How to Be the Best Women? : Womanhood Reimagined - Dr. Sh. Haifaa Younis

i have no doubt that every woman in this room and probably everybody listening to us know this verse if there is any verse you hear that one is one of the most common one all people and allah saying this it's the end and he's addressing humanity it's not muslim it's not yeah it is and we have made you nations and tribes look around you look to your right and look to your left and how different we are and if you still don't know we are different then you didn't listen to the most beautiful talk i just heard we need to listen a lot to these to live reality and why did allah do that every time i read this verse i was like didn't allah is allah not able of creating all of us same same color same shape same length same height same eye color why two reasons it's in the verse itself one is obvious and one is hidden the obvious to know each other first thing you all have to ask and then i'll come to the best because that's part of the best how many people you know as a friend that does not fit your own description that does not speak the same language that does not eat the same food that does not look like you that does not share the same background it's very little am i right wow you have a non-muslim friend you have a white friend i'm an arab huh you have a non-arab friend lita this is why he created you and me in different ways and he is able of creating us any way he wants subhana then the hidden which comes to the best the best among you you all know it's this is how you translate that or the most honorable one it depends how you want to translate the most honorable the best among you not women or men nothing to do with gender taqwa why am i wasting my time about i am a woman or i am a man did you get my point it's not gonna make any difference in front of allah zero if i am in front of him subhana he's not going to look at me i am haifa or i am muhammad he's going to look at me as what his creation his servant regardless he or she so why am wasting my time in you this is the trap you all have to get out of he probably did not expect me to say this but we need to get out of this trap don't fall into the gender look at the bigger picture right with color what did he say did he define who's the khalifa did he say a man did he say a woman did he say an arab did he say non-arab why do we fall in this trap why it's me it's you this is the first thing you all have to start rethinking change the way you think and look individually individually are you falling into this trap the answer is i want to hear it yes yes whether i'm in the trap of being the victim or i am in the trap of being the one who's gonna carry the justice against the victim both of them i am missing the point because what should be my point i want all of you to think with me why i am in this world the question was raised in more than one speaker why i'm here to have fun to prove i am the best to prove we are equal is that why he created me i need to hear the answer why did he created me and what does worship mean to know him to know him because if you translate worship you absolutely have narrowed this verse oh i need to pray oh i need to fast oh i need to wear my hijab you missed it eighty percent of this verse you missed it no allah i had this discussion recently with someone a lot of people have dreams which the dreams are beautiful and they said we need to bring medina back in our massage it's a beautiful dream and they looked at me and they they sensed i am i have something different and i'm gonna ask you the question i asked when did medina start after how many years roughly roughly right why didn't medina start first isn't allah capable and what was the difference between medina and makkah not the cities the muslim ummah as you heard al-ansar the helper the lover everybody loves each other we don't need medina this is what i said we don't need medina what do we need why because we don't have him inside us worship your lord know who is your lord and this is our problem and i'm not gonna say it's a woman problem i'm gonna be very honest it's a humanity problem we don't know who's allah right if i ask you who's allah gonna tell me he's the one who created me but does you really believe he's the one who created you do you really believe in this and i say okay give me another thing and you're gonna give me all the 99 names if even more and you say he's a razza and i said really she looked at me i was like what did what did i say i said is he really i want to hear the answer ready then why do you call somebody else when you need something it's sad it's painful you just said he's a razzaq why do you call someone else you just said he's away you give me any of the names you know and then immediately he tests me and he tests you immediately and i without me knowing showing him and he knows but to show me how hypocrite i am in my tongue he's a shafi he's the one who cure and when i get sick what do i do do i call him first do i turn to him yarabi please cure me ya allah make this tablet that i'm putting in my mouth works no who is the best physician and you start texting and on the groups this is what we are missing we women and i again i'm speaking because i'm speaking to women what we are missing these days to be the best and i'm gonna give you some examples of the best some of them you don't even know the name and i don't know the name the best is the woman who her focus in life is not her children is not her husband it's not her career it's not her beauty it's not her house it's only one answer the one the one how many of you and don't show me hands this is between you and allah and he knows how many of you can say it confidently as if she is in front of allah and says yarabi i lived for you i did everything for you i got married for you i had children for you i studied worked hard to make my career for you i wanted to be educated for you memorize the quran for you islamic studies started islamic institutions you name it for you how many can claim this now and in front of allah say it the answer is if i want to be very honest with everybody if i say this am i right am i honest with myself that's what's missing ladies my beautiful sisters young and old don't blame the young i stopped long time ago blaming the young you know why because what they are seeing in me what are they seeing and i'm not defending them but it's again reality so here you are you are in pleasanton let's say in saint claus let's say in southern california