How to Flirt Using Your EYES (7 Flirts that drive men WILD!)

how would you like to be able to look at a man and in an instant build connection attraction and rapport just using your eyes well in this video I'm gonna walk you through different tips and strategies to build attraction using your eyes with high quality men hi I'm Jason silver I am V dating coach for ambitious women and in this channel attract great guys every single week I go through different videos on building attraction and building relationships and understanding high quality men who are looking for a lifelong committed relationship and if you would like to be notified every single week of my videos just hit the red subscribe button beneath this video and the little notification bell so you get notified and don't miss any of my trainings I think it's important to know how to use your eyes and what you can do to build a really strong connection with a man simply using your eyes seventy to eighty percent of communication is nonverbal and the eyes are really one of the most powerful ways to build that connection visually which is you know in terms of men men are incredibly visual so this is going to be important now before I jump into these different strategies just know that confidence is the foundational requirement for all of these strategies when you look at someone if you're not confident your eyes are the first things that give away your lack of confidence and you can't fake confidence using these different tips or strategies so whatever you can do to build confidence and one of the best ways that I know of how to do that is to focus on esteem Abul actions the specific actions that are what I call the 8020 the 20% of activities that are going to give you the 80% fulfillment and personal growth in your life whether it's your physical fitness whether it's your friendships and relationships whether it's your finances or career focusing on massive consistent action is going to give you a different emotion and confidence that nothing else can so I just wanted to mention that because really confidence is the core to that I connection attraction so I'm not going to go too much into core competence in this video but I do need to mention now let's jump right into the first strategy that you can use to build that powerful connected eye contact the first thing that you're going to want to do is on occasion glance down to his lips because it's in the looking at lips that we actually do that just before we kiss someone will take a glance at what we're about to kiss and so by looking at his lips you're going to be indicating to him that you are interested in kissing him and he might not realize it consciously but just know many of these different tips are being communicated to a man subconsciously so don't worry this is really effective now number two is in addition to looking down at his lips I want you to bite your lower lip at some point and see if it even happens naturally as you're looking at his lips and maybe even imagining kissing him because we have an instinctual reaction it's primitive inside of us that when we become aroused we want to bite our lower lip yeah it can be just a natural thing where and it doesn't have to be where you're like grinding them and Allu taking bites out of your lips that's not what I mean it's like a very subtle just you know pressure using your top teeth on your lower lip just and that may seem to you a bit forward and it could be at times but the truth is if you're trying to build an intimate attraction with a man subtlety doesn't always work in fact if you are even in the least bit perceptive imagine that a man is maybe like 10% as perceptive as you are you have to assume that he has absolutely no idea what you're thinking and that no matter how hard he tries he still can't figure out what you're thinking this is one of the greatest mysteries in life too many men of what women are actually thinking so if you're gonna try to communicate non-verbally with a man you might not want to be extremely subtle and to you what may feel like you're going completely over the top I promise you it is coming across as much more subtle to the man now you'll have to gauge this on your own because everyone has different levels of subtlety and directness so this is something that you can play with now along with biting your lower lip I know thing that you can do is wet your lips because when our lips are wet it's another thing that we subconsciously do before we kiss someone to make sure that it's all not driving chapped and once again for licking your lips you don't want to you know like I'm gonna make them so incredibly wet you just want them a little moist and what that does is it shows health and youthfulness and that in and of itself is attractive but just the act of wetting your lips you know something very very simple that you're just moving your lips you don't have to go crazy with it but it does the same thing it lets him know that you're interested in kissing him even if it's just subconscious now the next tip is to look at just one of his eyes now it can be confusing which eye do you look at you don't want to look at both because there's really no way to focus on both eyes unless you've relaxed your eyes like you're looking at a one of those magic 3d photos that you relax your eyes and all of a sudden you can see the painting pop out that's not what you want to do because your eyes do all sorts of wonky things when you relax them you want to just maintain a gentle relaxed focus on one of his eyes and if he has a lazy eye then focus on the eye that is active that can look at you that's key another thing that you can do when you're making that eye contact instead of looking straight forward maybe turn your head just slightly so you're maybe looking just to the left or the right of him and what that does is it it creates a less of an intense connection and it almost allows him to feel like he can invite you in closer right it gives him some room to build more intimacy rather than being full-blown I'm facing you and it can be intimidating especially if you have a powerful presence so even just shifting your body just a little slightly to the left or the right even if it's counterintuitive you're not as open it actually may make you seem more approachable if you feel like you've been making eye contact for a long time and you feel uncomfortable another quick tip it's just to look away briefly and then reset yourself by looking back so if you just look down for a minute and then look back the act of doing that it removes a bit of that awkward feeling and it resets the connection it's just really helpful if you feel your face is frozen or you feel anxious about how you look or anything like that it's just very easy to get those thoughts out of your mind by just you know looking away and then resetting it's a very common normal thing to do in a conversation but when we're so