How to Be Angry and Not Sin — Lisa Bevere

I'm going to actually uh paintt a little bit of a picture of what is going on in our culture so I am uh 63 no that's a lie what year are we in 2024 right I will be I am 63 I will be 64 in June and John and I had the privilege of hosting the guest speakers at the church we were at for uh for like a year and a half that was John's job and I remember there was this one Minister who came who I was terrified of his name was Lester sumerall he was a minister in the Philippines he' been a missionary he was Gruff he was rough and he would say things like uh you guys if you're five minutes late I'm I'm leaving and so we're like okay so we're like early scared and he said I need to take you and your wife to breakfast John be there tomorrow morning at 700 a.m. well I didn't have children I wasn't anywhere at 7 a.m. I worked retail I waited till 10: before I had to actually get up so we show up at breakfast and I'm thinking he's going to try to cast a demon out of me I've had my husband pray over me before we show up I'm like if there's a demon let's get rid of it I don't want it to happen in a restaurant in public and he begins to share with us what he'd seen on the missions field he began to share with us the power of God in overseas and ways that we've never seen on a regular in the US and then he said I'm going to tell you some of the things I see coming he said I see a day coming where people's lives will be controlled by a box they hold in their hands John and I thought he has the scal moment it was 1984 phones were on the wall phones were on desks but he saw a day coming where people would bow to a world they could hold in their hands and some of you it's going to be great to fast food but it might be more important for you to put down your phone I love that we actually can put down the phone nobody's going to show up at your house and say pick up that phone right now you can put down that phone but a fast is something that you address the thing that is holding you back from the presence of God and so some people it's not food some people it's TV some people it's online some people it's shopping so you need to ask God what is that thing that I need to fast that is holding me back from you so I'm going to just kind of paint a little story how I ended up in the ministry for first of all my husband was the youth pastor at a church and he was you know I was great with him speaking I was great with doing all the background work but in 1988 you guys weren't even born in 1988 I prayed a prayer I prayed a prayer that went along with a song in 1988 kind of the top five Christian hits one of them was take me in to the holy of holies Take Me In by the blood of the Lamb take me in to the holy of holies take the coal cleanse my lips here I am cassette tapes rewind rewind rewind New Year's Eve 1988 I expected to go to bed have an angel appear offer me a coal maybe I could Testify the next day at church I remember in this moment of sensing the holy spirit's invitation I prayed something that I tried to take back for two weeks I said God I want you to excavate my life two weeks later I was like landscape I meant to say landscape I meant to say accessorize my life I did not mean to say excavate my life because when you ask God to go into those things then God's like did you guys hear that Angels get her just go for it all of the sudden I had just had a tiny problem with anger just a little bit of a problem with anger John is Italian I am Sicilian Italians are known for feeding people Sicilians are known for killing people of course I was born angry I had some anger going on and see it was really John fault that I was angry because I would say don't push me when you push me like that I am not responsible for my actions I had an entire list of why I was angry half Sicilian of course Apache Indian somebody had stolen my land I had English Scottish I was like this is a turmoil inside of me people are lucky they're alive I remember that John would like say I don't understand why you get so angry and I'd say you make me angry but when I prayed excavate my life the anger that was just once a month possibly my husband would be like are you getting ready to start I'd be like stop it it's not that it's not that and it was that but I said it wasn't that then it was not once a month but like every two weeks well that was when I realized we were under spiritual attack the witches in Orlando were probably significantly targeting a single youth pastor they were coming after my husband in the spirit and so possibly the witches were causing me to freak out twice a month then it went from twice a month to once a week and I remember remember John saying I feel like the you know the animals in our neighborhood go running because I would wake up feeling like there was a Tremor inside of me and I would say things like John just just don't push me today is not the day to push me but John loves to push and he'd be like what's going on what's going on come on you need to talk to me and and we would like go to bed and he would say you're still mad at me he would turn on the light he would pull off the covers he would stand on top of the mattress and say we will not let the sun go down on our wrath and I like we started fighting when it was dark out I have till tomorrow