each year millions of us travel abroad in search of sun sea and occasionally romance I was just like oh my God I felt myself melt he was Charming he was attentive he just made you feel special but beware Predators lurk in our favorite Resorts some expert in breaking hearts I learned an awful lot about the guy that I thought I'd would spend the rest of my life with and others are experts in running down bank accounts the money I spent on him probably £ 18 199,000 we expose the heavy emotional price paid by those tricked and conned by holiday love rats at that point he just lashed out and slapped me across the face and we reveal why you could be their next victim anybody can fall for a con game good con artists will read the people and they will play to their weaknesses Sterling in Scotland is home to Alana Longshore she's 19 years old and openly admits that until recently she lacked experience in matters of the heart I'd had relationships before but I had never loved anyone before I never knew what love was I never knew how I would feel that was until she met Jan it All Began in 2010 Alana was a 6 year-old school girl who regularly visited turkey with her family she became part of an internet-based fan group for their favorite Resort I had joined a marous group for everyone that goes on holiday there next minute I had a message and it was from him saying hello we started speaking every single night every week every day at the start they were just online buddies but in 20110 a family trip to marmaris on the Southwest coast of turkey transformed their relationship ship Alana was there with her mom and family friend Adrien but ended up having a surprise encounter I just remember him walking past I turn around that's John and he turned around and spotted you he kind of had his eyes set on you as if nothing else mattered didn't like the look him how he's acting but Adrian's opinion had little impact on Alana i' felt myself melt I was just like oh my God everything about him was better in person he was so perfect there was no one way I could F him soon after her first trip she persuaded her mother to return to Turkey so she could spend more time with Jan but holidays were not enough and L sick Alana set her heart on moving to marmaris for good was Happ at all but even though she was young she still had the the opportunity to do whatever she wanted to do so I had to just go along with that I spoke to my mom about it and I said I really need to go and she still disagreed and I told her I'm 16 if you don't let me go I'm just going to go anyway so Alana had her wish and in 2011 she flew to Turkey to start a new life with her dream boyfriend Janette seers also thought she had met her ideal man abroad she's a 56-year-old beauty consultant from Whitby in Yorkshire but her holiday romance turned out to be even Stranger Than fiction following the death of her husband Janette remained single for 7 years but in 2004 her life would change forever during a holiday with a girlfriend in sarento a small Neapolitan town in southern Italy we' planned where we wanted to see didn't even think we'd have time to be involved in any holiday romances either of us but on her first night out Janette met a handsome Stranger in a local bar he said his name was was Rudy slot he came across as a polite gentleman really said that he actually worked with the president in the white house as Men In Black he said I'm an undercover agent we said Oh you mean like James Bond and we both bir out laughing no he said genuinely that's my job he then put his charms to work on Janette he asked if it would be okay if he just spent the day with me at that point I did really fall for him it seemed to be A really lovely man after their holiday romance Rudy bombarded Janette with texts and phone calls he said I think I fallen in love with you I'd really like to carry this relationship on and see how things go he asked if he could pay Janette a visit in the UK she agreed but he ended up staying it was like we'd been together for years I thought this is the relationship I'd love to be in it was just so lovely Rudy claimed he was still working for the US Navy from a UK military base and according to Janette he had the credentials to prove it there's a badge off his naval uniform and then a badge for his car supposedly to get into the military base you really would have thought he was um someone in the forces but Janette was about to find out it was all too good to be true in January 2011 at the age of just 16 Alana Longshore moved to Turkey to be with her dream love Jan Wedding Bells were soon on the horizon instead of getting engagement rings they had his and hers tattoos for a while everything went smoothly but soon her dreams of marriage began to turn sour the money was running out so started to get more stressful between us so he started to go out more and leave me in so he would go out with his friends and then come back he went not a penny towards the end of their time together Alana says Jan became violent towards her we were arguing a lot more and then he started shouting about where I had been and who I was with and at that point he just lashed out and slapped me across the face I was so shocked I couldn't think what to do so I tried to grab my passport and run out of the room and he had came after me and grabbed the back of my hair and P me back in again so I knew at that point everything everything had changed Alana claims Jan went on to slap her on another occasion in August 2011 she decided enough was enough and ended their 8mon relationship to return home to Scotland as soon as I got through doors at the airport I just felt like a huge [Music] relief Janette Sayers dream relationship