focused on eye contact we can forget to do those natural things now the next thing that you can do and even if this is uncomfortable it really works it's powerful imagine yourself kissing it might mention it a little bit before but when you're when you're looking down at his lips if you can actually visualize yourself moving forward and embracing him and kissing him what it does is you will like it or not exude a more sensual energy because you're thinking about it and what we think about does reflect in our energy which reflects in our body language and we are we do communicate that I remember and I don't fully understand how this worked but I remember when I was like when I was in college there was a there was a woman I really really liked and I remember just interacting with her and then my friend Phil came over and Phil was just an Italian guy who knew how to connect with women and I remember he walked up to her and he sat down and he just looked at her and he smiled and I remember she looked at him and she just gave him a hug and kissed him on his cheek and I mean they knew each other they were friends but I remember thinking to myself what did he just do what was that magic and I looking back all he probably did was walk up with a loving energy and he probably looked at her with you know adoration or some kind of a sensual vibe and he didn't say anything he just maintained eye contact and she felt it and embraced it and hugged him and it really showed me number one I had no idea what I was doing and had so much to learn about the male and female interactions and number two it's possible to connect without using any words it's not only possible it's powerful and so you know that's something that you can use and practice even if it's uncomfortable and actually that's something that I really really need to mention if you feel uncomfortable or awkward especially if it's like a strong physical feeling of awkwardness that is a good thing if you're not used to building this kind of intimate connection and you start taking these actions and feeling awkward and really having a strong desire to run away from the interaction that probably means that whatever you're doing is working and you're building a connection and you're not used to that feeling and the more that you can practice this and create that uncomfortable feeling in yourself the more that you can desensitize yourself and actually get used to it and start to engage in it more and play with it and it feels so great when you get to a point where you can build an intimate connection with someone without feeling awkward and start to enjoy that experience and that is my hope for you because let me tell you nothing feels better in the world then when you can approach someone and build a connection with them and not have fear of rejection or fear of being humiliated because you love yourself and you accept yourself in fact many men who are learning the art of social skills will say it's kind of like this mantra in the pick-up artist community or even just the self-help for men community that the first thousand approaches doesn't count and you may think that oh this desensitizes men and dehumanizes women and I think with the goal or purpose of saying that the first 1000 approaches doesn't count it's letting you know that it's okay that if you're rejected time and time again because what you're doing is you're building your social skills you're meeting people you're not doing anything to harm someone and there's more opportunities out there for you and if you have that abundant mindset and that willingness to be humble and to practice I promise you you are going to experience an incredible transformation because learning how to connect with men using your eyes is one of the best ways to not just build confidence and feel great and feel sexy but also to meet more men and connect with the men that you're meeting so I'm going to give you a quick little assignment feel free to try this out at home I think I've mentioned this once or twice before but if you're out in public and you're walking down the street or down a grocery aisle or down a hallway in an office building and you see a man approaching you about 20 30 feet away start making eye contact focus on making eye contact with one eye and as you keep walking one of two things are gonna happen one he's gonna ignore you and keep walking by fine you know give yourself a pat on the back for looking the second thing he can do is he can glance up and look and see that you're looking at him it's at that point that we all have the desire to look away because we got caught I don't want you to look away instead I want you to maintain that eye contact and as you're maintaining that eye contact don't say anything don't smile and he might not say anything and he might not smile if that's the case if he doesn't say anything if he doesn't smile if he doesn't acknowledge you just keep maintaining of that eye contact until you pass him and you know consider if you keep staring at him and he keeps staring at you you both have quite the confidence okay to be looking at each other that long but if he does smile at that point you can smile back if he says something to you if he says hello you can say hello back but he has to say it first and the reason for that especially right now when you're practicing is to allow yourself to build up confidence in yourself and to desensitize yourself from that really just that uncomfortable feeling the more you can desensitize yourself to that the more fun that you can have with eye contact so try that out and again we're just walking down a street or begin making that eye contact wait don't say anything don't smile just keep a relaxed gentle face and if he engages you then you can engage him if you do this enough times and you you feel confident and you don't feel weird about it then you can level up and instead of just keeping a relaxed face you can maybe smile first maybe you can say hello maybe you can even compliment him there's all sorts of fun stuff you can do once you have desensitized yourself and learned these eye contact attraction strategies I hope that you found this helpful and I would love to hear from you in the comment section do you know any other ways to build connection through eye contact or if you tried this exercise tell me your experiences I'd love to hear it this is one of my favorite things to talk about because it has immediate impact and results and it's fun it's a fun thing to do and to see how it works so I encourage you to do that if you found value in this video please hit the thumbs up button it allows it to be seen by more people which means you get more suggestions in the comments section thank you so much again for watching and I look forward to seeing you next week be well

Channel: Jason Silver

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Length: 13min 32sec (812 seconds)

Published: Thu Jan 10 2019