How comfortable are you in your relationship? | Fridays with Tab and Chance

bring the beat in oh wait wait I gotta do the work I'm sorry we are thrown off things are being settled down in here okay uh hello there welcome to Fridays with Tab and chance I am Tabitha Brown and this is my amazing husband I'm chance what's up uh bring the beat in [Applause] Fridays Fridays Fridays [Music] y'all hear that laughing in the background this is my brother Nick come on over here Nick real quick because today's topic came to us from Nicholas if you come say hello to the people brother Nick what did you tell the people you got to come here come around come here what did you tell us we should do a topic about today bodily functions and where you draw the line bodily functions and where we draw the line all right well honey let's go on and get into it so I guess that means you know we talking about farting well it is a natural body to function it is we talking about Ford Bay well people first of all my mother never said honey you said I had to call my mother and not my mom because it's just so delicate when it came to this she she hated the word part she would say poot and she was like oh I put it I'm sorry hated it she was a very you know womanly woman me on the other hand I must have took out the my daddy gotta let it out you gotta let it out honey my stomach get to hurting if I try to hold it in be cute no no but sometimes I try to be cute now I won't poop around you [Laughter] babe but sometimes if there's a certain you know thing about to happen and stuff I try to go to bathroom first and get it all out my system and then proceed first of all what but first of all Oh I thought something was done you ain't never put it around me [Laughter] ain't nothing gentle about it trust me they come out real grown ain't nothing gentle ain't nothing gentle from the time that we started dating this is not this just so y'all know just so you know from the beginning of our relationship this has not been something the tab was never the type of girl that was let me be delicate in not I remember going to my mom and telling my mom my girl farted around me this girl flat out and my mom died laughing and said that's gonna be the one thank you Zane there's a a saying there's a this this there's this amazing saying no you did say excuse me I did but there's this amazing catch me off guard and the saying goes like this there's no future in front I can't let you know from the gate this who I am now I'm gonna say excuse me and if I feel like it's going to be a little rough I might excuse myself but if we in a car what you want me to do have my stomach hurting and mess up the day no no no no tab will let that go start laughing and wait for me to smell it this is tab right here on her phone yeah babe drive and then she'll go look the little soda right here here's me here's our hitting the window and then this is her gig and then and then and then then me driving your stomach hurt and she has already got tears rolling down her face like this like this this is exactly how you are in the car I'm driving we have enough we're gonna be having a real conversation let me show you tears because now mind you you see how cute I did that thank you I might have put it no and so I wrote them with it and I'm like oh so I'm like man I just no after awesome no after she confirmed it that's what she'll say you'll say because look you yeah [Laughter] he was like now we talking got to do with it my stomach is hurting I wrote this one and they come up he could be so the smell is offensive he'll be like you could have got a head up now you don't want to talk now forget it man I'm supposed to suffer and not complain I'm like baby you need to check your drops when we get where we going smell wet [Laughter] tears so when Chad started back eating chicken because it was being for a while we had a really good time okay he started by eating chicken this gas changed that first the first couple weeks everybody had to get used to it again it smelled like he had fever in his butt you know when babies got a fever it's the bathroom I said that smell like you got feelings you need to check yourself well I look but I don't I don't hold back because of you I've been trying to get you back no this is okay look we're gonna move on I take the power off the windows so she can't roll it down take that this will change this and he is notorious for this and he gets so much enjoyment out of this we could be in a store he'll walk away for a little bit I'm looking for him or we on the owl together and people I'm gonna go I'm gonna go get something back so when I turn and I'm like okay babe so I'm I'm about to turn because he knows which way I'm going as I'm walking I'm like oh my God like it's it smells so bad [Laughter] and let it out and then he'll come back and I'm like what you doing he'll be laughing like back he'll be looking we turn it's people walking through time oh my God what is he literally go far and watched people walk through it nasty intentional however as a couple it's like a match made it but when do you get to this place uh being comfortable having cancer right now you know what's significant look look I'ma tell you I absolutely know ninety percent of couples do this do what what are we talking about I feel like it ain't no you should get you should be able to be completely comfortable now that's there's certain times when you just being nasty