gonna let my mom suffer they have suffers enough I have suffered enough we deserve Financial Freedom and I'm gonna create that for us and the same way there's a reason why you make that commitment to yourself remind yourself why did I even start why did I even want this goal and you know somewhere down the line maybe you didn't even want to school anymore and you think to yourself I don't want this okay fine then don't do it do something else I don't care but remind yourself if you still want it why do you want it why did you even start think about what story are you telling yourself if you're telling yourself story oh I can't do this because I'm just a lazy person yeah that's then how we will act like a lazy person stop saying that stop saying that what does that even mean I'm just a lazy person what does that mean you think you think you can use that as an excuse for the rest of your life okay then go to the side time yeah and let people like us walk through because we don't need you on our way okay because we're trying to do stuff it could have been anything you wanted in your life literally your mom she carried you nine months in her stomach for you to come out and say oh I'm just lazy some people watching this are children of immigrants your your parents have literally rescued your whole life literally tried to give you the best life possible for you to sit here now and be like Oh I'm just too lazy to do this are you not embarrassed get a hold of yourself literally you guys are lazy but then you guys complain that you don't have the life that you want don't complain them don't complain you can literally change your reality at any second you know any second like right now if I want to be overlooked and nobody cares about me give me one month one month I'm gonna eat whatever I want I'm not gonna take care of myself anymore 100 I'll be overlooked 100 when I walk down the street people will not look at me the same way 100 I can then I'm changing my reality I went from being this person to that other person you can change your your realities really fast when you start acting like the person you want to become no Liz it's uncomfortable because then I have to let go of my toxic boyfriend and this and then but I'm still gonna cry about the fact that I don't have what I want another thing you should do is heal the past and move on listen there's a lot of people that have experienced so much trauma and then now they sit and they're like oh I can't accomplish anything because I've been through this I've been through that this and that okay I've been through a lot as well I I've literally came two times a person tried to analyze me it was very traumatizing for me you know what I did instead of complaining I went to a therapist I even did hypnotherapies I went to two years of intensive therapy and I healed myself from those things yeah because I don't want to continue my life be the victim of a trauma I'm not a victim I don't even want to associate with it okay I don't want it to be my story I can change my story around and honestly I'm telling you once again if you did not hear this in my other videos if you're a victim of trauma or abuse or whatever don't just go around and tell people because they lose respect for you they lose respectfully 100 I would have never ever in my life disclosed this to internet or people if if I was not trying to help people because this is really something that people lose respect for when you tell them don't think that they feel pity for you no they see you as someone weaker someone that went through something it's really sad but I'm telling you this is the truth this is how they see it so for yourself go ahead heal that heal it takes years yes it takes years okay sometimes it goes fast sometimes it's not fast you can't control that but at least work towards healing yourself well if you're constantly living in the past and reliving it your body literally will make you physically ill because your body thinks that you're because you're feeling those emotions still your body thinks that you're still in that same situation your body doesn't know anything different it only knows what you're feeling and what you're telling your body so what you're repeating in your head what you're feeling inside of yourself is what your body will create for you you want a different outcome and a different future you have to do things differently not people around you should change not people around you should change their behavior you you have the power to control that you have the power to control how you react you have the power to control how you feel stop blaming other people it's not their fault yes maybe somebody did something to you they traumatized you that's on them okay they will receive their karma if not in this lifetime in another God will punish them whatever okay you have not the responsibility to heal yourself you do and you take that responsibility and go to your own Next Level because when you're stuck in the past and being terrorized by the thoughts of the past you cannot go forward you cannot move on another thing is are you lazy or did you stop progressing like I said in the other video only reason that people become happy is because they constantly progress when people stop progressing that's when unhappiness becomes like literally you can be a millionaire having everything but because they they don't have anything anymore that excites them they become depressed as well it doesn't matter how much money you have it doesn't matter how much you've accomplished we constantly need that drive or something to strive for so ask yourself am I lazy or do I just not find excitement in things anymore learn a new skill then find a new hobby create a new project do something else that you haven't tried before or do something that you used to love pick it up again you know but don't allow yourself to stop progressing because when you stop progressing that's when you stop living don't allow yourself to be like that too much information makes us lazy see because we're constantly scrolling on every app whatever we're scrolling on social media we hear this diet is perfect we hear this is the best shampoo now this is the best way to do skin care so we go literally insane because there's so much information and we don't want to do anything anymore because we don't even know what to do there's so much information but because we're so consumed in that we start to literally become consumed in other people's opinions in other people's lives and we start filling their lives with our energy that's it and then you wonder to yourself like huh why do I not have any energy for myself left because you're too consumed in other people's lives so you're not living your own you know when I spent the day scrolling on Tick Tock I don't want to do anything I don't want to do anything literally I just literally my brain is fried completely and just want to lay down and do nothing if I decide to have a lazy day and I call them lazy days I'll watch Netflix shows I binge watch them I don't want to do anything else literally my mind is shut off then you know if if you're also a person that constantly goes out and parties that's it energy drained my love constantly drained but recently my friend she took me out because it was her birthday so then I thought okay let me go out I went out with her the whole night I did not have one thought in my head and I have a mind that's racing I'm very very creative I constantly have ideas in my head and I constantly also get messages in my head that whole night I had no idea nothing nothing my mind was blank it's almost like I was like brain dead or something I was just standing there like you know what happens too many energies around you too many energies and you're they're completely draining it so that's why sometimes in order for you to