How Jon Bon Jovi Balanced His Marriage with Fame

you got married you know at the the peak I think you're in your late 20s right 28 29 when you got married to high school sweetheart yeah and for me I don't know how you're on the road constantly with that much Fame that much success that much money and that much options let's say and you're able to enter a marriage and have a what looks like on the outside a healthy relationship for decades 35 years that's incredible so so I feel like you've innovated in a space I can't take that credit well I feel like you know not many fewer and far between Bon was married as long Bruce is married almost very very few you know um how are you able to have a healthy successful thriving marriage and relationship while all the other you know ego stuff and fame and just travel and suc that one was easy that didn't take genius um we grew together wow we went to high school together yeah so we came through this whole roller coaster ride together so no matter my highs or my lows she's seen them wow and that that was intrical she didn't meet me at the Pinnacle of my successes or the you know the low points in my career and picked me up out of a gutter somewhere so we we grew up in the same home town with the same kind of Valu same kind of family background middle class upbringing um she saw you doing cover band stuff back yeah yeah in high school you know what I mean so that one I just was thank God fortunate enough to get right the first time and and and and we held on you know it wasn't we never really had any kind of difficulties really it knock 35 years what do you think is the key and I'm not sure if anyone ask you about relationship or marriage uh you know advice ever but what would you say are the three keys to having a long-term successful relationship wow thriving at the top of your career as well I don't know I mean the relationship thing like I said is mutual respect okay ADM ation and mutual respect is at the is at the top of this for me to be a good listener and know it it's not all about me it's about we you know it's it's about both of us it's about all of us it's about that the the family Dynamic so of course I'm always going to be the you know the narcissist lead singer in the house but there there's no platinum records hanging in my house you know I mean like we left that long long long time ago in our in our wow in our home um so admiration Mutual admiration Society being a good listener growing together um you know just finding her in a way that like I get excited in the morning when I see her every single day 35 years later I get excited every single day what's the thing you love about her the most that she absolutely knows that she loves me like with all of her heart wow you know I mean there's just there's no question there's no doubt there's not even a glimmer of doubt there's not even a hint of a glimmer of doubt that this is it there is no that's it and wow yeah I got this one right when you're coming off stage in front of 880,000 people and you're the man and you're selling out the biggest tore in history back to back and people are screaming every word and chanting your name and then you go home and someone's upset at you or they want you to listen to them how do you get over your ego of Being John Bon Jovi and saying I want to be a great partner it might take a minute to walk it off you know when you're on the on the road for a long time especially in those younger years when we would uh be on the road so long that you you could carry the lifestyle home yeah um but I haven't even seen that guy in a long time wow so it's it's of it's of no interest to me um to even see that guy it it really isn't um boy I'm I'm I'm really trying to be honest with you because even if it was 10 or 15 years ago when we were just still you know little more wild and in it and I don't mean this in it would like we're subdued now but it's just in in a little more um ego- driven way you know um even that wasn't a big deal really yeah I just where did you learn that though did you did your parents it's who we are where we come from what we did I I I was never a big drug guy I was never the big drinking guy I was never the big you know one thing we learned on this journey we're doing this interview right now in in Los Angeles California I had a house out here for years on the beach in Malibu with all the beautiful people and the first thing after owning that house for four or five years was we got to sell this house why we got to get the hell out of here this this is not conducive to a great relationship and a great life and a great career and a great grounded who we are what we are where we come from Wow and I it was the same thing when we went home and root Slippery When Wet it was like we are being lumped in with these kind of bands that it's not our thing and I was just like I I don't want to be a part of this scene this is not who we are it's not who I am I don't give right go back home take that picture in the inner sleeve in a driveway you know in our cars you know with blue jeans and t-shirts on and sell that Malibu house and you come out here and everyone's always looking over the shoulder and they've got that who's the bigger guy in the room who can I go and work who can I get something from I gave that did up so long ago I give off about it I am not impressed you know I don't give off it's just that that that shallow will ruin you and I know grown men who still are playing that game wow you know and it's just sad yeah and shallow what do you wish everyone knew about money Fame and success money doesn't make you smart it just makes you rich doesn't make you happy does not make you happy now can it pay for the bills so you can get you know the doctor and the insurance and those things it can it it it it solves some problems but absolutely does not make you happy and it doesn't make you smart it just makes you wealthy what do you wish people knew about Fame and accomplishments accomplishments are all fabulous especially if you worked hard for them and you know you have a you deserve the opportunity to to accept the Accolade in and of the moment and enjoy it and then you know then you you move on from it and don't measure who and what you are based on any kind of championship ring right you know that's not your identity it is not who you are it's just what you do um and I and I I to I live by that Credo it's not who I am it's just what I do um but I've met many a billionaire who they're not smart because you know they're just they're missing out on the on the good things in life you know on on on on being a part of their community on on touching the lives of their their wives and their children on on on sleeping on their pillow at night and knowing that they did something good instead of for a buck yeah and what do you wish people about Fame it's really an interesting question to ask at this juncture right it's 2024 and I remember having a conversation with my kids maybe 10 12 15 years ago and them telling me about that the internet and ways to make money and I would say but you got to write a song to make money you you have to learn how to act if you know we're talking about like a SK art say you know referencing the art you have to be an athlete put in the 10,000 hours um I've been proven wrong obviously now right there's there's all there's a whole world of people making a buck and that is very confusing for me and my generation it's very confusing for me in my generation we we were told that we could go to the Moon because President Kennedy told us we could but we had to go to school to learn how to do the science to get to the mo you we didn't just you know snap our fingers and get lucky on the internet one day so it's a very confusing time um but I don't I don't think anything is a substitute for hard work and dedication and commitment and you know not every day you're going to win but every day is an opportunity to to participate in the process and measure your progress absolutely well you want a lot though consistently which is pretty impressive yeah all good

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Published: Tue Apr 30 2024