you don't be nasty oh it's inappropriate excuse me right it's just like Birdman like I I don't like lab burps but I'll burp you know and be like Oh I'm sorry but excuse me my mama but but my mom will burp however if me she talked to us yeah but if me if we did it if if we in public and any burp come out she the first one to be like like like she like she'll the Queen of England you know you was raised better than me like was he had a choice doors Mama but you did it so loud that they could hear it so go ahead I got I got to you I don't know why you were Nick this is Nick this was an approach he is dying over there okay so that's one thing like but I think it's important to be comfortable with your your partner right so but when it comes to certain things there are boundaries right so when it comes to using the bathroom using the bathroom and why is it important for you to be able to get past we got friends I was trying to find a nice way to say this that have to hide from their Partners right being appealing um even how we Define sexy um honestly it's okay baby I ain't gonna trip you I know you you I was working out earlier it's all right it's okay it's all right let me see if your people attack you like they do me he ain't got his ring on but let me get straight back on top because they know a lot of your people if I ain't got this ring on they really they quickly turn to your people my chance ain't got his ring go but let's get back on top all right I ain't got no drugs we got friends that can't be their authentic selves or cannot find humor in things like what we talking about um they can't even have the conversation we've we've come across people who literally have to hide in their own households who they truly are they gotta wear wigs at all times they must wear heels at all times they must not have certain conversations that's inappropriate it's very stiff and if it works and I'm not being judgmental um if it was working we wouldn't hear about it we wouldn't hear about the complaints so I feel comfortable in we feel comfortable I know a lot of women like that um and we I'm not suggesting what we do is right but I challenge you to think about the subject think about it talk about it with your partner and uh learn to laugh with each other like we do um and don't get so uncomfortable or try to try to find comfort with your partner in the uncomfortable conversations and you'll be surprised at how much fun you can have at other people's expense and what kind of growth you can find in it while we was laughing and talking about it and I just started to think about how many people who have told us like man I would never but then when you think about their relationship and what we know about it the limitations the life they're not free in their relationship um so I think that's what it knows it but then those that sharing these moments think about how much laughter they have how much joy the the what you see they have a real close um and and like you said it doesn't mean our way is right it works for us and we but we do see that it our friends that are more open with each other their relationships are more healthier right yeah um but I I also think about like I think about my mama right you know I was joking about her saying you know I pooed it like she thought it was so unladylike to pass gas you'd be like like you know she just hated it um so and she hated the word for it she was she refused to say that right uh so I think about this box that Society way long ago put women in we had to look a certain way be a certain way be delicate you know women at one time were expected to be you know barefoot and pregnant or at home you know being a homemaker cooking cleaning sewing all these like but then also get dressed up and be whatever for their husbands that's such a long time ago and we as women are so much more than that and not not the like pass the gas in front of your part to make you even more you know but it's a freedom that comes along with it and it's also like something we don't have to apologize for because everybody does it right me and do it all the time and it's like it's laughable but if a woman does it it's like oh my God I can't believe she did that yeah even the idea of a woman having to use the restroom right why can't you believe having to use the restroom but it's like yeah she's doing number two she said her stomach hurts why can't you believe that a woman is doing something that the human body was created to do that's crazy right and as a partner you should want your you should want your partner to be able to do all the things that continue to make the body healthy right because it's comfortable yeah holding it in honey can make you see it as you talking I'm you know we're talking about this but I just keep thinking about the heels like we'll be out and people will be uh looking at tabs shoes she wears a lot of sneakers right I used to wear heels yeah and I'm like listening to these conversations girl I wish I could do that I'm like well they they got your side yeah they got your size 50 sneakers on but then I but then as you start to peel back the layers you you realize that it's because of what you said it's not it's an expectation it's an expectation sometimes it can be it can it can be in the household or it can just be outside of the household the pressures that the world put on for you to walk I I mean literally we're talking about walking and being in