How To Build Unstoppable Confidence

you're obsessed with other people think about you the thing that's gonna kill your dream is your addiction to other people's approve trying to prove people wrong or write about you is a cheap level of motivation don't compare yourself most of the people you see on social media or even in your personal life or even when you go to lunch with them or see them at work they're wearing what I would call a public mask try to prove people wrong or right about you is a cheap level of motivation and it will wear out in other words it's not and it's not the lack of it it's just it's not the best type people say well hey Tom Brady a six round draft pick I mean he's constantly trying to prove him that they picked the wrong guys I know Tommy a little bit and I can tell you that motivates him but if you think he's become the greatest football player of all time because he's trying to prove people from 20 years ago wrong about where he was drafted you don't get elite performance Tom Brady is where he is because he set standards for himself and has massive goals and ambitions for himself not to prove other people wrong I promise you when he's sitting under Center in the Super Bowl he's not going I was a six round draft pick that's not what moves him yeah and so I think it's a low level motivation I do it too and the sooner you drop it's it's it's the symptom of the same disease so proving your family wrong or right is the symptom of the same disease which is you are still obsessed with what other people are thinking about you and not doing things that make you happy that enrich you to fulfill your soul and so the irony about spending your life worrying about what everybody else thinks about you here's the irony is that those people will never be thought about after they're dead so they spend their life obsessing with everyone thinks about them only to die and have no one ever remember them because people that are so obsessed with what other people think about them never really ever fulfill their potential so once you can drop that addiction whether its friends strangers or your parents and you begin to do things that fulfill you that make you happy yeah that change other people's lives by your contribution now you can be remembered now you're your life that goes into eternity even if it was a quiet life so how do we build self-confidence because that's what you're now believed okay what I need somebody self-confident I here's what I know about them they've built a reputation with themselves so they don't need to build a reputation with other people okay so if you're really what do you mean by that they honor their own word you got it yeah the key to self confidence is really simple and it this is absolutely I've trained hundreds of thousands of people have spoken to millions of people around the world I could tell you this the self confident people I know whether they are athletes school teachers mechanics parents stay-at-home moms you name it they have a pattern of keeping promises they make to themselves though groundwork of beginning to build self-confidence is to begin to keep the promises you make to you and that's why it's important to begin to even make small problems you're gonna get up at a certain time in the morning not only do it but then give yourself credit say I did what I said I was gonna do if it's in your diet or your fitness don't just eat the healthy foods go I'm doing what I said I was going to do you begin to build this reputation if you're constantly being influenced and moved by what other people think about you it means there's a deficiency and what you think about you and so the key is not some you know and so to esoteric like belief system it's a pattern of keeping the promises that you make to you that's the groundwork of self confidence for sure and it is a pattern when I meet people that lack confidence I think let me serve you let's begin to keep the promises you make to you you're so worried about there's this addiction to other people's approval in the world right it's the greatest the greatest addiction today it used to be drugs before that it was alcohol there's all these addictions sex addictions whatever the number one addiction in the world today is the addiction to other people's approval and that's because we don't approve of ourselves self-doubt is the inverse of that I don't trust me I don't think I'm good enough these are thoughts placed from the outside inside your mind the minute you acknowledge that that's not my thought that's someone else's that's not you begin to eliminate I call it like scratching the CD when I begin to have negative self-talk negative thoughts I literally picture and I'm old by the way but I picture an old record player or a DVD and I just scratch it I scratched it that thought gets scratched I'm not good enough I'm not smart enough I'm not good-looking enough I'm not fast enough strong enough I'm not prepared enough I once they enter that's not my thought that's something someone gave me when I was a kid and I scratch it and I literally say to myself scratch it scratch it scratch it and over time it's like it's like a DVD or a CD or a record player over time that thought can't be played again in your recorder when you ratchet enough times so I literally picture scratching and I say scratch it I experience self-doubt I experience negative thoughts and I scratch it I scratched I scratch them and over time it almost becomes funny it's that thoughts impact on me starts to be minimized over time every time I scratch it I picture scratching it like a DVD or a record or CD and I say it to myself scratch it scratch it scratch it and what it does is it acknowledges the thought it loses its power over me the first time it's still got some impact on me the second time at mutt mic but the fourth fifth seventh time all of a sudden that thought just doesn't have the impact on me anymore because I acknowledge it's not