and you are this pious woman real pious woman everybody knows masha'allah and then they accused you of the most painful degrading accusation a woman can have and what is that as a muslim woman exactly oh she has an affair what will happen to you answer me will happen to you everybody is talking it's the talk of the town everyone but no one say this to you but you can see it you can feel it you know you they you come in and they stop talking and then your husband come to you and they say he says to you in your face in front of your father and mother tell me if you did it ask allah to forgive you feel what i'm saying and if you didn't do it say it what will you answer i want to hear it what would you say honestly has to be allah whenever if you know this in the arabic language when you say has to be allowed meaning you have given up and i'm not going to even answer and may allah punish you because ibrahim said that when he was a throne in the fire what else you will do anxiety panic attack you're gonna cry am i right angry how dear what do you think of me look at yourself and on and on and on and on right how many will turn and says you allowed it to happen you allah what are you teaching me what do you want me to say what should i do whose story was this what did she answer that's what i need to hear you all knew the answer alhamdulillah that's the best to me this is the best in all the stories of saying everything you know about sadaisha this story tell me what a strong woman should be what a woman of allah should be and one what a woman of opinion should be what did she say and who said that to her was a rasool ali i will be dead every time i read this i just can't imagine i'm a woman you are a woman you know how painful is this let alone you're innocent let alone it's coming from your husband let alone your husband is the best of the creation what did she say you need to memorize that statement you want to be strong you want to be you have your opinion you want to be a woman of allah you want to be the best what did she say [Music] the meaning she said this to her father mother and husband she said it's already in your heart and if i said i am innocent and allah knows i am innocent see what came out of the mouth you will not believe me and if i say i did it and i didn't do it you will believe me and i'm not going to say a word other than what the father of yakubu she couldn't even father of yakub that's exactly she couldn't even remember his name said she turned her back what a woman is this beautiful patient and allah will help me about what you are saying about me and she turned her back this is she go and read this in the quran in every commentary of hadith you will hear this story it's it's narrated by her and then she said wallahi i never thought look at this i never thought i am she worthy in the sight of allah that he will send the quran to be recited till the end of the time to tell me i am innocent and then immediately foreign quran is being revealed because he changed and you know what happens to him when quran was revealed and then he starts smiling and he looked at her and he said nazar the meaning of your innocence came from the from allah from the heavens everybody is happy right wait the impact is not done yet the best is it to the last so her father and her mother call me get up she said no i am only gonna thank the one who sent my innocence it's allah where are you from that example woman 2022 live in the united states live in california educated you have everything where are you from this what is the difference between me you all of us and say that don't tell me she's the wife of rasulallah she was tested because she was the wife of a rasa what is the difference i need to hear it and i want you to think how can i be like the finger of say think kneel one hair how you know what's missing it's not because they don't let women go to the masjid and i have my own opinion about that and i'm one of the people who says don't prevent the servant of allah the servant of allah from the houses of allah that's not the issue the issue is not the masjid believe me the masjid is not because of lack of education believe me you know what's the issue it's me it's my nephews it's me everything is way more i say this to me i'm talking to me not to you everything in this life is more important than him i think of everyone else first and then him i only think of him when [Music] i need him he will know you a time off i'm sorry learn about allah and turn to allah a time of prosperity he will know you a time of adversity that's a sadashi do you know about haraibada of worship how long a man came of course she was she was knowledgeable you all know that so a man came to ask her a question time during the day and then she found her praying he was waiting and waiting and waiting because she was still praying another man came to him and says oh you're waiting for her to finish go and do whatever you need to do and come back she may be finished how long is your sada if you pray five times a day how long is your dua how long is your reading in the quran and how long you spend time on the whatsapp social media or in the kitchen it's painful it's so painful young and old and i'm not speaking to the young i'm speaking to everybody the best the best is that woman who i heard it from a young girl 20 years ago we were in an islamic conference we were in line asking the shaykh she looked at him and says yashya i heard this i have decided to go to jannah subhanallah i was like what you know what do we normally decide i am gonna go to medical school i am gonna move i'm gonna buy a house i am gonna have another baby i am gonna you know this is how we decide this is major decisions and and i looked announced like what made her put this goal i haven't seen her i actually saw only her back i don't even know how she looks like but i can tell she's young young young maybe 17 18 19. how many of us your goal your goal is janna i should have asked you before i said this is whomsoever does a good deed man and a woman why do you worry about it why do you worry about it and you waste your energy and think about it he said it read your quran man and a woman but you need to do the first part and you're a believer not a believer i believe in allah and the first test allah gives you good or bad by the way good or bad you are praying for your son to get married you're praying for your daughter to get married and allah send exactly your dua you did on the night of other allah send it