he'd be like no so I mean I was like okay this man's crazy and I remember we were in the kitchen and I was trying to hold my tongue because I had read the scripture that you and I are going to give an account of every Idol word and I could just see my time in before the throne room like they're going to be like are we still talking about Lisa's Idols were I mean it was going to go on and on and on and so I would try to be quiet and John just said something and before I knew what happened the plate in my hand became a frisbee I pulled back I threw it at John he ducked kind of like a matrix move missing Decap itation it went out the window the problem was the window was closed I shattered our picture window in our apartment I remember thinking what have I done and my husband was like I can't believe you just did that I said I know I can't even throw a frisbee I can't believe I just did that either he's like no Lisa I'm serious he said I am not going to life for you when they come I am going to tell them that my crazy Sicilian wife threw a plate at me and broke the window and I said you know what you're a man of God I don't want you to lie but I will not be here when you tell them this and so I got in our car and we and I just prayed in tongues I mean I just prayed in tongues I was like Jesus Jesus you can put that window back together before they come I Jes like I had gotten the plate off the lawn I was like Jesus you can do this and I was like I I will offer my firstborn child because that's all I had I will offer him for the full-time Ministry if you will fix the window I mean I like try to negotiate everything possible I imagined the worst things I could imagine I saw the Orlando sentinel's newspaper headline youth pastor's wife breaks picture window at post Lake Apartments I imagined all the older women at the church were already troubled by the fact I had double pierced ears saying I always knew it I always knew it that when I'd come to church on Sunday they'd be like it's the double piercing I've seen it seen it before I was just I covered myself in shame I prayed I waited for about 3 hours and then I come home and I walk in and John looks at me and he said you must have really been praying or God must really love you you and I said okay why he said well well the guy came in I was in the bathroom and he said Addison who was two opened the door he said when Addison opened the door the guy walked in and goes whoa what happened here I mean the big window broken he walks over to the window looks down and there's a Tonka truck behind the sofa he picks up the Tonka truck he has it in his hand when John walks out the guy was like don't worry about this this is why we have insurance at the apartment complex I have a 2-year-old too and my my husband was like it's it's not the 2-year-old it's my it's my 28-year-old wife but the guy said say no more say no more so John said I said no more he said say no more so I let my 2-year-old son take the wrap for me breaking a picture window and I remember I went from being like sad and feeling so much condemnation about it to climbing into bed with my husband that night and saying see see you shouldn't have pushed me see see like that was that was a covering for me that was the Lord covering your wife who you're going to dishonor I went from a place of broken conviction to a place of justification then I had my second child can I just say it this way one child is an accessory you dress them up they behave well they're cute it's all a trick to have you get you to have more children I remember when I had my second son I thought I will never brush my teeth before noon again I remember that John would leave with our only car to go be a youth pastor and I'd be like pray for me pray for me he'd be like you're going to be okay I'd be like no pray for me pray for me right now pray for me and for the safety of your children and he was like you're you you've got this but what John didn't understand was now my first born who had been so perfect he couldn't take a nap he couldn't take a nap because I might be kissing the second baby while he was taking a nap and so basically every single day I got up and my my firstborn would not go down for a nap back then again phones were not portable this is how old I am phones were not portable when the phone would ring my son would be like she's captive he would jump off of his bed and he would go into the playroom and I would be on the phone with somebody stomping my foot waving a spank spoon at him and he'd be like I see that hand but I am not going going anywhere he would just stay up there and so basically right when I finally got him to go to sleep the baby would wake up my milk would let down and then I'd know I was going to flunk the tests that I was flunking every single day my husband would come in and he would look at me I'd be standing there with the babies in my arms my nursing flaps down a spank spoon in my other hand a three-year-old on my leg and he'd be like what did you do all day and I'd say I don't know but I was busy people are calling and saying they're going to commit suicide and I am offering to join them John was like Lisa seriously I don't know why we had a listed phone number but we we thought it was holy but you should not call postpartum women for counseling just remember