How Have You Seen a PERSONS Life Be RUINED in a Single Day? (r/AskReddit)

I'll slash ask read it how have you seen a person's life be ruined in a single day everything didn't happen in a single day but my life fell apart on July 11th 2015 when my 19 year old daughter and only child was killed in a car accident life had already been rough when I was diagnosed with two types of cancer in 2010 then my job of almost 10 years closed and I was laid off in 2011 and my relationship of nine years ended in 2014 the week after she died I started medicating myself more and more with opiates until this last January when I overdosed on heroin / fentanyl and nearly died being brought back with nasal malkin after three failed attempts with liquid / injected malcolm i survived only because a friend performed CPR on me keeping oxygen going to my brain while others scrambled around looking for nasal somewhere in my house it was in the fridge unrelated to my overdose i only just checked out of a mental rehabilitation center for severe stress and suicidal thoughts at noon today i'd been under medical supervision since last week wednesday and made enough progress to be checked out this afternoon until now i'd spent the last week in a REM tea room with no TV or radio no shoes with shoe laces no belts drawstrings no writing utensils beyond a tiny two-inch golf pencil and three frequently boring and nearly salt deficient meals a day served directly to my room with no eating utensils outside of a scoop made from the edges of a paper cup honestly my life ended the day the moment my daughter died on a slightly curving highway in iowa love your children while you can love your family and friends everyone who means anything to you right now it can all be taken away in a single second I swear can I do a span of a couple years last day of second grade I get up excited for school because we were all supposed to go see a movie as a class I walk outside and see my older brother hang himself from the swing set I just stabbed Aaron stare my uncle comes out and sees it and yells for everyone had dealt wise and shoved me back inside my grandma locks and barricades me in the bathroom while everyone else was frantically trying to save my brother who have used barb ed wire as a noose a long time later I'm let out and my mom is hysterical and I have no idea what was happening didn't really sink in until I went to his funeral fast forward about 10 to 11 months and my grandpa died from liver disease among other problems fast forward about six to seven months I am sleeping when my dad gets a call from his brother in the middle of the night my brother had been out drinking with his friends and he drove home drunk in his Jeep along the Tamiami Trail he lost control and was partially ejected his legs were caught on the roll cage as it rolled multiple times a possibly some time later called 911 when they got to a phone pre cellphone eater my uncle is dispatched as he was the helicopter pilot for the sheriff stepped and was logically the fastest officer to send upon arriving and turning his searchlight on he recognized my brother's baby blue Jeep all angles he landed and ran to help my brother but he was already clearly dead after medics and other deputies arrived he flew back to base and called my dad who then told my mom and then woke me and my sister up and told us what happened I spent years in therapy and was a very quiet kid who stayed to himself eventually when my school therapist got me talking he got me to tell my story to my classmates and the teachers were officially informed of why I was the way I was that was 20 plus years ago nowadays I'm not really bothered by death and it's one of the reasons why I got into learn and recently EMT I want to try and stop what happened to me from happening to someone else or at least help them through the difficulty of it my ultimate and Jane would to be on the do a task enforcement team here like seven years ago a bunch of the crew chiefs that my guard base were out celebrating one of their own who got his associates degree they were all drinking not a ton and eventually went home except for one guy he stayed and drank until last call he decided to drive home he hit a twenty-year-old who was on his way to work at about 2:00 a.m. and turned him into a paraplegic our Wing Commander basically told him plead guilty to the county and go to jail with an administrative discharge his family would have been able to keep some of his benefits like the Valon and GI Bill or fight it loose cost his family tons of money and get a dishonorable dishonorable basically is like you never even served he plead guilty edit dishonorable like you never served in regards to benefits any bonuses you received you have to pay back medals are rescinded it is also listed on job applications and people will deny you because of it I know a dishonorable is like a felony but to do it is a long process regardless if he got convicted in civilian criminal court his discharge was a hey you still have two years left in your contract before a enlistment so you're just going to resign that right now instead also to the people who think that he got away scot-free he didn't he went to jail felony DUI and assault with a deadly weapon or something like that the Wing Commander only allowed him to do at least one selfless thing and still be able to transfer his GI Bill and Valon to his family he also had to pay medical expenses for the kid