How i FOUND my BABY GiRL || NayVee’s ADOPTiON STORY

the one thing i will never forget the judge asked navy if she wanted us to adopt her she was so cute so he asked her like do you want to be adopted by this family and she just put her little hand right here on her chest and she just started crying like with this gut deep like you cry oh and she goes yes because i find me so safe and oh my gosh oh there was not a dry eye in the entire courtroom not even the judge had a dry eye and navy's bright now dude [Music] yeah get busy get busy everybody get busy [Music] this minute [Music] hey guys welcome back to not enough nelson today we are going to talk about how i found baby and i really should have benji here during these shouldn't i yeah he should probably be saying his point of view but again he's at work right now and we're filming and so i'm gonna have to have him do a whole series of how he feels about everything because he has a lot of really precious memories with our kiddos as well especially with this kiddo and i'm gonna let you guys in on a little secret for the first 10 years of your life what did we call you baby girl baby girl it just started when she was brought to us she was so cute oh my gosh i'm gonna put pictures here because she was so dang cute i just couldn't stop staring at her i would literally go through like a grocery store and people would stop literally stop and say oh my gosh your baby is so beautiful and i was like i know she's so sweet and i just i don't know why but i just we just started calling her baby girl i think it started we started singing that baby sharks on tour but then we started saying baby girl and it stuck and from then on out all of our sisters and brothers and all of us we all called her baby girl so eventually we had to stop calling her that after i think you were like what ten yeah yeah it means that yeah it was that and eventually she told us that tell us tell us the story like so like it got really embarrassing like at school they would call me down like no and then so we just decided to join like her brothers and sisters say hey baby girl and then like her friends and people started catching on and calling her baby and she's like hey i don't want my real name to be baby girl no that's just for a mom so sometimes i still call her baby girl and that's okay right okay i can call her baby this is kind of a complicated story isn't it i would say this is probably the most complicated story of back and forth of all of the kids that we have adopted so i have to back all the way up to when navy was how old were you when you break first come do you remember uh i don't remember she was two months old wow teeny tiny and she was so cute so when she first came to our home they brought her in and they just left her with me and it was just kind of like really super crazy to me because there this was this beautiful little baby girl that i needed to take care of and love and it was kind of surreal she was just so beautiful and perfect and i just i don't know i was just kind of blown away at the responsibility of caring for this sweet baby so they brought her in and i remember giving her her first bath she had what's called um well what i've been told is called meth hands which means if she's been around methamphetamines um a baby a lot of times will clinch their hands so tight and they'll and they'll have a really hard time opening them so i just noticed her little hands were clenched so tight this is kind of sad he's kind of sad do you think it's sad yeah it's really sad and it's hard to believe it's you right so it kind of feels probably like to you like i'm talking about another baby yeah right but her hands were so clinched tight and i had a really hard time opening them to wash inside of them and so i ended up calling the and saying what why does she have these so tight clenched hands and they told me that was from methamphetamines in her system and so i found out kind of the story and where she was found without going into too much detail she was in a hotel room in a bathroom the reason i tell you that is because it will kind of explain why a certain moment touched my heart so much but so fast forwarding a few months i got to the point i don't i know she doesn't remember this but because i had massaged her hands back when she was very first come to our family and kind of just massaged out just the anxiousness she had in them that became kind of a cute thing that she would always do isn't that cute it's so cute can you imagine and i would just rub her little hands and it became such a cute little thing for us but one time when we were sitting i was laying down and watching a show and on camera commercial which has sarah mclaughlin singing in the arms of an angel and i started singing to navy and i was singing to her and of course i sounded beautiful because sarah mclaughlin was my backup singer and so i thought it was super beautiful and she just was looking at me like this little look on her face i can't even describe it that baby she was looking at me like i was an angel so as i was singing these words to her the lyrics really hit me it said in the arms of the angel fly away from here from this dark cold hotel room and the endlessness that you fear you are pulled from the wreckage of your silent reverie you're in the arms of the angel may you find some comfort here and just looking into her eyes it was like our souls just connected at that moment and i was like rubbing her little hands because she would just go like this and she