also took a turn for the worse first Rudy talked his way into living with her he then began asking Janette to buy him expensive Goods he just naged nagged me into to get in this car for him so I finally gave in the car was just over £16,000 which was more than I'd ever paid for one of my own cars Janette went on to spend even more on Rudy who always promised he would pay her back she started to have doubts about their relationship and things came to a head when one night he arrived home drunk I walked over to the sink in the kitchen and he went get back here now and I went no I put my cup in the sink and he picked me up like you would pick a child up and plunked me back down on the chair he said you don't know what kind of life I've LED and I that I started to go all cold inside I was thinking what does he mean at that point he went off to the bathroom I picked the phone up and died 999 he came back out of the bathroom and seen that I'd grabbed the phone off the wall and he ran across the kitchen and grabbed the phone off me and said what have you done and within about 10 minutes two police cars turned up they whispered to me is there an incident going on here and they said just nod or shake your head and I nodded and they asked me to step outside di the next thing I knew they put the handcuffs on him and brought him out of the house and he was looking at me to this day I think that lucky gave me if Lu could have killed I would have dropped dead then on the scene Rudy was placed under arrest and the police later told Janette he was a wanted man they also had another shocking Revelation not for one minute did I visualize the things that the police came a couple of days later to tell me [Music] hello Valerie Bing 60-year-old Valerie bming is a successful sales manager from Newark in Nottinghamshire yeah but how about Tuesday Tuesday cuz I could be up in your area on Tuesday she may be a hit in the business world but it's a different story when it comes to love I am Absolut disaster with them for some total reason I always seem to attract the wrong types I have no idea why I always seem to attract the ones who just want a good time rather than the ones who actually want a proper serious relationship when Valerie went on holiday alone to marmaris in Turkey in 1999 she found this pattern continued it was nice I was getting chattered up by guys sort of in the 20s and they are good-look guys most of them it made me feel I was attractive and there was something you know obviously they saw something in me that um you know made me feel good despite the attention Valerie was not looking for a holiday romance but then she met a man who would change her mind I met Eran tulac who actually calls himself Marco he came across as a very professional man you know he took me out for nice meals did I find him sexy yeah I suppose be you know the swath dark good looks yeah to a certain extent I found him a bit sexy and he was paying me a lot of attention which is something that I'd been missing from a relationship I suppose one thing led to another and we got to know each other and we basically started a bit of a holiday romance urgen or Marco said he was a jeweler and also claimed he'd work for the Turkish Special Forces Valerie thought that the relationship was getting serious she says he gave her a ring which she took as a sign that marriage was on the cards he came back with uh this ring that he claims that he made for me and uh I mean it it is 18 karat gold with diamonds and an emerald but it's not exactly what you would think of as an engagement ring it's just more like a man's ring over the next 3 years Valerie said she handed over large sums of cash to Marco that was the most bike that he persuaded me to buy £500 and oh it would be our motorbike well we used it once so I never saw it again Valerie says she then loaned him £5,000 and that Marco told her he needed the money for a license so he could carry on trading in Gold he actually sat there on the beach and he cried his eyes out he said oh he says I'm going to lose everything because I can't afford to renew my gold license Carri away with the emotion of the situation I lent him the money I was always asking him when am I get this money when I get this money oh well he said I've got some business transactions happening there was always a good excuse and there was always something that was coming and that never did it was in the third year I was becoming disillusioned with it the love affair was over so to speak anen says he never asked Valerie to marry him he also denies receiving any money from Valerie and and instead claim she owes him money Valerie says this isn't true the couple broke up in 2001 without Valerie receiving back any of the money she said she loaned to urgen Valerie also says she later learned he did not own a jewelry shop then the wife of Marco's cousin made a shocking Revelation she actually brought me into reality and told me about his wife I learned an awful lot about the guy that I thought I'd been spend the rest of my life with our research has revealed ergen TCH fathered a child with his Turkish common law wife during the time he was in a relationship with Valerie he now has a total of nine children with three different women morning Jane Cole from Rothwell in northamptonshire claims she also had a love rat experience which changed her life forever it All Began in 2005 during a dream holiday to Africa what you do today not a lot just this going shopping then do a bit of packing when I get home you going away yeah Gambia oh [Music] wow The Gambia is in West Africa and is known for its weather beaches and friendly people least should go out there with a brand new hair do yeah