he hit and probably other damages as well so it's not like he got a free pass on that three weeks after graduating from high school on a student got drunk at a party and put a knife in another guy's chest didn't kill him but it was a close call goodbye adulthood whoo I've got a related one I was in the Navy one of my guys who was a third class petty officer got into an argument with the chief he was working with in a shitty temporary job nobody knows the full story because they were the only to people there but they both had knives and the chief stabbed him in the gut I knew them both very well and I'm sure the kid was at fault that he got a medical discharge and the Chiefs got completely [ __ ] after 17 years of service I don't know what Chiefs actual fate was but I know he was charged and the other guy wasn't they were both what I would consider to be good people but the kid definitely had a chip on his shoulder and that she seemed like a totally boring but nice individual with a wife and kids and wot mate not a grumpy or hated guy like many others edit stabbed guy was fine after surgery it's been 11 years or so and he's still boasting on Fassa book I liked him too that he was cocky and young I was a Surgical intern and there was a fourth-year med student just one year behind me on our general surgery team as an acting intern Judah was an all-american in every sense extremely bright tall and good-looking charming to talk to class president etc he was literally like Captain America Steve Rogers incarnate wanted to be a general surgeon at my hospital and all of my attending physicians were extremely fond of him they already were talking about how great of a resident he would make and what to do when he was an intern it was nearing the end of his rotation and he was scheduled to do a routine surgery with the chair of the department specifically so the chair could evaluate him and give him a letter of recommendation afterwards the evening before his big day he and I went over the steps of the procedure and the little quirks that the chair liked so he could impress the chair for a good letter he left and we texted about some additional tiny details about the surgery later next morning my chief tells me I need to scrub in for the surgery that the student was supposed to do because he hadn't showed up yet I told a third-year medical student who was also on our team to go look for him because it wasn't like him to be late this guy was militantly punctual it was thought he'd be late on a day like this about an hour into the surgery my chief resident comes in and asks me to scrub out and informs me that the student I had sent earlier had found him in his apartment in a pool of his own blood shot through the neck none of his possessions were missing and he had no clear enemies or reasons that someone might want him dead someone just broke in and shot him I had trouble believing it it was very bizarre and surreal I was later questioned by a detective because I was technically the last person to communicate with him via text a few months later they eventually caught the kids responsible a few states away apparently it was some sort of gang initiation to kill her a random person and they got there too but the whole ordeal left me in a funk for a while because it was so completely random and senseless and that kid had literally everything going for him he was one of the really good ones I grew up best friends with my sister and one day she didn't come home from work I was 16 at the time she was 22 I heard my parents start to rumble around the house turning the lights on and I could hear more commotion and panic the cops had called our house cause they found my sister's car damaged on a street in the middle of a neighborhood with the driver side door still open and they found one of her shoes was in the middle of the street the next morning still no sister she worked as a bartender she left work that night and some guy followed her sideswiped her car and when she got out to swap insurance he kidnapped her and put her in his truck and drove off and that night continued to rape and abuse her and held her captive through the night and into the next day my sister managed to escape that next day and run to the nearest house banging on the doors the home me are winners let my sister in and called 911 they could tell she had been beaten and attacked she was taken to the hospital which is when we got the phone call where she was she had two broken ribs her face was nearly black and blue both black eyes and scratches all over her body after that I've never had my sister back she survived the attack but she suffers horrible horrible anxiety and panic attacks she can't go in public alone she drinks heavily and is terrified to move out of my mom's and live alone idk I just used to look up to her and we would laugh and watch movies and bounce on the trampoline and she would drive me to try local food chains and we would listen to music and ever since I've never had my big sister back I'll always love her but it breaks my heart in one day her life changed for the worst yup and I did it boss hadn't produced kiddie porn it disturbed me so much I spoke with a friend who was a desk sergeant the town over and asked what could be done he passed word along to the chief of the town where it was happening two days later the biggest cop I've ever seen walked through the door of our shop and asked to see everyone sit cuffed and