Comfort with walking from A to B yeah um now I will tell you this my life my wife look amazing in some hills I love it let me seeing some heels however she feels amazing in shoes and when she feels amazing that's when I get the benefits so when I still look and we look yeah and she still she looks good in the sneakers too but I as it just bothers me that that's still a thing you know what I mean and even if you got to go out in the world right I'm not saying I'm I'm um I don't understand sometimes you have to entertain the world right there's there's work attire you know I get all of that but when you're in your home when you're with your your the person is supposed to love you unconditionally that's where I'm like man listen challenge those things um consider your partner don't don't have them out here walking around in shoes or holding holding in you know gas to the point where they are uncomfortable or their hair is falling out because you like to see them made up in such a way that it's constantly appealing or or sexy consider your partner consider what they're going through consider what it's doing to them mentally they you know also ask the question are they happy are you happy or are you doing that for me right I think that's the thing that a lot of times we forget you know of course as a wife I want to be appealing and I want to look good for my husband but I also want to look good for me and I also want to feel good for me right um strong emphasis on feel good exactly so I think it's important to ask your partner like do you enjoy like how you dress and how you you know when we go out are you doing that for me are you doing it for you like ask those questions because a lot of times like for me I I stopped wearing heels when I was sick because I was falling right and so losing my balance a lot and so now putting them on give me anxiety and so I feel more comfortable in sneakers and then when I started wearing sneakers and with my outfits I would ask hands like this look okay you think this okay he would say well how you feel I'm like I feel comfortable I feel good because I didn't wear it right so but my thought was like do I still look good to you like you still think this is attractive like is this you know trash bags some Converse and you still look good to me still ready let's ride listen when you love somebody man listen they man I ain't yeah just in the air that's a good I'm glad we came here did you don't do that [Music] [Laughter] nasty that's the heels nasty you know listen I was getting ready to say so you made me lose my train of thought of them oh assumptions they're also tab made a made me realize something that I think is important to be said talk to your partner because you may have created this this space I really care about the Hills they look good but didn't matter to me she could wear the sneakers she could wear whatever she wanted to wear um and sometimes with our partners we will put pressure on ourselves because we will fill in the blanks for them so just have a conversation with them just have a conversation and like she did and she came to we came to a conclusion that I I really care about them Hills yeah it was more me internalizing what I thought so talk to your partner so they probably would have came out a little bit differently but you talking about legs being up in the air and threw me off a little bit so y'all got to excuse me right there I really had something good until Miss nasty nasty oh he is talking about farting and stuff so I thought we would and we gotta I think we need we we gotta finish this no we owe it to them to also talk about being inappropriate that's what I'm talking about we got to go into what's inappropriate yeah I mean I think that goes without being said with adults but we still you know what's inappropriate though what we do what we do right and the environment is not always and what we do in our household the environment needs to be considered we don't you don't just take what you do when you're out in your household and go in any household and do it like what give us an example um well I know Nick a little bit I was gonna use Nick but I fought in his house I wouldn't care I'm farting in somebody's house I will fart now I might not be out loud with it yeah I might put in somebody's house but I'll ask where's your restroom I'm gonna go to the bathroom and try to get it out and a lot of times I do that right I'll go my stomach must know we talking about this because it's like moving around a little bit but yeah we're gonna need to close this episode no but I'm saying like if I go to somebody house or to a meeting or something if I go to the bathroom and if I feel like my stomach my son I'm gonna try to in the bathroom and say okay this girl try to see if it's you know is it going to come out or not hey you know do they excuse myself let me go back on that too let me go back in the household candles is lit music is on the environment suggests it is about to be oh it's about to be on this is not a good time to fart that's when you go to the bath that's when you excuse yourself go to the bathroom but before but just I mean it's still kind of in line using the bathroom in front of your oh we didn't talk about that we said we was going to meet you there too using the bathroom in front of your partner now me hmm I ain't gonna do it with chance just standing there but you know you can be but our door is literally this is the