create or in order for you to be productive you need to be a Solitude you need to be alone you need to realize that feelings are not always right okay feelings are just feeling see if we all just react out of emotions I think everyone would analyze each other oh you made me angry I'm so angry let me get something and just unalive you might feel like right now oh my heart is broken I will never find something like that again no you will okay you will you just feel right now really bad so what do you do you feel the feelings you let them Purge yeah feelings perch are you feeling them if you're gonna repress what you feel and you feel like oh I shouldn't be crying about this I should be tough nope you're gonna store those feelings inside of your body and they're gonna come up later as physical illness you cannot do that to yourself if you feel bad right now and you feel like you want to cry or you want to scream you do that because that is releasing your emotions if you feel like you need to sleep a lot right now sleeping is also healing there is a reason why your body needs sleep because it's trying to heal the feelings Purge let your body heal but once that's done also get up and do something okay don't stay there and dwell there for too long and it's also like oh I feel like I don't want to do this but what like what do you feel and what do you want okay because if you feel like oh I want to eat that uh whatever I want to eat unhealthy this and that but then you want that dream body of yours it doesn't correlate you need to have discipline my love like you know you can't just consume into what you're feeling and then expect what you want to happen to happen it doesn't work like that another thing is courage is being vulnerable courage is going out and meeting meeting new people and putting yourself out there and being vulnerable it might not feel good to you because honestly this I'm just speaking for myself right now I isolate myself I've constantly isolate myself anyone that lives like where I live will tell you I don't come out any of my friends will tell you I do not leave my place you know do you think that's courageous of Me no I'm trying to protect myself but because I'm trying to protect myself and I'm scared of being vulnerable I don't live any experiences and life is just going by like this I'm young I'm supposed to be living my life I'm supposed to be meeting people getting my heart broken I'm supposed to have experience I don't have any of these because I'm so afraid of getting hurt or betrayed by friends you think that that's happiness no you're not living you know and it makes you lazy as well because you're like okay I'm just not gonna do anything I'm not gonna surround myself with people I'm not gonna try to do anything that's not courageous that's weak courage is being vulnerable go out there meet new people I'm not saying do something risky and then put yourself in danger but do something that normally you would feel uncomfortable doing or you rather prefer not doing it other thing is learn to ask for help or learn to accept help see most of you guys's issues is the fact that you don't accept help oh my God like I have so many people around me that are like no I don't want help I don't want help and then they struggle so much to accomplish this thing you know I could have fixed it for them in one second you need to start accepting help from people sometimes God sends these people to help you okay that's how you have to see it and you have to receive and then you like if you don't you get angry you're like God you never help me like why don't you help me and God says like I send this person to help you and you refuse them how do you want God to help you also ask help from God ask help ask help you will receive help in very miraculous ways I've done it myself I always do it another thing is be productive on your own terms think about what does productivity look like for me if I say for example go to the gym do this do that but you think like but that's not what I want to do like I don't want to go to the gym I don't want to do these things okay fine that's not for you that's not how you are productive you have a different sense of productivity so think to yourself what is productive for me what do I think would be like oh okay I'm a productive person if I do these things what are your goals create that productivity mindset for yourself and create a vision of what that looks like for you don't listen to these other people because what works around them might not work for you because that's not what you want other thing is are the people around you draining your energy if you have toxic friends if you have toxic family members and you're constantly just engaging with them you're constantly just around them you're gonna feel bad look at the people look when you feel bad what people are around you when you feel your worst and sometimes even you start to hate yourself around certain types of people there is certain types of friends that bring out aside in you that you don't like about yourself watch out for these kinds of people because you might feel like when I'm around them why do I behave like this you know you're getting influenced by them so it's better to distance yourself and when you are more stable in who you are and and you don't get influenced by others easily then if you want you can be like friends and stuff because they cannot do anything you know it doesn't affect you but when you are easily influenced distance yourself from these kind of people if you have toxic family members distance yourself make sure you can stay away as much as possible and focus on the things that you can focus on right now nobody can make you feel anything nobody can make you feel sad bad upset whatever you can only do that to yourself you have control over how you feel if for example one person when I used to be younger and I didn't know this knowledge when somebody made me angry I would think like oh they're so bad like I hate them whatever they did this with ill intent yeah and I would get angry now when somebody does something to me I think to myself well then there must be something that they're judging in me because they're judging it in themselves they're projecting there's something wrong maybe something I have a different kind of understanding and I have compassion for this person I I feel sad for them it's a different energy and it's a different feeling and why can I control that because I control how I feel I can feel sad for them if I want you know I can also feel happy that they showed their true colors to me so change your perspective on things how do you how do you view this person how do you view the situation same way if you're going through a breakup you can see it as like oh my God it was the last man on earth I cannot live without him or you can see it as like oh okay our souls Were Meant to cross because we were meant to teach each other something in this lifetime and then we were meant to separate because it was not meant to be forever in this lifetime that's it he learned his lesson I learned I learned my lesson and now we can go our separate ways and go to the level that we were both meant to be at last but not least focus on the things that you can do I always hear people oh I can't do this oh my God I can't I what can you do what can you do what are you good at huh let me three things right now what can you do think about these things what can I do what am I good at what am I passionate about what makes me happy who makes me happy you know be be grateful for these things be lies you can do a lot and remind yourself of what you actually can do anyways guys thank you so much for watching I hope you guys enjoyed this video and yeah I see you in the next video bye

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Published: Fri Jun 30 2023