- Hey Steve, I'm married three years, been together for seven. We have two kids, my husband is wonderful; however, when it comes to cleaning, not that great. Example, he'll set up
his little work station at the table, dinning room
after I cleaned the house, I'll go to sleep, he'll
bring out snacks, drinks, he'll be there fine. He'll get tired, put it away; however, he forgets to pick up the snacks. I'm a stay-at-home-mom, I don't know if maybe he feels that because I'm at home, you know, I should be responsible
for every little thing. But, again, he's wonderful, just, I would need some tips
on how to get him to work with me when it comes to cleaning. - Here's what you gotta do. You gotta work out a
little but of a system. You gotta give him some credit, for going to work everyday. He's gotta give you some
credit for dealing with, you got a two-year-old and a six-year-old. Now, most men don't
understand the work that is. Being a stay-at-home-mom it aint like your feet up watching TV. You got a two-year-old
and you dealing with a person where you gotta
watch them all the time. If you get three minutes of silence in your house with a two-year-old, you need to go find him. Cause' he doing something he
(Crowd Clapping) aint got no business doing. And I think that the average guy does not know how hard that is. So you gotta come up with a system. Here's the deal, you don't have to clean up but I need you to pick up. So if you pour a juice, put the juice back in the refrigerator, when you get through drinking with the cup just set it in the sink. I'll meet you the halfway, that way the house still
appears to be clean. Cause' what you sick of is cleaning and he just lay his stuff around. - Yeah, I do fuss at him a lot about it. Maybe, my way of going
at, he just does it to, you know, "Oh, whatever."
- Aggravate you. - But its like, I dunno,
maybe my approach. - Well, listen to this now. I wrote a book one time, Straight Talk, No Chaser, and what happens to women is is the way you talk to
your man can be miscued. See, here's the deal,
(crowd clapping) you can tell a man how to so something but its the tone and
the timing that you use that takes a request and turns it into what we call, nagging. So now, here's an example, "Take out the trash." You go back and (mumbles). "Hey Honey, did you forget the trash?" "I'ma take it out soon as the game over." "Okay, thank you." (crowd claps)
He gonna take it out! But you can't come back
in the house and go, "You didn't take the trash out." "Baby, I'ma get to it." "I want you to take the trash out now." See now you got a problem. (crowd laughs) (clapping) That's all. And I can tell by the look on your face that's how you do it a lot of times. - Yeah. (laughs) - Its all right, its just trash.
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