door right here no no and I'm on the other side of the door three feet right at the seat but the door is closed but if I hear you I'm like man what you doing so just so y'all I want to give y'all so we got one of those doors where you can see your feet at the bottom I don't know what you call it in door world but it's one of them doors one of them you know you've got the stained uh glass doors so you can see the silhouette of the person and you can see their feet it's not like it's not like a door back on the toilet where you sitting on the door and tab now tap is completely comfortable we're having a full-long conversation not a full conversation I got to concentrate as well if you dare I'm gonna be like baby you ask me a question good morning how was your day how was how did you sleep baby no I was I don't really do that I just but I will say something if it's necessary you don't even want me to talk to you I don't want to talk Chad's going to turn that loud fan on which is so like is is is bothersome it's a distraction I gotta focus on using the bathroom I want to make sure everything comes out it's like white noise it's supposed to help you no that's brown noise and it's [Music] [Laughter] I don't like it so but some people I know say they can be in the bathroom doors open everything doing number two with their partner standing there having a whole conversation yeah we ain't never been that we've never been that but if the door is closed I will have a moment talk to you or whatever I'm like hey man I'm gonna talk to you when I get out but chance there's nothing that chance does when he do number two when I'm at home when he at home in order for him to go his bathroom he gotta get completely naked do anybody else do that y'all take all your clothes off just look look you take all your clothes to use the bathroom uncomfortable it's my house I'm getting comfortable and then y'all just jump in the shower and I don't want to talk to you like you be in there like it's like a you know it's like a moment between me the Lord and the toilet and it's some of the best thinking and Vibes it's like but why do you have to get naked it's just Comfort yes it's been doing this since like I mean that's just always been when I got home we've been together five years and you've been doing it for 20. I think um I never even wanted to use restrooms in the school right so I'll hold it get home and get comfortable in my house and that's just something that's carried over with me it ain't like every time we in the house but if I'm if I'm home for the day if I'm home for the day and I'm at my house if you don't get completely naked you always still take this shirt off who want to use the bathroom with a shirt on I know Hey listen I know hey look so I'm not the only one because Nick is confirming that he thinks the same way we come in houses like it's pretty you better Flex in there like no it's completely that is your business so um I guarantee you it's gonna be a whole lot of men to say I do the same thing okay men y'all get naked to use the bathroom now I can tell you what I don't do oh what don't you do but I ain't gonna put his business out there hey we won't say no names but we want to know we just want to do a poll two things one hey first off this ain't me no it ain't my hood [Laughter] do y'all get naked to use this bathroom to do number two and second men y'all peace standing up or y'all P sitting down have you ever heard that that it helps with prostate cancer the reduces the risk the prostate cancer yeah so you so men have started using the bathroom sitting down if that is a thing let us know about it one of our dear friends has told us um who's the person that you that told you that whoever it was how long have they been doing it yeah your friend that does it how long has he been doing it a couple years a couple years so this friend that Jr knows has been doing for about I bet you the toilets stay clean though I hope so if you don't all right y'all this episode we are not bathroom shaming anybody you pee sitting down that is your business if you pee standing up that is your business as a woman I have the luxury of doing both okay I'll be standing up we call it squatting especially in public honey I'm not gonna sit on nobody's toilet I don't know uh and at home I'm sitting on in there cushioned out just so you all know I had nothing to do with this topic this is all Nick Nick okay uh yeah this is what 25 years together look like kind of talk about anything you know y'all Talk Amongst yourself we go from anniversary you're looking like like too nasty kings and queens and now we look like Jokers and jacks that's bad well we love y'all um I hope that y'all allow yourself to release okay amongst yourselves uh stay healthy keep that gut health in check the only way you can do that is by letting go okay and uh if you don't feel comfortable ask yourself why maybe it's time to unpack some things all right very good that's it that's it all right y'all going about your business how they have the most amazing day but even if you can't have a good one don't you there go messing up nobody else is in we'll see y'all next time love y'all bye thank y'all for watching and don't forget to click here for more episodes and don't forget to subscribe to the channel very good

Channel: Tabitha Brown

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Length: 29min 44sec (1784 seconds)

Published: Fri Apr 28 2023