was in little tiny hands and so i would just rub her little hands and she just looked at me and that became our song right our connector song we definitely bonded in that moment and you guys it was really really hard but her birth mom started doing really good and had gone through all of the things that she needed to go through to prove that she was ready to have navy back and that was a super hard time because we have to bring her to go visit with her mom and you have to remember that navy had been with us like the whole first year of her life so she didn't even really remember her birth mom i'm sure her heart did but it felt scary to her to go back and forth and even at that young age she would like scream and cry and pull onto my shirt and anyway it was so hard to have her go back and forth and so we were doing visits and daily visits until finally it was time just a few days later it was going to be time to bring her to her mom for good and so i was really really struggling to say the least and a dear friend of mine brought me over this book and it was just a really small book short little book and it talked about a teenager i won't ruin the whole thing but talked about a teenager who got pregnant and she was giving up her baby um for adoption and she went to the adoptive family's house to like live the last week before she gave birth to the baby and during that week she would do like sweet things like look out the window and think oh my little baby gets to live here and run around in this backyard and she gets to sit in this room and sit on this window seat and she just had all these thoughts about her unborn baby and how what a wonderful life that baby would have and then it turned out that she ended up having a stillborn baby and as she was packing her things the mom came in the adoptive mom came in and put her arm around her and said in this one week we have fallen in love with you and we would like to adopt you something just inside my mind just kind of clicked and suddenly i just found so much love for an 80s birth mom and so i just decided then and there that i would love her with all of my heart and help her however i could and in a way maybe adopt her in some small form into our family and so that's exactly what it did and that was so healing like any moms that are out there that are having to you know give back their foster child to their birth mom and help reunify them that is your saving grace find love for the birth family find true authentic love for the birth mom and wrap your arms even if you can't physically do it wrap your heart around her and try to cheer her on and and bettering her life and that's exactly what i did and you guys that helped me so much and so navy went back to her birth mom and we were loving her birth mom and in fact we tried to help her mom find a job and we tried to just help her anyway we could we i would even take her to lunch sometimes and her mom was just a sweetheart and she let us babysit navy whenever she needed a babysitter and then i actually started doing child care because of navy and so she started bringing her to me for child care and it just was really wonderful and so sadly three years later what happened my birth mom relapsed yeah her birth mom relapsed and so thankfully the foster care system allowed us to have her again and we had her again from age three to four and loved every minute of it but in my heart i knew that her mom was gonna work hard to get her back and so we kept a good relationship with her birth mom and she ended up giving birth to navy's half-sister at that time which was really cool and then she ended up getting navy back and we were so happy for her that she had gone through it again because a lot of times it would be hard not to just give up in her case and give in to the addiction but she's so bad wanted to get her life straight and to raise her two girls and it was we were just hoping the best for her and so she went back and meanwhile we still got to love on navy she still brought her for sleepovers we still got to watch her all the time and it was wonderful then finally i think you were howell like six and a half like six and a half or so at about six and a half her mom was struggling and some things happened and she had us start babysitting her but instead of just for like one or two days or a weekend it turned into like six weeks and two months so navy was like six and a half seven that was really hard because she could talk about how she was feeling and how were you feeling at the time do you remember i was old enough that i knew that i wasn't feeling safe while you were there yeah do you remember that you would cry and like not want us to drop you off and stuff yeah yeah yeah there's a few times that were really really hard that maybe would jump in the back seat or she would try to get away or she would just i don't know just scream and cry and that wasn't navy at all like navy normally was always very calm and sweet but she didn't feel safe and she would cry and it was really really really hard and it got to the point where it was just too hard and her birth mom i think feeling and understanding that navy's feelings needed to come first at this point i think she realized that it was just too detrimental for navy to go back and forth like that and that navy didn't feel safe and there was a reason she didn't feel safe because her mom had relapsed again and so it was just it was so hard and such a sad and hard time but navy was left with us for about i think about two years so there