recn Jane's troubles began during her first trip to the country she wasn't looking for love but she was aware The Gambia did have a reputation for Holiday romance in the paper you read that you there's women going out there and they're coming back on one plane and the guys are meeting somebody else off the next plane coming in I thought well that wouldn't happen to me because I'm worldly wise that self-confidence was put to the test during her First Night Out in the popular Resort of Sena Gambia went it all went out from me and then we got a drinks and Vanessa said somebody over there K it's looking what oh I said no I can't be bothered you know you know well then he come over and ask me to dance he called himself Michael originally from Nigeria he was working in a gambian nightclub she was 56 he was 28 and Jane found his charms hard to resist he said you want a drink so had a drink stopped there all night talking he was asking where I come from I think at that time I probably thought it was just an holiday romance you know and I'll come home and that be the last I hear or see of him it wasn't and it soon became clear Michael wanted to turn their relationship into more than just a one night stand at the hotel he left to know hi I come by to see you can you give me a call is my number and then I arranged to go to the beach with him the next day so I come and picked me up carried me back quite the gentleman he was Charming he was attentive nothing was too much trouble he just made you feel special and the end of the week I was completely drawn in so what began as a holiday romance had developed within months into a serious relationship and eventually marriage was on the cards there we go then but Jane kept her plan secret from the one person she was closest to her youngest sister Tracy I knew she'd met somebody but I knew nothing about him she was very evasive about you know who who it was or anything and I knew she was going away to Gambia and she was going with friends and I was all whispering and I said what's going on she went nothing think I said you're going out there to get married AR you she went no no no and off she went to Gambia then when she come back she told me she got married so I just told her what a fool she was and I wasn't very happy after they got married in 2006 Michael suddenly announced he wanted to move into Jane's home in the UK rather than live in The Gambia as they' planned I was shocked and I was a bit gutted because I thought I've done all this to start a life In Here and Now it's not going to happen but I've married him I'm happy with him if that's what he wants then so be it I did think is he married me for me or is he marryed me to get to England once they were living in the UK Jane began to question whether he was being faithful because he often went missing for long periods when Jane called a UK telephone number found repeatedly on his his mobile phone bill her suspicions were confirmed I'm ringing you up to see why your numbers are my husband's phone bill so much so she said who's your husband I said Michael she said Michael's my boyfriend so I said but how long how long have you been with him she had six years so I rung him up and told him to get his bags packed and clear off and he thought it was funny when he came in he said you know people look at us and laugh when they see me with you well my confidence went there even more Paul was absolutely devastated absolutely devastated we have made contact with the woman Jane spoke to and she has confirmed she was in a relationship with Michael during his marriage to Jane Janette seers also feels emotionally betrayed she believed Rudy slot worked for the US Military Intelligence but after his arrest in 2005 following an incident at her home the police revealed the truth he was a sophisticated conman who'd committed a series of previous offenses and was on the run from Interpol Rudy slot was not even his real name psychologically it's been a lot to deal with even all these years after I still can get emotional about it and I think you know um I don't think I'll ever get over it it has ruined my trust in people I have to admit I'm very very skeptical When anybody asks for a favor or anything like that I'm always looking at the other side of it what were you getting out of it which is not a nice way to be because I always used to be a very trusting person I like come on don't be that kill us she's now 19 and Mom to 2-year-old Iden whose father is her former Turkish boyfriend Jan I knew nothing about babies at all I'd never even held a baby before it wasn't the way that I wanted it to be we weren't together and I was only 17 never take Ian Alana says Jan has also threatened to snatch her son and take him back to Turkey he said if you don't bring him over to see me then I'm going to come over there and take him I's really upset and and disturb in and I I try not to think about it I would do everything that I could to make sure that he'll never come over [Music] here calculating conman Rudy slot used his relationship with Janette seers to make his way into the UK he was arrested at her home but once on bail he went on the run for 3 months Janette carried on living in the house they once shared in constant fear before deciding to sell up and move out that was 9 years ago oh this is where I used to live and that's the cottage up there in the distance um making me feel a bit shaky he still had a key to the cottage and I remember coming home one night from work work and the kitchen door had been opened and things had been moved in the kitchen so instantly I panicked and died for the police then one of the neighbors said he had actually seen Rudy in the village so I