mine I've scratched it and over time my mind just doesn't want to play that song anymore doesn't want to play that movie anymore and so that's how I begin to eliminate those thoughts in my mind I build up my self-confidence and I scratch my self-doubt if I say it's all the time I can't teach you how to steer a parked car right you have to be in motion you have to be moving and people wonder have I really made a decision the real way we know if you've made a decision to make a change is that it's followed up with immediate massive action as you said and that's the thing I think there's a lot of people invested in personal development to make it more complicated than it really is as if there's these secrets you know whether it's the authors of the books or mentors or whoever it is in fact even you might be invested if if you can make it yourself believe that winning is complex because really complexity is the enemy of execution right but if you can make yourself think it's complex then it's really not your fault you haven't won yet because you're missing something rather than it probably being what it really is is that you're unwilling or avoiding the work you need to do to really go build your company or build your field force or build your body or build your life and so it's being able to simplify things and really know that there is no key to really winning the key is the hard work and keeping things as simple as you can I never took it personally what coach said you drop on your shoulders I know it's because of athletics when I guy said spread your right leg out your legs are too close together I never thought I suck I can't it I wanted to know how to hit better I wanted to know how to throw better and so for me personally I'm constantly in a crisis to get to the next version it's not like I'd like to I wish I only would like to are probably a little bit more my life I am an a crisis to get the next version of me and so the guy sitting in front of you right now if I come back in a year and I'm just the same exact person with the same thoughts same ideas same ways of delivering them this was a wasted year of my life right so I want to know how to get to that next version of me and so for those of you that struggle with taking criticism I got asked of how important is it to you to grow because you were put on earth to grow to contribute to serve to help you were in your way and the current version of you is perfect as it stands right now but it will be inferior next year you're perfect as you are now especially you ladies listening to this there's all this messaging you're not this you're not smart enough women are too dominant then they're a diva right or you're not beautiful ladies men you - you are perfect as you exist right now but that version of you isn't sufficient next year you got to be crazy hungry crisis to get to that next version of you I want the data I want the input I want the information I want the feedback to get to the next version of me regardless of how it emotionally makes me feel I'm like driven by that without that information why am i living don't compare yourself most of the people you see on social media or even in your personal life or even when you go to lunch with them or see them at work that are wearing what I would call a public mask it's the best possible version that they can put out to themselves and oftentimes what we do in life is we compare our real identity that we're working on and we're growing to their mask and that's not fair to ourselves at all any comparison doesn't serve us and it's oftentimes this comparison when you're in a disagreement with somebody it's the mask they're wearing compared to the identity you have and then you begin to run a pattern to respond to it it happens in in Fitness in relationships in money and in business remember you're in charge of controlling your own identity and growing your own identity and being aware of the patterns you have that do and do not serve you not comparing yourself to someone else's public representative it's just the representative they're putting out there it's not who they really are and it's not something that you need to be aware of because it's not something you can control the more you can begin to delay like between things I can control and I cannot control would be to the extent that you're more productive and you're happier you can control your own thoughts your own emotions your own identity and your own patterns not other people's cab driver number two bouncer at the bar number one you ever see those faceless people far too many of you in your life are obsessed with what cab driver number two and bouncer number one think about what you're doing instead of the lead characters you're obsessed with other people think about you the thing that's gonna kill your dream is your addiction to other people's approval a cab driver number two he ain't going to approve of what you doing at the end of your damn life he's not gonna show up in any of the important chapters can you give him all this power all the time stop giving people power who aren't in your book do your life for the leading character do your spouse and children your parents your legacy they're the lead characters in the story of you of your life because the more you decide to take control of the narrative of the script of your life and you live your dream the more likely at the end of your life you're gonna meet that dude hey guys thanks for sticking around if you'd like more click the videos right here they're exactly what you need to see next and if you're new here hit subscribe and become a part of a maxout community and tell me what you think about the videos in the comments below I read all of them every week and I select winners that get all kinds of prizes gear coaching calls with me make a comment

Channel: Ed Mylett

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Length: 10min 25sec (625 seconds)

Published: Mon Aug 05 2019