How to Comfort Someone Who's Lost a Loved One | SuperSoul Sunday | Oprah Winfrey Network

OPRAH:  What do you say to someone who's lost their beloved? What are the words?  How do you comfort? How can you be a comfort? BJ:  I think there are many opinion s on that very question. For my money, there aren't really bona fide guaranteed words, you know, I've used the, I'm so sorry.  And people will come back, what are you sorry about?  Oh, well, you know, I'm not really sorry. You know, anyway, the point is, language is deeply imperfect. OPRAH:  Yeah.    BJ: But to answer your question, one of the things that I think is so potent is in that moment of sharing grief with someone, it's witnessing them. Sit in that hot stew with someone for a moment. Like we're talking about bearing witness. OPRAH:  Sit in that uncomfortable space. BJ:  Yeah.    OPRAH:  That awkward space. BJ:  Yeah.    OPRAH:  Where you don't know what to say. BJ:  Where you don't know what to say.    OPRAH:  Yeah. BJ:  And you're sharing the chafe with that person. And that I see to be the real salve. OPRAH:  Yeah, a friend of mine said once when her mother passed and I was saying I didn't know what to say. She said, just -- just being here. BJ:  Yeah.    OPRAH:  Your being there. Your being present.  Your --    BJ:  Yeah. OPRAH:  -- not knowing what to say.    BJ:  Yeah. OPRAH:  Because, you're right, language is inadequate. BJ:  Yeah.

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Length: 1min 37sec (97 seconds)

Published: Wed May 03 2017