and the first thing you do is what you throw this wedding with every disobedience of him every disobedience of him and you want to be the best allahi it's very expensive it's very expensive it's very hard it's jannah that's the best that's the best you want to be the best that's the best you want to talk about equality i don't like this word it annoys me honestly always i was like why do you think why do i need to care about this he said it and i'm going to go through it because that's the best this is the best muslim true muslim men and women believer men and women surrender to allah men and women patient men and women truthful men and women fasting ramadan is coming men and women charity men and women guard your private part and not necessarily only private part everything else gets to that direction guarded men and women yes he does need to lower her gaze but you need to lower your gaze first i long time ago i get very irritated from blaming others this is not islam it's always me number one he's looking at me you lower your gaze don't look at him says you lower your gaze you lower your gaze and show them by action you're the muslim woman with that they remember allah a lot where is your dikka two minutes after salah we couldn't sit two minutes and you tell me you want to be the best and i need to go to the masjid well here you are alhamdulillah is very welcoming beautiful beautiful woman education room where are you don't blame anyone as shaytan said this is one of the powerful verses don't blame me is going to talk on day of judgment he's going to look at you and me and says don't blame me blame yourself makkah really come in sulphur i had no power over you except thou to come i called you first up to me you answered don't pray there's still time you said yes let's keep looking at the uh the social media with all the haram you said yes right don't put your hijab you said yes let's do this you said yes i had no no control over you i called you you answered don't blame me blame yourself i will not come to your rescue and you will not help me you want to be that person can i afford it do i have an answer let me give you and i will end up with this some examples and you and and you just look at yourself and there's a book called software the special of the special and there is a whole volume about men and a volume about women and the volume about women half of it have no names and some of them men's side has no names they're called you know what as she worshipper so let's look at some of them some of them has names and some i'm not and this is a woman said the following and she where are we she said i am so surprised this is a woman i'm so surprised that an eye can sleep and knows there is a long sleep waiting for her what makes you say this what make you say this this is not something comes you read this is not something you think of this is something you feel and you ponder and you live that you cannot but think this way this is a woman her focus is her focus is how long you lived in this life we're going to be asked and we're going to say and we will say allah we lived a day or two ask those who are counting you stayed little with the time but you didn't know focus you want to be the best you want to worship allah you want success in this dunya you want success in the akhirah don't waste your energy about everything else focus on him and him only those of you who were studying with us in the year of knowledge they have heard this statement from me probably i think now we are thousand time and i always say this and i say this to myself before anyone everything everything you do you say you don't do you don't say has to go through the circle and this circle is allah subhanahu is he okay with it is he happy with it then go if he is not the answer is no even if this whole world will say yes then you are the best then you are said then when allah tests you you will respond and allah will help me and when he talked about saying when i was listening to it beautifully said you know what came to my mind why did allah choose her the verse that was shared with you was an ali imran but if you read the page before if you read the page before before allah says before allah told her you're chosen what did he say the page before every time as a career enter enter where we're watching tv on her whatsapp talking with her friends shopping it's not it's not funny it's painful you know why because i want to be like say da maria but i want the end i don't want to go through the path i want to be like and i think it's the other people problem it's the other people putting me this no i don't want to go through that path i want the quick result i don't want to get up at three o'clock in the morning and stand on my feet and do two hours of ayam so allah looks at me and says staff took it i chose i can do three hours on the internet chatting going through so the best is the examples you heard all day today but the question has to be what do i need to do in this day and age to be them to get that result and i will end up with this and i remind myself of this verse almost daily if not more ladies who struggle look at the word jihad allah use jihad it's not about fighting there's no war here struggled he will take you guide you don't worry and i said by his name if i was a said mariam and you were say allah will be open to us it would we will have our beautiful places you know why because he will make it happen but he wants to see it me first i wanted and i'm ready to work for it and i'm ready to give up things for him you do that and see the wonders allah will show you but you want to be in your comfort zone and you don't want to be different as beautifully you heard what difference is mean i lived it also when you are the only woman the only the only and i'm sure you lived it too the only the only woman in that room looks this way the only woman in that room doesn't speak this way the only woman in that room and i captain singing islam came as a stranger and will come back as a stranger look around you aren't three strangers and what did he say to you and me and every stranger it's a place in jannah don't you want to be that person why do you worry why do you waste show us through with his truth and show and help us to follow it show us false with this falsehood and help us to stay away from it subhanallah foreign

Channel: Dr Haifaa Younis - Jannah Institute

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Length: 37min 48sec (2268 seconds)

Published: Thu Mar 10 2022