instantly froze and I felt I had to move I'm glad I've been and done it I don't have any fears now of coming and passing through this way Mom's step near and outer getting into my goal of being getting back to 100% next we reveal the disastrous cost of dating a holiday love rat the money I spent on him probably 18 19,000 [Music] easily Valerie bming from Newar says she lent large sums to the man from from Turkey she thought she was destined to marry £4,000 from the credit card and the more she thinks about it 5,000 for the gold license the more she's come to believe urgen was taking advantage of her all these crazy stories that he came up with that I actually believed he never asked me would I give him the money it was always could he borrow this and I said well on top of everything else oh yes but I will get you everything back I will get you everything back I just need this to tide me over anen admits he and Valerie had a good time together but says any money spent by Valerie was on herself he also denies withdrawing £4,000 from Valerie's bank account using her credit card Janette seers also says she spent thousands of pounds on conman Rudy slute the money probably I spent on him probably 819,000 easily if if not more yeah it's a lot of money Jane Cole who married love rat Michael on holiday usually tells her sister Tracy everything that's quite nice no bet that no but in 2006 Jane didn't tell her she was spending thousands of pounds on her new husband including money to help set up a taxi firm in The Gambia I did think to myself I've just got a bank Lo out for £15,000 for our car I brought a mini buus 32,000 for the Mini Bus it was it was just a waste I thought that's like1 185,000 gone it started to come out about what she'd give Michael the cash she' bought him the money she'd given him and all the time I'm getting angrier and angrier and angrier and I'm thinking god what have you done all I I kept doing was giving and giving and giving until I had nothing left to give Valerie bumping has discovered reports of other British women who met uren in marmaris in these reports the women claim they too believed he was unattached and went on to hand him substantial sums of money oh how I became a real life Shirley Valentine it is him handsome Turkish gentleman h yeah and the rest ergen TCH disputes these reports and claims one of these women is now his business and life partner his name keeps cropping up on here it really does to find out whether she could have any claim on urgan tulac Valerie is meeting Steve profit from the UK scam fighting unit action fraud I suppose it's perceived that I willingly gave him the money so would that be View as well there's nothing we can do about that no it wouldn't it doesn't matter that you loaned it to him we can still deal with that on the money transfers the money is untraceable that the second it leaves you and they pick it up it's gone there would be no way I presume that I could take it any further would that you can you can still report this clearly if the documentary evidence isn't available it significantly weakens the case against this individual in relation to you but it doesn't preclude a prosecution Steve profit also has a stark warning for unsuspecting holiday makers at risk of being targeted each year by love rats ultimately they there for one thing that's to make money to get money off you and they will go to whatever lens is necessary and of course once they've got one payment it it then becomes more and more and more and the more payments you're making the easier it becomes for them and and frankly it's a gravy train there's a lot I learned today that I would never have thought possible I'm never obviously going to get any money back but I could still use that information to warn other people is all really very [Music] interesting Jan Cole knows the emotional cost of a financial meltdown can push people close to the edge her mounting resulted in her being declared bankrupt in February 2007 he took everything he took everything from me emotionally he drained me I was already on proac then and I couldn't stop crying I couldn't even tell the doctor was what was about me I couldn't stop crying I couldn't believe that anybody a man could treat you like that I think probably I was scared that she'd probably try and take her own life or something because she was in such a bad place I mean I know she probably wouldn't have done but that's how low she was she was a wreck I've never ever seen my sister like that and to see her like that made me bad you know what I mean it made me upset cuz she's supposed to be the strong one she's supposed to look after me the lives of these women have been devastated by their respective holiday love rat experiences but do they feel they played any part in their own downfall I do blame myself a little bit for being foolish in enough to enter this relationship with him and let it carry on the way it did I'm annoyed that I fell for it I'm supposed to be an intelligent person but on the other hand I think to myself chalk it up to Life's experience I never had an inkling that he was seeing another woman I felt like I was some stupid old woman you you degraded you know how can you be so stupid as to do what you do the only feeling of guilt I have is foran one day I'll need to tell him maybe know what happened but I will have to explain in in some way why Jan is not here and why things never worked out between [Music] us Janette Sayers is still rebuilding her life in witp good girl her new partner Adrien is a professional chef they met 9 years ago some's at work and one of the lads there David said he said his new last just started she's really nice I think you're going to