staffed you should have seen his face when I was summoned to testify the grand jury hearing edit this whole thing has been sort of cleansing for me I've never spoken about it to anyone other than my wife who supported my decision to become a jobless college student with a family and mortgage thanks for the honest and kind words the most important at it those of you saying I'm a hero I am NOT I'm just a person the real heroes in this thread are the ones that live through situations like this and continued on maybe reach out to some of them and ask if they're okay let them know that they are important respected and most of all a valued member of our community I keep getting asks how I found out and I've answered it on a few occasions and got a bit rude to one individual apologies I was approached by the victim and they asked for help I helped edited to clarify and reply of course I'm there 100% for her she's been in my life for over 20 years and we've seen each other through the best and worst of situations but how am I supposed to prevent her from reaching her breaking point when she's literally lost the most important thing that she's ever known nobody can understand the utter devastation of watching you and child die because of a senseless act of violence unless they've experienced it asterisk asterisk asterisk eight she was not involved with gangs in any way this was not a targeted attack it was not retaliation he was not in possession of a weapon there was no confrontation he was merely sitting in the front seat of the car his longtime girlfriend driving she too is a fragile sweet soul who had her life destroyed in the blink of an eye asterisk asterisk asterisk he was a registered organ donor and due to his absolute love of animals and people was always a kind giving kid his mother instilled a great many beautiful attributes as she raised him and his gift of precious organs has given the hope of a future to so many families appreciate the words of support and comfort both in replies and private message thank you on April 2nd this year my best friend's son went to run a quick errand told her be back soon an hour later she's wearing just her pajamas next to a hospital her entrance being told they cannot allow her in sight due to a shooting victims admittance and the subsequent mandated lockdown her son the boy I knew from the moment he was born 19 years prior was brain dead and on life support he became an organ donor five days later didn't take even a minute let alone a day for her to lose her entire reason for breathing she's ruined and I'm dreading the moment she decides there's no point in going on because barring a miracle it's inevitable caused it and was happy to do it I was in captain in the Army at the time one of my soldiers a senior for looking to make sergeant had just gone through a rough divorce his first a second anyway he has made Darth Vader's theme song / March song the ringtone on his phone for when she calls he was outside having a smoke and I was walking by his desk when she called I smiled at the humor of it and looked down instantly loosing my smile because as his phone rang with her interned for his now ex the screen showed a picture of her daughter his stepdaughter about six years old asleep and naked she was not sending the picture it was what he had attached to come up when she called I instantly sent two of my sergeants to sit with him and keep him at the smoking bench but to say nothing while I had my company first sergeant Crowe CID Central Investigations Division to send me a detective long story short detective seized his phone home computer and office computer found that since the divorce he had been living off post / base with a 16 year old girlfriend and had been trafficking kiddie porn of his ex stepdaughter that her mother knew nothing about between the evidence and my testimony he was sentenced to 25 to 55 years in federal prison for peddling child porn as well as statutory rape of his new girlfriend when I was seven my father came home from work and told my mother he wanted a divorce he grabbed a suitcase and packed some things while my mother alternated between crying trying to cook dinner for me and my brother and screaming at him that he was insane she had no idea where this was coming from and she would change the locks if he left he did leave and she did indeed change the locks the very next day she went from a homemaker to a single mother the next day and our standing of living fell immensely I don't think she ever recovered from the stress of the divorce and trying to raise us on her own thinking about what a kind smart and wonderful person my mother is and how my father basically ruined her life when she was only 32 makes me really sad she just wanted to have kids and then go back to work when we were both in grade school so she could be a teacher like she wanted to but the divorce killed that dream we became latchkey kids in a bad neighborhood while she had to work in call centers or in hotel housekeeping because being a teacher didn't pay enough or give her enough time off to take care of us I became a surrogate mother for my baby brother when my mother worked long hours it was a culture shock to say the least I remember going to therapy which I now know was court-ordered because my mom wanted to have sole cast so she had to have us evaluated to prove that my dad wasn't up to task of sharing custody throughout the divorce proceedings and counselors