that okay so anyway I just remember one day my son came down the stairs and I just snapped I no longer saw a child I saw an enemy I thought this is the one who keeps me from getting anything done and as he came down the stairs I came running up to meet him I grabbed him and I stormed into his bedroom and I thought what can I do so he stayed on this bed and I heard slam him against the wall and put him down it's not funny slam him against the wall and put him down on the bed that he'll know and I remember I was lifting my son up and I was just getting ready to slam him into the wall when I saw something I had never seen before my son was not afraid of what I was going to do he was afraid of me and I remembered what it was like growing up in a physically and mentally abusive household and every time I was slapped every time I was slammed into a wall every time I was kicked every time I was hit I made myself a promise and it went like this I will never treat my children that way but here I was a born again Spirit-filled pastor's wife getting ready to hurt my son and it broke me I remember I put him down I said I'm sorry I scared you and I hit the carpet and I said God it's not my husband he's not here it's not the witches it's not my parents it's not Sicilian it's not Apache it's me I have a real problem with anger and I don't know how to get free and I don't know if you've ever cried until there is nothing but in the nothing in the Stillness when a storm has gone through your soul and you cry in a quietness settles over you I heard God say because you're no longer justifying this I'll set you free you see what we justify we buy we say we've earned the right to be this way because of what's been done to me you know the Bible says the wrath of man and can we also say of woman never works the righteous purposes of God it doesn't even say sometimes it says never works the righteous purposes of God I have never seen I have never met I have never read the words of so many angry people as right now and if anger was an answer we'd have a solution but anger is not an answer anger is a deconstruction of answers all right Ephesians 4:2 6- 27 you guys are worried I wasn't going to use the scripture says be angry and do not sin that means you can be angry about something but you don't have to sin with your anger see when you're angry and sin you're looking for a Target in your anger do not sin and then it says do not let the sun go down on your anger and give no opportunity to the devil another version says don't give the devil a foothold that's like when he puts his foot in your door and the anger allows him to come in now I know none of the other women in the church have ever done this but I would be angry at my husband and go to sleep one way have Angry dreams about him and be like you know what you did last night he'd be like I was not in your dreams like no no you don't even he I would wake up even angrier so how do we walk through anger and not sin first of all you have to know that you can let things go oh that's hard if you want to be right all the time but you have to know that you can let things go because it's more important to be rightly related than it is to be right and fighting with people on social media is just silly most of the people that you are fighting with like seriously they're sitting in a basement of their mother's house fighting people I mean if you ever like some of the people that attack you have you ever gone to look at their profiles it's like a dolphin or like an anime I'm like you're not even a real person you're just you're just a pretend person that's angry and when people are angry they look for a Target but the truth is the wrath of man never works the righteous purposes of God when people are angry they think everybody owes them something listen it's it's gotten crazy out there I don't know do any of you guys own slaves no okay any of your parents own slaves any of your grandparents own slaves see we actually forgot that the Bible says that the children are not to pay for the sins of the parents so how much more the grandparents great grandparents or great great grandparents and when I'm actually looking for people to pay me that aren't paying me I'm just going to get matter and matter and matter and then I'm going to think that they're my problem instead of God my answer my family came over from Sicily my on my dad's side uh again as you know crazy people uh but I don't think our family has ever ever ever own slaves and yet we were slaves to anger and rage and hate and vendettas and so we have to be a people who understand that the world is actually looking for us to act like Christians to act like Christians so uh after that moment where God said to me because you no longer Justified this I'm going to set you free I remembered that the one thing that I never for forgave my mother for was the one thing I almost did to my son see my mother had slammed me up against a wall when I was seven and she had said I will never be a mother to you your brother is mine you're your father's and you're going to regret loving your father more than you love me which I didn't even know that was a thing and so what I did is I shut down my heart and my mother had come to me late when she had become a Christian and I had become a Christian and she had asked me to