like her and I was making a cup of tea got talking to Jen and and that was the start of it just over a simple cup of tea at work in the kitchen but Adrien knew nothing about janette's nightmare foreign romance had to tell Adrian about what had happened I didn't want him to find out of someone else it was like a film script the way it described it it was it was much like a film script yeah but it didn't sound 100% believable to start with yeah after being arrested Rudy slute was placed on bail he then went on the run for 3 years but his luck eventually ran out in Cumbria everywhere I went I was always scared I was going to bump into him and I got a phone call from the detective that had been on the case and he said I hope you're sitting down uh he said you're not going to believe it but he said he's actually being caught janette's holiday love rat pleaded guilty to deception and perverting the course of Justice on the 12th of September 2008 he was sentenced to over 2 years in prison a year later his sentence was extended when he was convicted of four further counts of theft and deception to have new friends and a new life and a new partner it was a new [Music] beginning Jane Cole has also been through a traumatic experience but this hasn't put her off returning to the place where her problems all began I'm packing the suitcase cuz I'm off to the Gambia with some friends bit of sunshine really looking forward to it but she's also aware that she could cross paths with Michael in The Gambia where he was last seen by her sister 2 years ago if I did see him I'd like to confront him and asked why why you treated me so bad now you could do that to somebody I believed everything he told me if he have told me I got another woman I would have believed him if IID have saw him with another woman and he' say that's oh that's a friend I would have believed him Jane's experience has had an impact on her ability to trust it's a recurring theme among victims of holiday love rats conman Rudy's slute may have been put behind bars for his crimes against Janette but the emotional damage he'd inflicted put a serious strain on her relationship with her new partner Adrian because I had this trust issue with Adrian every time he was late at home oh um he said he was going somewhere I wanted to know if he where he was going when he was going when he was coming back because I was comparing him to Rudy I mean Jen's got violent with me in some points haven't you because the trust issues the thing um I had scratches on my face from you and and scratches down your arms and and all sorts I did put up with a lot um normally i' probably walked away um but because what Jen been through I made allowances um and it was hard I had to go to a therapist and talk it through just to get it out of my system basically and it helped a lot it did help yeah to come off come up then come good girl [Music] baby Alana longshaw is also coming to terms with life after her love rat experience she came back to Sterling pregnant and has since discovered more about her ex-boyfriend Jan's post breakup relationships in July 2013 he appeared in the national news in connection with another young British teenager I just seen the headline and seen his face and I just just remember thinking oh my God what is he done now in a newspaper interview in summer 2013 morat janani described himself as a bad boy and admitted he can't stay with just one girl for more than a few weeks I started getting the messages about all the different girls that he was going to meet I would say all in all it was about 15 different women he would say things like after Iden was born me and my new girlfriend are going to have a baby and it's going to be better than the baby I had with you was all messages relating to a new girlfriend all the [Music] time Janette seers also still Bears the psychological scars of her time with the con man she knew as Rudy sloot but who was he I know that he got the name because he' interviewed a guy for a driving job and he took this guy's identity Rudy also used the name Anthony De Clerk and while he was on bail for the crimes against Janette he conned other innocent victims he's gone on to the L District area and applied for a job as a chef he said he'd he'd stolen £20,000 from the safe and had racked up £ 2,120 on debit cards the police caught up with him and he was convicted for these further crimes did detectives have now revealed his real name is Peter vanam that he was originally from Belgium and that he targeted people right across Europe Janette has traveled to the University of Central Lancashire to meet psychologist Dr Paul Seager who is an expert on how conmen operate if somebody kind of met you on a holiday romance and after a couple days said oh can you let me 16 Grand no way on Earth you're you're ever going to do that however if you kind of do it gradually uh and you do it right it would be a very strong person that resisted I I can absolutely see uniform badge like this sign of authority um anytime somebody's we perceive to be an authority over us we are more likely to um go along with what they're asking of us I'm going to ask you a slightly odd question if I was to ask you to rate his attractiveness on a 1 to 10 scale how would you rate his attractiveness at the time of 10 right no matter what we might say we might say oh no it's nothing to do with physical attractiveness it's about personality that kind of thing but U number of tests suggest over and over again the thing that we're most persuaded by of physical attractiveness I feel guilty for bring him actually into the country and then him going on to scam people out of money if you'd have kind of rebuffed him it's not as