telling me over and over that it was going to be okay that my parents still loved us and we'd still go to the same school and have the same life we would have I didn't believe them at the time and I was right - our lives derailed entirely that single day I'm okay so is my brother but my mother gave all of her health and the best years of her life to raising us in thankless circumstances while my father failed to pay child support and came around only enough to avoid a bench warrant or to prevent my mom from gaining sole custody and increasing his support obligations it makes me bitter to see him happy now and my mother in poor health when she's two decades too young to have the health problems of an 80 year old related my grandmother became our second mother in the wake of the divorce the stress of that killed her as well you can track pictures of her from about 55 when my parents got divorced and how young and beautiful she was then you look at pictures of her in her sixties and she looks Haggard she died of cancer in her early seventies I blocked out the memories of those early days for a long time I've only recently done the heavy lifting of trying to dig up the emotions and events of my life from age 7 to about 14 I honestly remember little to nothing traumatic memory is wild pursuant to my goal of trying to support my mom partially because she deserves it partially because I don't want her to meet the same fate as my grandmother it's weird to think about how I wouldn't be on the hook for my mom's failing health now I could have had a happier childhood and my mom could have had a better life and my grandmother might not be dead had my dad just decided not to be a miserable [ __ ] [ __ ] that day and all the days are after did your dad ever give you any explanation in broken conversations through the years I have contact with him it works so long as I don't think about the past and don't mention my mom he maintains that she thought of him like a bottomless wallet and was controlling and abusive his contentions are absurd I've been close to my mother my entire life and know her flaws she can be passive-aggressive manipulative and prone to giving you guilt trips but she's also endlessly self-sacrificial I've met very few people on this planet with that ability to just give and give and give her family did everything for my dad who was poor when he met her and he just used her and discarded her like old rubbish when it turned out that having two kids meant that the honeymoon phase was over it's also projection when my mother had a nervous breakdown post divorce court battle dad lied to get his child support reduced I lived with my father for three years life at my mother's home was full of pinching pennies that she never made me feel worthless that was always my father's way he was always a classic control freak and emotionally abusive I didn't stand a chance no matter how good the school I was going to us or how much more money my father had on my mother I always felt like an invader or inmate in his house I'm not really interested in hearing more about why he did what he did that day and all the years are after the games with child support and alimony for instance when I was younger I didn't understand it I've now passed the age where he did what he did and I still do not understand how someone can be so selfish and amoral if I confronted him he'd give me an excuse maybe he'd even give me an apology but I don't want it it's not genuine if he's giving it just to make me stop being mad at him if he offers it himself unprompted because he knew what he did was wrong maybe I'd accept it but not otherwise he's the reason I don't have kids and don't want them if you are a good person they Arnold Cheney down and robbed you of vitality I did that to my mom because she lost the support of a life partner it's just what kids do I wasn't a bad kid but it's hard out there for a single parent I don't want that for myself I'll spend the rest of my life trying to give my mom the retirement she deserves to make up for the decades that my father took from her out of hate to make up for the decades I took from out of love her when my father wasn't there to share the burden during my final high school exam for English I remember I was sitting next to this popular kid because we were seated alphabetically I always sat next to him during exams there's a well-known Canadian University in my city that everyone wanted to get into and at the time the entrance average for business and science was 82% if you manage to get 82% in your core subjects you were admitted they no longer do the sort of admission guarantee in recent years it's been more and more competitive each year anyway this guy I was sitting next to was telling me that he was really ready for this exam and he was going to write his essay on the one movie we watched in class we were supposed to prepare multiple texts just in case the essay question on the exam didn't lend itself well to one particular text I don't quite remember the question but I know it didn't blend itself quite well to the movie but rather more so to a book we read in class I finished my exam before him and when we were allowed to talk I asked him how it went he looked dazed and he told me that he knew he failed he needed to do well on this exam to get into any university let alone the well-known one I'm graduating next week computer science whew and I met this guy again while looking