was a time we actually ran into her birth mom i don't think her birth mom saw a navy but navy saw her birth mom do you remember that yes yeah so when navy saw her birth mom it scared her because she just didn't know like shouldn't have permanency should know for sure that like because someone couldn't just swoop in and take her out because they wanted to take her out or whatever and so she ran to me and looked so afraid and said what should we do what should we do and so i just ended up leaving the store we were at and i just decided it was time to give her some permanency and time to make the adoption official and that it was time to adopt her and so we called the state and told her that we'd had her for several years and it was time to make this official so that navy could feel a sense of just calm and safety knowing that that should be part of our family forever and so we started that process it took about a year took a long time and you guys i can't even tell you the day that we were adopting navy it's so special to me and because every child we've adopted has has been very special but i just want to say navy at 11 years old she really understood i don't know the hugeness of the event she understood what it felt like to not be safe and then what it felt like to be safe she understood what it meant to be adopted and she was just the sweetest so we were driving i'm sharing a lot of stories without you so we were driving to go to the courthouse to adopt navy and i kid you not there was two songs that were navy songs but i've already told you about which is the arms of an angel but there was another song that kind of like right during the time that we were bringing her back and forth to her mom at about six and a half or seven i had volunteered to go with navy on one of her field trips and there was a song in the bus that was playing and me and her were just dancing and having this good time and she just looks so free of all this stress and so i just took a total heart picture at that moment she was with dancing and and how does it go with something like i had a dream so big about i oh yeah hi i touched the ground you know that's fine i am not a good singer but we were just singing it and having a ball and it was just brought all these big memories and so i kid you not we were driving to the courthouse and that song comes on the radio right and i was like navy this is our song from the bus and she was all the kids in the car were like jamming out and having fun and i turned around and even though she had a smile on her face she literally had tears do you remember that oh it's gonna make me cry had tears coming down her face even with this big bright song and anyway it was so touching and so after that song was over i found the arms of an angel song and we played that as we drove up and it just made everything come full circle everything we had been through with this sweet girl and everything that we were just finishing and coming to the end of all this dress and could just enjoy each other and enjoy our family and the love that we had and it was it was just a beautiful moment and so we went in there and the one thing i will never forget the judge asked navy if she wanted us to adopt her and it was just so cute and i don't even know that you remember do you remember any of this i'm just bawling but she was so cute so he asked her like do you want to be adopted by this family and she just put her little hand right here on her chest and she just started crying like with this gut deep like you cry oh and she goes yes because i finally feel safe and oh my gosh oh there was not a dry eye in the entire courtroom not even the judge had a dry eye and navy's crying now too it was just the cutest moment ever and i am so grateful so grateful that we were able to make navy a part of our forever family we love her with all of our heart and we will for all eternity oh gosh that is a really hard story to tell but i have to tell those birth moms out there who have you know i don't want to say have lost kids to family services but their lives have been to a point where it just wasn't safe for them anymore we love you birth moms out there i want to tell you that as an adopted mom i want to tell anybody out there that has had to you know that addiction is just overpowered or whatever has overpowered that they've had to give kids up for adoption i love you and we love you right and we hope wonderful things for all of you out there all of you birth moms i know certainly all of the birth moms of my sweet babies i just hope the very best for and i hope that they can get their stuff together and so that they can just feel that peace and that love and safety that navy feels now not being around all of the drugs and the scary things and so oh that was a deep one oh my gosh we didn't mean to be so crying this is a more recent one and so that all the emotions are just right here but we love you ned found and so we're sharing our hearts with you and we hope that you can see what an amazing thing adoption is and i don't know i love you all out there and i love this girl i love you maybe oh that was hard all right you get to do the outro because i'm busy crying thank you guys for watching this video make sure you guys subscribe down below hit the notification bell and give this video a big thumbs up and make sure you follow us on facebook instagram and tick tock love you all [Music]

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Length: 17min 23sec (1043 seconds)

Published: Fri Nov 06 2020