forgive her but you know what I did I forgave her of everything but the one thing and the one thing that I didn't forgive my mom for was the one thing that I almost did to my son because the truth is the sins that you retain they're retained and the sins that you remit they are remitted do you understand the power that God has entrusted to you and I to actually remit the sins of people that we'd rather punch do you understand that so Galatians 5:116 is where God took me after I picked up the phone and called my mother I was crying and I said Mom I I need to tell you something that almost happened I almost slammed Addison into the wall and my mom was just like Lisa I'm so sorry she said that's the one thing I've never been able to forgive myself for and I said that's because I've never forgiven you for it will you forgive me for holding that against you to imprison you and keep myself I thought safe from you because it was safe from you and dangerous for my children and so I remember we prayed together on the phone and we said we will be the beginning of a thousand Generations who love God keep his Commandments and we break the power of abuse and anger and hostility we break it and do you know how empowering that is to understand that you can go into one day one way and leave completely different Galatians 5:116 through 26 says keep in step with the spirit that's why I love you're doing a fast when you fast your spirit Comes Alive you guys I get scared when I don't cry at certain things when I get little hard when worship songs don't touch me the way they used to I have to say ooh there's something something that's got a little of a shell over it and I know it's it feels safer to have a hard shell but you need a tender heart God says guard your heart not imprison it and too many of us we put our hearts in lockdown and God is saying I need you to treasure it not shut it off keep in the spirit it says but I say walk by the spirit and you will not gratify the desires of the flesh for the desires of the flesh are against the spirit and the Spirit uh the desires of the spirit are against the flesh for these are opposed to each other and keep you from doing the things you want to do what did I want to do I wanted to be a great mother what did I want to do I wanted to be a loving wife what did I want to do I wanted to be a good example of transformation but because I was not walking in the spirit I was walking in blame and excuses I wasn't doing what I wanted to do blaming puts us back under the law under the law there is no mercy under the spirit there is Mercy he goes on to say I warn you as I did before that those who do such things actually I think I've got I might have missed some verses oh well anyway he goes through all the works of the Flesh and through the works of the flesh is it up there yep okay all right here we go it says now the works of the flesh are evident sexual immorality you guys that's not it evil spirit it's a work of the flesh work of the flesh impurity sensuality idolatry you think what is idolatry idolatry is when we Elevate something to a higher level of Supremacy than God's word God's Will and the scripture in our life okay sorcery enmity Strife jealousy fits of anger that was me I remember I would go through the house stomping my feet and John be like oh my gosh this a fit it's we're we're doing this today aren't we slamming doors throwing a fit rivalries competition with other people that is a work of the flesh goes on to say dissensions division Envy drunkenness orgies and things like these I warn you as I warned you before that those who do such thing another version says practice such things what's a practice practice is something like a doctor has a practice an attorney has a practice it's a habit it's something we do without thinking it's our natural default those who practice such things will not inherit the kingdom of God okay now you know there's no greater for that I've heard some people say wait you're not in the Kingdom but you're in the suburbs I don't want to be in the suburbs because what if that's not true and why would Paul say I warn you if the suburbs were a good option will not inherit the kingdom of God so I had to deal with my own anger he goes on to say but the fruit of the spirit is love joy peace patience kindness goodness faithfulness gentleness self-control against such there is no law and those who belong to Christ Jesus are cruci have crucified the flesh with its passions and desires if we live by the spirit let us also keep in step with the spirit let us not become conceited provoking one another and envying one another life in the spirit life in the spirit is a daily decision it is a daily decision where we say okay and here's the thing you know I I just love the the new yor kind of is like a reset but every single morning is a reset God says his Mercy is new every morning but the beautiful thing about a new year is everybody knows they're getting a reset and so in a time of reset life in the spirit means that I'm going to be slow to speak oh that's that's so hard for an Italian slow to speak quick to listen oh John and I we're like you're not listening we're we're formulating the response the whole time the other person's talking but what we had to learn to do is actually listen to what the person's saying and