for a new dress shirt for graduation he worked at the suit shop I asked him if he was graduating soon and he told me that after high school he went to upgrade his high school courses so he could reapply to universities he was saying that every year they increased the entrance averages and he couldn't meet them after upgrading so he went to upgrade again he repeated this process four times and finally got in for 2020 it's done that how well you do as a teenager can determine the next five years of your life from a police friend of mine in another state pulled up on this to support another officer apparently a guy was pulled over after swerving and making a lane change without indicating I think they figured he was just on his phone or something routine traffic stop that would probably have just been a warning pull up and noticed two kids in the back seat and the officer immediately smells liquor pulls him out does all the tests and the guy seems okay at first but guy blows something really high he later admitted to having an open container in the back that he was drinking in the parking lot he had just left while waiting for his kids to get out of their daycare later found out he discovered his wife had been cheating on him and drained a bank account on the way to get said kids his house was like two miles from the child cop lace so he had just recently been drinking since he had kids in the car he was charged with multiple counts of felony child endangerment or something each charge applied to each child in the car the extreme DUI but he also had a loaded firearm in the car I don't remember if the firearm made that he you are more severe one but I do remember my police officer friend telling me that there was a specific charge with having the firearm within reach while having an open container my friend pulls up to help and this guy's going ballistic plus at this point the booze he had just been chugging is probably hitting him full strength so he gets irate and tried to headbutt then bite the officer that had him detained my friend takes him down which apparently aggravated an old back injury this guy had more on this later so on top of the other stuff he was getting charged with he's now got another felony for assaulting a law enforcement officer guy had zero criminal history before this not even so much as a traffic ticket my friend ended up checking back up on the guy from time to time as after they got him under control and secured while Em's King is when he started bawling in tears and spills the info about his wife and apps why he was drinking he said most of the charges ended up sticking and he got multiple years in prison biggest ones were the child in day and once now obviously this is later on but my police officer friend found out through the grapevine that he lost all custody of his children and had to have multiple surgeries slash medical procedures while in prison for his back fast forward years later I want to say like three or four years and my friend arrests this same guy for riding a bike without lights he had a bunch of heroin on him as he was running him through he recognized the name and put two and two together when he saw the guy's priors while he was driving him to jail the guy said he got hooked on pain medication because of his back injury upon being released but doctors would no longer prescribe him pills so he went to heroin friend kind of felt bad that he might have caused it all but told me the guy was pretty down-to-earth about it and said it wasn't his fault he deserved everything he got pretty sure he's still in prison as I'm sure the drug charge violated some sort of probation this is minor compared to some stories in this thread but at the time it was terribly dramatic when I was 14 I got back from a church trip just as service was letting out on Sunday my parents weren't there for service or to pick me up and people kept coming up to ask me how my sister was in the South Church it is common I didn't immediately realize something had happened someone finally realized I didn't know anything about what happened and the youth pastor called my parents my sister a state trooper had been directing traffic on the freeway the night before and a truck had hit her while traveling 55 miles / hour she was in hospital my parents were there with her and no one knew what the prognosis was the youth pastor dropped me off at home and I wasn't even in the door before my younger brother and sister were rushing to tell me that my sister was getting a divorce at the time given our religious upbringing that almost seemed worse than being injured I'd reached in comprehension by that point my parents didn't get back to the house until the next day and I spent it in hell not knowing how badly my sister was hurt her life was basically ruined in an instant recovery took a long time such that she lost her job her husband during her recovery was revealed to be both in our soul and addicted to gambling he'd gambled away 50k that they didn't have they divorced before she was able to walk unassisted having said that she's doing much better now her health recovered almost completely save for some memory problems due to the concussion she went back to school and built a new career for herself thank you so much for watching the whole video please leave a like and subscribe

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Length: 29min 22sec (1762 seconds)

Published: Sun Nov 10 2019