How Do I Find The Right Person For Me? #UnplugWithSadhguru

popular it once happened Shankaran Pillai was at the family dinner and when everybody settled down for dinner he stood up at the table and announced I am going to marry Lucy who is just across the street I hope that's not the name then the father said what you want to marry Lucy she has nothing she's like a you're going to marry that Lucy mother said what you're going to marry that Lucy the uncle uncle's always bitching in this kind of matters you could to marry that Lucy have you seen her hair it looks weak the aren't why it's good to marry Lucy she's she's always paintings you gonna marry the painted woman the little boy the nephew can't be left out he said you were to marry Lucy she doesn't even know what is cricket how can you marry her Shankaran Pillai stood his ground and said yes I'm going to marry Lucy everybody asked in one voice why he said because she has no family there are no many opinions to battle with so who is the right person I don't want to take away all the romance from your life but let me tell you this there is no right person on this planet if you put your heart into something something may become wonderful is it the right thing there is no right thing nobody ever found the right person anywhere okay if you get into that kind of unrealistic mindset I have found the right person oh you will be soon disappointed you must understand there is no right person first thing is to see whether I am the right person yes am I the right person and there are no right people on this planet if you understand you have your nonsense they have their nonsense we cannot just nonsense nonsense war we must understand relationships are formed for various needs there are physical needs there are psychological needs there are emotional needs there may be social needs there may be financial needs various kinds of needs so when you are going to somebody with so many needs you are going as a beggar and a beggar cannot choose bigger it what comes its way isn't it he cannot choose so if you really want to make a choice in this world first and foremost thing is you bring yourself to your place where your experience of life is just Pleasant by yourself you're wonderful now let us see what gets drawn to this one if you are really wonderful things will happen in every way I am saying in terms of career in terms of marriage in terms of relationships the best will happen to you because you met yourself like this instead of trying to work on somebody and fix them if you work upon yourself and make you so wonderful that everybody wants to be with you then there is a choice and this whole thing is an Merrigan thing that there is a soulmate somewhere God made just one more person just for you but these days every two years he keeps making one more person obviously God is making too many mistakes with you see body needs a mate understandable maybe psychologically also you need a mate understandable emotionally you need a mate a soul cannot need a mate so soul doesn't need a mate nor was some person made perfectly for you okay this creation makes all kinds of unique idiots if you understand your one kind of idiot and the others have different kind you will be you will understand their nonsense because you know you've got your stuff if you think you're perfect and God has chosen you and he's made another person perfect somewhere else you are heading for a disaster okay there is no such thing even you know people today after 5000 years people are still or deleting and worshipping Krishna as the greatest lover but his wife's are dead unhappy with the dying yes so you're not going to find any perfect person if you invest a deep sense of involvement something wonderful may happen just because of your involvement not because the other person is fantastic no even if you choose a fool actually it's easy that way if they're not stupid why would they come to you first of all no no I'm just being nasty so even if you choose a fool it doesn't matter if you involve yourself it can turn out very beautiful you choose the smartest person in the universe it could be a disaster so do not think in terms of you know whatever this made for each of their nonsense no you choose the opposite actually but after some time after a little bit of time you slowly start expecting they're just like you this is a serious mistake because if one more person becomes just like you you won't be able to bear with them for two days hello please tell me there's one more person just like your form could you live them you're glad they are different it's wonderful nobody is like you isn't it nobody is like you on this planet try and see nobody is like you and that's good don't look for sameness not message the difference which makes the because the difference you tango not otherwise [Applause] [Music]

Channel: Sadhguru

Views: 3,041,582

Keywords: Sadhguru 2018, youth and truth sadhguru 2018, youth and truth sadhguru unplugged, youth and truth sadhguru september 2018, isha, yoga, spirituality, wisdom, mysticism, seeking

Id: _9oTiAi73h4

Length: 7min 20sec (440 seconds)

Published: Thu Sep 20 2018