say it back before we respond because Italians use things like never always we use extremes on everything and so we had to back it down and say are you saying that I never do this well no you don't never do I always no you don't always but sometimes and so I can deal with sometimes but I can't deal with the absolutes of never and always and so we are slow to speak quick to listen slow to wrath I remember I laid in bed every single morning after my encounter with holy spirit because I knew that anger was a habit yeah Spirits can aggravate a habit habits become habitations they become strong holds but I laid on my bed and I would say holy spirit put a watch over my mouth father I thank you that I will slowly speak that I will quickly listen that I will slow it down and do you know what that child now this was you know like here's the thing never ever wanted Addison to even know that was a possibility and then like eight years later I had given my testimony on 700 Club and the TV was on and my son walks in and he hears me telling the story about how I almost slammed him into the wall and I remember panicking thinking oh my gosh oh my gosh and he turned and looked at me and he said I can't see you doing that I could see me still doing it but he couldn't see me he couldn't see me doing that and that is the Redemption of God so here we are how many of you want to live by the spirit okay that's awesome how many of you have figured out that anger is actually not causing you to get the things you want in your life anger is not healing your marriage anger is not restoring your family anger isn't getting you the job you want anger isn't getting you the peace you seek anger is not causing Christ to be formed in you and there's a lot of people that will be more than happy to feed your anger there's a lot of angry women and there's a lot of angry men who are watching and waiting for you and I to love one another well I am tired of women attacking men and I am tired of men attacking women but I'm going to say this to the women you need to remember what you are you were created to take something that was not good and make it good you're supposed to open your mouth with wisdom and kindness not with foolishness and anger and so we need to speak to one another and bring healing to one another so can I get everybody to stand up it's awesome you guys are amazing I can't even believe you're 8:45 you feel like an 11 all right I want to say heavenly father father I want to walk into this year led by the spirit L by the spirit forgive me forgive me for making excuses excus for the very things you died to set me free from I'm going to be slow to speak slow to slow to I'll be quick to listen quick to listen I almost did it wrong sorry guys and slow to wrath I am believing I am for an outpouring for out of your power of your and I know that I can't be striking out at people or striking out at your provision I am asking for a fresh baptism of the Holy Spirit that I would have eyes to see ears to hear a voice to speak and a healed heart to carry to carry all right look at me people are hurting like no other time people are hurting people are changing their gender to try to find wholeness and you know what the church does a really good job we do a really good job of saying that's wrong but we don't Point them to the healing that makes it right I was I was studying the scriptures and I thought hm has there ever been somebody who was incredibly uncomfortable in their own body and I thought that had to be Jesus can you imagine being the Son of God and stripping yourself of every Divine privilege at taking on the nature of a human the frailties the woundings see I believe that God is going to bring a Revival where people have gone to seek healing in one realm and then found disappointment that we the church cannot be judgmental but we need to speak the truth in love and because we haven't always spoke the truth in love the culture has responded by preaching love without truth love is not love God God is love and God says I'm the one who made you I'm the one that formed you we cannot be houses divided with our own bodies with our husbands with our children the Church of Jesus Christ and Hawaiian Islands I could still remember the first time that John and I came here see everybody thinks Hawaii is beautiful because of its landscape but John and I know that Hawaii is beautiful because of its people there's a a lot of places that have beautiful landscape but Hawaii has been prophesied to be carriers of the presence of God of the glory of God of the Revival of God so I can't have you angry at the mainlanders because I believe you might be a Gateway for God's glory so it's incredibly important that you get this right and it's an it's an it's a privilege to stand alongside Mike and lisak Kai and see this great thing that God has done John and I get to go all over the world and what you have here is beautiful you have Community you have laughter you have strength you have men that are men and women that are women you have a celebration of family you are allowed to make mistakes but you're not allowed to make excuses and so I want to see this church Inspire others to arise in jesus' name amen

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Length: 36min 38sec (2198 seconds)

Published: Sat Feb 10 2024