if he was going to suddenly say you know what I'll give up my life of con Artistry he would have just moved on to somebody else according to the office of national statistics more than 1,000 people each year become victims of dating scams so Janette is not alone it's a relief obviously to know that I haven't been as foolish as I think I've been and that I'm not the only one and there is hundreds of people out there that happens to who never ever report it and for me it's made me feel lot better about myself next Alana's determination to keep her young son out of the hands of her former lover I'm hoping niden will be able to live a safe life in the UK with no threats of Jan coming over here and taking him from me and that we can just get on with our lives Jane Cole has finally arrived in The Gambia for her it's an idilic holiday destination that over the years she has grown to love it's laid back beautiful weather nice beaches just love it full [Music] stop but she struggled to cope during her very first trip back to the country after her marriage to Michael collapsed the first time I went out was very difficult very very difficult emotionally it was awful because everywhere we went is where I'd been with [Music] him it is like confronting memories and it was hard I thought do I want to be here cuz there's too many memories there I just thought I need to get on with my life and try and move move on The Gambia is well known for Holiday romance but the more Jane uncovers about Michael's past Behavior the more difficult she's finding it to forgive and forget he was living with a woman here she bought him a car I spoke to the woman after we had split up we came here I came here to a friend's wedding should I you Jane I said yeah said I didn't know he was seeing you Jane I didn't know that he was married I did seen with you at the airport once and he told me that he was your tour guide and if I came over and spoke to him he would make out he didn't know I well and I thought yeah I can believe that because that's sort of person he was we've tried to contact Michael to ask him for his response to Jane's allegations but he could not be traced back in Sterling teenage mama Lana longshaw is seeking legal advice she claims former boyfriend Jan has made threats to take her son Iden back to Turkey I'm hoping today with the advice that I'm going to get it shows that I have more rights about Iden than Jan does as I am the main carater I'm hoping Iden will be able to live a safe life in the UK with no threats of Jan coming over here and taking him from me and that we can just get on with our we haven't come too far today no not too far just in here thanks very much solicitor Fraser Tate specializes in family law and Alana is hoping his advice can ease her concerns he has given threats that he would come here and take Iden back to Turkey and that I would never see him again there's two ways he could try and get Iden legally and illegally now if it's legally he's going to have to go through the courts and if it's illegally he's B L going to have to try and snatch Iden and he would be very foolish to try and do that because more than likely he'll be caught in terms of Legally iden's never been in Turkey so Mr artani would have to raise a cult action in Scotland from what you've told me I think it's highly unlikely that a court would consider it's in iden's interest to see his father so in general how would you say my position was you're the only parent Iden has known you're the main carer for Iden he's always stayed with you he always stayed in this country I think highly unlikely that H I would have to have any contact with his father good news for Alana I feel so relieved that all the doubts in the back of my mind have been answered that me and Iden are going to be safe and that there's not really anything Jan can do to take Iden for me or to come here and hurt any of us I just feel like this is the part where I can all be in the past and that I can move on and just a fresh start and not have to worry about what's going to happen and if I'm going to have my son taken from me we've made contact with Jan but we've been unable to get any response to questions about its relationship with Alana give me the butter please and how much garlic do we normally putting that a bit wrong back in Whitby Janette and her fiance Adrien are now in a good place in their relationship despite the Fallout from her time with the con man she knew as Rudy slot I think we're nicely Now setting our wees I would put it um some people call it yeah yeah like he said it's like getting old but it's drawn us together really really drawn us together they've now been engaged for 8 years but Adrien hopes that one day Janette will finally agree to be his wife I'm just taking it slowly so I know I can get to know him properly before make any big more big decision anything maybe one day yeah Janette is just one amongst an army of people t targeted each year by holiday love rats many victims choose to suffer in silence too afraid to speak out when I think about Marco now it's just contempt that I feel for him he's such an arrogant sort of [Music] person just think he's pathetic he's a pathetic man who thought he was better than everybody else [Music] make sure Iden has everything he needs and just be a role model for him and show him the right way so he never ends up in a horrible situation or ends up a horrible person like his dad is I suppose it makes you a bit wiser when something like that happens to you you try think well it ain't never going to happen again hopefully it won't I'm not the selft touch I used to be and I don't think I will ever let anybody get the better of me like that again
